Hmm ....na wah!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFUSED
Hello Stella, I'd just go straight to the point and please help me post.
So I met this guy last year on my way to work, he offered to give me a ride and I accepted, we exchanged numbers and got talking, but I noticed he was a workaholic, as in not the regular "i like to work , he'll go the extra mile to make sure he drains himself out. So I asked him if he was using work as an excuse for something or he just like to work, he said it was his nature, so I left it like that. We got really close as we live close to each other, but I wasn't comfortable anymore because of his excess work.
One day I got curious and wanted to find out about him, so I went to Facebook which I rarely even go, and I saw a lady's name with his first name and surname, I opened the page only for me to see a family picture of him, his wife, and child, I froze, went through only for me to see wedding pictures, I almost fainted. I asked uncle if he was married, he said NO, but has a child. And I was wondering how possible that is, but he insisted. So in order for me not to have heart attack, I respected myself and stayed away.
Earlier this year, he called from the blues, but then I was in a relationship, which ended anyway, so we got back to talking again, we now got really close but as friends, he would assist wherever he thought he could and never asked for anything in return. But I noticed the feelings have come in, and we have grown so close and fond of each other, even if nothing has happened, and nothing will happen (celibate for as long as it takes) .
My issue now is he wants a relationship, because he loves me and I know that he does, but where do I start from? When I ask about his wife (who's been out of the country since the first day we met) he says they're having issues, especially because of his workaholism, which I have gotten used to and stopped complaining about. But that's all he says, he says he wants just a quarter of my time and wants to take care of me and love me even if I don't love him. Now I like him, but I'm confused on what to do with him.
Please use your red pen and please help me post. Thank you.
NP: no negative comments please. Thanks.
*What do you mean by no Negative comments?You want us to encourage you to go?Deep down you know you are walking into a mine field but you want someone to tell you its okay right?Well,its not Okay and i can bet you that he has no problems with his wife or baby mama or whatever.A man will tell you anything to unlock your cookie Jar.SHINE YOUR EYES.
I hope my comment was not negative?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
BREAKING POINT
Good day Stella
I don’t know how this would sound but let me just give my narration. I am not good at this.
I met my (now) wife sometimes in 2014 and we married half-a-dozen months thereafter. She told me she had ulcer and asthma from day one though.
She got pregnant immediately after the wedding but sadly, we lost the pregnancy two months after following ectopic. We had no choice than to do surgery.
Almost two years after our wedding now, every attempt to TTC has failed and we could not ascribe the ‘delay’ to anything. To make things worse, she is cold-intolerant, has flu-like symptoms and allergic to many things, even to honey and some shrubs.
During rainy season like now, her nose is always running and watery and she can sneeze till tomorrow, catch cold till tomorrow and even rub eyes till tomorrow. She could just wake up and complain of stomach ache, of leg pain, of anything. It’s almost unbearable. I love her but feel like this is just too much.
WOW..Bros are you looking for an excuse to jump ship?Your wife probably needs to see a specialist.i can imagine that all the sneezing and runny nose has killed the romance between you two but please dont abandon her and try to work out ways to help her relax,she is probably under some kind of stress cos i know stress activates allergies in some people.
Please be patient with her,the Bible says that LOVE IS PATIENT.
Chronicles
ReplyDeletePoster1: you are as stupid as your chronicle..
DeleteYou went on Facebook ,got the info u needed,wnt ahead n feel inlove with a married man not divorced ooh n u wnt us to hug u n tell u to go ahead.
He couldn't stay n work things out with his wife n u think it will work out with u!!!!!
Most of this chronicles is from dummy's with no brain
They can't reason to save their life
I think she is a sicklar(can't spell) sorry
DeletePoster 2 what happened to "for better, for worse, in sickness and in health"? You sound like u have another?!
DeleteThat first Chronicle reads like something my husband can do. Throw himself into his work as a distraction for our long distance marriage. In our case, neither of us asked for this long distance marriage. It is one of those you plan, life happen situations. Hmmmmm. See Stella's red pen for your sound advice o poster cos as a wife who is also in that man's wife's shoes, I don't wish half of what I have left unsaid on you.
DeletePoster stop thinking from your anus,the man wants your punani. You know he is married yet you are talking about love,are you that senseless? Hope my comment isnt negative?rubbish
Delete@ Port Viv u came with full force o o u'r giving out comments hot hot dis days
DeletePost 1, is very likely d guy's family is in the abroad *lol*
If u don't want him 2. Waste your time jejely run
Post 2, a lady that has worst situation dat's almost like your wife gave testimony in church, her own she changes bedsheets every 2 days, she can't com close to any spray, even flowers she sneezes like hell
Take your wife to a Specialist like wht Stell said n pray about it
Poster 2: Ask your wife to do a pregnancy test.....
DeletePoster 2 Pele...my husband is suffering it and I get so scared during rainy season.He doesn't use the other inhaler rather the one for stuffy nose.
DeleteHe also chews kolanut wen he's finding it difficult to breathe.Just try to show her love and keep praying for God's intervention for fruitfulness.Its well.
Poster two, this is allergens at work. There could be something in the environment aggravating it. She needs to be on antihistamines. Take her to see a physician. You may have to move to a dust and pollen free environment. Take it easy with her.
DeleteMadam poster one, no negative comments indeed. You know you're a mumu right? All married men claim to have problems with their wives to score some pussy. Continue marinating in your stupidity. Love indeed.
Poster Two you and your wife should we a doctor.
ReplyDeletePls can someone tell me the full meaning of TTC?
DeleteBoss u arnt loyal.
Deletei was thinking intially thisbis a good man thats looking for a solution to his wifes problems but rather you just wanna rant and then leave her cos you cant handle her. You dont deserve the title of a husband.
Poster 2, wt's her genotype?
DeleteTrying to conceive @Ibukunoluwa
DeleteIbukunoluwa TTC means Trying To Conceive...Thank me later
DeleteIbukun, it's trying to conceive.
DeletePoster two doesn't understand the meaning of Love. If something this little can make you sound like this. Sigh!
DeletePoster 1: the advice u got on break or makeup is not enough baa? What will they tell u here that they didn't tell u there? Afterall d advice there didn't u see anything useful? They will still advice u here u will still follow d man so next...
ReplyDeletePoster 2: bros, bros u haff tire already baa? If it is u that has those problems shey she will look for solution in the highest heavens for u baa? But u r here counting her problems instead of solving it Oya leave her and goan marry d one that is not having issues.
Poster1: Mtcheeew
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Yawwwnnnsss.
Poster 1,
ReplyDeleteLeave another woman's husband...
What is it?...it's obvious he is lying to you...
You can eat his money!...infact,gbensh him sef and collect all the goodies but know your boundaries...
Poster 2,
You don buy market...carry your cross jare...
Since you love her...fly her abroad for a good medical check up!...
I don't trust those quack doctors in Naija...
Are you sure she is not a sicker?...
*sickler
Delete👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
DeletePoster 2: Cold intolerant in a country as hot as Nigeria,this screams thyroid issues, which could result in slow metabolism, weakening immune system and infertility. Also, after the first ectopic, she should have done a HSG to not only determine the occlusion, but to unclog it (HSG is both diagnostic and therapeutic). Pls adk your Primary care physician to place a lab order for her to do a full hormone and metabolic profile and check the results for any hormonal imbalance, do HSG,make sure high dose vitamins C,Bcomplex, folic acid, Omega 3 and CoQ10 are her daily supplements(never miss), then talk to your primary care physician about prescribing Clomid for her. It's not as bad as it seems but needs authentic Medical attention. Healing is hers in Jesus Name. Amen
DeleteQuack ho!idiota @fakeass queen
Delete@1, stop deceiving ursef, u know he's still married to his wife, this is a man who lied to u dat he was not married, wat are u confused about, abeg fuck him make ur body calm down,.
ReplyDelete@2, why are u complaining, u knew wat u were getting in to before u married her, bros carry ur cross bcos u were not jazzed into marrying her.
Poster 1, if he is rich go ahead and hv a relationship with him. Maybe he made a mistake and he is unhappy in his marriage. He may end up with you if you are nice to him
ReplyDeleteAt times like this I believe you are not a guy but a girl without morals.
DeleteJames is a girl
DeleteAunty workaholic but u know uncle is very married Sha.stop deceiving ursef
ReplyDeleteAll of the chronicles isn't a problem, take it to God in prayers and all will be well.
ReplyDeletePoster one, how old r u? Lol
ReplyDeleteThey r having issues indeed!
Pls open leg n let him fuck u to his satisfaction but don't cry n say men r dogs o cos u open ur eye n let him in, hopefully u won't be there fucking him till ur potential husband pass u by.
@Poster 1&2, what did you want us to tell you people? To tell poster 1 to start dating a married man? Or to advise poster 2 to end his marriage with his wife?
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, free the man, you can never have peace with him, he's a liar and he will dump you like trash after gbenshing.
@Poster 2, who forced you to marry her? You met her yourself and even court for good 6months, so don't you noticed all these things in her? You've entered it with your eyes wide opened and you will continue cos you signed an agreement for better and worse. Take her to a general hospital for tests, and there will surely be a solution. This is the time to show her you truly love her, stay bless and enjoy your marriage bro.
*Larry was here*
Some people can be stupid sha
ReplyDelete1st poster, wahala fa follow the guy don't mind all these people that will cuss you out oh. When Bros is through with you ehen that is when you will see workaholic exponential. My friend would you borrow yourself some brain and respect? You are just infatuated your flesh is craving and you want to give in dear, you are better than that. Having a man in your life is not the ultimate it's all about having the right man. Kindly put him out of your mind and focus on something else but my mind tells me that you will still live in the illusion of what you have created and you know perception is reality. The choices you make, make you. Bonne rester / voyage anyone you choose.
Delete2nd poster, don't let this opportunity slip away from you. You could actually use this time to bond with your spouse let the love flow,show her care put smiles on her face let laughter heal her.oh dear what do they teach kids these days? At the slightest challenges you start complaining. If life gives you lemons why not make lemonade out of it! Selah
1st post:
ReplyDeleteYou are looking for who will approve your "eyes-shining" abi? Commot for here before I give you negative comment.
2nd post:
I am not a fan of short courtship. No matter how much it has worked for someone else, I don't subscribe to it.
A long courtship doesn't guarantee a long and happy marriage but at least Mr man here would have none he was getting married to a "Catch anything in the air" person.
God would answer your prayers regarding kids, he is faithful. Don't bail on her, you have lasted this long, you will last.
Receive grace to continue.
P1, ya uber foolish
ReplyDeleteP2, get allergy pills fr her jarey. Smh
Poster two yansh down there. If d reverse was d case, she would look after u.
ReplyDeleteMe nko...i sweat whenever I'm tensed about something but I'm also allergic to cold
DeleteI love sleeping on bare floor especially tiles but I wake up after two hours gritting my teeth
Just look for a drug that can simmer down her cold and let her use...that's not enough reason to leave.what ever happened to for better for worse? Ogara Gan o bruh😩
TTC= trying to conceive. Uwc
DeleteIbukunola I'm going to break my new year's resolution and insult you. Where are you from? A village? Why do you have to sleep on bare tiles? Don't you have air conditioning? J Edgar Hoover drug that can simmer down a cold keh! I've heard/read it all.
DeleteBy the way, welcome to Stella's blog. Kisses
Poster 1.... U are becoming desperate abi. You want to bear MRS at all cost. Leave that man alone or you want his wife to knack tortoise on your head abi. Seems una no dey hear word at all.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... Stella is now your crying shoulder abi? Mr. Man you noticed all this so why complaining. Na wa for you. I pity any woman wey go befriend you.
P1, no negative comment, are you really talking to bvs? I leave them with you, mtcheeewww. P2, Please be patient and see a doctor, right now she needs all the care in the world. Please stand in the gap for her for the TTC prayer point on this blog, the Lord has been faithful and doing wonders. As she is her system can't take fasting things, do the fast for her, pray and believe God for total healing of your wife. Mbok don't leave her, God bless your home.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 Why no negative comment? If you don't want negative comments then don't send in chronicles. Babe, you better shine your eyes o, that guy loves his wife and will never leave her for any reason. He just want to cabash and dump your sorry ass. Be wise.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I guess the sweetness of her Toto covered ur eyes then. What is really going on? The thing no sweet you again? Abi u don see another young lady outside?
ReplyDeleteU should know that marriage is for better for worse.
Dude says he is not jealous and always talks against those that do so but whenever a male friend no string attached of which he knows calls or chats me up, he will start giving attitude or not even contacting me for days till he gets tired and when I ask he will give me silly excuse, I have known him for more than five years so I know what am talking about. He says am too beautiful and doesn't trust anyman around me, meanwhile he is my ist and I haven't cheated on him. We are about to get married, he is trying to stop all my male friends from coming close to me even threatnening to give me a new sim after wedding. He has never been abusive both verbally or physically so am confused, I dnt know if I should go on cos am too fragile and dnt need any man hurting me before its too late.
ReplyDeleteGirls fuck their male friends all the time. Any girl that say he's just a friend is a liar.
DeleteThe guy is controlling...I wonder what he will do to you when you marry him..u should have spoken against such behaviour the first tym he started it...go and read up on controlling behaviours and know how to spot it....get out before its too late and learn how to speak against such behaviours and if a man cant respect ur feelings does he really love u
DeleteWeigh your options well girl. He is possessive. You either let him know you gat to live your life or get frustrated in marriage. That said, what's the nature of your friendship with those guy friends of yours? How close close are you? What do you discuss? How do they relate with you and him too? They should know their boundaries. Do not allow him dictate how to live your life and do the right thing too!
DeletePoster2,she's allergic to things around,please don't dump her over things she can't control If she was your sister,what will you do?I have been married for almost three years &I have had three major surgeries,I'm still in Gods waiting room.Your wife is not happy with all the sneezing & allergies.Please bear with her.God will strengthen you &I give you plenty babies soon.
ReplyDeletePoster one
ReplyDeleteYou better open your eyes! A married man will tell you all sorts about his wife/marriage to get into your pants. He might love you but trust me..all he told you 'na story'.
Poster 2
It is well, endure. Help her out of this!
Poster two please Gerrara hia rite now like Gerrara hia you know what I'm saying? Talk about horrible intolerable behavior, painful secrets, infidelity or even madness or anything that you've truly borne with your humanly strength and maybe you might not Gerrara hia after all but pls shush it.
ReplyDeletePoster one, you found out he was married and stayed away meaning he lied , now you don't wanna stay away no more? You now want to overlook the lie and love him knowing fully well there's another woman in the picture? All of a sudden you've become used to the workaholic? Lmao. I think you're broke and he has money. i think you weren't going to work that day. I don't think he came back, I think you went back cos you calculated everything and felt it wouldn't hurt since she's not around. If you were really as serious minded and employed as you portray yourself you wouldn't be here on chronicles in the first place
You said it all
DeletePoster 1: Recieve Sense.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Continuous Midnight Prayer Is The Key.
@ poster 1,u're not a wise woman at all,wit all d signs u still want to go ahead with d relationship ? well we'll be here looking 4ward to another chronicles in which u'll soon send by God grace since u said No negative comments fool.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, Love is PATIENT as Stella said earlier u're in dis together and wat happen to ur for better for worse man, tell it to God and take her to a specialist and all will be well by his grace.
Poster 1.Please stay away from the married man. Stop looking for an excuse to date him. you will only end up hurting yourself..ask yourself.. What exactly do you want from him? Love, money or what? Please face front.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: when will we ladies learn? u said u know he loves u? U r deceiving urself and making excuses for his infidelity. Pls leave him, u r trying to play the role of the 'understanding other woman' while u picture his wife as an impatient monster. I can bet with my last dime that he is madly in love with his wife and probably sent her abroad becos he knows she deserves a cool life.
ReplyDeleteI have a workaholic frnd who says that he cannot toil everyday and still have his wife suffer in Nigeria. He is working like a jackie for his family's comfort.
Dont be deceived, he is jst trying his luck with u,bcos he's bored so if u fall fine, if u dont fine.. many other desperate lonely fishes in d ocean. You aren't that special.
Poster 2: I never knew time could be counted in bulk.. 'half a dozen months' Tell ur wife I said sorry. The lord is una strength
Some ladies only admire men who are "taken", that is who are already in a relationship or marriage. It's a psychological thing, they prefer to break homes, they only want what others have and find it hard to appreciate what they have.
DeletePoster one- But the man is married, the truth is I don't see a future for you guys.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- imagine if you were the sick one, so be patient with her. Something must be triggering the symptoms of cold. Please let her do a thorough check up. She might even be pregnant again. Congrats in advance
Stella kpom kwem on both your answers.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1. God has opened your eyes and showed you that he's married with a child but for some reason you're feeling wiser than God abi? That man is nothing but trash and you know own it but you want to wait until you're covered in trash to see the truth in front of you. He is MARRIED. That his wife is abroad or whatever story he's telling you is inconsequential. If a man isn't happy and doesn't want to be married anymore, he won't be. It takes nothing from him to file for divorce and walk from his marriage but he hasn't done that and that should tell you something. Stop all these feelings and use your logic to think this through. If your sister was in the same situation you would tell her to run. So love yourself enough to run from this mess. Your own man is waiting for you leave this destiny blocker abeg.
Narrative 2. Till death do you part. Face your wife and give her what she needs if the opposite were the case you'd expect the same from her so...
Ur wife needs God's healing hands.may she get it in Jesus name.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Abeg gbensh him if you want to and stop disturbing us. You want us to tell you to go on abi? Better give yourself brain and leave a married man alone. Mtchew!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Fear God. If the table is turned she will bend over backwards to take care of you. It's for better for worse.Biko carry your cross.
Poster 2, I can relate with you on your wife's issue cos I used to be asthmatic. We used to be called 'okuko udummiri' meaning always sick during the rainy season. Asthma if had as a kid reduces as you get older cos your lungs get stronger to withstand. I am one of the lucky ones. Tell your wife to stay off cold things, keep her surroundings clean and free. No congested room of any sort. Make sure your home is airy and well ventilated. Change your beddings at least every week. Even clothes, thick curtains and especially rugs can trigger her sinuses which is peculiar wih asthma patients. Even cutting onions and oranges sef can trigger it. Its not easy cos she has to be dependent on piriton and co to reduce the running nose. She can even boil hot water, put robb inside the water and try and inhale. It can clear her nostrils and even help her lungs decongest. These are home-made therapies. And let her not be exposing her chest regions alot this season. Help her and dont jump ship like Stella said. It can be irritating but you can bear with her. Na the cross wey you carry be that but you can make it a light one. Lol.
ReplyDeletePoster one God punish u there.Home breaker . continue being a side chicken till d wife comes back Dude is horny so serve him well.Okpo
ReplyDeletePoster 1 looking for validation & ginger to date a married man. Qwantinue "in aboki's voice".
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I have a cousin with same ish as ur wifey. Year in year out, she's alws having running nose and sneezing. Her name is synonymous with tissue (for cleaning of course). It's some sort of alergies. Try see a specialist tho.
Sorry Bur poster2 u made me lol, please she needs a doctor nd needs to avoid evrytin that she's allergic to..
ReplyDeletePoster One, no negative comments eekwa? Okay go ahead and enter a relationship with him. Dont worry, the wife will love you for taking care of her husband in her absence.
ReplyDelete*Such arrogance even as you dey seek advice. Nonsense.
Poster2, I can relate to that honey aspect. I'm allergic to honey as well. Mine is so bad that if I take honey I end up in the hospital. I don't know what to tell you but just try and love her. Just keep loving her except you want to leave her because of childlessness.
ReplyDeletePoster1, I don't have anything to tell you. Nwa ukpala na ere ere si na ona aha nmanu. ....
Thank u Stella. All these fair weather lovers. Find a good doctor and stop complaining. When last did u wake up and met hot pepper soup for this "sick" wife
ReplyDeletePoster 1,don't get involve with that guy except its for financial help or to pass time while waiting for your right rib,I bet you the same issue will arise like with his first wife,am talking from experience.am currently married to a divorcee,thought d first wife was truly bad as he claimed but my dear, I have seen d same thing that made the wife to hate him,and am beginnig to hate his atitude too,only Gods grace that is pushing me through truth is that I can't seem to hold anything tangible against him but my hubby is a silent killer,gentle and Angelic outside but a bully and a know it all @ home,truth is that I can't even report him to anybody cus it will seem as if am just disobedient,he compares me to his mother and sister @ any small provocation
ReplyDeletePoster One! You are stupid! Foolish girl! He told you bla bla bla and you believed ba? So you can get permission to act out your stupidity? Bia! He is married!!you better respect yourself and leave him alone. No negative comments my ass!!! Ta gbafuo here!!! Na your kind go come here crucify people. Please, receive sense
ReplyDeleteProverbs 20 vs 6 says all men saty they are good but a faithful man who can find?....poster one never trust the decisions u make,run away from that married man,stop taking his gifts and money and avoid sex...the end result is he will use u and go back to his wife.rather seek God first let him take charge of every decision u make and he will give u you what you need..
ReplyDelete@POSTER 1- u are almst a fool. d guy is married, he is never gonna leave his wife for u, he will soon go and join her dere abd by the way i'm sure he is getting paid for his extra time or fins have nt been goin well where he works and doesnt want to get sacked. pls do not date him, he is nt ur man, relax and ur man will find u soon girl.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, pls be strong for her, she needs u more dan anifin and i'm sure she is bothered and scared too...God will visit u guyz do and please go and see a specialist
Poster2 she told you from the onset so pls live with it. All she needs is your love
ReplyDeleteWicked man common allergy u want to usain bolt !! What if she's bedridden!! Wicked men everywhere.
ReplyDelete@ poster 1, u're not a wise woman @ all with all these signs u still want to go ahead into a later regret relationship well we'll be waiting 4 ur chronicles which will come in soonest by God's grace since u said No negative comments. Fool
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, Love is PATIENT as Stella said earlier and wat happen to ur for better for worse, tell it to God and take her to a specialist and everything will be fine by his grace.
Poster2 you knew all this before u got married to her so stop complaning.....she needs you more than ever.take your issues to God.
ReplyDeletePoster one you are a foolish girl, you see wedding pictures and a child's picture, you still dey send chronicles, claimiing celibate when you have slept with the guy. Na wa for Naija babes, one day i will just see chronicles about my husband not marrying me again because am yoruba and he is Igbo. Stupid girls writing things to favour them. If you have become so close to him why didnt he tell you what happened to his wife and child.What is your business if he is a workaholic.
ReplyDeletePoster two, marriage is for better for worse oga, take care of your wife.
eerm poster two I can so relate to your issue, have a friend who also have what i called " permanent flu" its crazy he is married andbhis wife understands, you should do same. I just feel for you wife. Your marriage is too young nna have more patience with her. Remember is for better for worse ehn. But yousef why jump into marriage so fast na wen you aren't ready? See wetin common allergies dey do you.
ReplyDeletePoster two shine your eyes bfor that guy go shine your Congo vamooose.
My husband is allergic to cold and dust. Guy can sneeze and have cold like forever but I care less cos I love him. I bought him this menthol they sell (by women who sell herbs) for sometime and it worked like magic. The cold and sneezing reduce seriously. Why the long talk?? She's your wife and your wife is you. Take care her cos she will do same for you. I sense you are tired. If you are please let her go and DON'T DARE frustrate her. Abeg return her to her Papa and Mama.
DeletePoster 2, please occupy till the wife returns or delivers the sweet baby. It obvious mam needs some gbenshing so occupy and make your smelly toto available to be torn apart. He surely will tear down the place cos you deserve that. Ashewo oshi! Why ask us for advice sef? What an insult!
Don't forget to save for STI treatment too cos you will need it.
Poster Two! Behave yourself!!! If the roles were reversed would you advice her to leave? Didn't you see all these before you married her? Stella don talk am finish, be patient. Let her see a specialist to help control the allergies. I'm sure there are drugs for this. Mgbo, what do I know...na for better or worse o! This is worse...hang in there
ReplyDeletePoster Two! Behave yourself!!! If the roles were reversed would you advice her to leave? Didn't you see all these before you married her? Stella don talk am finish, be patient. Let her see a specialist to help control the allergies. I'm sure there are drugs for this. Mgbo, what do I know...na for better or worse o! This is worse...hang in there
ReplyDeletePoster 1,your story is not going to end well. That is all I have to say.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, your wife probably has severe allergies. Please take her to a good hospital that can diagnose her properly and place her on right allergy meds and maybe some steroids. She also needs to avoid anythn that seems to bring it on.
Pls its not d end of d world, allergies can be managed. And pls don't use this as grounds to dump her. Do you know if in d future u urself wont have any health challenges.
Poster1, pls lv the guy alone, he's only going to gbensh u and blv me his still very much with d wife. Pls look else where for someone to fall in love with it.don't ever think he will love you more than his wife or her for you. You'll find ur own. My 2cent.
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha hahaha. ..
ReplyDelete@poster 1...are you saying you believe his stories...I bet you he has no problems with his wife..you have successfully found out he is married. So its not a matter of him deceiving you anymore about his being married....If you go in,you go in with your eyes wide open and legs flung apart...
Don't bore us with subsequent chronicles. ...
@no negative comments..you are lucky I'm not in the venom spitting mode today.
@poster 2...you don't have a problem
Some of us I inclusive are on the allergy spectrum your wife already has asthma which ain't a death sentence if she knows how to avoid precipitants.
It's raining season ,make sure she is warm always, get her a flask that always has hot water she can always make a hot cup of tea while on the go (I have mine as well).
I can sneeze for Africa as a kid(I had chronic sinusitis coupled with allergies) to the extent I don't even sweep just because of dust..but being in the north with a very hot climate has helped me with that
So get her a cardigan, socks ,gloves and head warmer.then take her to the hospital something as common as malaria van present with general body pains and catarrh.
Take care she would be fine
Poster 2: all the symptoms you described above sounds like mine although i don't have asthma or stomach ulcer. Also i ttc'ed for 4 years. Why??? I have an under active thyroid. Ask your wife to get her thyroid function checked. I was placed on Euthirox(sp) before i could concieve and my allergies disappeared. NO excuses, Marriage is in sickness and in health.
ReplyDeleteTrue hypothyroidism can make one cold intolerant. .but please next time don't quote drugs you were given..Some of these highly impressionable readers would rather buy these drugs OTC rather than see an endocrinologist for proper diagnosis..
Delete@ poster one..I suggest you cut your romantic connection with this man and let the feelings die down. I have been in the exact situations as you for two years and finally ended it recently....He won't leave his wife for you, this relationship will eat you up alive from inside out leaving you a broken shell with no faith in love, and no sense of self worth..There are so many nice single men out there that can give you a love like that even more... 😅😅😅
ReplyDeleteHahahahhahaha..i thought you said his wife does not own him and that you can do whatever you like? Y u dey run? Shebi you said he loves you? You for wait make the wife pour you correct acid na. Mumu!! Dating a married man and claiming right ontop.
DeleteRelax eat a snickers. ..
DeleteBut then I was in a relationship, which ended anyway. Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteWhat do you want me to tell you now? You saw a healthy, fit woman like me and you decided to marry a sicky sicky. Well, you have made a decision and you will have to deal with it for the rest of your life. SMH
ReplyDeleteYou dey craze!! That sicky sicky makes him happy so forget the turbulence they are facing, it is just a matter of time. As for you, you will remain a frustrated gwegs.
DeletePoster1: you are dating a deceiver, a compulsive liar at it. I wasted my time believing that I had a future with a married man with children. The guy lied for Africa that he was on a brink of a divorce, but it was all part of his game to deceive me into falling in love with me. He used me for sexual and financial favours. I am very bitter to this day cos I can never regain the wasted time, where someone more valuable could have made me his wife. I leave it to God to handle this gigolo, not worthy of a man. It will reap what he sow one way or another in his lifetime, somewhere in the field that he least expect. It's not by force to love someone, but deception is similar to a crime. It shall not be well with him, unless he apologize.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Men are the weakest link, coward. You no longer want your wife and are choosing the easiest way out by blaming it on her health. God shall punish you, irresponsible wicked soul!
So you are now anty gwegs cos of a married man. That's why I don't pity single over ripe wome, you girls waste your young age with married men and later run from pillar to post looking for husband's, when I wanna marry, my potential wife would be under 28yrs.
DeleteIf God is to punish him, he will also punish you too. He didn't waste your time, you did. Your anger is that he didn't leave his family for you what a shame! You have no right to be angry or course him.
DeleteSo you were waiting to destroy another woman's home and move in. God will continue to punish you home wreckers. Yoh have not seen anything yet. You will die a bitter gwegz.
DeletePoster 2, your marriage vows read, 'In sickness and in health'.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you better leave that married man alone and move on with your life. also stop lying about being celibate. You have gbenshed him before abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster one.. Negodu, Jes Negodu!. Got nothing for u. @ Oga Poster, imagine if d table were to be turned n you r d one with D plenty problem like u said; would ur wife leave u?. Marriage i know is for all season including good n bad. so pls be ur wife's bestfrnd. D fact dt shes yet to take in again s another struggle for her. If only u knew ds. Smh.
ReplyDeleteSince she told u she has ulcer n asthma so why are you complaining?not like I am saying u shouldn't complain if you want to. I noticed some comments u made like my *now wife* u sound like u already ave someone else u want to marry as soon as u dump her of course. BT I want to overlook that comment as I know most times people read a different tone from our messages to what we actually mean and no 2 it could also be u were married before hence the reason u use that phase "my now wife* moving on, you said she told u she is asthmatic so you should expect this symtoms. Support ur wife pls she would bear u ur own children my fellow Igbo brother. Be strong dear. *Sneeze*
ReplyDeleteHis "now wife", his "before girlfriend",I guess. Dewdrop don't mind all these people forming one thing jare.
DeletePoster 1.
ReplyDeleteIt's in sickness and in health. See a doctor cos it's nt easy wid her as much as its tiring for you. Love her regardless. U are the spiritual authority in ur home(a lot of men seems to forget that n leave d praying fr d wives to do). So take authority over your home, lay hands on her, pray fr her, n support her. A simple word of faith u release into her life can do all the work. The tym u use in complainyn go to God in prayer. It's nt only women dat shld start a war room, men too.
Stella why are you begging poster two? If he wants to leave let him leave. Who knows if he is the cause of the woman's problem self. Some men are just wicked. What do you mean by you are tired?? Oh! you've seen one pretty lady that you want ba? Go ahead and watch the kind of thunder that will fire you.
ReplyDeleteIf it were you now, the woman will stand by you and ensure you are getting all the love + attention you need to get well. Women will always remain the best and that is why God blessed women wella.
Poster one, You are a monkey. Yes you are! why send in your rubbish story when you don't want to be bashed. Please shift jor! You are too cheap and full of low self esteem if the only men you can attract are the married ones. Shame on you!!
Hiya Poster 2, she has a condition called chronic or acute sinusitis. I have or have had it too. I suggest you let her see an ENT Doctor. But first she has to make her nose sacred, stay away from things that can ignite the cold, never sleep without clothes, always clean ur fan in the house and always clean the AC vents because those are the places that dust could possibly get into her nose. The she should take alot of vitamins that can improve her immune system and there is also this nasal spray that she can use once in a day. Then whenever she has her episodes i suggest she take clarityn and ensure she rest well if not it will lead to malaria. U need to be very supportive, my wife is very understanding and supportive when ever i have my episodes too and she has gotten used to my do's and dont's now that she now helps me ensure they are all in place.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: isn't it obvious DAT u don't need such man,wat makes u think DAT after one kid from you he won't dump u still n give excuses as she gave u concerning his wife? He's having issues wit wifey DAT dey can't reconcile? You better don't have anything serious with him of not u will regret later cos u saw every on Facebook... Nwata huru oku were tinye aka ya choro ka ya bu oku ruo ya...*Ask for interpretation if u r not Igbo* Words r enof for d wise... Be wise....you can still date him but don't put ur mind in anything serious since he can provide for ur needs but no sentiments mbok for ur own gud.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Kindly take ur wyf to a good hospital for treatment if u really love her,u could go to Save a life Hospital at least dey v specialists DAT r foreigners,all it will take is money. Please don't abandon her for any other woman cos you might meet desperadoes DAT will frustrate ur life n leave u lifeless... Ogwukwa ka oram Na onu....
Loving u all....😍😍😍😘😘😘
Poster 2. I had the acute sinusitis too. I keep sneezing everyday continuously and I can run through 6 hankies in a day. I also had stomach ulcer. It took patience, prayers and a healthy living. Your wife is married to u. She should even be enjoying because she has someone to keep her cold at night. Let her avoid cold environs and always wear stocking especially at night. Avid corn and extremely dusty places. Don't put rug in your house. Tell your wife to avoid eating pepper and go for treatment. I treated the ulcer with drugs and prayers. The sinusitis tooo. Though I am not asthmatic. Pray for her. Do something nice for her. Something she doesn't expect, don't just tell her you love her. Please don't ever complain about her situation to another woman especially a single woman. If you have a girlfriend, breakup now. For TTC, don't worry about it. Babies will flood your house.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the piece of advice for poster 2. Oga, take this serious.
DeletePoster 1: one of my friends has dated a married man for over 7years whose wife is abroad and he is unhappy. 7years o and he has still not left her. Now she knows no hope but she is over 34 turning to "iye" at home and no man for marriage in sight. Waste your time u hear and keep deceiving yourself. @poster 2: just 2years n u can't bear? U r so selfish.
ReplyDeleteI love a married man too, no big deal dear. Just do whatever makes u happy @ poster 1
ReplyDeleteYou love a married man too clap for yourself. Someone else will also love your future husband.
DeletePoster 1, if his wife is based in America then you are talking about my husband. We are not having problems o!!!! He works a lot and he has many, MANY other women!! You are not the only one I have dealt with. All you hoes keep thinking I am the problem child, I just dey laugh. Please feel free to come and collect sef, I am tired of dealing with side chicks. Biko come and take over. P.S. He will never spend money on you, so don't plan on being a housewife. You will suffer. Plus my name and my kids names are on all his documents, rest assured I will leave you with nothing to chop when I go.
ReplyDeletePlease also come and take his crazy mama who wants to marry her son. All you stupid girls don't know what we deal with in our marital homes. Since you think you can make him happy, come and take. Just make sure you are ready to serve him and his family like a slave. Plus give him money and have zero say over the well being of your children, his mother will raise your kids for you. If you can agree to all of this, you will be very happy together.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 you beter flee before you have to send in a proper Chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster 2..what happened to for better for worse..in sickness and in health.....my friend...carry your cross jo
Poster 1 :- so you are havin feelings for him and u also said u don't want any negative comment shoor mmmm heres my contribution hes gonna use you and then go back to his wife, pls ladies lets learn why would u think he will leave his wife "mother of his kid for u" na wa ooo use ur head and not ur heart and cut all ties with him
ReplyDeletePoster 2:- dear u knew what u were entering into and u did that cuz u love her so let that love continue to lead u guys and u will be surprise that all this trying period will pass away
i think your wife suffers from terrible hay fever just like me. it makes life really miserable for you and the people around you but if you people can afford proper medicals and probably visit a herbal doctor, you may be just fine...back to the main issue,i'm equally scared of getting married, the only person that has tolerated my health issue and even gives me money to take care of myself, i just found out that he is AS just like me after dating for about 4years, well, what is life if shit doesnt happen?
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ReplyDeleteWith all the chronicles related to yours, another man's husband is the guy you love. You are a very wicked and greedy person. Dont know what to call you, your type will be thinking of getting pregnant for him .
Miss know him well and use to him. How well do you think you know a man?
Better go and look for your own and stop deceiving yourself home wrecker.
Poster 2:
You dont love your wife, you married her just for people to say you are married, didnt you see all the sign before marriage? Do you think she is happy with what she is going through? Less than 2years you are thinking of running away, what have you seen, oh ye men of little faith.
@ poster 1 how desperate are u...must u share ur story to all d blogs b4 u receive sense?
ReplyDeletePoster two. Please don't abandon your wife for those flimsy excuses up there. If her nose is running make her a garlic soup, it's raining season now,shes going to need a lot of vitamin to combat cold.
ReplyDeleteShe's your wife please take good care of her, God will bless you both with your heart desires.
Don't pack your bag yet.
@poster 2- go and buy seretide inhaler and avamys inhaler from a reputable pharmacy close to you. Thank me later
ReplyDelete@poster 1 side chick/baby mama/sugar daddy alert. #cntsleepsef#
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