“ I found condoms in my wife’s bag and she could not give a satisfactory explanation how she came about it,’’ an estranged hubby told an Ibadan Customary Court just as the court dissolved the seven-year-old marriage on Tuesday.
A Mapo Customary Court dissolved the union between Sikiru Alabi and his wife, Basira, on the grounds of prostitution and adultery. Alabi, an automobile mechanic in Popo Yemoja area of the metropolis had approached the court, seeking an end to his marriage to Basira, a hairdresser at Idi Arere area of the city.
The President of the court, Mr Ademola Odunade, said cheating on the part of a husband or wife was “deadly’’. He ruled:“It is in view of the circumstances surrounding the issue at hand that the court decided to put an end to the relationship between Alabi and Basira.
“Alabi shall take custody of the five and a half year-old child produced by the union, while Basira should be free to see the child in court anytime she wants.’’
The husband told the court:“Nemesis caught up with her recently when I met a man on her deeply engaged in sexual intercourse right in my house. “I was mad, but Basira quickly pleaded with me, promising not to do it again.
“Though, I forgave her, but she is still neck deep in adultery.’’ Alabi said Basira was also engaged in prostitution and had continued to rain curses on him and his relatives for her adultery. Basira, however, did not deny the allegations, saying:“It is true that there is no more love between I and Alabi.’’ Basira pleaded with the court to grant her the custody of the child after dissolving the marriage. (NAN) .
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Na wah!.....She could have at least denied it to save face nau!
Stella if she you would have believed her. You always take side with women when it comes to marital issue. You wouldn't have believed the man come rain come shine.
ReplyDeleteEnd time denial
DeleteHmmm, the proverbial "Iya Basira". I bet she also has the legendary 50 inch bakassi and massive bobbi.
DeleteAdultery is a no no. Couples should learn to talk with each other so as to trash issues out always. Issues built up unresolved leads to strange actions.
DeleteEnd time marriage.
DeleteMost of this Ibadan women and ladies aren't loyal at all. It's better they parted ways before she ends up killing the man cuz of her concubines.
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...yet they will open their mouths and say only men cheat. Oya make una come defend this one
ReplyDeleteprostitution mbanu! but cheating is not such a big deal anymore, women are starting to realize that it isn't men's sole right to have other partners outside their marriage. Also, not everybody marries for love, so when u emotionally connect to someone else apart from your husband, what do u do?
ReplyDeleteWhat u do is leave the marriage honourably
DeleteWheel u emotionally connect, u sleep with d person until u r caught.
DeleteYou need to ping your ancestors so they can restore your brain memory.
DeleteAt least she uses condom!
ReplyDeleteIs unfair. .no matter what full custody should be given to the mother.
ReplyDeleteFor what? So that she will raise another prostitute.
DeletePerson we Dem catch red handed deny keh
ReplyDeleteThe truth is cheating is sweet.. ...since my partner refused to pay my dowry and two kids, my body is not for him alone. I cheat randomly while he cheats too not knowing I'm the baddest. Lol
DeleteHe knows you are fucking around period.
DeleteJames, Pls, na beg I dey. Forgive the language people. Lol
ReplyDeleteNa waa
ReplyDeleteShe loves dick like me! Imagine me dragging n fighting for another married man's dick! Cox it takes me there, washes me well lik using hypo on plates choiiii God deliver me
ReplyDeleteGood for them
ReplyDeleteMarried whore.
ReplyDeleteTufiakwa
ReplyDeleteGoodluck to both parties as they go their separate ways.
ReplyDeleteThe child will grow up without the love n care of both parents under one roof, which has its psychological effects.
Women can play the games Men play too. She does not need to deny nothing. She got caught. Period!!
ReplyDeleteI love men that are taken too.. ..
DeleteAnon we don hear u na..stop littering the post with your comments. If dragging another woman's husband is something to be proud of, you wouldnt be feeling guilty and asking God to deliver you.
DeleteRidiculous. Caught in her own home? Woman you are cursed.
ReplyDeleteStella abeg just do a post to correct married women on this blog. I am reading comments and thinking many of them are Whores! Dear God!!!
ReplyDeleteAny woman that cheats in marriage has no inkling what self respect and integrity is in the first place but find some because of yourself, your kids and the parents who raised you to honourably walk out of the marriage so you can go be a whore. Adultery is a stigma that might stick with your daughters "that one when them drive her mama for marriage because of waka waka".
Preach to the men! They are the genesis of it all.loyalty begets loyalty.If your wife cheats on you, then the man must be doing somethings wrong. No sane woman will like to lose her marriage or raise kids single handedly.
DeleteWhy so serious? Madam, relax jor, many married women on this blog just say naughty things to get the men to sit up and be loyal. They do not really mean it. I am an example, I have said some naughty things I can't be caught dead doing. This blog is where my alter ego lives so don't take whatever you read here seriously.
DeleteSweetie, there's nothing new under the sun. Adultery isn't a new practice among married women. Even in the Biblical era, case in point, Portiphar's wife. If Joseph didn't have the fear of God in his heart, he would have been her lover. A lot of married women, even before the 13th century, kept both male and female lovers. The influential ladies even kept male servants for "recreational purposes" with the knowledge of their husbands.
DeleteWhy it now seems so perplexing is due to the fact that women are becoming more daring and desensitised because of a loveless marriage or abuse. While some indulge purely for sexual gratification.
I don't endorse adultery, not in the least but I always appreciate honesty. Isn't it better to fess up and own your treachery than to keep waving the flag of false piety? If you are disciplined enough to honour your marital vows, I honestly thank God for your life but be mindful of the fact that some adulterous wives were once among those who skinned alive women caught committing adultery. Some could swear with their lives that they would NEVER commit adultery and they meant it at that time but somewhere along the way... Viola!!! all it takes is a moment of weakness. That's why OUR LORD'S PRAYER, though trite, remains the blueprint for daily prayers, especially the "lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil" verse. My darling, everyone has their story. It doesn't justify adultery but it may give you a better perspective on why people do what they do.
A post admonishing married women involved in adultery will have little effect because there's no information that such ladies haven't heard, a large number of them go to churches or other religious places of worship. They know it's a sin that can actually end their marriages or worse, their lives but some are too far gone because it has now degenerated into an addiction. May God help us all.
Ohhhhh Ronalda I'm always looking forward to your comment. God bless your soul. If pple of this world can have the same understanding as you, this world will be a better place. I remembered the advice you gave to me on my chronicle.God continuely to bless your soul. And hope to meet you some day. I remembered your words, cheating is never the solution it wil only complicate issues. Sad to say I learnt frm my own experience. Cheating is not a solution to your marriage pblm my beloved BVs.. it will complicate issues for you and leave you tasteless.I'm not in the mood to type. Maybe some other time. But pls stay away frm cheating and occupy your mind with something productive. Sex is good but is not food and it's not worth the shame and embarrassment that comes with it when caught. May God restore all the devil has taken frm matrimonies..
DeleteXhlrted, cursed where? Abeg leave the woman alone, that's why I like an open marriage. I can't take any rubbish from any man, no man can't put me under pain with his cheating and nonsense attitude, I work with men in the office. What they do makes me see marriage as waste of time. Just as if they are cursed.so leave the woman.
ReplyDeleteOga if you were providing for her basic needs she wouldn't have become a prostitute. I'm pretty sure the kids survive on the proceeds while you contribute nothing. No sane married Nigerian woman would deliberately turn to prostitution unless push has come to shove. And yeah, can you swear you have been faithful to her?
ReplyDeleteIranu.
So a woman's decency is tied to whether her man is decent or not?
DeleteYou either have it or don't. I am tired of sluts blaming their actions on cheating husbands. I am a woman, I can never cheat on my husband...I'd rather walk away.
HMMMM PL I respect u for this comment
DeleteDo not mind the man, he don dey do him own waka waka Tey Tey. Those mechanics eh, they like women too much. The money wey dey suppose use take care of home dem go dey give women for outside.
DeleteAnon 12: 29, have you not heard that when you get married, you and your partner start having similar character.
DeleteIf your hubby is a cheat, it is only a matter of time the wife becomes one esp. If the wife still sleeps with the hubby. Reason is that he passes the spirit of those women he has slept with plus his own to the wife and she becomes possessed with the characters of these people. To confirm this, study pple with cheating spouses. Am I making sense?
Ur not. My hubby cheats. I can beat my chest I have not cheated on since eleven years of marriage to him.
DeleteShut up, your husband has been cheating why haven't you walked away? A man who cheats is a hero but a woman is a disgrace abi? I don't judge any woman who cheats till I hear her story...the fact he took her to court does not mean he is the innocent one....
DeleteStupid men cheat and expected not to be cheated on. My baby daddy refuses to marry me yet wants me to live with him and be faithful. And he cheats...collects number from every walking corpse he sees on the streets and be chatting to strange women. I have not cheated yet but i have big surprise waiting for him.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm may God help some women in this blog.
ReplyDeleteWomen women, cheating should be prohibited when you are married. Both partners should stay faithful to each other. When you know u can't b faithful to ur partner then don't date talk less of marriage. So disgusting.
ReplyDeleteTruth is as long as humans exists, not everyone will be faithful to their spouse. This is why one must be careful when choosing a life partner
DeleteMarriages this days na wa
ReplyDeleteAm just being objective and real here, a man cheats not with his heart or emotions involved. This is the reason a man can have an affair with as many women as possible but trully not in love with any. For him its just an act that just ends there. He knows where his heart belongs, his wife or his girlfriend. He loves his wife or girl with all his entire being. Men cheat but with their reasoning or thinking intact Unlike their female counterparts who rather cheat with their emotions, heart and soul involved. They lose it all, do not think straight anymore nor the consequencies of somethings they do. A woman cannot sleep with a man she hardly loves or likes, some how there must be a liking overtime before the very act. In summary, both sexes cheat differently with different consequencies. Though I'm not justifying the act of cheating neither are my trying to play the devil's advocate for the male folk, its just how it is in the real world.
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