Hmmm!!!...Tough decisions!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SISTER IN LAW DILEMA
Thumbs up Stella!
I'm writing on behalf of my sister-in-law who is at a crossroad. I will try to be as precise as possible. She has been separated and not divorced from her legal husband over five years now with three children.
The husband abandoned them without taking financial responsibility over any of them up till date. She lives with her mother who is my Mother-in-law. That's a story for another day. My husband pays the school bills of one of the children however, and she also struggles on her own to cater to the needs of the remaining two children. She likes me a lot and confides in me, hence, her reason for seeking my advice on this difficult issue I'm about to share.
She recently met a Nigerian muslim man (we are christians) in his early 50s who just relocated from Kuwait to settle down and start up his own business in Nigeria. According to her, the man has been honest about his past. The man is divorced from his first wife who is in the UK. He has a child from the marriage and the child lives with the mother in the UK. He was with another woman in Kuwait (non-Nigerian) and they also have a child together but the woman refused to come down with him to Nigeria.
She prefers to stay in Kuwait to raise their child according to him. They have a mutual agreement to live separetely. Now, this man has been financially helpful to my sister-in-law and promises to take care of her and all her needs and also help train one of her three children up on till university level but not without my sister-in-law marrying him legally and having atleast a child for him.
She doesnt wish for more children, at the same time she doesnt want this opportunity to slide. Note that the man is financially capable and my sister-in-law has a daily business that yields a little profit.
Please use your red pen Stella, and my dear BVs, also share your thoughts on how to advice her. Thank you.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
BREAKING UP TIPS NEEDED
Hello Stella, I was recently introduced to your blog although I was once addicted to your competitor.
I must say, the difference is clear. Keep up the great work.
Well my story goes like this. I have been dating a girl for about three years now, but from day one I knew she isn't the one for me.
She's a barrister, loving, generous and an extrovert. Our relationship has always been, one month on, two months break up. I have told her countless of times, that I don't love her and that she should please move on.
We have broken up on phone, at an eatery like a gentleman would do. But after each break up, na serious cry and I get hurt for what I did. Then we get back again.
Its been a circus for three years now and I'm fed up, but still in it.
She's 34, two years older than I am. All I hear is marriage, you and I, and I'm not ready for that. I'm still struggling to build an empire not marriage and kids.
She can be blunt and rude and apologetic after the deed is done. I know I have my flaws as well. But I fear for the greater canopy which is marriage, don't want to go into something with someone I would regret for life.
I just want to be free, without hurting anybody. Please advise... Thanks
Chronicles posting is turn by turn so please be patient and stop complaining I havent posted.It is one or two a day and until i say the folder is empty,please be patient...you hear?
Thank you.
Hmmmm things re happening oo,brb
ReplyDeleteTell her to get money from d man n boost her business then leave the man alone.If she wants to keep him as an acquaintance fine n good but not marry him.Dt man will definitely marry another woman after her.My uncle is just like dt man but in his own case no children
DeleteWomen always have succh dilemmas when they don't have the financial capability to handle their responsibilities.if she had her own money,i mean if she could cater to all the needs of her children without help from anybody:a good home,clothes,food every every, what will be her decision?sometimes an offer seems juicy becos of our hungry stomachs.let her empower herself,nobody is above mistakes.im guessing she's not yet 100years?so it's not late.empower urself and build ur finances then run ur show.in that case the guy can be there just for fun,u will see he will change mouth sef.
DeleteNarrative one: that's a hard decision to make. Please she should commit it to God almighty in prayers to direct her.
DeleteNarrative two: I understand your plight though it's not so easy for her moving on but since you know within you that you wouldn't be settling down with her then please help her by not waisting much of her time anymore and break up finally with her without pitying how she will feel. Mind you am not saying all this to prove you are totally right, I just want you to help her by that so she can move on. She can only cry for sometime but with time she will get over it. But Nigerian guys Shia with their age difference wahala, I guess her age difference still adds to your wanting to break up with her.
Hmmmm things re happening oo,brb
ReplyDeleteChronicles
ReplyDeletePoster 1: The advice on bellanaija on Aunty bella column no do you abi.........rubbish.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Well, whatever. Watch war room, drink coconut oil for confidence. When you are ready to liberate yourself from a manipulative desperado.......you wouldn't need help. Stop sleeping with her amd eating her food by the way.
Abi oh lmao. You are collect her something for free and expect her to let you be lailai you must marry that lawyer
DeleteHahahaha @Your first sentence. Poster 2, u led her on for 3 years even when u knew that u had no future with her? Smh.
DeleteP1, its a tough one o, he wants to marry her with a condition, that's not true love. She rather allow him to be helping her financially the little he can rather than giving her conditions to marry, mtcheew. God will take care of her children for her and they will go to the university in Jesus mighty name i pray, Amen
ReplyDeleteI agree with u too. Poster one which one of ur kids will u select to go all d way to university level? Please you need a man that is willing to accept u n all the baggage u have. Everyone has baggage. If u don't want more children, y have more?
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteLet your SIL do what makes her happy but not neglecting the GOD factor!
Poster 2
What's the point in postponing what you're gon have to d eventually?? the earlier the better bro..stop wasting her time..and yours!
Poster 1 your sister in law is not serious. So 5 years and she is still thinking of marrying a man who has a wife already.
ReplyDeleteI know women who lost even lost their husbands as in he died and they didn't remarry.
She needs to have a reason for wanting to remarry. Is it for sex? Or comfort?
She has to also be legally divorced to avoid problems if she decides to marry this man.
Are men finished? Why does she want to tie herself down when she has children to cater for? What if this man refuses to help after marrying her? Some men do that you know. He'd shower her with everything now and stop taking care of her kids after marriage.poor children shouldn't lose their father and mother too.
Poster 2 you are not serious and talk childish. How can a woman force you to date her. Hian
Poster 2 is just an awful person. Leave that woman so she can move on with her life. How do you date someone even though you knew from the first day that she wasn't 'the one'?! 😒😒😒 Idiot.
DeletePoster 2.. Mscheew
DeletePoster 2 no get problem, abeg shift. Nonsense.
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteYour sister in law should grab this offer sharp sharp...
A minus three like her does not have a choice abeg...opportunity comes but once...
Poster 2,
Choi!,,,
See desperation!...
Biko run away from this Aunty...she is too desperate and na her type go knack pigeon for your head...
Na wah oh...
Repent dear,Jesus is still willing to accept u#poster1:tell her to stay away from d Muslim man b4 what happened to linda in 1948 hppns to her#poster2:are you sure u are actually 32yrs or its ur imaginary age better mind urself n break up with that girl*messenger from the south*
DeleteHahaha...Linda.repent ooooooo
DeleteThis na new month
You forgot the Muslim factor. She's a Christian and he is a Muslim
DeletePoster one I like how close you and your sister inlaw are. She should be careful. He wants to train just one of the kids to uni level? Y not all since he wants to marry their mother?? And this woman he has in Kuwait, what is she now comes back here? What happens? Your sister inlaw shouldn't jump into this just because of desperation. There would be other men she should tske her time. Pray about it. Fast too. And decide what to do.
ReplyDeleteOk na, yeye de smell. She is 34, u r 32, is it d age that is d problem? Why are you leading her on all these years? Is 3 years like 3 days to you. She is not your kind of woman but you gbensh her steady when she opens, you break up, she cries and you go back, then you are not serious. You better free her now before she gives you curse of life.
ReplyDeleteLOL @Sdk. which kind red pen advice be dat wey u give poster 1?
ReplyDeleteI want sharwarma :(
ReplyDeletePoster 1, I don't no what to say. She is between the devil and the deep blue sea
ReplyDeletePoster 2:
ReplyDeleteWOMEN ALWAYS WANT MARRIAGE AND KIDS,
MEN ALWAYS WANT SEX AND SEX,
YOU KNEW SHE WASN'T THE ONE FOR YOU AND YOU KEPT GOING
WHAT REALLY KEPT YOU GOING; SEX; ISN'T IT?
SHAME. NOW THERE IS A HARNESS AROUND YOUR NECK AND YOU ARE RUNNING UP AND DOWN
REMOVE THE HARNESS AND DAMN THE CONSEQUENCES INCLUDING ACID BATH.
YOU CAN CALL JESUS FOR HELP
POSTER 1:
money and "abroad" do wonders in opening this hole called vagina, no matter how locked it is. what is attracting this lady to a muslim who can decide to fill his house and cupboards with wives; answer: money. What a shame!
Poster1 She/you should marry him on the condition that he wont force her to switch religion if she doesnt wish to
ReplyDeletePoster2 Theres no easy way to dump
No matter how it comes out, it must pain
But i blame you for wasting the time she doesnt want
Why take her back each time out of pity knowing fulling well you ll still dump at a later time?
Heartbreak ll not kill her o, she ll just cry out her eyes and when she sees that theres no coming back together she ll be forced to move on eventually
Stop being so weak and allow her take it the hurt once and for all before she enter menopause
Poster 1: No. I'm sorry to say but a Christian marrying a Muslim for whatsoever reason is a no for me.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: at 32 she still doesn't want to use her brain. Break up with her, let her cry heaven and earth, don't bother. With time, she'll be fine
Poster 1) I have a feeling that marrying that man will make things worse for her. He will train only one child, he has a whole lot of baggage...women all over the place, he's of a different faith & believe (yes oh it's an issue) she must have another child (if wahala happens now she'll be stuck with more kids) I can go one & on but she shouldn't be so desperate to alleviate her problems that she ends up increasing it.
ReplyDeleteYou break up, she begs you & you resume from where una stop. Why? Why are you wavering like a leaf in the wind? Take a decision & stand by it. Imagine leading her on & wasting her time. Pray that she doesn't curse you sef when you finally end it. You know you won't marry her yet you kept going back & hitting the kitty kat. She's 34 years...leave her now if she's not the one.
Meh first chronicle that is one tough decision oh, I know you need money but think again are u ready for the baggage that comes along with it? 1) the man is Muslim and you Christian. 2) he wants you to have @ least a child ( which to me is like u give me I give u). 3) are you sure this man really loves u? i.e if he will always be there for you and your kids?. So my dear ask your self all these questions I'm sure you will find the answers that you seek.
ReplyDeleteHave you noticed in the last few days chronicles what "money and abroad" does to girls; it opens every vagina like master keys and the men have learnt to use is to achieve this.
ReplyDeleteWhat is vagina? Please call it pussy! !!
DeleteI think NGL might have bitten off more than he/she/it could chew with that "silver spoon boys" post, as blog no wan gree open again LMAO!!!
ReplyDeleteGot tired of reading dat blog. Its too harsh and bitter, wetin consign me if pesin be runs geh, homo, pimp, sugar daddy or bleacher? Nigeria is just too hard for me to be sticking my nose into such trivial matters biko.
DeletePoster two you are an unserious time waster. You knew you didn't want this girl from day one and you have been with her for 3years now?? Is she holding your penis that you can't leave?? You're trying to say you're with her out of pity. We get that. You don't want her again right?? You can be rude. Even hurt her so she'll get the message. That way she will move on. I'm sure you know how guys break up with girls. You can do the attitude thing. Start ignoring her. You're here asking as if you don't know. How did you break up with other gfs you dated??? Leave that girl alone so she can move on. You're wasting her time and you know it.
ReplyDeleteWill read comments.
ReplyDeletePardon me both posters.
*Yawning...
ReplyDeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteI won't advice ur SIL ti marry that man,he's baggage is too much
They can be friends with benefits
And why will a christian marry a Muslim in the first place?
There are better christian divorcées and widowers to choose from
Let her be patient please
BTW what's up with this separated for five years stuff,if they want to divorce let them do so and move on with their lives!!!!
Poster 2
Na see finish dey worry you
See as you've finished with her,you want to move on to a younger chick,if you've not gotten yourself one already.
Suddenly you realize she's 34 and ur not ready for marriage now
I don't blame you Na dat babe wasting her time with a toddler like you I blame...
She's even crying for you
Women yaff suffered!!!!
Biko gerraway you!!!!!
As in eh, no be small see finish
Deletechronicle two, never date someone out of pity,feelings should,nt be one sided. i once made that mistake once and i regretted it. please free her and stand your ground.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 let her make sure the man genuine,afterall wat does she Hv to loose?? Let her go ND marry him be Hapi!! Poster 2 after3years u want to brk up wit her?? Deep down you, u know its wrong,really? at her age wat do u want her to be saying?? I want to go clubbing, parties?? Wake up!! We all r imperfect,smtin must Hv kept u there for3 years let that same tin make u propose to her..
ReplyDeleteShe has lots to lose.wt if d man leaves her thereafter?she'll be saddled with another child yo cater for and of course d man will Mk her and the chil he will sponsor change religion
DeletePoster 1 Please don't fall so cheap for this, you just came out from a frying pan and you want to enter fire.. why are you doing this cause of the financial help attached to it. All you need to do is pray to God to help your hustle and see how to get your ex-husband to pay his alimony to you. This new ''Chuck" is baggage and i dont think you need that baggage.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 Please break off not break up oh.Delete her number and everything about her i.e stop the contacts then she will take you serious. You aint a kid anymore you need to learn to make decision and stamp your feet on it cos you guys are doing yourselves no good at all.
***am off on a mission jare with 007***
See warnings from Stella, abeg i dont want to laugh.
ReplyDeletePoster 1... the man is entitled to 4 wives. He has two now. One for UK, one for Kuwait. So wife No. 3 for Nigeria is not bad. So enjoy wife no 3 for your sister in law. Very soon, wife No 4 go come.
Poster 2... Since you are not ready for marraige why are you leading her on and coming back after you leave her. You are just a foolish man abi na guy you be.
TELL HER PLAINLY YOU ARE NOT THE MARRAIAGEABLE TYPE
It's not an entitlement... it's a necessary "evil" that is simply allowed to avoid the spread of immorality and diseases. It's way better to have four wives and be faithful to them than have one and be having illicit affairs upandan. At least, according to the Islamic law, the wives have equal rights and ate entitled to the best treatment unlike side chocks and mistresses.
DeleteNB it's nobody's fault if the man has a maximum of four wives and still chooses to be randy. His judgement awaits him!
Poster 1 please your S-I-L shouldn't go into marriage cos of financial gains. If he had promised to take care of d 3 kids it might be a different matter. Again that man is a Muslim, 3 more wives might be joining her.... My candid advise is chop and clean mouth and run...
ReplyDeletePoster 2 nawa for you ooo, how can you be dating a lady in he 30's and be kidding yourself that it ain't long term. Tis not fair you know she definitely wants marriage. If you really want to break up you have to be mean, block her numbers, change your locks, don't call or see her and offer no explanations. When you do this it will finally dawn in her that you are no longer interested.
Pstr2 you're an ass licker, God punish u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,calmly and kindly let her understand that you can't go on with her,and don't try leading her on and off again,stop wasting her time.@Poster 1,your story is complicated maynee.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: I commend your sis-in-law for her efforts in raising 3 kids alone. It is not easy. Since her brother is helping in paying fees of one and she has a little business, i would say let her raise her kids, concentrate on them and leave that man who is asking for her hand in marriage.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, that man seems like one whose success depends on sowing his wild oats everywhere and on every continent. She will regret and suffer more than ever if she goes ahead with this man. Love is beautiful and gives no condition. What does he mean by saying she has to birth a child for him first.
Let him go with whatsoever assistance he wants to render.
If your sis in law knows that peace is priceless and life is more fun without drama, let her face her kids and remarry in a conditionless and proper manner. She deserves love. My 2 cents.
Poster 2: Both of you are matured enough to understand when one says it is over. I see no future in this relationship so let your it's over be it's over and stop all these back and forth things.
Poster one your sister in-law has longer throt cos her religion and his is not the same, she want to become a second wife to an unbeliever abi cos he promise her heaven and earth. Let her choose this day whom she will serve, am out.
ReplyDeletePoster please beg ur sister inlaw to leave that man, beg him seriously. All these affairs with married men are always disasters. Beg him oooo, if it is the sex abeg let her find a boyfriend,i know wat im tlking abt, all the promises n all its all lies, she has a business she could take care of her kids herself since ur hubby is helping train one of them. My neighbor n his "wife" they fight everyday, this are pple from the same tribe n even same state o, tlk more of a non nigerian. The man continually accuse her of using jazz on him making him to leave his wife n marry her to take care of her children... hmm the story is quite lengthy while the woman's hubby is dead now, she has three daughters too. Please avoid married men affairs like a plague hmm.. beg her o. If its money she can keep him as a boyfriend and take as much money as she can then ultimately leave him!!!!
ReplyDeletePoster two. Sighs. Okay, you want to move on from a babe that u dnt wnt anymore. Call her up, tell her to meet u up somewer, buy her lunch or dinner or watever, afterwhich u state out that is in all seriousness is the last time u guys hang out, say it nmean it, wen she cries tell her its not her, its you, Ur sorry n u wnt to move on. Tell her she deserves more bla bla bla. N that she shouldnt contact u anymore. That relationship with her is toxic, its sick on every level, its either she is not matured enough or u are not. How can u claim to be in a relationship wiyh someone n 90% of the time ur fighting n making up. Biko free the babes joor.
P.s: dont jump into another until u are positive its wot u wnt at this point in ur life, cos u might end up complicating things.
@poster 2, U know dat she is not the girl for you from day one yet you date her for 3 years .
ReplyDeleteU are very useless, Shameless and irresponsible man.
I can't date a girl I did not love for more than a month. In fact, immediately I learn that she doesn't have good manners, I will start planning my exit right away.
Don't mind him, coming here to sugar coat it for us.
DeleteJames, u just made my day. Take puff puff.
DeleteWho will agree to date you with ur 2 inch dick?Ewu gambia
DeleteP1......personally I wouldn't overlook the religious difference. Why train just a kid of yours? If he wants to marry you,he should embrace you in all regards. Abeg the story tire me. Too complicated.
ReplyDeleteP2....who told you Stella has a competitor? I put it to you that you are an aproko man. Aproko men don't settle easily. Free the lady and she in turn should see through you and receive sense.
mumu poster 2, that competitor gist wasnt necessary. it pisses me off. i visit both blogs and i get different flavours. no advice for you cos i didnt bother to read your rubbish.
ReplyDeleteTrue! Really uncalled for. And yes, his chronicle was rubbish. Hehehe.
DeletePoster two bros is not hard to walk away if only you are sure that you are fed up with her pussy, after you are tired of cabashing her raw, who knows if she have aborted for you before, now you want to walk away and leave her for who nah? From the first day you knew you are not into her, why wasting her precious time? Bros pack well o, no allow me insult you.
ReplyDeleteSince she has been giving you front and back did you not think of building mansion? Work away the same way you came.
Poster 1, right now, ur sis should focus her children's well being and how to grow her biz. She will definitely see worse tins dan she saw in her previous marriage. I don't even see anytin gud in a man dat gets married everywhere he travels to. My sis open ur ear and listen gud, Dat man wan be father of all nation! Trust me he will relocate again to another country and marries another woman and he will tell dem dsame tin he told ur sis. Dat man is a scam abeg..
ReplyDeletePoster 2. I know you, she's 24 not 34. Hehehe
ReplyDeletePoster 1-NO
ReplyDeletePoster 2- You better be a man and leave her for good,else if you marry her out of pity,the marriage will be another statistics of a failed marriage cause she will jazz you to marry her,or she will make life miserable for u if you get my drift.
Poster 2. I know you, she's 24 not 34. Hehehe
ReplyDeleteBy the way you are leaving after chopping this babe for good 5yrs. Fear God, you chop both money and body
Shut off, off point. 24 and good 5 yrs, so she started dating him at 18. Infact shut up, u type nonsense
DeletePoster1,will your sister inlaw denounce her christian faith and become a muslim after marriage?
ReplyDeleteThere's something about this man,he keeps leaving his women after one child,i hope your sil isnt about making another mistake!
Poster 2 @ 32 you never reach to maLLy? Uncle gwegz! I'm sure while chyking her you must have said age is just a number and she shouldnt worry,now you saying she'z two years older blah blah.....she talks marriage bleh bleh....@34 what is she suppose to talk?boyfriend&gf? You are a time waster aswear!
Anyway,for using my name 'comman' pay your tithe!
*yawwwns*
Stop all communications in a gradual process it's better than marrying her n be full of regrets later
ReplyDeleteStop all communications in a gradual process it's better than marrying her n be full of regrets later at poster two
ReplyDeleteStop all communications in a gradual process it's better than marrying her n be full of regrets later at poster two
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm! That's all I can say
ReplyDeleteHmm... i'll sit this one out. *sips coke*
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Keep fooling around until you "mistakenly" impregnate her and turn her into a baby mama or bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional home.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2,
ReplyDeleteWho is her competitor? And where did you get the idea anyone is competing?
Yes, I chose to mind "their" business..
@Poster 1: I just ask that your SIL thinks carefully about the best interest of her children.
Poster 1: why can't d man take responsibility of her three kids. For me dat is d only reason I wld advice her to marry him. Love me, love my dog. Or how is it said? How can she spend d rest of her life with him and he won't take care of all her kids. He never ready.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Abeg u guys shld break up already. U r d one who needs 2 be firm.
Poster1: I think your sister in-law should create time to study this man before having a baby with him.. So she don't regret her actions in future
ReplyDeletePoster 1...just negodu! Well wake up from your slumber, you can't eat your cake and have it...choose 1 & quit bugging us
ReplyDeletePoster 2...are you a man or are you menstruating? You're looking for break-up tips as per primary school kid or play mate? You're just a compound fool
Hahahaha! Omg! Poster 2, this has got to hurt when you do read it. Pele. If you've got time,answer the question, am curious...
DeletePoster 1@abg no complicate ur life....no b force say u must gt hubby...no marry am...2@man up n tell her no !!!...stop complicating matters...
ReplyDeleteI don't even know how to advice ppl again. I'll read from other bvns today.
ReplyDelete@2 you do not date some one out of pity, feelings should be mutual. love is not coerced. i once made that mistake and am regretting it now. free her once and for all and stand your ground.
ReplyDeletePoster Two, man up and don't go back despite the cries. You're the one prolonging your sorrows.
ReplyDeletePoster one, that's jumping from the frying pan to fire. Why couldn't he keep up with those two women? Why does he want to train only one of the children? What if he finds a new love interest tomorrow? Please I don't think jumping into marriage and having a child with him is wise. She should not do it.
@Poster 1, its not worth it please with all the conditions. Let her keep working hard and praying, God will bring someone else that is of the same religion.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, better find a way of leaving her, why did you lead her on all these while. This time around break up amd make it permanent.
@poster 1 .This kain One country, one baby mama man..na wa oh..I can understand that the situation is hard for you sha but pray to God to help you with your three children than having a fourth child and still end up being alone..Why doesn't he take care of the three children if he truly loves you,? why take care of one?
ReplyDelete@poster 2..you have wasted 3 yts out of the life of a woman in her thirties because she cried when you left her..and you felt you were doing her a favour..ao after five years you will tell her this story?..I pity you judging from the kind of lady you said she is,put your house in order*acid awaits you*
He wants to train just one of her child? What happens to the other two? He wants to marry her, who will care for the others. Selfish man. He just wants to add salt to her injury. Stay on your own.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 what is ur sis inlaw waiting for? She should fire down biko
ReplyDeletePoster 2 u re mean. Y didn't U break up with her earlier. I think d age is d ish with U. It is well with u
Poster two, you are afraid of commitment ba? But you are not afraid of eating her pussy just continue.
ReplyDelete#1 - Your SIL shouldn't marry the man. A man that keeps moving from one place to another and women keep having kids for him, what happens tomorrow when he moves to another state or country. Your SIL should be wiser than a serpant in this and be focus. She can collect money from him and expand her business, and one more thing, she should focus on her kids and serve God more not with divided attention/time.
ReplyDeleteDOn't go and loose your kids because of re-marriage. Funny condition.
#2 - Are you not man enough to make a decision? Pray for her and wish her well. You wasted her time, gave her hope and now she's not good for you, go and meet that sweet 16 you've been eyeing and leave her alone. God dey.
Poster2,
ReplyDeleteyou must marry her o,whether you like it or not!
Who do you wanna leave her for at this time?
Do not start what you cannot finish.For your information,you are her last bus stop...she will never leave you unless you marry her.
Poster1,test the waters with one foot first before diving in head on.Islam & Christianity is like oil & water...they don't mix.
Poster 2: You don't learn how to jump off a cliff. You just have to jump and jump fast.
ReplyDeleteLeave her once and for all if you can't see yourself in her.
Poster one...that man has a mission that have children in a all the continents of the world. One in each,after Nigeria now, he will face Australia.
ReplyDeleteHe wants to marry a woman and he is attaching all these conditions, why not train all her kids,they automatically become his after marrying their mum,so why does he have to train just one if he is financially capable.
Please she should stay away from such man cos he will just increase her pains.
He has not emotional ties to his children. He could just leave the one in Kuwait and make another one in Nigeria to replace that one right and one is packed in the UK.
Is he even in the life of those kids? These are the things ur sis Inlaw should weigh in on before making her decision.
He has the history of a man thatbwill abandon her and the child if they ever have issues in the future without caring for the child.
She should thread carefully and think deeply. #my2kobo
Poster 1: You shouldn't even be thinking of having a baby or getting married to any man again with three kids on ground.
ReplyDeleteLook for man wey go dey gbensh you, dey take good care of you, no go born another baby for another man o
Pt 1 pls advice ur sil nt to marry dat man bcos wat i see is dat, dat man wan to marry her bcos he need somtin nd nt for love nd knw dis dat she is stil married to her husband. Let her know dat God dat gav her dose children wil definitely provide for her bt if she go ahead, God may even punish her in such a way dat she may nt av baby for d man.
ReplyDeletePt 2 pls sit urself down nd ask urself wat is d problem wit urself.
Poster 1...ur sister thought should be on training her kids only and not man...her hope alone should lie on God and not man...be it Christian or Muslim
ReplyDelete@Anonymous ,so na puff puff u want give me after you say I made day. OK ooh. No problem. At all, at all na him bad pass
ReplyDeleteHow can I reduce my big d*ck, my wife can't bear it
ReplyDelete@Poster 1 Money is wonderful but it's not everything. First religious difference,then other women and he is offering to take care of just one child!
ReplyDelete@Poster 2 am same age with poster.How can you led on a woman above 30 for 3 years?Please it's so wrong!
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Poster 1,tell your sister in law not to be equally yoked with unbelievers and no muslim girl will think of marrying a christian. She should look up to God. Poster 2,you must be a learner. Block her
ReplyDeleteGuy go and pray about it.
ReplyDelete