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RESTRAINING ORDER ON ABUSIVE HUSBAND AND ABOUT TO

DIVORCE HIM FOR CHEATING WITH BROTHER IN LAWS WIFE.

hi Stella ,

I used to think i am perfect, I used to think i have a perfect life until things turned around,  I have always  wanted to write you but am so ashamed  to cause I always  believe I can handle all my problems myself.

this way might not be the best solution but I Know and believe that out of all the hundreds of comments am gonna read here on this my post  God is gonna use one or two persons to minister to me cause am so broken and  in pains.

my heart is broken Stella and I type with pain and tears in my heart. 

I got married to hubby 2013 after 2years of dating before then life was so beautiful, he was everything  I dreamt of and I was the envy of all, he listens to me and provide me with everything until after our marriage  in 2013 he became abusive.

months later i joined him in his base and the abuse  gets worse even when I was heavily  pregnant, I almost lost my pregnancy if not for God, 1week after i delivered even though  he was not around he travelled and came back 1week after I delivered and started abusing  me again, both physical, emotional  and verbal abuse, this is a man I just gave a new baby,my 2kids are the only bloodline in his family.

This same man keep demanding sex from me 1week after delivery  with bleeding and i still gave it to him to make him happy and if I don't sometimes he tried to force me and sometimes leave bruises on my body, i have done everything to keep my marriage Stella, to cut the story short I could not take the abuse anymore and one day I called the police.

Police is a serious  thing in the country  where we stay but I had no option cause I wanted him out of my life and the house but I don't have the money for  lawyer  or divorce because I don't have a job yet, so I wanted the police to help me, the police arrested him and the bail was so high ($50000) I had to go to his only brother whom he has been having issues with for many years to come bail him out ,at 1st he declined but after I cried so bad he accepted and bailed him,

after the bail he was restrained from the home by the CPS and was mandated  to be providing for me and the kids.

 I started regretting  my actions, people started blaming  me, calling me wicked woman for calling the police on my husband, a man who changed my life and gave me a better life according  to them including my family and his, I cried and cried and apologised  to my husband,he later claim to forgive me, at 1st I lost interest in the marriage  cause this marriage  has cost me so much pains, disgrace, abuse, and heartbreak but he convinced  me that we are gonna work it out and that he is gonna change.

 I accepted only to discover yesterday that he is sleeping with his elder brother's  wife,cause after he was restrained from home by the court he had to join his elder brother for the main time until the court dissolve  the restraining  order, but I started noticing some strange  closeness between him and his wicked brothers wife, this is people that had been enemies until I brought  peace between them so seeing him and his brothers wife that close amazed me but I said maybe God is at work until yesterday.

He was supposed to go pick up our kids from school after work but he left them there till everyone left, I even thought  he had an emergency  at the hospital where he works and maybe had to work extra hours so I kept calling  and calling him but he was not picking, when he finally  picked up his voice surprised me cos he was so calm and quite like someone  in a dark bedroom and I asked him ''where are you?in whose bedroom  are you''? by then I was not suspecting my sister in-law even though i know he was with a woman but he told me in a hurry that his gonna call me back that he's in the middle of something.

I ask him what middle of something? that he is sounding like someone in a dark room and he hang up on me, I Called and Called and got tired becos he refused to pick,not knowing he was on top of his brothers wife at that moment, after 2 hours he Called me back and told me to go pick up the kids that he was tired to, my heart was broken I ask him where he was and what he was doing for two hours that  he was supposed  to be with the kids and he told me he went home to get something  from his brothers wife and went to toilet and got tired I started laughing with tears in my eyes, the brothers wife don't work so she's always at home and the brother closes work very late everyday  so the two of them are the  ones always  at home.

I ask him how can you get home by 3:20pm to get something  from your brothers wife and spend 2 hours leaving my kids in school all by themselves and at the end you got tired? I told him I know he just finished sleeping  with his brothers wife that I have been seeing things but don't have enough evidence to prove it, he started  denying and at the end started  begging me, my husband I know don't beg unless he is guilty or has done something  wrong.

Since that yesterday hes been begging me on the phone and I keep asking him why he is begging me, that he should  confess and tell me how many times he has slept with that ugly old woman and when they started this evil act which I know he is doing just to keep a good relationship  with his brother because  to get his brother you have to go through his wife, cause she's the one marrying her husband. 

I told him that if he did not confess and tell me how many times he slept with her and when they started  it that i am gonna file for divorce and am gonna fight him dirty and am gonna make him loose everything and he knows am gonna do that.

Now Stella I lack physical evidence even though I know what's going on, my heart is broken, am in so much  pain each time I imagine  him touching  that ugly old woman, she doing it cause she wants a child which she believe  her husband  could not give her even though the doctors  said it is her is her fault  and my husband  fell for her cause he want to remains at peace with his elder brother whom you can't reach without  the wife.

Now Stella I can't stop blaming  myself for bringing them back  into our life, I can't stop blaming myself for ever calling the police on my husband  which is the Genesis  of all this, and i cant bear the pain of knowing  that he cheated on me with a disgusting  ugly woman who is my mums mate,it is a big insult to me, I want to file for a divorce and move on but I just hope am doing the right thing.

 Please I need mature advice from my fellow readers as am an addict visitor to this blog but i always  go anonymous.

  GOD bless you and whoever God will to use to minister to me.

*I dont know what to say because your accusations are based on no evidence.he might have been with someone but you have no proof that it is your brother in laws wife....Why are you hurrying off to file for divorce?On what grounds?

Is there no way around this?You didnt state how long the restraining order is for..

Do you really love your husband or you just married him to travel?I ask because no where in this post did you mention love between the two of you except in the beginning where you said he is everything you dreamed of...you might have dreamed of America.

Think twice before you file for divorce...be sure that he is cheating on your first,you have no evidence honey.

ket me leave the others to advice you.