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OPEN FLIRTATION AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

Dear Stella. Thanks for the good works. I'll try to make my chronicle as straight forward as possible.

I've been dating my girl for 4 years now. To say it has been easy will be whitewashing things.

 We have our misunderstandings like every couple do but recently it seems we keep fighting more and more over nothing. 

We are in a long distance relationship. 

Everyone in Nigeria is familiar with the job situation here. Since the jobs weren't forthcoming I had to take up a job in the Northern part of Nigeria at least for the experience before I get a better job down south. She has been cool with it and I try to support her how I can. She doesn't work and is currently doing her Masters in a university in the south.

 I get leave every 2-3 months when we see for like a week or 10 days. It's been hard but she was understanding at first. But recently when I went to see her she was so cold, snapping at everything I do and not interested in my well-being at all.  Having been in a relationship before I suspected there was another guy in the picture. ‎I did my investigation and I found out there was this guy who was trying to be close to her.

 She says they are just friends but this dude was being too nice.  I followed her for a church programme impromptu. Lo and behold both of them wore matching colours(later found out it was my girl's idea), they sat close to each other and chatted through out  To the extent this guy finished a piece of gum and spat into his hands the remnants for my girlfriend to wrap and throw away (though she didnt). 

All this while I was sitting right there. I didn't say a word becos it was a church programme (If it were elsewhere I for break e head).  He followed us home at which point I had to put him in his place (I indirectly asked him to leave). Not only was my girlfriend angry with me but she kept chatting with him on the phone even after I made him leave. 

She said I was immature and petty. She openly compared me with the guy saying i'm indecisive, and unserious  and I'm always quiet unlike her friend. Stella I know I can be laid back at times and drag before making some important decisions, i'm also an introvert, But I'm a hustler and by no means lazy. I know what I want and pursue it no matter how long it takes. 

 I got angry and left for my hotel. 

Our quarrels continued till I left and only seemed to abate when I was about leaving. Now i've travelled  back to my work station and she keeps calling telling me how much she misses me and that she doesn't know what came over her. 

My question is this; was I too harsh?, should I have allowed the 'harmless flirtation' continue in my presence?, am I paranoid?, or did I do the right thing? 

 I plan to propose to her when my next leave comes up. But this her attitude is too surprising. I've remained faithful to her inspite of temptations. I love my girlfriend. I'm addicted to her voice on my phone but this time I spent with her I felt emotionally drained and unhappy. Please BV's advise.

Why do you want to propose when you havent tabled the issue that drained you emotionally?

If she was openly flirting,its possible that she deliberately did it for you to sit up..lol.

I dont know what else to advise you other than to tell you that Marriage is a very sensitive matter so make sure you tie all the loose ends with her before taking the step to propose.