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Friday, March 04, 2016

Ese Oruru,The Girl-Child And A Nation’s Shame

Three different incidents in the last week cast, poignantly, in bold relief the plight of the girl-child in Nigeria. Thanks to The Punch newspaper which launched the #FreeEse, #JusticeforEse campaign and the civil society groups that took up the fight in a spirited manner. 




With the outrage and outcry that followed, within 72 hours, this same 14-year old girl who was abducted from Yenagoa, Bayelsa state and taken to Kano, seven months ago, by one Yinusa Dahiru alias Yellow, is now free. While we were still grappling with this bizarre story, on Monday, a group of criminals stormed a school, Babington Macaulay Junior Seminary in Ikorodu, Lagos state and abducted three girls.  

        And if that was not shocking enough, on Wednesday, there was this other report about a 15-year old Benue girl, Patience Paul, who had been abducted by two neighbours and married off to a certain “Sarkin Musulmi” in Sokoto state. Her brother cried out, obviously motivated to do so by the Ese Oruru story.  Set against the background of the abduction of 219 Chibok girls in 2014, a story that is well known internationally, Nigeria must by now appear in the eyes of the world as a large den of sexual predators, who seem to be obsessed with young, under-aged girls, and the adolescent female.  


       The international community would be correct to conclude that something terrible is happening here. Indeed, can we blame any analyst who may soon conclude that a girl child is abducted, assaulted or violated per minute in Nigeria, and that Nigeria is not a safe place for either a girl child or a female? The sanity and moral temperature of a society should be measured by the manner in which that society treats its underprivileged and vulnerable members. 

The powerful trample upon the weak, the privileged despise the less fortunate; a long journey to Hobbes’ apotheosis, which is in truth a comment on the state of our development as state, country, people, and society. 


       It is instructive, for example, that the girls that end up being abused in the manner of the aforementioned are usually from poor backgrounds and perhaps this makes them specially vulnerable. But all the adult males who abduct other people’s daughters, marry them by force, put them in family way and convert them to Islam, not only make the entire country look bad, they give the rest of us a very bad name indeed. In the end, Nigeria is the victim, and this is why the various government agencies, which were in a position to make a difference when it mattered most in the Ese Oruru case, or similar cases, and failed to act, did the entire country a disservice.  In some other countries, certain persons would have honourably submitted their resignations. 


       But you can be sure, it won’t happen here.  The standard response in quarters that should be responsible is likely to be: “ah, wetin? So? “I beg”; Nigeria go stop because of one girl wey follow man?. And life will go on and go on, and the tragedy foretold gets moved to the future. Which is why the protesting small community of men and women with conscience, who have helped to rescue this one girl from sex slavery and forced conversion to a religion that is not of her choice deserve special praise. 


       The Ese Oruru case is a metaphor for the plight of the Nigerian girl-child. She is a living symbol of the assault on the integrity of the girl child and her hopes and aspirations in a deracinated, dispossessed and conflicted society.  She was taken away from her parents at 13 by a man who of course was well-known to her family as a tricycle rider.  Initial reports identified the abductor and tormentor as Yinusa Dahiru or Yellow, but from that moment, the story further got coloured by the usual politics of identity, ethnicity and religion. 


Yellow was branded “Kano man”. There were also references to a North-South cultural divide: a Northerner stealing a Southern child! And then of course, Ese’s conversion to the Islamic religion was a source of boiling anger - most abducted girls tend to be Christians. 


       There is also the role of the Emir of Kano in the matter.  Too many loud and silent indications: conflict between traditional and modern institutions, with particular accent on the relevance, influence, and undue superiorization of the traditional institution in the North, ethnic and regional dichotomy, power dynamics, distortions and historical fault lines and the power of the media, old and new, to change trajectories. No one should fail to notice in this entire saga, how Nigeria and its many ugly complexities are again, sorrowfully on display.  


But the more urgent and painful part is that the life of a young girl has again been scarred forever.  Ese could well have been one of the Chibok girls! Everyday, we are back to Chibok either as symbol, metaphor, painful reminder or elemental fact. 

      Mr Yellow not only abducted her and turned her into a Muslim, all without her parents’,  consent, he also allegedly put the girl in a family way. She is said to be five months pregnant. How sad and annoying. Perhaps if there had been a strong follow up mechanism in place at the Kano Emirate Council, the Emir’s order that she should be released would have saved her the ordeal of being turned into a sex slave. Perhaps if the police in the Kano zone had done their job, seeing that this was nothing but a crime in the eyes of the law, and they had remembered that the primary job of the police is to protect lives and property.  But sorry, they just all forgot! 


       There must be sanctions and civil society must not get tired of this case. There are many other Eses out there, whose future hangs in the balance because certain persons remain morally trapped in the Stone Age. The atrocities that have been committed against innocent children in this land, are despicable: in Ese’s case, her right to education was truncated, she had to miss her JSS 3 exam because a man was busy changing the course of her life; she was subjected to undue imprisonment, and now she is a child bearing a child.  


     It is shocking to say the least that some persons, carried away by religious and ethnic prejudices, chose to justify this madness. Now that the truth is known that she is indeed a minor, and that Yellow is an adult who took advantage of her, I hope such persons will be reasonable enough to apologise, hide their heads in shame and return filthy lucre. The point has been made ad nauseam that Yinusa Yellow must not be allowed to get away with his brazen crime. The Zimbabwean sit-tight ruler has recommended castration as punishment in this kind of context, but castration not being part of our extant criminal law, we take solace in the realization that there is more than enough in the statutes to put Yinusa Yellow away for a long time, to serve as a deterrent to his ilk. 

He should be tried expeditiously and a proper closure put to this particular case in line with natural justice, equity and good conscience. His accomplices if there are any, no matter who they are, should also be identified and made to face the full wrath of the law. 
      This is clearly a case of man’s cruelty to man. In an interview with The Sun, her innocence and vulnerability shine through, as compellingly as the madness of her tormentors.  She knows Yinusa as one of her mother’s customers who comes around to buy food at their shop, and she being with her mother at the shop knows and relates with everybody, without any special relationship with Yinusa. “He is not my boyfriend”, she tells us. “I just followed him. I don’t know how I followed him.” She says she doesn’t even know how she found herself in Kano. 

       She was obviously hypnotized or bewitched. Her kidnappers made her to recite lines she did not understand. They even gave her some strange water to drink. They changed her name to Aisha. She comes across as a child whose childhood and spirit have been polluted by wicked souls. When Ese saw her mother at the Emir’s palace during an earlier attempt to rescue her, she had been so polluted she could not even recognize her mother: “I just looked at her. I did not know her and I did not talk to her.”  

       She has now regained her senses enough to now ask her mother for “Banga soup and starch”, but there are many lessons involved. She offers advice, for example, to young girls like her: “They should be careful with the people they play with or talk with because it’s not everybody that is good.” Indeed, we live in a society where “not everybody is good” and that includes those callous ones who turned this episode upside down and spilled much ink trying to protect a fictitious Northern interest.  At stake is the human interest, and it is not geographical. 

       Child labour such as the type Ese was involved in, assisting her mother in her food vending business is, let’s admit, culturally correct in Africa, but it also comes with grave dangers. The children are exposed to risks and accidents: crazy customers who can’t keep their eyes or fingers off the female child labourer and kidnappers like Yellow who go the extra length. Parents must be careful. They must be vigilant. The need to survive and deploy all possible hands in the house may be given as an excuse, but the truth is that children lack such negotiating skills that could protect them in an adult context. Caution is the word. 

      The argument that obsession with children as brides is cultural and religious is the most unreasonable thing I have ever heard and to think that some of the most enlightened and privileged men in a part of our country are part of this, beggars belief. The girl child is a child, not a bride, not a sex slave: she deserves her rights to human dignity, access to education, freedom from discrimination, a decent life in a decent society and the right to fulfil her potentials as a human being and a citizen. From Chibok to Kano, to Ikorodu, to Sokoto in the episodes under consideration, we lament the shame of a nation, and proclaim the right of the girl-child to dignity. 
       
BY REUBEN ABATI


*Sigh* Poor Ese!.....So all those touch and go love charms really work?We also need to hear the Yellows side of the story and how he hatched and carried out such plan....
       

  

52 comments:

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    1. U re the problem of this generation!!I wonder what u teach ur kids..i pity the man dat married u..

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    2. Queen and Bus, if to say na story about sex or gossip now. You go finish am put Jara on top.

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  2. End time wicked kidnappers on d prowl

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    1. *wipes tear*

      GOD is this the society where I'll raise my children?

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  3. End time wicked kidnappers on d prowl
    Abating abati thanks for d "atiku"

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  4. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
    Enough of the exposure

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  5. √√√√√√√√√√√√!!!!! Apt! Keyamo should bring that his head let me knock it!

    Stella please,could you bring here her interview with sun news so that peeps will understand some lines he quoted?

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    1. Sorry I don't believe that her. Interview

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    2. Sorry i do. bottom line is that she is just 14

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  6. Well written!! My love for Reuben is on another level!! The girl child is strong, hardworking, intelligent and should be encouraged to go to school come out with good grades and even beat the male folks in all fields!! Train a girl child,u train a people blessed with good morals,community builders,strong supporters,good mothers,Good wife

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  7. Kudos Mr Abati.
    A wonderful write up.
    I am afraid that nothing will be done anytime soon. to stop this madness. bcos it is acceptable to hausa people to kidnap,forcefully convert and sexually molest christian under aged girls.
    Even Senator Yarima and his hausa muslim brothers sabotaged the attempt to end child molestation @ the Senate.

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  8. Oh,the plight of Parents!
    They need to work to put food on the table,shelter etc for the kids.
    Both parent ve to work cos the economy nowadays is tough.
    But who will take care of the kids? who will keep them protected from the predators out there!
    May God help us all!

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  9. Wo!
    You people should stop crying more than the bereaved bikonu!
    Una no see as she bend mouth with annoyance? Like pesin na just dey wait for who go look for her trouble?
    Abeg, I no fit shout!

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  10. Welldone Reuben , good write up.

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  11. Honestly those involve should be prosecuted. I read Ese's interview and her mother's, my head just dey big dey go dey go dey go...chai!

    She was kidnapped, raped, forcefully converted, given water with charms, forced to recite what she didn't know. Thank God she has started regaining her senses and I believe there are so many cases of Ese's out there not only that of Patience Paul in Sokoto.

    They would've killed her mother and their Emir didn't do anything until when he sensed the case will backfire, he quickly released one baseless letter.



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  12. Stella, it works. I was a victim some years ago. Hmmm, years gone but the scar still remains. Now this ese case opened the wound in my family again. Stella it's real. Mine was jigawa state. The emir is usually involved. I was at the emirate for months. Given water to drink and some things that I can't even remember till today to say. My parents came to the emir Palace with police and the rest hmmm I couldn't recognize them all I saw was my helpless parents crying. The emir said they should go that I belong to them. I watched my parents go in pains but couldn't talk. Stella mind you, I wasn't the only girl converted we were much. Ibos were the highest number. Many are still trapped till today. This act has been going on secretly for years but thank God for the social media. Like Ese said, watch your friends especially if you live in the north. These northerners are desperately wicked!

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    1. Parents shld be very careful. So many of them and the authority can't do anything, turning them into sex slaves. I pray one day the reverse will be the case.

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    2. Wow!
      Had goose bumps reading this writeup and your comment anon.

      Hugs to you.

      Now I'm really begining to deeply hate Islam and Muslim men in general.
      I've been trying not to all along but I can't help it anymore.

      I'm forever grateful I was born a Christian.
      Would have been so embarrassed and ashamed if I wasn't.


      Thank God for you dear anon.
      I hope justice is served one day.

      Dear God, I commit my precious daughters into your able hands!

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  13. Northerners plus some sick non-northerners for u.

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  14. I am crying because the same also almost happened to me when i was about 13 years old coming from a church service on my own.
    the car pulled across me with a driver and a man at the back branding a Bible.
    I could not move, he said they were going to pray for a pregnant woman and asked if i knew the hospital, i innocently thought about the name of the hospital and knew i had never seen that hospital on that particular road so i said 'NO i do not know the hospital and he immediately said i should ask the woman coming, i just said No i wont...thinking why would he not ask the woman himself.
    I can never forget the woman's face or her eyes ...they were deep and hunting...she stopped in front of me and he asked her about the hospital, all this while i could not move or talk, she said she knew the hospital and she looked into my eyes, He then said good i should get in since i was going that way, he opened the back door and i got in, the woman opened the front door and got in.
    I did not know what was happening to me...all i remember was the car was slowly reversing and there was silence, i noticed the woman was taking something out of her bag in front,
    i just mumbled, 'SORRY I DO NOT GET INTO STRANGERS CARS'
    I opened the door whilst the driver was reversing on the move and got down and started to walk without thinking.
    I then looked back after a about 3 minutes and noticed they had zoomed off the other way with the evil woman inside the car..i remember wondering why they were going the other way when according to them the hospital was my way.
    I only understood what had happened when i almost got home when whatever they had used had worn out.
    THAT WAS GOD IN ACTION MY PEOPLE hmmmmmmmmmmm
    God will heal Ese, it was not her fault at all.

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  15. Hmmmmmm! May God forgive us all. May God judge this matter coz He is the only one who sees all and knows all

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  16. I read from start to finish and all I can say is, mr president if you're looking for Lai Mohammed's replacement you got him in mr Abati. His write ups since Gej has been wonderful especially this one, to the issue at hand, we know this case will not be handled properly as ought because of the religion and personalities of persons involved but the good thing is awareness is being created and people can now take up issues on the social media platform and results will still be obtained.

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  17. Lol Ese and her woodpecker inspired mouth

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  18. God bless u Reuben and more ink to ur pen. A big astounding shame to the so-called enlightened 'learned' fellows who tried to trivialize this issue and rationalise such a disgraceful occurrence.some people have refused to have a mind of their own.they see black and call it white,and vice versa.surely,they will have their comeuppance in due time.God heal ESE and thousands of other ESES' out there,and save the girl child from such abhorrent happenstances.

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  19. Started reading, stopped suddenly and I guessed right Reuben the bat. Not interested.

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  20. When I read the part where she said she just looked at her mom but said nothing at the first attempt her mom made to rescue her,i cried silently.
    This is wickedness. Man's inhumanity to man. She didn't even know how she got to kano. I hope and pray they bring justice speedily to Yinusa and his kind.
    Great write up Sir.

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  21. Unfortunately once I see the name Reuben Abati, I just can't forget how stupid he sounded on various occasions defending Jonathan.

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  22. haba why young girls gist everywhere?

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  23. This is a very good write up and from the comments, we can see that this is a common occurrence. Parents, please learn to be a "mean" mum or dad. Protect your wards. We all know that God is the ultimate protector sha. As for the Emirs, what do they mean by "she belong to us now"? Chineke ekwe kwa na ka ngwere gbaa agii. A pikin wey i born belong to una wu ndi ebe? I am just sooo pissed and these so called Emirs are even educated. If i ask my Kano ex-friend now he'll have so many justification for this evil act. God help us.

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  24. This brought tears to my eyes.
    Just look how some evil people just wake up change d course of a beautiful girl's life.a daughter u laboured to have.and have high hopes n big dreams for.

    May the perpetrators of this crime and its type see no good.

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  25. We preach what we do not practice. No matter what happens, a child should not be made to labor for the income of the household. I understand that things are tough but our children are not our laborers. Not especially in times like these where the perverseness and wickedness of man is on another level. A child can assist in certain ways but never to the point where they are left to negotiate or liaise with total strangers. Even the familiar ones are home are not to be entirely trusted much less an outsider. Parents need to protect their children. I commend Ese's parents for fighting for their daughter. I pray that the family receives the right kind of counseling particularly Ese needed to move forward from this horrific experience. God bless Nigeria.

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    1. Until you become a parents my dear. Is not a crime that Ese helps her mum in her food vendor. Do you know what the mum suffered to fend for the family? Do you realise the hardship in this country presently? What is the need of paying someone to assist when her children has grown up to a helping stage. It is not their fault at all.

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  26. Hmmmmmmmmmm, this is really sad thank God for the poor girl. I just hope that all the people involved in this shameful act will be brought to book. These Northerners are animals with there wicked and diabolic religion and belief. God will punish all of them,from Yellow to the Emir and all the people that tried to cover up this story by manipulating the story. And God bless Ese's parents for not giving up on her.

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  27. I always respect Reuben Abati's write up. Reference to Anonymous 10:54 and 11:03, the present government should do something about the allegations. DMI or spys should be sent to monitor the Emir's palace. Sounded like its a way back thing but God had decided to expose them now. It will never be well with all involved in this evil act.

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  28. There's nothing bad about the parents, she has good up bringing, if her parents are bad they would have forgotten her.

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