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WHEN THE ABUSED TURNED ABUSER...

Hi Stella,

The recent issue trending on social media about domestic violence caught my attention and made me look into my marriage, I got married to someone I Love and respect, I have been married before to a very abusive man who traveled to US with my money and married a black American which made me to file for a divorce. Prior to my current marriage I invested my energy in my academics and career which to the glory of God, I am what u will call a successful  lady, now back to the issue. 

I never knew my current husband whom I love and respect came for my money even though he is not doing bad either. During our honeymoon in Paris it happens that he was playing candy crush with my phone when my June monthly salary alert came in and he saw that I earn almost 6 figures. That's how he left every responsibility to me,  things starting getting worst when I buy every pin we use in the house, I got mad one faithful Saturday and told him that I can't continue to take care of everything thing, from the moment I took in Stella I was the one paying the bill till I gave birth to our son in the states. 

After the confrontation that Saturday he told me that I should be happy he married me after all am second hand and can't leave the marriage again cos of what people will say, that I am suppose to be worshiping him. When he said all this I laughed because he did not know what  am capable of doing.

On the 8th of January I wanted to take my son to the doctor but he insisted on using my car stating that he does not have fuel in his car, Stella when I started dragging my car key with him, he slapped me, and tore my blouse in front of my boy, I was shattered, so I left the key for him and he drove out with my car.

 On getting back inside I told my self that I can not be abused again in marriage never, I was ready for the heaven to fall that day, I quickly went to market bought 200 naira worth of pepper and blended it, I bought kobo Ko and rope the kind used in spreading cloths, immediately he came back I went to him to ask for forgiveness for dragging the car key with him, I gave him food and orange juice which I spiked with his sleeping drops as he has issue sleeping with out his sleeping drops, and run his bath, I made sure  my son was asleep before carrying out my plans.

Immediately it was 10.00 pm dot and I made sure he had slept, I tied his legs to the bed and his hands separately  as well, I used duck tape to tape his mouth then  I woke him up with a very hot lashes, I started flogging him on his bare back, after which I showed him the pepper and threatened to put them in his eyes and his private parts.

 I told him that if he ever lay a finger on me again that I will kill him and that going forward that I will never be spending kobo on the house up keep, then i untied one of his hand and gave him a paper which I have ready type and printed from his studies which states that if any of us files for  a divorce that he or she will  pay the other 8 million naira, made space for a witness which my bestie who is a lawyer signed as a witness the next day.

  I also took pix of his small sick looking manhood with his face showing and told him that I will drop it all over the Internet accusing him of adultery and  that he was caught with another man's wife and got tied up and beaten. I made sure that i flogged him well that night then left him like that till morning.

Stella I was so scared to untie him the next morning but I made sure i took the agreement to my friend first before untying him, and when I eventually did he went straight to the bathroom took his shower soaked the bedsheets that he urinated  on, then he asked for his breakfast.

Ever since then I have known nothing but peace in my home, he takes care of all the bills and even takes us on summer vacations, he bought me a small car last year cos I was complaint that my SUV which is V 8 consumes fuel, he is still apologising for laying a finger at me.

This thing happened over 2 years ago and he has never laid a finger at me. Bottom line is to never seek for self pity on domestic violence is either you say to the been abuse or you pack your bags and that of your kids and Run for your life.