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Mother in law from hell!

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MARRIED TO HUBBY AND MOTHER - IN- LAW

 Stella. I am not really happy at the moment because I am about to take a decision I don't know if it's right or not. I have been married for 4 years and it will be 5 years in August. I married a very loving guy but things turned wrong all of a sudden.

I am a graduate of public relations and advertising. I finished school like 5 years ago but the school is yet to give us results so I can't work for now but while in school, I was doing business and was also a makeup artist.

I had this neighbor who was asking me out in secondary School but I didn't like him so I didn't even give him face. Fast forward to some years later, I gained admission into the University only for me to see him again as my neighbor. He asked me out and I accepted so we started dating. Three years later, he proposed and I accepted. Mind you, he's Muslim and Yoruba and I am Ibo and a Christian. 

My parents were saying I could never marry a Muslim. My mum said she liked him but his mother was a problem being that she heard a lot of bad things about her. They didn't accept so myself and hubby decided that if I got pregnant, they would have no choice but accept him so I did and yes, they accepted. We did our registry and I gave birth a week later .....

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 Stella, this boy's mother has brought so much pain into my life. When I was pregnant, my baby was breach so she came one day and said she went to see a pastor and the pastor gave her catfish for me and that I should eat it so my baby will turn (the catfish was in a black bowl just like the one you see on the road). My hubby came in and saw the fish and said I shouldn't eat it. 

She got angry (I think there was more to the fish because since that day, my life has been something else). This woman has fought my own mother and her neighbors. You need to hear the hurtful things she says about my mother. My mother is separated from my father so she goes about telling people my mother is a prostitute and I lack home training. She has told me several times that my kids aren't theirs and that I am going to leave my hubby's house soon. 

She has threatened me that if I am not careful, she will send me to where I belong. 

I bless God for my mother. She's a prayer warrior. If not for her, I don't know where I will be today. My mother-in-law makes sure she comes to my house every week since I got married to her son and mind you, her own husband is still alive.

The matter on ground now is, we went for the Easter break in my mother-in-law's house. So when we were leaving, I just saw her inside the car. I thought she was going to drop somewhere along the road but she followed us home. My hubby is sick but she hasn't allowed me take care of him. 

She has been the one doing everything even to the extent of preparing his bathing water. I am crying so much because my hubby isn't helping matters. He supports all she does. If I complain, he will say ''she's my mother too''.

So i have taken a decision that I want a divorce but my hubby doesn't know this yet. I am just tired of all the insults I get from this woman and my hubby has a very short temper so he beats me. I always fight him back and make sure I give him a mark.

Stella, I want to leave this marriage. I am not happy. How do I start with no money? Won't it be a shame to go back to my mum's house after she warned me not to marry him. I don't have a job and no money. Please I need your advice

shame keh?you are still talking of shame in this situation...I dont know if this is a good idea to leave but i think you need a break from that situation you are in..May be you should go and spend some time with your mum bearing at the back of your mind that the minute you walk out you MIGHT not be allowed to return....All the best!