Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

The only thing that can trap a man is LOVE......

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

PREGNANT BUT HE WONT PUT A RING ON IT

Good day Stella.

I started dating this guy last year around October last year although

I've known him for like a year. He was very nice to me. We clicked

instantly, he showed me love, talked about the future and stuff. The

problem now is I just found out I am one month pregnant. I don't want

to have an abortion but anytime I try to talk about it with him, he

says anything I decide. He is very well to do and can take care of me

till I put to bed. All I want is for him to man up and take

responsibility but I don't understand why he is acting this way. I was

with him some days back and he was begging me to keep the baby. Now,

he is just cold towards me. He doesn't want to talk about the

pregnancy. He always say he’s tired. I'm so confused, I don't know

what to do. I'm 22 while he is 29. I'm in my finally year in the

university. Please Stella I need advice. I'm so confused.

Thank you

You can click instantly by also using condom!..you should have thought about all these before!!...I just tire !!!

you cant force him to accept the baby,make plans to keep it,he might prolly come around when he sees you dont need him.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CAREER OVER BABY?
Stella. Just so confused. I have to say this for sincere

advice from fellow blog readers. Will be as brief as possible.

I got married to my husband, a military officer, March last year after

getting pregnant with my baby girl at age 23 after I graduated from

the University. I was a 2 term beauty queen. He really wanted the

pregnancy so much that I had no other option than having the baby as

he was 30 then. So, I had to shift my NYSC till after delivery. He's

the man any sane woman will ever want to have as a husband. He's too

kind, generous, humble, just to mention a few.

Due to the current state of insurgency in the country, he has been in

Maiduguri since the inception of the relationship but we converse well

on the phone and anytime he's on pass, I go to Lagos to meet him.

Throughout the pregnancy, I was all alone in his father's house. No sex

throughout since he wasn't granted pass all through and his sisters

that were at home were showing me the doors to hell and all these I

told him (hubby). He had to quarrel with them cos I was at his dad’s

house and he entrusted me with them but it was the other way round.

The baby was breeched throughout and I delivered her from her buttocks

(such an unbearable pain). After all odds, I delivered in September

and hubby was the happiest man on earth and he had an elaborate party

for the baby. Lots of people gave me huge cash and gifts items. He

even bought me a Toyota muscle. Meanwhile, my Mother-in-law never gave

me a pin as gifts for the baby all in the name of I’m fighting with her

daughters.

On the naming ceremony day, all his siblings were in their room

playing. They never came out for the party though MIL was taking good

care of my baby so well which baffled me. After naming, my hubby went

back to work and I was still there with his family. 

January this year, my hubby came home and we relocated to Abuja. After some days, my baby girl got ill and within a few days, we lost her. After mourning, I

registered for my NYSC so as to go with this March batch.

 I wanted to go serve at Nigerian breweries (that's where I did my industrial

training and I was good) so they granted me the letter to come back

for my NYSC. Yesterday, I found out that I was pregnant again and

can't go to brewery for NYSC. Don’t even know how it happened. Thought

I prevented it enough.

Please blog readers, is it not too early to get pregnant again and

besides, don’t I need to face my career too. Thinking of terminating

it and getting pregnant when I’m set and that’s after my NYSC and

maybe during my master’s program. I have not told hubby I’m pregnant.

Please advise me. Plus the family are good to me now after losing my

baby. Meanwhile hubby is back serving at Maiduguri now. The fear of

carrying the pregnancy alone again. Please just advise me. Thanks.

ARE YOU CRAZY?Maybe when you experience the pain and fear of women trying to conceive you will never ever think about abortion.My friend keep your baby!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE

LAZY HUSBAND DRIVING ME NUTS

Good day Stella. Hope this meets you well. I’m a regular blog visitor and I want to plead anonymity.

I’m a young lady in my late 20's, married to a young man in his early 30's and I have 2 young kids; 3 and 1 year plus respectively.

The issue I have is my husband rarely does anything around the house .Anyone who has kids especially pre-school age knows how energy depleting it is to have young kids running around and scattering all the time.

We both work and I’m a professional. I leave the house between 8 and 8:30 am (thanks to my new job) as against when I had to be at work at a specified time. I have a nanny who just came barely a month ago and is still unable to meet up.

DH comes home after a stressful day at work, browses after he eats till he goes to bed. The next morning, he will wake up, do exercise and next thing is he wants his food set by past 6 am. Meanwhile, I also need to exercise as well. 

Once he sees me wearing my jogging outfit, he will start frowning as if to say “where is my food?” I have to prepare my kid for school, do 1 or 2 other things in the morning including assignments yet he does nothing. Even when there’s food already prepared, just to dish it when I’m busy with the kids, he won’t. He will call me to leave whatever I’m doing to dish his food. He tells me EVERYTHING is a woman’s job.


African men have this mentality that a woman is supposed to attend to house chores and their food.You settled for that so deal with it.Get a house help to help you out and stop complaining.Organise your life as a woman and stop to depend on a man.it will not work out!
How can i even forget to tell you that men in some areas are indeed the weaker s3x.lol