Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

Nawah my people...What do people use their ears for?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
AT A CROSS ROAD

Good day Everyone,

I am at a cross road.

I have a friend, we became two years ago, and over that time we became very close, we spoke every single day over the period, after our different hustles we chat every night and talk and laugh randomly about things. Then we hang out every Sunday sometimes if we have appointments in the same area we meet for lunch during week day. 

Something strange however, whenever he travels to his home country (he is not Nigerian) or he travels out of Nigeria he stops communicating with me, this is someone that communicates with me everyday, I know it has nothing to do with being a foreigner because I have many foreign friends that live in Nigeria, and they never go MIA on me when they travel. 

Unfortunately, I started having feelings for him, sometimes you start having feelings you hope never to have, to prevent unecessary stories that touch. However, my heart took over and I started having feelings for him because we spend too much time together, I think he started feeling same for me because I could somehow tell, but I was dreading that path. 

Back to the story, there is something so strange about him, despite him being my best friend, I don't trust him because I believe he lies and it makes me feel like a fool.  I confronted him about it. Recently and he admitted to lying about something so germane in our friendship, since then we have not spoken. At first I didn't care because I  hate insincerity with every ounce of my being and it was my opportunity to stay away and suffocate the feelings I had for him.

Unfortunately I have started to miss him so much‎, it makes me scared, I expected him to at least try and reach out to explain or make peace but he never did, no single attempt, making me feel like he dosent want to makeup despite it being his fault. 

To be fair I told him I not to contact me again, but that was just an outcry not like I meant it, I hate grudges and I am a peace lover, this is my best friend minus the feelings, I feel if I call he will devalue me even more. I feel so bad. To be honestly frank he is one of the rarest people that has made me happy, I am always happy around him, talking to him and hanging out. Despite us not dating I feel elated anytime we are together, I haven't had a friend in a very long time that made me so happy.

 Stella, I can suck it up and never reach out again but I am hurting real bad, I can't concentrate. Please advise me on what to do, I will take the advise no matter how painful. I want to know whether to try and reach out, I am just so mad he didn't even try. I spoke to a friend and he said if he truly loved or valued me despite my out pour he could have reached out, especially since it's his fault. I hold the same assumption as well. This is eating me up really bad, help me please. Thank you. 

P.s: I know nobody is perfect and we lie and make mistakes, am not judging him.

God Bless you

A man who tells cheap lies is worse than a broke ass brother...if you are complaining and crying and praising him,what exactly do you want us to tell you?Do you have a tongue?use it to count your teeth please!..abi i no read well?

*tongue click*

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

HISTORY REPEATING ITSELF

‎Hello Stella and sdk ardent readers, thank you so much for this platform. Being following daily posts on this blog since last year though I don't comment.

Am a girl in my early twenties. ‎I come from a polygamous family where no one cares about the other and coupled with the fact that my parents got separated. Mum raised I and 2 of my other siblings alone. 

She suffered mockery, rejection, pain because she warned not to marry my father because he happens to come from cross river and my mum Abia. The family has the belief that cross riverines do not have value for human and my dad lived to their expectation by later abandoning us and marrying from his side.

I believe she had to marry my dad out of frustration

Now we are grown and ‎I just rounded up my service year. I met this guy while I was serving and we kicked off a relationship. I was staying with a relative that was busy tormenting my life, so I moved in with this guy and he accomodated me.

Did I mention the guy is from cross river too? Hmmm now he wants to marry me.

The problem is that I see a lotta of similarities between him and my dad. He wants everything to be done his way! Imagine entering the kitchen while am cooking am asking why I didnt put this one before the other one. He doesn't go out but I enjoy going out sometimes but he doesn't care. 

I know how many things I've had to change just to suit him even my style of cooking and my social life.

I love him but am losing my feelings for him as the days go by because of his attitude and all.

To the extent that we went to one prophectic church here in Abuja and the prophet told him that I am still taking my time with him after I kept mute when asked if I loved him and him answering that he does love me in front of the congregation.

Now he organised a surprise engagement party and having denied him before I couldn't stand doing it again in the presence of his friends.

My mum has vowed that I would never marry from that side though she likes the guy but she wished he came from any other part of the world but there.

We will be going to meet my people soon and I know it will be a disaster.

Please people of God, advise me before I go crazy. Aunty Stella I need your red pen please!!

*what am i supposed to say?You be robot?you see yourself walking into disaster and you are still walking in?If you have cold feet,then halt the Marriage process before you live a life of regret and send in more Chronicles....

*tongue click*