A Man that goes on errand for a woman?
When a man loves a woman he would do anything for a her..
When a man loves a woman common sense tells him to take part in house chores....
Some Husbands come easy
Some have to be taught..
Some would rather die than try.
What kind of man do you have at home?Does he do the shopping for you?Mine does!Sometimes he offers and sometimes i have to beg and Cajole,especially when i am blogging and cant get off.
What is your take about a man who does the shopping for his wife,comes back,cooks and even serves her?Do you think hes stupid?ass licker hubby?Juju? or a man who knows that Peace and Happiness in a home involves both parties doing stuff...
The shopping scenario abroad and the one in Nigeria is different but it is shopping.I send Hubby to Afroshop sometimes to buy goat meat,pepper and stuff,the only problem i face is that he ends up buying all the wrong things or buying too much of one ''so that we dont run out of it too fast''..lol
I do not see anything wrong with a man who goes shopping for gorceries or underwear for his wife....Its so heartwarming to see a man who does!
Please share your opinion and try not to head South ....
Married women session
ReplyDeleteMy husband does the shopping of foods stuff. In fact he buys better than I do and I don't take this for granted, I show appreciation always because its a women's duty in our society. He goes as far as making the soup if I will be coming back late and I must say he is a good cook, but to clear or wash plates dey had am o.
DeleteLet me use this opportunity to say like have always say to him THANK you my hero.
My husband is domesticated. Can cook for Africa, shop and clean 4 africa. D only tyn I dnt like about him is dat he likes farting.. JeEezzzz, d worst is dt, he will call u from wr eva u are in d house, jst so u cn hear d way d fart sounds. Sometimes, he will evn put my hand in his bumbum and fart or put his hand and den "throw" d smell to me. Kai!! I haf taya jor. Dia ws a time he ddnt fart for days, I got worried oo, and started askn him if he ws ok or if sometyn was worrying him.. he laughed dt day ehhh.. choi!!
Deletemy ex bf was very stingy....food money was war everytime so to solve d problem i reminded him d market was closer to his office he will buy orisirisi that he feels like eating n i will cook...i didnt ve to nag no fight and he wld even usually spend more but peace reign until his cup full n it was part of d reasons i dumped his arse
DeleteOh, God bless the man behind my smiles... words can't express how much I appreciate you. Just remembering those days I was pregnant with our baby and even till now. Oh... God bless you real good dear
DeleteMchewww.
DeleteWho shopping for woman epp?
As far as am concerned...alot of nigerian women cant handle a man that does all these for them.
Cos i just wonder why all the ones u show love, put before urself, stand by them end up messing u up. Gone are the days abeg. Will be an amazing partner but there are things i wont do ever again for any woman except my daughters.
Is shopping smtin to even count? I dont know how to cook sadly and nt interested in learning.
The bottom line is we are africans and uts not in our ways to do all these. Its sweet wheb u do byt a woman shouldnt expect it to be the norm. Yes if shes too busy with work, a man can get it but for it to be a norm, hell no.
Am of the opinion that we africans are losibg our heritage gradually at an alarming rate. we only want western things from form of govt to schools to dreasing to lifestyle to food etc.
Finally, a man should be there for his wife, if shes sick, he can bath her, wash her underwears, pamper her etc...if shes well he can massage, give her booty rubs (my specialization) etc. He can cook once in a while to surprise her and the likes. He can get groceries too, thats nt even an issue. The biggest issue with women is that the moment you do anything for them, they expect it to be a norm and henceforth want u to do it. Eg you hear things like "baby u dont cook for me anymore" even though u just cooked cos she was sick etc.
Married women who their husbands don't do anything, please don't fight your horseband becos of the fairytale you read here. Carry your cross sweetly, and move to the next post. We are all different and unique.
DeleteHahahahahahahahaha...
DeleteLwkmd at anon 13:41!!..
OMG!...
It's really so heart warming to see a man who does.my hubby tries sha.he doesn't go shopping.. But he can clean the house waaaaay better than I can ever do..oh and when he is in the mood to cook which isn't often anyway..his meals always turn out finger licking good.hehe thumbs up sweetie..I know you'll see this
DeleteOh tuscany, u sure say I no like u so???
DeleteHope u r not a girl sha, coz ur breakdown is too comprehensive for a man to comprehend
Hello tuscany, can u please send me a mail.. I think I am falling for you and would like to date you.
Delete*sideeyesatBV's*
Back to topic, if I find a man to do such for me it's actually a sweet thing but when the woman now takes over advantage of it then it becomes an issue.
Only an understanding man and one who is not egocentric will go shopping for his wifey
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I grew up to see my dad do the shopping when mom is busy or he just feels like, and he cooks too for the family.
DeleteFor leboo lip sealed for now
As a man I have come to realise that it's best I keep my wife happy!!Jesus it saves you so much stress and heartbreak. For over four months now babe has been waking me up with a kiss all cos I hv learnt to do (the things important to her)even if it's at my convinence oh lol,someone told me how to avoid women wahala is what makes you a real man!I have her under my thumb (figure of speech)and she thinks she has me under hers! Lol a happy wife is a happy man if shopping is what will make PEACD to reign I will shop, and shop and have my damn peace abeg!
DeleteYou are right
DeleteMake I siddon read comments
ReplyDeleteI follow you siddon o.here to read comments
DeleteI see it as love and the same time stinginess when a man goes shopping for a woman.
ReplyDeleteStinginess when they dont want you to eat their change.
Love when you do no wrong especially calabar men
Nne no be stinginess oh. Mine can buy the whole market when he goes to shop. He will even buy things that I don't need.
DeleteOver to the married women...
ReplyDeleteGlo be collecting my money and to give me what I paid for...diaris God oh
I've not been to the market for years now, hubby buys Stuffs in bulk and we Store it at home,(though they cheat the hell outta him) if I need little stuffs like leafs,and things I can't store, i have people to do that for me. I've never liked going to the market anyway always too stressful,so when hubby decided to take up the role, I was so glad.
DeleteHe cooks too but not all the time,(I enjoy cooking for him) he does the laundry for me and the kids.
There is nothing he can't do to help out at home, my dad always complain that he has made me sooo lazy lol
Love my sexy steel to the high heavens and back jare
You and this glo everyday, why not port to a better network like***** no idea. They are all thesame.
DeleteCan we get a pink couch pLs
ReplyDeleteYeah I'm sure this is because of the row with Omotola and her husband.
ReplyDeleteWhat's wrong with a man shopping for his lady?
Let's forget celebrities now.
Personally I don't like market runs unless I have to go.
If my man decides to do it and I know he is a better bargainer than I am then why not after all if he didn't have a woman, wouldn't he shop for himself?
Islamically or Hausa tradition the men derive joy from shopping for his wife/wives.
Buy her wrappers and follow her to the market and it's not because he is stingy or wants to monitor what she buys. It's just what it is. It doesn't make him less a man.
After all if I cook the food him go chop inside.
A man who acknowledge and knows the worth of a woman will help her in anyway he can.. No be juju oo na love! And only a man who was raised by a worthy mother will will do such. *But anty Stella this pix u use, d man resemble mumu*
ReplyDeleteLwkmd.
DeleteI had to scroll back up.
He is stupidly in love.
#WhiteDiamondOut
True
DeleteSo nice. Mine does everything for me. He dosn't see it as anything.Just that sometimes he ends up buying them more expensive than i would have bought it.He bought some dry fish for me the other day and when he came back,i asked him how much and when i told me i was happy and i thanked him,even though i know that its a little bit expensive.At list it will last us for some time.I like it when men help at home.
ReplyDeleteExactly, hide your feelings. Keep appreciating him.
DeleteAnyway mine does the needful.
ReplyDeletePls I need help.My boyfriend bring out saliva from his mouth when he's sleeping and I don't want to leave him because of that.. Pls how can I help him?
ReplyDeleteNext time lick the saliva and sleep...lol!
DeleteLearning to sleep with tom-tom or anyother sweet in his mouth might help drooling.
DeleteCover his mouth.
DeleteLick off the saliva
DeleteSome people have real problems...in case you didn't know. Rubbish of the highest order. Mtcheeeeeeeeewwww.
DeleteEwww.Gross @ anon 13:39
DeleteU must be a very dirty woman urself
Cellotape it, hahahaha
DeletePut a bowl near his mouth so the saliva can drip inside, once the bowl is full, carry it and gulp
DeleteAny man that always goes shopping for his woman is a mumu a woman wrapper a yeye man and disgrace to all men.
ReplyDeleteUr mumu is just on another level! Wetin dey worry u? Ewu!!!
DeleteU dey quarrel with commas?
DeleteHahahaha...Bro James ibiakwa as usual! Anyway, you will never be wrong in my eyes. Gbam,ekwurumya ekwu!
DeleteNo be mumu ooo..na love jare..I fit wash pant sef if am in love
DeleteMc pinky
Lol.....but come to tink of it,if u r just doing it willing then pple go kal d man mumu ni oooo
DeleteMc pinky
James you never disappoint. My husband does the shopping. In fact I write him a list. He will get to the shop and be phoning me: Babe they don't have the three pack of tuna, should I buy five? Yes he goes shopping. But, I work full time. Take care of the kids. Cook ALL meals. He NEVER cooks. He never irons or gets the kids ready for school. I do all the laundry. I attend all the kids school events. Combine that with high flying professional full time job with senior management responsibilities at work. So all he does is the shopping.
DeleteI don't believe that's too much to ask of any man. Especially as the distribution of household chores is already so skewed. Especially as we dont live in naija. He should even thank his stars that I don't make too much fuss about all the other things he doesn't do.
Dr S.
That's why u'll die single James because no responsible woman will settle for Senseless man like you.
Deleteso if you eventually marry you won't go shopping for the woman that will be unfortunate to marry you?
Any man that shops for his wife is a disgrace to all men u say? It's rather unfortunate you don't kw dat u're the disgrace here. A woman will marry u n till the day u die you can't shop for her? Even when she's sick or nursing a baby? JAMES PLS YOU NEED TO SIT UP N LEARN YOU ARE THE ONE THAT IS A DISGRACE TO MEN, A FOOL, AN IDIOT, N SENSELESS MAN, YOU TALK WITHOUT THINKING AM BEGINNING TO THINK YOU HAVE A FISH BRAIN COS UR COMMENTS ALWAYS LOOKS LIKE A FOOL COMMENTING IN WHICH YOU ARE.
Aunty Stella pls post my comment to James his stupidity is too more and this particular one got me so pissed.
DeleteNot suprised, slavery mentality.
DeleteI don't see anything wrong with a man shopping for his woman BUT none of my children will do that for any bloody woman not when I'm still alife...
ReplyDeleteI can't even imagine my husband going to the market or wherever to shop for the family when I'm there...it's my job mehn!...
Imagine my husband pricing fish,pepper and tomatoes...for what nau?...God forbid!...
I see men that shops for their wives as stingy and jobless!!...
I hate the way some of them bargain,joke and laugh with those market women...height of joblessness!...
You need exposure. Serious one.
DeleteHe can get all the cooking items from Spar, would it make sense to you than the local market?
DeleteYou contradict yourself. You don't see anything wrong, yet you forbid it from happening with your sons or husband.
DeleteThe word is alive though.
Get a life please.
That means you will die before they get married na, Ewu ohia
DeleteAtheist,which spaar?...
DeleteThose ones that sells spoilt food stuff?,,
Something they kept since God knows when...
Hian!,..I no dey do that kain ajebo!...
Na local market I dey buy my fresh food stuff!...
Nwamaka,are you exposed than I do?....
DeleteAbeg gerrout!...Mgbeke feeling funky!..
It's not only shopping. My hubby helps me out with chores cos we are both working. I always boast of it in d office and to others I tell him thanks and I do really appreciate the help. He helps doe the dishes when he sees am swarmed. Or clean the floors/mopping. No marriage is perfect but if the two parties are willing to but in efforts why won't there be results? I guess am lucky cos even with all my wahala *and his too* we both try and do what makes the other happy..do what makes him happy, u men too pls do what makes her happy= happy married life! Look, it's us making ourselves miserable in marriage, be truthful to yourself for once and go work on ur home instead of running outside, who told u the girl u cheating with is better? Lol!!cos u don't live with her! Marry her let's see if u will still think she awesome
DeleteQueen your English today no just follow at allllll.
DeleteNah! I prefer accompanying the woman to the market. It's more fun & romantic that way.
ReplyDelete*Ghanaman signing out*
You are truly a Ghanaman lolz, in a good way.
DeleteIts not Juju or houseboy and I say this because a woman who has such a man that offers these sort of attention effortlessly and also appreciates him in return will only recieve more of such. Only if you dont make him feel good about it that he starts feeling the ego rise when his friends talk condescendingly about such acts.
ReplyDeleteWhen he does the needful, dont look at it as such make him feel good and he wont see anything wrong in keeping the good times and help coming.
Exactly, appreciation is very important
DeleteI guess this is about the omotola brouhaha.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong in your man helping out once in a while...
If he sees a good deal while going about his business, nothing wrong in buying to store.
If you are busy and he is free, nothing wrong in doing his bit.
But never expect a man to make it his point of duty to do those things, it isn't especially if he is the sole breadwinner.
Omotola should have just kept quiet...
A lot of men do same, but don't want their wives talking about it to the press.
Not married or dating anyone yet buh I think it's a beautiful thing to do.
ReplyDeletePray for such, cos you will definitely need a helping hand.
DeleteThe comment section would be flooded with my DH this, my DH that
ReplyDeleteBoth people with imaginery DH...they know themselves
Lemme just chill and read comments sha
Trust sdk bvs gushing about their Fairy tale hubby. It is well as am trolling comments today. Boosting morale. Kikikiki
DeleteMy husband does the shopping for me on. He buys from pepper to everything. Though he says when he goes to the market to buy, most times the women selling make side comments like he is stingy that's why he doesn't let his wife do the shopping. Sometimes we go together. I love him doing it cos it relieves me the stress abeg
ReplyDeleteLolz.
DeleteMy man really likes going to the market, he can price anything, fear sef go catch you. He his very understanding and goes to the market if I can't or am too tired, sometimes he just decides to go and sometimes I beg him
ReplyDeleteLolz
DeleteNothing bad if a husband decides to shop for his wife.. but its bad if after shopping he wld come home n still cook and serves her, dat one is wrong.
ReplyDeleteNothing bad if a husband decides to shop for his wife.. but its bad if after shopping he wld come home n still cook and serve her, dat one is wrong.
ReplyDeleteFairy tale do exist kikikiki
DeleteMy man grew up doing it because he saw his father do it for the family. He does it without complaining. He only complains when I make it his sole responsibility. He hate me complaining when he buys the wrong things. For instance, I don't eat goat meat but that's his favorite. When I request he buy life chicken he will buy frozen chicken because he hates the smell of the poultry area of the market. When I complain he will promise not to ever help me go shopping but na lie when I beg and treat him right he forgets his promise. He cooks for us occasionally especially when he wants to cook his native food since we are from different tribe. Even if the food is not as nice as it would be I still encourage him by telling him that he's the best cook.😜
ReplyDeleteI don't take advantage of this because I know I have the tendency of taking advantage of it. My man is the best joor.😘😍
Your husband should get busy!...
DeleteHe should get a real job!....
Defending omotola statement? Nice1 stella ....
ReplyDeleteI ll love 2 v DT kind of a husband.
ReplyDeleteYou will my dear just as you wish
DeleteE dey sweet Ooo I no go Lie to you
Sorry to derail! But mehn, jus went through comments on IHN and ol'boy they took D'royalty to the cleaners men! 😂 chai! How person mouth dey spread like shower curtain? Bv's ehn 😅
ReplyDeleteIn other news..... u kno d drill 😘😚 *smackslips*
Kelvin dat Edo Boi ( Stellz cousin )
I swear, I laff fall into gutter, rise, fall again.
DeleteI swear, I no go dey waka dey read any blog again.
Kelvin Ogun dat Edo boi Stella cousin, you always derail naw. So There is nothing to be sorry about. I am only surprised dat u are no longer disgracing yourself bcos common woman toto.
DeleteNice, not bad.
ReplyDeleteSorry to derail! But mehn, jus went through comments on ystday's IHN and ol'boy they took D'royalty to the cleaners men! 😂 chai! How person mouth dey spread like shower curtain? Bv's ehn 😅
ReplyDeleteIn other news..... u kno d drill 😘😚 *smackslips*
Kelvin dat Edo Boi ( Stellz cousin )
Side eyes at you.
DeleteAny man that cooks and serves his wife everyday is a Mugu!...
ReplyDeleteInfact Mugu I billion!,..woman wrapper!...
I'm currently teaching my sons how to cook but not to be doing that to a pussy!...
Don't raise them to be domineering husbands. Raise them to treat a woman like a queen. U will suffer it if you fail in this duty as a mother .
DeleteShu?
DeleteSome men like it that way na.
Lmao 😁
DeleteTaa! ...
DeleteI'm raising them to be a man not an Ogbono or a woman wrapper!...
Queen nonsense. U see how it's true that women are the problem of the world? Yes na the bad men u pple complain about no be women E their mama wen train them not to know how to treat a woman right?? U teach ur son's? Lol na people lie them women go take clean yansh sef. You will be a very wicked MIL. So u see it boils down to u women being the problem of d world! U won't train ur son right, another woman who marries him won't train their own son's right the circle continues. They cheat with fellow women like u who will readily agree fully knowing he is married, the world does come full circle for your likes na!
DeleteMy husband comes easy.. He can do any and evrytyn.. sometimes I apply 4 casual leave literally and he approves it.. in dos few days, he does evrytyn. Cook, clean, wash, fetch etc. Sometimes 2, I hv 2 beg and cajole him.. He does all these bcos he knws I can do jst about anytyn 4him. And by d way, he makes d best fried rice and best fish stew av eva eaten in my whole life.. #yummy.. i'll also teach my son how to be domesticated so his wife will enjoy like me.
ReplyDeleteWow! Nice
DeleteOmotola n her hubby
ReplyDeleteYea yea
DeleteThere is nothing wrong with it as long as there's understanding between the couple.
ReplyDeleteApart from doing the dishes,My hubby can do all house chores and buy things from the market when am tired or occupied with tending the baby. Its no big deal.
Husbands should learn to help out their wives in some chores, it makes us feel special but wives should also learn not to abuse the priviledge.
Your husband is a diamond, appreciate your man.
DeleteMy boyfriend is a perfect gentleman and he Loves me completely,he is a perfect find. However I don't like it when he shops for me especially for femle items ( clothes, bags, shoes et al). I hate to think that the retail stores always cheat him and over cost every item.I have tried to let him understand why we should go to the store together atleast any time he isn't outside the country buy he no dae hear. That's the only issue we always have. So I love to go shopping myself because I always do draw up a list and try to stick to my budget
ReplyDeleteDem de talk husband, you de talk boyfriend. Who tell you say the category na the same? Wait till e put you for house first as wife then come back to comment. Oya flee.
DeleteAppreciate him still.
DeleteThere is nothing wrong in a man helping out both in chores n shopping, but wen the woman uses him as her slave or the man using the woman as his slave is wrong, mine helps out at home n outside willingly, he sure knows I'm not a robot, I'm lucky.
ReplyDeleteGbam
DeleteUnless they hv changed positions and duties and the woman is now d head of the house. And she now provides for the family
ReplyDeleteJames James you must be a very complex individual
DeleteCase study.... Omotola and my Edo brother..
ReplyDeleteYa'right
DeleteI don't see any thing wrong with a man going shopping, and doing the cooking..
ReplyDeleteI find it very romantic..
That's why I like italian men..
But the nigerian mentality is that a man that goes shopping is a "woman wrapper" or "vegetable" amongst so many other colourful words..
I'm always stymied when I hear such.
I love me a man that will do all those and more..
My man has got to pamper me..
Its no secret that I love chilvarous men..
For those that don't believe we still have chilvarous men..well, you are in your own world as I am in mine..
I've only known and have been surrounded by men who keeps chivalry alive.
I'd have opposed the opinion eof a man shopping for his wife while I was still single. But now that I'm married and know better, if the man wants to wash his wife's pant join let him carry on.
DeleteYes, that is why you are currently married to one.
DeleteHmmm Chilvarous where is my dictionary? Will be back, lolz
DeleteAnon 13.41. Don't tell me it was only chilvarous you saw after all your craning..Lol.
DeleteOmg if a man goes shopping for me, he got my loyalty and love. Will always give him my cookies jar, am still single. Pray my future hubby read this and adheard to it.
ReplyDeleteNo words for you
DeleteHmmmmmm,nice one
ReplyDeleteMy hubby goes to market once in a while!
Sometimes when am so busy dat I can't squeeze out time 2 go 4 shopping ,i just text him the tinz we need in the house 4 him to help me and get them and he does them without complaining.
He always help out in the kitchen especially when he comes back from work b4 me.
But not always tho.....once in a while.
I can still remember the day he woke up so early 2 mob and dust the house while I was still in bed one Saturday...choi,that feeling.......
Please tap and move on....don't menstruate under my comment.
Lmao, hope he 'mobbed' very well o, #perrenialdsydreamer #mashedbeansandogisthebomb
DeleteLmaooooooo
Lolz no tapping just hailing you and your nice hubby.
DeleteThe word is mop not mob.
DeleteThank me later.
Ekeonuwa or relief????
DeleteSofri they claim perfect marriage
I have never done grocery shopping since I got married. I don't even know the cost of anything in the Super market ad my hubby does it all the time. He also shops for meat, pepper, tomatoes, oil, yam and anything he sees on his way when coming back from work. The only shopping I do is for soup items as he doesn't know anything about that. Then I shop for little things to use to make main food since he has bought like the main ingredient.. Someone asked me how much a roll of the tissue we had in our house cost and I replied I'll ask my husband. Lol, she laughed
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to house chores he does 70% of it to be honest. Things like cleaning, putting clothes in the washer, arranging the house and all that. It's his specialty. When you do it he will redo it. It was a problem when we got married until I reported to his sisters and they asked me to stop doing them saying that's how he is even when they were growing up. His Mum made sure he did everything a woman coukd do as he was the only son.
When my mom came for omugwo and noticed I don't have any chores she was like this is an answer to your prayer as you are such a lazy girl. I hate house chores. They little I do is still a wahala for me. But there would be serious wahala if I don't do the chores I'm suppose to do. Chai, it will be a serious something because he will tell me how I basically have no chores and still don't do the small one 😂😂😁😀.
Biko nothing wrong in it as long as the man is doing it willingly on his own free will.
But he has never done undergarment shopping for me O. As in never. He had never bought any intimate item for me OK, except for pad but that's because his doing grocery shopping. But never bought pant or bras for me since I have known him.
Awwwwwwwww
DeleteVery romantic jare....enjoy
Your hubby is an angel jor. Best wishes.
DeleteChai! Ihe m'na acho!
DeleteEnjoy my dear
DeleteI have never done grocery shopping since I got married. I don't even know the cost of anything in the Super market ad my hubby does it all the time. He also shops for meat, pepper, tomatoes, oil, yam and anything he sees on his way when coming back from work. The only shopping I do is for soup items as he doesn't know anything about that. Then I shop for little things to use to make main food since he has bought like the main ingredient.. Someone asked me how much a roll of the tissue we had in our house cost and I replied I'll ask my husband. Lol, she laughed
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to house chores he does 70% of it to be honest. Things like cleaning, putting clothes in the washer, arranging the house and all that. It's his specialty. When you do it he will redo it. It was a problem when we got married until I reported to his sisters and they asked me to stop doing them saying that's how he is even when they were growing up. His Mum made sure he did everything a woman coukd do as he was the only son.
When my mom came for omugwo and noticed I don't have any chores she was like this is an answer to your prayer as you are such a lazy girl. I hate house chores. They little I do is still a wahala for me. But there would be serious wahala if I don't do the chores I'm suppose to do. Chai, it will be a serious something because he will tell me how I basically have no chores and still don't do the small one 😂😂😁😀.
Biko nothing wrong in it as long as the man is doing it willingly on his own free will.
But he has never done undergarment shopping for me O. As in never. He had never bought any intimate item for me OK, except for pad but that's because his doing grocery shopping. But never bought pant or bras for me since I have known him.
Its like the best to happen to any woman when she has a man that partakes in moving the home forwad, not jst emotionally,finacially but also chorely lol
ReplyDeleteNormal way of living in the UK so it's not even a topic of discussion. It's a way of life.
ReplyDeleteHahaha, post of life!
ReplyDeleteStella where is the popcorn seller,i came to read comments.
Me too, lol
DeleteNa women wey don wash their punani cook soup for their husbands dey expect all that nonsense. A woman should stay where she belongs and that is the kitchen and the bedroom. All these women feminists are wasting their time. It will always be a man's world.
ReplyDeleteYour opinion but a man can also assist his wife sometimes.
DeleteYou are not a real man.
DeleteSee..Stella na white man u dey deal with ooh..their mentality differs ooh..
ReplyDeleteWhen I go visits me boo...if I want him to help me gets some stuffs from d market on his way..I HV to add "abeg"to d request if not it won't work..u don't order them around ad if they are ur play thing..
As regards to choice.. My man can't sweep or arrange d house ooh..na house help work be dat..bt washing plates.. Killing and processing d chicken..and doing d laundry.. Na him area be dat..in order words don't go shovellg down his throat dat because he can do it. U must order him to do so..no now..u should be able to know his mumu buttons biko
Why will you order him in the first place? Even when I talk to my driver or people working for me, i never forget my please, and thank you, how much more ade ori mi
Deleteyou been no won put abeg before?
There is nothing wrong in a man going for shopping for his wife, but the average thinks other wise or let say his people will think he has being bewitched, I won't stop my husband if he decide to go shopping for me and I will never take advantage of that.
ReplyDeleteMine does shopping for me sometimes o. But the guy hate market. He can buy stuff around the house,but to go market Lai Lai. He cooks too,but not often. He helps with the laundry all the time.He buys my cream,soap,pants,even pad. Even with his tight office schedule,he still finds time to help around the house.
ReplyDeleteAnytime we do 'praise n worship' finish and I'm not on my safe period,he'll quickly rush out and buy postinor. Lol. The guy no dey shame at all. Sometimes Na me dey help am shame. He carries the baby and my bag when we go out. I beg him to at least let me carry my bag,for where.My guy is one of a kind abeg. We've been together ten years and married for five years,he's still the same. I married my soul mate abeg. Baba God thank you. Infact I'm texting him a pic of my lacy pant right away..hehehehehe love ❤ got me😊 ❤
Nice,you ve got a good man. Best wishes.
Delete*sniffing and wiping tear*
DeleteMy sister enjoy abeg. Na wetin we dey pray for.
Awwww God bless your marriage.
DeleteA man can go shopping, cook, n serve his wife if she's Ill.
ReplyDeleteHe can also do it if he has d chance n she's busy with kids,not everyday unless he's jobless.
He can also do it if she's quadriplegic.
He can help out too if there's no HH n d wife is swamped.
Else, I'm not that lazy if I'm jobless.
I go for shopping by myself ooo,naija men no sabi price jare.My husband rarely shops to avoid'you for price so so amount'if na market.
ReplyDeleteA white man does this easily, it is a normal thing.
ReplyDeleteTrust my bobo, he goes grocery shopping most times, he cooks more than I do. I nor fit type.
Be wise. Be with a white man.
Lolz, Abeg is not about white or black is just about individuals. You got lucky.
DeleteNothing wrong but should not be his permanent duty, vice versa
ReplyDeletegroceries shopping is fine by me. Not market to buy soup stuff.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong if a man shops for his woman na in fact I take to be very romantic.. Buying under wears for your woman shows true love.
ReplyDeleteI shop for my wife; I buy ingredients for soup and all kinds of groceries. I buy her underwear and pad when she needs them and she enjoys them all. I help her cook when she is heavy with child, unavailable due to work or about to break a fast after some days. I wash her underwear during same periods. And she respects me a lot.
ReplyDeleteIt's all about understanding and Christ in a marriage.
Wow, Oga you dey try. I hope you are saying the truth lolz. Nice
DeleteAwwwwwww!
DeleteGod bless you sir
DeleteI pray to hv a good man like you that is so caring amen
DeleteDo u have a brother, friend or relative like you?
DeleteFather, there are good men o! And I'll wait for mine.
I gat time today. Lol
Dh does shopping for me atimes. He even goes as far as oyingbo to but me soup stuff...
ReplyDeleteYour hubby is really trying, appreciate him.
DeleteBikonu...what happens when a "women loves a man"?
ReplyDeleteMine does household chores like sweeping,bathing de kids,buying stuffs around etc. but wen it comes to going to the mkt he doesnt agree... anyway him dey try for him side as per several others wont do wat he does. well I tink its adorable he helps.
ReplyDeleteHe don try, some don't even do anything at home, slavery mentality.
Deleteyes dear. thanks.
DeleteMy hubby shops for the family and cooks often, and it's no big deal to him. I really appreciate him for that. In that aspect I will score him 95%!
ReplyDeleteSeeing a man shop for his woman turns me on...I don't see anything wrong with it at all...
ReplyDeleteVery true @The shopping experience here in Nigeria is different from that of abroad.
Nigerian men feel it's not in their place to go shop for the home, infact some pple call a man who tried to that 'mumu'
Pple making jest of him of eating 'efo'.
It all balls down to individuals.
Hahahahhahahhhahahah
ReplyDeleteYou sha get mouth lol. "some would rather die than try and Try not to go South" lol.
In my own opinion, I think training and upbringing comes to play here. You don't need to be told a man was well brought up when you see him do the extra ordinary things. My bro cooks for his wife and that is because of the upbringing he had growing up. We have duties assigned to each of us weekly. My two elder brothers are included in the list of people that will cook for week and after that week, it could be their turn to clean the house, fetch water (Lagos water whala then) or wash the toilet.
Most men just act as they were brought up that is why we try to encourage mothers to do their home work well especially in raising up a male child; all attention shouldn't be on the female child alone.
Another example is my hubby, I really wished I met his mum so I could spoil her silly (she's a really woman). The woman thought them how to be responsible men and how to treat their women right. Whenever my hubby sees me cleaning and sweating he becomes sad and says; please go and rest I will do the remaining ones for you. He washes the toilet every weekend, washes our clothes + my under wears at times, and irons them for work and church. He takes me to the market because he said he doesn't want whala of you didn't buy it well, or this is not the brand of ingredient I like using lol. Cooking, no way!! because I'm very picky when it comes to what I eat. My hubby will say, if I cook you won't eat because is not tasty like yours and yes! that is true... One day he was trying to be romantic and cooked gray fish tin tomatoes stew for me and blocked Spagg lol. I no chop oh because I couldn't understand the name of the food he cooked lol. I can only eat fried food like plantain and yam even plantain and yam self they burn for fire kai! very funny man to be with.
Any man who treats his wife like a queen will get awesome reward from her and that is "Peace of Mind and Pure Love". Please I support men doing shopping and every other thing for their wives to ease stress from her. Una no marry her to kill her before her time or use am as semi maid.
I shower my hubby with so much love he can't recover from all his life because he first loved me and showed me what true love was all about. My elder sisters and friends don jealous me die. My hubby's friends, relations and colleague will say; you married a good man, you are so lucky. I know right?
In our next world, I will search for my hubby and marry him. He is a God sent in my life - Credit also given to the woman that nurtured/raised him (Blessed memory).
I just hope say I no go South lol.
My dear, u dey South-South! Lol.
DeleteEnjoy your marriage! Ur own better joor!
Stella you have a nice hubby.
ReplyDeleteMy husband loves me and he vowed to cherish me so why not.
There is nothing wrong in him going shopping or buying my undies for me
He does these things not because he is an ass licker or stupid but because he love and cherish me alot.Afterall we are married so he is now mine.
I see nothing wrong in it
My wife does not know the price of any foodstuff. In fact, she asks me if she happens to be going to shop. The only stress I allow her to have is in the kitchen. I can't imagine my wife pushing a bag of rice to the car. No; just cook it; but I take the stress of buying everything; heavy or light. After work she goes home straight to be with the kids and cook, I go for shopping if there is need.
ReplyDeleteShame to all the men; pardon boys who allow their wives to bear heavy load or go from work to shop and back and cook for them. And all they do is eat and mount her like she is a horse. Look, the woman needs to be relaxed not stressed or else you won't bring out the best in her. And for such men, their wives age in weeks and they begin to look at "fresh ones". BIG SHAME!
Lol! A woman wrote this!
DeleteI pray to have a caring an like you o amen
DeleteMan**
DeleteIs this real?
DeleteI want to be seeing things like this abeg. Makes me know there are still good men out there. ...before I enter convent.
Let me read comments. I never marry.
ReplyDeleteMy ex used to do it all sha. Good guy, but we're not meant to be.
I don't think there's anything wrong in a man shopping for his wife/family every once in a while. The thing about Nigerian men, especially some of my brothers is that their pride and ego won't let them. Some feel that their 'women' would begin to take advantage of then, so they don't start it at all. Most of the time too, our ("we women") attitude does not allow them do stuff for us.
One thing I've learnt is that, you can make a man do ANYTHING you want him to do. It all depends on how you go about it.
**so much for reading comments** lol
Lemme wait for comments
ReplyDeleteThis shouldn't be an issue na
ReplyDeleteI don't think its a big deal. My parents have been married for 37years and believe u me, my dad is the one that goes to the market...till today.
ReplyDeleteWhen they just got married, he used to lie to her that his uncle sells foodstuffs so he just goes there to pick it up for free, but he later told her the truth when my mum demanded to meet this uncle so as to thank him.
Growing up, I never knew it was mums duty to cook cos I thought my dad does more of the cooking than mum. He will make lunch before coming to pick us from school, I guess his work was more flexible or becos he was a senior person at work he could leave to sort family things out on a daily.
Even now , my Mum is with me but my dad insisted we should not get any help for him, he does all the cooking and cleaning the house, did I mention they have a little nine year old orphan so dad is the one caring for this boy and getting him ready for school daily. And oh, he also runs my mums shop for the past six months since her sales girl left. All these while my mum is not in the country.
When you have a very hands-on man, all these things are not big deals at all, my husband is exactly like that...reason why I married him cos he was too similar to my dad. He cooks, washes and serves me on a daily. But then again, he does not have much option in this country where we live except if he does not love me.
And yes, when mum goes back home now, it's dads turn to come help us care for baby. After all he cared for my siblings and I when mum was on a very busy job.
God help us raise men who r really Men!
Amen o!
DeleteChoi!
I go die here today!
I don't see anything wrong in a man going shopping for his woman. My late dad used to do all the shopping for my mum whenever he is in town cos he travelled a lot and he doesn't all the cooking as well and tells us to take a seat and he sure was a great chef. God rest his soul. I miss him a lot. My ex-fiance used to follow me to the market too and he does all the pricing, all i do is tell him what i need and I carry the basket while I watch him buy.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a good thing for men to assist women with household chores, not turning it into a habit though.
Lmao ap try not to head south.
ReplyDeleteStella, your BVNs are SOUTHERNERS. They ALWAYS go south. Today won't be different.
lemme go under anon. Mine doesn't know how to do, he messes up the whole thing so I prefer to shop for myself but he do help with little errands like bringing money, washing my feet and kissing the ground I step on. Mind you, he is no imbe just dt I made him like that.
ReplyDeleteLol...you should know why I am laughing.
DeleteLol, anon gone wrong!
DeleteWhat did u do to him?
U wash punnay for him? Lol
No queen Amy it didn't work, thank your stars you didn't complain abt cheating or DV,they would have sent you to relegation.hahahahahaha
DeleteBusted. Must u announce u want to go anon. Justbtype what u want to and use anonymous mode to post, shikena
DeleteYou and I knows you intentionally did not go under anon
DeleteWhere do I send your kiss to?
Lmao...going anon.goes wrong..lol
Deletei go to market for my family...i even have a better bargaining power compare to my darling wife.
ReplyDeleteSee them!...
DeleteStingy and jobless!...
This is exactly my husband. Most times in privacy I ask why God has blessed me so despite my faults, stubbornness and craze. I am married to a man who gets back from work, he still helps with the kids homework, helps to clean or cook or bathe the kids,continues with the laundry when he sees am multitasking and joggling with this and that. He is a very domestic man. And this is an 'oga' at work whom people bow to. Never for once have I heard or found out there is a side chiq. A man who prays more than myself, who gets angry when I haven't read the bible verse for the day. I bless the day I said yes to his marriage proposal. I bless the day I said 'I do' to him. May God continually bless my home. And No! He is not a sissy nor is it jazz. He is a well trained, well brought up man who understands family values. He is a man who understands what love is all about. From now till eternity I bless my marriage. Yes we argue sometimes, yes we have different views to certain issues but we always work it out and love always conquers. 8 years and counting and God is still in his business of blessing my home.
ReplyDelete*if you read this and think this is all made up, think again. There are still some very rare, very warm, very principled, religious and God fearing men out there who knows what the institution of marriage is all about. I got one. I don't flaunt him so much nor talk about him much cos of world pipo. *
Some girls set out on such men. I'd rather be discreet and enjoy my happiness and peace.
Chai Anon 11:21 ayamaah your boyfriend bringing out saliva. Abeg i want to eat my afternoon food, i dont want to hear another one.
ReplyDeleteTell him to brush his teeth in the night. Am sure it will help him.
Will wait for Omotola's husband comment
ReplyDeleteLmao 😁
DeleteThere's nothing wrong with a man, going shopping for his woman, once in a while, or if he feels like it.
ReplyDeleteSame with helping out with house chores. I mean, you both are helpmates to each of, yeah?
So, it shouldn't only end in the bedroom, where the man helps the woman remove her clothes and unstraps her bra.
Some men even help their women wash their hair. Sweet.
If anyone wants to say that there's jazz at work, well, everyone is entitled to an opinion, so it shouldn't faze you.
If your man doesn't believe in helping you shop, or helping out in the kitchen, you shouldn't force him. People are wired differently.
I read a mail on IG yesterday, where the girl was complaining that her online US bf, does not share the same sentiments with her: reserving the front seat for her, whether he's with friends or siblings. Even if she's not there, but will join them at some point.
The guy told her point blank, that im no dey do. If he comes to pick her, and someone else is at the front, she should copy another seat.
I don't actually have a problem with that, I mean, I won't feel insulted, if I'm with a friend and they ask me to move behind, for their significant other. Infact, I wouldn't even wait to be asked.
But what I did not understand, is her saying that she can never come down to open the gate, if her bf is driving and they get home.
Tf?
I'm a feminist, but then, some females take this feminism thing to an extreme of stupidity.
He'll chaperone you (unofficially) , and he'll still stop the car, get down and go open the gate, while you sit in the front and smile like the princess of Wales.
I'm sure he's also expected to park his car and go close the gate...lol.
In my opinion, why are you complaining? You know that the both of you don't share the same values. Use to the door na.
Bikonu, we should know where to draw the line, while screaming for equality and the likes o.
If my man feels like helping me out, fine. If he doesn't, I'll do it myself. I didn't come into the world, joined at the hip, with anybody.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Well said
DeleteThat's not true James.
ReplyDeleteI don't think there is anything wrong with it. This is normal here.
ReplyDeleteOnly in a primitive country like this will this be a topic for discussion.
ReplyDeleteOnce in your lifetime go and see how civilization lives without one malnourished ego trying to Lord it over another.
In a relationship do what makes both of you happy.
Marriage is a personal venture.
Hahahahah...trust BVs' husbands/ men to do exactly as Stella's man does......Interesting post, lol. Later folks!
ReplyDeleteLol Tetrina.
DeleteI dey tell you.
My husband does most of our shopping until last year when he got promoted and too busy to shop. I do all that now, but he always give me helping hand when he's less busy
ReplyDeleteIts no big deal my hubby buys foodstuffs and every other things from d market but he doesn't cook or clean d house.
ReplyDeleteI see nothing wrong if a man runs errands for the wife but when I becomes an everyday thing then its not nice(my opinion). Hubby goes errands for me sometimes on his own. When he is less busy he goes to the market esp when he Is on leave,sometimes he helps me out wit cleaning the house and cooking for me and I assist in my little way too. I dont ask him to do it but he does when he wants to or feels like. Am only against it when a minute does such for the wife everyday,shey he no dy go work?
ReplyDeleteI don't want my man running petty errands for me...it might be just me but it turns me off. I like my man as the alpha male and not the 'woman wrapper' male.
ReplyDeleteQueen you be serious case ooo. Kai anybody wey cuss you, just hate him or her self. Abeg carry go, nothing do you
ReplyDeleteOh my hubby was raised where his dad wont let him and his older brother enter the kitchen saying Kitchen is for women but he cleans the house and yes he shops for the house well except market cos even just fresh tomato and fresh pepper they cheat him real good and it annoys me....Talk more of going to buy meat and fish hahahahahaha the money for bank go finish...lolzzz there is absolutely nothing wrong in helping your wife..Like when I was pregnant with out first child Indomie was all he could make lmao..He will put all the spice on the world garnish with all the veggies'...When he was single he would buy food for a whole week(3square meals)for a whole week..Until I came into the picture it was unbelievable and he will always purge hahahahaha
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