Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

HUH?

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

THE CONSEQUENCES OF GOING ALONE TO VISIT A MAN

Hello Stella,

I am an ardent reader of your blog and would like to remain Anonymous.

I have never thought i would ever in my life need to send you a mail, But something happened to me on the 3rd April and i would like to share so as to free my spirit from guilt.

I met a guy about One(1) month ago and two weeks after we met, we started a relationship.

He asked to see me a week afterwards but i was not available so we arranged to see on the 3rd which was a Sunday after Service. He had invited me to come and know his house which i bluntly refused (with the thought that it was too early for the relationship). So we agreed to meet somewhere. 

At about 11:00am on the 3rd he called to tell me to please come over to his house that the money he was expecting wasn't forthcoming and he is financially down that i should please bear with him. So it was on that note i decided to go to his house.

I got to his house at about 1:00pm, We chatted and all and at about 4:30 when i was set to leave he pleaded with me to stay another 1hour that will be till 5:30, so i thought to myself 1hr will not hurt since i wont be going home to do anything. When it was 5:30 i told him i was set to leave and he asked if he could kiss me, i refused because i thought we were still getting to know each other and i thought it was too early. Little did i know i was in for a show.

I got up to leave and he got up to act like he was going to see me off only for him to lock the door and kept the keys in his pocket. 

I asked what all that was for AND he immediately changed and shouted that i should take my clothes off. I stood in shock where i was and couldn't move cos i wasn't sure i had heard him right. 

He just headed straight inside and told me to meet him in the room if i wanted to go home, Long story cut short he came out after about 20mins later and started rough handling me and eventually Raped me.

After the deed, he went on his knees and started begging that he couldn't resist the urge. He called throughout that evening but i didn't pick his calls and eventually sent some messages asking for forgiveness. The first thing the following day i had to go run some test, only for my doctor to tell me i have got some infection. 

Am grateful to God its not HIV or any other demoralizing disease but he wont still let me be.

My advice for my fellow gf's is that never go visit a guy alone, they cant be trusted.

hmmmm.....am a lot more relieved.

Immediately the next day the Doctor told you that you had some infections from the rape of the day before?This is a big lie and if i am wrong someone should please correct me....Doesnt it take longer for STD's to manifest,especially in a woman?You must have had it before and you must have infected the idiot so good for him.

I am so sorry about what happened to you..The next time you run into a situation like that just head to the Kitchen and grab whatever weapon you find to keep him away..

BUT WAIT!!!!

Why did you not quickly make calls during the 20mins he left you alone?

Note that i do not disbelieve that he forcefully had canal knowledge of you but i am only saying that you did nothing to stop it....You had time to act,scream..DO SOMETHING!.

No one should concentrate on my anaylsis here,say yours and move on!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER?

Hi Stella, 

thank you for the endless advice your red pen always gives our chronicles. I know you say it as you feel and some bvs also give good advice. sorry if it seems we keep talking about cheating but well it is what it is right?

here goes my chronicle; I am married with children to a tdh type of man, for about 5 years now. Our marriage was never the romeo Julie kinda marriage but we get by and we actually love each other. I found out he cheated on me early last year when I was out of the country for a few months, checked his phone and saw chats with the woman and even her picture, I was hurt and made a big deal out of it, reported to his mother and she scolded him, he denied it but eventually apologized (wonder what he apologized for if he didn't do it).

He lost his job shortly after but I still had a job albeit a small one so we kept managing, a while after that we had a fight one day and he slapped the shit out of me, it turned into a big fight and it took his mother to stop us from killing each other, he apologized thereafter and things went back to normal, although those things he did are things that ain't easily forgotten.

I am writing this chronicle to rant and ask for some advice cos he got a new job last year but I resigned to stay with the children and I noticed few months ago that he has started the kind of Waka that preceded the cheating I caught. He has always been a drinker and smoker but now he goes out almost every night of the week, I used to have passwords to all his phones and social media handles but now I don't have them anymore, he changed everything and anytime i'm close enough to guess his password he changes it again. 

He is always on.his phone chatting, someone that used to fight with me about social media concentration. One woman called him a few times when he was not with phone in the late evening like 10pm on different days, when I asked him why she called a married man that late, he said she asked him to do.something for him and that she's married with 2 kids (when has that ever stopped anyone)

anyway, my question now is am I right to suspect he's seeing someone? What do I do about it? Should I just leave him alone and give in to this guy that wants to smother me with love and attention? or just turn the other eye and be the good housewife?

Thank you

You want to practice an eye for an eye?It never ends well!!!

About the cheating and what to do,i dont know what to say,maybe someone better equipped to advise you will do so in the comment section.

Remember that if you are caught cheating,even his own will be dumped on your head and you will be made prime suspect!