BEDWETTING
Dear Stella,
I'm one of your biggest fans and I appreciate what you're doing greatly.
I have a big problem that is more like shame.
I have am 11year old daughter that still bed wets. It's become a bother that I don't allow her do any form of sleep overs. There is nothing I haven't done. She eats her last meal by 6pm, and I try to wake up after she goes to bed to take her to pee.
Please can this be posted on your doctors weekly? Perhaps some BV may have suggestions as to what to do too. I'm at my wits end and very embarrassed.
Please I would appreciate if this is posted as anonymous.
Thank you so much
Just prayer will help at this stage.... Besides, If she doesn't drink water past 6 pm where s she getting all d fluid to discharge at night...be more vigilante ma'am ...
ReplyDeleteDig a pit, put her inside to squat holding her two ears then jump and sing, akpelenti akpelenti, ami ke afo ase ardon ndok?, akpelenti akpenlenti.
DeleteJump around the pit 7 times and its done.
La sweet afo nsime eti eti. The poster is serious here
DeleteI remember when I was a little girl and used to bed wet a lot! My parents tried everything and had to buy this local mat so I can be sleeping on the floor instead of messing up the mattress and making the whole place stink...atleast the mats were easy to maintain. I used to be very dirty as a kid and never cared of my looks till I fully entered puberty. When the fine intelligent boys in class would shy away from me and ask why I smelled of pee. My friends silently mocked me as well. I always lied that I share the same bed with kid bro and he bed wets a lot. I started being body conscious at about 13/14 years of age. I had to cut the nasty habit myself and started cleaning up a bit more. Most times I bed wet knowingly either because it's too dark to go to the toilet or out of plain laziness. I had to stop finally as I started forming big girl and focusing more in my studies. I even went as far as loosing so much weight because I was next to being obese while growing up. I thank God I cut the habit while in secondary school because a girl bed wets in my hostel during my undergraduate days and the disgrace waa out of this world. Did I mention that my parents used to flog me, punish me, lament to relatives but it still continued. I made that self conscious decision to stop as I grew older! I am not insinuating it's always like this though, but just felt like sharing this.
DeleteMadam,send her to a boarding school if you can afford it.
DeleteI know some people that stopped becaUse they were shamed publicly in school.
Hmmm I stopped at 12. It wasn't funny in fact. After I had my kids, I made that effort never for it to repeat itself. My daughter was fully potty trained at 2! 18 months later no accidents. The sibling will be following same pattern in few months time. Now I believe it is laziness from parents that causes bedwetting. Start early. Set alarm if possible and be consistent. Be futuristic and you will be encouraged.
DeleteThis is serious.
ReplyDeleteOur last born is in jss1 and still bed wets even in boarding house
DeleteNo its not serious...in fact mine was till jss3 I was 13!!! And yes its a family thing for us...no beating, no shaming from parents.in fact my grandma strongly discouraged beating and abusive words frm our parents cus she blvd kids that r met to b successful bedwet(hehehe yinmu...myths!). How it stopped? I don't know! Mine started from everyday, to four times a week, den twice a week den probably once in two weeks and thats it..It stopped! Our youngest stopped at 5, my brother at 14!! Yes 14, that one was very playful,mine 13. But one thing abt my mum is she was always so protective...if u r a visitor u will never know we her kids(except one) bedwet ...don't worry it will end soon it happens pple just don't talk abt it...even me I v to go anony on ths lol! So relax, your daughter will soon stop trust me!
DeleteThis is very encouraging. Thanks a lot. It's so bad that my mum has developed a high bp over this. She's taken this more seriously than me. She says all her children shopped by age 2. I'm just so worried and really hope and prays it stops before she starts menstruating. Well done Stella for your kind assistance. You're simply the best from the rest. Xoxo
DeleteWaoh.. I'm awed by comments from y'all. This is indeed a family blog. Thank you all so much. I can tell my mum to relax from developing a high bp now. I really do appreciate all the comments,advise, and encouragements. God bless y'all. Xoxoxo
DeletePoster don't give yourself Headache, I stopped bed wetting when I started seeing my period at 13.relax and give the child a break.
DeleteTry waking the child up every 2hrs to pee.
ReplyDeleteNa wah
ReplyDeleteMy younger brother continued his till he was in j.s.s.2 and suddenly he just stopped.
I can't explain this,may you find the heip u seek
Madam calm down, she will stop it soon, some people are just like that
DeleteBed wetting no get cure!...
ReplyDeleteI once lived with a 15 year old girl that bed wet...i sent her home when I couldn't cope!...
Buy adult diapers for your daughter...she will outgrow it!,..
This is spiritual.
ReplyDeleteMadam, did u offend anyone while u were single?
Hahahahahahahaha... you are so stupid guy! This got me rotf.
DeleteJames receive sense!
DeleteJames mbok ku yak nsak. Ette, why evils.
DeleteThis is spiritual.
ReplyDeleteMadam, did u offend anyone while u were single?
She might have an over active bladder but will definitely overgrow it soon. Don't be harsh on her because she feels ashamed when it happens already.
ReplyDeleteOutgrow*
DeleteSpiritual case
ReplyDeleteWen ever she wee,look for a way to mk fire wt fire wood, clean her wee wt a cloth n squize d clothe very well inside d fire so d wee drops inside d burning fire do this regularly n u will testify plus,tk her for deliverance
DeleteWhat form of jazz is this?
DeleteI'm not a doctor but one of the others and I come to tell you that bedwetting has no cure.
ReplyDeleteLet that girl be,with time she will outgrow it.
Dazzol Dazzit.
Hahaahahaha yes ooh,dazzol.my son 3yrs is stoping his gradually
DeleteErmm, it's not something to get freaked out about just yet .
ReplyDeleteIt may be a developmental delay. True, bedwetting at age 11 is somewhat worrisome, but I went to a boarding school, and I saw many cases of teenagers, who bedwetted into senior class sef, before they stopped.
It's only one case that I've seen, of an adult bedwetting ;in uni. But in my opinion, it was largely because of her feeding habits, even with the night time incontinence. She never helped matters, or tried to find a solution either.
Have you tried waking her up at certain times of the nights, or keeping an alarm clock beside her, and making sure she wakes up when it chimes?
Some of the aforementioned students, said that, not taking any fluid, after 8pm (not for life o), helped them stop bedwetting.
If you haven't tried any of these,maybe you should.
Please, don't pressure her,or threaten her. This is something she can't control, and hopefully, she'll stop soon.
It's not an unusual situation.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Trust me ma, she will our grow it. I am a living evidence of dat. I wee till i was about 15, my mum was too busy(she was a banker den). I wee till my junior secondary days, tk God i wasn't a boarder. I just stopped after den, i just notice dat i become more aware of myself, cud get up and wee wen i wanted to. I guess i played less too during dat stage of my life. So i wasn't exhausted wen i slept, maybe dat helped too. Just leave ur daughter beko, she will out grow it, if i did she will too. My hugs to her. Don't be too hard on her, okay!!
ReplyDeleteTrust me ma, she will our grow it. I am a living evidence of dat. I wee till i was about 15, my mum was too busy(she was a banker den). I wee till my junior secondary days, tk God i wasn't a boarder. I just stopped after den, i just notice dat i become more aware of myself, cud get up and wee wen i wanted to. I guess i played less too during dat stage of my life. So i wasn't exhausted wen i slept, maybe dat helped too. Just leave ur daughter beko, she will out grow it, if i did she will too. My hugs to her. Don't be too hard on her, okay!!
ReplyDeleteCHRISTIE.
There is this crude method people use. Just tie snake round her waist. she no go piss again for bed
ReplyDeleteSMH...is that the method you used for yourself?
DeleteSend her to a boarding school.
ReplyDeleteAnd how would that help?
DeleteMadam she will out grow it, this happened to my siblings and I have a long time , as at ss1 I was still bed wetting in boarding skool for that matter u can imagine d embarrassment , but it's stopped in that same ss1, how I don't know
DeleteEeyah
ReplyDeleteJesus fix her
Poster I just asked someone around me now. She said you should make firewood or charcoal as if you wanna cook on it .let her start urinating directly on it. I can't explain more than this but just do it.
DeletePoster you will thank me later
Repeat everyday
DeleteIt's tested and trusted
Yes it works wella,my granmum did it for my cousin,zainab Kenya can toolee ehn,abd and there's another one,she will go and sing for the grinding stone,b4 going to bed........pee nibo?she will stop ,my granmum used to brag abt me dat my daughter doesn't bedwet since she was 4,God bless her soul,rip maami,I miss u so much.
DeleteCall her friends to sing and dance round her, then make jest of her very well, she will stop it. Someone advised me to do it to my 13yr old son in JSS 3, he has stopped bed wetting already. When I did it to him, his sleep is not always deep again he rushes to the bathroom to ease himself so now am free.
ReplyDeleteU are wicked ooo. Reducing your child's self esteem just cos of bedwetting something he would have still outgrown. I've scared him for life and he will remember this forever. I bed wetted for a long while and I can tell you it is emotionally and psycologically draining.
DeleteAnon13. 22 that sounds traumatic.poster pls don't do it
DeleteWch kin stupid advice is ths??? Damn jezz...ds will end up causing more damage! Its bedweting not stealing even in case of stealing sef dis stupidity up here should b discouraged cus that child will b messed up for life! Smh
DeleteWhenever she's about to use the loo(in her dream)....she should wake up. Na temptation,she shouldn't fall for it.
ReplyDeleteSHantelle
I stopped bedwetting at the age of 10. It was such a tough stage for me. Mum had no chill, I was beaten every day. She threatened to announce it in my school then that I still bedwet at that age. She eventually reported me to my lesson teacher who told me to fast and pray which I did and to the glory of God my prayer was answered. Poster, I don't know any medical cure but you can do as I did.
ReplyDeleteMake her drink less in the evening and she should play less, people say playful kids bedwet more because they are always too tired to wake up and pee.
bedwetting is more spiritual than physical.I 'bedwetted' to a point that ehn my parents gave up.....from cradle to uni,my husband now,as a boyfriend then met me bedwetting and yet proposed....you have to engage heavy prayers for her not just by you should also join.
ReplyDeleteFast forward years later my child started bedwetting and knowing what i went through,i knew flogging,shouting,insulting,eating early was not the answer....both of us engaged in heavy weight prayers and trusted God....today she sleeps and the bed is very dry...none of her siblings bedwet either....Jesus is Lord
My dear I hope its not spiritual? 11yrs that shld be in sec school and still bedwetting, even after waking to go to toilet.
ReplyDeleteI know there are drug therapy's for bed wetting, but they are usually also anti-depressants, so I wont advise you to use that on an 11yr old.
Maybe she will outgrow it.
Boardin sch will help
ReplyDeleteMadame,your child will stop bedwetting in due time. Please try, not to worry so much.
ReplyDeleteI did till i was 10. After her numerous beatings couldn't solve the problem, my mother stopped me from eating or drinking anything from 5pm. Gradually my system adapted and i no longer slept deeply. I was able to wake up intermittently to ease myself. Try that and hope it works for you.
ReplyDeleteI used to bed wet up until I was 13 years old. My mum was scared of letting me do sleep over as well. One day she told me I was going to stay at my uncle's with his wife, I didn't bed wet during my 3 days stay. Also she stopped me from eating and drinking after 6pm. I stopped bed wetting and I am 24 now. Lol, she will stop, just don't let her eat or drink anything after 6pm and help her by waking her up every 3-4hrs to go use the washroom. I hope this helps
ReplyDeleteRestrict all fluid intake as from 6pm. Monitor her very well to ensure that she doesn't sneak behind your back to take fluids. Take her to ease herself every 2hrs during the night. The time interval can be stretched to 3hrs and finally to once in the night as control gets better. Keep talking to her. I advise against shaming her especially amongst her peers as this my create more psychological problems in the future as well as expose her to bullying.
ReplyDeleteMadam please don't be bothered, she will outgrow. You should look into how she spends her day, maybe she plays a lot or hyper-active. If it is so, then she will be tired and sleep deep resulting to bed-wetting. She will stop soon, just be tough on her when she does it but please don't embarrass her publicly.
ReplyDeleteMadam let her wee on hot charcoal. It helped me. Mine was like till 15 yrs. Sorry ma.
ReplyDeletei and my brothers are living witness to bedwetting! we all stopped at age 15/16. it was terrible, my mum did all sort , she even sought spiritual help to no avail. but guess what? it all stopped one day. i think we became consious of our maturity and that was how bedwetting stopped o. please dont lower her self esteem or think its spritual, its not. with time it will go.imagine i was memstruating and bedwetting together! my dear my mum eyes have seen o��. dont worry she will be fine
ReplyDeleteHi, its well with you. Please don't be hard on her, give her more love cos she too does not like the fact that she bed wets. The good news is she will outgrow it. I stopped at the age of 10 but my mum had no chill. It affected my self esteem, low esteem can affect her through out her life time. However, most importantly pray with her anytime it occurs. Also try to wake her up more often in the night. Lots of E- hugs to you both.
ReplyDeleteYou need prayer and fasting for that child, sometimes it is a spiritual thing but sometimes the child will out grown it.
ReplyDeleteKeep your faith in God cos I know oneday it will turn to be a testimony for you and your family.
She will stop. It's called enuresis. Some people control it with tablets but I don't think you should because she's almost at the age of stopping. However restrict her drinking from 6pm and wake her to pee at least once every night, about midnight.
ReplyDeletewhy is everyone saying it's spiritual? smh. Anyways poster, have you taken your daughter to the hospital to have her checked before bringing your matter here. It might be her kidneys or bladder.Make sure she gets checked before coming here to seek advice and get paranoia instead from these blog posters that think everything is from their village.
ReplyDeleteShe will out grow it, you can set an alarm every 2hrs by her bedside so she can be waking up at intervals , and make sure the place is bright or get a torchlight. Fear and laziness can be the causer.
ReplyDeleteShe should stop taking any fluid from 7pm. Then wake her/him up at intervals. Let's say every 3hours. One useful tip: get a custard bucket (the medium size) and put it in her room for her. Let her use it to urinate instead of going to the toilet. That was what helped my kid sis
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