Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives....

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

...BROKE,DISGUSTED AND ABOUT TO WALK OUT OF A LOVELESS
SITUATION.

Straight to the matter,I'm 28,married to a 40years old...let me just say getting married to him was the biggest mistake I've ever made,cos it cost me my happiness.our marriage is just a year and 4month.

I've known my husband for 5years before we got married,we were just friends,he asked me out several times but I always turned him down cos I don't feel any iota of love for him,not even any feelings,but he's a good,honest and matured man and also 12years older than I,so,I see him more like a brother than a lover.

My ex whom I loved to pieces broke up with me,I was very heartbroken and downcast,but during those times he was there for me...on this particular day I ended up drunk,went straight to his house and we end up gbenshing seriously.i wasn't in my right senses,I'm just human..I ended up getting pregnant,I told him and he begged me to leave it alone that God has answered his prayer,despite the fact that I told him I don't love him but he insisted that with time the love will grow.

I was contemplating going for an abortion cos I was underemployed then and my salary was nothing to write home about even if I wanted to be a single mother,but he informed his family to beg me to leave the pregnancy alone which I did. We got married and 70percent of the expenses came from my family.

My fear then and now,he has no stable source of income,since his first degree almost 8years ago, he didn't bother to further his studies in any way,he hasn't worked with his certificate before due to lack of opportunity or connection, he's into transport business where he helps people to move there stuff from one place to another with his vehicle. his income can barely take care of him,our son and I..the truth is he's broke.

I on the other hand got a job not quiet long with salary less than 100k,which I spend mostly on transportation and housekeeping.now I'm tired and frustrated,I'm in a marriage where there's no love and money. I feel miserable and frustrated ,sex with him is very boring cos my mind is not always there,is more of a duty. Most times I just go blank,but thank God for my little boy who keeps me going. 
Now,these days I'm yawning for love,intimacy,affection,I need to have a sense of belonging to someone..I'm thinking of getting a divorce and starting all over again.

Though with all sincerity he's trying his best with the little he has,and he's not a lazy man and not in any way violent but the truth is my mind is no more here and I don't want to cheat on him.I'm going crazy, please I need your BV advice..should I stay put for my son who is so fond of him and continue being miserable in a loveless marriage,should I get a divorce?will the grass be greener at the other side..I'm just confused..

sorry for the typo

I have said it many times that love/like/pity alone cannot hold any union together if it is a broke ass situation!..From your writeup,it is easy to see that you are frustrated because there is no money to live the kinda live you want.

You want us to tell you to leave your Marriage after describing him with such positive attribute except that he has no good source of income?start all over again where and with whom?how?you think its easy?

My dear,i would advise you to sit put..you have made your bed,please find a way to make it easier.stop looking for a way out,relax your mind and cut your coat according to your material.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
MARRYING YOUR SISTER'S EX

Dear Stella

You know I love you. I'll love to be anonymous

I met my guy sometime last year, we started off as just friends very good friends, though he started asking me out but I declined reasons I don't really have. Along the line I introduced him to my elder sis, they started dating though never met, they weren't connecting so they broke up, meanwhile we still remained friends but he paused asking me out. 

Few months later, he asked me out again, but this time around I accepted. We are serious now and he'll love us to settle down soon.

My sis says as long as she agreed to date him, he can't marry me that she won't accept it and it can cause a family dispute which we don't want. My parents have said I should leave him n move on.

Stella I love my guy so much and he loves me more. Did I do any wrong to accept him?

Should I break up because he once tried dating my sis?

Should I pray and believe there'll be a change of mind from my family?

I am not desperate, I'm a graduate n working. Please I need mature comments.

Cause which family dispute?what kind of elder sister is that with her cupboard mentality?Abeg hold on to your man..She dated him and doesnt even know what he looks like physically,No intimacy whatsoever.

Have you met this guy?

Your sister probably shared stuff with him that she is embarrassed about but abeg dont leave him because she says so.

Why are your parents supporting her?They think its easy to find love?Do they know that people find love in the weirdest places?

Anyway,my rant up there is mine.I dont understand the situation physically and how your state of mind is..This might set you on a war path with your sister and parents...Its possible that they dont want you to marry before her,Find out what best works out for you.

One last thing.....Is this man worth the drama that will ensue if you decide to damn all consequences and marry him?