Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Would you walk or stay?

 NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

ENGAGED TO  A PACK OF LIES

Dearest Stella,

Thanks for all you've been doing through ur blog. May God bless the work of your hands. I'm sending in this chronicle with a heavy heart. I've been crushed, battered and almost at the point where i think everything is falling apart.

I've been in a relationship with a guy for exactly 2yrs now. I'm 25 and he's 29. We both have good jobs  and though he didnt strike me as "my type" @first, we got along somehow and quickly.

He's a really good person, does everything expected of a partner, i ddnt have cause to complain until.. he started acting strange: sometimes just going off for a whole day without communicating. I had heard rumours about his philandering nature but love clouded my eyes.

Then i started snooping. Found out he had a truck load of girls: he had no female friend who he hadnt slept with at least once. Once he's confronted, he'll deny and swear heaven on earth. He talked me out of having sex with protection but i have lost count of how many i've seen condoms in his possession.

I noticed all his friends especially the married ones keep girlfriends. I'm certain wen we get married, his will be no exception but somehow i keep praying for God to change him. (He's better than when we first started) It really hasnt been easy but i believe in fixing things wen they are broken rather than throwing them away.

We had our family intro last year and are planning to settle down soon when i found out this week that he denied being engaged to me cos he's asking some girl out. She confronted him with pics and he told her he cant go on cos i'm too wild (Huh). Also found out he's recently hooking up with 2girls who have almost cost us this relationship and who he swore he had cut all forms of communication with.

I'm emotionally drained and feel like i've been fighting a lost battle. I feel disrespected and my self esteem is battered. I want out but my parents wont hear of it. They want me to fix my shit and not bring DISGRACE to them. What do i do please? 

I need your red pen. Dear BV's, dont only "negodu" cuss me out and advice me. Thanks.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THREE GIRLS BUT NO SON IS WORRISOME?

Hello Stella, I am a 28yrs old lady married to a 34yrs old Igbo man from Imo state, I am from the Igbo speaking part of Delta state.

     We have three lovely daughters. The issue here is that my hubby has said he doesn't want more kids. I have tried persuading him to try again since we don't have a son but he says he has made up his mind not to have more. 

My inlaws have said they aren't satisfied with just girls. Anyway my husband has  four siblings...all boys, so he says if he didn't have a daughter he would have been worried but that a son isn't that important to him. To the extent that his mum called for a family meeting last Sunday asking him to try once more and he told her he is satisfied with the kids he has.

          Lemme add that hubby has never in anyway shown me that he would have preferred a son. He treats the girls specially and shows them off constantly. He is a very loving man, has never hit me or shown any kind of aggression towards me. Does the best he can for me and keeps no secrets from me. He has even said I shouldn't worry myself that if I want a written agreement between us to prove to me that he wont disturb me pertaining the issue in the future that he is ready for it. 

Please Stella and BVs, especially the Igbos do you think I will be safe in the future? Do I follow my husband's wish or should I try again? Note that pregnancies and birthing always come with complications for me. 

Thanks... much love.