Hmmm!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
MAKING IT RIGHT
Hi bv's, I know some people might say " eh, this girl has no problem,
but believe me, this is actually one thing I wish to change about
myself. Am a final year student with only a semester to leave school
and an introvert, like if I tell people am in final year they doubt
it, like how am I going to survive in the outside world with 25%
social level, few friends.
I spent the last three years building my gp
but come to think of it, no body cares about grades all they need is
who can deliver. Am so scared of what the future might hold for me.
even with my good grades, am still not close to my lectures because am
not social. sincerely speaking I wish I can go back and do something
about it. I wish I can let school pass through me, it bothers me a lot
that people don't even know I exist. Please blog family what can I do
to act more maturely?
How should I act like a university graduate of which I will become
very soon and if you went through this, how did you cope?
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
SUSPICIOUS WIFE
Good day Stella,
Keep up the good work. You are good at what you do and you shall continue to soar.
Please I have an issue.
My hubby never stays at home. The moment he gets back from work, he just changes his clothes and steps out to hang with the guys. So he says.
I'm tired of complaining about him never being around. Another thing is, we've not made love since this year began. I don't have an issue with that but I'm shocked he has stayed this long without having sex.
I really want to make a big deal out of all this issues but trying to avoid a scene where my kids will see me act like a mad woman.
I'm 33yrs old with 2 kids a d I get compliments all the time about how good I look so i find it really strange that hubby is not turned on by my nakedness sef.
Could he be gay??. as this thought has been crossing my mind a lot.
From a sad lady who needs advise please.
Cheers.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
DOUBLE DATING ISH...
Stella ukwu sugar hailings.....
Wil just go straight to the point, am double dating. Would be 27yrs by the end of this year and I have a steady running business
Mr A is very calm, romantic, tall, Cute and humble guy. He is every woman's dream man,we fell in love with each other @ first sight, he loves me so much more than I do, but the problem I have with him is not taking care of my financial needs at all at all. I have complained to him times without number and he keeps saying I should bear with him. (Sum times he is like are you not doing business? Meaning take care of yourself). How will you have a gf and don't give her a penny?.
In my last relationship I was given everything I wanted, but entering another like this is very frustrating. Am not saying he should give me millions, but little assistance from your spouse matters a lot. It's not like he doesn't have ( he has two building projects and a running biz). I have really hurt him in the past but we always settle and he has been very tolerant. He already made his intentions of getting married to me by the end of this year. But this his not taking care of me is just discouraging. ( can't be doing student boyfriend @ dis stage of my life)
Mr B is a very nice and caring guy, from a wealthy home, has a good sense of humor and fun to be with. He provides for me to the best of his ability, but he is so so controlling I can't deal, he wants to mould and shape me to what he wants. And it's a big turn off for me.
He is 12 years older. He keep saying I don't pet and pamper him, when am the one who is supposed to be pampered. Maybe becos he has been with some older ladies who are ready to do anything to keep a man.
I have always loved older and mature men but this his controlling attitude scares me and he has pride and anger issues too. I don't really know his future intentions for me, when I ask he shuts me down. But he is really into me,this kind of guy that wants you around him 24/7 can call 20 times a day.... All he sings is get pregnant get pregnant, that one no even dey my agenda lol
So am confused whether to follow who am sure of his intentions, or follow who I don't even know where I stand. I really need to decide on who to move on with or I loose both cos we all live in a small town.
NB:
Mr A has no parents, and his siblings are abroad. So it's just me and him
Mr B's siblings and mum are all around him puck nosing, and we are not same tribe. Am Igbo, they always speak their dialect to gossip me, and they keep saying they won't follow him to Igbo land. And he should ready his millions to marry Igbo girl. All his siblings are married with kids I don't know what the agadi nwoke is waiting for lol
It's well!
ReplyDelete*******LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS******
P2 pls do whatever makes you happy,I don't know what men want biko,d rest goan sleep y'all gat no problems...
DeleteP2 pls do whatever makes you happy,I don't know what men want biko,d rest goan sleep y'all gat no problems...
DeletePoster 2 be deceiving yourself, ur horseband neva fuck u and u think he's gay? He's shining better Congo outside, don't deceive urself Ewu nama
DeleteChewing bitter kola
DeleteComments plssssss
Poster 1- Good enough,you now know there should be an adequate balance in every area of our lives.
DeleteYou must learn to laugh/smile a lot, also learn how to go out of your way to greet people,you also need to learn how to pay people nice compliments, attend events/functions/party, and up your dress sense. With these,you'll get people to notice you easily while you gradually build your social life from there.Goodluck!
Poster 2: Communication is the answer. Sit your husband down and talk to him(i didn't say shout,quarrel or fight. I said talk).Express your displeasure and let him know he is hurting you with his lifestyle.
Most of these complaints I see here are things single ladies should look out for before marriage. Only go to the altar with a man whose lifestyle you are comfortable with. Don't expect a man who comes back late frequently(cos he is hanging out,partying,drinking etc) change over night cos he has put a ring on it. Old habits hardly die.
Poster 3: None of those men is good enough, if they were you won't bring the matter here.
If you are a sane,non desperate sensible woman like me,i'll advice you don't settle with either of them.
On the other hand,if you are really desperate then you should just stick with Mr A,his baggage is not as cumbersome and heavy as that of Mr B.
Pin.
Poster one im an introvert too n I find mysf lonely most times I think I need advise too bcos through out my 3yrs in sch I only got one frnd n I dnt think she values me asmuch as I value her.
DeletePoster two stop suspecting and seduce ur man! If he doesnt mk a move on u, why nt make 50shades of gray move on him. N ps I think ur suspicion is as a result of the fact dt ur horny.
Poster three I dnt understand why ur man doesnt spnd on u when he could afford to. Maybe u gave him d impression ur miss independent. Bt mr B is def a no no. So I advise u work on n with mr A if u guys r really walkin down the alter dis yr. Love
Poster 1, inukwa ajuju
DeletePoster 2 he don tire to c d body n has gotten another boo
Poster 3 endtime boos. Why is A not giving u something at all? Likely to continue like that but he is better than B
*puffs out weed smoke*
Poster 1.. ur life just dey start. Just wait, u are about to start meeting d good, bad and ridiculously stupid. I was like u in uni. Finished almost with a 1st class, few friends, little experience. Now my eyes don full, I was sick a while ago and wasnt even scared at d though of death. Thats to show u dat I don see life.. life don see me. Just hold on. U go tire
DeleteThis life ehhhh
ReplyDelete@ poster 2, your man is not fat. Give him a breathing space and stop exposing your naked body to him. Learn to strip tease like wearing good bra that shows cleavage.
DeleteCrazy circle
DeletePoster 1 forget it abeg, you missed it and can only get some measure of it back but not the full groove because there is a time for everything. If you try all those exurberance now you will look out of place. Just like a man of 60 clubbing weekly, peeps will check him if he is alright. Concentrate now cos you need a stable career more than school craziness.
DeletePoster 2 hubby is seeing one chikala that is ringing his bell. Dont you have where to send your kids for a visit? Send them off and dress up as he comes home tell him that outing you wouldn't mind it too if he refuses then tell him no wahala. Next day make suee he doesnt come home to meet you, if u no get friend to visit just go and chillax in an eatery with a snack and drink , let him come home and call you to ask of your whereabout and u gently tell him you went out too simple but dont disclose where. His brain will reset if he still has feelings for you.
Poster 3 Sorry o, Immediately I saw the Mr A I stopped reading
Poster 1- Good enough,you now know there should be an adequate balance in every area of our lives.
DeleteYou must learn to laugh/smile a lot, also learn how to go out of your way to greet people,you also need to learn how to pay people nice compliments, attend events/functions/party, and up your dress sense. With these,you'll get people to notice you easily while you gradually build your social life from there.Goodluck!
Poster 2: Communication is the answer. Sit your husband down and talk to him(i didn't say shout,quarrel or fight. I said talk).Express your displeasure and let him know he is hurting you with his lifestyle.
Most of these complaints I see here are things single ladies should look out for before marriage. Only go to the altar with a man whose lifestyle you are comfortable with. Don't expect a man who comes back late frequently(cos he is hanging out,partying,drinking etc) change over night cos he has put a ring on it. Old habits hardly die.
Poster 3: None of those men is good enough, if they were you won't bring the matter here.
If you are a sane,non desperate sensible woman like me,i'll advice you don't settle with either of them.
On the other hand,if you are really desperate then you should just stick with Mr A,his baggage is not as cumbersome and heavy as that of Mr B.
Pin,the chukuchuku!
Coconut oil is truth! Please patronise Lucille. No I don't know her but I will preach the gospel of coconut oil.
Delete1. Amazing moisturiser for hair. Especially for natural sisters. Very good for pre-poo treatmnt and to define curls after moisturising.
2. Good moisturiser for skin. Just mix with your body lotion and slather on.
3. Perfect lip balm after exfoliation.
4. CooKing? OMG! It's delicious. Low in cholesterol and very healthy.
5. If you have shaving bumps around your vagina? Coconut oil please
Lucille I hope your oil is pyre after all this mouth?
Delete*pure
DeleteChukwu Abiam Mma pick my calls o some have 3 I don't even have quarter, I know you are watching o. You know I need a boo, please give me one. Poster 3 Weldone o
DeleteInukwa?
Delete*grabseatpringlesandjuice
Poster 1, you are just a confused human being.
ReplyDeleteO boy how come you no get sense like this ?...how does poster one seem confused ? Go back and read again. Nitwit
DeleteShe's not just stop talking, people are so ignorant and selfish.They just don't care
DeletePoster 1- hmm.....
Deletesometimes in life experience is the best teacher. There are certain things in life can be learnt by experience. Now, I won't advice you to go out into the world and start doing all the bad and good and ugly cos you don't have life experience.
I know how you feel about being in final year and you think this is he peak of life (I've been there) but honey, life begins after university. They told us we didn't believe until we experienced it. Many people learn at different times. Some in university, others in secondary school, some learn later in life after they have married and have kids (like my mum lol). But you need to be open to be able to learn. You need to be receptive and not cage yourself in. Else you wont learn at all. Glad that you've noticed this cos the first step to solving a problem is identifying it.
This brings me to your self confidence. Are u a confident person? Or are u one of those who feel certain things are above you? You still picture yourself as a child in your head? Start by researching what people your age have achieved (go online) that will help you understand that you're not too young to do certain things and you will begin to see yourself in a better light.
Lastly, renew your mind. The bible says we shall be conformed by the renewing of our mind. How have you wanted to act when you grow up? Guess what? You're grown up now so start acting that way. Change your mindset about yourself. Are u petite? People may see you as a smallie cos of your size. And it may have messed with your mind. Well, start seeing g yourself as a biggie. Lol. And measure yourself based on your internal qualities. And carry yourself well.
Congrats on getting your grades up! Education isn't easy. So having good grades can be time consuming. But find time to read other things, entertainment books and journals, movies and also check your appearance. Do u dress and look like an undergrad in her final year? Do you also style your hair as such?
Okay. I hope I've helped.
As for poster 2 and 3, well I have no advice for u today. Poster 2 sounds like one of the bitter wives who cuss single girls out here. Smh
DeletePoster 1- you will be just fine trust me. Coming out of school should be your priority. Trust me, those people you wish you made friends with, in 2 or 3 years time they won't matter.
DeleteGet yourself a great job through the help of God and hard work. When I say you will be fine, I mean you will just fine. Don't let low self esteem finish you cos men will use it against you. Fall madly in love with yourself. The right social circle will come with time.
All the best
POSTER 2,
ReplyDeleteA lesson on snooping:
My husband is a business executive and needed to go to a conference in another city. In my family (of five), we all fast from morning till evening during the weekends; fri. sat. sun. And we have our family fellowship on Sunday evenings. We also pray at midnight just like Jesus taught. So before my husband went for this conference, the Lord revealed to me in a dream that a particular lady will come with a problem and would want him to help her. She would demand to visit him in his hotel room for discussion but her intention is seduction. The Lord showed me that if my husband yielded; i.e. allowed her in his room, he would "NEVER RECOVER FROM IT". After sharing it with him; even the description of the lady etc. He left. And when he returned, he told me that the lady (someone he trusted) wore even the exact dress that the Lord showed me. And after the conference, she was there pleading for his assistance with a project. My husband simply found an alibi and told her that they should discuss it there in the hotel lobby that he will be there as long as the discussion lasted. This lady refused and pleaded for the discussion in the comfort of my husband's room, next morning. He rejected that and called me that night. We changed his flight schedule and he left earlier than he planned. When the lady called as soon as my hubby arrived (she had actually been calling during the flight;don't know how she got his cell number. She was supposed to have only the official one), he gave me the phone and I simply said "I am the wife, he is home and sleeping soundly in my arms . . ."
Daniel two verse twenty two: He reveals deep and hidden things; he knows what lies in darkness, and light dwells with him.
This story has been narrated here before na. Good testimony though.
DeleteWe don hear.
DeleteYou have told us this story b4 naaaaaa
DeleteNo new one?
Ain't you tired of pasting this rubbish here?...
DeleteI've read this comment before. Come up with something new please.
DeleteTo God be the glory.I think I have read this story before.
DeletePoster 3 calm down and don't expect too much from your men.
So what is the message now? We should fast every weekend even if owambe dey, or we should monitor our husbands up and down?
DeleteWow...
DeleteThumbs up to u
So whats d moral lesson of ds ur repetitive story?
Deletehaba madam no disturb our ears! u well so? how many times u go paste dis yeye write up here? abeg stay ur lane.
DeleteI don't understand ure story madam
Delete@anonymous 15:04. Thanks and God bless you for your testimony, it really touched me. Maybe I will start same tread of fasting so that God can reveal hidden things to me too.
Delete@haters, the fact that you have seen the comment/testimony before doesn't mean she can't post it over and over and over again. You have seen it? Fine! Just waka pass na, ah ah. There are some who may not have seen it before and God may have led her to post it again just to bless/encourage someone. Na wa for una o.
Thank you so much for sharing. God bless you. Prayer indeed is key.
DeleteThanks for sharing.just reading this for the first time.and haters,this is directed it to poster number 2.bad mouth people wey no dry fear God.
DeleteHahahahaha... This Stella sef. Biko 3 of you no get problem.
ReplyDeleteHhhmmmm
ReplyDeletePoster one! Make friends naa, abi u wanna explore? Cos I don gerrit.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 is a Madonna student
DeletePoster3, if your agadi nwoke is Yoruba pls gbakwa oso ndu. They can carry baby mama thing for head
Poster three good that you didn't put your eggs in one basket. But I still think you should be more serious with mr A, just bear with him he will take care of you. It might even be that he knew that you are double dating.
DeletePoster two, madam please learn to pray for your husband. Have you ever wake up at midnight to pray? If you can wake up at midnight and cry to God,very soon you will see change in your husband's life. Pigeon no de work o,grand mama and all that,all na wash. The only person that can change your husband is God. I am a living testimony. Midnight prayer works like magic.
Poster 1 you really don't know your priority.
ReplyDeleteSocial life takes you on High then drops you dry.
Focus on your studies and graduate with the best grades. When you can afford social life you'd enjoy it best then.
Poster no sex this year?
I don't know if that means your hubby is cheating but ignore him and stop bugging.
Dress good and smell nice. Act like all is well and life is more beautiful.
Infact if possible act like you're seeing someone or someone new is taking your attention.
I don't know what men want anymore.
So good luck.
Poster 3 if you end up with Mr B you're on a long thing and would be back with another chronicles soon enough.
Be wise and don't run in to rush out eventually, the signs are there for you to see now don't say you didn't see them when the bubble burst.
Why not look elsewhere aside Mr A and B.
Bye.
Check your mail this is Richard
DeleteI know what ure saying but at least one person, c'mon we all need somebody
DeleteDoppelganger pls don't fall for or take Richard serious. Your post about how you want to become a prostitute is the reason for his recent attraction to you. He is a serial...or you could enter and see things for yourself.
DeleteNaive newbie, thank you and just leave the thing alone. He should keep Bombarding my mailbox.
DeleteWhen he or she or it is tired, it would stop.
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ReplyDeletePoster one start hanging out, club, make friends, read books and follow guys lol.
ReplyDeletePoster three I'm into the mature older guy thing too but thry end up being so controlling so I know what you mean. I think the age is the problem. The man sees you as a child I guess cos of the age difference. I believe with you guys, the age difference might be the problem. The first guy is just stingy. Leave those two and Try another guy abeg.
ReplyDeleteposter 1: we all must not send chronicles
ReplyDeleteposter 2:Leave him till he catches hiv that thing that is sweeting him outside will bring him to beg u to stick through good n bad times
poster 3:what if they r also double dating u eg to the first guy u r his sidechic and he is spending on his main chic du thing it is easy taking care of 2 at the same time?odiro easy nne,then lets say the second guy wants to mould u till u lose whats left of ur own self and then he leaves u for the one he likes just as she is.
In other words,if in ur last relationship u were being spent on and taken care of y did u not stay with him and marry him?
If u know what she's going through u won't talk like that, cause u have, that's why
DeletePoster 1, im in bed crying right now of the same issue and just checked my phone out of boredom and saw ure chronicle,I'm In my 300level,I too, I'm an introvert, don't know what to say,I have close friends from home,but here in Ghana, I'm so lonely, I have a boyfriend, he keeps me company but I don't have one single female friend, I'm So lonely..
I don't have anybody that visits me ,cause they miss me,I only have acquaintances in school,I'm not a boring person at all,I love music,I know every celebrity, I watch movies,I'm not q bad person, in fact I'm too nice, but people see me as snobbish and dey don't come close to me.I don't go to clubs parties, etc
I'm so lonely, and it hurts like mad,thanks for posting D's @ least I know I'm not the only one,just wish we could be friends..I'm so sad. I even pray to God for friends but nothing.. M
If u are an introvert who hasnt got any friends then you nust change your approach. A man that has friends must show hmself friendly. Dont be sad. You are beautifully made the way you are.
DeleteAnon...I beg who friend don help?pls concentrate on better things jare.
DeleteMe too i just graduated from med school and I also don't have a boyfriend.was too busy romancing my books didn't have a social life..stella pls do the next SnM soon. Hope to meet some one there
DeletePoster three, keep looking, u might just land ur spec! Don't settle for a stingy guy abeg! N don't settle for a family were dey don't like u at all. Unless u r prepared to take 'd leap of faith'.
ReplyDeletePoster 3: Neither mr A nor Mr B is ur hubby. Keep searching thru Mr C, Mr D....bfr u get to Mr Z trust me u will find d one f u.
ReplyDeleteI need a pack of pop corn
ReplyDeletePoster 3
ReplyDeleteDid not tell us if she is "sharing vagina" to both and collecting "dividends"; well if you are doing that, that's the definition of PROSTITUTION.
The guilty ones will come under my comments to fume! But they will hide under anonymous
Judgener.
DeleteJudge Joe brown.
DeletePoster 3: u already know the best answer to your narrative, u jus want us to type.
ReplyDeleteAnd you typed
DeletePoster 1: go out na. Haba
ReplyDeletePoster 2: rape him. Lol
Poster 3: leave them. They r not for u. Mr A will be a stingy husband and u will regret it. Mr B is a control freak coupled with his family, u r in for peppersoup. And because they speak their dialet doesn't mean they r gossiping u. Find a good igbo dude and marry na
Igbo men are not the best to marry joor,stingy, mtchewww.SPICY
DeleteMost Igbo men spend their money on their wives not gfs. So marry him and enjoy his money
DeletePoster two your husband has a serious side chic outside. He's not gay. There's a woman there
ReplyDeletePoster 2,
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious your husband is cheating...
go through his phone and see if you can see any exhibit...
Talk to him about it but if he refused to change,biko get a boyfriend!..
Don't kill yourself because of a man biko...
Poster 3,
I would have encouraged you to stay with mr B but reading through your story,mr B can never marry you...
Infact,none of the guys deserves you!...
The worst thing that would happen to any woman is to get married to a stingy man!...
Biko leave both of them...they are bad news!...
Ur comments on chronicles is becoming boring.. We already knw what u going to say.#Notice_me
DeletePoster 2: I think u shud trace ur hubby or set up a spy to follow him. Give him serious close marking then ur findings will give u a beta clue on wot to do.
ReplyDeleteD only issue I see her is dt of poster 2 bcx posted 3 already has d answer to her questn y didn't u save us d stress if reading ? Poster 1 cont to behave lik a baby but I tell u,it didn't start bcx u entered sch it started frm ur house
ReplyDeletePoster 2 RAPE him na ur hubby
Poster 3 and
ReplyDeleteAll the girls that share buttocks before marriage to collect things from men are in a PROSTITUTIONSHIP and not relationships. Get that right?
Poster two your hubby could be gay, you too start going out when your hubby goes out, stop nagging biko, na who nagging don help before? Finally you can get a sweet boy to service your cookies
ReplyDeletePoster 2, It takes more than beauty to keep a man.
ReplyDeleteU are the architect of your own woes. If you are a nice woman. Ur horseband will not be running away any time he came back from work.
It is women like u dat nag and quarrel all the time. dat their man always feel uncomfortable being with.
Did he spend money to marry you in order not to gbensh ur something?
It could also be dat u are now fat
Hahahahahahaha...
DeletePoster1: Good to know this fuel/dollar crisis is the least of ur problems, pls kindly park well let's see ppl with real problems.
ReplyDeletePoster2: You xpect him to spend on you when ure flirting with B and C abi?? Given his achievements as u mentioned, he dsnt invest in anything not concrete... Commot from my front.
poster 3, from the look of things, Mr A should be your husband
ReplyDeleteBut he is stingy
DeletePoster 1: I don't get u. Come again, u say?
ReplyDeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteBwahahahaha.
You should see my social life. One of my former classmates was teasing me yesterday, that I don't have up to five friends on earth. Lmao.
I just told him that at least, I don't get into trouble, or have any one to gossip about or be gossiped about.
You can change that aspect of your life, if you don't like it. If you have an interesting personality, it won't be too hard.
When you meet people, strike up conversations, and take it from there. Don't be a wall flower, and expect friends to just appear out of nowhere. No one is an island, but try to choose your friends wisely, especially, in times like this. You can still have people that you're friendly with, but who you're not close to. That's me.
But then, don't think that you focusing on making good grades isn't important. Keep being your normal, focused self, and you'll go far.
Don't lose focus, because you want to be like everyone else;gushing upandan about friends, that aren't even loyal.
Poster two: Ask him na.
Poster three:
Has it occurred to you, that you might be a confused lady?
Think about it, and you'll find your answer.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 2, your husband is either gay or he has a constant supply of the cookie jar outside
ReplyDelete1. Graduate first na. The world out there is cruel and wicked babe. In your quest to be sociable, don't get yourself into trouble o. Be careful with the kind of friends you keep especially guys (read previous chronicles to understand my point). Wa wa alright
ReplyDeleteAll these chronicles of Mr A - Z tire me abeg.
It's well
Lol@agada nwoko.
ReplyDeletePoster 3, ride Mr A, and forget B since B ' s family is already interfering this early morning.
Poster 2. You need to talk to your hubby, nke a owukwa uka...biko sit him down and talk about your feelings joor. Don't insinuate anything until you bar sure.
Poster 1.
Go out often, join groups in your church or even school I know you have a semester left, it might help you never know
Poster 1, don't you have girls of your age in your area. Make as many friends as you can, you will meet the good, the bad and the ugly, just be wise
ReplyDeleteStella you funny too much. Mark is in my office. Let me call him for you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1.... your character will show whether you went to university or university went though you.
Poster 2... you too start dressing sexy, wear bum shorts, get a MUA to make you look find and start to waka for una street, lets see who will calm down.
Poster 3... Mark abeg bring zobo join. I no read your chronicles
Poster 1- when you get to NYSC camp,try to mingle well with people and participate in camp activities.Poster 2. - Take your kids to their grandparent and confront him,this is the 4th month in the year and he hasn't initiate sex,something is definitely wrong somewhere.Poster 3- You are 27 years old but you sound like a baby.Men are now wise,they just don't spend their money on girls they are not seeing any future with.Probably he knows you are double dating.You know who you really want between them,if it's money marry Mr B.
ReplyDeletePrincess Adedeeeeeee
Poster 3,none of
ReplyDeletePoster 1, get online! lol
ReplyDeletePoster 2, take it or leave it, your hubby is cheating, sorry.
Poster 3, your last paragraph is funny.
Poster 3, none of them is truly in love with you.
ReplyDeleteP1:Having no friends is better than having bad friends. P2:maybe you should be the one to ask for sex. P3:Bigfoot. Lmao
ReplyDeleteIf you marry A, you will be solely responsible for all your upkeep even your kids. Trust me. I'm in that kinda of marriage and its tiring my dear.. Think am well. Mr A wont take care of you and his kids! Thats it. I said it
ReplyDeleteIf Mr A is IBO that is their way, stingy guys will never change after marriage. Who still dey do student bf at this age? Waka if he is not ready to spend his dollars on you. Stop giving him cookies till he has paid all the outstanding ego.
ReplyDeleteThank God getting belle is not in your agenda at the moment, do not marry Mr B. Any relationship or marriage that you cannot be free to speak or express your self I call that relationship or marriage #onechance#
The agadi na agwo ofe is still trying to sample more cookies before he finally settles down, dupm Mr B sharp sharp, na bad market.
Most Igbo men spoil their women with money. It's a pity u r attracting d wrong types. U need to check urself
Deleteact like a mad woman to save your home.....husband is cheatis.ng on you...oops!my bad . shine your eye
ReplyDeletePoster3: Stingy man is devil's bestie........don't go there. Loving comes with giving......don't let anybody wash your head or take advantage of your independent spirit.
ReplyDeleteMr controller is a potential abuser........pls flee. We don't need your chronicles here.
Poster 2: How did you marry a man you can't talk to or know?
Hope your plan B is on point and you have a solid source of income...........pls watch with your two eyes and pray.......don't forget to go for tests should you guys want to resume sex.......protect yourself biko.
If you have liver.......update yourself on his activity....... don't play naive.......these men are not loyal.
Poster 1: Nothing wrong with being an introvert.......i am a conditional one too. Saves your lots of heartache....... However no man is an island. You haven't clicked with anyone yet....that's why.
Friendship is not something you force.........you could get burned. Understand yourself and be sure you can accomodate another's flaws. If you have a low shock absorber........softpedal with the drive for friendship.......... Trust me, people are not all that and true friendship these days is a rare gift.
Concentrate in building yourself and carefully select your friends. If it worries you so much......fast and pray about it.........yeah.......it might surprise you but it works. Didn't the bible say cast your cares and worries upon him? Seek God for true friendship and to fill the void you feel that makes you so anxious.
Read self-improvement books and the bible....... God be with you.
Poster 1, im in bed crying right now of the same issue and just checked my phone out of boredom and saw ure chronicle,I'm In my 300level,I too, I'm an introvert, don't know what to say,I have close friends from home,but here in Ghana, I'm so lonely, I have a boyfriend, he keeps me company but I don't have one single female friend, I'm So lonely..
ReplyDeleteI don't have anybody that visits me ,cause they miss me,I only have acquaintances in school,I'm not a boring person at all,I love music,I know every celebrity, I watch movies,I'm not q bad person, in fact I'm too nice, but people see me as snobbish and dey don't come close to me.I don't go to clubs parties, etc
I'm so lonely, and it hurts like mad,thanks for posting D's @ least I know I'm not the only one,just wish we could be friends..I'm so sad. I even pray to God for friends but nothing.. M
Pray for a job after school and a good man not friends mumu
DeleteUre the mumu
DeleteFucking cry baby. You think the world revolves around friends abi ?
DeleteI am also in Ghana. I hv always wanted a close friend too.
Deleteposter 2: pls dnt conclude dat he's gay...pls dnt ait for him to initiate sex...GO for it
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You Knew All This Before Now, So Deal With It. Most Of You Will Over Look Some Annoying Character Because You Want To Get Married.
ReplyDeletePoster1: I was actually an intovert back at school, never spoke to my lecturers. Good enough we were few in my department, but still I was invisible. Am done with school now, working and doing oh. When I needed my lecturers to help me with reference or something I simply call and say my name,my set and what I need. Their's is a public office and they have ur records so they will help u whenever u need them to. And as for social life, u you can have all the social life u have when u graduate.
ReplyDeletePoster 3: It pisses me off when ladies make it seem like it's a man's responsibility to take care of yr needs. He is not your father , so it's not his duty ,he can do that out of the goodness of his heart not as an obligation. A good woman should think of saving or multiplying her man's money not spending it. Else of cos y'all wanna have fun with each other and move on. If it's someone u r planning ur future with, u should be thinking of making it a brighter future, not making urself more flashy. My opinion though.
Single girl, a man that doesn't spend on you, will spend his money on someone else. Take that to the bank. Tanki u!
DeletePoster1 u need the university to pass through u dear, am a testimony to that; I went for an interview and met with the MD the man re-interviewed all of us over again and wen it was my turn he asked how I saw university. I was so candid and we chatted for over 45mins gisting about it. That was when he told me during the chat that a guy amongs us has lost his job coz he lived a triangular life back in school that he wants more than a graduate and the rest is history. Plz mix up, dress well, meet people, make friends @ random u don't need to share contacts, blog, take up serious position in any organization you are in... It makes u more flexible, informed and smarter... Wishing u the best in your journey
ReplyDeletena wa o...
ReplyDelete#1- Concentrate and finish first. Focus on God and He will surprise you.
ReplyDelete#2- The only way you can get proof is via his phones but make up your mind in case if its contrary. Pray for him
#3-Stop giving him sex and see whether he loves you or not #MrA.
Leave Mr B alone before he sends you his wedding iv
ReplyDeleteposter1: if you did not build yourself a social life frm the beginning in school, then you cannot now so shift
poster2: madam, wat av you stopped doing since the beginning of this year? do you smell good to bed? do you cook well? do you engage your hubby in erotic messages on watsapp? do you wear revealing clothes like bumshorts etc wen your husband is around? are you clean down there? av u had a one to one talk about this matter to your husband? well if you have not done any of the above, abeg carry yourself comot for here....I wonder at when people would start using their heads in resolving their issues before sharing the matter upandan
poster3:You know who you want to choose already so go ahead, bet if you don't I wud advice you to stick to mr A and STOP COMPLANING o jare,how much have you spent on him urself and you say you run a business tschew..the way gurls nag these days eh...u better be careful
Poster 2, the only way to find out what he's up to is to snoop. Phones, social media, chats etc.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. Please do the needful by taking the first step you don't have to be waiting on him to come to you... If u do dat and you're turned down then there is a problem...Poster 3... I really don't know how ladies sleep with two/three men at the same time cos if you complain dat he's providing for your needs then you're definitely sleeping with him..I suggest you make things work with him cos he's your best option, let him realise his stinginess will be a problem in the future and see if he changes..if he doesn't change pls go to God in prayer and wait patiently for your own man..stinginess is a no no for me pls..poster 3 ...you don't have a problem but becareful in choosing a friend cos sincerely there are no longer sincere friends even the so called Christians in ur church are worse..all the best!
ReplyDeleteAnd here I am complaint that my husband does not go out. From work straight home. Weekend nkor always indoors. Different stroke for different folks. Poster 2, if I were to be in your shoes I will tale him for 1 wk or send someone to do that for me. With this I will have a reason to accuse him of anything. That is if I find him wanting. The Lord is your strength.
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DeletePoster 2, u aint alone o. We've had sex only once this year and it was wack as in totally wack! I have talked to him, he said it's because he isn't settled. He's disturbed because he's broke so having sex isnt on his mind at all. I tell am say, all those poor people wey dey carry belle before u say jack Robinson nko? He said probably they don't have a problem with their situation. Well, I pray for God's intervention soon. So I can have my fully active hubby back cos I'm starting to kinda flirt with someone.
ReplyDeleteMen, men, men! This is what happens when husbands do not do the right thing. Please hear wella, TAKE CARE OF YOUR WIVES OR ANOTHER MAN WILL DO IT FOR YOU!
DeleteP2 please go on your knees and report him to God and watch Gid wheel him back. Your knee is very powerful as a wife. Don't forget this. Thank me later.
ReplyDeleteI hate these kinds of comment. "Your knee is powerful as a wife". Next one pesin will write watch war room. Prayer is good but men shld also pray na.. check d bible, its mostly abt praying men. When did it bcom a womans sole responsibility? What a world of double standards.
DeleteP2 please go on your knees and report him to God and watch Gid wheel him back. Your knee is very powerful as a wife. Don't forget this. Thank me later.
ReplyDelete@ James,your comments are really insultive and you know nothing about life. your comments goes in this format "your husband is tired of you because you are fat". As a matter of fact men Generally have different specks. Some like it fat, some like it skinny, some like it short others like it tall, some like it black, others like it fair. So it only takes a dumb guy like you to make your preference the standard to generalize what man really want . Thanks
ReplyDeleteR u fat?
DeletePresent twice...
ReplyDeletePoster 1 too many friends will drain u of energy, resources including time, money and intellect especially if u fall in with the wrong ones, I use to feel like dis way back, the fewer the better btw join ur campus rotaract club u could make many good friends in so short a time. Goodluck.
Poster 2 I don't know ooo, actually been trying to understand why a woman will b too disturbed bcos of gbenshing I have not gbenshed as a single man for close to 6mnths now not like I wouldn't but I just got tired of gbenshing tins I'm not dead "praise God". Abeg somebody shd pour me cold water.
Poster 3 gerrarhea I have no advice for A cheat