Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

Two young Ladies..One is 24years old and the other is 26years old but both have a different mind set...

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MONEY MONEY MONEY!!!

Stella a friend introduced me to your blog. Am so glad i met you. My name is Onyii 24 yrs old. Am in a relationship with a man who proposed to marry me, whom am presently confused with becoz of the recent issues we both are having. 

I have been dating him for over 5 months and he doesn't provide my needs. He only gives me when i demand so much for a particular thing. I told him i was no longer interested becoz he didn't make any impact in my life since i met him, i still felt alone becoz i took care of all my needs myself. He pleaded with me that he is not a stingy man that he just has some financial constraint and promises to be providing for me when he gets back on his feet again, he told me this after i told him i was no longer interested. 

My question is, could it be possible dat he is broke or could it be that he is naturally stingy. The thing is,i am really scared if he's going to provide even after he gets his financial issues settled becoz he hasn't been providing from the onset.

You are too young for this life's path you have towed....He hasnt impacted on your positively?have you impacted on him?why do some people just look for relationships that pay their bills?

Sweetheart you didnt even mention anything about love?Hmmmm.

Let the others advice you but before i round up let me ask....Hope you are in school or went to school?GO AND WORK AND EARN YOUR OWN MONEY AND PROVIDE FOR YOURSELF....even me that is married,i earn my own money and cannot remember the last time i waited for any man to buy me anything,my hubby hides money in my wallet becos i dont bother him.

Respect yourself money wise in any relationship or marriage!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

  CHRONICLE OF A HOPELESS YOUNG WOMAN

Good Day Stella.

Thank you for the good work you have been doing through your blog. 

 I do not even know where to start this, but I let me start from here, I am a 26 year old girl with a troubling accommodation problem. I seriously have an accommodation problem I need to rent my own house and and move away far from my aunties before I do any of the crazy thoughts in my head. Let me give you a little tip of the iceberg of my life. it's going to be a bit scattered because I do not know how to tell stories so, your red pen is welcome, and it's just a brief of my life.

I have never had a home, my grand father before he died tried his best to give me a sense of belonging but despite his efforts, it never worked out. All my life, I have moved from one aunty's house to the other, basically, I was the maid of the family, because once this person have need of a help, am shipped to where she stays, and if the person is through or tired of my services, I get sent to the other person, and that is how the circus has been going, I went to 6 secondary schools.  you would ask if I do not have my own family, my father, mother or siblings. well, I think I do have a family, my is alive but does not want me right from when I was a baby, she is not even in good terms with her family, I spent all my life with my maternal grand parents and aunty's, I do not know about a father, I have never heard a hush word about him from anyone in my maternal home, and despite my diggings, I could not find anything. my mother was never part of my life. 

I never even knew I had a mother till the day I first saw her, I was in primary six then, and I can remember that no one told me who she was, my instinct just told me so. You can imagine how excited I was after confirming it and I so wanted to have that mother daughter relationship, but she did not, and disappeared again. 

Am a graduate, thanks to one of my extra ordinary good aunt and my grand father who insisted that I must go to school, because I was a very intelligent girl (I can't say for now) trust me, if not for my grand father's stubborn insistence, my other aunty's would have made sure I dropped me from school. I recently started working, I earn N30k which is hardly enough for my feeding and transport fair for the month, I do it because I want to be leaving the house everyday and not be reminded of my age and my mates accomplishment and how sending me to school was a waste of money and at my age I do not have a suitor or husband. 

I do not know the last time I bought a shirt for myself. I graduated in 2010 from one of the best federal schools that I got in miraculously because no one believed I could get admission, infact they prayed against it and when I got it, my grand father insisted I must go to school, he trained me himself with the help of that my extra ordinary good aunty. The others had rich husband's but they could not be bothered. Surviving in school was hell, because maybe a whole semester, I would be sent not up to 10k, I would manage with food stuffs my extra ordinary aunt makes sure I always came back to school with and some of my friends who because I cook well decided to make me their cook, so they bring money for foodstuffs and we cook. 

I pulled through university Stella by God's grace, because in my final year, my grand dad fell seriously ill and could not send me money again and my extra ordinary good aunt's business crumbled and never picked up, I always thank God that he allowed my last school fees be paid before that tragedy struck. since graduation, I have not been able to get a good job. I have gone to a thousand and more interviews, with no luck, am sure that 80 of companies in Nigeria and Lagos precisely have my CV in their data base.

I have been taking care of myself financially fully since after my graduation, how I do it, I do not know. I just know that am alive. my aunties that have money have never said, how are you doing, or sent me money even when I went for service and was stuck in a strange land with no help, my calls and plea for help financially help fell on deaf ears, but somehow, I managed nearly got myself killed but I pulled through. I am this kind of overly shy and timid girl, even a child can win me in an argument because I hardly talk. I prefer to coil in my shell and not be noticed, all these because of the training I was given. I have not been able to keep a man in my life, absolutely no luck in that area. 

At times, I wonder if God is playing a chess game with my life. 

The thing is, I need to get away from my family, they say your family either takes you higher or brings you down, this one's are determined to bring me down and useless and make me dependent and be a servant to their kids. My aunty I stay with presently has decided to make my life a hell for me, in cooperation with the others,  not that she and her sisters have not been doing that all my life, but it has gotten so worse that all I think about is suicide these days, I have always had that thought, but it's beginning to flash through my mind a lot daily and am scared. My grand father is long dead, but I owe it to my extra ordinary good aunt to take care of her, and it kills me that I can not now that she really need help.

Am pleading, I want to be free, and the only way I can do that is if I stay far from them.  I need to rent an apartment of my own, and I do not even have 5k savings. I need to be free from their psychological  torments. I know if am alone, am going to make progressive steps with my life. Where I currently work is in Festac, so I was hoping with help to get a self contain in that area so, I would not be spending much on transport and be able to save enough to make impact a little and for the next rent.

PLEASE I NEED HELP

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Thanks

My Dear I pray you find help.Please this young woman is really broken and was scared that her number be displayed becos of those who cuss out anyone who put their info out,I had to convince her.We have been on this matter for a while now.

Please stay away from bringing her down if you cannot help....