NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TRUST ISSUES BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Hello Stella,thank you once again for this platform you have created.....God continue to bless you.Amen.
I sent a chronicle last year about my relationship.I complained about how my boyfriend yells when he is angry and how he wanted to take me home for introduction November last year and I got advice from my SDK family,although some said I should not follow him home for the introduction till I see changes and all,but as usual we tend to think with our heart.
I did follow him home and the family were happy to meet me and welcomed me well.The issue now is we have had issues about a certain girl he was seeing and I found out and gave him hell,but i lost trust in him because of how he handled the issue,sometimes even getting upset that I bring her topic up and i found it hard to trust him.
he has told me that he had broken up with her even told his family members that he is no longer with her because they found out eventually. I dont even believe that he has broken up with her because she is his friend on Facebook,likes his post till date ,that doesn't look like a relationship that has ended right?
Now the family has asked for a date to come visit my parents and tell them of their sons intentions to marry me,but I have kept on postponing it.I care about him but marriage with someone I don't trust again is a risk I am scared of taking.I have been adviced that he would change after marriage and I don't know what to believe, please SDK blog members what do you think I should do?
please help a sister. Would we ever get pass this issue we have? Can I learn to trust him?Am I blinded by emotions and not seeing the true picture? Would he ever change?He swears he has changed and not with her but i still have doubt.My questions are endless.please you are all free to say what you think. Thanks
Hmmmmm....
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
DOUBTS OF A SIDE CHICK WHO IS ABOUT TO BECOME WIFE
Hi Stella,you have been doing a great job.please I need your red pen and please don't publish my email address.
I met this guy 4 yrs ago,let me call him Okon (not real name)He was married when I met him to an actress.
He's a rich guy so we hung out and just kept being friends and I know he was cheating on her with some other chicks including me but he loved his wife like mad.
The person who introduced me to him,before the introduction said he wanted a 3 some with his wife and me and it was out of curiosity I went so would know if she would show up but she didnt.It was just her hubby and then while we were discussing,told him about what my friend said about him and his wife,he laughed it off and said I shouldn't mind my friend.
He doesn't stay in the country so when he travelled back to his base he called me one day and asked me to set his wife up and find out if she's a lesbian.I told him that I won't do that and I won't be a party to his marriage being broken.
He pleaded with me and I still refused so he said he would get someone else to do it.Told him not to look 4 trouble where there's none so we ended the convo.
Around 2014 he he was traveling back to his base and said he wanted a serious relationship with me,asked him what happened to his wife,he said she was cheating on him and he has sent her away.I reminded him that he was doing the same and he said he is a man and allowed to marry more than one wife cause he is a prince and that she can't be sleeping around while he is tolling to put food on their table so we started dating seriously.
Now my challenge,he wants to come see my people when he comes back into the country,am scared he might cheat on me just like he was doing to her.He never gives me anything even when I ask.Says he loves me but I have a lot of doubts.Have spoken with him about my doubts but he said there's nothing to worry about.
His ex wife has moved on with another man and has even put to bed for the new man.do I go on with the marriage or not?
*HEEEEEEY!!!!!This Chronicle is very familiar with a story i know,let me inbox you please.
Jesus fix it
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Guess am not the lady u re referring to here lol. Anyway get down with him, he will definatly change after marriage, that's guys for you, because he is not fully commited to you yet that is the reasons let me say he is still flriting around.
DeletePoster 2: you are asking if he will eventually cheats on you, oh yesss he will. Are there still men that doesn't cheat on their wife's? Especially such man that was cheating on his ex wife. Nothing change my dear, be prepared to be sweep away with same broom that was used for the ex wife same way. Don't go into such marriage plz. Ur own rightful life partner will locate u.
Poster 1- no advice for u bcos the last time we did,u didn't take to it ....so this time around we are saving our strength and MB!
DeletePoster two-the same thing will be done to u and u will still come back with another chronicle just like poster one did
Bia Poster 1: we gave u advice,you didn't follow it,now you are back again? I remember someone clearly warned you that you'll be back again if you didn't follow the advice you rejected, you didn't hear!!! Abeg dey go! Follow your heart again you hear??? Na marriage o!!! Take my word,he is nacking her...
DeleteStella why you dey do us longer throat with this gist...finish it na!!! Oya decoders, mgbo! Start decoding o!!!
Poster 2, yes he may cheat on you with numerous girls.
DeleteSofia is that you? Am sorry for u. Leave that man alone. Ashawo ten kobo, from Owerri-abj-lagos-south Africa. The actress u are talking about just put to bed, I won't mention her name. Get a life. Shediat!!!
DeletePoster 1,y are you here again, when u don't listen,don't allow us to waste our advice on u.u will still do what u like so swerve
DeletePoster 2,so he is not even spending money on u,y are u there,he will marry you and leave u here,and u will get horny and cheat and the whole circle will repeat itself
I think poster two is very stupid.
DeletePoster 2. You fit each other. What decent girl agrees on a threesome?? I bet he won't even marry you. What else do you have to offer that the first wife couldn't?? Someone opened his mouth to tell you he could cheat because he is a man, You are still asking questions. You don't trust him. Which kain yeye marriage u wan enter so?? . You can marry if it's money you want,since that's what most girls marry for these days, then marry. If na real marriage you want, abeg dodge this time bomb.
DeleteUche,this poster is talking about ur ex-husband ooo,
Delete@poster2 Leave Uche Elendu's Husband
DeleteTwo extremely stupid posters. Another 5 minutes of my life wasted reading this crap.
DeletePoster one, Shebi if we give our advice you'll still follow your heart? So what dyu wantu hear, please carry your cross alone and if he's not committed before marriage, he won't be after. Use your brain.
DeletePoster two, you're OYO, Better don't start what you'll end up regretting. If he cheats with you, he'll definitely cheat on you. When he's tired of you, he'll send someone to set you up also. You'll see.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteSo what Should we tell you? Won't you follow your heart like you did the 1st time after you made us waste our time?
Poster 2
The 3 of you are all very stupid indeed!
Poster one, no matter d advice u get here today, I'm so sure you would still follow ur heart so lemme keep mute n pray for u.
DeletePoster two, hahahahahahaha! You know deep inyour heart d guy will still cheat on u so y r u asking? Hahahaha he told u he's a man n he can cheat! Just brace urself, he'll cheat n na you go tire sef. Goodluck! Ask ciara if future stopped cheating when she met him.
DeleteP2: What goes around comes around. What u sow is what u reap. It's d law of nature. Some people call it Karma.
DeleteBut thank God for d grace in Christ Jesus for all who genuinely repent & turn to Him.
P1: When going into something as serious as marriage, u shld reason with ur head and not ur heart.
Relationships need trust to thrive and when trust is not there, that relationship is a disaster waiting to happen bc distrust smothers love with time.
My advice :don't marry someone u don't trust or u will end up miserable for d rest of ur married life.
Marriage isn't something u walk in and out of. It is commitment and it is sacred. Don't experiment wd it. Make d right decision now. So it's either take his word for it wholeheartedly or u walk out.
Let me give u this secret: Seek God's will in all you do and He will direct ur ways' Pro 3:6
~mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com ~
P2: What goes around comes around. What u sow is what u reap. It's d law of nature. Some people call it Karma.
DeleteBut thank God for d grace in Christ Jesus for all who genuinely repent & turn to Him.
P1: When going into something as serious as marriage, u shld reason with ur head and not ur heart.
Relationships need trust to thrive and when trust is not there, that relationship is a disaster waiting to happen bc distrust smothers love with time.
My advice :don't marry someone u don't trust or u will end up miserable for d rest of ur married life.
Marriage isn't something u walk in and out of. It is commitment and it is sacred. Don't experiment wd it. Make d right decision now. So it's either take his word for it wholeheartedly or u walk out.
Let me give u this secret: Seek God's will in all you do and He will direct ur ways' Pro 3:6
~mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com ~
Poster 2 Leave Uche Elendu's Husband
DeleteNobody should even advice poster one... just reading that she sent in chronicles last year and BVs advised her to end the relationship, yet she didn't take any advice. How are we sure you will take today's advice?
ReplyDeleteComing here again to seek advice. Next year you will still come again...
Poster 1-you think say I come here come waste my precious time give you advice wey you no go follow?taaaaarh*follow that mind wey push youfollow am go house
DeletePoster 2-home wrecker..just gerrout
Poster Leave Uche Elendu's Husband
DeletePoster 2 ,leave that man alone. Who doesn't know that rich man with customized plate numbers, Nku 1,Nku 2, Nku 3 😀😀😀.
DeleteUche E. don move on,no time for rubbish.
I wan talk plenty but make I keep my mouth shut ooo. Stella make I no find my comment.
Poster 2- how can you even be considering marriage yo such a man? A man who has that type of mentality? Anyhow, if you don't mind him cheating pls go ahead and enjoy the money.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 - handwritings on the wall. Follow them
Poster 1: did you not give vagina? That is the killer of trust ; since he did it with me in secret why not with someone else?
ReplyDeleteYes it is familiar, especially where she mentioned the setting up of the wife as a lesbian, maybe in comment section?
ReplyDeleteposter 1:they adviced u not to go with him the first time u read avice finish and did what ur heart feels now u have come baack for another advice u no even seriou.EVen if they advice u again u will still take him back claiming d heart caused it so me i will not advice u.I am sorry for those that will waste their advice cos i see u coming for a3rd chronicle(some people enjoy sending chronicles shaa)
ReplyDeleteposter 2:SO ,u knew he was a useless man and started dating him after he left his wife now u r afraid of bla bla bla, a man tells u he is allowed to cheat but his wife cannot.Please goan marry him u hear what society and desperation causes.Ayam tired of all these chronicles whether true or not.
Broom wey dem use flog first wife, that same broom de wait for second wife.
ReplyDeleteThe second gets beaten with a more harsher broom
DeletePoster 1 if you have your doubts after his assurances to you that he is no longer seeing the girl then it means you are still seeing the signs and know that he isn't saying the truth.
ReplyDeleteIs he going to change like people told you? I don't think so and I'd tell you to be very sure before you jump into this thing. A relationship without trust is liking fetching water in a basket.
I already know you'd marry this guy no matter how much most of us try to dissuade you but you see good or bad only you would carry it at the end of the day, so it's your choice.
Poster 2 the cane they used to flog the first one will me meted out to you so murasi.wear your seat belt tight.
I'm sure his ex was the one feeding him. You want to enter one chance, sorry for you.
u will still do what you want @Poster 1
ReplyDeletePoster 2: well done ooo u hear,rubbish
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, please follow your heart as you did last year, after we advised you, you still followed your heart and did what you was advised against, so this time around, follow that same heart.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, he never gives you anything even if you ask, so what are you still doing with him? Have you not seen many millionaire wives that they dare not touch their husbands car? Because he's a prince and rich doesn't mean he will spend on you if you eventually marry him, he's stingy while dating, he will be over stingy when you marry him. It's better you use your brain and follow your heart too.
*Larry was here*
see how poster two goes on about how the ex has already moved on and had a child for another man like u were not eyeing her home before now, like u didnt know u wanted to be in her place already.My sister feel free and marry the man jare i need to read more chronicles.
ReplyDeletePoster one you don see mumu na,or kids playing in sand that don't have what to do. Nobody should waste time advicing her like the first time,she will still follow her heart @ the end of it. From anger issues to ex gf/side chick brouhaha.mscheew
ReplyDelete2nd poster-no words for you.
Poster 2: You judged yourself! The same measure you used on the wife is what you are afraid of. Of course, he is "a prince and entitled to more than one wife" so why won't he have a string of strange women all around the world? Or is your vagina allergic to multiple wandering penis? If you did not like to be cheated on why did you go with someones husband?
ReplyDeletePoster 1:Guess am not the lady u re referring to here lol. Anyway get down with him, he will definatly change after marriage, that's guys for you, because he is not fully commited to you yet that is the reasons let me say he is still flriting around.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you are asking if he will eventually cheats on you, oh yesss he will. Are there still men that doesn't cheat on their wife's? Especially such man that was cheating on his ex wife. Nothing change my dear, be prepared to be sweep away with same broom that was used for the ex wife same way. Don't go into such marriage plz. Ur own rightful life partner will locate u.
My thoughts exactly.. Jesus fix it. lols.. Pls any ideas on wht someone can do in lag to v fun. my birthday s on saturday n m new in lag... #Sad face
ReplyDeleteOut of curiosity she agreed for the threesome which didn't take place, but she agreed for it....
ReplyDeletehmmmmmm, bitches everywhere....
Ashawos plenty for this blog, yet they could advice someone as if King Solomon's knowledge runs in them...
Decoders should decode poster two
ReplyDeleteSecond poster.
ReplyDeleteSomeone told you he's allowed to be polygamous, you are saying you are scared he might cheat on you? Or you would rather have more wives after you than cheating. You want to exclusively have him, after you got him 'sharingly' ?
Poster 1... blog visitors advised you not to go, you refused and went, so why are you disturbing us with this your story. Abeg gerrarrahia. You want to be ghost girl friend that is still asking mumu question if to allow ghost enter her. Una no well at all.
ReplyDeletePoster 2... cane they used for 1st wife, dey wait for second wife. The guy is just stupid. Hope he will tell God he is allowed to cheat if he passes on. Women with peanut brain.
If we advise you now, you will behave like poster 1.
SO NO ADVISE FOR BOTH OF YOU
1. You were advised initially to watch his character before making any move to see his family but went ahead with your decision, now you're back again. The advise that bvs will give you might still fall on a rocky ground, follow your heart.
ReplyDelete2. You're treading on a dangerous path. Hnmmm
Women. We are our own worst enemies. A man is cheating on his wife with you yet he wants to marry you and you're having doubts. So you now have a conscience and you're now trying to protect your happiness after contributing to the destruction of another. STOP BELIEVING THE LIES MEN TELL. They'll literally say anything just to have sex with you/keep you on the side. He was seeing other girls? SO?! Did you have to participate?! I have no advice for you because you're probable one of those people who thinks she's smarter than life itself. He'll surely CHEAT on you mercilessly as this kind of man isn't used to a monogamous life.
ReplyDeleteLong story short, you deserve whatever hell you get. I have no pity for you.
Probably
DeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteOf course, if he doesn't change before marriage, he would change after marriage.
Ignore your doubts and female intuition. They aren't valid.
People be jumping into fire and asking if they'll burn.
Poster two:
You both are birds of identical plumage. You suit each other.
Infact, I suggest you should get married to him ASAP, before he goes and makes an innocent woman's life hell.
Happy Married life in advance.
#WhiteDiamondOut
So true at poster two..please marry him before a decent lady falls in and get the punishment that is meant for you.
DeletePoster 1: you've been warned about the guy n you are still hear asking questions again. Please receive brain or are you prepared to turn your chronicles to series for us here
ReplyDeletePoster 2: you are sacred he will cheat on you? Why were you not sacred of cheating with him? My dear,what goes around comes around so making up your mind that you will not be the only one. He has even told you so what is scarring about the issue? you are either in or out
Poster 1 will still follow her heart no matter any advice she reads here, so don't waste your time advising her. It's her type that dies in DV, don't know why girls refuse to use their brains when they see all the signs needed for them to take a walk. More chronicles loading from poster 1.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, the same thing that happened to his wife will also happen to you. Even if he marries 20 women, he must send all of the packing. Rubbish chronicles.
Mmmmm @ poster 1- I advise that you leave the man cos trust issue is a very sensitive one I doubt if you would stop doubting him so move on and be happy.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2 i am just praying that you won't listen to the advise here and marry the man so he can play you as he played his ex(es).
You won't learn, he's stingy, playboy... still you are asking foolish question.
Poster 1, why are you asking for advise that you know you wont even follow? Biko follow your heart like you always do.
ReplyDeletePoster two... i've got nothing.
Odiegwu! Poster 2, can you stand the heat? Coz the nigga is definitely gonna cheat on you too darling.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, aren't we supposed to be angry that u didn't take our previous advice? Pls still follow your heart. Coz you wii still not take our advice
Na wa o
ReplyDeletePoster 1;
ReplyDeleteI would have advised you but that's a waste of strength since you'll eventually follow your heart.. Goodluck!
Poster two;
Rrruuuunnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!
Poster 1. How can a man you don't trust and is being shady as hell change for the better AFTER marriage? It'll only get worse. If you feel like you're ready for a lifetime of snooping and feeling like second-best, go on.
ReplyDeletePlease try and find where you lost your sense and collect it back because your own being clouded by emotions is too much! This is 2016, love dey see road well well, get eye for back sef.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteMarriage changes noone. Your relationship + a ring is how i define marriage. Marriage doesn't change anybody!
Poster 2
I'm no judge but I'm not of the opinion that one can marry a divorcée. Good luck!
Poster 1: You two better address this issue before you set date and get WEDDED. Emotional baggages are unfinished businesses, they are always carried over into marriages where they cause serious strains. I would tell you this is your red flag.....try to seek God's face in this, incase the heavens have dropped a message you have refused to read. Do not be a wife of convenience to an indisciplined man, who has no sense of boundaries or respects exclusivity in relationships. Pause, watch and pray........ Do your war room now......Pray for yourself not him. Ask God to bring your husband and give a clearer sign about this dude. Goodluck!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You seem deeply irresponsible......choi!
Dating a married guy, showing up for threesomes, being proposed a lesbian tryst.........bla bla bla.
Babes, you are strong oh..... i don't know why you are sending chronicles. This is the life you have unconsciously set in motion for yourself, why are you having double thoughts now...... because you might soon be a wife. Sisi Karma is on 6-inch heels with some of xoxo mystery's lipstick waiting to do threesomes with you and your prince.
I think you are asking the wrong question here. You need God first not this marriage. The answer you seek has been long answered, Mr Prince will cheat, he has ready explanations for it and he is no husband-material judging by his past actions. Go and re-arrange your priorities, this one is not for you.......but if you think he will inflict himself on a decent girl later and you are desperate.....pls take him, you would be enjoying the fruit of your labour.
He asked you to go hook up his ex-wife......shivers. This guy has no respext for you. Hope he doesn't set you up with his dog, club members, business associates. Na you sabi.
You told him about your doubts......claps hands for you. Just use your head, marry this guy and you will have be regular customer in the chronicles..........we might even give you scholarship.
Ehmmmm..Stella, that info you are seeking, can you share..... my ears are hot.
Xoxo mystery, were you the one that invented that rubbernband effect phrase. I didn't know there was a name for that tying your heart after sex action.
When trust is broken marriage can never stand.
ReplyDeletePoster one. You be fool. No matter how people here advice you, you will still not listen. Stop bothering people with your sorry story abeg.
ReplyDeleteFirst poster, you were here sometimes ago and BV's. Told you not to follow him but just as you said "we tend to think with our heart" so you followed him...now you're back here again seeking for advice, I'm sure if Bv's should tell you to truncate it, you'll still reason with your heart and go ahead.. Please just do what pleases you
ReplyDeletePoster 2.... Karma has no menu, it serves you what you deserve
Poster two your story get k-leg
ReplyDeleteWhere is my epistle??? *wails uncontrollably*
ReplyDeleteKai, this is painful...
Sorry posters. I'll just read comments *blows nose*
Poster two. Seems you don't have any sense of reasoning. Do you have anything doing at all ? Your eyes go soon clear. Senseless strawberry generation
ReplyDeletemummy stella,
ReplyDeleteplease post my chronicle, sent it a few days ago.
tanx
Hmm. Stella Pls spill o
ReplyDeleteMe I'll just read comments today ooooo
ReplyDeleteP2: na money u want Jo.
ReplyDeleteP1: he is til seeing dt girl.
Poster one
ReplyDeleteWhy should bvs waste their hard earned energy...??? On you
Poster two
Decoders decode abeg
Its uchechi elendu's ex husband. She jus gave birth for someone else, the ex prince, abroad. Well, she has always been a lesbian right from fggc Owerri.
DeleteUche is an unrepentant lesbian!
DeleteNo shame in her le-le game, it's irritating...
Poster 1, Please do not go ahead with marriage plans if you do not trust the guy. And NO! He won't change after marriage. See, this is what you will do. Get his phone on a particular day/night, make yourself comfortable and go through the phone, yes, I said it, go thru his phone thoroughly and leave no stone untouched. This way, if you find out he has lied to you, you know what to do. But don't go ahead with the marriage having serious doubts . Trust me, it is not a good thing. I am a married woman and I can tell you, if I didn't trust my husband, we won't be where we are today.
ReplyDeleteposter1: I do not think you need to send in a chronicle because like you sed, you had sent in your chronicle last year and despite the advise you got, you still went ahead to do what pleased you. You know the answer already so just do what your mind says!
ReplyDeleteposter2: I don't even understand your chronicle sef........
Poster 2
ReplyDeletePlease hunnie do not marry another woman's husband .karma is a bitch and trust me, that man will surely cheat on you and later remind you that you are a product of his conquest. HE WILL RUB IT IN YOUR FACE SOME DAY! This is not a potential husband but the devil's trap
Poster 1 you asked for advice the first time, got it but didnt take any of it. Still went ahead to follow your heart. Now you are back, for what naaa? Another advice that you wont heed, biko stop wasting our time and follow your heart again.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 karma is smiling at your door. He is rich but doesnt give you anything even when you ask , let me borrow laugh kwakwakwakwa you are on a loooooong thing. Misery is staring you in the face and you want to open your door and hug it.
All I have to say is that poster1&2 will still go ahead with whatever plans they already have even if we advise them from now till jesus comes.
ReplyDeletePlease where is the like button. Na you make sense pass
DeleteWhy r u scared, Heheeheeeh no be wetin u want? U r a side chic,u no wan side chic now u want to marry him.kkkkk!!Karma is a bitch. He will bring foursome self to ur bed. Awaiting ur SOS chronicles soon.
ReplyDeleteStellz pls don't filter comments oh. Na here I go sleep. I don already send my security man to go bring my house come here. Choi, see juicy chronicle.
ReplyDeleteCrazy people everywhere on SDK's blog.
DeletePlease let me know when your 'house' arrives! 😂
*yawns
ReplyDeleteposter two....he will so cheat on you ehn..u will cry blood,and your own will be worse because he already knows u as a runs babe sef...hehehhehe na house arrest be your matter. e jor, mábinu ,marry him ehn.pleaseeee , i am waitiing patiently for your chronicle. kai,e go sweet me die!
ReplyDeleteposter one, please drop him ooooooooooooooo............which other advice remain?
dont settle for less.
Mmmmmm I knw d story too but this poster too nawa oo,i knw say u don put maggi,pepper,salt and crayfish to make d story very sweet.go marry ur prince abegi
ReplyDeletePoster 2!!! You are about to marry Uche Elendu's husband? Yes he will cheat on you just like he cheated on his wife with u.
ReplyDeleteYansh opening day (open day in sch)
DeleteSomborri got it right at last!!!
DeleteNa real Jesus fix it!
ReplyDeleteNarrator 1 so that after we advise u finish u go say na ur heart u dey use think ba?
ReplyDeletePoster2,you should have coded this chronicle a little now.I know who you are talking about the moment I saw actress.Anyways,why are you scared of marrying him?he has told you he's a man and has the license to cheat so....
ReplyDeleteposter 2; u said he wanted a threesome wit u and his wife, and out of curiousity u went to see if she would show up? Rubbish! You r a runs girl... its as simple as dat! Besides he is a cheat and will remain one even if he's married to miss world. He doesn't give u anything, even if u ask and u are considering marrying him? Move away ur ass from him hun... he has no regards for u. But as usual, you single girls will never listen.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,why are you scared of being cheated on? When you were frollicking with another woman's horseband you were enjoying it abi? Well you know what they say about the cane used to flog the first wife? There lies your answer..If you started out as the other woman,you can bet your ass that you'll never be the only woman
ReplyDeletePoster 1, OYO
Poster2, u are abt to dig ur own grave.
ReplyDeletePoster one: you didn't believed us on the first chronicle, is it this one you will believe?
ReplyDeletePoster two: you don't want to see or even read the handwriting on the world bah?
You two are not serious set.
Handwriting on the wall!
DeleteHandwriting on the wall!!
Handwriting on the wall!!!
Lets say it together
Handwriting on the wall! Hian!
Hahahahaha. Crazy
DeleteThanks anons, that was what I typed, but my autocorrector in my phone just wanted to correct it that way. At least you understood what I was saying. Unam asanu.
DeleteThe pankere that he used to flog the iya-ile is on the roof for you. Ode. He will cheat on you.
ReplyDeletePoster !- in marriage there are a lot of risk and uncertainty, Just know that it becomes different when you eventually get married. so it's a question of understanding and tolerance. Are you prepared.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- The foundation is faulty. Another man's poison is another man's meat. try ya luck and see if it will work out...... am out
Poster1,people do not change,they can only pretend.And you can't change them either.Make up your mind to adapt and live with it or NOT. -->Key.
ReplyDeletePoster2,what goes around comes around...
That cane used in flogging the first wife is hidden somewhere inside the ceiling waiting for your grand arrival.
Would we ever get pass this issue we have?NO, Can I learn to trust him?NO,Am I blinded by emotions and not seeing the true picture?YES, Would he ever change?NO,He swears he has changed and not with her but i still have doubt. If you still have doubt then move on without him.
ReplyDeleteBut again,how are we sure you will take to our advise?
Poster 2-him no dey give u money,and you are scared he will cheat on you?my friend you know the answer.
Poster 1 you were warned ahead of time to free this guy but you went ahead,now you are back with the same 'should I go ahead question". Patient bvs will answer you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, get ready! Tie your wrapper well because worse punishment will be meted out to you. That man is the "S" in the word "SELFISH". You will suffer! If the wife has really moved on,then i thank God for giving her rest from that wicked man. As for you,please marry him cuz you deserve each other.
If it is the same man i know, shawty, this man was hitting on me on FB while married to his wife o years ago. But who knows, he might av changed. My 2cents. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:so as he finished cheating on his wife with you and other chicks you think he will not cheat on you cause your pussy is heavenly or what??.why do people reason in such manner,same way he was cheating on his wife with you,that will be the way other girls will sleep with him. cause both of you have spiritual stupidity
ReplyDeletePoster 2 sounds like Prince Nku and Uche Elendu.... If he's the 1, please flee. He is not meeting your people anything, all lies. Goodness, do not fall for it. so many tea to spill but I prefer not to. Use your head not your heart, I know them.
ReplyDeleteCaro
Stop advising her biko..poster please marry him and save a decent lady untold heartache and trouble. You both are filthy and deserve each other. Chai! You go see pepper for that marriage ehn!
DeleteToday's chronicle is hot, Poster 1, you already have ur answer. I feel if you don't want him again let him go and look for someone that suit him.
ReplyDeleteMoreover don't you think his ex would be happy you eventually part ways?
Poster 2. Make ur choice if you love him the. Go ahead
decorders abeg who is the actress here over to you
ReplyDeletePOSTER2...ASHEWO
ReplyDeleteYou go enter one chance with this guy
You've been sleeping with other people's husband
Nne get ready
I smell KARMA
I hope is not Mercy Johnson or Uche Elendu. Karma is real.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 in the end you will still do what tou feel is right for you!So why ask for the advice you wont use. Use your head mami!
ReplyDeletePoster one, you are very STUPID!! to have come here to even make a fool of us by telling us you threw our hard earned advise to you. Do we look stupid to you? Are we your mate? Come, don't ever send chronicles again do you hear me??. Go do whatever you want and we don't care.
ReplyDeleteWhat a child........
Poster two, Follow your heart like poster one. You two should be best of friends you know.
Poster1...you received the first advise and did whatever you wanted. If we advise you again, you will still do what you want. I don't have that time.
ReplyDeletePoster2...You mean Prince Nku. Uche Elendu's former husband. I hope you are not Chizoba. Moneymaker's wife, i luh you but could this be your friend Chizzy about to marry Uche Elendu's former husband. I know she was once in love with his late brother.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Nyash opening!!!..make una come o. So money maker's wife is a prostitute. Chisos!!
DeleteThe two chronicles described here a very bad prospects for husbands, I hate to bursts your bubble. the preambles are not good prognosis for marriage. I remember noticing all the bad signs when I was about to marry. but the invitation cards had already gone out , I was worried about what people will say. I am tired of men. Generally they are not worth it, especially under the marriage institutionn. they are good as lovers and boy friends because sometimes they are still motivated by the cookie jar or other possible competition especially if you're a worthy catch.
ReplyDeleteMy observation from experience is this:
1. Men benefit more from marriage cos you come in to order their life , while yours become disordered.
2. If you are already financially thriving , they eventually deplete you one way or the other. I say this because they are not loyal and they are not there when you need then, so you're on your own.
3. They deplete you emotionally. damage your emotions. they make you cynical and weary of love.
They are not worth it ooooo.
ladies my advice.
1.Get a source of income for your self. The one from men are not sustainable.
2. Marry if you must. as in if you cant face the societal riddle. but plan for it to fail. or preempt that a failure is a likely occurrence. especially in our time.
3. Have you kids legitimately if you cant bear being called baby mama and plan for an escape cos marriage is not a sustainable arrangement , under dysfunctional environment that is..
4. for those that get gbenshed and dumped. reorient your mind. if you need gbenshing, take it in and forget what the outcome will be. so if he walks away you knew the outcome of the gbenshinhg anyway....lookat it this way you cheated him , not he cheating you. duh!
expect very little of men.. they are not worth it.
only those that were very properly groomed by parents with high societal values. watch out ....
cheers
There are still responsible men out there
DeleteU couldn't have said it any better!
Delete@ Anon 17:17, kpele! I guessed ur hubby has showed u pepper and u r now very bitter. Pls don't lead our young ladies astray with ur unholy doctrines. Dat u were not patient enough to meet ur Mr. Right doesn't mean that Men of honor and integrity no longer exist. Pls mk sure u start the engine before making any adjustments. Kpele once again.
DeleteWow. You must ve been through hell with men but this is a cynical and warped view of the male folk.
DeleteWe already know most of them are full of shit but there are still many good men out there.
These two posters just need resetting slaps. Mtcheew
ReplyDeleteThe weather too sweet, hope my little baby won't disturb me.
ReplyDelete#1- For your mind, you wanna be his wife... odiegwu. Aka eji zapu nke mbu still there o.
#2- You need Jesus now that the world is ever changing.
Uh uh,sorry I am coming under anonymous,I am poster one,the first time I sent in chronicle,the advice was a fifty fifty situation,so it is not like all bvs advised me not to go and I did,some said I should wait and watch if he His attitude changes I could go on with the introduction and sincerely it changed,he doesn't yell again and he managed to hide the relationship with the girl, as I am team no snooping I didn't find out till later,so please make una no vex,advice is still needed biko,and for the insults please take it easy with me.thanks and love you all.
ReplyDeleteUh uh,dearest bvs I am poster one,the last time I sent in chronicle the advise I got was more like a fifty fifty thing,some told me to be patient and wait if he changes I could go ahead with the introduction and he did change ,the only thing was he his the affair with the girl so well that I Dont know how he did it,I am team no snoop so I guess I missed a lot of things,I started seeing a lot after the introduction and complained, quarrelled with over the issue that I got tired and had to bring it as chronicle again,biko not like I disregarded advice given to me,and for the insults please take it easy with me,the truth I need my bv family that was why I came back so make Una no vex
ReplyDeleteGet lost idiot. Go and face your warrant and leave us alone. Sawdust brain.
DeleteWe'll give POSTER 1 pieces of advise & she'll probably ignore them and come back with a ThIRD Chronicle.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm. Yansh opening
ReplyDeleteMay God have mercy on both of you.
ReplyDeleteI can see that you only claim to be an SDK BV by mouth yet you don't allow yourselves to learn from all the advice from previous chronicles since you came to this blog and now you both expect miracles.
poster 2,pasan ta fi na iya ile onbe ni ori aja fun iyawo the karma wey go follow u heh ee dey on 360degree gbam u expect a guy that u want to do a threesome with to respect u after marriage make u self sit down reason am
ReplyDeleteposter 1 :- follow ur heart cuz it obvious u are crazy in love and no matter how we advice u na wetin dey ur mind u go still do
Poster 1,if you don't trust the guy no need of marrying him. Poster 2,what goes around comes around. Once a Cheat always a Cheat. Use ur tongue count your teeth and may God help you
ReplyDeleteBoth stories underscore the point I was trying to emphasise yesterday about how submission will only deliver the right reward if you marry the right man for you.
ReplyDelete#1: Honey, there's nothing I could possibly tell you which you haven't already heard. If your guy's "ex" is causing you so much grief, then you aren't mature enough to get married. Is this how side chics will easily rattle your cage when you get married? How can an ex intimidate you this much? It appears you aren't as confident as you imagined.
From every indication, this guy isn't the right guy for you and deep down you know it but, like you wrote "...we tend to think with our heart". let me break it down for you, not only are you about to marry the wrong guy, your attitude will make an already bad situation worse. What do you mean by you gave him hell when you found out he was seeing another lady? Why didn't you give your hell for accepting to remain with him? Do you really think all the aggression in the world will stop a man from being with a woman he wants to be with? Think again, my darling.
You have to learn to control your emotions. Why do you keep bringing up her topic and obsessing over her? Baby girl, the trick is, NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT! You can't allow your guy see how insure his "ex" makes you feel. Insecurity is highly unattractive. Your attitude will make him want more of his "ex"
You hope he would change after the marriage? This is another fundamental flaw in the way most ladies desperate to get married think. Can a chicken become a duck? A person is whom a person is. Certain events may cause a person to bury certain traits and mimic the illusion of change. But something may also trigger the real self to come out and play every now and then. Only God can truly change a man but only if he is willing to change. Whatever you can't tolerate now will only get worse after he marries you because he now has you locked down and there will be no motivation to win your heart anymore. Don't go into marriage hoping your partner will change, that is unfair and unrealistic. If you can't let him go then learn to live with it.
My darling, marrying this man will not bode well for you. You're going to be miserable and frustrated. There's a reason he keeps going back to his "ex" and he may continue seeing her after your marriage. Ultimately, the choice is yours because you're the one who will deal with the consequences.
#e-bearhugs.
Ronalda God bless you real good,you know how to subtly tell someone the truth without being insultive or offending,that is wisdom and God continue to bless you with more.thank you
Delete#2: Sweetie, why are you bothered about whether or not he will cheat on you? If you're open minded enough to be curious about having a menage a trois with a married couple, I reckon you shouldn't lose sleep over the prospects of infidelity.
ReplyDeleteIt's simple logic, you dated a married man who claimed to love his wife dearly. While the affair was on, you knew he had other ladies apart from you and, by implication, you didn't mind that lifestyle. The safe conclusion is, he will continue to cheat and he will expect you to be okay with it, after all he cheated on his wife with you. So darling, put your mind at ease, the issue of infidelity is settled, he will definitely cheat. So start getting used to that fact.
Another issue I can't seem to distil is why on earth would you want to be married to a man with so much baggage who refuses to give you anything, even when you ask? And you claim he loves you? My darling, I refuse to believe you are that obtuse. That man is only using you, trust me, he isn't going to get married to you, which is even a blessing in disguise. A man who is bold enough to ask you to assist in setting up his wife by playing the role of a Lesbian, has zero respect for you. He regards you as a slattern, a play who is so eager to please him.
You say he loves you? No, sweetheart, he doesn't and you know it but you choose to believe him to justify your actions. There are so many reasons why you shouldn't marry him, any reason you pick is good enough to let him go or get married and prepare for a hellish marital experience. I'm still of the opinion that he has no intention of getting married to you but let's assume he actually marries you, you find yourself in a round box.
#e-bearhugs.
Don't some Chronicles just make you seethe?
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Why not go on your knees and commit your relationship into God's hands instead of running around sending chrome Chronicles that you won't heed.
2. I have no words for wayward sluts like you. You can go kill yourself for all I care.
POSTER 2!! Miss M. so you finally did that thing you told me you will do and see how you are misleading people here and they are calling innocent guys name for now reason.
ReplyDeleteGod will not forgive you and I am not part of the game again. I know you are a desperate chic and want to marry by all means but you could have write the story right than making people guessing so wrongly and calling names
Poster 1. This is you and all the comments below this are yours too. STOP TRYING TO COVER UP. You've been exposed. It's Uche Elendu's husband Prince Nku. Next time think well before writing a story that's easy to decipher.
DeletePOSTER 2!! Miss M. so you finally did that thing you told me you will do and see how you are misleading people here and they are calling innocent guys name for now reason.
ReplyDeleteGod will not forgive you and I am not part of the game again. I know you are a desperate chic and want to marry by all means but you could have write the story right than making people guessing so wrongly and calling names
POSTER 2, ARE YOU NOT ASHAMED OF YOURSELF FOR COMING UP WITH THIS FAKE AND RUBBISH STORY.I CAN SEE THAT YOU ARE REALLY SO DESPERATE FOR MARRIAGE BUT WHICH MAN WILL EASILY MARRY A RUNS GIRL.
ReplyDelete@ POST 2: Readers this story is fixed and not real!Amaka is the writer and she is a desperate girls who loves every man blindly even when she went to do runs.
ReplyDeleteMen proposed to her every day but she is still single up to today and this same story she has narrated it up to 5 times in so many different ways and description
She is my friend and we stay the same Area in Lagos but I am not how kind of woman ooo
@ POST 2: Readers this story is fixed and not real!Amaka is the writer and she is a desperate girls who loves every man blindly even when she went to do runs.
ReplyDeleteMen proposed to her every day but she is still single up to today and this same story she has narrated it up to 5 times in so many different ways and description
She is my friend and we stay the same Area in Lagos but I am not how kind of woman ooo
poster2:Yes when I saw this I kno it was Amaka story be this, she just change actress this and that so that the bobo wey just dumped her will not know she is the one writing.Anyway girl wake up u are not the first girl they have dumped so you better go pick your dirty cloths were u showered and stop coming here online to bla bla bla. Even if we give you advise now it will not stop you from loving the next guy blindly because you have a block head and heart. Some times I feel that you are not mentally okay
ReplyDeleteposter2:Yes when I saw this I kno it was Amaka story be this, she just change actress this and that so that the bobo wey just dumped her will not know she is the one writing.Anyway girl wake up u are not the first girl they have dumped so you better go pick your dirty cloths were u showered and stop coming here online to bla bla bla. Even if we give you advise now it will not stop you from loving the next guy blindly because you have a block head and heart. Some times I feel that you are not mentally okay
ReplyDeletePoster2: I don't really get ur point oh, are you doing ds to tarnish d man's image? Cos u really sound like Somone that was sent!! How can a lady involve in a 3som?? Do you know God? Do you have d fear of God in you ? How can a man invite you to AV a 3som with him and his wife and you say u went out of curiosity?? My dear your nothing than a typical prostitute.. People wake up and don't go back to bed alive, d life you live is not a guarantee so at anytime we should try to do wat makes us happy in a way it will be pleasing to God... This is the dirtiest thing I have ever heard. Never imaged people can involve in 3soms in real life,apart from BF... The fact that ur dating a married man lol is not enough according to you, why are you posting it here? Did you ask for our opinion when u were about to indulge in such a sinful,punishable,dirty and unGodly act?? Why are you now telling us now? Do you think this ur cock and bull story will sell? I get ur interest maybe you were paid to write ds or better still it's d ex wife posting ds to dent d mans image, cos I saw ds story on Linda ikeji and read d comments.. Uche elendu is no saint did she ever catch her hubby with anoda woman? Or did he cheat to her face ? A woman dat sleeps with both woman n man on her matrimonial bed! God forbi! Did her husband ever do such ?? So dear poster2 I get the msg u were actually sent, but the problem is u would AV made d story a lil bit real and interesting.....
ReplyDeletestories that touch. make una dey use una brain o.marrying a married man is not the best.look for a fresh man to marry. if the wife has died is a different thing.
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