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Thursday, April 21, 2016

Addictive Relationships.....

Time for the Couch session...you need to learn a thing or two about the above heading....

Love addiction is a desperate need to be with a person. It’s a need that overwhelms everything else going on in your life....are you in this situation?







''Dear Stella,

I have been stuck in self worthlessness and rejection. Since my supposed girlfriend played me hard,

The funniest thing is that i was initially the tough one, because i was never interested. Till i couldn't separated my self from her, thoughts of her filled my head. I became obsessed with her.

For 5 months now i have being taking my time to study myself and learn how to adjust my mindset, in other to break my addiction to her.

which includes "My Dear Diary Moments". I wrote down every feeling and observation during my healing process. 

I decided to attached part of it send it to you after reading today's narrative. Please kindly share it with my fellow Bvs.

I Hope It Helps Someone Out there.

BLOG ID: Didy Alexander.


Thank You.




ARE YOU IN AN ADDICTIVE RELATIONSHIP?
Love addiction is a desperate need to be with a person. It’s a need that overwhelms everything else going on in your life.
  • Love at first sight – feels like they’ve known this person for a long time – they seem familiar.
  • Going quickly into the relationship without taking the time to establish common values, goals or to build trust.
  • Intense bonding and sexual activity – fuelling feelings of being ecstatic and high.
  • Wanting to be together every waking moment.
  • Neglecting friends, family and themselves to be with this person (i.e. stop doing the things they used to like to do).
  • Continuously fantasize about the love object.
  • Early declarations of love and commitment.
  • First fight – often a bad one – where they discover their lover is not the person they thought they were.
    Partner withdraws – time, attention, affection, sex, acts cold, critical, etc.
  • The love addict starts to panic as feelings of unbearable loneliness, unlovability /unworthiness get triggered – rather than feeling annoyed with partner for mistreating them.
  • Love addict begs, pleads, sell themselves short in a frantic effort to reconnect with partner.
  • Partner either ends contact, or may come back, often with the agenda that they will continue if the addicted person ‘shapes up’. But this is a false promise, as this sort of partner’s goal is control, not the desire for a healthy relationship.
  • If partner returns, romance starts all over again.
  • Next fight, often shortly after reuniting.
  • Distancing by partner and anxious pursuit by addict resumes.

STEP OUT OF THE BOX…
  • Admit you are in pain, and that relationships tend to feel bad more often than good.
  • Understand that real love doesn’t hurt. Real love makes you feel valued, cared for and stronger about yourself. Perhaps you don’t recognize real love, or it feels uncomfortable. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong, just unfamiliar.
  • Back away from compulsive, painful relationships and give yourself a chance to heal and learn how to identify real love.
  • Accept that obsession is not the same thing as love. You may feel temporary relief while caught up in your obsession. But like a drug, you need that fix over and over again to try to overcome feelings of emptiness, and prove to yourself that you are lovable or adequate.
  • Recognize irrational beliefs or fears that can sabotage you and keep you hooked.  For example, believing that you can’t cope with anxiety, loneliness or sadness being on your own.  Addictive relationships by their very nature make people more vulnerable to experiencing painful emotions and negative beliefs as compulsive relationship dynamics are in themselves invalidating.
  • Once you start to pull back and learn to understand and manage your thoughts and emotions better – from the inside out – you will gradually begin to feel your confidence grow. You may feel worse at the outset rather than better. Hang in there and give yourself a chance to develop your strength.
  • Know your triggers – Usually feelings of unlovability or unworthiness to receive love, and believing that you can only be restored to wholeness in a love relationship. If you feel high in the presence of the person you are obsessed about, and panicked when you are apart, this is a sign that addictive relationship dynamics have been triggered.
  • If you feel overly attracted to someone very quickly, pull back. This is a warning sign that a ‘negative love map’ might have been retriggered.
  • Make a point of learning healthy coping strategies to deal with negative beliefs and emotions.
  • Get group support with others in recovery.
Above all, reach for a higher power. Do you believe in God? Now is the time to deepen your spiritual relationship. Have you tried meditation or prayer? 


A strong sense of spirituality will connect you to greater purpose and power. Which can comfort and guide you when you have no energy to get dressed, go to work, and face the day? Both meditation and prayer have been found helpful to reduce stress, increase feelings of well-being, offer relaxation, reduced depression and increase self-confidence and self-love.


Lastly, the funny thing about trying to break your ADDICTION is that just when you feel you are beginning to recover… BOOM!!!! They CALL, TEXT, Trying to get back together with you.


147 comments:

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    1. Woow... this happened to me recently.. exactly as u stated it. Word for word, step by step. I'm glad I'm over it sa. I held on really strong o.. cos it wasn't easy. I'm glad I'm over it.

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    2. For real I'm in this right now. I feel miserable when I'm not with him...I feel like I'm having high b.p wen I'm not talking to him.. All I need right now is God intervention cause I really need Gods' miracle in my life

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    3. I think ive moved to the extreme end of the obessesion, now am at the point costant anger. Every thought of her arouses sheer bitterness inside of me. Now the bad thing, these thought is constant. Imagine being sad 10 out of 15 hours of the broad days. I got so depressed i had to slight my hand. Not to kill myself but just to feel the pain of the cut. The blood dropping of. I wanted to get the pain out, let me be physical so i have a break inside. The cut on my hand still hurt till this minute.
      THESE someone i love and for 4 years it has been betryal upon betryal. But as one hooked to cociane. You know its killing you but you find it hard to say no to it. Her name was supposed be angel, but to me, she is devil is in me.
      i need help plz

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    4. 21.07 anon....slit not slight. It is well with u

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  2. Really good write up.

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  3. I'll read comments

    Le boo is the bestest

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  4. For those wey de fall in love. My heart strong pass rock. Addiction can not fit catch me.

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    1. Na because you never jam correct Yoruba boy.

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    2. Isokomanwife you are the greatest racist on planet earth

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    3. Anon no kill yourself..its the joke going around about Yoruba boys..

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    4. Yoru kini? Better to be single than date a Yoruba man

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  5. Am so tired of this word Love, am almost beginning to believe that it doesn't exist cos people that claim to love you end up hurting you so bad, you trust them they repair you back with dishonesty, people just want to use you all in the name of love.

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    1. Speak for yourself madam . Love is sweet and I am enjoying d feelings. Not everyone get hurt in return of love.

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    2. @Iwuka' all these "relationships" pple are calling love these days is just lust. Anyone that loves you will not have sex with you until they marry you

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    3. @ ifylov there is always love in the air been able to catch it matters a lot. Hope you catch real one soon. Longest time Dr

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    4. Please change this your mentality fast fast. It's more deadly than HIV and even kills faster. Please come take my husband make Una two start over dey learn sex after marriage. Nonsense @ Anon14:41

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    5. @Anonymous 18:04. Just so I got you right, you mean waiting for sex until after marriage is an old mentality? I guess you're indirectly saying God is a fool for putting such command. Do you even understand what sex really is? It goes beyond penetration and pleasure. And if you're already aware of that and still have the mindset i believe you're having,then you sincerely need more spiritial counselling on sex and marriage. This I say with no malice or prejudice.

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  6. The last line, sooooooooo true!

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  7. Am so tired of this word Love, am almost beginning to believe that it doesn't exist cos people that claim to love you end up hurting you so bad, you trust them they repay you back with dishonesty, people just want to use you all in the name of love.

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    1. With all the "loves" in your name??

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    2. Lol
      Anonymous no go kill person

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  8. Just when you think you're beginning to recover, they call and text...so true

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    1. Even when you ve deleted the number
      The moment u see it calling your heart skips
      Mtschww

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  9. I feel better after reading this,my heart is knotted so tight,I can't even cry,yesterday was the first time I felt shock after 6yrs.Men,men,men.

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  10. I need Advice, i have broken upwith my boyfiend for over a month, am seeing someone else who gives so much love and attention but i cant seem to get over my Ex, i want to be fucked by him, i miss him so much, the bomb sex and foreplay, i cant get over that, mymind soul and body calls for him at all times but my pride wouldnt let me go back to him. i cant even bring my self to kissing this present guy.not to talk of sleeping with him. please what do i do?

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    1. Just one month after, you are already in another relationship?? E kene kwaa m gi!

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    2. You'll outgrow it, give yourself some time

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    3. It's obvious its the sex you miss. Wasn't there a reason for the break up? Learn to love your present guy and be comfortable around him, get talking,it's not always about sex you know.

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    4. Add me up..so we talk beta..u ave answers to ur problems

      Mc pinky

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    5. Go back to ur ex since sex is all that matters to u.

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    6. Sweetheart please go and fcuk ur brains out.....it is just sex and nothing else, go have fun with him and relieve yourself of the stress....relationship is 90% all about sex......

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    7. This is the same addiction the poster is talking about..if he was that good and all..why did you break up with him? Borrow yourself sense. Worse is that the nigga might be enjoying himself with another girl and you are here lusting!

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    8. Mmmmmm.
      Go back to him, fuck him, suck him do everything and you would be happy.
      Better still come to me, I may be a better option

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    9. Have you heard about soul tie?

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    10. Triumphant zion so true.. I think I have a soul tie with my husband to be. No matter how much either one of us messes up, we cant just break up. I tried severally in the past but its just like there is an unnatural force pulling us back together. Thankfully, he is a good guy though he is not perfect and neither am I we are happy together..

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    11. Hello sister,

      A month and you are in a new rshp...like 30 days, for real, but you know you can do better right??

      why not give yourself some time to heal and reconstruct your mindset; suck in everything, acknowledge the flaws and fights while you draw out a 'never-repeat' guide plan.

      Right now, this rebound relationship is only setting you up for an outright attrition... Take some time off, that's the best you can do for you. You owe yourself the best treatment, not subjecting your body to mis-use by pple who probably appreciate you less... except you want stay entangled in a web as complex as those spun by the comical spiderman.


      Li-yon Vls.

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    12. Na bomb penis na dey do u so ooo. My dear the earlier u take ur mind off ur ex the better for you

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    13. Thats what good sex does to the soul.

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  11. If its true, pure, unadulterated love then u won't b addicted n b behaving like a zombie. From d above write up n d points outlined Kindly call it lust or obsession.

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  12. Why is it that a whole lot of people including Tonto Dikeh find it difficult to differentiate between 'been' and 'being'? Such a simple thing?

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    1. D most important thing is u understand wat he/she was talking about!

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    2. E no vex you reach me!!... my friends think 'm over doing it!! I keep teaching them! Pheew! ... had, have, has- been.... even with the -ing, they still dunno it's usage! Pheew!

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    3. Why didnt u write d correct way of using it here? Wats the point of u correcting them now? As useless as "p" in pschology

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    4. That it's simple for you doesn't make it simple for another person. Mrs English like you, love more and stop hating. Nobody mentioned Tonto in this post and stop killing yourself out of jealousy,she doesn't know that you exist

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    5. Nna ehn, the shit frustrates the hell out of me. That being been own, the loose and lose. I'm just so effing disgusted that even graduates, lots and lots of graduates make these mistakes

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    6. It makes me wonder too. But the thing is, once you dont grab the basic concept of these things in primary and junior secondary school, you will never know it again. Good educational foundation is important..

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    7. Abeg dey one side...who English epp?
      Miss/mr know it all

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    8. The one that annoys the shit outta me is "stuffs, am instead of I'm"
      If you are a guy claiming to be correct and we're chatting. ...once I see that mistake, it means you are razz beyond repair.

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    9. Emmys bae you're right. And the annoying thing is when you correct them, other illiterates come voltroning and abusing you. This is what is killing Nigeria. Instead of taking correction, we celebrate the illiteracy.

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    10. Emmy's Bae u dun said it all( and no it's not a mistake!)
      Faulty foundation! That's why it's so hard for people to comprehend. It's tiring and it's only gonna get worse cos some of these people writing n speaking bad English are teachers. Wetin dem dey teach? Hian

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    11. English language usage died a long time ago in Nigeria. Like somebody said upfront, once you miss the basics in the early foundation years, you can't get it right anymore.

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  13. Ogbeni mufu onife adaba..u ave tried..though its not so easy bt one just need to remember that,this life is not smooth,u need a sandpaper to work it out#lol#

    Mc pinky

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  14. And dats how someone told Potable Viv to please spare us a day without gbagauning 😂😅 chia! La wa o! Potable over to u, 😆

    Kelvin dat Edo Boi ( Stellz cousin )

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    1. Lol!
      I still can't get over laughing at that your statement ;" spread mouth like shower curtain". Chai

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    2. And that's d topic on ground? Portable viv? Get over urself abeg, u ain't any better.

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    3. U dis bitter Ikorodu geh thought u were supposed to be teaching? Common waltz away from here! Teacher teash me nonsense

      Kelvin dat Edo Boi ( Stellz cousin )

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    4. Teeacher. Ah e ku lu tempa. Hope say no be so you dey bite your students for school o.
      There no be blog o.
      And you know say students sabi name their teacher well well, we sef we do am loll.

      Small time you go dey hear Teacher Nkita behind your back or Biology Viper or Chemistry Carnivore.
      Calm down it is well with you.

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    5. Lmao @ bite your students for school. Hahahahaha wicked people all over

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    6. If Eka is truly a teacher, I worry for the kids she will be teaching. Dem go hear fire. Dem go dey call her bitterleaf Belle teacher. Make I run off before Eka bite my nose.

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    7. Hahahahahaha.

      This my teacher onise work don dey give ppl sleepless night oh. Make una calm down oh, na chingiri money dem dey gimme, e no reach to hate.

      Ps. The kids love me. Choke on that.

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    8. Ah Teesha@eka Joy, hate you ke? What do you have that anybody will hate you for?
      Money? No?
      Married? No.
      Car? No.
      Property No?
      Well paying job? No.
      Own home/apartment? No.
      Anybody who will still hate you after all this is sick na.
      Abeg, make you just no bite your students no im me dey talk.
      Because na you hate yourself pass.

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    9. But Eka if u see love will u even know it? Please don't damage those children, please.
      All those schools that will be paying monkey nuts as salary because you know you have unqualified staff,God will judge you.

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    10. Hian! Na so trailer dey take jam pesin for inside motor park. Them call potable Viv, eka Joy raise neck triumphantly like agama lizard answer 'Present!' You don defend urself finish wey you wan dey defend another person? Pesin wey no kuku well like you? Always poking your wrinkled snout in what does not concern her. Stella abeg dey check newspapers headlines carefully these next few weeks boya you will see:
      Frustrated Ikorodu Female Teacher sets Principal, V.P, Hausa Teacher on Fire.

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  15. Nice piece

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  16. Couldn't read all. My mum didn't give birth to me cos of anybody n vice versa! If it's not working, we bounce onto d next! Stop holding onto hopeless hope. Alex go make money n stop whining over a woman.

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    1. Ur kinda person won't be fateful in a relationship. U think it's easy to move on? Not everyone is created with a flexible heart. Some of us are soft hearted n pure.

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    2. Sweet Heart, I am not broke. Come to Golf Estate off Peter Odili Road... A trial will convince you.

      ***Sideeye*** @Stella 😘😘😘👍

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    3. Lol! No worry, by the time pple pack enter n occupy all d flats, u go hate d place.

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    4. People who think it's easy to swerve abi bounce off have never fallen in love. Wetin love dey cause eh? I dey fear to fall in love now.

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  17. O gini bu nkea? What is this now? I didn't read not only because it's too long but because it has everything to say above love that won't help you even after reading and assimilating.. odiro interesting biko

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    1. Hahahaha! My thots exactly. Peeps still be addicted!

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    2. Person like you nahi dey carry market money give their boyfriend.
      Fake ass Olori

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  18. Too long a read

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  19. Nice one... abeg who know seun egbegbe, pls tell him some1 is seriously crushing on him.. I haven't been my self since 1week now. Seriously imagining sweet tins wit him... na God comot toyin 4 me.. pls who get em contact?

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    1. Ayanma *wrinkles nose*

      Sherry's Daughter

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    2. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww

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    3. akunakuna asewo.na the range rover dey attract u,talk true.

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  20. Make una try they credit where una copy things from biko nu! Some parts of this write up were certainly culled from somewhere

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  21. You should talk about how to make money how to start up business etc . Every time heartbreak bla bla bla. Una no dey tire ? Chronicle is enough Stella gimme ihn

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    1. Go thank you o. I say make I just dey shut up and skip post, no time.

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    2. The thing Taya me oh seems there are lots of depressed people on this blog.
      It is either love,heart break,snoopin husbby this and that or snm.

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    3. I seriously need business idea that can metamorphis into billions on naira, not this make-up, cake business

      Wish Stella can do a post on this

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    4. Today nyansh. Tomorrow totoh.

      Una no like money? Una no like business? Every day I'm looking for love, Suzy B deleted me, please read, my husband dumped me, please help me beg etcetera. Abeg gerrrahia mehn.

      Please there are a few women on this blog who are business, entrepreneurship Focused. One or 2 articles a year on this won't be bad. Totoh matters is not my calling.

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  22. Who will love you will love who will go will go, abeg

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  23. Anon 13.30 , is seun egbegbe not that illiterate Toyin Aimhaku was unfortunate enuf to date.
    That claims he is "happily " married with 2kids whereas his on Toyin case like a dog dat has never fucked before. Giving interview untop d girl matter bcos he borrowed her Range rover, we no go hear word again.
    I wonder how a woman will see another woman come out from an abusive rltshp and they still go after the guy.
    Pls smone shld hook up dis anon with d guy. I wan read chronicles, yours will be part 1, 2, 3 I can't wait.

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  24. Only bitch niggas get addicted in relationahips

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  25. It is a poor useless vision less man dat will be crying if a woman leaves her.
    Rich guy like me only select girls

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    1. Hahahahahahahaha! Tumbles and fall, continues hahahahaha

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    2. Idiotic James. Rich what? A house boy who does not know his place.
      Keep dreaming on!

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    3. James please try and read before you post your comments. GOD BLESS!

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    4. Don't mind them @james. Broke lazy ass niggas begging a broke ass bitch. All they think about is fuck fuck and make babies they can't train, what a shame
      Millionaire like us don't play! Bitches be crawling!!


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  26. AprokoAproko observer we have hear. Oya run along.

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  27. I no fit come and die on top of person matter maka love naa.
    Who lose at the end of the day?
    In some cases like this, they end up abusing each other.

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  28. Can't never be addicted to relationship or any girl......I am only addicted to s*x and guess what i not afraid to say it....bcos I get it often

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    1. Henry never say never.. .....Are you single and ready to mingle?

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    2. I'll be here to read ur HIV chronicle and pls stop ranting no woman can fuck u.go and do ur home work.

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    3. U get it often from prostitute abi?

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    4. I don't even blame u,nitwit! I spit on any woman that so disrespects herself to sleep with a lizard like u even if she be ashawo ten ten kobo. Anumanu!

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    5. This tadpole needs attention so bad.eyaa.ppl pls stop acknowledging him

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  29. Love...love...love. Another love epistle. People just jump into love without first loving themselves. If you love yourself, you build a good confidence about yourself and there is a lot of shit you won't take no matter how much love blinds you.

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  30. People always get into trouble with love because of one basic reason. That reason is simply that people refuse to acknowledge the meanind of love. Now love has many meanings collapsed into two distinct meanings. One is love as emotion. Emotions are involuntary acts, acts you have no prior knowledge of and so no control of. Hence you fall in and fall out of this type of love. Every one has it with the opposite sex. With it alone, relationships(marriage or friendship) is destined end some day because it costs nothing to give or get it. The other one is love as an act. This is an act, a voluntary act. It doesn't just come to you, you voluntarily elect to do it. This indeed is what sustains a lasting relationship like marriage. It is the sacrifice you make to gain nothing but help or please the other person. The love that sustains a marriage is sacrifice you VOLUNTARILY CHOOSE for your partner even if nothing comes to therefrom to you. It in deed is the love that gives joy, satisfaction and fulfilment and not the love arising from feeling and affection. It is the decision that partners take to sacrifice without seeking gain that results in happy marriages. That means affection and feeling can cause relationship to being but only voluntary act of love sustains and makes marriage project worth completing

    Bvn member youngman

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  31. People always get into trouble with love because of one basic reason. That reason is simply that people refuse to acknowledge the meanind of love. Now love has many meanings collapsed into two distinct meanings. One is love as emotion. Emotions are involuntary acts, acts you have no prior knowledge of and so no control of. Hence you fall in and fall out of this type of love. Every one has it with the opposite sex. With it alone, relationships(marriage or friendship) is destined end some day because it costs nothing to give or get it. The other one is love as an act. This is an act, a voluntary act. It doesn't just come to you, you voluntarily elect to do it. This indeed is what sustains a lasting relationship like marriage. It is the sacrifice you make to gain nothing but help or please the other person. The love that sustains a marriage is sacrifice you VOLUNTARILY CHOOSE for your partner even if nothing comes to therefrom to you. It in deed is the love that gives joy, satisfaction and fulfilment and not the love arising from feeling and affection. It is the decision that partners take to sacrifice without seeking gain that results in happy marriages. That means affection and feeling can cause relationship to being but only voluntary act of love sustains and makes marriage project worth completing

    Bvn member youngman

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  32. Interesting...just after reading the subject...the 'solution' was in my head as a thought..but I continued reading because the article was written with a lot of insight and understanding...and just when I thought I was through with the well written interesting epistle...there it was...the solution...that three letter word...right at the bottom... (God)...and then i started wondering...why was the the most important thing put right at the bottom.......... Judging by the level of the writer's understanding, it's easy to tell that it was a deliberate act to keep the reader from getting bored at the beginning and altogether leaving the post. Well done.


    As much as it may seem that more women are in this position, it is actually common with both men and women. What is described as love addiction here...isn't exactly an addiction to love...and has nothing to do with love...but rather a selfish experience that results in the constant feeling of completeness around an individual or object...which keeps you hooked to that thing or person. This can be very destructive and has its root in selfishness and is really the opposite of love but self satisfaction.

    I could go on on this topic but my comment might be too long...so let me stop here :)


    Yours truly,

    Enigma.

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  33. I understand Charles... I have an ex-bf that I got addicted to and I realised that he s only interested in his ex-gf's...broke up with him and he has been paying me more attention.. Although I still love him...I cannot continue like that...with all my failed relationships...it sometimes makes me question if I'll ever find love..like seriously... Wat makes guys so clueless...almost drowned myself once but I bounced back...have given up on it but sometimes I envy people wen I see them so happy...but anytime I fall for a guy...I just know that he s wrong for me and it always end up being true...so right now...I wanna just love myself...so that I can state wat I want if m gonna get into another relationship and not take less from anybody... If you need someone to talk to who understands...just drop your pin...m d shy type...can't drop mine but if you are like me(shy too)...I hope you make it out of the state you are in now...

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  34. Anonymous 13:12 are you a fool, you want to rubbish yourself cos of cabashing and big blokos.

    Keep on wasting your cookies ewu beekee.....

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  35. I remember 6 yrs ago I was so obsessed with my guy I lived and breathed him.he left me in the worse way even though he kknew how much I needed him.i cried prayed held my head high and walked away.i left him alone since begging only made him hate me the more.one week ago I was passing in my car and saw a black dusty car,the driver was looking very unkempt and dirty,i glaced through the window lo and behold my ex!my hero back then,someone I thought I will die if he didn't kiss me!i shrieked!how did I manage to kiss that pig of a mouth?so ugly and I noticed he was short with flat head!his big mouth full im face,that mouth I let lick me over and over!He thought me all I know by the way,no be small shame catch me as I see am!choi,i knew den I needed help.if I could obsess over that dirty ugly thing back then,then I had a problem.im presently fasting so my eyes will clear.i still can't imagine falling for that man!dont be addicted to anything,move on if it fails!what lies ahead is greater than the former,even the bible says so.

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    1. Ever looked at your ex and was like was I drunk the wholetime ?? I can relate lol

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    2. You sound like my sister. Once she saw her ex boyfriend and her word was"na dis person I fall in love with? How manage? I deserve an award". Lol

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    3. My dear as in ehen! Looking back I fall my hand, sometimes I just laugh at myself. I'm glad I walked away. GOD takes away seemingly good things to give us better things.

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  36. Soo true... Every bit of it!!! Going through same but healing anyways! Thanks for sharing!! Made me feel im on the right path

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  37. When you can stop,you don't want to and when you want to stop,you just can't.

    The first step towards getting of that quagmire is to focus inwards.Put your life goals in view.Love yourself,you are all you've got...

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  38. Love, a strange yet beautiful feeling that makes you do things never planned for, well ave learnt that giving all ur heart to a guy means him taking advantage of that fact, loving oneself is the first step to happiness

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  39. Love, a strange yet beautiful feeling that makes you do things never planned for, well ave learnt that giving all ur heart to a guy means him taking advantage of that fact, loving oneself is the first step to happiness

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  40. Hahahahaahahahahahahahahahhaahhaahhaahahahahahahahahhaahha. Stella you are wicked lol. BOOM!!! a call or text comes in lwkmd. But that is the truth and that moment, that tin will start saying; just agree na! remember he spends silly on you or she gives you a great fuck lol.

    Well, I leave it for those finding love.

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  41. Present twice...
    Teenage feelings, I now kno why my Moma use to say book first, teenage shd never fall in love its dangerous felt like dis 4 a girl I thought i loved. She used de hell out of me and dumped my silly blind ass back then. Now she is a mother of 3 far older dan her age married to a driver I heard she owns a shop in a market. I just cant stop wondering how I ended up wanting to die on top her mata. I started praising God after seeing her for delivering me from dat kpese. I even offered her a lift 'n she declined. What a world?

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