OH WOW...Just wow!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MASTURBATING IN MARRIAGE
Dearest Stella, please hide my email address. Thanks for your great work. I will go straight to the point. I'm a woman in my early 30's, slim and attractive. People don't believe i have given birth at all. Hubby is in his late 30's. We have been married for 7 years.
Right from the start i noticed that hubby watches porn on his computer and masturbates like 3 times before day breaks. Initially, he tries to hide it from me but right now he does it openly. He leaves rolls of used tissue paper for me to see. He makes sure we never sleep in the same room.
Our sex life is pretty much nonexistence. He goes 3 months or 4 months without any act of intimacy. ..no hugs..no kisses. Infact, he avoids me like a plague and goes in and out as he pleases. Some days, he acts like the sight of me simply disgusts him. When i touch him, or try to initiate sex,he pulls away in aversion.
I've sat him down to discuss the issue, he confirms that it is nothing to do with me or my appearance . He enjoys what he does and he is not prepared to stop. If i'm not happy with it, i should feel free to leave.
I have never cheated on him and don't intend to start, but i'm tired of this emotional torture. I spoke to my pastor and he told me my hubby has "spirit" wife and children. Did i mention i struggled to conceive my son, I TTC for many years, with one miscarriage after another, until i started night vigil.
I once dreamt of woman with sandy and an old wedding dress and a tiara claiming to be looking for my hubby. I'm too young to be going through these.
Are there BVs in my shoes?I'll appreciate male and female views on masturbation in marriage.
Fix it Lord
ReplyDeleteThe things people see in marriages wao. Poster I feel so sorry for you, but you are a strong woman and your spirit is also very vibrant. You started vigil and were able to conceive against all odds, my dear you need to do that again but this time no more for kids but for your husband's deliverance from the bondage he is in. Just be steadfast, God will answer you expediently and your joy will be full.
DeleteThe first step to solving a problem is realising you have a problem. Your husband hasn't realised he has a serious problem.
DeleteHe need prayers... Yes,please pray for him. He also needs counselling. It may cause problems in your marriage if you involve a third party so I'll advice you to pray to God to open his eyes so he can realise his actions are hurting you.... Stand in the gap for him and pray against spirit wives. Get on your knees and have your husband back.
pls, BVNs, what does the word "bodadoye " mean and which language is it.
Masturbation is a demonic spirit. I use to suffer it before 2014. I can mastubate 2- 3 times daily. I didn't like it, but I always found myself doing.....until that faithful day when God used one sister in my neighbour hood to deliver me. As she was praying for me, she said she saw dirty spirit living me. I redidicated my life to God. Since then I have been free....
DeleteMadam your husband needs serious deliverance...pray and fast for that deliverance to come. If you re strong in faith. When that moment comes you be the one to deliver him, he will cry and run to you like a baby to save him with prayers...read psalm 91 when that time comes!
Maturation as a married man!!!!shame. What will he teacharging his kids?? It's soo wrong even single men, it's bad. US men need to do things that will make our wives respect us o. Imagine this man now which responsible woman would respect him ? Later he will start saying his wife has see him finish. Spits! Some men are so useless all for penis mata!
DeleteIt is very satanic. People who masturbating and claim bible didn't say anything about masturbating are lying because Jesus said if you look at a woman lustfully it's a sin. So what is right about getting aroused by someone or something other than ur wife? Na wa. A father for that matter. Woman since he boldly said he can't change, please get urself a finer richer boyfriend yo be fuck in u na thatz killing two beds with one stone o, u get great sex plus extra money sef!
DeleteAnd he dares to say he can't change? Don't waste ur prayer madam this one is far gone o
DeletePray without ceasing dear, God is ever faithful.
ReplyDeleteAnd She watch war room too
DeleteYimu
Sweethrt, it's not you, u r not d problem. Ur DH is addicted to porn and masturbation and like every porn/masturbation addict, this tends to take over every aspects of their being.
DeleteMen who are chronic addicts would rather choose porn, fantasy and masturbation over real sex with their spouse.
This is bc they are stuck in a position where their addiction conditions them to get sexual gratification just from fantasy and masturbation, making it difficult for them to respond naturally to their spouse. They tend to quickly lose interest in sex with their wife very soon.
U can call it intimacy impotence, where a man is unable to connect, bond and truly be 'one' with his wife, to enjoy full intimacy. Instead he opts for self sex.
But what makes ur DH case bit difficult is d fact that he doesn't even want to stop it.
Porn/masturbation have demonic influence over people's lives. That is to say ur DH needs help, spiritual help.
Counselling won't b enough. So my advice: get up and pray!
It takes God to change a man's hrt so take it to Him in prayer. Partner with someone if u can but it's time to RECLAIM UR MARRIAGE in d Name of Jesus.
Kick d devil out of ur home. Don't take it lightly. This is a battle.
Also wish u will watch d movie War Room. Prayer made in faith works and God is very much interested in this matter.
U ready?
God's grace.
Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com
@ Quicksilver war room is d solution to all life's problems according to SDK bv's. If u and ur hubby are pushing,watch war room, if u ppl can't sleep well @ night bcos of d weather watch war room. U r broke,watch war room,hungry watch war room. Everything war room. We sabi abuse things for dis country.
DeleteFTC
ReplyDeleteMASTURBATION IS satanic. I pray that God destroy that spirit that has held your husband down.
ReplyDeleteI wonder why they fancy masturbation when you have a beautiful wife at your side.
My dear go and get plan B.
Too bad
ReplyDeleteHer vagina don slack
Deletesorry to break it to you but your hubby is GAY......very GAYYY. Threaten to report to your family and his and follow through with it so that he will be shamed to confession
ReplyDeleteThreaten ke.....Even if such ppl are married to kim kardashian and Beyonce as 1st and 2nd wife respectively, they'd still wank, trust me. Their brains have been wired to crave the sight of different women naked and havin sex..... Just like anyother addiction, if u keep feeding the mind with what it craves, be it weed, sex, porn, gambling.... The act grows deeper & more difficult to overcome, it takes yrs of therapy.
DeleteExactly what came to my mind. 3xs b4 day breaks? E nor dey sleep? Abeg forget that spirit wife matter my dear cos d spirit woman self go don tire for his masturbating habit too.
DeletePray ur ass out as a typical Nigerian married woman or walk like he has already adviced u to do. Ur choice dear. But note tht changing him is a tough cal.
Lady, please join the fasting and prayers to claim your husband back. Your battle is more spiritual than physical
ReplyDeleteThe man is addicted to it. Why didn't you talk about it before marrying him, or you taught he would stop afterwards...hello!
ReplyDeleteIt so disrespectful of him to do you where you would see him. I think you should ignore him for now and act like you don't care either,pretend yiu are doing something too, maybe that will stir his curiousity.
WHAT!!! u mean>>>>> God have mercy.
ReplyDeleteits well with u poster.
God have mercy oooo!!! Masturbating in marriage kills marriage I don't think I can respect my father if I knew he was a serial wanker lolzzzzzz. So sad
DeleteKronicles ti deee
ReplyDeleteKronicles ti deee
ReplyDeleteYes,it's obvious your husband has a spiritual wife!...
ReplyDeleteThose times he masturbate,he does it with his spiritual partner!...
I don't advise people to leave their marriage but my only advise for you is to get a side bobo and ignore him totally!...
OR
If you get strength for prayers,pray!!!...
Serious one!...
#Sharp#
DeleteU are a fool..why not read what u ave written 2 ursef b4 posting..what kinda word is this..INFIDELITY....am sure its ur food for thought
DeleteMc Pinky
Ewu congo
DeleteShut up pinky. So make conji kill d woman? Abeg sut up!! You talk only wen u hv never experienced this rubbish. How husband go dey do shakara no even gree touch his own wife which kin punishment be that? Me I need sex more than 5 times a week I can't even begin to imagine hw dis woman is coping sef! 4 months? ? Wicked horseband. Madam why u wan kill urself staying fit is the best thing u did for self, carry ur fine sef go find better bobo!
DeletePoster it will be better you get a sugar boy to take care of you, do not kill yourself cos you want to be called married woman.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is not ready to change.
I concor. All this rubbish is why many married women now cheat. Pls get a side boo and enjoy ur life
DeleteWhy advice her to get a side boo,its a sin and two wrongs don't make a right.prayer is the key
DeleteNNE you need to increase your level of prayer. It ain't normal at all. The devil is just using him and only sprayer can set him free. The Lord isbur strenght
ReplyDeleteSprayer? Wtf! Isbur? Damn!
DeleteStrength!!!! Lmaoo
Deletetell me that the spirit wife and husband pastor told u now is fucking with ur mind.My sister, sometimes even our dreams are in or from our subconcious(not all).UR hubs behaviour towards u is starting to give u ideas.These things are habits biko a man starts a bad habit and we lose sleep over it as women?Did he put u into consideration when he started it ? No .These men dont like hurting their wives feelings so they hardly speak the truth.If ur sex life is non existent have other things to occupy ur mind.If u intend to have another baby thats only when it should bother u if not my dear sex is not food.(Linda Eze will tell u to get a boyfriend)
ReplyDeleteGet a boyfriend asap
DeleteThank u, u sabi am.
DeleteIt a pity dear!You need to pray hard.
ReplyDeleteI think i read something on this blog last week about how a guy overcame masturbation. I suggest you try talking in that light.
I also think you should seperate the problems you are having and deal with one at a time.
First pray about the spiritual wife you saw in the dream. That is the root of all your problems,then try to spice up your S** life without necesarily grumbling at his M-acts and i am sure with prayers he will eventually stop.
There are lots of guys addicted to porn and like every other addiction its not easy to break.
Be patient! Biko dont cheat o!
Shut up who patience epp? Till wen will she be patient? Men think women don't face temptations? Issorai! Lady do whatever pleases u
DeleteJah fix it.
ReplyDeleteU need special prayers for your hubby
ReplyDeleteMadam it's time to wear your garment of prayer
Why is it that it's only women that are always advised to"pray for their husbands" Nigerian women be praying since 1960 yet their marriage get worse. Anty sudden there dey " pray" u hear?? No waka go lock E penis. Idiot telling u to leave if u want!
Deletehian!. didnt beliv d spirit wife ish till i read d part abt ur dream. Smh @ feel free to leave...God help u two.
ReplyDeleteThis is very serious.
ReplyDeleteHow can a married man masturbate?
Madam, maybe you quarrel a lot.
Maybe you nag him a lot.
Maybe you talk too much.
This are the only reasons dat can make him to abandon u since u said u are slim and attractive.
Lol.... I like u James.. u r silly, stupid and funny.. how do u come up with such reasoning.. huh?. Only u will be talking left when pple are talking right.. Chaii..
DeleteHave u heard of porn addiction? Or are u jst being foolish. Poster ur hubby needs to go to a rehab for porn addiction!
DeleteChoi!
DeleteJames wen pple yabd ur reasoning, I dint take it seriously.
But right now, like seriously, u r still a kid to reason 'How can a married man masturbate?'
Grow up each passing day dear.
#hugs
Pornography is a very strong addiction
DeleteThe spiritual controls the physical....get spiritual!
ReplyDelete1000 Likes for this comment
DeleteSame here
DeleteExactly
DeleteMadam,this one strong,walahi! Even sdk wey sabi get advice for chronicle writers,this one pass am. I guess d only advice u will get is to PRAY.
ReplyDeleteNot every life issue should be debunked to spiritualism. Woman, I have news for you, your husband no longer finds you attractive nor is he in love with you. You can pray from now till the next 10 years when is sexual libido weans and he begins to give you some attention to soothe his Ego; 'Cos no one else will have his weak self, unless he is rich. To yourself and pastor, you've won a non-existing battle. In reality, nature kicked in. Do yourself a favour, if you can't ride with the current situation,check out. Focus on making YOU happy. Life is too short for you to dedicate 70% of your energy and attention on a man who doesn't care if you exist! My two cents!
ReplyDeleteWell said anon 15:12For African Every thing na spiritual problem.
DeleteBut trust African women dey will prefer to die there.
Did you read the part where she said she noticed he masturbates from the beginning?
DeleteSo he didn't find her attractive from the beginning? Note she didn't get pregnant immediately, so it not about that. My only conclusion is that he is GAY.
Very true,my ex husband was like that ,I simpled packed out and got a divorce .you can't force love
DeleteNot every life issue should be debunked to spiritualism. Woman, I have news for you, your husband no longer finds you attractive nor is he in love with you. You can pray from now till the next 10 years when is sexual libido weans and he begins to give you some attention to soothe his Ego; 'Cos no one else will have his weak self, unless he is rich. To yourself and pastor, you've won a non-existing battle. In reality, nature kicked in. Do yourself a favour, if you can't ride with the current situation,check out. Focus on making YOU happy. Life is too short for you to dedicate 70% of your energy and attention on a man who doesn't care if you exist! My two cents!
ReplyDeletesince you've been told its spiritual and you've seen it in the dream too, pray your husband out of it. take his picture to MFM prayer city. pray and tell God what you want in your marriage. Believe and he will do it for you
ReplyDeleteNawa oooh
ReplyDeletePlease join them in the fasting biko.
I cannot shout...
Hmm.. Your husband should be the ambassordor of vaseline, he's a chronicle addict to porn & masturbation. He needs serious therapy.
ReplyDeleteChronicle Ke! Wth.
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DeleteHe's nw Gay. Simple as ABC...
ReplyDeleteMy hubby does it once a day or in two days and I do it once in a while and we ve been married for 7 months...everyone is happy...though he does not flaunt it on my face
ReplyDeleteIf ure both happy, then wank away ur life. No wahala.
DeleteMake una enjoy!...
DeleteMarried 7months and alreasy masturbing, soon he will make a choice which he prefers and that js when you will see it as an issue when he chooses masturbation and throws it in your face by not touching you again or caring if you see him do it or not. Everyone is happy ko ni. This is how it starts, small small then it builds.
DeleteAnon 15:14,that's d beginning of a dysfunctional family
DeleteBuahahahahhaaaaaa!
DeleteThis whole Comment + Replies good for Best Sellers.
James I am so impressed by ur Comment.
Hmmmmmm.....I also masturbate but ones or twice a week and sometimes I dnt even think of It in a long time, a month or more..... It's only when I feel tensed up and I need to calm my nerves. Moreover HB is not in the country.
DeleteSoon dear, you guys will stop having sex and after that, you will send in your chronicle like this woman. Better stop it!
DeleteAlways put him in prayer. That's the ultimate
ReplyDeleteBlood of Jesus
ReplyDeleteThis is a deep one. Asking you to leave isn't the right deal. When we say we love someone, it means even inconveniencing our own comfort, peace, joy, peace etc for them.
ReplyDeleteBe it as it is, swing in to help get back this lost soul. If God has shown you that revelation, then He had already told you there were wars to be fought. You said you were TTC for years yet you won with a son. Oh yes, God can do it again and again and again until you reclaim your home. Remember, God didn't say it will be easy, He never said there will be no storm but HE promised to be with us thru it.
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Your hubby is an addict, he needs help
ReplyDeleteMadam, all u need to do is pray hard. Masturbation is very addictive and breaking off from it is not an easy task. Reduce ur complain and pray to break the spirit of masturbation. Ur pastor that u went to, tell him to also join you in praying.
ReplyDeleteAnd to answer u, masturbation whether in/outside of marriage is wrong. You can get Pastor Bimbo Odukoya's book on overcoming masturbation for better clarification
Madam maybe you always talk to him in a rude and disrespectful manner.
ReplyDeleteBcos I don't believe dat he prefers torturing himself dan gbenshing ur something.
James, i want to believe these ur comments are just for fun, right??? It better be.
DeleteWhat is wrong with you? Are you this stupid or is it just pretence? For your sake,i hope the latter is the case. Shut your foul mouth if you have nothing constructive to say!
DeleteSorry dear I really understand what you are going through emotionally, I advice you embark on intensive prayers.God will settle your case.just be strong & put faith @ work.
DeleteYour husband is gay dear.
ReplyDeleteThat one dream you had of a woman holding a Tiara.... all in your mind babes
If you have fasted and prayed like you say you have... then your spirit is a lot stronger than your husbands and any other evil spirit.
Stop deceiving yourself please and face reality.
nor be woman dey do ur husband o, he prefers bangin and bein banged by his follow men
ReplyDeleteI have been celibate for 6 months now, I have a boyfriend who doesn't want sex before marriage, I agreed but I can't seem to handle it anymore.
ReplyDeleteI miss my ex and his big dick and the way he touches me...I don't even know what to do, anytime I want to have sex, I remember my boyfriend who is a very good man and I also remember that I am an HOD in church.
Do these thoughts go away? Should I just have the sex and get it over with?! Arrrrrgh
Look for a random guy and do the needful!...
DeleteStop punishing your self!...
Your decision, Your toto.....
DeleteYou are pathetic
DeleteAsk the holy sprit for help... Read ur bible more often... Cos if u keep on rembering ur ex and his dick... U will end up having wet dreams. Befor u know it, it would turn into sprit husband issue by then founcating wont be seen as a sin anymore. 11th August would make it 2year I last had sex.. I just want to do it with him alone but he is gone.i lost my hubby and bin keep up only by the help of the holy sprit. may the lord give u the grace to scale thru.hasten up your wedding plans.
DeleteSee this one ohhh! Nothing I won't see here ooo. Madam HOD face ur work. Who ask u of ur sex life? Chai! People and their level of Kolo
DeleteHahahhah...
Delete#queen of the coast...Ewu congo
DeleteHOD IS COZA TERM. HMMMMM I WILL TELL PASTOR FOR YOU
DeleteAccept my sympathy jasmyn...I pray God give you the strength to carry on.e-hugs
DeleteMadam, I'm in same lovely boat as u, but mine is his way of life, doesn't go out,doesn't drink, he flirts with me a lot, we play like teenagers, d care is super but sex life is 0 after 3kids. Instead he masturbates like crazy, I just gave him a room for d act, once he comes back from work, bathe, eat, we talk n he retires to d room n fucks d foam! Hahahaha he knows I'm cool with it n it makes him kiss d ground I walk on! I don't give him problems, it's his life! I don't live for any man, I'm his wife,not his mother so I don't nag him at all. That's d secret of my happy home for 26yrs now n counting. Mind ur biz madam or get a sexmate, if u can't stand d heat in d kitchen, move out.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha...
DeleteLmao at fucks the foam!...
OMG!...
I think I will buy this ur advice.
DeleteAnon15:19,na who come dey gbensh ur Toto?
DeleteLies of the devil. Stop deceiving yourself, u r only dancing to the drum beats of His sprit wife.. They r all laughing for u under the water.. When it would finally crash, it would take u unwares just like tge coming of our lord Jesus christ. By then u will know the differences BTW June and July. U Sold u right over a pot of pottage.
DeleteLord have mercy on you ma! You are only Enduring marriage nt Enjoying it!!
DeleteAnony,. Let d spirit fool be laffing naa, hahahahaa I'm laffing too..if they can't crash my marriage wen we were young, is it now that we are quarter to go dey will crash it? Hahahahahahahaa. Marie darling I'm enjoying every bit of it, don't lose sleep over me. There's a limit to human endurance, if I was enduring, trust me 26yrs Is a long time to endure, I wuda parked out since.
DeleteMadam you are saying this to make yourself feel better...biko madam chronicle don't mind her o....she's suffering but she doesn't know. Just fast and pray for your husband,nd also check the kind of porn he is watching...if its gay porn then the matter Don pass our mouth 😷😷😱
DeleteNothing wld happen to dis woman,d husband has an addiction and it seems d woman also has a low sex drive so dey are compatible.
DeleteI don't think anony is depressed or sad over her hubby's choice of sexuak satisfaction. The last part of her speech gave her away
DeleteMadam u have a side boo lol so u don't care one bit.
Hian, ur husband is a papi water, abeg look for a sugar boy if u don't want to divorce him, while he's romancing his spirit wife, u too will be romancing ur sugar boy.
ReplyDeleteLol @papi water
DeleteMasturbation creates the wrong illusion of sex. That's why your husband doesn't find it pleasing anymore. It is so addictive and IMHO, when someone watches it, they get influenced by demons. That's why your hubby doesn't care much about you anymore. I'll advice to get into your War Room (prayer room) and fight this evil that has gotten into your marriage. It is so serious and you must deal with it with the right strategy. Don't fight your husband, fight the demons because we wrestle not against flesh and blood. Also find materials exposing the dangers of porn and show him. There are many online resources for recovering porn addicts. Search for them and make them available to him.
ReplyDeleteDeliverance is possible. You are going to be okay. Take a hug, deear.
Delicious homemade ice cream
Having a problem is totally different from having a problem and acknowledge you have one.
ReplyDeleteYour hubby is not helping matters at all,
look at him wearing the ish as garment.
Madam please pray o, pray he sees the problem first so that you both can tackle it.
I don't see you bringing him out of this alone...
To think that I have read it all...
ReplyDeleteThe truth is masturbating is very sweet. I'm a married woman but I enjoyed masturbating than making love with my man. Like today he bought some brandy to turn up me on, I give it to him as he wants just to satisfy him. As soon as he goes to work, I Google what I like and I enjoyed myself. Live and let live @ poster
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha...
DeleteAnon15:20,u r masturbating bcos ur horseband is a disgrace in bed. He is woeful in d art of love making.
DeleteIf u jam an expert sensual love maker like me, u go burn all dat ur nyama nyama toys.
Where u go even see power to handle sex toys ,if a naturally strong and well endowed man like me handle u?
I do the same. Good thing im nt the only married woman in this. Time to get me a dildo. Lol.
DeleteWats going on today? Turn up me on kwa?....na wa
DeleteThis is spiritual please u need to go spiritual on ur hubby case. My dear start d vigil again oooo.
ReplyDeletePorn addiction comes with excessive masturbation.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of porn does he watch? It might be that the kinda porn he enjoys or gets turned on by are the kind of things you cant give him. Eg anal, water play etc.
He better gets help quick else his sex life will be non existent as he will only be able to have sex while porn is playing and hearing the moans from porn.
End time self-service
ReplyDeleteHahahahhahahaaaaaaa
DeleteChisosssss
I am laughing out loud for realllll
End time self-service
You always have a short and hilarious answer for every chronicles. Lmao end time self service.
DeleteThis is sad I would ave advice to start cheating on but it will make things worst for hubby. Ur man needs help.
ReplyDeleteIt's a very simple solution. Buy various sizes of DILDOS and place then in somewhat conspicuous parts of your room. Download a variety of porn movies on your laptop. At night scream and moan and probably call one or two random names. Put up a cheerful disposition and dont ask him for sex. Don't even hug him. Spend time with the kids and in your room with the movies playing and you moaning away. Within a month he'll start banging you very well.
ReplyDeleteMadam dis is reality, nt Nollywood's Mr. & Mrs.
DeleteLmao @ anon 16:47 u actually read my mind. I was about typing d same thing dis is not Mr and Mrs noolly wood movie.
DeleteLmao...
DeleteFunny thing is it would work
DeleteOver to the married ones
ReplyDeleteThis one pass me😩
@ibuku,Over to d married ones. But u dey gbensh pass them
DeleteJames spell my name well jor
DeleteAbeg,leave the marriage asap,i can't kill myself cos of one fucking dude,and u know those spirit wife can jealous die.
ReplyDeleteand am assuming u are single and desperatly searching for hubby with bonaculars and magnifying glasses. But like I said earlier....jus assuming...
DeleteI'm sorry u are going through something like this, I guess u should really pray about it, and also get your hubby to pray with u, I wish you all the best.
ReplyDeleteUche face your work!
DeleteThere is no bloody spirit wife anywhere. Your husband hust has psychological issues associtaed with entering youe vagina. Especially since youve had a son. Maybe he is traumatised by the size of a kid coming out of there. Trust me it happens. If he is the snsible type you both need to see a psychologist
ReplyDeleteAbeg shut up!!! Did u not read that he started doing it from the beginning of their marriage. So she had a son in the beginning?
DeleteFools like you will come up with theory like"slack vagina" or loose body. Did she create the son by herself?
Keep on praying
ReplyDeleteThis one pass my agbara.wetin now
ReplyDeleteMc pinky
Hmmmm.. this world is more spiritual than physical..
ReplyDeleteLol this is something I'd say and I say a lot
DeletePoster, u need serious prayer for u and ur family.
ReplyDeleteOver to you JESUS! You alone can fix this Lord.
ReplyDeleteOver to you JESUS! You alone can fix this Lord.
ReplyDeleteSpirit wife it is ma'am. You need to fight it. If your dreams are true there's someone or something struggling hubby with you. That's why he's finding it hard to keep being attracted to you.
ReplyDeleteChisos! Hmmmm, let me read comments biko. Can't find words now maybe later things
ReplyDeleteKeep praying.
ReplyDeleteThe effectual fervent prayers of the righteous availeth much.
Please pray!!! He needs deliverance. Watch Emmanuel tv (DSTV channel 390) & pray. God will see you through & restore your marriage.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm *speechless*
ReplyDeleteGbedu way dey burst Brain!!!
ReplyDeleteDont you ever get tired of this line?
DeleteSweethrt, it has nothing to do with u. That's what happens to people who are addicted to porn and masturbation, it takes over all d aspects pf their being. Infact they will choose porn, fantasy and masturbation over their spouse.
DeleteThey come to a point where they are conditioned to get sexual gratification only from fantasy and masturbation.
It makes them no longer desire sex with the real person. Porn /masturbation addiction is destructive.
So u see, ur DH needs help and counselling won't be enough. He needs spiritual help but d fact dat he doesn't want to stop makes it even more difficult.
But hey! There is nothing that God can't fix. It's only God that can change a man's heart. It's time u got on ur knees.
It's s no time to sit down and wait. OPERATION RECLAIM UR MARRIAGE.
Pray. Take what is urs in d Name of Jesus and kick d devil out. Partner with someone in prayer if u have to but get serious.
Speak to ur husband's spirit to suddenly grow a distaste for porn and a repulse for masturbation.
And pls watch the movie War Room. It will show u how powerful prayer can be. Don't allow Satan steal ur home.
God's grace.
Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com
Watch movie abi teach n tell her how to pray and have an alter (war room/closet)?
DeleteMarital issues differ dear.
hmmm. my sister I advice you to continue with vigils and prayer. since this is the only issue you have with your husband and I believe it is more spiritual than behavioral, then report that strange woman to GOD. The devil is telling people that masturbation is okay but it is NOT. It is a trap that the devil uses to bewitch and hold captive. God of Elijah will liberate your husband. As you are married to him you have the authority to break and loose on his behalf. On the physical side, continue to show him love and look hot for him.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, let's forget about that part of spirit and woman in a dream. That's BS and possibly have nothing to do with the guy.
ReplyDeleteNow straight the point, the main reason is that you are no more attractive sexually to your husband. It maybe difficult for you to believe because of the fact that you think you are sexy and so look attractive. You need to know what appeals to your man sexually. A man is sexually aroused by what he sees. Possibly talk to him and try to see the kind of thing that interest him in the porn he's watching.
Trust me, if your husband is sexually satisfied with you, he will not have cause to masturbate and therefore no cause to watch porn.
Best of luck in your issue.
You are totally wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteStory! Mine even looks at my pussy to get n erection n masturbate, if I wasnt sexually attractive, he won't need to view my pussy from d back to get an erection. My sermon is up there, I'm not a kid anymore still he can't resist squeezing me but sex is what he can't have. I'm not bothered, live n let's live. Compromise is d answer.
DeleteThat's not true my hubby masturbate and can duck me everyday if I allow him
DeleteAbegi leave matter for Martha and Mathias.
DeleteIt depends on d personality types of d parties involved too.
Married for som long years and for almost 2yrs, oga and madam never do.
I don talk tire. Report pastors. Pray I don tire.
I dash am him prick for now.
When he dies even if @102yrs, so long na me go mourn am, I will tell d morticians to cut out d penis for me. Them go embalm am so I may leave it in d room or cremate d tin. I fit even show him pple sef say d body no complete. Dts wen dey wud beliv d tinz I complained about years ago.
Nonsense!
And don't ask me how I cope.
#my business
#my body
Speechless
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm...ife n'eme.
ReplyDeleteShuo?
ReplyDeleteMadam u by ursef jst confirmed the problem in ur marriage. Ur hubby doesnt hate u bt the prob is his spirit wife, please stop complaining n try saving ur marriage. It is the time to pray! Go on ur knee n pray.
ReplyDeleteI get the feeling u nw hv some other men telling u shits thats why ur tlkin abt being to young to be going through wot u r going through. Remove ur mind from those things n go to God in prayer. Even I suggest u join in the 3day fast in this blog for the singles n unhappily married n watch God nwelu onodu in ur marriage. Love
Married couples,over to you.
ReplyDeleteTell her what to do to help spice up her sexual life
One Word: S H R I N K!
ReplyDeleteDid I hear him say...You can leave if you don't like it....?.what will make a man to behave this way to his wife...There must be something you are not telling g us.are you sure he didn't find out a secret life you are living and trying to pay you back without talking to you about it....If nothing like that ,keep praying he will be delivered and repent one day.
ReplyDeleteJoin the fast
ReplyDeletemy dear you are not alone on this, i have my 3 children today is not because we are intimate of he loves me is just that God is awesome and he has a glue sperm, once poured it sticks, the next thing is pregnancy, and throughout that pregnancy he will never come close till the day i will deliver with heavy tier because of tight service, in fact the last time he touched me as a wife was August 26th 2015. presently as i write this, he had problem in his place of work and an ran away leaving me with three children. i am pretty and very tall and attractive, but he will never appreciate me, but opposite sex disturbs me so much when i go out both in my office where i work. I regretted not divorcing him before he got himself into this mess now all his guarantors are troubling me as if i know where he is or i was enjoying myself with him while we were leaving together.
ReplyDeleteMay d almighty God be with u and ur children, it's well @beautyvile.
Deletemy dear you are not alone on this, i have my 3 children today is not because we are intimate of he loves me is just that God is awesome and he has a glue sperm, once poured it sticks, the next thing is pregnancy, and throughout that pregnancy he will never come close till the day i will deliver with heavy tier because of tight service, in fact the last time he touched me as a wife was August 26th 2015. presently as i write this, he had problem in his place of work and an ran away leaving me with three children. i am pretty and very tall and attractive, but he will never appreciate me, but opposite sex disturbs me so much when i go out both in my office where i work. I regretted not divorcing him before he got himself into this mess now all his guarantors are troubling me as if i know where he is or i was enjoying myself with him while we were leaving together.
ReplyDeletei pray that God heal your husband from this satanic behaviour and bring back your joy in Jesus name .....Amen
ReplyDeleteNo amount of fasting and prayer would bring him back to you. Why are Africans always spiritual. He is simply not attracted to you and the sex you give him does not turn him on compared to what porn does to him. He might prefer big asses or anal or bondage role play. The question is can you do that ? Or do you have that? Porn does the extreme and he can't subject you to those treatment so leave him alone. The old woman in your dream is your mind playing tricks on you !!!. Your sex appeal is non existent to him. Get a dildo and do your thing before your pastor fucks you too
ReplyDeletePpl like you are agents of destruction. If he did not find her attractive, why marry her? Im sure you are a wanker yourself...#teamlube.
DeletePoster, the issue is a spiritual one. The bible says that the weapons of our WARFARE are not carnal but mighty through God! Your husband can't help himself hence he's not ashamed to be doing it in your presence.
ReplyDeleteYou have to intensify prayers and midnight prayers with him and for him. In this part of the world where we come from, spiritual wife is real.
But the good news is that even the captive of the mighty shall be delivered because God will contend with those who are contending with your home and he will save your husband.
Please as much as you are seeking medical help,try to intensify midnight prayers and intercession for him. You shall be victorious!
Put up your own porn at night and make sure u start before him.Screen and shout as loud as u can.Keep doing it,even if it means pretending.Talk any nonsence and call one or two random names.Continue like dat everyday.Let me see if he will ask u what happened.Nonsence...........Nothing like spiritual wife dear.Its a habit he learn and he is gay.
ReplyDeleteShould you just cheat abi??? Talk true..... Cus ur guy refuses na.
ReplyDeletePray
ReplyDeleteit will take God's intervention for him to break loose from this dirty attitude. keep praying my dear, all will be well
ReplyDeleteYou have to be very prayerful. Don't know how wealthy your husband is, young guys do this for rituals and with time you will see the way wealth will trip in.
ReplyDeletePoster, be steadfast in your prayers to God and please join the Fast too!...this is more than the physical
ReplyDeleteMy sister, please focus your attention on prayers instead of your hubby. My elder sis told me that, once a married man has sexual intercourse with a woman in the dream that is the end. That he will start to misbehave - that every married woman should always learn to pray against strange women.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, Your victory time should be the time your prayers are supposed to be intensified. Please take up the stress to pray for your hubby morning, afternoon, night, midnight. at least you can do two prayers for him. God will give you victory. Madam, also walk around your home naked. Before then, tell God that your hubby must notice your naked body and get attracted to it. Clean the house naked, pick up tins from the floor naked. Don't mind him when you are doing it. Believe me with your prayers, he will fall. He is your hubby so you have to take charge and collect back what the devil have stolen from you.
All the best dear..... always remember, there is nothing God can not do if only you believe.
Madam....hope ur husband no get HIV?
ReplyDeleteAnd probably protecting u.
Cos if u see cases for hosp... where a man wld be informed to tell his wife about his status, e no go gree.
Plz go n test ursef oo.
This is a very intelligent advice! Madam be guided.
DeleteHmmm.... okay, so first of all try to find out what kind of porn he is always watching. Even if na gay porn sef, it is still spiritual. The devil is going around looking for who to devour. Satan has never liked a godly happy home. First attack the spiritual. Place your hand on him at midnights and pray. Spiritual wife na small tin nahh. You have a bigger backing, He is the head of principalities! After the spiritual, come back to earth and work on ur sex life. Ask him to teach u new sex styles and try to be more adventurous in bed. God will see you through.
ReplyDeleteU have said it all,@esther amaka.
DeleteMadam pls bcos u want to please him, if u see d sexual fetishes pass d 1 u can handle, wch is what I suspect no Biko
DeleteMadam if ur husband fetish is not normal or something u can handle, pls leave him ooo. Let him masturbate and continue to pray for d redemption of his soul, no Coke wound urself bcos u want to please 1 man. Anytym u r horny tell him to do his husband duties,ensue u cum and leave him to his own fate. Pls make urself happy abeg
DeleteSorry dear,I really understand what you are going through emotionally.embark on intensive prayers.God will surely settle your case.just be strong & put faith @ work.
ReplyDeleteSpirit wife ke
ReplyDeleteHahahahahhahaajjajaahaha
Nigerians will forever believe in spirits and all sorts of superstition
From my childhood till date
Nigerians still live in fear of some evil spirits and all sorts of trash
The problem is not you, dear. Not you. You are beautiful, attractive and sexy. The problem is him. It's a bad habit and it is psychological. He is the addict who needs redemption, not you.
You had that dream because you believed it when your pastor said it. Don't be gullible to everything people say. Fear will kill you long before your death.Lean towards hope and faith. Yes you should pray, but your life and worth doesn't depend on your husband. Know that and get your self worth back. Having negative thoughts that you are no longer attractive or there is a spiritual wife blabla will give you some low self-esteem. Which Ain't good.
Pray for him, but also ignore him. Get something doing that will distract you a bit so you don't get depressed.
It takes a while to change a man, so be patient but get busy. Don't lose yourself cos you wanna please him. It takes a while.
Gbam!!!!! Ur hubby has a nasty habit, it is how to challenge dis habit dt is d main issue, just pray for God to Touch his heart
DeleteThere are too many ignoramus on this blog. It is possible for a man/woman to have a partner in the spirit world. In fact a lot of problems can happen to a man or woman in the spirit world.
ReplyDeleteA young man I know stopped sleeping with his wife for no reasons. He would lock himself up and masturbate at least five times a day. But one day, he had a dream: he saw his wife entering the building with another man (a relation of his). The guy was perplexed at the sight of his wife because the woman, his wife, was in the bedroom. Then something strange happened, the man who came in with the wife said: "this is your wife." At that moment, the guy called his wife from the bedroom. The wife came out and saw a replica image of herself. Both the guy and his wife looked at each other and wondered at the unfolding drama.
According to the guy, a few seconds later, the new wife merged with the original wife to form a single entity, and the dream was over. Days following, the man began to desire his wife and today they both live together with children. Obviously, something serious happened to the woman in the spirit world, because it was a serious warfare with the guy's family before they got married.
Masturbation, like other sex related vices, is a gateway that demons use to possess humans. The author of this chronicle is definitely a victim of spiritual manipulations. Contrary to what some clueless bvs have remarked, the woman was privileged to see in a dream the source of her problem. What to do?
You need to start praying between 1:00am and 2:30am against forces of darkness. You will prevail if you are a believer in Christ Jesus.
I pray the Lord would help you overcome satanic forces that are bent on destroying your marriage. Amen!
Lady Igho welcome back, pls I suspect u r d one who stalks ppl under anonymous to do some judgina tins. Pls calm down u here...
DeleteSpirit wife and spirit husband is real,I guess that is what's disturbing your man....stand up right
ReplyDeleteThe dude is gay
ReplyDeleteKeep fasting daily 6-6p.m and do not stop until he stops. And please wake up by that midnight when he does that to pray for at least an hour. Remember that Jesus taught these.
ReplyDeleteWaoh...... ..m sorry ur going through this. He must have been in it for a long time. You have the solution. PRAYER. You need to take his problem personally. Let me launch you into it. I decree that every spirit of masturbation be banished from your home in the name of Jesus.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing like spiritual husband..smfh..Why are they only in a Africa. ..especially Nigeria? ..smfh...The love is all gone...
ReplyDeleteAnonymous20:02. My dear, They are only in Africa because we believe it. Not only do we believe it, we let such thoughts control us. We gave them visas so they dwell within us. We have such dreams cos we believe it. And in a country of darkness, no electricity- of course you will have nightmares.You see, the human mind is a very powerful thing. What comes to you is what you believe. That is why faith is equally powerful, cos it starts in the mind. I grew up in Nigeria with great superstition. I lived in fear. I was never free until I left that country. The rest of the world is inventing new technology, creating scientific blockbusters.. Nigeria is still looking for their spirit wife and spirit husband. You won't even make sense to a 5year old in say, Canada. Some pastors use our gullibility to their advantage. We have the most churches, but we are the most in bondage. Bondage to fear and superstition. In calabar, parents abandon their children for being witches. A certain white woman picks up the kids and give them a life. Is the witchcraft scared of oyibo?? Why can't the witches kill the white lady. Cos of her mind! The other day a BV talked about being asked to drink corpse water to prove her innocence. All these will continue if we don't teach our children differently. Poverty, illiteracy, idleness, culture-can make you fearful.
DeleteYoung ones, I was once like y'all, believing everything.
It's all in the mind.
Cleanse your minds. There is strength within you. The devil is even afraid of you. You're a king and a priest. He's scared of you.
You give the devil much power when you believe in all these. The bible tells us to believe in GOD and his son. Believe in God. And trust me, that is enough.
Damn, when I see how much people in Nigeria still believe in spirit, I have to just shake my head in great amazement.
ReplyDeleteNigeria is too backward to be a developed country if at this day and time a lot of people still believe spirit husbands and wives.
As for the poster, find a way to make your man develop interest in sex with you. Dress in a romantic way, let him see you sexually and all that. This is the first step to it. If you are looking dirty, miserable or other sorts, it may not entice or arouse your man.
What do i say now. Oh wow!
ReplyDeleteI masturbate! Hubby wanks! I also help him wank using cream if am too tired to have sex. We watch porn too but we have good sex life.infact, I get to sleep off when I masturbate but sex keeps me awake no matter how exausted I am. I really don't think mastubating is such a big deal tho!
ReplyDeleteNot everything calls for a spiritual response sometimes being physical also helps after all we are humans and not spirits(just kidding) it takes over a decade sometimes for prayers to be answered. 10 years fa!!! I want to say let go, take off that ring and live. Take your mind off him and enjoy the life that you only live once and when he is ready, he will notice that you have stopped caring and revert back by default. Oh say a prayer or two every other day but plz ma'am don't sweat it.
ReplyDeleteI almost missed this post.
ReplyDeleteMadam, he is addicted to porn. He married to please the society. Take him to a therapist, pray for him, and be strong.