*Sigh*
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
WHEN MOVING ON HURTS BADLY...
Dear Stella. I don't know if this is okay for chronicles but help me please. I am losing it.
I met this guy through your blog and we took off almost immediately. There was never a dull moment at all, ever! Even the distance didn't stop us. We both had partners then but after a while, we decided to be exclusive.
Every girl knows when a man is into her. Well, I knew he was because I felt it until two months ago. The communication started breaking. I complained, I talked, I coerced but there was no improvement. Instead, it was getting worse.
I became devastated because this guy (can't say his name) is practically my gossip partner, more like a best friend. I can't just imagine a day going by without talking with him. We were very close. He's my 'Ngwa boy'. All my friends and family told me it wouldn't work out and that I should have a back up boyfriend.
I tried to forget about him and move on, deleted his number, his pictures, blocked him on social media because I can't beg a man to be with me no matter how crazy I am about him. Last night, we talked and he said he has been busy and 'distracted'. I am 27 years old so I think I know what it means when a guy is too busy for his girl. He just doesn't have my time anymore but it is okay. Such they say is life, right?
My only problem now is my aching heart. Please don't throw insults at him. I just want to know what to do to get over this heart break because I can't talk to any one I know about it and I can't seem to concentrate or stop the tears from flowing. It feels as if someone dug a knife in my chest and can't stop twisting it. I know he or any other person will be like I'm blowing this out of proportion. I just need one person that can tell me how she got through this without involving anybody that told them ' I told you so'.
Thanks.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
READY BUT YET TO FIND LOVE...
Dearest Stella
Kindly help me post in Chronicles or anywhere it fits.
Hmmn! I would never believe I will be one to send in a chronicle but I think this is a good platform to let my heart out.
Straight to the my story. I grew up in a very reserved family that made it difficult to mix up with guys while growing. It was all about books for us and making the best grades.
I am 29 currently and cannot boldly say I have had any relationship. The first time someone approached me was in my second year at the university and because I was really good and well known academically, I didn't let the relationship work 'cos I saw it as distraction then.
Thereafter I had some guys that really became my good friends but never dated. It was all about studies.
This continued until I finished university and did my youth service. I also didn't want to get into any relationship until I was settled at a job but I wanted to build a career before I start a family so I can focus on building my family when I get married.
Now, I have finished school, I have got a career but I can't find love. The guys are not just coming. I'm not bad looking.
The only guy that finally asked me out was one of my classmates whom I had been friends with in school. He told me he had always admired me but couldn't ask me out in school.
Now the problem I had with him was he didn't like my job and wanted me to join him in his business. I am more into the corporate world than business. More over he stays in a different state while I work at the Head Office of my organization. I'm an IT person and we don't really have IT staff at the regional offices if I consider transfer to his state. His constant nag about my job made me end the relationship with him.
Please Stella,why is it so difficult to get a man that will love me and also support my career? I really yearn for a family I can call my own. I wish to love and be loved. I wish to start building my own family and raising my kids while also growing my career.
Will love find me?
P1 Sorry.
ReplyDeleteP2 Yes!!!
Poster 1,seriously?pls u don't need a man.any man u stay with will leave u becos u are too clingy.what investment apart from jist and gossip did u put in the relationship?ah ha.u are hurt bcos a man no longer has time for petty jist4?he should not work and have a life again?haba babe!look at urself in the mirror as beautiful as u are,educated and talented u are hurting becos a man doesn't have ur time!my dear treat ur low self esteem jare!even in marriage there is wat they call temporary divorce,sometimes it's ggood for everybody to mind dia bizness then come back stronger!u are here disgracing urself saying u are hurt so he will feel like a hero who breaks hrts.pick urself up and look for a distraction too.stop dulling me abeg!
DeletePoster 1,seriously?pls u don't need a man.any man u stay with will leave u becos u are too clingy.what investment apart from jist and gossip did u put in the relationship?ah ha.u are hurt bcos a man no longer has time for petty jist?he should not work and have a life again?haba babe!look at urself in the mirror as beautiful as u are,educated and talented u are hurting becos a man doesn't have ur time!my dear treat ur low self esteem jare!even in marriage there is wat they call temporary divorce,sometimes it's good for everybody to mind dia bizness then come back stronger!u are here disgracing urself saying u are hurt so he will feel like a hero who breaks hrts.pick urself up and look for a distraction too.stop dulling me abeg!
DeletePoster 1 just wanted to use this platform to reach out to the guy without being seen as begging him directly. Mtsheeww!!! U both met on this blog so U know he will definitely see this and U intentionally put out his pet name (My Ngwa Boy!) so he will know for sure, he is the one. My sister, Park well joor!!!
DeletePoster 1 just wanted to use this platform to reach out to the guy without being seen as begging him directly. Mtsheeww!!! U both met on this blog so U know he will definitely see this and U intentionally put out his pet name (My Ngwa Boy!) so he will know for sure, he is the one. My sister, Park well joor!!!
DeletePoster one, u are TOO desperate, now u av bn deceived and u want to give urself high BP. Poster two, u are NOW desperate and u are asking Jamb question. Talk to God.
ReplyDeleteToo and now ??? Explain
Delete@ Poster 1, did he eat your COOKIE n you drank his MILK?...if yes?
DeleteEnd of Story...
Change enviroment and keep busy!
Poster 2
ReplyDeleteYou must be very ugly? Do you have mouth odour? Or body odour?
This one is not about upbringing again o. Because it's not like you're the one doing the chasing. If the guys aren't coming after you, then something must be wrong somewhere. Maybe you are rigid ontop the ugliness.
so even the ones that say "my color" don't chase you? Hmmmm
Hahhhaaa not only my color, they say my size too hahhaaa. Your comment is mean But funny too
DeleteLol
DeletePoster please run from those "my colour" they broke die
Can't stop laughing, you r a bad person. Choi!
DeleteHahahahahaha at my colour...
DeleteThose guys in balogun market...chai!...
Lol @ my colour, she can never go for those types.
DeleteQuiksilver, if you've nothing to say please zip it! It's really not compulsory to comment! For her to post this means it's probably giving her sleepless night and all you could do was come out and type hurtful things cos you've a smart phone and data. I know this world has gone haywire everybody enjoys being mean but really is it worth it? What if you get yourself in a situation that you'll need human sympathy? How will you feel when someone reacts in the same way you just did? #goldenrule people! !!! Nobody knows tomorrow. If she listens to people like you she'll end up with anybody then tomorrow she'll send in her chronicles and you'll read and tell her she was desperate. Now is this your comment not enough to make her desperate? Humanity!
DeleteOr maybe she's just introverted and does not go out that much. Dundie!
DeletePoster 1 no guy is too busy to have your time especially when he used to give you attention when you first met.
ReplyDeleteDon't beat yourself up over a guy who is already on to the next chick.
Hang out with friends, see a movie, listen to music.
Just keep telling yourself that you're a queen and a good guy who deserves you would come.
Any man who leaves you is doing you a favour so you can meet someone truly deserving of you.
Poster 2 you want to start something ypu can't finish.
Women should stick with men who support their dreams and aspirations no matter how crazy they seem.
Is this guy dangote? Can he afford to feed you if you decide to leave your job to start a relationship which would probably not lead to the marriage?
Every time I am so and so years old.
You are simply looking for love in the wrong places.
Age is nothing but a number and there is nothing as good as marrying the right person no matter the age.
Live your life now that you can, sometimes marriage stops you from achieving your dreams.
Enough of single women complaining.
How will marriage stop her dreams when you just advised her not to marry just for marriage?
DeleteFocus on your career and the right man would come. Marriage hinders a woman from career growth! I'm a victim
DeleteDoppelganger God bless you for the advice to poster two. But the issue is how can a single person not be worried when the society thinks like Quiksilver?
DeleteYou are a fool!...
ReplyDeleteAt 27 you are still crying over an heart break...
Don't you have a side bobo?...oh you are playing a good girl...
Mtcheeeeww....abeg go and drink otapiapia and die that's how to forget about him...
Poster 2,
Hian!.,.
Someone that has not married you was telling you to quit your job and join him?...I'm happy you didn't fall for that...'
Biko go out more...
Wear sexy cloths and make up...
I understand how poster one feels. Been there too before. We all have. She needs to retrace her steps. Forget that guy
DeleteOver an heart break kwa!!!Don't let posters give you heart attack biko,take your time when typing...
DeleteI always look forward to ur funny n awkward advise, jisike nnem
Delete*a heartbreak....
DeleteI am Queen of this blog 3 abi wetin you call yourself. Grow up. Sometimes you talk like Ashawo. No one, I repeat no one is too old to get his or her heart broken. If you don't have anything reasonable to contribute then STFU. Inugo.
DeleteHow can you say she talks 'like' an ashawo? Na confirmed ashawo she be ooo. All she tells fellow women on this blog is how not to be a good woman. She's often bragging about how she shows her husband pepper and even cheats on him. She said she has tons of sugar boys and sex toys. I wonder how some men cope tho...smh.
DeletePoster one, get a fuckmate!
ReplyDeleteBeats me why women love blindly.
U no dey shine eye love?
Haa
Not every woman is as hard hearted. Some of us are softies.
DeleteI tire oh. And e come be blog visitor. Eze asiris. Both of you will be reading blog the same time. Una well so? The bobo don go back to his former partner. De dia de dull yourself. Busy ko.
DeletePoster two, they say men value career women more than jobless ones, so I dunno why they ain't coming for u.
ReplyDeletePosition yaself well, package well join, they must locate u by fire by force! Say amen?
Amen!
Amen for her
DeleteMen don't know what they want they are scared of career women.
Delete1. Go out with your friends to distract your mind. Don't worry, you'll be fine. Sorry
ReplyDelete2. Love will find you, just believe,
Poster1 dear.I feel n understand u.dnt mind some bvs dat ll insult u or say move on,as if its easy.only if I get ur contact.then we can talk
ReplyDeleteJust beware of guys here. ..there's one dat refuses to send me his picture not even faceless naked picture. Arrogant man
ReplyDeleteHe's married.
DeleteModafocker...you are married and still leading me on. Thank God I only send you faceless nude pics, you ain't got nothing on me. Stupid anonymous 17:29
DeleteLMAO! You are the FOOL here for even sending nudes in 2016. Can't wait for it to leak. Buahahaha! Faceless or not, e go be you. 😂😂😂😂
DeleteFirst Poster,i hope your Ex didn't participate in these last few Single and Mingle? LOL
ReplyDeleteOh well,if he is not that into you anymore,just have the heart to move on. You can do it hun.
Mr,you are a coward for not coming out to end things properly.
Poster two,i don't think quitting your job now is ideal..you must do what you love(the corporate world) not what he wants. When all is gone,you are left with yourself and the things you love most. Do not let him take that away from you,atleast not yet.
Poster 1: The best way to get over a heartbreak is to have a rebound boyfriend, Get a new man to distract you, it doesnt have to be about love, just a distraction n correct Gbenshing will stop ur heart ache
ReplyDeletePoster2: Try changing your schedule from work to home direct visit a cool hangout spot after work, go alone or with a girlfriend, on does days try dressing colorful n keep a smile on ur face, be friendly and approachable ...Remain prayerful and a good man would find you.
It's not difficult to get a man IF u know ur way . Go wash ur head my dear , if u don't like d native way please go to strong spiritual church let dem take u to mountain to wash ur head . My dear u will b d one selecting men. Naija women no wise at all.
ReplyDeletePls Monkeynofine.....pls i need your contact oo...i need to do the needful...pls
DeleteWere u not the one preaching the last time? Issorai
Delete@asanwa of course I am a christian same with all my family. But e no stop me make I no waka! No dulling my dear.make u dey here dey enter last bus stop.
DeleteWow. So you're advising her to go diabolical just to get a man! 😱😱😱😱 Anybody who takes such advice should dig two graves and keep o because when it backfires it'll be deadly. Omg. Such desperation!
DeletePoster1... My dear I know dat feeling in ur heart. Like it has been tied to a rock and its just so heavy and de pain dosent go away. Don't worry, feel free to fall down and cry, scream and shout. Let everything out. Den get up, dust ur self, wipe ur tears, put on a smile and move on. U will be fine. It's just a matter of time. And u will find someone special. Believe me.
ReplyDeleteHian! The way you guys say heartbreak hurts.... I don't feel that hurt oh! When I break up with a guy all that hurts me is the many times I was supposed to collect money and I turned down by being a good gf (planning to collect another time 😈). Other than that I'm a stick.
DeleteU have never fallen in love. U only have Fuck mates there is no woman that won't feel dat hurt when they actually fall in love.
DeleteSorry to disappoint you. I have. But I'm vey realistic when things aren't working out. I lien many women who live in fantasies. I'm practical
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Delete*I know many women
DeletePoster 1 I've been there and I understand how U feel. The best U can do is to move on. Hang out with friends, read books esp novels, cry very well and then eat well. U will be fine
ReplyDeletePoster2 don't worry love will find u.
ReplyDeleteHow to get over Boyfriend & heal a brokenheart peacefully: You for don ask this question since last year.
ReplyDeleteProcedure1: They say bleeding is the beginning of the healing process" so my dear cry ur eyes out & soak ur pillow, let it all out, don't try using alcohol, weed, sleeping pills etc, they'd only delay the healing process, after the effect wipes away, you'd start healing again from scratch.
Procedure2: They say the best way to get over an addiction is replacing it with another addiction, so my dear, look for a healthy distraction to replace thoughts of him, i believe uve gotten over his pics and constant reminder of him. Note that a rebound sex is a No No.
Procedure3: they say it takes half the time u dated him/her to get over the r/ship, so if u guys dated for 2yrs, it'd take u 1yr to get over him, but the 1st 3months are usually the darkest period of rehabilitation... In those 3months, avoid being alone with ur mind, our minds can be the worse kind of prison, if u can relocate to a new environment, the better.
Procedure4: everyone has a good and bad side, channel ur energy to focus on his bad sides, reminding you of how mch u wldnt want to live with such attribute, and you will definately find someone better. Note that there are 7billion plus humans on earth, one idiot cnt cause u sleepless night.
Nice one
DeleteVery, very, very brilliant!
DeleteOn point
DeleteTop comment.
DeleteYou're a genius man.
DeleteOn point.
I agree!.. But number 3 works differently for everyone. I dated my first love for about a year. It took me 7 years to get over him... Anyways, I'm married now, with a happy family.
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ReplyDelete👍good procedures...
DeletePoster 2 you have a Controlling spirits Go for Deliverance
ReplyDeletePoster 1 shit happens! Move on!
Poster one. The best way to get over a heartbreak is to get under another man. Just go on a sex spree and make sure you orgasm often. That way u will get over him. It works. Stop being sentimental. If possible, fuck them collect money and dump them. U will feel better when u know someone else is hurting cos of u. As for that dude, sweep him under the carpet. He's not worth it. Get another bff and pls don't sleep with him.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: something that feels so good doesn't last long.. It blows hot and then Cold... Later freezes.. My best advice is always ensure you enjoy it while it was hot.. This is applicable to everyone who is currently that butterfly moment about that special someone..
ReplyDelete😬😬😠😠😕
For the second post, I will advice you to look into starting a family with a foreigner or a Nigerian that is based abroad. It will be very difficult if not impossible to find a Nigerian man that will support your career because most Nigerian men are sexist and are intimidated by successful proffessional women. If you have any brothers, think back to how differently you and your brothers were socialized as little children. This is the problem. Young boys are socialized to view girls as subordinate except when it comes to household chores. These young boys grow up to be men who are intimidated by any woman that does not fit into this mindset that a (Nigerian/African) woman should be subordinate to men. I am exactly like you in the career aspect because I really love my career. However, in my case, I did not even bother with black guys or Nigerian men. I am based in Canada and you would be surprised that a lot of Nigerian men here still hold sexist views and are intimidated by successful professional women. I am married to a Caucasian Canadian man and my life has been fantastic. I am 100% satisfied with my marriage. My partner is very supportive of my Career and we are both feminists. I do not have to go through the unnecessary stress of proving my subordination to anyone like Nigerian men make their partners to do.
ReplyDeleteLmao! Nigerian men are sexit and they don't support career? The same broke nigerian men who tie themselves to successful women to ease financial burdens and constraints. Poster 2 don't you dare take this advice. Nonsense!!
DeleteAnyway, what worked for u might not work for her. But it's worth a shot.
Delete*sexist
DeleteAnon 15.31 where in Canada are u. I'm in Canada as well. Having a new friend wouldn't hurt
DeletePoster 2 I can relate with your story as we have almost same life style, age mates, career driven jux that I am a masters degree Holder. I still dnt have a boyfriend or any serious toaster. Sometimes looking at my present life cry to sleep and ask myself wen will I b in a relationship like every other lady.
ReplyDeleteGo and take my advice. Add gym to it cos u sound fat. Apologies if you're not.
DeleteMarriage is over rated, stay single or be a second wife.
DeleteWe need to connect. I feel you sister
DeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteI have counselled ladies over the years in the course of my work and I have come to discover that majority of the ladies that do not "move on" whenever a relationship does not work out are those who had given in to sexual pressures, committed abortions or gotten infections from their partners. They keep sulking even a decade after the break up whereas their male counterparts had moved on, married and had kids. This later scenario usually adds to the lady's predicament. On the other hand, those who "closed their legs" have more secure and trustworthy marriages apart from "moving on" faster. Also lady, spice your spiritual life with God's word. Learn to read your scriptures (New Testament -you can google it and read on your mobile phones or tablets) and find out what LOVE means.
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. . .
Stella I am tired of poster 1's type of chronicLe. Same song everyday. You did not take advice. Now the chops are down you want us console and comfort you. Mscheew!
ReplyDeletePoster one, pls move on.Make new friends,go places and get engaged.Hope you have a job too.I really feel for you but you just have to be strong.He said he is busy lately,was he not working before??? I have always said it; no matter how busy it dosn't affect one from talking to someone you love.As busy as he claim,don't he eat,bath,use the toilet etc?? So if one say he dosn't have time to call you most time,its simply means they are off you.Be stronge girl,love will find you. Poster two,don't tell me you are desperate.You have attain your desire goal and its remaing to make a family,hence the urge for desperation.My dear take a chill pill and sleep.Cool your brain.Love will surely find you.pray about it and be careful.Remember marriage is a life time thing.Plenty men that will love you and love your work are there.Belive in positivity.
ReplyDeleteP1. If d tables were turned,wld d guy be hurting like u.if u can ans dat.then I think u can start learning to let go.
ReplyDeleteP2. Life comes in diff shades.
Some av boobs but av no bae(boo)
Some av bae but av no boobs
Some dnt av bae nor av boobs
Some av bae and boobs togther.
Glory be to God in all situations.
😂😂😂😂😂
DeletePoster one......hohohohoho
ReplyDeletekwakwakwakwa
''We both had partners then,but after a while we decided to be exclusive''....see how you shot yourself in the foot?
Two cheating irresponsible ppl participated in single mingle, came together as one,how will it work?the guy feels you might also be cheating on him.
Poster two- i dont even know what to tell you. But love will find you sha.
Where's my anonymous lover(troll)? I just brought food for you. As usual,come under my comment to let out your frustrations.
SHantelle
Thank u joor,she threw out what she had cos she was carried away with d excitement dt comes wt a new r/ship,now she's just sad cos she's lost them both...nne just let him go and next time be wise
DeletePosted one I hope you're not talking about who I'm suspecting you're talking about.
ReplyDeleteAnyways move on with your life. We've all been there. No man is worth all that. He reads this blog so you obviously know he will see this so in a way you're begging him to come back to you. Never let a man know how much you're hurting cos he will play around with your feelings the more. Act like you don't care. Then you will stop caring without realising when
I want to eat pop corn if Stella no use red pen. I will be back sha. Happy sunday
ReplyDeletePoster 2- is ur appearance tight? Yes. Is your skin glowing? Ur hair and eyebrows on fleek? YOur shoes well fitting and your jacket well cut?
ReplyDeletewhen most of you see these IG babes spending money to looK good, you think it's because they don't know? That's what attracts a certain class of guys. Then your character will keep them.
from a career sister to another (I'm turning 28 soon) I DON'T joke with my appearance. I wear lovely wigs, my shoes are my best accessories, I'm always updating my makeup skills, I'd rather buy few than buy cheap/low quality. My car may not be the most expensive but it's always neat. I don't fix my nails but they're always filed and nicely trimed. I won't even talk about my skin because one rash on my face can make me have a bad day. With or without makeup, I'm there!
And I can tell u, I'm in a committed relationship. I have a good career, my bf has his. He can't tell me to leave my job (at least not yet) cos he knows all my shakara bills will fall on him.and he can't risk it now that he's also coming up. So he respects himself. Gone are the days when clean babes drive men away. There are when I'd innocently go to church and after service one mama will come and pushing me to wait so her son can greet me. Or times when I'm walking and someone is trying to recommend a brother to me. My office nko? I don enter their eye tire! Everyone has An elder brother/cousin who should meet me. Cos I'm equally good on my job.
I also didn't have a serious relationship apart from my first bf, and I know the feeling.
No. 2- how social are you? Asides work and office related stuff. Do you attend functions, weddings, cos posted events, etc? I do when I have time. I hardly keep friends but I try to make connections. I'm also an active church worker and very noticed. Those brothers their friends and their relatives must see me by fire and force. Gone are those days when husbands come to knock your father's door (don't get me wrong it still happens on rare occasions) but social media has made certain habits phase out and we spinsters must move with the time.
These are my tips. You may not like or agree with them. But my dear, don't live life building a career and let other things suffer. Invest in you (outwardly) and find time to unwind. You seem like a smart hardworking woman so you no get wahala that side.
Wonderful. I love this. Priceless tips.
DeleteWith all these tips, why is rita Dominic single? Or u want me to drop a list of hotter booless lagos classy babes,? Babes, it's not by looks o! Cos there's always someone hotter out there.
DeleteIf it's physical beauty, chickito I'm biracial still no man. I'm an air hostess yet no single guy wants me for keeps. They all wanna pop d cherry n zoom.
DeleteThen check your character, your association and your brain. There MUST be something that attracts a man and another thing that holds him down. I'm not talking sex or cooking. Or pretense. You must have one good quality that will keep him coming back.
DeleteRita Dominic and genevieves of this world are women who don't want to commit. Are u telling me they don't have men who want to marry them today/tommorow? There are exceptional cases of women who want to stay single. If Nse Etim and Monalisa Chinda can marry, the nobody should tell me bullshit. Some people get bored with relationships easily and can't stay committed, hence the lack of interest in commitment. So leave them out of this.
If all this has failed, then see your pastor/imam sharply! Cos that one pass be kiaful
The secret is dating below your league.. .before you know it marriage proposal is knocking on your door.
DeleteBut that below league dating can be very annoying. Cos the guys will forget that youre doing them a favour by overlooking your dream qualities. And when they annoy you (yea, because no one is perfect) you will be too angry to even imagine his guts! Me I don't advice it. Let's all be on our lane and date within our class.
DeleteIm bck.
ReplyDeletePoster one I think ur using dis medium to beg him even wen u said u didnt wnt to. There is no two ways abt forgetting anyone than to forget them. You cn do it, it tks time bt u cn. Bt I dont think personally that dis relationship is over. You maybe jumbing to conclusions, instead u should have tlked to him, made him understand hw u felt abt d break of communication. Bt since u wnna move on den I hope u find a better man or I pray ur man decides to fix it.
Poster two uhmm...do not date that guy. You do not love him, u r only considering him cos no one else is asking.
You should go out more, parties, clubs, weddings, any social occasion u cn. Meet new pple I promise there is a man waiting to accept u on ur own conditions.
Poster 1 d guy don add many girls on S&M. Better forget him and move on. Anyway me I don't believe on this S&M for love for people. Goodluck. Another S&M is coming up soon.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 don't leave ur job for someone else. Start going out socially and u will get love.
Don't leave God and instead work for God in church activities and you will be surprised.
Don't count years for God. Instead count your blessings and continue to thank Him
I'm telling you. I hate that S and M ehn
Delete@ poster two,
ReplyDeleteIts like this your chronicle is a sign from God to me.
As you don hear say she be working class, holy spirit don minister to you sharp sharp!
Delete#whatIlongthroatfor
How?
DeletePoster 1: time heals focus on your inner strength for me I have fun more sef this kain period like beach,church activities etc
ReplyDeletePoster2:dont just try and settle for less chill focus on God and have fun while your single period lasts it will be over sooner than you think trust me
Poster 1: time heals focus on your inner strength for me I have fun more sef this kain period like beach,church activities etc
ReplyDeletePoster2:dont just try and settle for less chill focus on God and have fun while your single period lasts it will be over sooner than you think trust me
poster 1,A guy I loved with my life left me in February but I got over it in less than 48hours.I mean i loved him with my life.words can't express how much I loved him.
ReplyDeletejust a simple question by my friend helped me 80%.she asked me,babe,if this guy had died wouldnt you have moved on and marry someone else eventually?nobody cannot live without another....we can live without another in this world.
Another thing that helped me was..dating someone else immediately even though I didn't love the person.
I realized that one can fall in love over and over again.Right now I don't believe that shit people say that "i can't fall in love again" or "I can't love another the way I love him"that's a big lie .
Poster 1: time heals focus on your inner strength for me I have fun more sef this kain period like beach,church activities etc
ReplyDeletePoster2:dont just try and settle for less chill focus on God and have fun while your single period lasts it will be over sooner than you think trust me
One thing I believe in life is that,a man who is not yours will not stay no matter what or how much you try..Just keep asking God to direct the right man to you. And then you need to love God,love yourself for you to be loved. If God can give me a man that treats me like a Queen even when I was almost giving up..I believe that same God will answer your prayers.
ReplyDeleteRotten advice.
ReplyDeleteWhen someone is not onto you, they will tell you they are busy, even if you meet them playing with sand.
ReplyDeleteDon't ever let anyone ever make you feel less than.
Concentrate on other areas of your life and other people that affirm your worth.
You go dey alright.
I came here late. Many comments already, pray you see this. It takes time to heal, don't fight it..infact, trying getting in touch with the guy but don't get in touch with him. Live while you still alive. Time heals a broken @ faster. Don't force it, it will happen naturally... I tell you, you will forget totally about him and d love will be neutral @ poster 1.
DeletePoster 1 don't even break your head about him. Trust me I know how it feels I have had first hand experience. The guy I loved more than anything formed busy for me for 2 years on and off and when he would leave it felt like I had a rock tied to my heart. When I decided I would never get back to him my dear I bounced back like never before, travelled a lot, looked hot and looked after myself and was generally happy.my relationship with God got better, I hung out after work with friends and of course I had a lot of serious minded male toasters. Fast forward to a few months later when he found out I was totally send less he crawled back on his knees begging. I peppered him very very well before taking him back.in fact I told him I was engaged and he almost went mad. Lol. Guess what we got married shortly after that and he worships the ground that I walk on and adores me. 8 years down the line the love is waxing stronger and it can only be God. So my dear what's yours might fly away and still come back but if it doesn't ,yours will surely come.remember no pressure
ReplyDeleteYou were his back up option. Guys always have girls like you stacked up for marriage. She's decent and he will marry her if he true love doesn't love him enough to marry him. But as long as you're happy we are happy
DeleteSome advice longer than the chronicles, na wetin.that is how one human asked me to marry him and said i will quit my career and join him in business but i refused not long after that the governor of the state bind motorcycle from the state capital and he sells motorcycle parts. If i had agreed to marry him and join the business,hungry would have killed us by now.use your tongue and count your teeth poster 2
ReplyDeleteWow! God at work
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteI've been in your shoes, you'd get over it soon, it might take some time but you'd get over it. Just pray and let it go since you made up ur mind. May God help you.
Poster 2,
You'd need to go out often and have time for yourself then also pray. You'd definitely get the best man, don't ever give up on yourself
P.1 sorry rebound dating helps. Try it
ReplyDeleteP.2 never hive up your career for any man except he is Dangote n make sure he opens lots of biz for u n save big, cos u will need it. Best of luck to both of ya
P.1 sorry rebound dating helps. Try it
ReplyDeleteP.2 never give up your career for any man except he is Dangote n make sure he opens lots of biz for u n save big, cos u will need it. Best of luck to both of ya
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ReplyDeletePoster1 I'm a single guy but so afraid to try those online distant shii, it kills time faster than. Computer games, so get ova it. It's not worth de stress
Poster2
#Adontbeleiveit when girls say they don't have toasters, like seriously? You gotta b kidding me. I believe there are toasters but maybe u look down on them, or maybe u are looking in certain places. Beware u can find love even in Rumuola bus stop(strange places).
Poster 1,did you do the do with the guy?if yes he Don waka be that if No he will come back. Poster 2, yes love will find you save the best for the last.
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ReplyDelete#1: Honey, are you asking how to move on from a guy you love whose only crime, according to you, is emotional withdrawal? He goes off the grid for some time and instead of you to allow him have the space he needs, you're contemplating walking out with a self induced broken heart? It seems you're overreacting or there's more you aren't tell us. Why exactly did your family and friends tell you the relationship wouldn't work? Is it the distance? Because it seems implied, though you weren't specific.
ReplyDeleteSweetie, once a guy withdraws or starts acting cold, the worst thing you can do is any form of coercion or trying to pull him back. That's like adding gasoline to flames. Give him his space without sulking like a baby and throwing temper tantrums. You know why you are so worked up over his withdrawal? You made him the center of your world. Tragic mistake! No matter how amazing a person is, you can't allow your life revolve around that person because once there's a negative change in the dynamics of your relationship, your whole world turns upside down. If your man starts withdrawing, as long as you know he isn't ill or in danger, give him the time he needs to stay away and do it with dignity. He'll contact you when he is ready.
You should be confident enough to allow him have his space because if you've made the needed emotional connection, he will come back to you when he is ready. Don't be too quick to see withdraw as rejection because it means your self-esteem needs an upgrade. How can you delete his contacts and block him on social networks just because he isn't as forthcoming as he used to be or because he said he was distracted? Aren't you woman enough to leave his contacts even if you feel you're being dumped? Rushing to end a relationship 1st to avoid being dumped is so juvenile that it makes it ridiculous.
Sometimes, some ladies do too much too soon once a new relationship seems amazing, forgetting that it takes two to tango. Both of you may seem happy with your relationship but that doesn't mean you both are on the same page. You guys had people in your lives prior to your hook up, just because you could easily let yours go doesn't mean he could let his ex go, especially if she is in a closer proximity, and she isn't ready to let go. Frankly, I'll be a tad uncomfortable if a guy could so easily dump a lady he has been with just because he met me. Even if he falls in love with me at 1st sight, he should be sensitive enough to end the prior relationship as painless and honourable as possible unless the relationship was already over before I surfaced.
I wouldn't advice a lady to make her man her "gossip partner", that's why you have other friends you aren't intimate with. It demystifies you. A little tete-a-tete every now and then is okay. It may seem like it's making both of you closer, but it isn't in the long run. You should always keep a guy wondering what you're all about. Besides, no man worth his salt will take delight in always sharing gossips with his girlfriend. He may oblige you just so he gives you a listening ear but trust me, he'll rather have fun with his boys.
My darling, so much ado about nothing. Stop going crazy over what you should be having a glass of wine over. Carry yourself in a way that a man will feel off, and always want you in his life. Just because a guy breaks up with you doesn't make you weak, jumping the gun to block him and delete his contacts so he doesn't beat you to the punch, reflects poorly on your confidence level. Moreso as you are going over the mood with grief when it was you who ended it. If a guy leaves you, wear a smile even if your heart is breaking because you know he will be back and by the time he crawls back, you will be the one who decides whether or not you want him back. Get a grip on your game, my love, never let them see you sweat.
#e-bearhugs.
#1 - Eyaaa
ReplyDelete#2 - Love will find you but focus on God first.
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