Read What Toke has to say concerning Pressure on the Nigerian woman to get Married.
Thursday, April 07, 2016
Toke Makinwa Discusses Marital Pressure On Women - S3xism
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Read What Toke has to say concerning Pressure on the Nigerian woman to get Married.
Read What Toke has to say concerning Pressure on the Nigerian woman to get Married.
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Lol @ they will be hinting at 21
ReplyDeleteToke u are soooo pretty!
DeleteEya! Dear single BVNs please dont be pressurized to marry so you dont make a mistake. Take your time and be prayerful. We were not all born thesame day so whats the rush with marrying same time with your so called agemates
ReplyDeleteMarriage is an achievement only if you married the RIGHT one. And sweeries the RIGHT one dont come when yo under pressure. Be wise
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Love me some Toke! If you haven't seen the Vlog this week, you are missing! After degree exams they start calling your name in prayers about marriage
ReplyDeleteDegree exams is even far. Before your final paper, they've started.
DeleteThe new trick they learnt now (my able church) once they find out you r done with school or about to, they start submitting ur name
If you find happiness in your marriage please stay.Just do what makes you happy and move on!
ReplyDeleteBroke ASs women think being married will b their only way out. Wen u're rich u won't even remember if u are single or not. It's a good thing but no a most or by force thing.
ReplyDeleteStory!...
DeleteOkwu nkasi Obi!...
Abi o,some of them even attribute success to it......kilode,I told my peeps let me be pls,I've 2degrees;nce and Bsc,lemme see wat I can do wiv dat first,iro nii,anytime I say nobody should enter my room,my mum wouldn't let me land saying its not your room o,go to your husband's and claim a room,I'm still in my twenties,lemme clock 30 b4 u start threatening,she will shout Auzubillahii,Olohun o nii jekin rii Iru e.yoruba single ladies understand better and they'll now drag you to all the owanbes in Lagos so their fellow mothers can join in their talking.
DeleteAbi o,some of them even attribute success to it......kilode,I told my peeps let me be pls,I've 2degrees;nce and Bsc,lemme see wat I can do wiv dat first,iro nii,anytime I say nobody should enter my room,my mum wouldn't let me land saying its not your room o,go to your husband's and claim a room,I'm still in my twenties,lemme clock 30 b4 u start threatening,she will shout Auzubillahii,Olohun o nii jekin rii Iru e.yoruba single ladies understand better and they'll now drag you to all the owanbes in Lagos so their fellow mothers can join in their talking.
DeleteI can so relate
DeleteLol
Hahahaha. Can I introduce you to Kike so u guys can tackle your mother's together? Lol
DeleteConsole yourself oo monkey no fine
DeleteI can relate with wat she saying, the society is put pressure on young ladies making them lose their self esteem no matter d school and levy of degrees you have if you not married they think something is wrong with I try to avoid such people they weaken ones spirit.
ReplyDelete???
DeleteDon't bother your head La Petite. It's a Bayelsan way of writing
DeleteQuicksilver, rotfl....
DeleteI agree with Toke. No one wants to know what a lady is doing or going through, rather all they want to know is if you are married. Do you blame ladies when they throw themselves on men all in a bid for the guys to put a ring on them? I can excuse the illiterate's for asking about marriage!, but the educated have no reason asking any lady or pushing pressure on a lady to marry.
ReplyDeleteHaba,26 is too late na if you live up north/middle belt like us. Infact you don turn gwegs be that na. My mum started right from when i turned 20. I wonder what her obsession is with marriage. Thank God for my dad. He is the type that even if you turn 30,he wont disturb you. According to him,there are more important things to focus on. He is a rare breed of igala muslim man. Thank God. Happy birthday to meeee!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday
DeleteAwwwwwwww,that's so my dad;baba Ibeji would tell my mum,let her be now,her older cousin Adeola London is not married yet and she's 32 so wats the rush for,let her be.love you Man T.
DeleteHappy birthday to u,mine is 13th Masha Allahu.
DeleteFriends or family that pressure you to marry do so out of love because by the time you get to 40,most of your mates will be married and you may not get suitors again then you will be the now hiding when teenagers start referring to you as mummy.
DeleteI feel her plight...its sincerely difficult. At least its not like she hasn't ever been in one before and it was a terrible experience for her. But at the same time, its a cultural thing. But I think marriage is almost equally as important as other things sha. especially for a woman...if she had a child or 2, it would av been different.
ReplyDeleteGod help us all tho
I feel her plight...its sincerely difficult. At least its not like she hasn't ever been in one before and it was a terrible experience for her. But at the same time, its a cultural thing. But I think marriage is almost equally as important as other things sha. especially for a woman...if she had a child or 2, it would av been different.
ReplyDeleteGod help us all tho
I am 33 successful,very pretty, fair, hard working and single, marriage is about meeting the right person you can live with, its not a relationship,ofcourse I want to be married but I am not desperate, I only ask God for the right one, I have met few guys who spoke of marriage but its been lies lies, people wonder why such a very pretty girl like me is still single but they won't understand, some may say character,but no, its just about meeting the right one, everyone says I have a very good heart,I have been unlucky with few that lied,I ask for the right one and God,s grace.
ReplyDeleteBy the way I have met two guys who claimed they were divorces, found out they were still married, so its about meeting the right one.I am not desperate at all
DeleteMy dear, they can lie but wat do we do? There are no perfect men these days but dt doesn't mean we should settle for less
DeleteClock is ticking!...
DeleteGo and have a baby!...
This chic should work on herself so she can be where she wanna be. No man likes her wife to expose her boobs all the time. The bleaching is almost making her to disappear.
ReplyDeleteLmao
Delete'Her' wife ke... And don't u even blame this one on auto correct... Yeye dey smell... Biko go and polish your English before u decide what a man likes 'her' wife to do
DeleteLadies should learn to dress decent and be natural sometimes . Dnt over do ur make up
DeleteLoooool! So horrible
ReplyDeleteAll i have to say is that it is good to be married and have wonderful kids and feel loved But dnt let societal pressure push u into it. Go into marriage because u re ready and that u have seen the right person to marry. If u rush into it u will also rush out. Marriage is not a child's play. No one should have dominion over ur life. Do what makes u happy.
ReplyDeleteIts better to be single and happy than to be married and sad.
Take ur time and dont listen to the society cos when u will be suffering they will never be there for u.
Dont forget the rich also cry. Choose wisely.
Madam, you must have had a balanced diet for breakfast today.
DeleteYou made too much sense mehn!!!
Even when i told my dad of my fiance's intended visit,the man no answer me. Mumsy was over the moon...lmao. Popsy said i should go for NYSC first. Am sure after that,he would say get started with your career first. Then after that, rise to the top of your career first. Mumsy will just choke me to death with the marriage talk...aaarrggghhh.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday wishing you long life and prosperity amen
DeleteStory story!
ReplyDeleteToke should go and sit down.
A relationship expert that can not even hold her own horseband
Mr James a man dat will cheat will cheat does she have to bind him with chains for her marriage to wrk pls let her be.a man died whyl sleeping dosent mean u shudnt go to sleep.thanks
DeleteTrue talk
ReplyDeleteBut toke research has shown that depressed and sad people share inspirational quotes all the time.
I follow you on insta, even though you try so hard to look happy, baby go see a therapist.
Am not hating BTW, just concerned.
Of course, she is heartbroken about her guy and all but she is preaching against society pushing ladies into desperation.
DeleteI get her message and its really important to let the society know that some types of orientation push women into desperation
Hahahaha...
DeleteAwon ayee won dee,be her therapist now.
DeleteTake the message and forget the messenger for once
DeleteKeep saying no rush in marriage until u try to have a kid at 40 with all the complications. Know what you want from your teenage years I don't mean know the kind of man u want, I just mean if u want many men to date you first or not. Believe me if you go Into relationships without knowing what you want u won't get anywhere.
DeleteI always said I will marry my first boyfriend my friends thot it was a joke but I refused to date anyone until he came and I made the best decision ever now married with 2kids. The time teenagers spend with boyfriends that they sleep with is ridiculous why not pray, plan, prepare(by getting yourself up in life thru school or whatever). Love only
Yawnssss!same ol' shit.
ReplyDeleteToke come up with something new abeg.this marriage ish has bn overflogged.
Madam follow my words not my action.
SHantelle
Any woman above 35 that is not yet married should have atleast a child!...
ReplyDeleteThe worst thing that would appen to any woman is to end up not having a child!...don't be a frustrated gwegz and do the needful mehn!...
Toke go and have a baby make we rest small with this your attention seeking!...
That's how Tonto was ranting all the time but she has calmed down....thank God for that man that made a woman out of her!...
I pray toke gets a man that would make a woman out of her. But, she loooks like. Someone with mbaise character. As if. She go be Itk. Yes I said it.
DeleteLol hahahahahah
DeleteThat's Nigeria for you. There is nothing we can do about it
ReplyDeleteGod will do it 4 all the serious single ladies trusting him 4 a life partner.
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ReplyDeleteAlot of ladies on their own bring on unecessary pressure to themselves, by ticking a date/yr on their imaginary calendar & setting alarm clock on their uterus for a foetus, when things finally don't go as planned then they start to feel the heat from friends & family, even when someone is admiring ur fingernails, you'd assume they're on the lookout for an engagement ring.
ReplyDeleteRemember no one can make u feel depressed without ur consent.
Atheist, its not true oh, from when I was about 20,matured aunties around me started putting me under pressure why I don't have a serious relationship.
DeleteThe pressure is real and it takes the grace of God not to bow to pressure and fall into the wrong hands.
May God help all of us.
Yea right
DeleteRotflmao.
ReplyDeleteIssoriat!
#WhiteDiamondOut
Toke no vex. Look for a man to marry you.
ReplyDeleteHahahaha Choi
DeleteThank God I come from enlightened home. Throughout my days of job hunt, my family's concern was job for their daughter. I'm now in a serious relationship because I've seen the one not out of pressure to settle down. Nukwam akuko marriage. Ndi luru na-acho iputa. Ndi alubeghi na-acho igbaba ga. Uwa!!!
ReplyDeleteIt's not easy to be a woman.
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Exactly!! Ur barely 23 n wen pple see u all dey wnt to ask is hw is ur man n if hes saying anytin serious lol
ReplyDeleteWhat is 26 upwards? Even from 22 sef. God will help us
ReplyDeleteToke darling, if you've found someone new and wish to try again. Please go ahead... Who all these ya talk talk don eep
ReplyDeleteYes every woman that is still single at 30 should be very worried.
ReplyDeleteShe should check herself.
It is either she has bad manners or she is not a wife material
U are a fool
DeleteWhy not pretend to have sense for once naa!
DeleteJames!!! Stella pls sometimes don't post his insensitive comments.
DeleteIt is backward and downright stupid to think its only bad mannered ladies that remain unmarried after 30.
Any Man that thinks like you needs serious deliverance!!!!
DeleteDan Allah,receive sense,shoro niyen.
DeleteA lot of people say this same thing James just said.hmmm!
DeleteHow many litres of sense do u want me to sell to u?
DeleteFor the first time I see a little sense in what James said,i disagree that it's all single women thhough.most wome who are still single can attribute it to bad character,sorry but it's true.some womenn cause a lot of trouble,some keep friends like it's running out of fashion,some are demanding and some are loose:dating married men all over the place.trust me there's one guy watching and lamenting that if only she knew....i know a lady who has a problem with ALL her younger brother's wives!none is good.she stands in her father's compound and curses dem.she is above 40 yrs no husband!when a man comes he just loses intrest.one dayy I toldd her that madam,are u sure u are not the one driving these men away?the way u shout and fight everyday word goes around oh!baaaaaaaaad character!
DeleteThe truth is this life is just too hard & complicated for one person to go thru alone. We need to partner up for a smoother ride. Quote me
ReplyDeleteTankio !
DeleteDestiny is not the same, u may get married at age 21 and won't be happy bcus u r with d wrong person, u may not even have kids so early till maybe seven or eight years later, dou we do not pray for that, while someone will be 32 and get married, give birth immediately while you that got married earlier will still be hoping.
ReplyDeleteSo different food for everybody. No late comer for marriage.
Forever is too long to be sad
Divorce ain't nice
So take your time and marry for love.
What about people who marry at 21 and still give birth early and those that married late and still conceived late non?
DeleteAnon 14:40- same difference
DeleteLife is too short to worry about spinsterhood.
ReplyDeleteSame pressure that made her marry that make rubbish of a guy
ReplyDeleteIt's a tough world Toke. Very tough world. Every girl needs to go the rungs with someone as partner forget the I Dont Want To Marry bullcrap. Na wash.
ReplyDeleteLoneliness is evil. Companionship is sweet. But there is need to exercise caution that is where prayers come on. That pressure has always been there, it didn't start today.
If you're Igbo and you live and work in Lagos and is single biko, if you travel down east and you don't see any of your friends around your neighbourhood, don't ask an elderly person d whereabouts, ask young ones, because the answer is humiliating, 'Oh Nkoli? Onugo kwa di'. Very short answer that sends a painful memory to your brain. That means, NNE na only you remain o, Nkoli is married off too. Whether she is crying in the marriage or not, e no concern them.
You have started a good turn around now in d MFM ko? Hold on to your faith. I've been there before, so tay some of my cousins got married, they didn't give me aso ebi sef, I was sorting suitors till they started sorting me too, na that time my eye clear. Na MFM settle my matter. Today I am used as a reference, 'you must marry well' dey comot for people mouth while advicing their daughters.
God is for everybody. Pray and listen to the prayer warriors. Let them guide you. Marriage is honourable.
Toke just keep doing you and forget what people think and say about you.
ReplyDeleteI am married and its the biggest mistake of my life. How can let my self be reduce to nothing but a title (Mrs) after all my acheviement in life.
ReplyDeleteI ended up with a man who would emotional abuse me all the time .
Sorry about that
DeleteStart looking for another marriage and dump the evil man,my neighbour did it and she is so happy now.
DeleteI am married and its the biggest mistake of my life. How did I let myself be reduce to nothing but a title (Mrs) after all my acheviement in life.
ReplyDeleteI ended up with a man who would emotional abuse me all the time .
Quicksilver bae(yes am crushing), Yetinde, Pills and potions, thanks for your wishes. Y'all rock! Dunno why i cant comment under comments o,this is soo annoying.
ReplyDeleteOh..and that is how I ended up getting married at the age of 21 to the worst man in the whole world..its bin years now and all I've known is depression, loneliness and pain. A man that abuses me physically(even when pregnant) and emotionally and crowns it all with sleeping around with different prostitutes in Portharcourt. Izuchukwu I will make u pay dearly for everything u put me tru, for I swear with my womanhood!
ReplyDeleteYou got married at 21? Well, might be ok to u and some people but it's too early 4 me abeg. When will I enjoy my youth? 25 is ok
DeleteOh..and that is how I ended up getting married at the age of 21 to the worst man in the whole world..its bin years now and all I've known is depression, loneliness and pain. A man that abuses me physically(even when pregnant) and emotionally and crowns it all with sleeping around with different prostitutes in Portharcourt. Izuchukwu I will make u pay dearly for everything u put me tru, for I swear with my womanhood!
ReplyDeleteOh..and that is how I ended up getting married at 21 to the worst man in the whole world..its bin years now and all I've known is depression, loneliness and pain. A man that abuses me physically(even when pregnant) and emotionally and crowns it all with sleeping around with different prostitutes in Portharcourt. Izuchukwu I will make u pay dearly for everything u put me tru, for I swear with my womanhood!
ReplyDeleteThank God I said no to dat yeye ameen boy,I for dey smell my yansh now me wey stubborn and he doesn't listen to pleas,mii o lee waku jare.
DeleteNwanyi were ya nwayooo
Delete@ anon 14:37, I know your hubby, oluwa help u and u r such a beauty but he has made u look old. He asked me out but I turned him down.
ReplyDeleteWonders!!
DeleteI dont think we can ever get past societal marriage pressures, its our culture. My advice is, just find happiness whether u re single or married. The truth is that once u re unmarried @ 30 years, guys will start wondering if your character is d reason for your being single. I am single n am 30.
ReplyDeleteSo true, the pressure is not nice! The next thing after university is marriage, regardless of your age! Unfortunately, this pressure drives ladies to marry men who don't appreciate their worth and the lucky ones find their "soul mates". No one would mind the pressure if marriage was sweeter than cookie dough ice cream with caramel and whipped topping... but it's not even sweet. it's a life long institution with alooot of hurdles... So please people should chill.
ReplyDeleteWell she caused all the attention to herself , by first forming adviser normagbe for what she barely even understands . Let her jst stay mute about the whole talk... and do her thing.
ReplyDeleteYou guys should stop listening to this funny celebrities oh! they will just mislead you guys.
ReplyDeleteSo far our society is concerned, we women are expected to equalise. Stay there and be saying they are mounting pressure on you. Won't you feel happy hearing someone call you "mama, mummy, mama, my best friend, and mom"? Be consoling yourself with we are been pressured while your mates are looking forward to collecting their own share of what they will use in marrying their daughters.
See Omotola and others as they are enjoying their marriage with grown up children kai! I envy that woman sha. She can never make such rubbish statement to young women out there because her marriage is beautiful. Na only women wey dey suffer go dey discourage other women with their mumu dirty talk. Always looking for those who will join them in their auntie gwegs state.
If you are young and not yet married, please jettison these mumu talk. Marriage is sweet and beautiful if you choose wisely.
Das all!
DeleteHollop y'all .... I married at 21 and it's been beautiful !! There's always someone there to share your everything with . If you find a man of your will go ahead !! Do you and don't let anyone tell you what to do . Your life is in your hands . Please do what makes you happy
ReplyDeleteIVY
What she said is totally correct. The pressure on women between the ages of 22 and above to get married is just too much. I don't know how we as a people got this far. Even when some women are in bad marriages,they'll still get advice to stay put as a divorcee has no place in society or a divorcee will be seen as a failure.
ReplyDeleteOne of my neighbours asked her 20yr old daughter who recently gained admission to come back home with a husband if she finds one while in school. I told the woman to relax naau haba. She said she has to tell her now as she's young o cos she doesnt want to start running upandan from church to church when she is 30. I was really amazed at her saying.
Preach on Toke. Message well received.
Nigerian women una too talk,who know say she nor wan marry can stay put,abegi,nor be by force.
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