Tough one!..Hmmmmm!!!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN SKELETONS SPRING OUT OF THE CLOSET
Please am very confused right now, let me go straight to the point. Have been married for four years now I have two wonderful baby girls. My husband is amazing too. Before we got married my husband used to live in Canada, he relocate and we got married.
On Monday I discovered that my husband has a six year old son in Canada. With the wife woman he married before to get papers. Before we got married the told me he married a white in Canada but he never told me he had a son.
I confronted him and he started begging that he believe the child is not his and that he felt if he had told me maybe I won't marry him. Though a his friend who had been owing us money told me and him and my husband are not in good terms.
Am so confused right now, I feel like leaving my marriage because I don't want to build everything with my husband then one son will just come one day and claim everything, moreover I have just two girls and I don't have a son yet.
Please Stella I need your advice and that of my fellow bvs cos right now I took few of my things and my daughter's to a hotel we are still there. Though he's begging But am so confuseeeeeeeeeed. Thank you
*Why are you making a mountain out of a mole hill?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MARRYING SOMEONE WITH A SUICIDAL FAMILY HISTORY
Thank you for this platform you have created.My chronicle is a lil bit lengthy but will try my best to summarise it.
I have been dating Mr B for over 1 year now I love him so much and am sure he loves me too we are from the same state and village so it was really an added advantage to the relationship.
I have been dating Mr B for over 1 year now I love him so much and am sure he loves me too we are from the same state and village so it was really an added advantage to the relationship.
We were suppose to get married this past April but my parents refused - reason been that after conducting the normal investigation(am sure the igbo blog visitors will understand better) if he is someone their daughter can marry into the family they found out that suicide runs in their family( 4 members of his family committed suicide) and for no just reason members of his families commit suicide.
it may not be yearly but it will definitely happen, my dad witnessed one of the suicide committed by his uncle when he was still young back then in the village and according to their investigation his mum also committed suicide which his siblings said is not true but the whole village think they are just lying(cuz its against the law of the village to bury a person that commits suicide).
My parents don't wanna give me their blessing cause they are afraid of history repeating itself even if not me but for the future of the kids and other generations. my dad said if I want to really marry him he has no choice than to let me go but what I see is what I take and I have to bear the consequences of my actions all alone in as much as I love the guy and wanna be with him am also scared cuz am only human who doesn't know what the future holds.
if it's prayer and fasting have done all that concerning the situation.
Stella I really need your red ink and other blog visitors opinion on this situation.
AH,THIS IS SERIOUS AND IF I HAVE TO USE MY HEAD,I WOULD SAY THAT I STAND WITH YOUR PARENTS OH.....USING MY HEART WOULD MEAN ADVISING YOU TO MARRY THE MAN DESPITE ALL....
Let me not use anything but advise you all the same......
Listen to you GUT feeling....it never fails one.
Sunday Chronicles!
ReplyDeletePoster one please go back to your husbands house,you made yohr bed now lay on it.
DeletePoster 2 run away from that relationship, what an elder sees while sitting down even if you climb mount kilimanjaro you wont see it, listen to your parents to avoid bringing in anotjer chronicle. #My2cents
P1, go back to ur house u will have ur sons IJN amen. I said sons not son. P2, listen to ur parents.
DeletePoster 1: This is African mentality. You think oyibo have time for son and daughter brouhaha. The boy self may not remember who the father is in the future. Remember Obama's case. Please take your daughters back home. I understand the pain, but there is no issue here. Are you done with child bearing? Give it a trial once more and ask God for a male child.
DeletePoster 2: Please don't marry him. What elders see sitting down, a child cannot see even when climb Iroko tree.
The way Nigerias worships Son like it the best thing that happened to mankind..smh..No wonder niaja men do not respect women..A fellow woman is not even proud that she has daughters....Thinks a Don far far away is important than her own children..Poster one..u are a fool. Linda Ikeji..Genevieve Nnaji and the likes are the ones taking care of their families...Women are humans too...I so pissed
DeletePoster 1, if you knew he was previously married and married him regardless, why is his having a son from said marriage an issue? Please go back to your home jare.
Deleteposter 1 .. you are pure evil amd filth. So your husband married an oyingbo woman for the sole purpose of using and dumping her one he got papers...he lied to her that he loves her. And was honest enough to tell you. he used and dumped a fellow woman but you were happy because at least you and your children can have eu papers through your husband who got it through a woman he cheated... you are greedy, wicked and malicious. shaiii the oyingbo woman is the mumu abi?
Deletethe boy will alwaysbe his son..deal with it. may God make him very successful...i am sure your greedy self will then be telling your kids to be close to their mixed race brother. by the way don't even try juju on the boy...if you want peace
poster 1 .. you are pure evil amd filth. So your husband married an oyingbo woman for the sole purpose of using and dumping her one he got papers...he lied to her that he loves her. And was honest enough to tell you. he used and dumped a fellow woman but you were happy because at least you and your children can have eu papers through your husband who got it through a woman he cheated... you are greedy, wicked and malicious. shaiii the oyingbo woman is the mumu abi?
Deletethe boy will alwaysbe his son..deal with it. may God make him very successful...i am sure your greedy self will then be telling your kids to be close to their mixed race brother. by the way don't even try juju on the boy...if you want peace
Yes oh manipulative woman poster 1
DeleteJust negodu
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Your type can poison someone, you have a very wicked heart I swear.
DeletePoster 2,please listen to your father to avoid ngakwa mara oo.
Word Anon! Only a wicked person thinks that way...
DeleteI agree with you...the level of insecurity and jealousy lurking in this woman's heart can murder a community. You're so focused on the future that you're forgetting to live in the present. If you like, set fire in your household over nothing.
DeletePoster...ukpana okpoko gburu, nti chiri ya. If I have to explain that proverb to you then your mother's bride price is a waste. Igbo kwenu
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ReplyDeleteAbeg carry your nyama nyama dirty pussy out of this place...
DeleteDoes here looks like a hospital to you?...
Don't derail this post...
I don tire for this ur toto wahala abeg, sumone pls help her make we rest
DeletePeel d garlic, put sme cut holes in it so d juice will penetrate in very well den insert it into ur vagina..
DeleteHmmmmm......Chronicles ti de!
ReplyDeleteLOL @ narrative 2
ReplyDeleteHappy sunday to u all. Please, take your case to Jesus.
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteIf you think the oyibo woman will leave her child to come to Nigeria for his father,my dear you are dreaming...
Those people don't think like us...infact,dem no send...
Why would you leave your home because of this?....
Leave him nau so another woman will come in and enjoy!...
Isi adiro gi nma!...
Poster 2,
Marry him if he is rich!..
If he commits sucide along the line,na him sabi!...
You will be alive to enjoy his wealth with your children....
BUT
If he is a church rat,my dear flee!...
Can't stop laffing at ur 2nd advice. @ flee if he's a church rat!!!!
DeleteLol. Poster 2,I only saw the title of your story and instantly knew you are Ibo 😁😂😃😄😅. Thats how we roll. He isnt osu,madness doesnt run in his fam,neither does epilepsy. Marry him jor
DeleteWhat if she's the one the evil spirit pushed to committe suicide? Ur sense no reach that side? All think about is all about money. People like u will support ur husband to sacrifice any of their children for money. Rubbish
DeletePoster one y are you making a big deal out of nothing??? The son is far away. The mother will never allow him come back here only if he decides to when he is older. And if he does what makes you think he will be interested in fighting for property in Africa??? What makes you think you won't have a male child later? Why do you want to break your home for no reason pls?? And evenif you were to meet that boy can't you find it in your heart to love him cos not like your hubby cheated on u. He had the boy before he met you. That's even if the child is his. Think well. Go back home.
DeletePoster two run away from that family. History always has a way of repeating itself
Poster1: You don't have problem, u shldnt hv left ur home at all... Who makes an appointment for brain surgery when its just slight headache?? Chillax jo..... Whr'du knw ure running to?? Una funny oh
ReplyDeletePoster2: i'm with ur parents on this.
Poster one, oh!! u wanna pack out? Pls pack, I will go n keep him company for you,hehehehe I will rock him scarra, u no smart at all. Reminds me of the other chronicle. When u marry a man who married for papers, expect anything!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: seizly!!! so u rly wanna leave ur hubby coz of his other child who happens to b a boy? it's not worth it dear... Stick to ur man n get to meet n knw the son beta
ReplyDeletePoster 2: have u prayed and fasted abt this? Pls seek the face of God... Wouldn't want u becoming a widow few months after marriage... Jst take it to God... All the beat dear
Poster 1- woman, fear God! Haba
DeletePoster 2- pls dont, listen to your parents.
Stellz, poster one isn't making a mountain out of a molehill o.
ReplyDeleteEspecially, if her husband is Igbo, she isn't overreacting. I don't know what to advice though, but just upping and leaving the marriage without trying to trash this out, wouldn't favour anyone in the long run.
Poster two: Be very very careful with whatever decision you'll make.
That's all I can say.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster1 don't strike me as a typical nigerian woman... a true born naija woman will make sure all the documents are in her name or daughters, not to run to a hotel & cry.
DeletePoster 1. Pls go home now!!! Don't be silly. Na u get husband no fear. Infact let the kids get to know each other.
ReplyDeletePoster two, listen to ur parents. Reminds me of someone who married into a family where they have a history of kleptomania, now one of her grown kids has started picking things.
ReplyDeletePoster one, I feel like slapping you. You have "just" 2 girls? Just? Seriously? That's how low you grade your daughters? You better accept that stepson of yours and think of how to unite him with his sisters. Instead of you to be concerned with raising your daughters to be successful and independent you are worrying about inheritance. Whether you stay or leave, it doesn't change the fact that you are a stepmother.
ReplyDeleteMe too, heavy slap!
DeleteYou can tell she is materialistic... Shior!
Chai!!! This Embla you just have sense like that, this ur comment brought joy in my heart
Delete@1, if u are tired of ur marriage plz pack ur load and go, common sense should ve told u dat he might ve a child with the white woman, u are a wicked woman, u are already jealous of a boy who may never visit his so called in Nigeria, oya born ur own boy Na make ur mind come down, u sound as if a girl child is not as important as a male child,common gerrarahere.
ReplyDelete@2, am in support of ur parents,who knows, ur guy may be d one to commit suicide tomorrow, forget this stupid thing called love and use ur head.
Poster 1, you just have to forgive your husband and make all your investment in your name and children name .the boy might never come to Nigeria if your husband isn't looking for him.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,pls leave this guy ooo.your parents are after your interest.you will just willing walk into an avoidable future regrets.
Poster 1:
ReplyDeleteYou are married to this man and all you can do is "build your home" or "crash it'. Simply make sure that the marriage in Canada is no longer in existence and you are good to continue.
This is a lesson to all ladies who marry "abroad guy". Many of them have families abroad. but once a guy says "abro. .." the ladies through their legs apart.
Poster 2:
Go on a 6-6 fasting for like 21 to 100 days and you'd see. God will expose all these to you and the way forward.
Poster 1 So you don't want a child from somewhere to come and inherit all you and your hubby worked for? If you leave your hubby, do you think another woman will sit down and allow you and your 2 girls to come and reap where their mother did no sow? After all, no 'tear rubber' man will wife you there after. You are a very selfish woman. Wicked stepmom in the making. I pity that poor boy already! Didn't his mom through her citizenship make your hubby what he is today? You, o! wicked woman are the one reaping where you did not sow.
ReplyDeleteYour comment might sound mean but I actually agree with you. The hubby had this boy before meeting her. Yes she will feel angry cos he didn't tell her. But the boy is just 6 for heaven's sakes. Means she can mistreat him if she sets her eyes on him.
Deletenot that she can mistreat him....she will mistreat him.
Deletei pray the6 year old boy becomes extraordinarily successful in life.
Popeyes!!! You are your father's child! You make sense pass Ogbono soup!
DeleteI hate selfish and wicked people!
Popeye nice one.. poster one if you know what's good for your family better pack out of that hotel room and in to your home.. stay put and find a better way of dealing with the issue.. don't be selfish I repeat.. DONT BE SELFISH..
Deleteposter two.. please run as fast as you can.. shikenan
Poster one you think leaving the house is d best option? You can iron things out with your husband, pls do not leave your marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, relax ur mind. The Canadian son is not coming back to Nigeria to climb anything..
ReplyDeleteMy town man, d late Chief Ben Osi Umunna married a British woman. After he died, the woman took their two kids back to England. Up till today, they never came back to claim anything even though the man died a multi millionaire (in dollars).
Even his son, Mr Chuka Umunna is today a lawmaker in the UK.
Why should any oyibo child come back to Nigeria of all countries???
Pls, don't shatter ur marriage by yourself. Let the sleeping dog lie. And pray for your own son.
First time in history that James will make sense with his comment. A part of ur cerebrum has suddenly gotten blood supply? Just wondering.. Lmao
DeleteWait a minute! Did James jst type all this? Wow... I'm dazed.. kudos, make una no dey yab James again oo, he still has a good head on his shoulder *wink*
DeleteWait a minute! Did James jst type all this? Wow... I'm dazed.. kudos, make una no dey yab James again oo, he still has a good head on his shoulder *wink*
Delete@James you are making sense nowadays and I think I'm liking you lol.. Happy Sunday and may God bless our endeavours Amen. Poster take James's advice and take a deep breath okay!
DeleteI love chuka umunna, d Labour Party man!!
DeleteI guess this is the "real " James typing here and not the facade he/she puts up here
DeleteJenny zee, he is my town man . In fact, my own personal mansion is very close to his late dad's own.
DeleteJames please don't spoil the beautiful comment you made up there
DeleteLmao @ personal mansion
So @James is from Ogbunka in Anambra state? Okay ooo.
DeletePoster two you still need to pray the more cos only God can direct you. Do not make mistake in your marriage. All the best as you keep on praying.
ReplyDeleteTo th poster no1 I don't understand what your problem is,this half cast don't everly come back to claim their fathers properties unlike their African brothers,so I advice you to go back home to your hubby and try and make your home *nd while you are @ it plz try for a baby boy that should put your mind @ rest. Poster 2,I advice you to run as far as your legs will carry you from that family.they need to break that yoke first my dear except you are ready to help them invite a strong men of God to liberate them from that curse
ReplyDeleteIts actually rude to call someone half of a caste. They are called mixed race pls
DeleteThank you Trinity!!! Illiterate up there...
DeletePoster 2: Generational/ foundational curses are real. If you are a strong woman of faith, and fervent in prayers, then you may go ahead and marry him, but be ready for the battles ahead. As I dey here so, I no dey see fire shook my hand put with my korokoro eyes. Best of luck.
ReplyDeleteMadam forgive your husband. Even though he's wrong by not telling you about the boy, he also doesn't want to loose you. Trust me that child with the "paper wife" is not a problem. Go home and make peace with your husband.
ReplyDeleteWhat a stupid woman! In which village were you born?? Scheisse!!! I'm just soo pissed right now after reading this shit. How is that supposed to be a problem?? Read Stella's reply again. What's your stress??? Is your husband's child not supposed to be your child?? African mentality
DeleteDepression runs in his family. Hm tough one.
ReplyDeletePoster 1:clap for youself,do not let foolishness ruin your marriage oh,take that boy as your son and he will love you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Run for you life oh.
Happy fathers day 2 all the good fathers here
My dear foolishness no be small... This is the most foolish chronicle I've ever read. Why do some Africans think as if they the brain their anus?
DeletePoster one. Properties dont belong to the first son alone. This is d jet age. All children are children. Boy or girl. Let ur husband kno ur fears. My husband hs a son. And o knew b4 marrying him.i accept him and all kids will hv the same rights to their dads property. Dont try to fight the other child. Just live in peace ok.
ReplyDeletePoster 2..he shud undergo thorough deliverance from Mfm to break ancestral curse if not dont marry ooo
ReplyDeletePoster one..ur very stupid .....common go back and love ur man jhoor!
ReplyDeleteShey poster one u bn no know before u marry am?oya run na since u wan leave ur husband.
ReplyDeletePoster one ...na money u dy find..instead of u to teach ur daughters on how to be successful independently ..u dy there dy claim Son ..mtchewwww...
ReplyDeleteyou gut feeling...Stella I don tire for you, your typos these days nawa.
ReplyDelete85% of the chronicles are sent by female..una problem too much.especially naija ladies. Make una no go solve una plenty problems they cry for gender equality..naija ladies with too many drama..God forbid
ReplyDeletePoster1, jus 4give ur man n take ur girls back home.
ReplyDeletePoster2; pls listen 2ur parent.
Poster 1...i don't like your type. A child is a child irrespective of the vagina it came out from. Treat the kid well and accept him as part of your family. How much does your husband have in cash and assets that you want to start dragging properties at this stage? The kids will grow up to have even more and won't give a hoot. Don't create enmity,hatred and rivalry among these kids o and don't maltreat that lil boy. Forget the mentality of property and live in peace. Nobody knows tomorrow. Go home Madam. You don't have an issue.
ReplyDeletePoster 2...sorry.
The child even de abroad, do u think he wants to come to Nigeria to drag property? Pls live peacefully with your husband or do u want to kill him bcos he didn't tell u he had a son? Yes he was wrong but it's a common thing that shouldn't be surprising .. U are thinking of property Nawa... Heaven nd earth shall pass away but d word of God won't pass away!
DeleteIf that boy lives with her, she's gonna so maltreat him or even kill him' this one wey she never see am n she don pack out, that man better leave d boy with his real mom and care for him there.
DeleteBlackBerry I totally agree with you. The woman is an evil step mom in the making
DeletePoster 2, listen to your parents. They can never deceive u. They also want the best for you.
ReplyDeleteI know about a girl that disobeyed her parents and married a man. She even called police for them that they are against her happiness.
But less than two years into the marriage, she ran back to her parents house asking for forgiveness.
What they will see sitting down, u can't see it standing up.
James has finally realized he is irrelevant on this blog with all his useless comments or is someone handling ur blog id now?
DeletePoster 1; please he had the boy befor you came into his life . So let sleeping dogs lie . In addition, you can always have a boy (if that's ur problem )
ReplyDelete2: I know how u must feel . I also stand with your parents . A lot of families are suffering from generational curses that they don't even know about . In such cases, your duty is to jump and waka far ... Do not become entangled in such a family. It would take the holyspirit to deliver them... Thank God for the investigation because to be fore warned is to forearmed
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteRelax, the white woman cannot bring her son to come and fight for property in Nigeria. That kind of thing is only common to we blacks.
I think that his friend is a devil, he does not want to pay that money, that is why he is trying to disorganize your marriage so that your husband will not even think about asking him for the money. I'm sure he has been blackmailing your husband for long.
Go back to your home and shame that judas Iscariot of a friend. Tell him to pay up his debt.
Btw, that man can kill oo, he can kill in order not to pay his debt. If you can, you and your hubby should just forget the money, tell him to go with the money and never contact your family again. Times are bad, the heart of man is fantastically wicked.
"Am so confused right now, I feel like leaving my marriage because I don't want to build everything with my husband then one son will just come one day and claim everything, moreover I have just two girls and I don't have a son yet"
ReplyDeleteFirst poster. Pls stop this ur myopic way of reasoning, ahn ahn!
Her type gives birth to girls only.
DeleteP1, you would be a very wicked step mum. Imagine the wickedness oozing out from your heart to your mouth. You are wicked.
ReplyDeleteVery wicked and uneducated, I guess
DeleteShe better get her kids close to d boy cos he might be of help to them in future nd they are siblings, u don't really ha e a good heart poster 1, if u continue like this u would birth girls only.. Na mixed race pikin u de fear for nd this ur bad mind is y ur husband didn't tell u st first cos there's nothing wrong with g marrying a man with kids..pls change ur African mentality cos this life nothing is certain, d property nd investment u are putting ur mind in , something can happen , pray more
DeletePoster 2, obey your parents!
ReplyDeleteAre you at war with punctuation marks?
The only punctuation mark in your write up is the full-stop. Don't tell me it is the confusion in your heart that made you send this badly written scrap to SDK. I'm sure you are a graduate, I weep for Nigeria.
Poster 1, forgive your horseband.
Poster poster1
ReplyDeleteYou don't have a Chronicle
Go back to your home and build it, stay away from that wicked friend of your hubby.
Poster 2
Listen to your parents, there are some things that love can not overcome.
Poster 1. Your husband having a son with another woman is not a reason for you to leave your marriage.
ReplyDeleteIf he does what is right by you and your kids you'll be alright.
He should make a will now or you and him meet up with lawyers to draft out property ownership agreements.
Make it the condition for forgiving him.
Stella, what are u saying? Poster 1: u need to be worried o. But just stay with your husband. You'll have ur own son and your husband will also write a will b4 his death. So rest.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: ha! Ha!! Ha!!! Run o. Suicidal family and u want to go there? Ok o
She does not need to be worried at all.. The Canadian son will not leave a land flowing with milk and honey to Nigeria to come and drag properties with her.. She should go back to her husband and make peace..
DeleteJasmine, please I would like you to explain to me why she should be worried. Perhaps there's sth I'm missing out here. Do you think the boy would even be interested in going to Nigeria?? What a good woman should do is to try and encourage the husband to bring the boy close to the family. He already has a bright future just by merely being Canadian. I beg enlighten me
DeleteJasmine she has nothing to be worried about. The child won't come back here. The mom won't even allow it with all that is said about Nigeria in the news and all
DeleteI struggled to comprehend what Poster 1 wrote...too many errors.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, stick to ur man & stay happy.
Poster 2: use ur head.
Poster 1: I agree with Stella, by moving out of the house, you are obviously pushing him back into the arms of the other woman with a son. Better get sense and go back to him. Poster 2: Hmmmmm. What an adult sees while sitting,a youngster can never see it while standing. Be wise
ReplyDeletePoster 1. So it is property dat is getting u all worked up? Didn't u say the son is in Canada? What will he be doing with ur socald husband's property? Smh. Are u already wishing ur husband dead? Wat are u trying to fight for property with a six year old? Smh. Most women mehn I dnt knw wat u want. At a long run, won't ur daughters get married? Smh.
ReplyDeleteI see u like fight. Most of u when u meet a man dat treats u well, u begin to get confused.. Abeg remain in dat hotel, let him go and get another galfrnd. Better still move out of the marriage, let the Canada woman move in with her son.. sigh
Poster 1: remain in the hotel till another person take over your husband. Even if the boy is his, embrace him cos the deed has been done.
ReplyDeleteYou guys shld draft a will already since you re afraid you have only gals.
Poster 2: ihe okenye no n'ala hu, nwata agaghi ahu ya even on top of iroko tree ooo.
I didn't say you shldnt marry him oo, but use your head too not only your heart.
Success to both of you.
Posted one, if you are going back, make sure everything your husband has is in your kids' name, everything including his next of kin. Otherwise, you will just work for nothing. Because the first child will definitely come and claim his right if your husband is igbo.
DeletePoster 1 be buying trouble where there is none. What if people who have sons that aren't useful to them, should they fling their daughters? By this statement you can already make your daughters feel like lesser children. There are ways around this if it bothers you sooo much. E.g letting your hubby buy stuff if your name and the kids names.
DeleteAnd what rule says YOU can't leave inheritance for your daughters? My mums friend did for her three daughters. Even before her hubby died in a plane crash. Luckily, he was a wise man who safeguarded his kids.
Abeg leave me with this una first son matter! In this century when women are prime ministers and presidents. Mscheeew!!
When Olori Wura talk em own everybody jump on top em matter.
DeleteNow poster 1 is displaying d same ignorance on Gender Equality.
Who says only boys r entitled to inheriting their father's estates? So because of inheritance u r not interested in working with ur husband to build ur home?
Moving away from d inheritance perspective, what about investing in ur children? That way they r able to stand on their own tomorrow and earn their place and voice in the society.
Ignorance and tunnel vision is a huge problem in Africa!
With this ur mentality how much can u build - one parcel of land and N100k bank balance? U r already planning for ur husband's untimely death? Cos if he dies in ripe old age when ur children r already established, who will b looking for estate?
Who inheritance epp? I don't know dat Michele Obama, Oprah or Condi Rice r looking for their fathers' estates to inherit - they all came from relatively regular homes. TODAY THEY VERY WELL HAVE THEIR OWN WEALTH. Even Paris Hilton is busy creating her own wealth!!!
Please go back home, build with ur husband, invest in ur children, teach them the benefits of diligence/faith/enterprise, and tomorrow those girls will stand tall anywhere and earn their own wealth.
Women r buying their parents houses and cars these days in Nigeria, all as a result of good education, good brains and a thoughtful heart.
Shine Sterling Stella!!!
Poster 1,Go back to your home,are you God who gives male children?why creating problems where there is none?if you leave now,another woman who didn't lift a finger for your husband will eventually reap where you have sown. Go back,God only holds the future of your home.
DeletePoster 2- use your head but again,your parent might be right.
@ anon 17:07 abeg collect plenty kisses and 10 gbosa!!!!!!
DeleteThis is serious,please don't ignore this sign,not a good one
ReplyDeletePoster 2
ReplyDeletePray for guidance o. I would want to be practical but an aunt of mine had the same issues and her mum completely went against her choice of spouse saying his mum (aunt's supposed MIL) committed suicide. Well after so much anger and reporting her to the entire family members, my aunt let him go.
She's over 50 now and is still single. He was pro'lly the one.
Tell her oh!
DeleteWhen your father says his mind in marriage and tells you 'well it's eventually up to you'. Just know that you're in for it. Cos The marriage blessings don reduce. Especially when it's for good intentions such as this and not the opposite.
Biko, don't do what you will regret tmr. Expect You're a pastor going to break every yoke there.🙌🏽 by prayer and fasting.
However, it might be an ancestral curse for a certain reason. And even at that, the bible says if the foundations be destroyed what can the righteous do?
So, you can answer that pls
Chikito, where did ur parents go wrong? Having a Professional runs girl for a daughter, & she wears it like a badge of honour and a violent junky that visits rehab like a supermarket for a son. Scientific research has proven with concrete evidence that all i mentioned are positive facts to cannabis use, i also stated in my last paragraph, like any drug abused or misused will lead to dependecy, but u were too engrossed in the pain ur family is goin thru due to misuse of weed by ur brother & u didnt notice, you cant condemn the whole institution of marriage simply bcus u got a wrong man. Im not fuelling the use of weed though but ur brothers case as u vividly described needs an apartment in YabaLeft, ur village ppl must be working tirelessly on you all, using his weakness to their advantage, abi u xpect doctors to diagnose village juju inside the CAT scan?
DeleteLol@ callin me a deceiver of the highest order, all i did was state the merits & demerits of the drug, but u had to go full throttle & air out ur families dirty laundry in details, apparently, the 2nd hand smoke from ur brother has also affected ur brain, when next u go for scan, make an appointment 4urself also, i highly recommend that. if uve made a decision to use ur pussy as a church offering basket, dont blame the devil, we should learn to hug responsibilities for our actions. So pls dont condemn the internet bcus 15yr olds download porn from it. Apparently, parenting is just as important as chasing money, we dont see the visible strings but theyre very much connected, if you fail as a parent while chasing money, u'd end up using same found funds to pay for rehab & various therapy sessions, just as Chikitos parents are suffering, we should learn from their mistakes so our sons wldnt be like her bro that cant differentiate a belly button from a pussy.
#DontBringYourFamilyShit2aBlog
*Drops mic & slams door*
Atheist- so that comment pain you wella? 😂😂
DeleteEyaaah.... You didn't sleep last night? I'm sure you're one of those who wait for people on the street to fight them the next day, just because what you think is 'right' turned out to make you look foolish!
If you want to smoke canabis, smoke it. Give your children and grandchildren. Use it to cook vegetable soup for your spouse. Use is as panadol when you have headache. Take it as tea. How e concern me?😂😂
I only stated a very personal experience of people deceiving young ppl that something intoxicating is good up to the point where it goes south. And yea, maybe I was emotional. But, your comment made no sense to me. Especially when the poster made a statement about the man not having his life in order and u were nudging her on.
So if you like keep waiting on me on every post. I will continue to say my mind on this blog. I will continue to use this profile name. I LOVE it. It suits me. I'm anonymous and I can express my opinions while you all line up and abuse a profile without knowing the real person behind the name.
And may God punish that mouth you have used to bring my parents to this issue. She I you go born children? 😂😂 Na ppl like u dey born the one wey go bring triple disgrace. Anuofia!! You are so distasteful I won't even waste more sweat on you.
Pls smoke Igbo and sleep. I see my comment made your life miserable.
Guess what? My parents are happily vacationing in Hawaii as I send this. 😂😂 after almost 40 years of marriage NOTHING can shake them. Not even addict for a son. So stop insulting them. They have worked hard and are enjoying the fruits of their labour. With 4 SOLID daughters behind them. That's what happens when Jesus is the centre of your marriage. You pull thru storms and stand strong and still love each other.
You, on the other hand, would hv had a broken home by now (if not already sef😂) bitter angry soul.
Let me wish my dad happy Father's Day o jare. My ever-happy dad. They should be back from Sunday buffet by now, after service.
Oya take canabis tea☕️ Soothe your bitter soul! 😝😝😝
Chikito,stop wasting your time with this jobless idiot!...
DeleteYou and him are not on the same level mehn...I'm sure if you see the person behind that name,you will puke!....
Poster 1: I advice you stay in your marriage but be wise make sure properties are bought in your children's name and and yours too. Whatever he wants to leave for his son he will plan for it no matter how had you tried to watch him so just make sure your children's future are secured. Lobatan.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please take your daughters back to their father's house and return to your husband.
ReplyDeleteWhat is even wrong with women of nowadays?
Not like he had a son whilst still married to you o,this happened way before he met u and according to him, it's for papers. Why not forgive your husband and return to him?
By the way, who still believes in the theory of "only male children have right to inheritance"
Abeg if you don decide to leave the man out of your mumu, just send his contact to Stella, I will marry him with the 3 children sef. Nothing mega!
The main problem with you women of this generation is that you picture marriage as a "fairy tale, happily ever after" kind of situation, so u end up rushing into marriage half prepared... else you would not have brought this issue to SDK in the first place, u better go back to your husband's house.
P 1.You no get any problem'but little madness dey worry you ....why looking for trouble where dia none?? Amazing this amazing that...Nothing one can do to please a woman...go find another man' or enter lagooon if you are not happy.
DeletePoster 1,well since Ur hubby has been begging plz forgive him and move on!it's not easy but u can
ReplyDeletePoster 2 please please and please RUN! What an elderly sees sitting down,even if u climb a tree,u won't c it... please don't ruin Ur life cos of a man! Pray to God and wait for a man without family baggage!
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DeleteWhat kind of talk is that eh poster Two? Four members of his family committed suicide does that mean he'll do same? Please free the man there are babes waiting to grab him. #unbelievinggeneration.
ReplyDeletePost 1, you are just worried over nothing. Who told you white boy will come to start disputing assets with you. Relax that's what thousand nd one Nigerian men do over there to get papers.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, heed your parents advice.
Dear Poster 1,you don't have any problems at all. That innocent boy is your son,and a brother to your daughters. Pls,dear,forgive your husband. Let go the hurt,and let God. My husband did same. Two boys and I never knew nor suspected. Not even a himt.I cried cos I was too young,and from a strict Christian home. Today,my marriage is 16years and still counting to the glory of God. Inheritance? I'm a big time hussler.I work hard for my money. By God's grace,i will leave inheritance for my children. They won't compete with their big bros.Babe,be at peace
ReplyDeleteGod just bless you for this coment...na greediness dey worry the idiot.make she comot,her husband go marry virgin "Tear rubber oo for that mata o.
DeleteNna na wah o. Poster 2, please if I were you o, I will pick race. That sounds bizzare and life is too short to be thinking about who will die next
ReplyDeletePoster 1 . It's because of your close mindedness that your husband kept that information from you. Learn to be open minded.
ReplyDeleteMy darling, pack your stuff and your kids and return to your matrimonial home. Marriage is for better or worse, as long as your life isn't at stake. Now this is the worse, you've been enjoying the better. By God's grace, other better days are still ahead.
ReplyDeleteSweetie, let's distil the most important consideration from your predicament. It's rather rich for you to expect honesty from your hubby. I'm sorry but I have to go there though not in a judgmental way, I'm just drawing your attention to an issue you seem to be overlooking. You willingly married a man who married a Canadian woman just to get his papers and you think he wouldn't have secrets?
I know you are more upset at the thought of his son coming to inherit what you feel you've struggled for but,times have changed. There are several legal documents both of you can sign to secure your children's future. But, instead of worrying yourself sick, why not raise your girls to be strong independent women who will be successful in their own right? Some of the wealthiest people, men and women, came from impoverished homes with nothing to inherit yet, they struggled and today their names can "open doors".
Honey, NEVER EVER leave your matrimonial home because of such issues and stop allowing people tell you things about your husband! If you aren't careful, you will end up causing more harm to your marriage and when you try to retrace your steps, it may be too late. Don't you realise you're queen? A queen never abandons her throne because of her king's indiscretions unless she is sure the marriage is over. A queen doesn't expose the shortcomings of her king to friends or family. A queen shuts her palace's gates, holds the hand of her king and leads him to the bedchamber, shuts the door, takes of her "crown" and gets all "gangster" on her king and tackles the bone of contention. You can scream and bring the roof down if you are so inclined but never shame him in public even when his actions bring shame to you. That, my dear, is the difference between a woman and a queen.
As betraying and disappointing as the actions of your husband are, it isn't enough to abandon your home. So he has a son he didn't tell you about, does that justify throwing the baby and the bathwater away? Have you tried talking with him and expressing your concerns? Have you tried asking him to sign certain legal documents to secure your children's future (since you are so concerned about that) and he refused? Sweetheart, moving out of your matrimonial home was premature and unnecessary. Marriage isn't for the fainthearted, you must face challenges and weathering the storm together will only make your bond stronger.
Don't allow this situation blow out of proportion. Don't forget what a wonderful husband and father he is because a secret has been revealed. Don't deprive your daughters the stability of having their dad in their lives because of one mistake. Go back home now that he is still begging you, in the state of mind he is in, he will do whatever it takes to earn your forgiveness. Have a heart to heart with him and see how this situation can be managed. Remember, stop listening to gossips about your husband. Don't even create the atmosphere for such. Don't think you're smart, trying to get info about your husband from his friends or people he is at logger heads with. You may think you need the info to be guided but you are actually exposing your man to the wolves. Honey, please take charge of your home and protect it at all costs.
#e-bearhugs.
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DeleteWats all dis nonsense about suicide runs in d family..... did dey also investigate wether DV runs in d family..... WTF is suicide runs in d family like it's sm kinda infection or wat. SMH. POSTER 1 u no rili get problem dat na y u dey go hotel u r runnin away from a problem dat might or might not happen. Well enjoy hotel life
ReplyDelete@Poster 1.. A WILL which is a legal document exists for a reason. Please go back to your husbands house.
ReplyDeleteThe debtor is trying to destroy your marriage.he doesn't want to pay the money hence tried blackmailing your husband. Better go back to your husband because it's nothing serious.
ReplyDeleteNARRATIVES of this nature are common at poster 1 for young men who went to hustle overseas. Relax. You think the white woman would leave her son for your husband? They are not that way.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...are you serious? What you suffered together? Just shut that your mouth. You are not even the first wife, you married a married man whose first wife suffered just for him to have a green card. The first wife made him who he is today before you saw a man in him and married. Now you are tripping because he has a son by the first marriage... You must be high. You better bring yourself back to your husband house and be a good stepmother to that child or another woman will replace you and treat that child good. Suffered what? Tah Sharrap. Do you know what it means to be a foreigner with no papers and with no idea where your next meal will come from. Please don't defend your hoeness by saying he married the first one for papers.
ReplyDeletePoster two... Go with your guts. If the family are always suicidal that means they have a history of mental illness with depression being the major part. Does your fiance exhibit some symptoms like being unstable, depressed, withdrawal from people excessively e.t.c then you need to take him to see a psychiatrist. Marriage might bring out more of that because marriage is not a walk in the park. The ball is in your court.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Thnk you.
DeleteNo mind her an her type. Stupid people everywhere
DeletePoster1. Forgive your hubby and take legal actions when acquiring any property.
ReplyDeleteposter2. I'd advice your follow your heart and trust God to give you a marital bliss.
You are just like her. Person no pursue una, una dey run! What stupid property does he have that his son can't acquire if he works hard? The way you people think! When I divorced, I left my ex with all his properties and never looked back. I have since bought a small 3 beds and you know what, I value my little 3 beds than his mansions because I worked hard for it! Property my foot! That's why una dey die because of things that are not relevant, with women like you, I feel sorry for my little boys
DeletePoster 1 so you're of the school of thought that only mend prefer male children or its only the male children that will inherit properties? SMH. Kindly forgive your husband and continue your marriage,all children are important regardless of gender. I'd also encourage you to tell your husband to conduct a DNA to determine if the child is his, and let him fulfill his duties as a father.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, please listen to your parents. Evil family history has a way of repeating.
Poster 1 pls don't leave your husband but buy properties in your children 's name.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I beg you please don't marry into that family. Mental illness is hereditary.
Poster 1. you are such a wicked woman.. your husband had to marry and give his white wife a son to enable him secure his Canadian citizenship. which in the long run will favour you are your daughter. Is that a crime? Abeg run home before i open my eyes. That white child will never come to Nigeria and even if he does its just for normal visit thats all. Only a useless white man will relocate from Canada to drag property in Africa. so let your mind be at rest
ReplyDeleteWhat a stupid woman! In which village were you born?? Scheisse!!! I'm just soo pissed right now after reading this shit. How is that supposed to be a problem?? Read Stella's reply again. What's your stress??? Is your husband's child not supposed to be your child?? African mentality
DeletePOSTER TWO. Once upon a time, a man and woman got married against the wish of the man's family. They were so against it that not one person attended the wedding ceremony. It was a struggle to conceive but miraculously after searching for four years, they had a child. None of the husband's family showed up for the christening, no member of the husband's family ever visited them. The woman tried all she.could to gain their attention but for where, they never for one minute acknowledged her. It was so bad and obvious that once in a bluemoon when she gathered courage to attend their family function, they didn't even did as if she was there. She continued to live her live and her husband loved her and their daughter with all his mind. Mysteriously the daughter became ill, trouble started, the husband's family did not show face for one day at the different hospitals or at home. The only thing they did was to support them financially. Infact at one time, they sent two million naira to the woman but never did they show face.....and trouble started more when the marriage crumbled because the man left. The child eventually passed on. Sad. Never go into a marriage when you don't have the support of two families. God bless you and direct you. Amen
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I'm Nigerian and my kids will never leave the UK to go and drag properties with anyone let alone a non Nigerian. My kids will be greater than their father and I, that's my prayer. If they decide to relocate to Nigeria in the future, they will sort themselves out. Poster 1 you are not serious! I can't imagine what people sit and think about, ridiculous and shallow! Please don't make your daughters think they are not good enough, you are so annoying
ReplyDeletePoster 1, am really disappointed with you. How does women think these days. There is no way that boy is coming back to Nigeria. Even 98% of people that brought their white wives back to Nigeria have ended up losing their wives and kids who eventually go back to their mothers' lands talk less of one that has never been to Nigeria. If tomorrow that boy becomes the prime minister of Canada (everything is possible with the Obama example), you'll be the one to pose and claim step mother and make noise everywhere.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster one, except u just want to do small shakara so he can beg u with a car, if not go back home now now.
ReplyDeleteMadam run away soldier keep running oh! Time you will use to do something meaningful with your life - you are spending it running away and wasting money. Shit happens... Men are full of lies (web of lies for that matter).
ReplyDeleteMadam forgive him and return to your home. Accept the boy and treat him like your own son there is nothing there. Abi him no be human being?.
Poster two, you had better listen to your parents and kill that dead love. Else, you want to regret in the future by then it will be too late.
I don't know why people are not reasonable. Is it out of place for a woman to be angry at her husbands deception? Why will a man marry a woman and not tell her he has a son previously? U dis stella Sef, UR red pen sometimes no dey make sense. How can u say she has no problem, wait until UR husband tells u he had a child b4 he married u or that there is madness in his family or he is as, and u are one too,all after marriage oooo. Let's see if u will just take it lying low. The truth is dat there is a problem and she has every right to be angry. It is an integrity issue, and only matured and reasonable people will understand her anger. Anyway poster, forgive your hubby eventually and go back home, but henceforth, shine your eyes. Make sure anything you buy especially if it's your money should be bought in UR name or dat of your children. A man like dis can never be fully trusted. Who knows what else he has up his sleeves. It is dis type dat will die and children will start crawling out of different places.
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DeleteA woman who married a man for many things with green card inclusive, can she be trusted? She is even angry that the man's son will share from the property she didn't suffer from. She is a suspect.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
A billion likes for this comment. i tot the whole world had gone mad
ReplyDeleteI always find it amusing how people fight and struggle for property, when we would eventually leave everything here after we die...
ReplyDeletePoster 2,dis is a tough one but I believe d spiritual controls d physical,go on ur knees and talk to ur creator cos he knws wats best for you.
ReplyDeleteBillion likes for which comment?
ReplyDeletePoster 1... your husband lied to you, if that's enough reason for you to leave him then do so but you will see that many people won't agree. If you want to stay married to him, go home and discuss with him and work things out. Find out if he's divorced yet & of not insist he gets a divorce immediately. He should at least file. If he believes the son isn't his then insist he gets a DNA test this year too. Then finally insist that he writes a will that names your daughters as his beneficiaries too, if you own homes or land he should put it in each child's name.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. There's no such thing as suicide running in families, suicide is not genetic therefore cannot be inherited. What seems to be happening is mental illness that can be genetic. Sounds like it could be depression or maybe even schizophrenia. Are you equipped to deal with a spouse who battles mental illness? Do you have a support system in place if your children suffer from depression or other mental illness issues? I'd you proposed husband the type of man who will feel no shame seeing a psychiatrist for treatment? Because if he's not, you have to run as that marriage will be even more difficult than it needs to be. Does your husband recognize mental illness as something people go through and shouldn't be ostracized for? He would need to be for your marriage to have a chance. You need to look at yourself and your beliefs to decide if this marriage is for you. Good luck nne