STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LE BOO IN JAIL,WEDDING CALLED OFF BUT PAPERS STUCK AT THE REGISTRY.
My dear SDK,
I will skip the encomiums because my hands are shaking as I type.....
Early this year I went to the registry with my fiance to register for marriage. We paid, our passport photographs were collected and He was asked to sign. Though I filled the forms myself. And we were given a day for counseling and also a day for signing of affidavit(wish is after 21 days).
I went for the counseling but he couldn't go. Then few days later, he got himself in trouble and was thrown into jail, it turn out to be a serious issue so his coming out anytime soon is in doubt. The 21 days notice has passed now, and I no do again so I want to withdraw the filing from the court, a friend now told me that its not possible without His consent. Ewoooooo!!!!
He is in jail! He is not coming out anytime soon. Please someone kindly advice me on what to do cos I am in full panic mode. Note: its just marriage filing and we have not signed the affidavit. But I was told that He can sue me later if I withdraw this without his consent.That means I can't marry someone else or what?.
Please help me dear BVN.
Please pardon any error.
Kindly keep my Identity SDK.
*OMG..I dont know anything about this,I am sure you will get answers from the comment section....Sorry oh,wetin Le boo? E THIEF ABI E KEE PERSAN?..Ooops sorry ex right?
Just negodu 🙅🏽
ReplyDeleteWhat happens to standing by each other? Just because there's a minor set back you just want out. With your type as friend who wants enemy?
DeleteEven when you marry and haven't consumated the marriage,its grounds for a nullity of the marriage so how much more when you havent yet signed the dotted line,woman stop assuming a greater burden and worrying us....panic freak!!!lol...
DeleteGbedu way dey burst brain!!!
DeleteWhat's the meaning of BVN?
DeleteWill do the same in your shoes o rather than wait for the guy to be released.
DeleteNa only me waka love?
*smokes weed*
Kindly contact me. Am a lawyer flaksarems@outlook.com. Thank you
DeleteYou didn't tell us why you wanna call it off. What's the reason he's locked up? That will help us know if you're actually an u grateful impatient gf or you actually need to run. Jokes apart, he might have been framed in his place of work and he is innocent and you want to leave him at his darkest hour.
Deleteso me I have no advice for u cos I don't know the reason why he's locked up and if it's reason enough for you to leave or you're just being slippery.
To all of you saying she should stick with him...I wonder what ate half of your brains. Her fiancé got locked up...he's not coming out anytime soon...obviously this is a serious crime he has committed that the lady is even scared to go back to the court..so if he's a murderer, drug addict or armed robber she should stick with him??? Bloody hypocrites!!! If she does and comes back to write chronicles of how she waited years for him to be released and when they marry they have problems in the marriage...all of you will still open your stupid mouths to say "you saw the signs before marriage and you still entered".
DeleteMy dear...go back to the court ask to meet with an official there, present your issue and then they'd advice you on what can or can't be done. Leave these hypocritical people on this blog that wouldn't give you this same advice if you were their sister.
I so much hate to see pple write 'BVN' in place of BV.
DeleteMadam bet wt d person ment by him suing u is 'Breach of Promise to marry'.
Abegi! If u no want again, u r FREE to hit d free way.
But wat hapend to love?
My lil'cuz was dating a guy, he got jailed (waiting trial) for attempted murder. We were all suprizd d kinda love cos she was in d university n wud use her pocket change to get him food nd other needs.
Luckily he was pardoned.
Now he's Rt.Honorable...
My sis make sure u fear oo, hope he won't come afta u later to destroy ur joy.
Make person no use im raggae spoil ur blues.
Madam, so that's how you will leave him when he marries you?
DeleteNo matter the crime. If he's an armed robber, assassin and their likes, will you tell me you didn't suspect all the while? Just because he got caught now you want to abandon him.
Some people get mind.
My cousin babe waited for him for 4yrs when he was jailed for cult related matters.
Moji dey go cell as early as 6am go stay with Dokpesi till evening, his current wife didn't even visit once. That's love.
I don't have advice for you
Fix it oh Lord!
ReplyDeleteAm sure if its reversed and its a guy that sent this in, comments would have been like a thousand all cursing. Now a woman is leaving her man and it seems her prb isnt even his crime but coa hes gonna be away for a long time.
DeleteWhy cant you go to the court and ask questions?
"E THIEF ABI E KEE PERSAN?". End time aunty jenifa stelz . ...
DeleteHhhmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis na serious gbege
ReplyDeleteWho dey jail no fit get visitor? Jst wondering....
ReplyDeleteWhere Ronalda? This seems to be her field.
ReplyDeleteOmg. ..what happened to for better for worse. ...I'm sure when the going was good he spend money on you.. ..lizzy
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense are u talking about, u guys are not married, there is no wedding certificate, so what's ur problem, go back to the court and tell them u are no longer interested period, so ur Lee boo is a criminal hehehehe, everyday for the thief, one day for the owner, thank ur lucky star u did not marry him.
ReplyDeleteDon't say that. You think say na everybody wey dey jail actually committed the crime?
DeleteI don't think he can sue u cos he was charged for a crime he probably really participated in.So, sueing u u can stand on these grounds, BTW y u no do again? Because u heard he's not coming anytime soon? But if una don marry u wud have been saying I'm in love I will pray for him.Why u no pray? Y u no gree wait? James will soon ask u if u ever loved him that u r not loyal.I wish u d best
ReplyDeletePls my fellow bvs..I need dis urgently.. How much does it cost to take hepatitis B vaccine for adults? D person wants to take it in any good hospital in benin..pls help a sister out
DeleteI took it for 9k in phc..
DeleteLast I had it, it was free
DeleteIt's free. I had it free.
DeleteOw and their doing it free in my school, so sorry
DeleteWow!!! This is some serious ish...hope u'll find answers.
ReplyDeleteStells..gbeborun..guluma..lol
Poster u remind me of that song that lady sang in the first season of Empire! The song they used to debut that movie
DeleteIf i tell u that i love u tonite
But i know that i got time on my side
Where you going? Why u leaving so sooooon
Is there somewhere else that's better for you youu
What is love? If you're not here with me?
What is love? If you're not really sure?
What is love? If it just ups and leavesssss
What is looooove? What is looove? If you're not really sure
What is love? If it just loves
Hahaha don't mind me oo, i just love this song die!! You should see me singing it.. heavenly!! Lmao for my mind sha oo
Poster dear why are you running? Where did the love go to? It's well oo even inside Well..
Awwwww love this song
DeleteI've thought to share this but I kept forgetting. BVS might like to take advantage of this. Eternal gems promo:1million naira wedding give away. It's closing today, so enter on time.who knows never say never. You guys can click on their website via this link. https://wn.nr/skfC6s
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is, this is not naija chronicle.
ReplyDeleteReason: Naija no dey jail people like that, they can detain, then abia kpawa ishi okwu (deliberation will start).
So my guess is poster no dey naija, but if you are, sorry oo, seek for a good lawyer to end it, no need to enter this kind of marriage.
You are not married yet, neither have you guys signed the affidavit, so it can be withdrawn.
If this is not naija, it means that they only applied for the certificate. If the certificate was never returned and signed, I don't think the marriage commenced. You need to go back to the county clerk, tell them the situation and the certificate should be cancelled already. If they say you are truly married, ask if you can file for annulment. I don't know how things work in naija so state the country you are in
DeleteThis one Na gbege
ReplyDeleteOriginal gbege.
Chai!!! You wicked no be small o, maybe if you tell us what led him to jail I won't have blamed you.
ReplyDeleteIn yoruba we do say, eyele ko kin bonile je, kobonile mu kidoojoku koyeri, you're not like a pigeon @all
*Larry was here*
D tin no dey applicable here oo..u know wetin lead d guy to jail..na jail no be cell ooo..
DeleteMc pinky
This is how the Nigerian criminal system works. When a crime is committed, the victim goes to the nearest police station to file a complaint. A police officer is assigned the case for further investigation, the officer is known as the I.P.O( investigating police officer). After investigation, if the facts confirm that a crime has been committed, the I.P.O arrests the suspect(s) and the suspect(s) volunteers extra-judicial statements. The I.P.O also gathers exhibits from the scene of the crime and the matter is charged to the appropriate court.
DeleteThe police has no right to remand any offender to prison. They can only keep the offender in police custody, the cells at the Police Stations. The law forbids the offender to be in Police custody for more than 48hrs without being released or charged to court, 72hrs at most if the nearest court having jurisdiction is far from the Police Station. Of course, in Nigeria the Police can keep a suspect detained for weeks, which is referred to as unlawful detection.
Depending on the severity of the crime, an information will be preferred at the High Court where the State usually prosecutes or the Magistrates' Court where the police prosecutes. Now this is the confusing part, if it's a serious case like armed robbery, arson, murder etc. The Police will file the charge at the Magistrates' Court for the sole purpose of a remand order, i.e an order by the Magistrate to send the accused to prison awaiting the legal advice of the Director of Public Prosecution. Those are the people in prison custody referred to as "awaiting trial". With a good lawyer, a bail application can be heard at the High Court and if granted, the accused will be out of prison awaiting trial. So how can a man who allegedly committed a crime within some days be in prison or jail for a long stay? Who gave the order? Why hasn't he been granted bail? More importantly, how does the poster know he isn't coming out anytime soon?
Probably this happened in another country other than Nigeria because that isn't how the Nigerian criminal system works. Besides, she used the term "jail" which isn't usually used in Nigeria. It's either Prison or Police cell.
If you check well, he might have broken the law to make sharp cash for his wedding oh, the thing don backfire...... The babe don waka, chai..... Lafies aint loyal at all, this poster cnt even pretend to wait for him small sef, to see if he'd be exonerate. She don wear Nike canvax.
ReplyDeleteMay be he is into coke.... Na wa ohhh
DeleteLawyers in house, pls come in.
ReplyDeletePlease calm down and stop shaking, you did not commit any crime now. By the way, i don't think it affects anything yet but be better enlightened......It's not like you are married to the guy.
By the way, thank God for saving you from shame.....you can imagine this happening immediately you got married. Be careful in your next marital choice. God be with you.
Amen love. Maybe soon I can share how it all happened as a warning to other young gainfully employed ladies to be very careful. Things are happening in Lagos. Maybe we will need the services of private investigator before saying yes.
DeleteLet me give u a simple fact as a lawyer. If after the 21days the next procedure has not commenced following the registrars direction, that marriage is VOID meaning non existent. Even if u want to wait for him, u have to start d process all over again, and even if u married him after the expiration of the 21days and not in accordance with procedure to your knowledge, it is very VOID. U have not breached any contract dear, nobody can sue except there are underlining issues we do not know. But out of decency and morality u can inform him u are not interested. U don't need a signature since the date has passed, once the date given by the registra has passed whether u know it or not, whether u want to continue or not, everything becomes void and non existent solely and primarily because the date expired in d absence of nxt procedure. Don't stress!
Deletena wa oh! what type of this is that? eeh! wetin person use em hesd go carry naa?
ReplyDeleteposter, may u fimd solution to your problems. Amen.
May u also find solution to ur excess errors
DeleteLol! Monitoring spirits everywhere!
DeleteDis one don pass gbagun!!!
DeleteChoi......
That is serious, I will be reading comments today.
ReplyDeleteGo to d registry and make enquiry now
ReplyDeleteLol....very funny but serious narrative..
ReplyDeletePoster, so you nor love ur le boo again ni??..
Waiting for comments to roll in...
*faithful bv enemuwe thelma*
Hian. Relax ni, he'll soon come out. Abi dem don already give am sentence. Didn't tell us what he did anyways. Ndo nwannem
ReplyDeleteHahahahaa,lmao @tiff or kill person😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteGet a lawyer and let them advice you on the best course of action
ReplyDeleteThe only good thing is you have not married him atleast. I think you need to pay him a visit in prison to write some form of letter and signing agreeing to cancel everything.God is your strenght.
ReplyDeleteStella you be case study oh...Which one be weda Lee boo kill person abi stole something. Biko make una advice am cos I've never heard of been sued for withdrawing such (I no be lawyer anyway)but why are you developing cold feet? If he's innocent please don't abandon him now .
ReplyDeleteThis is sad..
ReplyDeleteLol @ "I no do again" run while u still can lol.
Typical one chance
ReplyDeleteY is he in jail?
ReplyDeleteIs he a thief or a serial killer?
Y do u want to abandon a man u want to spend ur life with so soon just bcos he got into trouble?
The love don clear?
You can't marry someone else?
Please tell us the full story.
Am curious.
Spend life with ex convict. No way.
DeleteSo you cannot stand by him now that he is in trouble?
ReplyDeleteAnd you did not tell us why he was jailed, maybe he want to look for money to impress your family!
Are you minding the selfish lady. She is heartless. She is not even focused on the loss of the fiance. She is concerned about getting the next available dude to the altar.mtcheew
DeleteShe is doing the right thing.
DeleteJust passing by.
ReplyDeleteYour comment will be visible after approval.
"I LOVE YOU", SUre you told him that a lot. Now where is all the "love"? You are already looking for another "fish" to hunt. Women!
ReplyDeleteShe conveniently left out the crime, probably bcus she dsnt want2be perceived as heartless, well, side eyes at the poster here.... You should at least stick around for a bit to show your genuine support, not fleeing the crime scene immediately after the car crash like ........... ! abi you already have a man ready to marry you???
DeleteThat's what I'm thinking, she has someone she wants to marry that's y she is already calculating
DeleteNa wah orisirisi which kin wahala be dis? Poster na serious gbege bi dis oh hian
ReplyDeleteJesus fix it 🙌
ReplyDeleteYes, I wasn't expecting you to tell us that he went to rob for the money he would have used to marry, sorry "buy" you. Sure you've been spending that "blood money" with him all the while? NOw you are trying to run away. You are an accomplice and soon the police that jailed him will be after you. That's the price of greed!
ReplyDeleteY u wan marry thief, chai he has stolen. Well is possible to withdrawn e get as u go tell am and he go say make u go ahead. U can marry again. Una never sign affidavit na.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeleteHow could you just change your mind about marrying him simply because he commited a crime and went to jail?Did he commit murder or rape?
What happened to the love you both shared?You never loved loved this guy and you are just using his unfortunate situation as an excuse to leave him.Pls carry your own cross abeg,you are so fake!
Why did you say what he did so we can know exactly how to advice you in full, now it's half package u gonna receive. First of all, didn't they say love conquerors everything? Why it's it dat now that he is been thrown in jail, u could not even wait and stand by him for like 2months or 5months, u just want to draw what u both have done before. My dear u nor try. U re not a better wife material, same way ur hubby will be having problem, d next thing is going to seek for divorce. No advice from me to you. Wait till six moths then come and seek advice.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts exactly
DeleteShe didn't even allow it cool of.she never loved him, it's obvious
Story not well detailed to give a comprehensive advice. Eg. What did he do? You had better pick up your spike shoes and flee because security personnel may come for you no sooner than later as you are "technically his wife"...affidavit signed or not.
ReplyDelete#go borrow brain
There is nothing like 'technically his wife' haba. Stop misleading people! Nothing like 'marriage in contemplation'. It's either they are married or not. They have not signed so can she marry herself. Also note that poster is not in naija where police can arrest wife for husband's crime. #receivesense
DeleteNa wa!
ReplyDeleteShebi you wanted "big wedding"? And your fish brain tells you to go to the registry to marry before the bride price is paid. You will soon be in jail; you are an accomplice, you drove him to loot. And you want to now run and marry all those cute "average guys" you dumped? Nonsense! Girl, you are a huge liability
ReplyDeleteLmaoooooo who hurt you this much?
DeleteAnon 15:21 God bless u for dis comment...d foolish poster wants to flee now.some useless ppl here whose fathers probably didn't contribute a dime to dia education n wedding will be sayin 'marry him if he's rich' now dis mumu poster has landed herself in trouble.oo ni bon be
DeleteSeriosly,I don't ave any idea but d only tin I can say is,let her seek for a legal advice and then take up action from dia.
ReplyDeleteMc pinky
Well, go to the registry and make friends with one or two peo ppl id there. Call them aside and tell them your issue and the matter on ground. Add pepper and spice. Trust me you'll get better advice and would get it sorted out quickly because they are in thw system and they know how it works.
ReplyDeleteAnd to all those bashing her please be happy for her that she found out her husband is a hardened criminal before dropping kids and being trapped.
Thank you so much for this. I got an instant relief when I read this.
DeletePoster na wa for you oo. So you dont know i stand with you in sickness and in health till death do us path. Na you don tule. Na wa for you.
ReplyDeleteAnyway goodluck to your next search since you dont want to do again as this your former bobo don enter gbege
LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND . . . Sure you know this quote. Where is your patience girl? And your type might be pregnant already; another chronicle. And you will go to those you dumped and give them a child that is not theirs!
ReplyDeleteThis is unfair na. ItItso early for all this. . Y dont you allow them sentence him first before you start asking for consent.
ReplyDeleteIf it was d other way round now you will be the first to scream men are heartless.
Common sharp. What if she was deceived only to discover the guy is an armed robber. I was dated a fraudster. I did not even know he had targeted my family and he was using jazz on me. I gave him all the money I sweated for only to discover he had 2 wives, 5 children and I was victim number 20. We were engaged and the stupid mother was demanding as well. How did I get out ?? I got admission to study aboard. As soon as I landed in UK my head cleared.meanwhile my parents knew and were praying for me. The idiot even had the audacity to tell me to transfer some of my school fees to him cause he was broke. I shouted on him and never heard from him till date.
DeleteU are so in a hurry to give up on someone u wanted to tie the knot with. U sound so selfish. u are not even thinking about how he will be free but all u are thinking of is finding another man Instantly.it just shows all u wanted was to bear Mrs.except he murdered someone, I think u should b focused on getting a good lawyer. so if u had married him u will just run away after any small hiccup. Pls grow up and have a heart
ReplyDeleteDon't mind the oloshi....she done put the guy 4 trouble n now she wants to abandon him.
DeleteOh why portable viv? This shouldn't come from you. Who put who in trouble? Sigh. I can understand people jumping into conclusion but is a mighty leap. Take heed girl. Take it easy.
DeleteStop blaming cause she might actually be the one deceived. The truth about him might have come out after the arrest.
DeleteYou no do again. Just like that. Really?
ReplyDeleteSandra Okagbue is Money Makers wife!!! Bcos I don't understand the trolling in dat post, hian!
ReplyDeleteKelvin dat Edo Boi ( Stellz cousin )
Kelvin, na who do u this thing?
DeleteMust u talk out of point all the time?
Na serious trouble be dis oooo
ReplyDeleteI know I'm not suppose to laff as this isn't a joke to you but ehn!!I can't help it!!Women*lmao*@I no do again..over to BVN
ReplyDeleteBe back to read comment
Chai! It's ur type they use to curse women! U wanto run kwa? *singing wiarris the love??*
ReplyDeleteEnd time karishika
ReplyDeleteYou were ready to marry this man, for better or for worst and now 'worst' is here you running? Biko what did he do? Is the crime so terrible? As for the court papers, can't u pay him a visit in jail and talk about it? If you're even considering going behind his back to withdraw the filing then sister, here is the bitter truth: u're a horrible person!!! Don't know what he has done or if he deserves to be in jail... but you!!smh, u fit kill person.
ReplyDeleteFor all intents and purposes, legal or otherwise, You are not married!!! ( except , of course you a have done the traditional rites) but if its based on what you just wrote up there...Nope, you are not married.
ReplyDeleteAnd Nope, he cannot sue you for anything except he wants to sue for emotional distress due to the breakup itself. ( in which case, people for don sue people tire for we country😀)
If what he has done is so reprehensible that you cannot stay beside him and live with him, then it is your right to walk out and I won't judge you buy don't let anyone put any fear in your heart...
In fact, like my small cousin would say ' sue fire'.
As for the documents, you don't need to withdraw anything...just forget about it. As an aside, 21 days doesn't mean you must get married by the 21st day after the public notice , rather it means, you cannot get married before the expiration of thalose 21 days..
So go about your life and leave thrash for LAWMA jor
Chop kiss darling! *super cyber hugs* what he did led to loss of life. Not directly tho. Thank you for this.
DeleteOh and she's not asking if she should stay or leave so enough with the judgements, people..you do not know what the situation is. Maybe its something she should be doing thanksgiving 'sef'
ReplyDeleteMy dear thank you for this. Big thanks giving o. When it happened I was running from pillar to post thinking it was a set up from the office until it became clear that he was merely a contract worker there for few months but retain their ID card.
DeleteSo many issues but God favored.
What your friend told you is a lie. Have you gone to the registry yourself to ask them? Anyways here is my story, besides I am a practising lawyer(called to the bar many years ago). I called off my wedding and we had filed the papers in the registry and waiting for the 21 days however before that things went really sour, I told my fiance that I no do again come rain or shine, my dear I walked away and didn't even bother about the papers cod we had not yet signed so legally it's not binding. Long story short I am married today with a child and my fiancé is also married too with his own child. And we two also after getting married in Nigeria have both left the country and our marriage to different people recognized every where as valid. So my dear that ish don't count.
ReplyDeleteP.S All typo error should be ignored.
Oh thank youuuuuuu thank you.
DeleteI guess my friend too was misinformed. Oh thank you. I am so relieved.
Let me now relax and start imagining the scenarios in the mind of our dear BVN.
I comment my reserve until I know the crime your guy committed. lol
ReplyDeleteLol unfortunately I won't satisfy the curiosity.
DeleteStop been foolish poster you keep laughing on every post... Shove his crimes up in your dirty black ass
DeleteGod, so u could not wait small
ReplyDeleteYou are so heartless my dear. Even if he is guilty of the said crime at least stand by him for some time even if it means faking it. I believe he showered you with lots of gifts and money believing he has got a wife in you. Were you guys really in love? What is this ward turning into? I'm so pained now. Get out of here please.
ReplyDeleteUr leboo thief or he murdered someone?
ReplyDeleteAbeg move on o!
Unless u wan marry excon.
Ha! Madam ain't loyal o.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry but as serious as this issue is you all make me laugh at loud, now i know first hand how y'all jump into conclusions so quickly. i am sieving the comments though, i will make use of the good ones.
ReplyDeleteWhat did he do?
criminal offense(very serious) pardon me if i cant give details.
Yes i am eternally grateful that the marriage has not been contracted before this came to light.
No i didn't spend His money like someone suggested Cos he is not even rich. He is not looking for 'wedding money' either because we didn't plan to do more than the registry.
Why am i balling out so quickly?
His incarceration exposed so much about him while we were running around on how to help him cos i could have sworn he was Innocent until i discovered the trails of lies.
OMG!!!!!!!!
the only thing true about him was his name and family.
Work, educational status, profession, and all other things you can think off are lies. plus strings of side chicks that surfaced when they heard about his incarceration. even me sef bow! wonder how come no baby mama sef.
So please, can i get a solution now?
Thank you fam.
Pls carry your cross and stop bothering us!
DeleteNa oversabi go kill u!
1. You did not say what country you are in so you can get appropriate answers/marriage laws. No need to go into other details.
Delete2. I don't blame you. A friend of mine in university was in a similar situation almost 10yrs ago, he lied about everything, had several court cases including rape, thief(cc fraud), you name it... Until the court case surfaced we had no clue.. Now this guy is back in naija forming big boy, socialite, son of so and so, beautiful fiancé you name it... Ignore everyone who tries to judge you here. There is a huge possibility you had no clue
OK i see... Well una never marry, just in the process, visit the court again let someone put you through on how to go about it.
DeleteSolution is just walk away as if you didn't file any papers like the learned guy advised earlier,since you guys didn't sign any documents its assumed nothing happened period. Congrats, if you're been sincere with the informations given.
DeleteI am sure his name is adesoji adekunle johnson.
DeleteThis is what you should have written in your Chronicle. Arrogant bitch.
Delete@Poster you love this your man at all? Think twice.
ReplyDeleteYou no tell us wetin him do?
Well, we can't really say cos the story is incomplete. If he is not coming out anytime soon, then what he did is not a minor misdemeanor, it's a major offense. That said, she has every right to leave. They are NOT yet married. I usually see all negative things that happen during dating/courtship- everything prior to marriage as Gods way of pulling you out - that is, if you have been prayerful. You owe him if you were married to him, and if you knew/ were an accomplice but you are not, so you can get out. Forget the people judging you- they're not there with you. don't make important life decisions based on what people think or say. Abroad nobody gets away with the law. If your guy is guilty, you're looking at 5-10years jail time and when released he won't even get a job cos of criminal record. We know this, yet Nigerians won't respect themselves and stay away from trouble. I swear, its not worth it!!
ReplyDeleteWhat did he do? Is he a criminal? Fraudster? Were you an accomplice?? How many of you would agree to be married to a jailed criminal? Forget love. Love is not enough!! Does God approve of this love? Is it making you a better person or building you up? Is it a positive love? Sometimes we get ourselves into love that is toxic, that could ruin us. It doesn't make sense to lose 5-10years of your life waiting for someone you are not married to, who is guilty. If you must fight for him and all, then get married. Inmates get married in America. If not, walk away and let him respect your decision.
My five cents!
Yes I can't tell his crime. That's not the point of the post. Yes my conscience is so clear on this and my decision to move on was based on issues at hand. Oh I saw pictures, I saw his certificates, I know several of his course mates even. He didn't really graduate you see? He was rusticated in 300L. He has a certificate but it's fake.
DeleteHe's a cultist. SIMPLE
DeletePoster oh suddenly, his work, education status etc. have become lies; and you were planning to marry him? What where you doing during dating? You didn't even visit him in his place of work, you never saw his certificates/ graduation photos and any other evidence of school attendance? Don't you see that your story does not add up? And even under anonymous, you could not tell his crime; says a lot -you are probably an accomplice who does not want to be traced! From experience, I know that ladies can tell any lie once the subject is "marriage". Supposing this man is discharged and acquitted now and he walks into your house will you still be calling him all these names? Let your conscience stay on that!
ReplyDeleteDon't bully her into giving a hint about his crime.
DeleteShe does not want to disclose for reasons best known to her. Maybe his friends visit this blog.
Let it gooooo!
Poster,go back to where you filed for marriage and ask questions,then take suggestions from here too.
This poster is a liar! You dated and are marrying someone you don't know his profession? So what were you folks doing during dating; fuck and abort?
ReplyDeleteHehehehehehe, what if I shock you that we never had sex? And no I have never had an abortion. That will be hard for you to believe though because you are merely reflecting who you are.
DeletePoster don't mind them,they think everyone is useless like them.
DeletePoster so his name and family is even true? Which means that you knew this man and what criminal activity he did and kept quiet; waiting to get that tag; MRS? Sorry, it has backfired! He has not even been tried and you are running your mouth. Anybody can be arrested and put in jail; yes, anyone including you! Shame!
ReplyDeleteHahahaha, thanks for your comment but do u have anything to say about the registry part? No of course not. Thanks all the same.
DeleteYou all are simply pathetic. Like wtf? She already gave enough info and yes it is possible that she didn't know all his lies until he got into trouble. Why is that hard to believe?
DeleteYou think some men are not good at covering their lies even when they've been married for years? C'mon now, give the lady a break. Just because you all want to know the details, you find it convenient to accuse her so that she can spill everything for ur entertainment.
Poster do not give further info than you've done already. You got a good answer up there already. You are not legally binded to the guy so there's nothing to worry. Gademn it.
So he had so many "sidechicks" and he was set to marry you? So what were you; sideshegoat? You know your fear; why you do not want to mention his alleged crime? This man may come out and read all that you've written. If he comes out today, you will still tell him "I love you". Deceiver.
ReplyDeleteLol. Omg thanks all for really making see this on a lighter note, and as serious as it is, I am really sure now that all is well. Thanks for the bashing. I know the truth so I don't feel bad.
DeleteSo he had so many "sidechicks" and he was set to marry you? So what were you; sideshegoat?
ReplyDeleteNo side RAM. Lmaoooooo
DeleteJesus fix it!
ReplyDeleteAnd they said there is love ?? Imagine your hubby got into trouble you wan run...women are dangerous I swear
ReplyDeleteI pray you find help.
ReplyDeleteYou are only after the marriage certificate and not the actual marriage.
ReplyDeletePls hop unto the back of the next man who will piggieback to the registry to achieve your certificate dream.
You think marriage is chewing gum?
Madam, have few Questions for this your one sided Chronicle.
ReplyDelete- What was it that Le boos was nailed for ? Murder, Crime, Drug what ?
- Do you have prior knowledge of LE boo being involved in this before the marriage plans
- If yes, why do you want to quite now and If no, why didn't you do your underground check before marriage plans.
As much as I don't want to judge you, you know what you are doing.
#verylongsigh
1: sorry I can't tell. It's really serious tho.
Delete2: No I so not have prior knowledge, I met with every member of the family in Nigeria, no indication of any shady things.
I am team no snoop so I didn't check his phone et al. But other things add up until all hell let loosed and my hand fell with my discovery.
Note to former cultist: Karma is real. Pls those of you who have genuinely given your life to Christ, don't ever go back to crime, devil maybe waiting there to destroy you.
Calm down you guys. To be fair to the Poster, it's very possible to be engaged to someone who lied all the way and you don't know his profession, cos you believed whatever he told you. Truth be told, I once dated a guy and believed all he told me about his degree and job without verifying. And we were about to get married, lol. Was young and in love then. Foolish love. I am much older now and conduct a personal investigation into everything a guy tells me. Can't be fooled no more.
ReplyDeleteI have friends who have been victims of guys lies too. Friend1 believed hubby was into Abuja contracts and financially stable, but quick into marriage, found out hubby was as lazy and jobless as shit. Money wasn't there at all. He borrowed to impress her, borrowed for wedding. Now they're Very broke with kids and heavy financial burden. They dated 4years, she never knew.
Friend2 was lied to by her abroad fiance. Of course she believed all he said about his degree and job. This guy even lied on LinkedIn and Facebook about being this and that. But luckily for her, she found out on time and broke off the engagement. So it happens.
For me, there is no way in hell I will deliberately get married to a criminal. Those are not my values at all. So many Nigerians abroad are into fraud, even the educated ones, medical doctors and so on. Some of their wives know and stay. Some are accomplices too. I can't. Poster be careful, if your guy knows you want to run, he can set you up as an accomplice in the case.
Poster 16:21 since you have not signed the dotted line, just forget about it. If you are in doubt go to the registry and find out what it entails.
ReplyDeleteWe no be baby lawyers here
If you are in doubt, please please don't get married.
ReplyDeleteIf you are not sure, please don't get married.
It's better than to regret later.
Postpone if you must. Let time pass. If possible, a year. Pray some more. Be assured and ask God for signs and confirmations before you say I do.
If you feel a negative tug in your heart, hold on a bit.
You are NOT married until you ARE married. It's not a debt you owe anybody, it should be a decision freely made.
And this is how you will know him. When your spouse is from God, his feet will bring peace.
You even wasted time to run away. Once he goes to jail and we are not married i walk away immediately. No time for uneccesary baggage. I won't even let it get to the registry. You can go nack to the registry and enquire thats the beat place to get proper imformation.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much SDK for posting. Love you long time!!!!. I am so happy to know that my life is not in ruin.
ReplyDeleteGod bless SDK God bless SDK BVN.
That is how most Nigerian girls behave. Now she will go back to one of the guys she dumped for this her fiancee and start showing fake love smh. She may even be pregnant , if she is, she will simply transfer the poignancy to the next guy..hmm..I pity guys o. She is avery bad girl, fair weather friend indeed.
ReplyDeleteD story is one-sided
ReplyDeleteSweetie, I don't understand this. Are both of you in Nigeria? A person doesn't get thrown in jail or remanded to prison custody in such a short while unless he/she is awaiting trial and unless he is facing a murder charge, he can be granted bail. I wonder what crime he committed to warrant this. You're not forthcoming enough. It appears you were already having doubts about marrying him and his incarceration is a blessing in disguise for you.
ReplyDeleteThe legal aspect of it, is until both of you have been issued a marriage certificate, either party can call off the engagement. After all, even after due process has been observed and the notice of matrimony posted at the Registry for all to see, if anyone has a just cause or legal right why bother of you shouldn't be joined together legally, your application will be denied and the wedding will be cancelled by the Registry. It appears your friend doesn't want you to call off the wedding. He lacks the locus standi to sue.
There are cases where one party refused to show up at the Registry on the day of the wedding and that automatically cancelled the wedding. My darling, I hope you aren't planning on wedding someone else within the next 6 months in a Registry because that's the only reason the Registry may be reluctant to file another application for marriage, while a previous application is pending since the process hasn't been completed nor withdrawn.
I'll advise you to go back to the Registry and apply to withdraw your application on the grounds that you no longer wish to be joined in matrimony with fiance due to his recent incarceration. It's a good reason to call off an engagement because you can claim that he misled you into believing he was an outstanding law abiding citizen but recent circumstances prove otherwise.( Although, I doubt that the real reason you want to call it off).
Now to the moral aspect, it's quite tempting to judge you harshly but I wouldn't succumb to the urge to do so. Perhaps it is for the best that the wedding is called off because the marriage would have been dead on arrival! If you don't feel the compulsion to stand by your man when the chips are down, then you shouldn't marry him. You don't love him enough and you aren't committed enough to be his wife and that doesn't make you a bad person, it only shows you didn't think it through well enough before you decided to marry him. You were to marry him for the wrong reasons. This may even be a test. Maybe he only conjured the tale to see if you really love him. Either way, calling off the marriage is the best thing for both of you, though you'll probably be unpopular for some time but it's better than being popular in a miserable marriage destined to crash.
This is the time to be sober and don't rush into any relationship for now. I don't know what your relationship was like but the decent thing to do will be for you to give your ex the moral support he needs. This is really going to be a trying time for him, poor guy. I guess when it rains, it pours. I wish you the best honey.
#e-bearhugs.
Thank you so much for the information. I am sure others too will benefit. Thanks for not judging harshly too. E hugs right back
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ReplyDeleteChronicles don causes headache.
The solution lies within the registry. Pls dear, approach your councillor, open up a little if need be so he/she can advise you on a legal path to follow cos I know that it takes two consenting adult to initiate/terminate marriage process but there is always an escape route in every law.
My opinion though.
Madam see how your badluck has put that guy i jail why?
ReplyDeletehis money make you to carry him go register without even a love for him.
thanks to God that help him out from ur wicked and badluck hands.
some guys will be doing very good in life but when ever he meet some badluck
woman trouble everywhere
Your grammar tho'. It's bad luck that sent him to commit a crime? Sho.
DeleteHahaha smart babe who is no longer interested. U really get sense, others would have forgotten their sense in the guys pants
ReplyDeleteIgi da - eye fo.
ReplyDeleteFor better for stay for not better to go.
Na WA.
No one can sue you for any rubbish,you can abandon the form and affidavit no legal effect.
ReplyDeleteAs a matter of fact, after 3months of filling the form and affidavit without signing the certificate,the whole process becomes useless,paraventure you go back to the council that oh I am ready to get married now I was busy all these while they would give you a new form and everything will be as though you never approached them in the first place.
No cause for alarm
I don't even understand the way some BV's think. Cant you see? The person this poster was in love with never even existed. She was in love with a "lie". The real person is the person now in jail. She was never in love with this "jail" person. And how can? Which of you Blog visitors can fall in love with a criminal?? Except you are one yourself, I really doubt it very much.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster. You escaped by the hair of your whiskers. God must love you very very much!!
I don't even understand the way some BV's think. Cant you see? The person this poster was in love with never even existed. She was in love with a "lie". The real person is the person now in jail. She was never in love with this "jail" person. And how can? Which of you Blog visitors can fall in love with a criminal?? Except you are one yourself, I really doubt it very much.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster. You escaped by the hair of your whiskers. God must love you very very much!!
Guys take it easy, we don't know the true story so don't be quick to judge,it's not easy dating a guy that lies,some girls even lie too.poster go to court and enquire, or talk to a lawyer,and don't be in a hurry to break up,what if the guy has changed while he was dating you and he really wants to be with you.take it easy and go on your knees,the devil you know is better than the Angel that pretends.
ReplyDeleteWhen I see any post about relationships, I cry. is love real? am so heart broken I don't know what to do. God please ease this pain I beg you
ReplyDeleteI hate posters like you who go about replying to every comment and rudely too.
ReplyDeleteIf you knew so much, then why submit your dumb story? ITK.
Go to blazes with your criminal fiance for all I care.
look for a reputable lawyer to advise you accordingly......my own take, marriage has not been consummated
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