Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

This is what i call DRAMA in the house of SDK....OMG...JESUS please please please fix this for us!

STAND ALONE NARRATIVE.

SINGLES MINGLES CHRONICLE BETWEEN THREE BLOG VISITORS

FRED 'MET' ADA AND FELL IN LOVE BUT ADA AND JERRY MET AND ARE IN LOVE....

Good day Stella. It took me weeks to write and make up my mind sending this to your blog, Pardon my lengthy narrative bikonu. I started visiting your blog sometime mid last year after I noticed that the two most important people/case in my life now, became aquatinted through this blog. I never thought I would do this but Sometimes love makes us look like a child. 

I'm 36years old good looking man from Anambra state, a project manager, perfectly okay to handle any finance or expense that comes my way(glory be to God). I'm an introvert and an open to experience person. Always too busy with business to merge it up with any relationship drama. Though I have been in a few, my last relationship played a fool of me which made me lose focus in ladies. For over 2years, I have been single, ready to settle down but haven't seen any lady( guess I couldn't make out time for my love life). 

November  2015, I traveled out of the country for a business trip, was very bored, I had to call a childhood friend. Then he sent a girl's number (ADA) to me. He connected the both of us, she came around to visit. Gosh! I have never seen a girl with such great sense of humour. Very lively, intelligent, beautiful, like fully packaged in one also from same state.  

I was scared at first because I felt a high chick girl like her would form and act all those annoying girly way. But MBA! Stella this girl made my sweet air conditioned room hot. We played and chatted like some lost lover birds that reUnited.  

She never planned to sleep over anyway, but as someone that don't wanna let such girl out, I pleaded even got new makeups, clothes ( she came with just her hand bag) for her to stay till am done with my visit. Everyday was filled with memories. On the fifth day, she received a call to get some documents to a friend, that made us visit her home. I also had to meet up with her siblings cos they all live in same country though different apartments. Her married sister hosted us for dinner. It was just a wonderful experience with strangers turned family. I noticed we both grew some feelings for each other but I didn't wanna force it, I allowed it to flow. 

Just like that, two strangers spent over 2weeks with each other. 

It was either in my hotel room or her place. I finally travelled back to my country but we always communicate. I met up with my childhood friend and showed my gratitude towards him connecting me with Ada. I noticed some funny look, I had to ask what the problem was, then he told me that the girl is his girlfriend. He met her through SINGLE AND MINGLE since last year though they haven't seen anyway but that he grew feelings for the girl and was hoping to meet up with her soon but because I visited her country, he decided to let us meet so I won't be bored. 

 My friend never said this to me before he shared her contact, even ADA didn't even talk about him except when she asked after him and said he's such a nice guy that Both of us would have come together. After my dialogue with my friend, I called Ada, and decided to hear from her, she said same thing but denied the dating aspect and rather called it an online buddy. 

Afterwards, my communication with Ada became weak but the feelings was heavy in my heart. I also lost focus talking or hanging out with my friend too (I don't wanna see myself hurting any of them) Some few circle of friends that noticed what was happening between Fred(my childhood friend) and I advised I fling the girl and move on since she wasn't the first girl I have been introduced through Fred. 

Okay! 

They all think is one of those major games we play when we travel. The girl in question moved me with her attitude, pleasant character and an accommodating soul . 

We kissed on the last day I was to travel. 

No sex, not like I didn't try to but guess her self control was stronger than my urge. 

Now, This isn't LUST, I AM IN LOVE. After much drama back home, I travelled back in February to meet Ada for a weekend which was her birthday because she blocked my lines and stopped all communication with me. Thank God She called her taxi man with my phone the last time I visited. That was how I located her house again. It was hard to talk to her, the lively girl I met was all dry, weak and frustrated(that shows how the situation has weakened her). 

We finally had to talk, she spoke about the misunderstanding that was up, how Fred called and sent her messages of being so lose to a friend he introduced to her e.t.c then showed me her conversation with Fred since the first day of SINGLE AND MINGLE. I read where Fred said he'd like to start a relationship with her but she told him she don't fancy online dates, until they meet then they would talk about it. As she said;  Fred and herself are more like online friends who barely call nor ping but whenever they converse, its always long. She showed me the surprised birthday gift Fred sent to her. She also said the reason why she kept distance from me is because she don't wanna start issues between Fred and I. 

I had to beg and plead to try resolve things with Fred when I travel back. Things became smooth again. I took her out for a birthday solo birthday dinner, 50mins whilst at it, her phone began to ring. Stella that was Fred calling. She tried not to mess our date until we got home, then returned the call and decided to explain everything. It was over 30mins call, I could hear the pity from my friend's voice..... 

He said "Ada but you know I cherished you, I would have visited but work never allowed me, I didn't expect you to give up so soon".... 

(The rest was Ada trying to explain herself and Fred finding it hard to give up too) I walked out of the room to allow her finish her conversation.  She came out  later, both in silence  then begged me to try resolve things with my friend as she have already explained to him.  She said she loves me but wouldn't want to see her "two friends" turn foes because of her.

I have been friends with Fred for over 30years but surprised how this would wanna mess us up. Even if Fred let go, I don't think he's gonna confide in me or my relationship with him be as strong as it was.  I love this girl so much that I wouldn't wanna give up on her. As it stands, this two people mean a lot to me. I Don't want to lose any of them either. Fred has been acting busy to sit out with me so I don't even know how to start. 

A phone conversation or sms wouldn't be enough. I'm so confused because once am still in foes with Fred, Ada seems bothered and disconnecting as she feels guilty. Choosing one person is a nightmare and losing them both is unthinkable. 

 Please Stella and everyone that's gonna read this, if cursing, red pen, or insults would lead me to a great advice(s), I so need it right now!  Thanks in advance. 

Woooow!!!!!.

I dont know what to Say Jerry (I am using your name because you used theirs,its only fair) but it seems you and Ada are really into each other.Your friend should never have tried what he did but its good he did cos if Ada was into him she wouldnt have fallen in love with you knowing you are his friend...It could have happened with Ada and anyone..He didnt secure his territory well.

Do not fell guilty.keep trying to make it to explaining things to him but if he insists on not wanting then leave him alone.

Ada,good that you didnt use s3x to start the relationship,if you really love Jerry then make up your mind to be with him,love happens in the weirdest of places and in ways we cannot explain sometimes.

Fred,let go and hopefully love will find you.leave both of them and give them your blessings.it will feel better if you release her emotionally.I am sorry this happened and i know you are hurt but now you learnt your lesson right?

I dont even know what i am saying cos i feel so bad for the three of you.

I pray that God fixes this situation.

Please no one should cuss them out.Thank you!