Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
RELATIONSHIP STATUS?..AM I GOD?WHY ARE YOU ASKING?

Hi Stella, I don't really have anyone to talk to about this and I would really love to get the opinion of your blog visitors concerning this issue. I am in my early 20s and I've been in a relationship for 3 years. I met my bf when I came to Nigeria on holiday and we connected and started dating immediately. I visit him in Nigeria at least twice a year, I try to be good to him and I would do anything for him in a heartbeat. The issue is that my bf cheats on me and he is unapologetic about it.

I even caught him cheating and instead of apologising he was expecting me to cook for him and found a way of moving the issue from that of cheating to me being a bad person. He is also so laid back. He wants to be rich but he waits for me to do job search for him. Sometimes I feel he is just taking advantage because I showed him I love him more than he loves me (big mistake).

 I don't want to get married now but I want a relationship that will eventually lead to marriage but whenever I ask him if we have any future together he replies "am I God? I don't want to promise you anything and God says no and you end up blaming me". I showed him too much love and attention. I am always ready to do things for him even at my own detriment but he wouldn't make the same sacrifice for me. He still hides me from his family and when I complain he says when the time is right. 

He is nice and caring but he is a cheat, he is proud and a good manipulator. I do all the giving without any complain while he only gives me (sometimes) when I ask and after he has complained about how broke he is. He would rather give or 'borrow' his friends money than give me. The highest he has ever given me is 10k and that was three years ago. The issue is that recently he started calling me all the time and acting all loved up. I think it is probably because I don't call him anymore like my life depends on it and I don't bend over backwards anymore. I still love him, not as much as I used to. But I'm confused. 

Do I just stay and settle for this or do I take the bold step of walking away and hoping for something better that I am not even sure of. Thank you and please I will like to go anonymous. 

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

THE COST OF SETTLING DOWN

Good day Stella,

I hope this meets you well.First and foremost i want to appreciate you for the good work you are doing with your blog,it is only God who can reward both seen and unseen good deeds that will reward you.If this mail of mine can grace your 'chronicle narrative' platform i would appreciate that. 

I am a lady of 28years old,who has been in a relationship for two years now and my boyfriend is thinking of moving it to the next level.That has always been his heart desire as well as mine but no one has pressurized any into moving it to the next level.

The major reason for this chronicle is because in the spirit of trust,my boyfriend disclosed to me his total bank account which he has kept in his fixed deposit account which he has promised himself he wouldnt touch till when need be and every thing amounts to 1.5million.Other expenses on me and his daily livelihood he gets from his running around here and there (he is more of a business oriented person than a white collar job person).

He intends coming to meet my people this year which is something he always expresses his joy about as he cant wait to have me as his wife.But sometimes i am skeptical as to his current financial stand which i have expressed to him and he usually tells me to look at things from the positive side.We are both from the south east.

My boyfriend is extremely generous even with his current financial stand (i am not much of a demanding lady myself),he has always involved me in all his major decisions hence his revealing to me his account,he has never given me a reason to doubt his love and care in the 4 years i have known him and 2 years we have dated.We have both been sexually involved in our past relationships but we mutually agreed to be celibate till we get married which he agreed to and has not given me a reason to doubt his word.

I am the only significant lady in his life asides his mother and sisters.

His qualities and potentials is what still keeps drawing me to him.I am currently still in the labour (favour) market hence my skepticism as i am not contributing much financially.

So i really want to know if i am making such a big deal out of nothing,and i also want to know how it was for couples who started small and are doing ok now even though i know majority of the women on this blog are married to very very 'rich' husbands.

From the male perspective how much should an average man have in his account before thinking of settling down?.

Thank you.