This is a tough one..I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY!!!
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DANGLING CARROT - 5OOK OR A NEW LIFE IN AMERICA
Stella,I appreciate your honesty and your support on your blog,my fellow SDK,am a single mum of 3 boys .My ex husband just decided that He is done with the marriage and since then,he moved out so I did all the bill alone but last week he appeared and asked if i would like to travel with 2 of the kids to the US and start a new life or he if he should give me #500 ,000.
Am so confused because in the US, I don't know anyone and Nigeria is not easy,by the time we feed and pay bill ,the business may crumble. Just need people's opinion.
*What about your other son?Hian,abi he wan use the boy do something?
what kind of visa?where will you stay?Life abroad is only sweet,if you have everything in place..Nigeria is the best place to suffer oh...at least you will see family and friends that might borrow you....
500k is nothing,what will you do with it with three boys?does it include rent?school fees?feeding?
Your husband is up to no good..Please stay where you are and hold the 500k first.#MY3CENTS.
Brb
ReplyDeleteWhy is he offering to tke just two of ur kids? Is he d father of just that two? Wetin mke ur hubby park comot marriage in d 1st place? Cos d genesis of d whole wahala will mke bvs understand d angle ur ex is coming from. Well madam with 500k u can stand a biz. Knw d right biz, it's target market n ure good. A lot of bizes 2day did not see 500k capital.
DeleteTake d money n venture into any kind of biz that will enable u satisfy human daily need. food 4 example is something no matter how d economy is people can't do without. If ure wise n prudent dat America u go reach there some day.
Bad advice Stella!!! Ask first are you moving to the US as permanent residents? If yes, take the US option for the future of your children. When you get ur green card you can file for the remaining child. I suspect the other son is older than the cut off that's why he said only the other 2 children
DeleteIf he wants u and the two boys to move as an illegal immigrant using a tourist/visiting visa... The answer is NO!!!! Collect the 500k and face forward in Nigeria.
Also if he is the trying to file for you and your two sons... Let him file from Nigeria while you wait and everything gets processed in Nigeria, that way you are moving legally and you will be able to get a job to support you and your 2 sons after relocating... Anyway, that's my 2cents, the legal way...
Abroad with kids when you don't have anything to do or anywhere to stay there.
DeleteMadam, bikonu stay put in naija.
Lmao @"your husband is up to no good" heheeeeeeheeeee end time 500k
DeleteMadam, u need to tell us the full story. How is he moving you and your children to the US. Is he a US Citizen? Where does he live?
DeleteWe will be able to give you an appropriate answer then
Story is incomplete.
DeleteYour husband get bad plan...
DeleteHe has just told u part one which is how to spend d money he is about to make. Part two is d source of the money which is selling ur other child or using him for money rituals and those 2 offers will be ur own share from d proceed.
DeleteWhy should he put u in such a fix,if he really wants to help he should do that without making it hard,i think u should stay oooooo
DeleteIs it by US? Will she have a work permit or complete papers? Why cannt he give them the air fare for 3persons. It will be way more that 500k. Is there a house in the us? Or will they take it from there when they get to the airport? What part of us? Don't go to a place you don't know and probably have to sell crack or be a mule or prostitue and get sent to jail. Then your boys will be shared into foster homes and shit. Besides why only 2 sons, why not all? If he has a house at least in the US, one may consider but once a fraud, always a fraud
DeleteI just hope you won't be made to peddle drugs to the US. Also are you prepared to give up one son? For what Nne? Your husband's way no pure. When in doubt don't.
DeleteGood advice anon 16:07.
DeleteHmmmm.....tough one.
ReplyDeletePple in nigeria think life abroad is one heaven on earth. Sigh. If u dnt have money or job u can't manage abroad. Atleast in nigeria, u will survive. U can't survive in another man's land with no help.
DeleteMadam poster, the visa is it for u to relocate to the US, or for u to visit the US?. Has he provided accommodation for u guys? Can u work with ur visa or u will end up living there illegally? Besides u have more bills to pay abroad jst so u knw.
500,000 isn't equivalent to going abroad. Why 500k? Wat will u do with that? Ur story isn't complete. Who pays the children's fees?
Baby oku, I agree the whole smelly business stinks.
DeleteHMmMmmmmmmmmm!
ReplyDeleteRelocate!
ReplyDeleteTake the money and start a business.. Don't sit around hoping it will fail.. Theres no harm in trying..
ReplyDeleteIncomplete story...what did he say abt the 3rd child?
ReplyDeleteMadam, go to US to to what? Are u supposed to leave one child behind? For who? Hian!! This abroad ain't sweet when you don't have a proper plan oh! Is he going to send you to a good Uni so you can bag a good degree and expand your employment chances? Abi him wan dump you there?
ReplyDeleteI think you should take the 500k and stay put with your kids. 500k won't do much but you're not single girls that ventures into a new country without guarantee. There are kids involved. Except of course, you wan go marry another man for US. But what about the child you will leave behind? That one should not be compromised no matter what. Pls oh!!
U concur with u chikito
DeleteAbi na prostitution you go go do there? Smelly business.
DeleteMadam, go to US to to what? Are u supposed to leave one child behind? For who? Hian!! This abroad ain't sweet when you don't have a proper plan oh! Is he going to send you to a good Uni so you can bag a good degree and expand your employment chances? Abi him wan dump you there?
ReplyDeleteI think you should take the 500k and stay put with your kids. 500k won't do much but you're not single girls that ventures into a new country without guarantee. There are kids involved. Except of course, you wan go marry another man for US. But what about the child you will leave behind? That one should not be compromised no matter what. Pls oh!!
Like!
DeleteCould your ex hubby be mentally ill ?
ReplyDeleteLol Ahhh u got me! I had a good laugh.
DeleteHe could be oooo... Na legit qweshion b that
Hahaha! Wallahi. That's the only explanation for the bizarre question. What about the third kid?
DeleteKpohokpohokpohokpohokpoho Kwakwakwakwa abeg no kee me with laughter
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DeleteHahahahahahhaha..I thought as much.
DeleteDon't leave any of your child behind. If he's gonna give you accommodation, business and more then $30k for a start then you can go to the USA, if not ask more than 500k to stay back or still collect the money like that and stay back, the suffer here is better o, at all at all person go beg....
ReplyDeletePlease collect the 500k and look for good business to do with it here in Nigeria. Like Stella said life isn't easy over there, first of all where will you put up there and how can you be catering for ur kids as a single mom there?the Bills one pays there is something else and how abt the other of your kid? Just confuse like you are jare, just sleep my dear over it so you can come to a reasonable conclusion. God is your strenthg
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...this is serious! There are lots of questions you need to ask him.
ReplyDeleteWhat's in the US for you? What kinda visa? Job? Accommodation? blah blah..don't jump at this o. Like Stella said, it's better to suffer in Naija. How about your third son? Who's he gon be with?your ex-husband? Trust me, you're gon need to write a lot more than the few lines up there to get us to understand what's really going on cos all you might get from the comment section will be questions you need answers to! God help you!
I don't know why Nigerians are desperate to travel abroad...
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said,life in abroad is not easy most especially in the US!...
Boredom will kill you first before you even start of doing anything...Nigeria is sweet mehn but the 500 k is too fucking small to start up a business..
I will advise you to stay here,get a good,rich boyfriend that will be helping you out and start selling tomatoes,pepper and onions cos that's the only business you can do with such an amount...
Linda you are going straight to hell.
DeleteI don't know how life is abroad but from the stories I've heard mehn, it's not easy.
What really caused the divorce?
Why did he come back all of a sudden?
Why 500k?
What about your 3rd son? What happens to him?
Your story isn't complete but if you have been taking care of the kids on your own then you can do well with the 500k. If you live in a small town, try selling make up items, bead making (you can also be selling the materials used in making it. It's quite profitable if you buy from trade fair market in Lagos) you don't need too much money for that. Go to primary or secondary schools offer to teach the students free all they have to pay for is the materials they will need which you will have handy, go to churches too, polytechnic a or college of education any one close to you. Just learn the basics of bead making form one of the people teaching on here, you can also learn complex designs from you tube too because of the various people in the business, make yours stand out. You can even add traditional outfits to it either for sale or rentals.
Selling tomato, pepper and onions? Hahahahaha. This woman!!!
DeleteLinda pls I need a rich boyfriend, where can I go to? I'mean slim and beautiful
Delete@Linda Eze, Naija is sweet yet there's no money, electricity, security, job security, kidnappings left, right and centre, bombs go off at will, fantastically corrupt government officials, extreme poverty in the land, flooded streets (SUV my ass!), ritualistic killings....the list goes on and on.
DeleteYet you deceive yourself by saying you can't be a slave in another man's country. Pray, do tell, what are you in Naija?!! Honestly, emancipate yourself from mental slavery and open your eyes to highly developed economies where everything works.
Where you don't need an SUV to drive through flooded streets, where you don't need generators because there's constant electricity, where you don't need security guards because there's peace of mind, where you don't need to be rich to afford the NHS, where you can't be owed months of unpaid salaries because it's downright illegal....
I can go on and on but honestly, any time I see you and other ignorant comments, I simply shake my head. God help you and your slavery mentality!!
See this Mumu anonymous 19:00...
DeleteSo in your stupid ITK mind,flood does not happen in western countries?...you are talking about security,I have been robbed before in Manhattan...I'm sure you have not been to the airport before talkless of leaving the shores of this country!...
Naija is sweet if you are comfortable...do you know how foreigners suffers to get a Nigerian visa?...I'm sure you don't know cos you are still in your face me I slap you yard in Ikorodu exchanging words with your neighbors...
Lemme educate you a little,some of those things you mentioned happens all over the world so stop displaying your ignorance here...
Stupidity @it's peak! Your mind is so enslaved that you cannot see beyond your nose!
DeleteImagine! Naija is sweet if you are comfortable? What about the 110 million Nigerians living below poverty level? Don't they deserve better?
That's the problem with Nigerians, so selfish and self centred that when they think they have money, they can't be bothered about anybody else.
Linda Eze, I won't bother to correct your assumptions because honestly, I couldn't care a hoot what you think. If it makes your small enslaved mind comfortable because really, your only achievement is travelling out of the country, then be my guest! At the end of the day, you still come back to Naija where nothing works! Continue suffering and smiling in your fantastically corrupt country!!
You and I know the reason why you shout money from the rooftops in every post is because of your inferiority complex so enjoy your SUV in flooded streets, bad roads, epileptic electricity, horrible health care, no job security and overall lawlessness and console yourself with the little change you claim to have. E go better! Hehehehe
I dunno wot to say o, maybe u can ask him to make provisions for u n three of ur sons NT hay that including Sachs, food etc before u leave, I know Nigeria is not easy by my dear if u see wot some pole are suffering in the abroad u wud prefer to suffer here.
ReplyDelete*my two,including schooling,.....*some pple
Delete*NT two
DeleteTake the 500k and start a small supermarket and take care of your children. They are kids now,but tomorrow,they will be your shield with God by your side.
ReplyDeleteForget abroad and manage in naija.
I know of people who left naija like this and regret living this country till their death.
But again?have you made your own investigations? I hope he is not into something bad like child trafficking?
stay with your kids pls..hold on to the 500k..
ReplyDeleteWhat a question ? Please accept the American offer. Don't you know that will change your level.. .
ReplyDeleteNa ur type de enter one chance
DeleteSo when she go America, her level go change? Soo dumb.
DeleteWhich Kain yeye 500000, what about ur other child? Does he regard all this as a parting gift? You sef,even considering traveling. Stay put, collect nothing from him. Shebi u hv been handling the bills. Contunu inugo.
ReplyDeleteHer story is not complete . A man will just wake up and a marriage for no reason? he may have caught her cheating. Is the other son not for ur husband? Liars.
ReplyDeleteU are smart. Mayb the 2kids are not for d man
DeleteTake the 500k and start a small supermarket and take care of your children. They are kids now,but tomorrow,they will be your shield with God by your side.
ReplyDeleteForget abroad and manage in naija.
I know of people who left naija like this and regret leaving this country till their death(s).
But again?have you made your own investigations? I hope he is not into something bad like child trafficking?
Ha! What will happen to your other son? Madam, be wise. Collect the 500k and start up something. Since you've been taking care of them alone, 500k can add to what u av. Don't leave without ur boys o.
ReplyDeleteMadam your story does not add up
ReplyDeleteDid your husband say he wants to continue with the marriage?
Why did he come back all of a sudden?
When you get to the U.S what will you do? Where will you stay? Will you be going with him?
Why does he all of a sudden want to give you 500k
Travel to USA with only 2boys? What about the 3rd boy? Something is not right somewhere. Relocating outside the country with nothing concrete on ground is risky. What about rent, the boys schooling, getting a job etc? It's not a walk in the park especially if you don't have papers.
ReplyDeleteMy advice? Collect that 500k & start a business with it. You want to hustle? Do it in Nigeria where you know the system & have a good family support system around you not in a foreign country where you know nobody, have nothing with 2kids in tow & worrying about your last kid (which ones will you go with & who will you leave behind sef?)
I'll go with Stella on this one
ReplyDeleteWhy 2 boys and not 3, I think it is just a test to see if you value your kids as much as you let him think.
ReplyDeleteMadam sit your butt down and look afterall your kids, that man is up to no good at all. What a rubbish offer
ReplyDeleteIts my babe's day today. Happy birthday baby girl.
ReplyDeleteBaby girl no get name??? Na so una dey do.
DeleteAswear its prostitution that he will sell you into, just try yourself.
ReplyDeletewhat will happen to d child u didnt pick..he is gonna hate u for life. my dear u better stay back....let me tell u abt ur hubby, he has a woman with two kids. they were to travel out bfore 2geda to start dier life but jst found out d kids are not his. so in other to use d visa he is nw saying u guyz shld go..pls dnt fall for his trap. someone dat hs already left u..pls stay with ur children and dnt leave any for anyting in d world. i lost a child cos of a man and i knw ow painful it is.
ReplyDeleteNigeria is not good, where better pass where u get people to help you fight any kind thing wey go come thy way. Better nyash down one place o, before dem carry you go herbalist place use you make money.
ReplyDeleteFirst time I'm reading Stella's comment in a long while and she makes a lot of sense this time *sideeyes*
ReplyDeleteBabes, something is not right. I mean, this hubby of yours in one hell of a mistake.
That you are even considering this sudden offer is disturbing, after living you and the kids to suffer, gosh!
So now, you have to be smart. Pls drop that idea of going with him to abroad abeg. He means everything but good.
Collect the 500k first before asking questions. Don't bring your kids close to him and make sure to inform a family member abt this. Let them know you are with him anytime you guys are meeting.
If America is 'hungrying' you, ask him how he intends to relocate with you and the kids. If its a legal means (which i doubt), please ask for physical evidences. And don't leave any child behind, if he wants your 'help' then your 3 kids are on board or you ain't game. PERIOD!
P.S Before this negotiation abt relocating with him, make sure the 500k is somewhere in your bank account. Thank you.
This woman are you okay at all, whats the confusion here, when it was not even all your kids that will be travelling with you. The things travelling out with cause for women ehn kai
ReplyDeleteAre you mad, go where? He abandonned you in your fatherland, is it in diapora that he will stay put?
ReplyDeleteEhen the gods want to kill a man they first make him deaf. If you like dont hear word and sit one place. I bet you that cash he is using as bargaining chip be doesnt even have it not to talk of travelling to america, He wants to use you for something else. Just ask for the 500K and watch him disappear again.
ReplyDeleteWoman you better stay in Nigeria and forget about travelling out with him, am sure your hubby has something he is hiding from you. Do not worry your head over the visa he got, he may want to take you over there and deal with you where no body could help you out. Just collect the chicken change but no follow go obodo oyibo cos you go regret am I dey tell you.
ReplyDeleteRecieve sense and stay one place, nigeria is not easy but atleast you get people for here. Yonder who u sabi?
ReplyDeleteYes Stella u are right..D man is up to no good..He is planning something and want d woman out of d way...Why give her an alternative of 500k when he know dat getting her and d kids to travel to US will gulp millions of naira..He wants u to settle for d most expensive offer which is d US trip..
ReplyDeleteInasmuch as travelling to US without having anybody there to receive and help u,i strongly believe dat yankee is better than suffering here in naija cos dat 500k wont be enough to raise three kids..
So ur husband doesnt have family members or friends in US but he wants to sens u there all alone...I smell a rat..
BTW,Why did u divorce him? What went wrong..I know d question sounds irrelevant but it will help us in getting the reason why he wants u out of d way by all means.
Very funny
ReplyDeletecollect 500k... don't ever part with any of your children.... this your husband sef...
ReplyDeleteYou didnt say he moved to US after he left the marriage?
ReplyDeleteDid he move to America after he quit the marriage? What does he do there? What do you know about him since he left you guys? Find out the truth first o madam, before dreams untold will lead you astray. The country you know is better than the one you dont.
ReplyDeleteThere's alot u didn't tell us,
ReplyDeleteDoes he have relatives there?
Has he ever travelled out?
Has he ever played VISA lottery?
What was he doing for a living here?
What happens to the 3rd kid?
What kind of VISA, permanent or tourist?...
Anyway, most y'all think abroad is the cousin to heaven, it might look that way, but you'd feel like hell if u don't hv sumthg tangible doing or ure constantly evading the cops. Poster be very sure of the nxt decision, ask the necessary questions & be sure u can up and leave with ur kids if push comes to shove.
My 1st stay in a mixed neighbourhood opened my eyes to alot, there a Sierra leone couple within, that constantly bickered & it escalates into cluttering & physical abuse, not sure which was over powering the other cus the man is slightly taller than tyrion lannister & noble igwe, but the lady has this tranny thing going on, u get the pic? So i noticed my fellow enclosed neighbours don't ever interfere, which is very odd in an advanced country.... Only for my nxt door neighbour to confide in me that they'd have informed the authorities long long ago, but most of the habitants have 1 or 2 issues wit their papers, & wld prefer the authorities not meddle in their affairs, including the peace disturbing couple.
So shine ur eye oh poster.
I'll go with sterra on this...
ReplyDeletePoster, so your husband wants to use your third son for 'ogwu ego'.
ReplyDeleteHe has something (probably sinister) up his sleeves.
Be wary and extremely cautious.
Above all, be prayerful.
Madam what did you do that your man just stopped loving you and want out of the marraige even with 3 boys. This is serious.
ReplyDeleteSomething is not right. what about the other son. Madam you have done something terrible and you dont want to say the truth.
Lol!
ReplyDeleteCompare the money that'll be used by him to take care of hassles of getting a visa and tickets for you and your boys and #500k he wants to give you.
Does the comparism make any sense?
I smell a whale. A big one.
Before even deciding whether to collect the 500k and start up something, first find out what your ex is up to.
Something just isn't right.
#WhiteDiamondOut
This man is not pure.
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly are you to travel to do there? School? Who would take care of the kids while you're in school? Daycares,babysitters and nannies don't come cheap so how would that work?
You need to have a settlement plan over there. I think he just wants to get rid of you and the other boys.
What is his plan for the third child? Why keep him and send you off with the others?
Please involve your parents and his parents as well. He is up to no good.
If you accept to travel, you have sold your son. Hold on to your 500k and ALL your kids. See it as parting gift from him. God will strengthen you.
You sound very excited about the idea of America; hmmmm your husband left u with three kids, then came back and asked u to leave one of ur child behind for America or collect 500k and stay behind
ReplyDeletehere in naija, firstly ma'am, is the third child not his?, secondly, are you relocating with him or u 're going alone for him to stay with the third child bcos of financial difficulties. In fact u need a more sincere and accurate write-up for u to get a sincere solution bcos as it is, something is not right even with you.
That's the point
DeleteThe story ain't right
Yeah it ain't right, dirty and full of holes, grossly incomplete. Is it even true? Poster come back and clarify this your story to get the best advise. Right now adontbelieveit!
DeleteWHENEVER THE MEN WANT TO SCORE A POINT WITH WOMEN, THEY DANGLE "ABROAD";USA or money. These two always works on the female brains. It seems to be the key to open any vagina no matter how locked! Wao madam, that's how cheap you are. How does this suffice for a healthy marital life which is what you and your kids need. Sometimes I marvel if it is this same USA that I live in or is there a UNITED STATES OF HEAVEN?
ReplyDeleteMy dear not all women oh. No talk of abroad,no matter how sweet it is nor money can opened my legs mbok..my thing di very closed and only opens for one person
Delete@ Anonymous 15:40 ..you are very selfish ,are you saying she won't be better off in America than struggling with 500k in naija. Even as a illegal immigrant she will still be better off.
DeleteMadame collect the 500k and manage yourself and the children with it, make sure all your kids are around you please don't travel anywere.
ReplyDeleteWhat happens to other kid? What an offer. If he can provide where to stay in the states, with your 3 kids not 2, then jump on it, nothing dey naija, otherwise, stay back and take the money.
ReplyDeleteJennifer I guess this is you. The 3rd boy died in January.
ReplyDeleteForget that man and try to move on
I see your pain,even though you be refused to confide in anyone. Seek medicalattention and counselling first. God will ease your burden.
There is really a story here!
DeleteI think ur husband wants to use you and ur 2 kids for blood money. Ur family will assume that u guys have travelled out only for him to take u and ur kids to a location wea his evil deed will take place.
ReplyDeleteNote: Whether you take the money or not, tomorrow your children will still go back to him so please collect the 500k.
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The relocation to the US will definitely cost more than the 500k he is offering you to stay back here. Why evils? Why cant he give you the lump sum of your tickets, visa, rent, etc and then call it a day with the marriage? Dont think your life will be better in the US cos, na better suffer you go enter. At least for 9ja you and your kids can wear same clothing and footwear all seasons but over there.....
ReplyDeleteWhat will happen the the third child ure leaving behind? 500k is too small to sustain urslf and three children bt i think its better u stay here wit ur children and start a good biz. My 2kobo advice.
ReplyDeleteMadam your story is not complete. Is your ex-husband the real father of your three kids. Why does he want you to just take two and leave one? E get as e be.
ReplyDeleteTake the 500k and stay in naija. Don't be in a haste to leave the country madam
ReplyDeleteMadam kindly collect the N500,000 and do not leave your kids in his care whether you want to travel or not. You will survive with the N500,000, just believe that God is there and will make a way for you.
ReplyDeleteSince he left, you have been managing and didn't die so you'll pull through. Have faith in God.
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ReplyDeleteMadam!!! You had better collect the money and remain here. Take your time to think of a better business you can do that will be bringing you steady income.
ReplyDeleteThere is more to this story,whats next after giving you 500k. What happen to feeding,accomodation,schooling.madam God will help you carry your load
ReplyDeleteTravel how and leave one kid. Besides the cost of settling abroad is not 500k. So y the two options that are not equal. Don't leave your child. Collect the money and stay! At least you said you settled bills before so you can again!
ReplyDeleteI was in asia from 2011- 2015. come see nigerians begging fellow blacks at the Mall you go open mouth. Nigerians without paper and money. jand is not for you
ReplyDeleteInfact there are so many holes in this story. Know what...I retract my advice. If you need advice then own up. We don't know who you are. Did he find out that child is not his or what. Why did the marriage end. What do you mean...just came and offered. I don't get.
ReplyDeletePoster na wah to you oooh! How do you want people to advise you reasonably with this half baked story?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I will advise to be careful with that your husband for he might have a very bad plan for you. Why did he ask you to leave one of the kids behind? Am seriously suspecting that your man. In this era of different kinds of bad stories on rituals. You better see caution and apply caution.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I will advise to be careful with that your husband for he might have a very bad plan for you. Why did he ask you to leave one of the kids behind? Am seriously suspecting that your man. In this era of different kinds of bad stories on rituals. You better see caution and apply caution.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, I can't imagine the hardship of taking care of your 3 kids as well as yourself but I think you shouldn't be in a hurry to accept either offer. Something doesn't seem right here. Why would your ex hubby who abandoned his wife and his kids just show up from nowhere with such ridiculous offers? Why hasn't he tried to provide for you guys even if the marriage is over?
ReplyDeleteThere's something weird about this. Normally when given 2 options, 1 option shouldn't be heads and shoulders above the other. You can't compare an offer to relocate to the States with 2 of your kids with accepting N500k? For starters plane tickets for 3 of you will surpass N500k. Then the cost of accommodation, feeding, transportation and other miscellaneous stuff, with the current FOREX situation, the least budget should be about 7M more or less. Which is only for a couple of months, he has to keep sending money to you. And what exactly are you supposed to do with the 3rd child who isn't included in the relocation offer?
The disturbing thing is, why would he put such an offer on the table without increasing the cash to about N3M? Which is still ridiculous in comparison. It appears he really wants to lure you to choose relocation which can never be a good thing. I hope he isn't up to the usual shenanigans? What is 500k for a man who appears to be capable of 10 times more? If you can, I would advise you to reject both offers because something feels off.
Is he your ex because he left you and the kids or did you guys actually get the marriage dissolved the Court? I ask because I wonder why he isn't paying monthly allowance for the upkeep of his kids? My darling, please be very prayerful and alert. Relocation is completely out of the question but please think hard and be sure you know what the 500k is for before you happily accept it. It might be a Greek gift. You may have been struggling before he resurfaced but you were surviving with your kids. I don't know why I'm feeling so uneasy about this whole arrangement. I hope you make the right decision.
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