STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SUICIDE AS A BLACKMAIL TOOL WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ENDS.
Dear Stella, God bless you for this platform. I have no idea where this falls under but I need your input and those of your blog visitors. I will try to be as coherent as possible.
I have had my fair share of heartbreaks in life but this time, I'm breaking someone's heart and he is threatening to commit suicide but I deeply know I do not want to be with this person.
I met someone in Jan in church and he is way beneath (in every sense of the word)my standards. He came preaching marriage and I told him to go and pray which is my response to any man I have no interest in because I have a very seductive body and face so I have attracted all sorts.
It started with walks home from church and because I'm from a very accommodating home, he was very welcomed to my house despite the fact that he isn't my type. My mum noticed I wasn't really feeling him and she tried to encourage me by saying my dad was very poor when she met him and all that.
Now the guy in question preaching marriage has not a dime. I have always had to give him stipends because my heart goes out to him. He lies a lot or conveniently deduct some truth from some matters when he is talking. I have heard people on the street attack him and say 'you know say you sabi lie well'.
He had said to me that his dad is a pastor in one of the neighbouring West African countries and he has a rich sister in the UK but he is always broke and never has any money. He travelled recently for a teaching interview in port Harcourt and called me from there begging for three thousand naira.
He was teaching in a private school but stopped saying his female boss and her friend were trying to sleep with him and he had to resign without pay for two months yet he would not give up on any opportunity to try to make sexual advances towards me despite my warning him.
He serves on the altar in one of the biggest churches in Nigeria and constantly says that Papa's preaching was awesome today but would not hesitate to make terrible sexual advances.
Recently, I met my mum crying seriously and as usual it was money brouhaha with my dad. She has been the one catering for I and my siblings since forever and dad works well but he just left the whole thing to her and that situation made me rethink my whole life. She makes statement like my boyfriend reminds her of my dad and I don't NOT want to walk into the same marriage setting with my eyes wide open!
Never!
This guy has a masters in linguistics but cannot conveniently make a complete sentence without my needing to apply my speech error technique which I learnt in the university in correcting him. He doesn't have plans for the future. All he applies for is teaching which I have no problems with but he has refused to see the big picture.
He is all shades of wrong and I know at some point I fell in love with him(my biggest mistake ) but I woke up one day and discovered that I hated him with a passion. He started to disgust me. I've never wanted out of something this badly.
The whole of my being is protesting and now he sent a message threatening suicide. (He told me he has tried it before). He private number calls me like hundred times a day and I'm not exaggerating.
He calls my mum. He stalks my life. He jumps fence into my house. I have told him i needed space to pray and think things through but he wouldn't let me be.
I know I made a mistake leading him on by liking him initially but I had always told him i had a covenant with God about the person I would marry and until that parameter is fulfilled, I can't give my word but I truly cannot explain waking up and detesting a person. All I know is I want out but I hardly know how to go about it and I do not want him to hurt himself at the same time. Please tutor me.
Thanks.
Pictures for your eyes only Stells.
Choiiiii.....My dear you are a very beautiful woman..i dont know what else to say.lets read the comment section and see if there will be any good advice?
Great!
Hold my hands and lets read together!
Brb
ReplyDeleteThis weather is good plus the AC
DeleteLife is good menh
DONT DO IT! If not ull be sending another chronicles in 2-5 years of how he is beating u and collecting ur salary and how its u taking care of the bills and paying childrens fees and how ur fed up and u want out but ur thinking of ur kids and what people will say. And ull start asking us stupid questions of whether u shud leave or not. Trust me, im married u shud be deliriously in love with anybody before u marry so that when the reality of marriage cools u down u will just be normal. If ur feeling like this before u marry, u will be very miserable after. If he wants to commit suicide, then leave him to. Chances are he wont anyway, just trying to break your resolve. Goodluck!
DeletePls, is d name of your stalker Shola who lives in Yaba abi nah Ikeja. Dude can form drama.
DeleteWhy is his financial status the only reason for your sudden dissatisfaction..
DeleteYou need to take a wholistic evaluation of this guy before you decide..I believe something else you deemed befitting attracted you to him in the first place..
Am not saying you should go ahead with him..but dont allow money to be the yard stick cos money can be really misleading ..one may not have it today but tomorrow he may blow and vise versa.. This is life dear money is a spirit..
Also even if you meet a guy who is financially boayant..and you focus on his money alone hmmm...you may be making a blined decision cos there are other factors you may contend with..
Finally..I would urge you to follow your hrt..there is noting more satisfying..
Thanks a lot
I don't understand why a graduate will refuse to make something good outta himself*smh*i hate with passion men who aint ambitious..you get to be willing as a man*mcheew*he wont commit nothing and even if he does,home sweet home..Jesus will forever Remain accomodating in his fathers house*nonsense*
DeleteHe doesn't have a masters he is lying he has only NCE hence he cannot apply elsewhere.
DeleteMeanwhile just stop it. He is a liar who will leech off you forever, be will stalk you, monitor you and demand you submit your salary using religious blackmail.
Stop funding his lies he won't die he would move on to the next victim
Go and report him to his Pastor about his threats and tell them to help talk to him to leave you alone.
DeleteBest advice
DeleteCan't read all
DeleteIgnore him
Let's c as he go take commit the suicide. U r his meal ticket. Avoid him
Poster, if he is threatening suicide and jumping fences, don't take it lightly. Beyond you pastor, report to the police cos u have a ticking time bomb in your hands.
DeleteMoreover anyone telling you tall tales about sexual harassment from other females is also telling others the same tale about how you are begging him to or is already shining your congo.
Lastly, if you accommodate him out of pity, in future your story may read like d chats 'Lekan' was exchanging with Ronke's friend. A stitch in time they say, saves nine - so abeg borrow brain. Insecurity in a man is dangerous.
Shine as always, Sterling Stella!
I don't understand why most women are like this..I don't. It is not as if you started feeling about him this way just recently. This was the way you felt about him from the very beginning but somewhere along the line you still managed to fall in love with him.. you still knowingly got carried away and in between the beginning and now you fell in love with what you describe as a disgust for your kind of man... and I know you people GBENSHED during the course of your falling and being in love with him. And to me it doesn't matter how briefly thus was. But the point is you did. But why? This goes to show women don't really know what they want. A woman will draft/list out the things and quality she desire in a man but will still fall for something totally out of place compared to what they list. Something they themselves will describe to you as total disgust.. They will feel comfortable gbenshing him. That is why even if your gf is talk about some guy or even your security officer with much disdain and disgust doesn't mean she won't still gbenshing them when the atmosphere is right for it. I can never trust you people.. you ever falling in love with him is your greatest undoing.. well tell him to fuck off.. that the whole gbenshing thing was a mistake
DeleteOut of writing with so much anger.. I realise now all the gbagaun))) and typos in my comment.. well u should be able to read and understand my point and messages therein clearly... na u cause am.. because I dey vex for you gannnn
DeleteGreat, great, great
ReplyDeletePoster read my lips he ain't gon commit s...t! Pls let him go! Avoid any contact with him, block his number, tell him you will involve police .Over time, he will soon get over you.... Biko no b by force let him go find his type abeg.if he likes he should invite d whole church to beg you, my dear hold your stand! If u marry ds dude out of pity, b ready to send in another chronicles weeks after.broke liar...sigh
DeleteSweethrt, don't let any man cajole u into marriage. Don't,no matter wot.
DeleteThe only way to get rid of him is to get rid of him but do it nicely.
U will not be responsible for whatever he chooses to do thereafter. Just do ur part right.
Choose d right place and d right time and spell it out to him. "It’s not working. Time to move on." U can do it together with ur mom. May be an elderly advice will help let go.
Most guys use this cunny cunny way to leech onto a woman. Sometimes they don't evn mean it. They just want to scare u into not leaving.
But whatever, get rid of him nicely. If after every thing he still stalks u, pls ignore him. With time, he will get tired, just give it time.
Another thing:I think dat guy needs help. He needs to work on his emotions. It's like a time bomb. Scary.
All d best dear. God's wisdom.
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Kindly let him go oooo
DeletePlease avoid being alone at any point in time before it turns from committing suicide to maiming you in de name of dog in the manger school of thought.
DeleteCarry am go fast food, siddon wea crowd de, feed him nd tell him u need alone time for ur sanity as economic state of de nation hints of difficult times ahead. If he no gree start a scene by crying and lamenting so he will question your sanity and leave you alone.
Guy sounds like a leech.
Please don't marry him, he's broke and lies a lot, I hate guys who ask for money from their gf
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Apart frm d fact dt he's broke,he monitors ur life,calls a hundred time(privately) in a day and even jumps d fence.This guy is a psychopath and tends to b not only jealous but also,insecure and this two(JEALOUSY n Insecurity) can mk a guy do wonder wen his woman mks a wrong move. Pls move on o and do not forget to report to d nearest police station ,his family or friends abt his threat to jump over d lekki bride so bankyw and psquare can go to his rescue
DeleteTruth iz u are stupid!!!
DeleteLarry good afternoon, let me borrow your space. Poster please don't marry out of pity, you know what you want so stand by it. If he refused to understand you and he continue to threaten you report him at the nearest police station before we have another murder case like the lustful man in Ilorin in our hand. If he couldn't kill himself he might be capable of harming or killing you.
DeleteIt is well with you.
@Yemi7up, good afternoon sis, aku fuel subsidy o
Delete*Larry was here*
Orji y d painment? Go n work hard n quit asking women for hand outs. Broke ass fool.
DeleteStand alone narrative.
ReplyDeleteBitch just realised she deserves better
DeleteBet she was carried away by the dudes dick game now she's fed up
Bitches are never loyal
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha...
Broke stupid Fool looking out for females to leech on. Please dump his ass, let him commit the suicide IF he has the liver. At least we'd have one less retard to deal with, along the with problems we are already facing in this country.
ReplyDeleteUseless man! Instead of him to get a life, he's scaling fences and flashing 100 times. Idiot!
Teebilz tinz ti take over
DeleteReport his stalking activities with proof to the right authorities, what kinda nonsense man is that,huh????
DeleteThanks this cracked me up
DeleteLet him commit suicide naa,is it that easy to commit the suicide? Someone who is serious will never tell u he will he will just goan kee himself.Mschew a busy man will not think abt committing suicide for a lady biko.
ReplyDeleteU are a very stupid girl for falling in love with a broke ass lying son of a devil, it seems ur so called beauty only attracts useless men, u better go to deliverance, tell him to drink Otapiapia if he wants to commit suicide, stupid chronicle.
ReplyDeleteWhat you said is very wrong.. .I don't why must ladies and mothers on this blog have no mercy for male folks. Before you start abusing me on a mother to adorable kids, met my husbands when he was a jobless graduate working as a cabman..Now we owns 2building in Nigeria by God's grace. Please enough of this rubbish, many young girls are reading this blog. .if the guy is not lazy please give me a chance and see how it goes not sex.
DeleteI didn't see where she said she fell in love with him
DeleteDark skinned are u sure u read d story to d end,Na wah.
Delete@Anonymous 15:36, from the story we can deduce he's lazy. Poster just dey pray o cos dis one be as e get. Jumping fence ke. He's obsessed.
DeleteWhere are the buildings? Lagos or ugwashikwu...depends on the areas though
DeleteI hate when someone asks for Advise and then you come and Start insulting the person, is it fair? how do you think she would feel if she reads this? My dear, just leave him if he likes let you commit suicide.
DeleteI rememeber when boo was toasting me, he said he loves me so much and he will commit suicide if I don't love him back, he's been my friend for a while and I like him but was not ready for relationship, I wanted my space, so dat day say Rich friends were calling me, have I heard from him? Where is he,I now called him and he answered, he sounded so down and he was drinking,so I asked him where he was,it was so late at night but I didn't want him to kill himself for me,so I took a cab to the beach where he was, I no know whether he wanted to drown for river, I insulted him that he's a fool and not a man,he was apologizing telling me if he dies,he died for love . Love can make a sane person go insane, this well put together guy acting like a child so funny... I still said no but told him I like him and do not want to rush things,anyway before Xmas that year he asked again and I said yes see him happy like a child. I haven't regretted it,he pampers me he's not the wealthiest but his family is okay and have money but not like Dangote,he works in construction sites with his dad,and he's reading electrical engineering ...he's so hardworking and good at what it does, it almost two years and he's still wonderful..I love him so much.
He has a great future ahead and with his determination and hard work he might be the next Dangote.. Love you Rich .
Anon 21:51 keep encouraging urself,ur boo is very obsessive..... He wants to kill himself bcos he love u and u r happy u saved him. No body shld get carried away with all dis sucide shit u go just enter 1 chance after marriage.
DeleteAnon ur husband was a CAB DRIVER he isn't a lazy man and he isn't proud. Dere is no sensible lady who wld see a hard working,humble man and reject or look down on him.
DeleteAnon ur husband was a CAB DRIVER he isn't a lazy man and he isn't proud. Dere is no sensible lady who wld see a hard working,humble man and reject or look down on him.
DeleteSo why are here crying over a situation you have control over my dear? This guy will milk you dry till you have nothing at all.
ReplyDeleteSo you want to end up like your mum? Do you think your mum doesn't wish you had married better, forget her I met your dad when he had nothing how has that helped her in anyway because at her she is still crying over a man who should be a good companion to her in old adage.
Don't you have other men to set your sight on? Why is it this guy with all his many BUTs that you chose to focus on.
Better end it now before you marry him and lice with the regrets all your life.
He would use the bible to confuse your destiny and tell you how to be this and that for only him.
Don't be deceived he doesn't love you, he only found an avenue through you to live large.
*old age.
Delete*why are you here
*live
Gbam! Poster don't you have other options? Don't let him blackmail you into marrying him
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Thank you doppelganger you have said it all..my dear RUN away from the idiot.
DeleteHaba Dope.. Don't give me headache pls.
DeleteHope he didn't jazz you and you fell in love with him. Now that it's worn off, you hate him. Are you sure he really has a degree? Please be wary of him. There are some broke guys with ambition and good characters but this one sounds very far from that. Remember Ronke who was allegedly killed recently by her obsessive and jealous husband?? Please be wise!
DeleteThe guy is sick and needs medical help ASAP. I do not want to believe that his threat to commit suicide is to cajole you into marrying him. He is not mentally ok.Imagine getting married to a psycho patient! Oriegwu.
ReplyDeleteNzuzu dirty whale izuu
DeleteI agree with you the guy is a terrible psychopath. Rub for your life poster and don't look back.
DeleteNa dem sabi
ReplyDeleteIf u don't want to suffer! Leave that obsessed guy! If he wanna teebillz, reply him that u will foot d bill for d poison.
ReplyDeleteHe's crafty, he won't kill himsef.
Mennn I always look forward to ya comments. Not too long but it makes alot of sense.
DeleteExactly @Monkeynofine 👌
DeleteWell said!!
DeleteLove dat comment abeg let him cross to meet his maker jo .d dude jumps ur fence (potential high jump medalist)he shd be sent2d Olympics)be patient and pray all will be well.separate ur urself from dat suicidal dude
DeleteSide eyes @ Stella.
ReplyDeleteEvery girl wey send pic to una fine girl like Bianca.
Na who come be all d not so beautiful ones we saw in PH,Abuja and Lagos sdk party?
Jemisi depe....kikikikikiki
DeleteLmao. This James hennn!
DeleteYou got me laughing when I read the part of him jumping the fence to come see you. from ur write up, this gut has nothing to offer so flee from him. A stone one see's coming doesn't blind one. Since he is full of lies as well, it is a no go area and since ur mind doesn't carry it then cut all bounds with him and don't mind him on the suicide stuff, he wouldn't even try it so don't worry urself about that.
ReplyDeleteNa dem sabi
ReplyDeleteLock him up for three days.
ReplyDeleteYea,
Get him arrested and locked up for three days.
STOP picking his calls and ignore him whenever you see him
ReplyDeleteBitch am so tempted to give it to u hot but trust me u ain't worth d stress. So let me keep being classy and hey don't bother spewing trash cos I won't reply u again #bitchbye#Nwa amaka's advocate#lickassordietrying.
DeletePoster shine your eyes very well
ReplyDeleteHe needs to make money first before thinking of marriage.
Jesus fix it
And when he does he'll start misbehaving!
DeletePsycho alert!!! 📢📣Lazy ass.he has seen a hardworking woman so he wants to stick on you like a leach.Poster, keep praying but DON'T yield into his cheap emotional blackmail. Suicide oshi!😕😠
ReplyDeleteSome should please bless me with 1k Airtel card, sub is about to expire. And dis the only thing that keeps me busy for the now
ReplyDelete1k airtel, don't you have shame? Get a job jare.
DeleteAbeg free the guy jor...tell am say make him go cue behind Tbillz for lekki bridge...wot nonsense
ReplyDeleteHehehehe, this is funny.
DeletePoster, I hope u hv not given him ur Toto to gbensh already.
ReplyDeleteStop playing hide and seek with him. Tell him u don't love him.
And dat u don't plan to marry a poor man.
As simple as dat.Tell him to stop disturbing ur life .and dat u r not interested in him
Yes, you just had to mention toto as usual😞
DeleteNo b as dis story take start e take end.
ReplyDeleteHow can u date a man dat u never love/like? A man dat is not up to ur standard? To think u where even giving him money Chai a man who ask of 3k is as cheap as my nail polish! My dear please dump his silly ass.
God help Us all in making the right choice...
ReplyDeleteAmen!!!
DeleteBabe walk away joor na who suicide threat done ever EPP?
ReplyDeleteReport him to his unit leader or to his papa in church, marriage and relationship is not by force. Never you love or marry a man out of pity.
Who will love broke ass?????
Babygirl, are you having a rethink because he's threatening suicide or your mum's pressure?
ReplyDeleteNeither of these reasons is worth considering IMO.
I detest lying guys OMG!
And he may have been lying just to keep up appearances, who knows...
All i know is that, most broke ass brothers pretend a lot
Their loyalty is top-notch especially when the girl is doing very well
He even begged for 3k, what a shameless BAB!
Please tell him to pick a struggle
And stop being a monkey, jumping fences upandan
Hian!
Masters in Linguistics?
DeletePlease have you seen his certificate?
I'm sure, he means Masters in one Local language
I know people who studied Yoruba language, they are all claiming linguists.
World people...
He doesn't have the masters in local language, dnt know why these guys hide under the cloak of church to decieve pretty and established woman. Dear run as fast as your leg can carry, you will experience worse if you decide to stay.
Delete😂😂😂
DeleteNa waoooo
ReplyDeleteLet him forget women and Toto for now.
ReplyDeleteHe should go and make money first.
It pains my heart seeing beautiful women entering Okada with their children.
Ooooh u nailed it.
DeleteFor once I agree with u on d making money part.
DeleteWow.....just wow!!!!!
DeleteWo!! Better dump his ass. Which one is suicide? Ok now he should commit the suicide, he wants to leech on you for life, i am even disgusted at him without knowing him. Which one is scaling fence again? Aunty you got a crazy guy on your hands, goodluck getting rid of him. It will be frustrating but please make sure you let him go. He seems psychotic.
ReplyDeleteSince he did not have money. He should look for a fat ugly girl
ReplyDeletePlease,report him to the police immediately....dont let him kill you like the one I read some few weeks back.....may God help you o
DeleteSo fat ugly girls deserve poor men abi? You're an ass!
DeleteLol
DeleteI think you should report the case to the police, he is threatening the peace of you and your family, it is not acceptable for him to jump into your house, don't feel pity for him, guys like this see a beautiful girl who has everything going on well in her life and want to attach themselves to this girl as a leech and be dependent on the girl forever. Please leave, let him kill himself if he wants to( I strongly think he is bluffing) call his bluff my dear and move on.
ReplyDeleteWho threatens someone with suicide??? My dear, let him know you are done if you really are, avoid him like a plague, you're a lady, you know the kinda things to do to make a man flee if you really want him to.
ReplyDeleteRun away from the man fast. Report his stalking to the police, let them call him and warn him to stop stalking you it's a criminal offence. Calling 100 times a day, jumping over your fence for what?
ReplyDeleteRun as fast as you can from him. He is bad news ! And he has mental issues !
If he likes let him commit suicide! He is a grown man and you cannot be held responsible for his actions!
Report him to the pastor of the church! Report him to as many people as you possibly can!
Don't keep this to yourself o, he sounds like a trouble maker!
Run! Lazy ass broke nigga wants good 'thang'. For where?
Google 1,000 ways to die. At least you will tell him which one to pick that would be easy for the suicide to be acommplished.
ReplyDeleteYou encouraged him because you are too accommodating according to your words. Help him to commit suicide. BROKEASS GUY.
Now Stella of life you want to hold her hand to read comments instead of using your red pen.. Well poster you knew from the very start that this guy do not have cash and you still lead him on and now you detest him cos his not having, Pls let him go he will not die. Go and look for your desire rich guy. Do not come back for another chronicle, If this guy was so rich now you won't care if his lies or not. Nonsense !!!!
ReplyDeleteHmmm...
DeleteSupu!!!!
DeletePlease do you best to end things with him and if you can please change your environment and number as well. This guy is the type to express frustration later on and will surely use you to get by. More also, break up with him face to face in a public place, with clear explanations as to why you have decided to end things. If he persists then warn him you will involve the police cause from my point of view, he will jump the fence more frequently after the break up..lol.
ReplyDeleteTeebliz in d making dis time i will b d one to push u 4rm dat 3rd mainland bridge! No Peter or banky can save u . I hate broke ass men and lazy women.
ReplyDeleteRelationships is not a do or die affair,u gave it a trial and you can see that it cant work. My advice,if u have anybody u can stay with outside your home,leave home for a while, change your your number and let none of your family give you out no matter the pressure from him.your Mum should stop welcoming him into your home.that he will kill himself is lie,he is just working on your emotions.try this,i have been through that.life is not lived by sentiment,live above your feelings my dear.
ReplyDeleteEnd time Teebillz
ReplyDeleteDon't waste any time in dumping this guy like a pack of sand without looking back. if he like he can commit suicide. You better make haste while the sun shines because is this type of guy (God forbid! if he mistakenly marries you) will one day kill you out of jealousy. Don't be tempted! He should go and look for his type. Don't repeat your mum's mistake.
ReplyDeleteA baker should please bless me with a birthday cake on may15
ReplyDeleteAwwwwn... you're my roomie's birthday mate. Wish you were in yola, would have baked you a big ass cake!
DeleteHold my hands and lets read together! got me laughing out load. my dear my 1 liter advice is this, dont ever love out of pity. in this life at a point your have to be SELFISH to be happy. if anybody says otherwise then why cant you freely share your spouse with others. so poster dont be cornered by any sucicidal threat. if you heart says No abeg stand by your no. i dont care about your reasons of wanting out but to be happy dont love out of pity.
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle is a no-brainer...you already know what to do...let the pathetic piece of shit kill himself. It seems like he enjoys been broke...oh well... drop this upcoming obssessive animal like a bad habit. Go get yourself a sane man with a future...if you are beautiful like you claim drop a reply beneath this my comment :)
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahah your foul mouth is on another level
DeleteDear poster,
Deleteplease read this guy's replies on those domestic violence posts of that guy that murdered his wife before you drop a reply to him. Don't go from frying pan to fire o.
Oh and He's mentally unstable... I would never ask a woman I love for money.
ReplyDeleteSince T billz saga, everyone is now threatening suicide. Small thing, I'll kill myself. SMH
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This is my honest advice as a single man. No man should ever think marriage if he doesn't have any steady source of income, no matter how small. Having said that, with the little you've said about this guy, he's bad business. He's not for you. You have to be firm. If he sends another suicide message to you, inform the police. I'm very serious. I'm still single myself because I've let my girls go cos I wasn't satisfied with my financial standing, although they've always had awesome jobs and have always told me they'd support. I'm not cut out for a woman "supporting" me. It's my job 100percent! I'm not hungry either, but I have high taste. In order to sustain a woman of class, you need money. Guys, let's imbibe some shame. Make money before thinking marriage. You'd only end up losing your self worth before her. Madam poster, abeg, free this guy. We have a lot of shameless scope men like them in Abuja.
ReplyDeletePls poster don't settle for less,pray to God to make d guy hate and despise u so he will be able to forget abt u and move on with his life.
ReplyDeleteHehehe,really? Pray to God to send hate to someone? C'mon now..
DeleteBlackmail never works in marriage; LOVE does. Just like the other lady that used blackmail and intimidation and tying her husband to the bed, it will all collapse without warning. If someone is threatening suicide, he is not a Christian. The JUDAS WAY IS THE WAY TO HELL! Take the recorded suicide threat or text to his pastor, your parents and if they are disturbed like you, let them involve the police; for his stalking you.
ReplyDeleteBut dear, make sure that you do not reject this fellow because of "poverty"; let it rather be because of "character deficiency" which is evident in your story. Do not reject anybody because of poverty and do not accept anyone because of riches or intimidation or threat. Accept someone (who together you can afford the basic life necessities) because of LOVE WHICH NEVER FAILS.
He is what they call an emotionap blackmailer, what sort of man is this Biko dump his ass and not because he is broke but he is a broke liar.two vices abeg.if he was broke with prospects,I would have encouraged u
ReplyDeleteAND he is stalking you, that's a sign of mental instability. He is dangerous,don't go out of ur house alone at night
James na okada you dey ride?
ReplyDeleteLovemejeje, it seems u don't hv a car. I don't mind getting one for u if .......
DeletePerson wey dey cry dey see road o, Poster.
ReplyDeleteGod forbid you marry that guy.
Report his arse to his Papa or senior pastors in church.
So he can leave you alone.
Nigerians can abuse things ehn.
Everyone wants to pull the suicide card.
Tell him to commit the suicide jor and see how fast he does an about turn.
Leech oshi!
Poster, kindly advise him to do it. Haba!! plenty ground dey empty waiting to swallow. Please don't let that bother you. Na today we don dey hear suicide? Oya die no!!
ReplyDeletePlease go about doing your own thing jor make better spirit locate you.
sweety let me tell you sometin a crafty and a cunny man cant kill himself, he is a very selfish man can hurt anyone but himself. forget that fool and move on. he want to die ehn let him go and drink water pia pia na.
ReplyDeleteTell him to go and die, that u don't care.
ReplyDeleteNawa for dis chronicle oo.. Nne i just dey look you one kain... why encourage someone you said allegedly that is beneath your standard? I hope he haff not gbenshed you? Anyways, i don't take shit oo, thats how hungry guys like Vijay & Sanjay will be following me around like Ijiji on location here in Mumbai but i always tell them off!! Ndi Owu Ite ... Vikram is also always around to scare them... One thing i noticed is dat Owu Ite guys plenty here for Mumbai kikikikikiii, who go blame them when Indian population reach 1.2 Billion!! .. Somehow i don't believe this chronicle, the babe like the guy but later unlike him because of money..
ReplyDeleteWell make i go back to work, i am filming with Halle Ngozi Eberry, the American actress, she is guest starring in SALONI SEASON 51.... Itz me Saloni the Nigerian Indian Half Caste.
Lolzzz. This solami. U are cray
DeleteThe guy can NEVER KILL HIMSELF just a BLACKMAIL. Travel for a week or 2 weeks and do not pick his calls and see whether he will kill himself. My dear do not waste your time on the guy, not worth it abeg. You know what to do, so do it and don't end up like your mum.
ReplyDeleteBabe, why are disturbed. u dont like him period. Move on and let him do as he wish, i bet u, he is only trying to hold on to you by threatening to commit suicide. Go for someone you are proud of jare.
ReplyDeleteHe who can jump a barbed wire fence just to see you,can also rape you when he's Konjirized with a full tank that needs evacuation.
ReplyDeletePls get out of sight by any means necessary.
Relocate,disappear,change your phone nos,enter voice mail.
To be forewarned is to be forearmed.
Babe, why are disturbed. u dont like him period. Move on and let him do as he wish, i bet u, he is only trying to hold on to you by threatening to commit suicide. Go for someone you are proud of jare.
ReplyDeleteBabe, why are disturbed. u dont like him period. Move on and let him do as he wish, i bet u, he is only trying to hold on to you by threatening to commit suicide. Go for someone you are proud of jare.
ReplyDeleteGo snd report him to his house fellowship leader or zonal pastor or his group leader or Papa sef. If he tells you he wants to kill himself again, buy him rope and sniper.
ReplyDeleteHello dear poster..pls leave hm.what kinda cheap blackmail is that?! He won't kill himself..I repeat he won't.Report him to his pastor..change ur line..if possible go to a neutral friends house and stay..a place he doesn't know. My dear..last last it's ur happiness that matters the most..Don't be blackmailed emotionally OK..hold ur head up high n pray for God's wisdom,grace n strength. Peace
ReplyDeleteWhile other guys are out there hustling to survive,nwa teacher still dae climb fence issoria!
ReplyDeleteWhat has your picture got to do with the Chronicle?
ReplyDeleteKING XOXO MYSTERY
Treat this issue with an urgency.
ReplyDeleteThis hopeless parasite will not kill himself....... he is about hurting you big time......my hunch is...... an acid bath!
Report immediately to the police with all evidence of his psycho moves. Relocate if you can.
He sees you as his future lifeline, a girl out of his league is someone he aims to "own and dominate". Pack all emotions into Lastma truck and deal decisively with him. Your life and even your Mom's is in danger....... don't treat this with kid gloves. This type are the "if i can't have you, no one else would" type.
Do not let a guy who is only worth his breathe destroy your life completely.
Ladies, do not date....scrap that.....do not indulge a guy you feel nothing for in a discussion more than two minutes. You will be surprised how they over-analyse it and super-impose love gestures, till they convince themselves, that Your eyes need to be opened to the great love you feel for them. Do not give them chance at all!!
I love reading your comments. Always makes sense. I always say never allow or give room for something you have no long term plans for. There's no need! Between this posters guy sounds like a nutcase. Most broke ass, lazy guys behave this way till they hit small money... Then you will see their true characters.
DeleteGbam!!!!! A very necessary epistle...
Deletethe issue is not being broke, but being broke accompanied with all manner of shitty behavior. my dear report him to the police so when he decides to kill himself you wont be on the front page of a newspaper. but bobo ye ya werey o, less i forget, eyin nor aunty.
ReplyDeletePoster trust me when I say he will not commit suicide. He's just a leech, your probably the best thing he's ever had and trust me when I say if this dude becomes richer there's 99percent chance he will misbehave. #chroniclesofbrokeGuys
ReplyDeletePlease walk 🚶 away if you don't love him.No pretends @ all.
ReplyDeletePlease tell him that you will be most grateful to see him die so you can at least rest.
ReplyDeleteDon't listen to him oooo
Is lying not enough that he should now threaten you with committing suicide?
Marry him and watch yourself send chronicles soon
It's not by force, you guys are not compartable take a walk. Stop been confused and mushy, it's not going to work it's over. You owe no one an apology. Ladies should learn to say no, saying no to issues makes life a lot easier. Be firm as a lady.
ReplyDeletePlus report to the police if you feel threatened by him.
Poster you don't have any problem naa. He lies, has no long term goals for his financial future, stalks you & you don't like him one bit so what is your problem? The suicide talk? 😂😂😂😂 don't mind him! It's only cowards that think of or commit suicide. Don't allow him to tie you to himself with such talks please, flee from his controlling & domineering life. If he keeps disturbing you, report him to the police & see the kaikai that he consumed clear from his eyes.
ReplyDeleteThis guy is as dangerous as they come. Please file a report with the Police about his invasion of your home and make sure you let him know that you won't hesitate to have him arrested the next time he comes near you. He's already a huge threat and you're still treating the matter with kid gloves. Shebi you're waiting to be in the news as an acid burn victim or even a corpse before you know that this guy is capable of causing serious harm to you or your family. Please do needful and get the Police involved as well as cut all ties with him. Besides, what kinda guy lies to and shamelessly begs a woman he loves for money? Dump him already biko. Dis one na destiny destroyer o...quoting scripture like satan!
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteDear Poster, You cannot marry someone out of sympathy or threat to commit suicide, U can are guilty of leading him on thinking that u can make the available the desirable when the desirable is not available. U need to systematically and strategically easy him off your issue. Reduce communication and attention, Stop Intimacy and let him understand that he needs to build is life and get a good Job,shelter, and average housing before thinking about a woman to settle down with.
ReplyDeleteGracias
Hi Stella, You are really doing a great job. thank you.
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't need anyone to tell her to RUN. All the signs are there for her to see. She should report to any of his sibling (if she knows any). I once dated a guy who claims he is a graduate, a Christian, and into business (Supply of AGO to be precise), but I have never heard him talk about his business for one day except when he lies that he needs money (usually very high amount) and never pays back and when you ask him, he starts insulting life out of you and end up never paying back. Later will still ask again lying about the business. I never heard him also talk about church, every Sunday if asked why he didn't go to church, he'll say he was tired, meanwhile he did not go anywhere during the week. He gets so extremely violent when u refused to give him money and will always beg after verbally battering you. At some point he wanted us to go for deliverance. Ask me where? Ibadan - and I have to buy white earrings, white piece of cloth, white cork and all sorts of white items. I just knew God wanted to save me and I fled.
When I eventually broke up with me he told all sorts of lies, called my parents to say all sorts! and swearing that "his sister" will never get married.
I had to run, becos he is only happy when u give him money.
A word they say is enough for the wise.
SO PLS IN THE NAME OF THE ALMIGHTY FLEE!!!
Just walk away with dignity! Trust me you dont want to go down that road
ReplyDeleteYou are part of the assignment to destroy him. Don't you see he needs help. The m always thinking of sex and broke. He has given up. That's y not ambitious. As a friend pray and fast for him. He wouldn't be in church if he dis not need deliverance. Pray and fast for him. God will work it out and if he is meant to be with you
ReplyDeleteMy dear, your story is so similar to one that happened to someone I used to know. The lady in question met a guy through her church and he was beneath her standard but she kept the friendship. All of a sudden, the man started saying that they are destined to be together and that he is her husband. He acted like a strong born-again Christian and went as far as telling her that he saw visions. The man had not a dime and he relied on the girl for money.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if it is jazz oo but one day the girl who initially didn't like the man eloped with him and married him, calling her parents some weeks later to tell them that he said that if she didn't marry him, she'd die. And that he had said something about her having an accident and she did.
She stayed in the marriage for ten years, catering for this man and even working his papers to move to Canada with her. Infact the story is messy and after a while he seized her kids and ran away to another part of town while the woman kept looking for them and I can't say if she got her kids back because the last time I checked, the kids were still with him.
I hope the story above has showen you that you might be about entering one chance by being with a man like him.
If he wants to commit suicide, he's above eighteen years right? And he is a matured man who will not escape judgement if he takes his life. It has nothing to do with you. And please stop picking his calls and any unknown numbers for now atleast till coast is clear and if you can, move far away for sometime. A word is enough for the wise.
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I would have said walk away, but in order to avoid stories that touch, as per d suicide threat,deal with wisdom. You say you met in church? Take the matter to a church elder or counselor, cos you might say he won't commit suicide and he does
ReplyDeleteI perfectly do understand why the POSTER is having cold feet at this point, the fact that she saw what her mom has been through and she doesn't wanna be in the same mess, It would have been better if the man in question have an appealing Prospects about his future, if he has been honest and faithful. My dear for you to have come up with this its obvious you've given up on him. So just make him see reasons and part ways.
ReplyDeleteAvoid stories that touch
DeleteBecome scarce(acid, rape and other forms of violence are not your portion) and get the pastor and police involved
Seemingly the guy from your narration is psychologically and mentally unbalanced.
stupid set of men. na so I just discover say my sugar pie husband of 3years ehn, na fake result in get. d guy no finish uni. na laff I dey laff oooooo. hmmmnnnn.been working wt d result b4 we marry sef. may God save we women. rubbish. angrywif
ReplyDeletePlease avoid him like a plague. Hope it won't turn out to be d case of if I can't have u no one will. Obsession is nt good.
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why most women are like this..I don't. It is not as if you started feeling about him this way just recently. This was the way you felt about him from the very beginning but somewhere along the line you still managed to fall in love with him.. you still knowingly got carried away and in between the beginning and now you fell in love with what you describe as a disgust for your kind of man... and I know you people GBENSHED during the course of your falling and being in love with him. And to me it doesn't matter how briefly thus was. But the point is you did. But why? This goes to show women don't really know what they want. A woman will draft/list out the things and quality she desire in a man but will still fall for something totally out of place compared to what they list. Something they themselves will describe to you as total disgust.. They will feel comfortable gbenshing him. That is why even if your gf is talk about some guy or even your security officer with much disdain and disgust doesn't mean she won't still gbenshing them when the atmosphere is right for it. I can never trust you people.. you ever falling in love with him is your greatest undoing.. well tell him to fuck off.. that the whole gbenshing thing was a mistake
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