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 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MARRYING INSIDE THE FAMILY 

Dear Madam Stella,

 please I'll like to share my story with you on your page for suggestions. Please no harsh words needed, just suggestions pls!I am a consistent visitor in your blog but rarely comment. 

I have been dating my fiance for the past 2yrs and all my family members knew about this. I come from a family of 3, I'm the 2nd child, i am 25yrs.We have been family friends since I was even wearing pampers.  My fiance is based in the US while I'm based in nigeria for now., he's 30yrs. He came back to Nigeria and Proposed to me and we also did introduction as well.  We Happen to be from same state and same village. 

My parents were involved from day 1, the minute he asked me to be his gf, I asked my mum and dad and uncles if we were related that I used to suspect we were cousins. They laughed at me that I was ridiculous that there were no single ties btw both families, I actually felt stupid for asking, somehow my dad was not in support of my choice of a husband and told me point blank that he was not in support while my mum was in support. 

On the day of my "iku aka" , my dad reminded me again that he was not in support(he has a thing against people who have stayed abroad for long and think all sorts of vices about them). He said I am very successful in my career and all, that I should find a better husband, hell, i could even buy a husband.when I was already in love with my best friend and lover(lol), I just said in my mind,  Imagine someone who has been there all your life Now being your soul mate what more could you ask for,a friend. ,a brother,,  a lover,  a father. all in one.  The "iku aka" ended and popsy told me they'll start investigations if he's married b4 or had kids abroad etc even though he said he doesn't, but it's part of the tradition.

A week later while at work,my dad gave me a call, telling me that they did investigations in the village and found out that my fiance is my 3rd cousin.  I'm talking about my introduction that had half the village present.  Not a soul had an idea that we were related 2 one another despite I asked from the onset.  This is a man that I decided to love unconditionally,(which didn't come easy for me) for 2 good years  with my parents  conscent n blessings having known him for years. 

My dad has a very strong chieftancy title in the village and would know if we were 10 cousins apart but because of the enemies he has in the village, they practically ganged up and cooked up this story all because they are envious, and he accepted a fake tale(part of me thinks he was happy about it) and is asking me to end my relationship instead of him to find a way out, he's about his reputation,I am not happy. 

 3rd cousins mean we share same great grandparents. If that is true, how could almost half the village miss such important point except it's all a plot. I just feel betrayed by my own parents as well. I have told them if there's a form to fill to be an "osu" due to their tradition,they should gimme to fill. 

I love my fiance with all my heart and I do not know what to do. If we are truly 3rd cousins,  is it impossible to get married to your 3rd cousin? 

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
CHEATING SUSPICIONS

 Dear Stella,

Please post on your blog. I would like to remain anonymous.

I suspect my husband of cheating on me.

I found a bag of condoms in the bag he takes to work.

I am currently 8 months pregnant. We haven't been able to have sex through out the pregnancy due to pregnancy related complications. (high risk).

Other than this I have had a relatively sweet marriage but I'm scared he will bring some kind of disease home.

When I confronted him he made up some silly story trying to explain why there were there.

Obviously a lie but I didn't want to cause too much wahala because stress isn't good in pregnancy.

He works in the medical field so he often has to work overnight giving him ample opportunity to cheat if he wants. He can always say he was at work. 

I am considering buying a tracker to install in his car to track his movement so that I will have proof.

We have been married for 8 years and I have never suspected him like this before.

Now I am paranoid.

I don't know what to do because I am not ready to give up on my marriage. We have been through many ups and downs together and he is a good husband and father.

I need advice because I don't want to kill my spirit by being paranoid and depressed.

Thank you.