Stella Dimoko Korkus.com: Exclusive Interview And Munched Chat - Alleged Wife Killer Lekan Shonde Was Scared That His Wife Would Leave After Series Of Beatings,Disgrace And Baby Daddy Drama...

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Wednesday, May 11, 2016

Exclusive Interview And Munched Chat - Alleged Wife Killer Lekan Shonde Was Scared That His Wife Would Leave After Series Of Beatings,Disgrace And Baby Daddy Drama...

MUNCHED CHAT AND INTERVIEW EXCLUSIVE TO STELLA DIMOKO KORKUS BLOG.







Alleged wife Killer Lekan Shonde was a scared man...scared that his wife would leave him .....so scared that he would go out side the estate gate and hide behind the gate to see if any man was dropping off his wife.
He snooped on her social media handles,snooped on her phone and controlled what she wore in and out of the house..Any resistance whatsoever earned her beatings!


According to insider info,Ronke had disconnected from her hubby Lekan after too much drama of public disgrace,physical altercation and baby daddy drama.She got to a point she just went mute.


Late Ronke's sister also revealed that the couples son had allegedly told people at school that ''Daddy said he will kill mummy''.Ronke was broken by that comment and was told by the School to shield her kids from whatever was going on at home because that was all they were saying in school.

The chats are not arranged and if you get to the small parts,please click on it to enlarge and read.
























This man loved his wife so much that the thought of her leaving him was something he could not imagine,it gave him sleepless nights and he could no longer function well.

Ronke had to remain in his house forever .......





Stella: Thank you for taking time out to talk to me at this very trying time for your family, can you give an insight into the kind of person your sister was?
Bolatito: She was a very lovely woman, who loved her children, her husband and people generally. Everywhere she went she was loved for her kindness and friendliness, She was so full of life.
Stella: Did you know that your sister and her husband where having any marital issues?
Bolatito: Of cos, I knew they were having  marital issues, which is was always about the husband, he is insecure. Infact his main issue bothers on insecurity. He is also too possessive very jealous.

Stella: He said he overheard her talking on the phone to man, saying he dosen’t know how to make love and that was what provoked him.

Bolatito: (Cuts in) The man is very good at lying, always ready to tell lies and cook up things, that’s his expertise,to imagine things. Let me ask him a question, has he ever seen my sister with anyone? NEVER!  At some point he said different people saw my sister on a bike at different times, He now said my sister was gallivanting about, running around the whole Apapa, he even went ahead to constantly harass my sister’s male friends on facebook asking  who they were to her.

Stella: Can you tell me why you think your sister’s husband killed her?

Bolatito: Their issue was almost getting out of hand by December after we had just buried my brother, my mum and my sister were in my house. At some point my sister left to go home and got home by 11pm that day. When she got home, she called us to say her husband had started making trouble at home. 

That he said he would slap her, my mum left my place  in Ilupeju to theirs in Egbeda ,by the time she got there the neighbors had settled the issue. The next day I went to the social welfare department to report and was told to bring my sister. I went straight to get her but was stopped by her husband who said she wasn’t going to leave their house with me. After some arguments I managed to take my sister out with me and she was reluctant at first and even later succeeded in going back into the house, while I stopped to direct a driver to where we would be going. 

I went back and saw her sitting on the bed crying and before we knew it the whole place was filled with neighbors, begging for us not to take her away. As much as my mum and I tried to force her to come with us, she kept saying what will people say?, what about the children?.

Stella: Do you know of any event that might have led to her death that day?
Bolatito: According to the neighbors, my sister’s husband had seized her phone that day and was calling all male contacts and saying all sought of thrash to them, whereas he is the one who cheats serially on my sister and my sister discovered at that point that he had a love child from one of his mistresses (which he initially denied), and that caused a big rift between them. I have messages he even sent to my friend’s sister asking her out. 

On Saturday while my sister was on an official trip to Abuja, he called me on Sunday morning to ask me to beg my sister to forgive him, that she wasn’t talking to him at home up until she travelled, I spoke to my sister who in turn told me she was tired of his constant harassment and accusations.

Stella: (*Cuts in ) So that was the issue they had before this incident happened ?
Bolatito: Yes

Stella: He had a babymama and your sister wasn’t happy about it?

Bolatito: Of cos my sister wasn’t happy about that

Stella: But he insists the reason he was provoked was because he overheard her on the phone talking to her lover, what do you think about this?

Bolatito: That’s not new from him, he has always said that. Accusing her of always cheating, even going as far as saying she slept with all the men in a group picture she had taken in a colleague’s wedding .

Stella: Is your family demanding for justice or have you all forgiven him as it was quoted your mum had said?

Bolatito: From hiding he called my mum and was begging, and my mum being a Christian told him she had forgiven him because revenge is for God, but told him to report himself to the nearest police station because the law must take its cause.

Stella: How did your sister die? Was she strangled? Was there an autopsy report after her death?
Bolatito: We are still waiting for the autopsy reports .

Stella: He said he pushed her and didn’t realize that she had fallen,and saw her lying the next morning while he was leaving..

Bolatito: Oh what a grave liar! He is a bloody liar (raises voice). Infact I think you should talk to my sister in-law who lived with them.

Stella: Let me talk to her

Late brother's wife Omotara who is nursing a two month old baby comes on the phone.

Omotara: Good evening
Stella: thank you for your time Omotara, while you were living with your  your late sister in-law did you observe any form of physical altercation?

Omotara: Yes
Stella: Can you recall a particular event?

Omotara: His problem has always been what neighbors say, what people say, whatever he hears outside he comes back straight home boiling and spoiling for a fight without even listening to whatever his wife says. Infact to him my sister in-law probably slept with everyone ever seen around her.

Stella: Does your sister inlaw talk back at him? Provoke him? Or abuse him?

Omotara: I think in the initial stages when he started she was responding, but at some point she just stopped, all through my stay with them I never saw her talk back at him. Once I asked her why she would sit there and be accused of something she didn’t even know about, and she said it was better she didn’t say anything to avoid being beat up.

Stella: What do you think must have made him kill her? Do you think she responded and it all got messy?

Omotara: I am sure whatever happened he could not control his anger; his anger was a major reason why he did what he did, because he could never control it. When he gets like that, my sister in-law starts to run around the house to avoid him hitting her in that fury, the first thing he does is to take her phone so she cannot be able to call anyone. He will lock the main doors, to the house, turn the lights off and start beating her , in the case that led to her death I am sure she tried to scream…I am sure she must have tried to really scream. Their neighbor who was charging his phone in their house told me that when he came and saw lights were off he thought they might had slept not knowing what was going on inside. She was a very kind spirited woman very loving and accommodating, a very down to earth and selfless person. I wish she hadn’t married him and at the right time without considering what people would say . its just a pity…I really wish she left when she could


Hands phone back to Bolatitio who was crying.I asked her not to cry because of the mum and she said they were talking to me in the car.




Stella :do you have any words for the man who killed your sister?

Bolatito: he called me on Sunday to meet me and do whatever i want to do to him.we have not recovered from the loss of our brother and he now did this to us?God had blessed him with a loving wife,why not trust your wife?why do you care about what the neighbours say?
I dont have anything to say to him but i want justice to be carried out to the end.

Stella :Have you heard from his family?

Bolatito :Yes his younger brother contacted us to find out if it was true on what happened and i confirmed and he screamed and promised to come and see us but he hasnt


Bolatito breaks down crying and ends the interview saying ''I just pity my mum,now that she is supposed to enjoying the fruits of her labour,all these happening.my mum brought us up single handedly.can you imagine what she is going through?''

....Continues crying as interview ends.





224 comments:

  1. Stellz of life. That is why you would always remain number one. No dulling ever! You see why I love you

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    1. Hmnnnnn. The part where he switches off the light to beat her scares me the most.
      A lethal combination of cheating. Psychosis. Obsession. Rage. And insecurity. WOW. Not even a super human can make it out alive.
      All those that ever persuaded her to remain should take responsibility of her death too. What a shame. Those stupid neighbours must be some ugly women who are jealous of her and the stupid insecure man gave them listening ears to fuel his insanity. Please let the law take its full course.

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    2. I feel so sorry for that family.Imagine their loss.I feel sorry for that sister in-law too dats nursing a two month old without d father.I feel sorry for their mum but they hv to b strong for her
      The man was too possessive and jealous and this led to his actions
      Ladies pls do away with jealous and possessive men o

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    3. The signs were there. She should have just left while she still had her breath. May God keep watch over her children, may the good Lord console her aged mother, may her soul finally find peace with the Lord.

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    4. Yes. If I were the family members I will give STELLA a right of exclusive because she is not just reporting the crime for traffic. She is speaking out on behalf of the deceased.
      It is different from the was news houses will report it. I would rather go with an activist than business men and women of the press. I am sure they have read all the warm comments here and atleast comforted that an attempt to defame their sister is strongly resisted.
      Tiwa should do the same later.

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    5. So in other words, the person that sent this in helped send her to her death. Afterall na she help the man beg the wife. From the chats, it seemed the woman had left him. The man is a bastard.

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    6. The second munched chat summarizes it all. He killed her. Justice must take place.

      The kids.... Oh the poor kids! Ronke's mum should take care of them.

      What a world!

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    7. Sad story..
      Please ladies before you say I do..be sure that the man you wan to be with is really cool headed and loves you deeply...
      Abeg forget any other thing like money, class, family choice etc..cos these things some times clouds once sence of judgement.. Don't get me wrong am not saying Ronke did...but ladies need to be really careful..
      Whatever your man will be in marraige is visible when you are dating that is the essence of dating in the first place..
      Go for a guy that firstly respects you, truely cares about your well-being and generally all those characteristics that isn't monetary..

      Thanks a lot

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    8. Anon 11 30. "Thanks a lot" for what ? For commenting or what exactly ?

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    9. Anon 10:55 God bless u,dey made d right choice coming here. This isn't a business place,shey na imm dem dey use mock Stella everyday say her blog no get adverts. It is simply bcos Stella says it as it is..... Tiwa I hope u take out time to appreciate dis blogger who vehemently supported u, Stella I knw u won't tell us if she called u to thank u, but this was the only place on social media where she was supported openly by d site owner.

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    10. Dear women,

      Don't let anyone or pressure from self bully you into marriage. Once the traditional and wedding celebration is over, you'll begin to ask yourself what you've done. Marriage should not be an achievement or a goal you struggle to live up to. Marriage should be a beautiful thing that, yet it gets rocky atimes, you are however sure that its the minutest of problems every marriage encounters. Getting married to someone you have doubt for is a breach in the marriage code and if unlucky, you might regret that single decision.

      Women in abusive relationships, get up and leave! What people will say? What are people saying particularly about it? Of course people will always have a thing to say about every action you make. Jesus, as good as he was, had critics and naysayers so who exactly are you that you wouldn't? Walk out because you exactly knows where it hurts.
      Even your kids wants you out. They only haven't told you because they are little in knowledge and doesn't know theres any other place that could be called home where peace abides. Go online and read the psychological effects of parental conflict on your kids and you'd know how much of a harm than good you are doing them.
      A man is supposed to teach the boys how to respect and love women, but he can't cos he's opposite.
      The marriage should teach the kids how to respect partners when they are married, but it doesn't. Instead, it makes them scared of the concept of marriage.

      I'm gonna stop typing.
      Please, move out when abused. There's nothing sexy about black eyes. Its not same as mascara. There's nothing sexy about blood red lips, its not lipstick. There's nothing sexy about broken lips and swollen cheek, you aren't acting a movie.

      My 2cent.
      RIP Ronke

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    11. Why didn't you people forcefully take her away from this imprisonment called marriage till she lost her life?
      I'm so sad

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    12. You can't force anyone to leave who doesn't want to leave.

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    13. See as over love turn to Obsession!
      The Ashafi abi wats her name, d friend wud feel bad. She wud be wishing to wake up from d dream n tel her late friend to leave d man n mariage.

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    14. stella praising herself as anons since pdp left power,delusional worwor bitch

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    15. He never even saw a proof she was cheating or about to cheat. E dey sweat. Women snoop and discover worse things their husbands do or are doing how many Don kill their husbands?? Men think cheating is exclusive to them abi? Go nd rot I jail. No sms from lovers, no fb chats no watsapp messages after u cease her phones and still check yet she is clean u kill her on top? Men are d worst thing that happened to creation!!! Cheating bastards

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    16. Disadvantage of marrying a possessive/obsessed man. They claim to love u but accuse u non stop of infidelity

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    17. The neighbours did not tell him tales. All the accusations are his imagination vos of his psychosis. May her soul rest in peace amen. And I tell you even if dhe left him earlier he would still have killed her except he does not know her where about.

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    1. What a sad occurence! Honestly, she should have left when shr had the opportunity; especially when her mum and sister came for her.

      Women really need to stop this "what will people say" or "i need to look after my children" mentality, frankly.
      Oh how i pity their mum, poor woman. I hope they get justice for Ronke.

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  3. Chai! Poor Lady!
    He was not a very good husband.And unfaithful too.Den add Obsession to it and u have a lethal mix.He was a Scared Bully.


    Good to know he Is suffering.
    When u murder sleep,it wil elude u.

    Keep resting Beautiful!
    And may God comfort ur family.Especially ur Kids and Mom.Be Strong Bola.

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    1. (Sigh) Nkea wu olu aka ekwensu! After blackmailing her emotions, he killed her. Ndi Yoruba na violence agbago ndi!

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    2. That is why I fear people with insecurities they can lie,kill or do anything.

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    3. Stella, God bless you.

      This man was just the devil himself.

      A useless old man who was possessive, controlling and jealous.

      His wife was on the verge of leaving him and he would rather see her dead than have her dump him is old, miserable ass.

      A case of if I can't have her no one else can.

      Mr Lekan,you are dying in jail, all the sans in the world cannot save you.

      To think that the fool was cheating on her?? I just knew he was a cheat, typical behaviour of a cheat, they can suspect like kilode.

      God will punish you over and over oloriburuku okunrin.

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    4. Poor Children! They are the ones going to suffer the bulk of this. Can't imagine how they would grow up normally knowing that "Dad killed mom"
      A man with this kind of obsession must have exhibited it before they married, she probably thought it was "sweet".

      May God keep the children and make them sane.

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    5. @ Rolex, people with insecurities? D worst kind my dear.

      @ Whirlie,To think d animal was cheating on her??? Just imagine the temerity!

      @ Fan,nne Nke a bu Ekwensu himself.#shudders.

      @ BIPOLAR,I don't even like to remember those poor kids.cos my heart just breaks.Poor Darlings.

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    1. So Sad...I just feel pity for both of them.
      See what bottled-up anger and insecurity in marriage can lead to. I know at some point they must have really been in love...
      God should just guide us in making Life long Decisions.

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    2. Very sad.
      I'm speeches.

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  5. OMG!,,,
    The idiot even had a baby mama?,..
    Yaraba men are evil!!!!...
    And some fools was actually blaming Tiwa for speaking out?...,
    Oh Tiwa!,..this would have been your story!,..you would have died in silence and that your stupid Tblizz would have accused you of cheating!....

    This woman would have left this beast of a man!...
    Ronke,why didn't you leave with your sister?...
    Now they are telling all kinds of lies because you are not here to defend your self!...

    This family should get a good lawyer and make sure the bastard Lekan rot in prison!...

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    1. You are fool. What has tribe got to do with any one that choose to be a monster. Most of ur brothers that killed their siblings for money nko. Were jatijati have u asked ur husband the source of his wealth

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    2. I really cried reading this...those people that convinced her to stay after she had left the beast should be held accountable for her death, even her son was scared for his Mom. Just look at all the evidence, I'm so sad right now 😭😭😭

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    3. Yaraba? Is there a tribe like that in Nigeria?

      We can talk from now till eternity, the truth is we will always have men like this. The power to RUN now lies with the woman. I have learnt so much from this story, however I know some women will not learn anything and might probably become the next victim.

      I know women who are financially dependent on men for upkeep of the family will have no say. I will rather be a career woman than a housewife. What is the essence of this life if you do not have a source of income.

      Empowerment is the word and your life will be easier.

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    4. This story saddens me so much and I have been holding back from commenting much...but this anon 11.28 you are the bigger fool ..what has she said that makes it untrue.. Statistics and we who live in Lagos see it..Yoruba men are truly demons that doesn't mean other tribes are saints but Yoruba men's own is on another level when it comes to issues like this..marry a woman,leech on her,debase her,call her unprintable names,weep like frozen frogs when caught and finally blame it on the devil and weep ..even the military men are no exception ..Recall DIYA and the coup..Demons y'all..Am pissed

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    5. Idiot....tribalism will kill u.

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    6. Ndi Yoruba akpokasiba!
      What did she do wrong,Cos she stated the obvious?? Believe it or not, unu na violence agbago ndu. Odi unu na obara!
      crazy people ndi aruru ala..

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    7. Moi Ami..you are the biggest fool..so you want to be heard with ya senseless point but you get angry when someone else point their opinion*rubbish*what brought tribalism into this issues?and who says yoruba Wickedness is on another level?so you want to tell you're so dump you don't know issues like this is not about which tribe you are but about ya heart?I have never insulted anyone here for 4years av been here but ya own stupidity amaze me*rubbish*

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    8. Moi Ami..you are the biggest fool..so you want to be heard with ya senseless point but you get angry when someone else point their opinion*rubbish*what brought tribalism into this issues?and who says yoruba Wickedness is on another level?so you want to tell you're so dump you don't know issues like this is not about which tribe you are but about ya heart?I have never insulted anyone here for 4years av been here but ya own stupidity amaze me*rubbish*
      Statistics my sexy ass

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    9. All ye tribalistic bigot are just a bunch of fools. Make your point and stop pointing fingers. Is Flora husband a Yoruba man ?

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    10. The Igbo men I know are violent and controlling. Violent men are not from one specific tribe so please keep quiet. Igbo women are trained to stay and take it so don't talk because we know the stories of our sisters.

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    11. @bluntijebuchic..Bloody dirty thwart..who gives a flying fuck about ur unproductive stellar qualities on blogospere? Lol how will that change d fact that Yoruba men r what they r..swerve jor...Oko mi..Oko mi that's all u primitive Yoruba women live for..y'all r even ready 2 jazz ur blood sisters to keep d lowlife leeching demons..disgusting thrash from a lowlife who won't accept d bitter truth.

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  6. SMH.... Temper Temper!!!! Needed to to be checked, obe can say he was obsessed with her, and tag it a crime of passion.

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    1. Provocation is acceptable in the court of law...leave all those chats things Stella, which sibling will accept that their blood cheated...police should investigate properly bcos u can't overlook suicide becos the man still insists that he didn't kill her...according to him, he walked into a conversation of the wife discussing how she was fucked thoroughly my her Oga... The Oga should also b invited, the hotel that they assumed lodged in should also b questioned by inviting them...cheating can actually lead a man to murder or mayb the woman could not take the shame of her husband eventually finally finding out about her affair after so much denials and then killed herself

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    2. Common go and overdose on valium.
      It is convenient for you to believe she cheated but you have refused to comment on the cheating Lanre and his philandering ways.

      What do you think the defence of provocation is all about? You think the judge will pat him on the back and set him free cuz he was provoked?

      Lanre is dying in jail, he already sealed his fate.

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    3. Anon 12:56, May God forgive u and judge u completely. I hv no insult or curse,but after reading this interview and seeing d chats u still hv dis opinion, God wld judge u. I will pray for God to judge u well

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    4. Anon 12:56, wetin concern agbero with overload? So what if she cheated? Is death the punishment for cheating? Why should police go and investigate the hotel she slept while in Abuja? Is that the case on ground now???

      He killed her and why he did so is not our concern. The point is, no one has a right to take the life of another person! Kapish!!!

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  7. Na wa. I hope they find closure on this saga.

    Painful she is not here to defend herself. I pray the children find comfort.

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    1. This is so terrible. I feel no ounce of pity for that man at all. In his next life, he will know never to slap a woman talk more of beating her up.

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  9. Haaa stella,i shed tears,he was jus been insecure for nothing,even at after her death he still has the guts to talk rubbish abt her,the God of her mother who as a widow struggled to raise her wld fight for her,domeatic violence is real,my neighbor is going through same i gave begged nd begged her to leave,but she has no where to go,and she is jobless,with 4 children and currently expecting,she keeps saying its cus the man is faustrated ,wld the faustration end when he kills her!Stella this world is full of strange things.

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    1. Your neighbour is not a wise woman at all. A fool will always perish for lack of knowledge (no be me talk am o e dey for Proverbs)

      Just leave her, her case is hopeless. Pregnant with 4children+no job+a violent hubby. Hopefully the man will not kill her.

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    2. Show your neighbour this story and ask if beating or killing cures frustration

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  10. What struck me most here was when I was in an abusive relationship, the guy had the same obsession, even threatened to kill me and kill himself if I dare leave him. I had to leave with wisdom oh. I kept agreeing to everything he says. But I knew my plans. All the abuse was because he suspected everything that passed me. Everyone and everything. Meanwhile, I wasn't cheating. Never. I just relocated quietly and changed my number. He only hit me 2ce but the threats and hot vex na die. Na to dey disappear each minute. To imagine that family and friends blamed me for leaving him

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    1. Thank you so much for leaving. God bless you for your wisdom. And to all those who will advice a woman to stay with a man that panel beats her, abuses her and serially wrongly accuses her of infidelity; friends, family, pastors, neighbours etc, you all will share in the guilt when she gets murdered. The guy is a monster, the only thing that can justify him beating her is to accuse her of infidelity, so he must cook up stories. I have also come to realize that the ones who accuse the most are the ones who are actually guilty of the act themselves. Imagine! A man who has a baby mama is accusing his wife of infidelity. They are also habitual liars. There are many such animals out there.God have mercy on us all.

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    2. Others know nothing if the pinches of the shoe
      He hit 2ce too many times

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  11. I pity Ronke mother and her kids...jealousy and possessive is a very bad illness....He loved her wife soo much and the thought of her leaving him scares him soo much.
    Trust was missing in their marriage.
    RIP Ronke..mama take heart

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    1. Love? To me a man that constantly hits his wife or constantly cheats on her does not love her, if that is love then I don't want to be loved. I will rather opt for a faithful man who will be respectful to me.

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    2. You people that say he loved her so much make me laugh. Is that love? What is love? Go check the Bible for the definition. Mtcheeeeeeeeeeew

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  12. Hmmm. Words fail me.
    Women pls leave violent relationships biko nu. Stop thinking and act!!!

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  13. *heaves*

    Na wah!

    This is a very very traumatic read.

    So in other words, this man was a very insecure, possessive and violent husband.

    He was that kind of husband that couldn't imagine another man saying hello to his wife.

    I'm sure he made her get rid of her female friends too.

    But funny enough, he was not faithful to her.
    How does one end of with such a selfish monster?

    * sigh *

    Now, these little children will be as good as orphans, because their father could not put his emotions in check.

    Ronke, may your soul find rest. If only you knew. Even in depression, you still stayed in that marriage.
    Those children you were enduring all these for, are now alone, without their mother to ask if they've eaten, how they're feeling.
    That should be the most horrible feeling on earth.
    So, what was the use of staying back?
    What if?

    What if?

    #WhiteDiamondOut

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  14. I am so sad. Obsessive man,he never thought a beautiful girl like her cld be his...., yesterday in d why do rich marry rich some of u were saying rich ppl don't hv domestic violence,pls Change that reasoning. Any body both male or female can become obsessive,it cuts across finiancial status,a violent,temperamental person can come from any strata of this life. This man was simply,I repeat simply obsessive.... He was a possessive man. Ladies,those of u dt ur bf wld scatter ur phone in a fit of rage or wld b questioning ur every movt. Me Lekan is ur bf. When u tell ppl dis is what he did u will hear,Kai na over love dey worry d guy,he loves u dts why. Pls ladies any body who is obsessed abt everything u do,is a ticking time bomb and he wld definately beat u wch wld den lead to ur death.

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  15. Such a sad story. What paranoia and obsessiveness can cause. I feel so sorry for all the parties involved.
    Now that his eyes are clear, he will be full of regrets.

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    1. Regrets? I laugh. Someone who is still saying his wife cheated on him to justify his actions? He is only sad because he may find himself behind bars for a very long time.

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  16. Dis just brought tears to ma eyez. May God's will be done sha

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  17. This brought tears to my eyes.
    Oh I really pity this family.
    May Lekan rot in jail and hell afterwards.
    How can someone be so wicked to his wife and children?
    This is really sad.

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    1. There are many such animals out there. The greatest pity is that it is even society that even shields them.

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  18. Sad. Sad. That man is impulsive, possessive, delusional and insecure. Yes, he loved his wife but cldn't help his jealous anger.He needs help.

    ~I LOVE virtueandintimacy.com~

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    1. I usually agree with all of your opinions Mitchelle, but on this I don't. No, he did not love her. This isn't love. Impulsive? Yes. Possessive? Yes. Delusional? Yes (some men actually believe their own lies). Insecure? Yes. Jealous? Yes. Obsessive? Yes. Uncontrollably angry? Yes and more, but in love with his wife... h*ll NO!

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  19. He wasn't in love with her,he was obsessed ...

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    1. Thank you oh, I have been reading love love since. Made me realise people don't even know what love is. He was purely obsessed with his wife.

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  20. Very painful. When will women learn that their live is more important than what people will say? Am so pissed with this whole rubbish. I have a relation is an abusive marriage, i keep shouting tell her to leave before the good for nothing kills her for her children. Thank God she left last month n i pray she stays strong because she is worried sick about her children.A friend's mother died in an abusive marriage n the man is married again. I rather be called bad names than stay in an abusive marriage (physical or mentally). This life no get duplicate,no man gave me life so no man can take my life except God. #women,your children need you alive than dead.

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    1. I think women exposed to domestic violence are psychologically affected as well. It appears to be a pattern that they find it so difficult to leave their abusers. In many cases they even defend their abusers and blame themselves and use every excuse as a reason to remain in the relationship, such as the man is frustrated from financial or work related issues, the man was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, the man was jazzed, they have to remain for the sake of their kids etc. Such women need prayers, counselling and financial help (in a lot of cases) and shelter. Sometimes the abuse is so bad that the woman has to be hidden for some time or the man will still find her and finish her off. Some abusers trap their women by turning 180 degrees and becoming kind and loving, giving gifts, TLC, promising love, better behaviour, and not repeating the act that the woman melts - only for the cycle to be repeated. God have mercy on us all.

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  21. Omg!..can justice be served already? . Dis guy truly is a pathetic serial liar...1 interview he said d wife was lying on d couch on another she was by d stairway...he has luck no b my type wey get brothers to fight even wen d beatings n abuse wee goin on...useless good for nothing cheat.

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    1. I'm currently seeing a divorcee who was physically,mentally n verbally abused by her ex hubby.All the things she said he did to her,she's doing to me except for physical abuse and I'm starting 2 think she's damaged goods.She keeps picking faults with my physical appearance which was something her ex used 2 do 2 her n when i try 2 walk away she starts begging n crying even bringing her child in to it 2 try 2 put me on a guilt trip...I think I shd just walk 2 avoid stories dat touch in future

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  22. It's unfortunate

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  23. I knew it! Am sure he has knocked her out a couple of times that's why he didn't bother checking on her later! Justice for Ronke!

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  24. I couldn't even finish the story, this man is sooooo sickkkk beyond comprehension.
    And all dos bastards that will come here and start soiling this woman name with adultery. MAY GOD PUNISH YOU, MAY YOU SUFFER SUCH PAIN OF LOOSING YOUR SISTER AND EVEN MORE.
    Stella I am so hurt right now honestly. Don't know why dis story is affecting me like this.
    Her family should have got her out longggg ago. I just feel so sad about what dis woman endured before dis animal finally killed her.

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  25. I can't get over the thought of those children waking up to their dead mum and trying to wake her up.

    That image will continue to haunt them, traumatize them and messing up their lives. God have mercy.. See what neighbors will cause with their big mouth. She prolly dressed more than them and looked classier and all of a sudden jealous wicked hearts started peddling rumours about her sleeping around.. Lord who will cater to those innocent loving kids,???

    Lekan should face the full wrath of the law. And can police start taking domestic violence cases serious?

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    1. Wch neighbors?? Nobody tells him anything, he just resurrects accusations and lie dt d neighbor told him to gv him a base. He is an obsessive man who wld look for any way to fault her

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    2. Yes our law and law enforcement needs to step up.

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    3. I knew her from a distance.she had a curved and beautiful shape. And classy to the core.

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  26. Oh Lord... Insecure men r the worst husbands ever.. When u are dating a man and he keeps complaining abt who u talk to, ur male colleagues at work,na so e dey start.. From smashing to seizing of phones, accusations of sleeping arnd, pls wear ur Usain Bolt shoes and run..Marriage doesnt change such men.

    Such a Terrible story. Rip Ronke

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  27. Trust u to dig deeper.... thumbs up SDK... I hope victims of DV will learn and act....

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  28. Thank you bolatitto for speaking up....., dis is how a lot of ppl keep quiet and let d world form d wrong impressions. Pls don't let any1 drag ur name and ur sis name into d mud. A lot of ppl wld come and condemn u,but pls don't b phased. Pls speak up for the dead. May God gv ur family d fortitude to bear this loss. That is how all of u condemned Tiwa Savage for defending herself. Rubbish mentality. Pls speak oooooooooooooo, let d so called better women and good wives mock u,let d so called true men mock u,u wld hv said ur own side. Stella thank u for getting this interview.

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  29. This is serious indeed. The man is simply wicked

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  30. This was exactly what Ronke's sister told Punch newspaper

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  31. This is so pathetic!....when a man starts to beat his wife, let the woman run for her dear life to avoid candle nights for her.

    this is just so so sad!.. May God grant her mom and the rest of the family the fortitude to bear the loss!

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  32. Can't just finish reading it cuz am cryn seriosly.pity d woman.

    U r a wicked man..now u r sayin devil..ode

    Mcpinky

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  33. That man did not suddenly become insecure as he must have been that way, even when they were dating which she probably mistook for love and him being smitten. How some women end up with maniacs is what I will never understand. May she RIP but its unfortunate the did has been done.
    Hopefully women are fast learning a thing or two with all this spousal killings going on. Don't ever think you will change a man. Whatever it is you don't like, take a walk or nip it straight up.

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    1. The "deed" has been done not "did"

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    2. *deed
      *thanks rob

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  34. This is the saddest story I have read in a long while. Obsessed people are very dangerous. I once had a BF who is a medical dr, his own obsession was out of this world. he would sleep in his car in front of my house in that Jos freezing weather all because he wanted to see if I was dating anyone,yet he wasn't even faithful to me. He wld drive all the way from Jos to Abuja on a week day just to check up on me,he would nag endlessly if I answer a call from a guy or say hi to a guy I know.I ran for my dear life by ending the relationship, he kept on cursing my entire generation cos I left him. love is not by force abeg. RIP Ronke. Bola may God strengthen and comfort you all.

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  35. What a sad story. She died because she was considering what people will say.

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  36. So bad and sad.

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  37. I pray God will give her family the strength to bear this loss.This guy killed her as a result of too much love,obsession and lack of trust.Ladies in DV please run,leave what people will say,your live is worth more.The poor kids....oh no

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    1. Right right! So he just started suspecting her?? I hv heared. Cos she's dead now all pity will naturally go to her well, if ur partner suspects u u have given him reasons to. Women who suspect men are often proven right cos a woman's intuition is often right. Did she or did she not present her self as a cheat or not

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    2. And he is a very wide man oooh! He had d mind to lock his ow kids up with their dead mothers corpse??? Jesus! How on earth can d kids ever forgive or forget? Poor kids...They are practically orphans now

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  38. Really sad,brought tears to my eyes...I feel for the mum but they just have to be prayerful, the brother just died recently and now her.hmmm,i couldn't help but think of a whole lot of things...may this family never experience such tragedy again...And to stella,blog visitors and me inclusive, tragedy shall never befall us and our household in Jesus name...Inakwuana

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  39. I can't just get over this, the thought of the children and the mother. What a wicked man? Why cant you just let her go if u feel unsecured about her.
    Make the law take its course ooo

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  40. What a pity? In all this ronke's mum and kids are the ones I pity the most.

    May God avenge her death

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  41. Poor Widow..God please heal this family,no other person can do it expect you Lord,comfort them at this trying time..#Sobs#

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  42. With this I have to retract my pity for this man. this man messed up...thus is a pure case of obssession been possessive and anger .let justice prevail.

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    1. No oh. Don't retract. Be there and be spewing rubbish let the GOD of the innocent punish you. I've just been watching you since. I didn't talk. You've been so vile and useless that if I could track you to give you the beating of your life you for don land igbobi tey tey. And when you leave igbobi na for their hate i go waylay you give you round two so your people no go spend for transport to take you back there.
      Ologbozigi. Bastard.

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    2. Now u knw better not to judge without hearing from both sides.

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    3. But that doesn't change the fact that you are a fool.

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    4. This Rob, for all your wicked trolling here, God will reward you with much more

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    5. The manner in which these two annon commented here is tasteless and shows who the real bastard is. Some comments on This blog drops my IQ to an all time low... Bellanaija has better intelligent peeps. Bunch of anonymous animals

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    6. Yea Tracy I do thanks

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    7. Lol. Who leaves the most IQ reducing statements? It has to be you.
      If I can recall I went through all of your comments on this issue and I was appalled. It showed you don't think deeply and you are a male chauvinist pig. Yes i said so.
      I'm not a bastard and you probably aren't too.
      Everyone IS entitled to their opinion but they ought to be chastised and corrected when it reeks of insensitivity and are illtimed as yours were. This blog is a mixed basket but the average visitor is an intelligent being.
      Please I would really love you to stick with Bella naija because we are still trying to rid the blog of stupid people and having Rob, the chief of the village idiots, here made it worse.
      Sayonara bastard Rob.

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    8. Rob the sign of an intelligent person is the ability to respond to even insults without throwing back insults. You my friend do not belong in the category of Bella Naija commenters. You should stick to Linda

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    9. Lol anonymous maggots

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    10. You IQ is already as low as it can get.

      Anon 12:04, a lot of ys feel the same about this fool.

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    11. Annon 17 13. Kill yourself faggot Lol

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    12. RIP Rob, these brilliant anonymous commentators murdered you. You really should start a new life on Linda Ikeji blog.

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  43. So sad,awwww see what jealousy and anger caused for dis stupid man,don't even know what to type self I'm just craying reading it,even if ur wife is cheating on u,can't u send her packing?now u av killed her and u ur self don't want to die.hmmmmm its well ooo

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  44. Hmmmm!!!
    Anger, insecurity, lack of trust, infidelity etc were the major issues troubling this household.
    My sincere condolence goes out to the mum, kids and family.

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  45. Jealousy anger insecure is all what brought all these shit,poor woman,now he killed her and he doesn't want to die,big lie,her spirit alone won't let u rest stupid man.

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  46. Reading this story got tears in my eyes. Please women facing domestic abuse should read this article. This will serve as a guide to know when to work out from an abusive marriage. forget what people will say, its insignificant. He that wears the shoes knows where its itches . May God give the family the strength to bear the loss of their daughter. The useless horseband should be sentenced to life in prison with hard labour

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  47. He was obsessed. 'She must be in my house forever' sent a chill down my spine. I'm glad the truth is coming out gradually. A serial cheat with a history of domestic violence who is obsessed with his wife and paranoid that she's cheating. He was a walking bomb that finally exploded. God I wish Ronke listened and left him.
    Its still hard to understand how you can take the life of someone you once loved. How do people get to this point? Heck how do you even take anyone's life?

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    1. From the chats, she actually left, but was advised or persuaded to go back. You advisers, biko learn that you can never vouch for an abusive man.


      My 1000 naira.

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  48. God bless you Stella for being a voice for women, with this Ronke's story I look back and say thank God I damn all consequences and walked away from my ex when I did even after 2beautiful kids I didn't mind what the world will say.

    I was a victim of all sort of abuse physically and emotionally but I was determined that I wont allow marriage and an abusive hubby to kill me a lot of women are going through this. I reached out to you Stella but you wanted me to give out my Identity and I wasn't emotionally ready for that then. even as we speak my kids were forcefully taken away from me by my hubby and his people. I barely see them but am happy am alive for them even if I don't see them.

    Ladies the worst thing that can happen to any woman is to marry an insecure man.
    no man is worth your blood.

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  49. The thought of him switching off the lights and beating her is really scary. Gosh I can't imagine.

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  50. So teary right now. Now I have no reason to b sad breaking off my last relationship,when d guy would search every corners of my bag at midnight,seize & smash my phone over any suspected message or chat,calls me at 1am wanting to speak with my roommates to make sure am in d hostel, come unexpectedly to my house to make sure am home hian....the list IS endless. Thank God I'm FREE!

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  51. Thats why I like stella's blog always fighting a cause for victims
    Plus investigative journalism
    Poor woman all in name of "mrs"

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  52. This is what happens when you marry someone way out of your league. See how insecurity didn't allow the man rest even though he cheated on her ( and I suspect he did that so many times too).
    Insecure people will accuse you of the very thing they are themselves doing because their conscience tells them no one can be straightforward to assuage their guilt.
    I'm so unhappy that she continued to stay even when the abuse had taken a pattern- she knew he would do it again.
    Insecure man! God forbid!

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  53. Goose pimples all over me.....why....why.....why did she stay back. RIP woman. RIP

    956 comment 2016

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  54. I'm glad I left my Ex who was obsessed with me then.Thank you Jesus for using my cousins to help me relocate so as to be far away from him.Obsession is not love,when a man wants to keep track of your every moves,Please find your square root.May God almighty console her loved ones!I pray her kids are raised well.RIP ronke

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  55. This is really Heartbreaking. *uncontrollable tears*

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  56. Sadly the insecure ones are the greatest liars and manipulators. He wouldn't do right by her, and wanted her to love him amidst his wickedness. Her mum and family, her kids? How will they get through this. The saddest thing is the fact that he let neighbours and their filthy words seep into their marriage. Knowing he was even more guilty of everything he accused her of. I wish she left.

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  57. My friend passed through this and worse...He will day she's cheating and sleeping around, ask her to remove her pants so he can check, 1s he sees discharge, he will scream see sperm ooo and the beating that will follow n die. He was living if her money, locks her outside whenever she returns him kast 4rm work. Call her colleagues and friends that are guys to stop calling er and delete her number. Banned her from seeing me or coming to my house, threatens to walk out of the marriage and she will beg and beg! When he travels he locks the house and will tell her to go somewhere else until he returns.She paid the house rent and furnished the apartment. Sponsored her traditional marriage down to even the cloths he wore! He excuse was her pastor said his her husband, was dating a sugar mummy and when she found out he said it was just to get a job. She lost her self confidence and worth. I kept begging her to leave...until he came in her room (he asked her to move over to the guest room, so he and his sugar mummy that he claimed was the lady that replaced his mum, since his mum was dead)one night in front of her sister and told her he needed to fuck! !! And she said she was coming and locked the door,he banged on the door till day break and pple kept calling her landlord to ask if armed robber where in his compound. Immediately it was day break,she packed all her things and left. Till date and read such stories and imagine what would have happened to her!!! Her dad wanted her to come out,her sisters! But this babe refused... My darlinfriend am glad you left that good for nothing man and ur happier and have found true love. No child was involved,it made it easier.

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  58. Lekan was cheating on his wife that was why he was paranoid and thought she was also cheating on him. It was his guilty conscience that caused his insecurity and jealousy. When men cheat, they assume their wives are also cheating on them or they accuse their wives of cheating to divert attention from their own cheating actions.

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  59. This may not go Down well with most SDK followers.

    This man simply has a medical delusional disorder called morbid Jealousy or "OTHELLO SYNDROME" it has another common name I don't remember.

    This is simply a MENTAL DISORDER 100%.

    But its unfortunate he will pay for a psychotic disorder.may Gods will be done.

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    1. Ogbeni sharrap. Medical disorder my left butt cheek. This was just an inately manipulative man. It's not everything that is medical or spiritual. Some acts are just plainly thought about and executed from the evil and wicked depths of their hearts.

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    1. Wat is eeyahhh? Mtcheeeww, Chai dat lady shud av left a longtime!!




      Anty Stella keep in touch?

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  61. Queen can you just shut-up for once. This issue is very sensitive,everything isn't about scoring cheap shots on a blog and being a celebrity in ur distorted mind.
    Must you include tribe in every bloody comment you make.
    DV is not exclusive to any tribe, religion, gender or socio-economic class. It is very obvious you have never lived outside the shores of ur ghetto. If you have and have mixed with ppl of all nationalities and exposure you wont continuously mention tribe.
    Go and get proper education abeg.
    Rest in peace Ronke. Justice will prevail.

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  62. I can't hold back my tears.this is sad.Run away from every insecure man.any man who has anger problems who suspects ,who snoops on social media.A man who has history of beating is not a man to be around.Ladies pls run away from a man with anger issues.let's be wise.marriage is not by force.Run away from any man who.likes to revenge,who keeps malice and is wicked like Joseph.
    Rest in peace ronke.
    Thank you Lord for making me escape from that evil beast of a man called Joseph who has all these evil qualities of ronke shonde's husband.Thank you Jesus.

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  63. I am here wondering what my sister might be going through. Her husband is so domineering, knows not his boundaries, mannerless, disrespectful, arrogant, proud...... I stayed with them few months but couldn't cope cos II couldn't take shit from him and he knew. IHe has no respect for his wife and treats her like shit. He dies not hesitate to remind her how senseless she is (this is someone who graduated 2.1 from a Fed University and senior executive in a bank). I see fear on my sister's face everyday but she wouldn't say anything to me nor her other four sisters. She's damn secretive. At 32, she look 7 to 10 years older. I learnt alot from their home oooo. Now I am married and he KNOWS me well! I mean well!

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  64. RIP Ronke
    The stage was set here.
    He was much older
    He was less attractive than her
    He was less successful than her
    He was less educated than her(from the munched chats, I can safely deduce this)
    The stage was set for jealousy, obsession, paranoia, anger, violence.

    He did not love her. She was his possession. She was to him like a beautiful toy car in one who never imagined he would have this and did not deserve it as he had no idea how to look after this beautiful toy car so he sought ways to make her subservient to him. He hit her several times, he emotionally, physically, sexually and verbally abused her AND SHE PUT UP WITH IT. She enabled him. She tolerated him and in that twisted logic Nigerian women have, she "forgave" him over and over again. The classical Stockholm syndrome.

    Women EMPOWER yourselves. I cannot say and stress it enough. With empowerment comes confidence. Get an education, get a job, learn a trade. Have your own money and investments. Be independent in marriage. Do not tolerate abuse. Do not stand for it. Do not "pray" for an abusive person because unfortunately some individuals are too damaged and too broken to be fixed. It's like a shattered glass tumbler. You can never fix the pieces no matter how hard you try. You will only end up getting shards of glass in ur flesh and you will bleed and hurt. You owe a duty to your children to protect, shield and provide for them. That is sacrosanct.

    Again RIP Ronke.

    YOT

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  65. This Linda is mad. Must you always mention yaraba dis and that. The kidnapper in Imo that killed his girlfriend and 7members of her family. Is he yaraba? The sugar son that killed his lover and carried her Range Rover to Ghana, Is he also yaraba?
    You and James are a bunch of tribalistic idiot on dis blog.

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  66. The man couldn't believe his luck that he could get a babe that hot to marry him,hence his obsession. So sad.

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  67. Hello stella, I once had the same issue with an ex of mine always going through my phones at night while I sleep.He would take my phone e to the toilet, a grown ass man.Heeven even looks like this wife killed maybe they are related. He will come to spy on me at work, come to my house at odd hours of the night just to check if am home. He will tip my gateman to spy on me.it was hell.

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  68. Kai lifeeee!!!! I feel so sorry for the family,especially the mother!!!so sad

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  69. To think my husband is obsessed with me scared the shit out of me,Am a very pretty lady and he is so insecure with my looks,like any man that talks to me hv feelings for me, I was talking to him one day abt the conversation that transpired btwn me and his chairman and he was like, are we that close? I said no bcos he is trying to insinuate the man is hitting on me.. Am not working bcos he won't allow me,I don't hv any business bcos he won't give any capital to me start with, the only thing I manage to squeeze out of him is my university part time program which he finds it difficult to keep up with the payment.. Am tired of him and his STUPID FAMILY, just bcos looks can b decieving they think am having the time of my life in their brother's house.. I really want to walk away with or without my kids jus to save my self but the thought of being alone without having nothing doing and with three kids to look after kills me on the inside. Evn my parent wants me to walk out but bcos we are poor i jus want to patiently graduate from university before waking away at least that shud b my compensation(like I achieve something apart from my kids) Evn if I hv money to start my own makeup artistry business am good to go but I don't hv who to turn to...Staying away from domestic violence is kind of easy for me bcos when never he is picking I jus walk away go inside my room, lock the door and sleep.. Till he goes to work the next morning... I knw one day I will live the kind of life i always wanted with or without him.

    The number one key to staying away from domestic violence is walking away from the scene and trying to manage anger.. If only Ronke cud hv ran away from this man on that fateful day looked herself in her room or evn run to her neighbors then quietly park her things the next day after he has gone to work in the early hours of the morning as he claimed.. I don't knw u Ronke but I pray God gives ur family and those innocent kids the heart to bear this tragedy.. Rest in peace beautiful woman. Your husband will never knw peace bcos their is no peace for the wicked

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  70. Cheating men are the most insecure....Av dated a man too that was obsessed about me..I felt choke n unhappy he accused me of sleeping around yet he sleeps with anything female .I left hm bfr I loose my mind..

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  71. To think my husband is obsessed with me scared the shit out of me,Am a very pretty lady and he is so insecure with my looks,like any man that talks to me hv feelings for me, I was talking to him one day abt the conversation that transpired btwn me and his chairman and he was like, are we that close? I said no bcos he is trying to insinuate the man is hitting on me.. Am not working bcos he won't allow me,I don't hv any business bcos he won't give any capital to me start with, the only thing I manage to squeeze out of him is my university part time program which he finds it difficult to keep up with the payment.. Am tired of him and his STUPID FAMILY, just bcos looks can b decieving they think am having the time of my life in their brother's house.. I really want to walk away with or without my kids jus to save my self but the thought of being alone without having nothing doing and with three kids to look after kills me on the inside. Evn my parent wants me to walk out but bcos we are poor i jus want to patiently graduate from university before waking away at least that shud b my compensation(like I achieve something apart from my kids) Evn if I hv money to start my own makeup artistry business am good to go but I don't hv who to turn to...Staying away from domestic violence is kind of easy for me bcos when never he is picking I jus walk away go inside my room, lock the door and sleep.. Till he goes to work the next morning... I knw one day I will live the kind of life i always wanted with or without him.

    The number one key to staying away from domestic violence is walking away from the scene and trying to manage anger.. If only Ronke cud hv ran away from this man on that fateful day looked herself in her room or evn run to her neighbors then quietly park her things the next day after he has gone to work in the early hours of the morning as he claimed.. I don't knw u Ronke but I pray God gives ur family and those innocent kids the heart to bear this tragedy.. Rest in peace beautiful woman. Your husband will never knw peace bcos their is no peace for the wicked

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      My dear,continue using this tactics untill you finish your education!...biko find your way after that...you will survive it!...

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    2. My husband will hit you for ignoring him, break the door if u lock it. I am just crying reading this. Heaven knows that I am so leaving this marriage.

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  72. Manslaughter. Not Murder

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  73. Even if this woman had left , this man would have still killed her. All of you talking about her leaving, hmmmmmmmm! Pray you dont meet a possessive, jelous, obsessive, selfish, cheating, demonic, insecured, broke and violent man. Am talking from experience I leave in Sweden, the swedish government relocated me 3 good times, to towns that are about 4hrs by train from where we both lived, changed my university and he kept on coming after me even when he was given a ristricted order(kontakt forbud) by the police. It is so easy to find people in Sweden beacuse of the Swedish open data system where you can find anybody's address by just googling the person's name.

    At last they had to grant me a protected identy, so that no one can be able to see my identity again. All this while I was running with our daughter who was just 3 and was telling her teacher and playgroup freinds that pappa has been beating mamma and she will say to them "Pappa sa att han ska döda mamma. Kan ni hjälpa min mamma" meaning my dad said he is going to kill my mum. Can you help my mum?

    I left he came after me, today I live in hiding just to be alive for our daughter, have a very good jobb (am a nurse) and yet am afraid to take a walk in the parks alone, walk in the dark alone, have a relationship, even as peaceful and secured as Sweden is. I went through a lot of therapy but the scares are still there. Pls ladies watch out for the signs, real love is not jelous, possessive and obssessive. There are cases where leaving is not the anwer.

    I wish the Nigerian government will do more on domestic violence as this issue is too heavy for private individuals to handle alone.

    I believe Ronke was more afraid of leaving than staying. She was att a cross road. Rest in peace Ronke.

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    1. Wow I had goose bumps reading ur story. Is he a Nigerian? Wow!!!! I tink say na only oyinbo get all dis stalkerish tendencies

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    2. Good Lord.. your story gave me goosebumps. Why are some men so dysfunctional? I just wish you can relocate to another country like US. I feel for you. It just sounds like a scary hollywood movie. The good Lord will keep you and your baby safe. He will find someone else to take his mind off you.

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    3. He is Nigerian.

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    4. Your story reminds me of the film the "perfect guy". The obsessed lover (can't remember his name)killed the lady's fiancée (Morris Chestnut), there was a restraining order served to the obsessed guy but he kept coming for her to the extent of being in the room whenever the lady and her fiancee made love. (They were not aware he hides under the bed+he installed camera in her room).

      He destroyed the girls career (Sanaa Lathan), killed her fiancee. The girl took matters in to her hands and eventually killed the obsessed lover. She cited self defence.

      I used to think these things happens only in movies. Please be safe. If the movies I watch on obsessed guys are anything to go by, they do not give up. They can keep looking even for 20 years.

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    5. Try and relocate to another Country.

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  74. May her soul finds peace...chai. ..grabs tissue

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  75. When there is insecurity and lack of trust...my dear don't run...., FLY away.. dated a guy in school and his insecurity was on another level ooo. Then when mtn was giving reduced call cost to numbers saved as family and friends. This guy copied out all the numbers I saved as my family and friends and started calling each of them. I got to find out when he called my mom and he forgot about it, then she called him back and I saw the call. Asked him and he confessed o. That was when God started speaking to me oo. The guy drinks and he lies for Africa. The wake up call was when we were having an argument and then he patted my cheek, saying.....you have no respect this girl. Omo God spoke to meme again o and this time I moved.... He begged for a comeback for 2 years. I no gree o. The signs are always there oooo. Open yur eyes. There is no love and shame in the grave oooo

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  76. I remember one time in 2004 or so when I was watching newsline, about a lover who killed his girlfriend, locked her up in his house and ran away. My aunty came visiting then, n she told me to run away from an obsessed person. Fast forward to when I gained admission into the uni, started dating someone that was 7years older, he was in final year n me a jambite. This guy was so obsessed he tried stopping me from talking to both male n female friends. I was allowed to talk to only one short boy cos according to him, I couldn't date such a short boy. I never forgot what I watched on tv, so before he finishes his orders I will always remind him that I had my own life etc. One time he started his usual para, n now said he was doing me a favour by not beating me. Ahhh mogbe, favour ke, I just threw my pillow at him to start beating n walked out of the room, that was the end of that r/ship. I just hope young girls learn to love them self so much that they have zero tolerance for any form of abuse.

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  77. Where are all the men defending him. insecurity is real. This woman should have left since. This one no be love. Does he even have a job? Only a jobless person that will be suspecting someone's move.

    Now, they want to use mental disorder as defence. Yeye people.

    There should be a mental evaluation for some men in Nigeria.


    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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  78. This killer's characteristics perfectly describes Charles Aneke of DBI.
    Accused me of every damn thing!
    I had to abort ship.

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  79. Am so heartbroken...Women! Women!! Women!!! If he hits you leave, if you don't leave, he will kill you. When you are dead, the society you are afraid of what they will say will turn around and mourn you. Dead body no dey defend emself o. Run as fast as your legs can carry you. Don't stay back o. Some will say am putting up with him because of the children, when you die, the children will still be left behind. Abeg If you are in an abusive relationship, it is important to create a safety plan.Figure out ways for you to leave an abuser. Discuss how to deal with emergencies. Suggest safe places to go, such as a shelter or the home of a friend or family member where your abuser might not look. Get help from a court for court order of protection, which requires your abuser to stay away from you. There are so many organisations where you can get help. Just talk to someone about it. @ mena laba, Please that neighbour of yours need an urgent help. There are shelters she can go to and stay there while she sorts herself out. one of such is CHELD Domestic Violence Helplines – 0810 757 2829; 0813 164 3208. Federal Government of Nigeria Toll Free Number for Violation of Girls and Women – 080072732255. Project Alert – 234-1-8209387; 08052004698; 08180091072. Please stay alive to tell your story o biko nu.

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  80. Jesus Christ of Nazareth. The devil is now on earth. Ladies forget about what people will say or am staying because of my children. Take a big leap as soon as you see signs, unless you want people to tell your story.

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  81. Thank God for my life o. My husband is just like this. I felt like it was my experience being described. I chopped plenty beatings especially during pregnancy. Thank God for my church and family who gave me the strength to stylishly ease him out of my life and that of my kids. Worst part is this guy beats up his father and mother too yet this people are always in support of him beating me. The guy does not work and he is a master of deception. He claims to have graduated from one of the best uni in the UK but guy is a drop out and yet his parents lie for him. They even tried to take my kids away but I fought them. A jobless man wants to take my kids and give to his mum who didnt bring him up properly. Infact one day I will find the strength and send in my chronicle o. God I just take you that I am alive....I keep recalling a time he beat me whilst I was 7months pregnant n I hit my head on the wall and he still kept the blows to my head coming and all I saw was black and lost orientation.if say God no dey my side na so person go die o. I no fit shout marriage is not by force

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  82. sad sad sad!
    sad that you were the enabler. the one who tried to convince her that he will change. that he was able to be talking to you after such actions really makes me angry.....

    friends and family should stop enabling abusers. stop telling your sister, friend that he will change..stop making them go back..

    now shes dead...im sure in your heart you blame yourself too

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  83. Ndi igbo akpokasiba!
    unu na violence agbago ndu. Odi unu na obara!
    crazy igbo people ndi aruru ala..

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  84. Anon 12.53pm, May thunde fire you and strike you down for that baseless comment you just made.
    It's Provocation right? Don't worry you will annoy smone one day, d person will be provoked and stab you to death. Then ur family will pat the person on the back and say it was just provocation.
    I pity d woman unfortunate enuf to call you husband. Bcos I know you must be a man.



    Stella apologies on my language, but dis story has just hit a nerve and I'm sooooo pissed off about some of dese silly men that think it's right for a man to continuously cheat outside, even having a child outside. Then some of dis silly men still have d guts to talk abt dis lady sleeping around.
    Did she harm him in any way. Even when she found out abt d child outside she still remained in d marriage. That will have personally been d breaking point for me and so many other women.

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  85. Such a sad story, but the truth is many women will still remain in abusive relationships just solely to maintain their EGO.
    While other will still enter an abusive relationship in order to bear MRS.
    May her soul RIP.

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  86. I cried reading this. God please save women going through this now, give them that courage to leave regardless of what people would say . Still crying jare

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  87. @anon 13.38

    Are you legs broken?
    Cant you leave?
    Is marriage a do or die affair
    In fact am tired of talking.

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  88. NO LONGER A MAN'S WORLD11 May 2016 at 16:49

    To be honest i just dont understand how some women can tolerate domestic violence.
    Seriously i dont. My ex-boyfriend once hit me... actually let me be honest.... we fought.
    We argued, he hit me, i hit him back, he slapped me, i grabbed his balls and almost crushed it.. mehnn we fought. We pick belt, i broke cocacola bottle ready for action.
    Cunny man die, cunny person bury am. So let me not pretend to be a victim.
    Women please stop being the victim. Enable yourself to be independent.
    It is no longer a mans world abeg.

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  89. This guy is mentally unstable. Just because someone is not roaming the streets looking mad doesn't mean they're normal. She never should've married him in the first place, there must have been signs she ignored.

    Also someone turns off the light and beat you up once, there never should've been a second time, let alone multiple times. Those kids though, they don't deserve this.

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  90. from wikipedia

    "Morbid jealousy, also known as Othello syndrome or delusional jealousy, is a psychological disorder in which a person is preoccupied with the thought that their spouse or sexual partner is being unfaithful without having any real proof,[1] along with socially unacceptable or abnormal behaviour related to these thoughts.
    Some symptoms of pathological jealousy include:

    Accusing partner of looking or giving attention to other people.
    Questioning of the partner's behavior.
    Interrogation of phone calls, including wrong numbers or accidental phone calls, and all other forms of communication.
    Not allowing any social media accounts, facebook, twitter etc.
    Going through the partner’s belongings.
    Always asking where the partner is and who they are with.
    Isolating partner from their family and friends.
    Not letting the partner have personal interests or hobbies outside the house.
    Controlling the partner's social circle.
    Claiming the partner is having an affair when they withdraw or tries to escape abuse.
    Accusing the partner of holding affairs when the marriage's sexual activity stops because of the abuse.
    Verbal and/or physical violence towards the partner, the individual whom is considered to be the rival, or both.
    Blaming the partner and establishing an excuse for jealous behavior.
    Denying the jealous behavior unless cornered.
    Threatening to harm others or themselves

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  91. I doff my hat for you Stella! I'm all tears reading this

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  92. You rock Stella, no dulling on this blog.......... But you dey vex me at times sha, am sure you why........ irregardless i still love you... Oya chop ya kiss

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