I appreciate you for the good work you are doing through this blog, i pray that God will strengthen you.
I will be 27 by Nov, and I can't not boldly say, that a guy has properly asked me out, they all come as friends then feelings will set in and sex will separate us. A guy has asked me out once, that's when I was serving but the issue of sex did not allow us to be together, if am permitted, I will say am a secondary Virgin.
I have had romance but no penetration yet and the reason why I allow romance is, I thought allowing it will make then stay or love me, but no they still leave because i refuse them sex. now I have two men in my life which I believe the fear of being alone has enthralled me to them.
I don't know what to do. Let me call one Mr A and the other Mr B
I met Mr A in 2011 and we became friends, hang out several times to the movies etc and he drops me off at home,we chat a lots, he also calls. On the record I will say am industrious, I have hand work and also do little business to support myself so, I find it difficult to ask for money from people except my parents.
When I was an undergraduate I made little change from the little biz I did in the hostel, from the gain, I bought some electronics I have in my room today, even during service I also did same so I don't depend on a man on what to wear or eat. Now am yet to get a good job I still do little biz to keep busy. Why all these explanation? Is to let you know that am not an idle person.
Back to my story. The first time I ask Mr A for financial help he didn't hesitate to help, that was the 1st day I ask for money from him because I was really in need. I knew his House in 2014 then romance set in into our friendship ,I have asked if he likes me and he said yes but he has not really ask me to be his gf, I like him but all I need is a relationships that will be defined not putting my hope in what am not really sure of.
And he has told me about three girls in his life two are his ex the other one is just a friend but dey still have sex whenever they meet each other.
Now Mr B I met him in 2012, I also knew his house that same year. I have this feeling for him, even when he treats me like shit I till forgive him without him asking for forgiveness. When we newly met he was loving ,always calling and for once I felt loved and I was so into him, then I went to spend a night in his place, the 1st day he didn't touch me, I was so happy that he respected me.
Like two months later I went visiting we have romance but when he wanted to have sex I told him I can't and am not ready, he stopped and we were good, after that visit we till talk on phone and all that, a month later he was transferred to another state on an official duty to stay there for some years.
When he moved out to his new base the calls reduced and if I don't call he wouldn't. When i complain he says work is taking his time. I was doing all the calling and texting and his reply was not encouraging at all.
I had something to do at his new base so I decided to go early so I can spend two days with him before going for my own business, when I told him he was happy. When I got to his place everything was OK. Mind you he did not even give bike fee but I didn't see it as anything since then I visited him three times.
My fellow bvs my last visit to his place was the worse experience of my life, he treated me like trash. I went to his place he invited me oo ,I thought he wanted us to talk thing over and settled but I got the insult of my life. I got to his place he greeted me normal chatted a bit and that was it. I got to his house early before he got back, so I decided to cook with my money, I had little on me but because he doesnt eat fish so I had to buy chicken and make the food, he came back and ate, after that he started acting as if I was a stranger or his enemy.
I go ask am dis e go snob me as if I force myself come e house. My fellow bvs, that day I made of my mind to let him have me if that will make him believe I really love him, for the 1st time in my life I begged a guy to have sex with me but he pushed me away. I stayed for a day and left and he didn't even see me off, I cried till I got to my destination. But before the incident I send him a text asking what we are to each other, and that if am the only one having these feelings ,that he should let me know so I could control myself instead of deceiving myself.
So when he invited me over I thought we are to talk things over not knowing he wanted to humiliate me.
Well I got home, I called him and I told him that am home and that I was sorry for disturbing him for sex and for my behavior and his reply was OK and that was it. we kept mute for two months after which he called, I answered him normal and weeks later he called again and we talked and chatted and then, he said he wants to see me and that he was sorry for want happened the last time, he will make it up to me bla bla bla but I didn't say anything i just replied him normal.
And we kept on talking and chatting once a while over the phone now he is back to the same state with me. I went to see him two weeks ago. Within myself I said I just will keep him as a friend but my feelings got into the way again I allowed him to touch me and I nearly had sex with him and he still have that attitude of not calling regularly and I really like him.
Mr A pattern of work allows him to work for some months and rest for some month, he will be back by next month. While as Mr B is here already. I like the both of then but none has really asked me out. How do I control myself before them. And make them see my worth instead of acting friends with benefit with them? in fact i am lost, please i need all your advice,and please take it easy on me with the insults.
*You are confused my dear and you do not need a relationship right now..what you need is to love yourself and stop taking whatever ish is thrown your way by men who dont know how to love a woman right!
You sound like you want just anyone...anyone who is ready,thats wrong.wait for the person whose ribs you will fit in,you will know when it happens.stop throwing in romance abeg,if you wanna be celibate,stay celibate and let them know,dont let anyone touch you becos it is wrong to lead a man on to a HARD ON and then tell him you dont want...dont get into any compromising situation and STOP VISITING THEM AT HOME AND OFFERING HALF A PIE OTHERWISE YOU MIGHT END UP BEING FORCED....
*You are confused my dear and you do not need a relationship right now..what you need is to love yourself and stop taking whatever ish is thrown your way by men who dont know how to love a woman right!
You sound like you want just anyone...anyone who is ready,thats wrong.wait for the person whose ribs you will fit in,you will know when it happens.stop throwing in romance abeg,if you wanna be celibate,stay celibate and let them know,dont let anyone touch you becos it is wrong to lead a man on to a HARD ON and then tell him you dont want...dont get into any compromising situation and STOP VISITING THEM AT HOME AND OFFERING HALF A PIE OTHERWISE YOU MIGHT END UP BEING FORCED....
Una doh oh!
ReplyDeleteAre u sure u are a graduate?
DeleteAll this mumu girls that will forming virgin Mary. Last last u will give it up to one useless guy nonsenses confused being shift jare
DeleteFor the first time, Stella and I are on the same page.
DeleteFirst off, Mr B should no longer be on your list of potential suitors. From your write up, the last one he did was not the first time he treated you like trash but you find yourself forgiving him even when he did not ask for it, and that right there is the problem.
You are an industrious woman, hence, no man, I repeat, no man has the right to treat you like trash. I don't care how much you make. You are obviously not in the league of women men should treat in such manner. Mr A wouldn't have hesitated in giving you the money you asked for because it was obvious to him you were not the demanding type.
I could do anything for my immediate ex because she does not ask. Nine months into the relationship, she called me up and asked me to buy her sanitary pad on my way to her place. I swear, it made me happy for a week straight. I wouldn't even buy my sister sanitary pad not to talk of the girls I dated before her. What am I driving at? You are too valuable to be taken for granted, as such, do not settle for less.
Personally, I like Mr A, he seems honest telling you about the other girls in his life and going as far as telling you he sleeps with one of them. I personally wouldn't tell you that if I really want to sleep with you, just like you are not telling either of them you are being romanced by another guy somewhere.
I'm not here to judge you, I'm not even in the best position( if one exists) to do that. Now, sit Mr A down and let him know you want to know what he thinks of you. Anyone can like anyone. I also like all the girls I want to get down with. "Like" is not a thing to take TOO serious. Ask him what he really feels for you and please don't just listen to what he says at that moment, read his body language. You've known him for sometime now, you should be able to tell when he is lying. Watch out for little signals that might give him away. You should be good.
That said. A man who is truly into you wouldn't look at you for five years straight, forming friends at the risk of losing you. And please, never take any of the shit Mr B tried with you again from anyone. You are human and shouldn't be treated as a piece of garbage.
Lastly, nne, stop that romance of a thing, konji is a certified bastard.
@poster,none of them is into you..you are A mere sex toy to them and they only want you around just to satisfy their crave for sex whenever they come back to base..
DeleteDont be deceived!! There is more to love than Sex..and when you are truly loved by A man;you wont be asking anyone of us if its really happening or not..You would feel it deep down your heart..
An advice to you bydway;dont give A man A hard-on and then end up telling him "You cant do this" or "you are not in the mood"...Like seriously dear;not all erected p*nis understand that language..if you cant have sex yet;stick to your words!! Just Dont satisfy yourself selfishly with smooching and when the guy is now turned-on;you now start giving him the red button.. Odiro-nma nne!!
Love would surely find you;but till then,Love yourself and always keep thyself busy..
@MARTINS ABOY
Babe you are so so confused. I doubt if u really love yourself otherwise u won't be taking shit from men. U may not be all that cute, but u need to borrow sense and stop acting desperate! Haba. Why are girls of these days throwing themselves at men? With all you have narrated here, if I were a man and u bring this attitude to me, I will see u as a cheap girl and trust me, I won't settle down with u. All u need do now is to place urself on high and give yourself some value... Stay on your own for now abeg. Its as simple as that.
DeletePlease am a Nigerian by marriage(2months now) and hubby is an Igbo he likes egusi and he most times eat out at the Nigerian kitchen so I want to learn how to cook it so he doesn't eat out again any one should help me please we're in SA TKS.
DeleteYou cannot find love until you love yourself. You cannot love yourself until you realise that you are worth good loving.
DeleteYou are.
Bang Bang Bang!!!
Her eyes popped open at the sound of the first banging. Sleep departed instantly; faster than she could say "oh my God!" Few seconds before the next banging, she told herself (like most people would, upon being woken up in the middle of the night) that it was all a dream; that she'd imagined it somehow. But as her heart beat began to slow down, she heard it again.
BANG!BANG!BANG!
There was no mistaking it, someone was at the door.
"Jesus!" She gasped as her eyes settled on the small Casio clock on the dresser. In the darkness of the room, the figures were clear: 3:04am. continue reading
Mr A and Mr B chronicles don tire me. Abeg look for Mr C
DeleteAnonymous 17.00, check youtube for tutorial on how to cook Egusi soup.
DeleteN that was how Lord Charles ended upwith a verrrry robust reply 4 d poster. Biko y use chronicle reply chronicle? Re u related to bv Ronalda?
DeleteNDI CHRONICLES! Jesus will fix it.
ReplyDeleteWow! My B is so me. So I really have a twin brother, mum has to clarify this o.
DeletePoster, Mr B is a good man, he has the fear of God, he is doing this to u to kill ur ego or reduce ur pride but I suspect he may also have an unserious relationship right now.
U need to pray against every spirit that's wearing u a male mask.
Poster,I feel your confusion. Let both of them call you and define your relationship. You keep assuming what is not tangible. Hand everything over to God. Goodluck
DeleteThe struggle to be with a man. The fear of loneliness. Sorry poster.. we are all seeking to be loved and be inlove. Stop looking for love, love will find u. ur man will locate u soon. Forget these men and concentrate on urslf. Love urslf. Build urslf. Something good will come ur way.
DeleteOh Lord give my fellow sister DIVINE SENSE! AMEN........
DeleteI am tired reading this shit. Abeg make i go do work wey dem dey pay me no be this shit i go read.
ReplyDeleteAs in ehn.. I just gave up. How can someone write so badly
DeleteFantastic comments from mummy stelz. Poster, u beta learn.
DeleteDon't be an end time confused sisi.
Madam,
DeleteYou gotta work on yourself. You're too cheap. I don't mean just emotionally but your standards are low. Where do you live?
Hand craft, business, purchasing electronics for yourself, okada money, you didn't buy fish oh, u bought chicken! That kind of talk...
You're a broke low class chick. I'm sure you put on those cheap slippers and fake colour 4 human hair weaves with a face full of acne. You sound really broke and low class. No guy wants that.
Since you don't wanna be alone and wanna play this game, you need to take a hard look at yourself and that charred hand that needs manicure you're using to type. Take care of yourself. I'm betting my half ass you don't look good, you don't have classy friends, you don't go anywhere important. In Uni, you were a. Lodge girl. Boring, no social life. Occasional fellowships. Visiting dry family members. You bore me d fuck off.
Seize your life and make something of it. Your lack of job has eaten your self esteem. You don't mix up with class. Leave your comfort zone and give yourself a make over. Also, an attitude change. Download e books, watch instagram videos, get yourself enlightened. You can't hold a conversation with a real man. You're very boring. Get rid of those men you play hangers on for. None of them are worth it. When you become a classy girl with access to big friends, good parties and forget all these I bought fish and electronics. You will see that these guys won't have the guts to approach you. Men always want or fear what they can't have.
You don't need to be beautiful to be classy. I think the 2nd is even easier with a bit of nurturing. Use your sense unless you end up a baby mama at 32 begging baby daddy for attention and groceries.
At 27 you still sound like you are locked in your child*toni's voice.
ReplyDeleteSex won't make a man love you if he isn't into you.
Do not make that mistake again, you are perfect just the way you are and a man who will appreciate you for you will come and you will ask why he chose you because he'd be better than every man that has ever disappointed.
Walk with your head held high because you're flawless. Do not let any man make you think less of yourself.
These two men do not deserve you, it's time you take a break from their childish mannerisms and wait till your man comes.
Good things happen most times when we are not looking.
All the best!
U are just too much doppel,i always look forward to ur comments...
DeleteI just luv ur comments!
DeleteConfused poster!
ReplyDeleteYou want money? Cos u kept hammering on how u did this alone n no dime from him.
U want love?
What do u want?
Ok just fuck both of them, your eyes will open and u will know what to do.
So u noticed as well, she loves money and refuses to admit, it's not a sin to love good things, u have a low self-esteem and u need to practice self love. Don't allow anyone man and woman to treat u like trash
DeleteI deduce that the poster is ugly and pimple faced. I was once a 27 year old and i don't expect guys to ask me out...they just do. At one point i had over 8 guys begging for my attention. I never spend my money to do anything for them, if they want an audience with me they come and pick me or pay for me to come over. I don't give sex anyone. Re-evaluate yourself and stop begging for affection.
DeleteCut both off(it will be painful) and face; your future
DeleteYou need a man
if your narrative is true
These ones especially the 2nd one are confused boys
By the way
DeleteWORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM
By the way
DeleteWORK ON YOUR SELF ESTEEM
Bla bla bla..,
ReplyDeleteNonsense!
Even with the trashy way you are being treated, you went ahead to beg a Fuckboy to nack you? Nothing I won't read.
You've got deep esteem issues. Only you can help yourself.
Shot up! Ain't you begging me for sex too? So why criticising her? Hypocrite!!!
DeleteThis quiksilver is just an idiot! Are you perfect? The way you comment, you must be very manner less in real life. And ugly too.. no beautiful woman will say all the classless things you say. Instead of coming on here to bash on people, please seek help,you need it badly.
DeleteAnonymous, even if she/he is begging you for sex what business of ours is that?
DeleteAnon 18:53 ask Google
DeleteNa to rape u remain
ReplyDeleteKontinu visiting u hear?
Poster is just an ugly, low class bitch
DeleteAbeg forget the virginity talk, urs is obviously lack of opportunity
No matter the konji i cannot even gbensh ur type, at worst i'll just allow u gimme a bj
Hahahahahahahahahahaha...
U are a bloody hypocris, u allow a man to smooch u but u won't let him fuck, who are u deceiving, am sure they ve sucked ur breast and fingered u, so what are u hiding, who knows, maybe ur pussy stinks dats why u are afraid to give in to sex, mumu girl.
ReplyDeleteYour name should be ANGRYRAY. Haha, you always sound so mad.
DeleteContinue talking from experience oo. Ewu
DeleteDisease is your name sake
DeleteIt is her body. She chooses what she does with it. If she doesn't want penetration, is it your body? Face your struggle please.
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ReplyDeleteBottom line.. None has asked u out officially, Mr A is nyc, Mr B is not..abeg let me read again and understand the problem
ReplyDeleteMy sincere advice Is for you to leave both men alone,it's so obvious they ain't into you and you throwing yourself at them wud be your undoing of care is not taken...you're priceless, so act as one Darling.
ReplyDeleteFor all your celebration cakes, click my I'd to get my info.
*faithful bv
Lmao @ secondary virgin.. ..
ReplyDeleteStay on your lane so that love will locate you..
ReplyDeleteDon't throw yourself @ any of them again.
Both of them don't deserve you..
Baba God pick up the call.
Simple,short and sense making comment😘
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ReplyDeleteThis poster, u r very desperate, that is the first step of gettin it wrong. leave both men, continue to work on urself, hold on to God, marriage or relationship will happen. keep calm. Haba is 27 100 years. wetin marriage go cause, marriage no go fit handle am oo. Adequately work on urself so dat wen le boo comes, he ll meet a full option package of a real woman. u r lucky u r not idle, madam get busy and stop following men who dont want u. I tried so hard not to insult u so behave ur brain
ReplyDeleteStella, u de try oh.
ReplyDeleteThe amount of words u read in a day is amazing!!!
Your strenght no be here.
*Respect*
Asin eh!!!!
DeleteExactly!
DeleteI couldn't even read past the first few paragraphs, it just seemed so uncoordinated...
Only to scroll down and see advice in red...
I'm thinking " wow, so Stella actually read and understood this?"
She try no be small.
Poster don't ever allow anyone treat you like trash, work on your self esteem. You can't force love, not all friendship lead to relationship or marriage. Let them go, true love will find you.
ReplyDeletePoster you are confused and lack confidence. Why not work on yourself like STELLA adviced? Don't just be with anyone just because. It's unnecessary
ReplyDeleteNonsense chronicle. Cnt u gurls learn frm previous similar posts? Mstcheeew!
ReplyDeleteAt your age you are this foolish!
ReplyDeleteAbeg get out jor... nonsense!
I almost thought the story wont end, most of you young chaps always the cause of your problem, when u were in your teens socialize and mix with your peers and opposite sex, but na lie instead u all be forming churchy churchy, now jungle don mature u dont no how to go by it. My dear, first you need to calm down and stop match making A and B together. Seat them down and ask what they actually want. You cant have a man 100% perfect... All the best
ReplyDeleteI hate it when women claim o be abstaining yet they get intimate and even sleep over in a man's house! WTF!!! If you wan do, jejely do the thing comot from road and stop leading a man on! When dem force you now you go cry rape! forgetting say, 'An erect penis has no conscience'.
ReplyDeleteJust passing, no advice
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wonder if the many advice I see you directed to single or married ladies don't get into the ears of certain people..
ReplyDeleteMadam, go and get some self esteem. You need it.
Be looking out for Mr C, ,this two no be am
ReplyDeleteHere we go again... *sigh*
ReplyDeletePoster, why are you pretending when you are not a Virgin?
ReplyDeleteWhy are you doing shakara on top of nothing?
Don't you know that a man love for being real not a pretender?
Among all my ex gfs, they one I love most is my Edo babe. The first day she came she gave it to me as if we hv known for years. And she can romance and massage for Africa. I did not marry bcos I don't hv money then.she is respectful. Such a tall beautiful slim girl deserves a rich man. The man that married her is forever a lucky man .
Jamiu!!!
DeleteShut up broke dick!
DeleteOya off your data and go and read for your GCE. Enough of lies.
Poster, why are you pretending when you are not a Virgin?
ReplyDeleteWhy are you doing shakara on top of nothing?
Don't you know that a man love for being real not a pretender?
Among all my ex gfs, they one I love most is my Edo babe. The first day she came she gave it to me as if we hv known for years. And she can romance and massage for Africa. I did not marry bcos I don't hv money then.she is respectful. Such a tall beautiful slim girl deserves a rich man. The man that married her is forever a lucky man .
Once you find yourself, fall in lit with yourself. After that join me in the next Single Mingle Post
ReplyDeleteCouldn't read it completely. I got confused half way..
ReplyDeleteYou made yourself cheap game and you are getting played like thrash. Why are you complaining. Girls who think sex can keep a man are the dumbest of all humans. If that is so, all prostitutes would have been married.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of rubbish epistle is this? No sense of self worth. Imagine begging a guy to sleep with you all in a bid of having a boyfriend. My friend wake up,love yourself,pamper yourself first before giving another the privilege of loving you.
ReplyDeleteChai!
ReplyDeleteThis has either desperation or lack of self love.
I won't say indiscipline, because you were able to hold unto the cookie till now.
But really, so, if he had agreed, you would have let him have sex with you?
Someone that treated you like trash?
Believe me, you would have hated yourself after the act, and he would have treated you worse.
Suffice to say that you need to really know your worth, and stop throwing yourself at available men, because you want to be in a relationship.
Goodluck with finding a true relationship without sex too. They exist.
But you've got to love yourself first.
Oya bye.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Is*
Delete#WhiteDiamondOut
At 27 your are still as confused as a teenager. I don't even get u. You better seat yourself down n talk to yourself. I hope some comments here will help u sha.
ReplyDeleteHmmm
ReplyDeleteGood advice stella!!!
ReplyDeleteSome people aren't as lucky as you are,yet they keep themselves.
ReplyDeleteYou are lucky because all the wrong signs are there for you to borrow hussain bolt's shoes and run,yet you are asking what you should do.
Abeg go and get raped(cos you are always in a situation where rape can happen anytime)and then come back and tell us the real chronicle.
You allow men,touch you(romance)and yet the relationship isn't defined yet.
Anyway,stay celibate,respect and love yourself first,cause you cannot give what you don't have.
Peace.
Pls did you misplace your self esteem,
ReplyDeleteBetter go & buy another one sharply.
Go with Stella's advice full stop
ReplyDeleteIt seems you look like caterpillar (911) 'cos i don't understand how you refuse to have self-esteem and confidence like this.
ReplyDeleteHaba.
Stella has said it all.
#bye.
Nawa!
ReplyDeleteWhat you need is to develop self respect!
And here we go again with the alphabets. Abeg bring C like a bv said yesterday.
ReplyDeletePoster you need a mature friend godly friend that can guild you. You need self love first, I used o be like you until I realised that no one can love me better than I love myself. Forget about men and relationships for now, focus on working on yourself, keep yourself and the right man will come. The man that will value you and appreciate you for keeping yourself till now.
ReplyDeleteGet it dear SEX is never love, never put sex first in any relationship, if all your man does is to demand sex from you each time you meet then he doesn't love you.
I just read d chronicle. Madam u mumu nor be small. How old are u again?!!!
ReplyDeleteHeadache alert.... What school did you graduate from!!!.
ReplyDeletePls whr can I download war room from and other classic Nig movies from tks.
DeleteDo u know I was scrolling down to see if anybody just anybody had headache from reading this chronicle. Like I read it to the end BT the thing just get as e be. Very disorganized n confusing. I always know I am bad with my punctuation n all. just like being a single mom that's anoda thing one can't insult me with cos it doesn't get to me. BT mehn! This girl go carry first. Lemmi gwan find paracetamol for me, u n gaze gyal down there.
DeletePoster thank God just like u I can't write well BT I understand what u going thru. U have to respect yourself and love urself. You don't need those men trust me a better man is out there for u. Don't settle for less than u deserve. Go out meet new people, set standards for urself and trust me love will find u. Take this from an after one *rollseyes@worldpeople* I love u becos u no sabi english like me. E-hugs.
This write up is giving me headache. All all see up there is a confused lady!!! Phewww!
ReplyDeleteA 27year old writing like a child. What is 'we have romance'? I can't deal abeg, I'm out
ReplyDeleteI suspect too much salt in the food you made for him ��. Please stay away from both and face what brings you money rather than spending for a guy wey go bone chop food without giving money. Never let anyone treat you like an option cos guess what? There is a special person out there for you and if you keep struggling with both, you may not even have time to see the perfect one. And please don't beg a guy for sex, it should be a wonderful experience not with some guy with attitude who will make you feel worthless after it all. I pray you have the strength to carry on till you meet the perfect one.
ReplyDeleteSista focus on yourself. Don't expect self worth from a man or sex. And yes I ve been there 38 yrs never had sex doing very well in my career. Am focused on making something for myself while waiting. God is faithful but you too should be to him. All these leading a man on is wrong and biblical. Your husband will come. Dont waste ur energy. Focus it on us biz. U will thank me one day
ReplyDeleteMtchewwww confused aunty gwewgs
ReplyDeleteThis z no chronicles, Babe, you've not found a guy yet.... The ones you've explained here ain't ready to take you serious 1 bit. But come to think of it, hmmm #scratchingMyBeards. What kindna lady are you? I hope your self esteem isn't connected to this... Cus low self esteem can really put a girl in a big mess.
ReplyDeleteMme Dakanda
Forget love for now my dear,What you really need to do is to start looking for the gutter where u lost your self esteem. A better alternative is to give ur life to Christ and ask him to teach you to realise you were made in his image and likeness,so that you can develop yourself spiritually and mentally,by so doing your self esteem will grow.wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteYou better advice yourself if this is what you wanted first. That Mr B guy doesn't love you at all, you better leave him and focus on Jesus.
ReplyDeleteKeep begging until you clock 35 yrs, you better leave them alone and if anyone is serious about you, he should come do the needful.
Why you visiting so much and spending nights at his place when you aren't dating? he's not giving you transport fair, he treats you like trash and you forgive him even when he doesn't ask for forgiveness? Hmmm.. babe,you come across as desperate.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a kind hearted lady,my guess is Mr B knows this and is taking advantage of it. You deserves so much more. Want them to see your worth? Give them space, don't be in their faces so much. As they say, you'd never know what you've got until.... if they don't reach out to you, oh well, at least now you know what you're worth to them. Don't be lost, you'll find yourself again, you don't need to be in a relationship to feel wanted or loved. Good thing is you'll walk away a "secondary virgin" hehehe. Didn't even know a word like that existed.
On the other hand, some men just prefer bitches. *shrugs*
Aunty why are you desperate?
ReplyDeleteYou are still young..pls allow men beg and desire you and not the other way round
You said you're a graduate and you write this type of jankara English with typographical errors enough to twist the meaning of whatever jibberish you're trying to say? Na God save you, you go school small. Back to the matter...if na toto dey keep man, why does 1 of your he-goats have 2 exes & still gbenshing the 3rd? And somehow in your archaic mind, you believe na your own sweet pass, nde?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm...confused much. I think you need to take a break from all this drama and concentrate on loving urself. So wen next you go into a relationship, u won't assume dat pipo pleaser role.
ReplyDeleteRead the story and didn't understand nothing. You need to know what you want first and you alone is in the best position to answer that.All the best.
ReplyDeleteYou sounded like a child are you okay? Please grow some brains for yourself. @ 27 you are still behaving like a fool.
ReplyDeleteStay away from such men, better ones/one will locate you and do the needful immediately.
You sounded like a child are you okay? Please grow some brains for yourself. @ 27 you are still behaving like a fool.
ReplyDeleteStay away from such men, better ones/one will locate you and do the needful immediately.
My dear the truth is that you have got to let those two go because they don't belong in your life. You have to love yourself to the extend that you wont beg to be love rather a man would beg for it. They don't love you so don't force it. By the way this is like my third time of committing. Shout to all SDK loyal BV's. SDK Rocks!!!!
ReplyDeleteDamn.... I don't like commenting but now I need to. Poster please read this book. The Power of Pussy by Kara King. Please leave both of them, desperation attracts wrong men.... Please ur pussy is the Power keep it for the right guy not to get approval from assholes....
ReplyDeleteDamn.... I don't like commenting but now I need to. Poster please read this book. The Power of Pussy by Kara King. Please leave both of them, desperation attracts wrong men.... Please ur pussy is the Power keep it for the right guy not to get approval from assholes....
ReplyDeleteDamn.... I don't like commenting but now I need to. Poster please read this book. The Power of Pussy by Kara King. Please leave both of them, desperation attracts wrong men.... Please ur pussy is the Power keep it for the right guy not to get approval from assholes....
ReplyDeleteDamn.... I don't like commenting but now I need to. Poster please read this book. The Power of Pussy by Kara King. Please leave both of them, desperation attracts wrong men.... Please ur pussy is the Power keep it for the right guy not to get approval from assholes....
ReplyDeletehmmm...At your age, you are still confused like this!! oya receive sense
ReplyDeletestop insulting poster... you are supposed to tell her what to do...
ReplyDeletelet me tell you how to delete people from your brain, memory and life...
when anyone around me starts mi- behaving...
STEP!i screen his/her number.
if you do not have a nokia torchlight phone, get one... go to contacts, add the person's number to screened list...
that way, when that person is calling, you will not see it ring...
do not ever ever return the calls.
STEP 2: i delete him/her from my social media pages... whatsapp, facebook, instagram, etc and i never add them back
STEP 3: no matter what i do, or how emotional i get... i never call them...
STEP 4: make sure you delete the contacts after adding them to screened list.
that way, even when you want to call back, you would not be able to differentiate who's number it is...
STEP 5: give your self a treat... change your wadrobe if you can afford it or buy new clothes.. give yourself a makeover... look better than you do previously...
STEP 6: Thank me later!!!
It is well with you. They are not into you my dear but A or B. Just take a break and focus on something different. Focus on your business and other aspect of your life. You dont have to force love it comes naturally.
ReplyDeleteThis is like my fourth time of commenting on SDK Blog. Shout out to those Loyal SDK BV;S : Ghanaman, White Diamond, Sisi Eko, Loveme Jeje, Queen and Boss of the Blog, James, emperor, black berry, Julius Caeser, Ada Nwabueze, Kelvin Dat Edo Boi,Shantelle's Empire,ukwu dimond,Ideato/IlajeBlood SDK FIRSTLADY ,De Unbreakable,Beds and Roses, OliviaSilk ,ELENA (HER MAJESTY) , SWAG LAFRESH, KARMAisabitch ,The General's Wife,steffySofynSOfly, LUCILE COCONUT OIL too numerous to mention. I hail all of una oooooooooo!!! You guys makes SDK lively
stop insulting poster... you are supposed to tell her what to do...
ReplyDeletelet me tell you how to delete people from your brain, memory and life...
when anyone around me starts mi- behaving...
STEP!i screen his/her number.
if you do not have a nokia torchlight phone, get one... go to contacts, add the person's number to screened list...
that way, when that person is calling, you will not see it ring...
do not ever ever return the calls.
STEP 2: i delete him/her from my social media pages... whatsapp, facebook, instagram, etc and i never add them back
STEP 3: no matter what i do, or how emotional i get... i never call them...
STEP 4: make sure you delete the contacts after adding them to screened list.
that way, even when you want to call back, you would not be able to differentiate who's number it is...
STEP 5: give your self a treat... change your wadrobe if you can afford it or buy new clothes.. give yourself a makeover... look better than you do previously...
STEP 6: Thank me later!!!
Must I have headache reading this story ? I refuse it!
ReplyDeleteYou sounded like a child are you okay? Please grow some brains for yourself. @ 27 you are still behaving like a fool.
ReplyDeleteStay away from such men, better ones/one will locate you and do the needful immediately.
Oh girl good you didnt give the Cookie! Isee a girl who has no self Love and controlled by emotions. we are not perfect, good you are letting it out. The only thing i can tell you, get good books on relationship. Train yourself to know your worth!
ReplyDeleteAs much as your chronicle is confusing. ..please do not force yourself on any man.
ReplyDeleteActually they respect you for not raping you after you get them hard by romance. Please don't visit them again, since they can't define the relationship. Just so you know, you are in this relationship alone, so take a walk with your head high ok. Love will fine you.
you really need to work on your self esteem all this I don't ask men for money and I'm a tertiary virgin talk isn't where you problem is. Your problem is that you do not love your self enough. Work on your self confidence.
ReplyDeletePoster , leave the 2guys and discover urself. Love urself,be happy,dress well ,don't look or sound desperate when relating with men, don't allow any close friendship that is not defined( canopy relationship) but be friendly and work more developing ur inner self. Forget about marriage for now so that u won't look too desperate for a guy.
ReplyDeleteIn all, pray to God to direct d right person to you. God will help u.
Chai see as I was reading and sorrying for u.
ReplyDeleteU sound soo innocent. So simple and soo good-natured. But unfortunately u need more than these to survive in a cruel world. U need ur eyes open!
Ur naivety is out of this world! And ur self esteem too needs some work. A lot of work.
Nne pls never chase after a man. A man that loves u wil chase u. Thank Goodness u even know u aren't wanted by them. Biko keep ur legs closed and give the cookies up when ur better half locates u and puts a ring on it. Ok?
And no,nothing is wrong with u. It's just fate's way of saving u from a making a mistake. The right one will come. The one for u. Ok?
Nice comment
DeleteNdi Mr A and Mr B abiakwa again! Poster. I was you a few years ago. Until I gave myself brain and wised up.
ReplyDeleteIt's good you know you are just friends with benefits with both guys and that your relationship with them is undefined and unhealthy.
You know this yet aren't doing anything about it. Take a stand and walk out of this time wasting shenanigans and don't look back.
I was happy when I got to the point where you wrote you ignored the guy for two months... But Bam.. He calls you and you're back in his little boy arms
You realli have low self esteem and you should go online and read materials that will develop your mind in this regard.
What to do now? Dump those boys immediately and delete them from your life in every way literal.
Forget both of them. How can Mr A meet his supposed friend who is a female and then have set with her once in while. They will sleep with u and dump you. Pray for the right man...Not perfect but right.
ReplyDeleteThe poster is just a child...a spoilt child claiming to be 27years..when i beg people not to watch too much nollyhood, una go say no, nlw see the way someone is thinking! Like a clear mumu..and u said he doesnt like fish, he likes chicken....what has that got to do with anything for crying out loud! Pls grow up and stop following men
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, read this next sentence SLOWLY and meditate on it daily. IT IS OKAY TO BE ALONE! There's something in your psyche which makes you crave being with a man to feel complete. My darling, how can a person who is already complete feel incomplete? You feel that way because of your mindset. You need to reboot and reprogram your mind.
ReplyDeleteYou've been throwing yourself at both guys and that is so unattractive to most guys. If you were able to keep your virginity this long, why do you want to throw such a precious gift to the wolves? Awwww! My poor baby, offering your body just to hang on to a man who isn't interested in you will be the most painful and humiliating feeling you will ever experience. There are ladies who have shagged men whose population can form a small village, yet they protect their "cookies" like they are made with pearls and they only offer it to the men who would fight, work and crawl for it.
Some of these ladies aren't even the typical beauties, some are even on the "fleshy" side (Yes James, my love, some "big" ladies get hot guys too). You know what they have? Confidence and sophistication, especially confidence. That's one of the most attractive quality a lady can possess. If you treat yourself like a rag doll, guys you meet will see you as such.
My heart broke when I read " I made up my mind to let him have me if that will make him believe I really love him". No, my angel, NEVER EVER think that way anymore. It is a man's duty to prove himself to you during courtship. You aren't even in a relationship with either guy. The minute you have to ask a guy whether he likes you, just know you've derailed. When a guy likes a lady, he tells her and it shows. You're reversing roles with the men and it can never end well when the hunter becomes the "prey". It's so unnatural.
Honey, pump the brakes now. Cut off all communication with both guys. Give yourself time to build up your selfesteem, stop being friends with guys you have feelings for, hoping to remain close to them so maybe, just maybe they may realise what a great gal you are. You don't need to do a full upside down split with your lady parts thrust into a guy's face for him to realise you are a good catch. He has to jump through hoops and prove himself to you that he is worthy of getting a kiss from you in the 1st place. Don't allow any man make you feel miserable, life's too short and too sweet for you to allow some punk reduce your womanhood.
Good thing you're business oriented, focus your energy on improving your business. You have no business being with any man who has no problems smooching without defining what relationship exists between both of you. When a man sees you, allow and enjoy the chase. He must categorically state what he wants from you. Not just orally, his actions must be congruous with his words and that takes time. You can't believe a man loves you after only 3 months of dating. You have to take things slow. If a man leaves you because you refuse to have sex with you, let him go! Good riddance, he isn't man enough for you. Guard your womanhood, don't throw pearls to pigs. Pearls should be offered to men worthy of being kings, men whom have treated you will the utmost respect.
#e-bearhugs.
Poster. Make more money, make yourself happy, go out and have fun and forget about those guys, they are not meant for you.
ReplyDeleteYou are industrious, no man should fuck with you. Simple.
You don't know what you want.
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness why forcing yourself into this, to be truthful nor of them like you not to talk of love since you can take of yourself fine, look front keep your shoulder up forget about them be your self, when guys come pretend as if you don't like them I assure you that you will see someone that will do anything just for you to love them, wish you best of luck. Don't allow anybody to make you feel inferior
ReplyDeleteJust look at this chap! Well madam poster, I am as confused as you are also. Stella has said it all and likewise other BVNs also. A word is enough....
ReplyDeleteI had sex with my husband on our first date. Today, we are a beautiful family with our angel.
ReplyDeleteSex doesn't keep a man. Guess what, I even gave him a BeeJay same day *winks*.
Its only a fool that will think a man will love you more if you have sex with him and vice versa.
Madam,
ReplyDeleteYou gotta work on yourself. You're too cheap. I don't mean just emotionally but your standards are low. Where do you live?
Hand craft, business, purchasing electronics for yourself, okada money, you didn't buy fish oh, u bought chicken! That kind of talk...
You're a broke low class chick. I'm sure you put on those cheap slippers and fake colour 4 human hair weaves with a face full of acne. You sound really broke and low class. No guy wants that.
Since you don't wanna be alone and wanna play this game, you need to take a hard look at yourself and that charred hand that needs manicure you're using to type. Take care of yourself. I'm betting my half ass you don't look good, you don't have classy friends, you don't go anywhere important. In Uni, you were a. Lodge girl. Boring, no social life. Occasional fellowships. Visiting dry family members. You bore me d fuck off.
Seize your life and make something of it. Your lack of job has eaten your self esteem. You don't mix up with class. Leave your comfort zone and give yourself a make over. Also, an attitude change. Download e books, watch instagram videos, get yourself enlightened. You can't hold a conversation with a real man. You're very boring. Get rid of those men you play hangers on for. None of them are worth it. When you become a classy girl with access to big friends, good parties and forget all these I bought fish and electronics. You will see that these guys won't have the guts to approach you. Men always want or fear what they can't have.
You don't need to be beautiful to be classy. I think the 2nd is even easier with a bit of nurturing. Use your sense unless you end up a baby mama at 32 begging baby daddy for attention and groceries.