Na waaaah!!!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
FAMILY BROUHAHA
Good day Stellz,
Thanks so much for these platform given. Am a blog visitor and I sometimes comment as the spirit leads lol. Please am in a cross road and want to seek advise from you and BV's. Please permit me cause am kinda confused as I type this and kindly bear with me cause my chronicle is a bit long
Am from a polygamous home wit three wives and 10 children, am the 5th born and the only one from my mum, growing up was hard as in hard but it didn't define me, I made some mistakes along the line though and I must say experience is the best teacher. That aside, to the main reason of my rant, having struggled to finish school which was when they finally recognised me as one of their's , job wasn't forth coming, though I worked for sometime before my dad asked me to return back to Lagos so he could secure a better job for me here in lagos.
I did as instructed 'as per obedient girl' now its almost a year nothing is looking like it, less I forget out of the 10 children only three are in Nigerian cos one was sick and the other still schooling, also note that none is permitted to work anywhere less than a civil servant job.
My dad gave me a plot of land while i was working only for him to sell it, promising to give me 2 plots in return or give me the cash to decide on what to do with it. Problem started when my mum called my dad that she's willing to give me a shop in one of her house and since the biz I intend doing will cost me 1million which is almost same amount dad got from the selling of the plot of land, that was when the whole trouble began, note that the document of the land was already given to my mum and was returned by her which I feel gave her the right to ask him.
my dad's response was,''whats your business with whatever I give to my child'', as though that was not enough the second time my mom called him was last month and she was vexed to alter some words about the ill treatment have been facing from the family that aside from education this would be the only thing he will ever give to me and he collected it back.
She also stated the obvious that he treats some children better than some.could you believe the same day my mum made this statement was the day my elder step sis died, she has been sick for almost 3yrs now ooo that we don't know the root of the sickness, my father called me the next day that he feels it was my mom who killed his favorite child.
He said he doesn't want to see me nor my mum again.
Please BV's what should I do cos am losing it, note that I have always been independent, started working at an early age without my dad knowing, I am not depending on my parent's wealth am just tired of waiting for a job to come so I feel biz will be okay for now and I can say that I have never known my mum to be dubious in nature she brought me up in Christ. Stella you ain't left out I need a word from you and please hide my email id.
Thanks advise is all I seek not curse.
If your Father doesnt want you around,then leave and go and face business,I am sure when he cools down he will realise he accused you and/or your mum wrongly.Please do not involve yourself in your parents brouhaha cos you dont know how they met.
You are probably the product of a side chick turned wife and such kids are never wholly accepted into the Family,so deal with it and move on and try to get it right.
I would advise you to face business and take what your mum has offered you.All the best.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
NO MORE LOVE!!!
Good day Angel Stella.my story is this and I need bvs to give their candid opinion.Stella please also use your red pen.
Been married for 4yrs...sex while we were dating was mind blowing.... We dated for 3yrs..after marriage every thing changed because I got pregnant immediately and work separated us...suddenly our sex life dropped.. Later caught him cheating and I forgave him cos of the love I had for him.
A lot of time I practically beg for sex...am 26 and DH is 36 And for 3 months now we haven't done it yet we sleep on the same bed.can't even remember the last time we shared a kiss.even after 2kids I still love him but cant stand his sight.I feel he is cheating ( I haven't snooped).but knowing my husband to love sex and can't resist my boobs and bum.now the problem spoke to my SIL and we decided on me paying more attention to my self..going out more...pretending like am dating...this got my husband making him all lovey dovey but any time he calls me by my pet name I feel irritated.
My question now is
1) have any bv been in my shoes..and how did you solve it.
2) how do I love him back.(mind you no maltreatment of any form,just this issh
WHAT DO WOMEN REALLY WANT?I dont understand!!!
You wanted him to pay you attention and he is doing that now and you are irritated?what am i supposed to tell you?Forgive him and ask God to cleanse your heart...As for the cheating part,if he has changed then stop using the past to haunt the future if its not positive.
You sef,if he doesnt touch you in bed,make you touch am now........lol
Chronicles done land ...
ReplyDeleteEaster chronicles
DeleteGod will surely fix it!
Poster1 I believe you are a man, pls man up and get a grip.
DeleteYes your father is rich
Yes the country is hard
Yes you should Broad as well
Look its expectations that leads to disappointments.
Just accept yourself as a normal struggle adult without parent money and u ll see yourself doing better.
If it comes eventually fine, if not its fine.
Good luck.
Poster 2 cheat so you can be even then you ll look at him differently
Kai today's Easter,
DeletePoster2 scratch that...
Just forgive n the anger ll be lifted from you.
And be fast about it too
Poster one take wot ur mother has to give u and move on.
DeletePoster two. He does pay attention wahala. He now pays attention more wahala. R u sure ur not d one whom ur husband should be sending a chronicle about??
Stella I don't agree with what you said about poster 1, I hardly comment but this got me.I'm from a polygamous home too and my mother is d first wife, I can say my dad prefers his 2nd wife's children to d children my mother gave birth too, he even makes it obvious and we don't stay 2geda o, he stays with dem for reasons best known to him cuz I knw my mom has a plain heart.so don't say it bcos her mum was a side chick, men r not just predictable. Dear my advice for u is to face ur career, hustle so ur children can av a better future, ur father wld realize his mistakes and come bk begging wen i become successful. Stella pls post my comment, thanks...
DeletePoster two, dis is what happens when u rush into marriage wit someone so much older than u. Deal with the life. U chose, u. Prolly. Grew out. Of love
DeleteEaster chronicle...
ReplyDeletePoster 1.. Give your father some time to cool down
DeletePoster 2.. Make him stop giving you attention
Hmmm. It is well.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord.
Poster 1 many polygamous men act just like your dad.
ReplyDeleteThey want to be in control of everyone both wives and kids.
You are the one who is now old enough to release yourself from his stronghold.
You are through with school if business isn't coming up then look for a job while you save till you have enough to start your business.
Do not join issues with your parents.
Your mum is his wife and should know how to handle her husband.
Pray also and stop waiting for anyone to give you before you can eat.
Civil service job or not, get something doing.
All the best.
Poster 2 God will help you married women.
Everyday I get so weary of getting married because I don't envy you people and your sad tales.
Talk to your man and find out what exactly you want.
You push a man out then complain.
When he comes back, you do the same thing.
Men want to be babied too, why not pay him attention too and quit whining.
Doppelgänger you are just a judgemental bitch.....how did she push him out? Did I read where she said he cheated? Who made that stupid theory about men wanting to be babied? Poster it's very obvious u have not forgiven your husband for cheating....no matter what u do a man who wants to cheat will so all this stupid advise to women should stop....no law says a man should also not do what will keep a woman...the bible says men should love their wives so how come people are not harping on men loving their wives? Instead all u hear is women do this or that to keep your man...not all men cheat, so if u are married to a cheating partner not ready to change please move on...
DeleteKeep deceiving urself! It takes only the fear of God to make a man faithful. That stupid boy down there, always tend to misbehave.
DeletePoster 1:Please face the business you are already into...most ppl do not even have the opportunity of what your mum gave you.Your father is not your God.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:Please always start the romance cos most men sabi do guy with that their dick especially when the urge don hold u wella.Try to forgive him and allow the lovey dovey.
Postet2: you've not forgiven him
DeleteForgive him and enjoy your marriage
Poster1: let him be when you become successful he will come begging
If your man likes sex and he hasn't touched u, it means he has a side chic. Not easy to forgive such a DH
DeletePoster 1 disown your father and move on since u are independent.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 start dressing sexy. Wear bom short in d house and cook sweet delicious food. Finally be prayerful. Hope u are not an mgbeke
You single girls all feel it starts and ends with dressing sexy; wearing bum shorts. You don't realize this is someone who sees you naked everyday and in reality feelings drop. You need God to help you to be a loving wife to a not so loving husband and watch him change. Bum shorts don't work otherwise there will be no cheating husband's cos most of us wear skimpy, bum shorts, name it.
DeleteMe sef tire oooo
DeleteThere's more to wat meets d eyes...in as much as 'eye must chop'.
Mariage deep oo and d parties involved ve diff personalities.
Moreover, it's like an arithmetic wit diff formulas.
I love you anonymous! All these little girls making stupid comments.
DeleteI am from a polygamous home too I will advice u to give your dad some long yard. Though I am not a product of side CHiCK sha cos my mum was and still his first wife and she's my dad only traditional and legally married wife!
ReplyDeleteEven if your mum is the only legal wife that doesn't make dad's other children bastard. So far he accepted them, all of you will be treated equally.
DeleteWho ask you? Yimu
DeleteIMO stell shouldn't have said he/she is probably the product of a side chic turned wife.
DeleteBe fooling yourself.....other kids are bastards and in the eyes of the law not recognized.....before God as humans they are but only the legally married wife is recognized as wife before God...poster face your life and forget your dad...give him respect as your father dats all....Stella cos he is neglected does not mean his or her mum is side chick....some times the legal wife and first wife suffers the maltreatment when they bring home new wife....some men are just irresponsible and its women who marry them that I blame
DeleteI agree with you greene
DeleteSays who please @in d eyes of d Law?
DeleteDo u know anything about Acknowledgment?
Custom varies from place to place n people.
Guiding principle in customary law is equity n good conscience. Once it meets up, it's OK n Valid notwithstanding d kid(s), side chick turned wife,...
Thanks
*natural justice, equity nd good conscience.
DeletePoster 2 : solve your problem yourself
ReplyDeleteNaija women always feel it's the men duty to always initiate sex! My dear if he no touch u abeg rape am! Give him a mind blowing BJ.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind most of them, always want to feel like he's still asking them out, & they'd believe he can't get enough of them, well as good that feelin may be, marriage tears that certificate after a couple of yrs, the love & passionate sex tends to wane with the weather, then the see finish syndrome sets in, only a few gallant couple survive this erotion, and still have rock hard erection each time they see their wife naked, even if she's just changing from office clothes to casual, a glimpse of her undies turns them on, i had a colleague in my former office, we found feminine undies in his suit pocket on 2 occasions, without confronting him, we labelled him a freak, but hey that's his fetish, and we're damn sure it belonged to his wife, judging from the size of the panties & wifey is also on the plus size, besides he dsnt just shut up from singing her praises, in a weird way, she's actually lucky to have a man waltz around town with his wifes used undies in his suit pocket, after 3 noisy kids from marriage. So if u don't have a "freak" for a DH, and he dsnt stand attention to ur nudity, even while showering together, don't feel worn out, its just obeying a vital law of gravity, no harm done assisting with ur hands & tongue. *Korode winks*
DeletePoster 1: face your life. Leave ur dad alone. He'll come back. Go and start your business or get a job. Move your ass
ReplyDeletePoster 2: stella, it's not as easy as u think. At times, the relationship gets so annoying u wish u can kill the person
Problems of polygamous home. May God guide u.
ReplyDeletePoster two, since everything ur husband's does irritates u, pls pack out n let someone enter n managed it. Lol
ReplyDeleteThough,this chronicle is a fiasco but u(blackberry).u are a fiend and infact not even a fiend bt a flotsam
DeleteWhat kinda word is dis? Do u wish to manage it for her?tell us so we speak to her for u#amupagi#
Mc pinky
Hahahahahaha @amupagi...lol. Totsi.
DeleteAdeniji, no matter the grammar you try so hard to write, you always end up confused.
DeleteCalm down.
@Quicksilver,u don start abi,u want drama abi..no wahala..make we start now..let's do it in the subsequent bulletin
DeleteMc pinky
Seriously BlackBerry, am sure this is a serious matter with kids involved. Don't treat it trivial. @Poster 2, pray to God to give you a heart of flesh.
DeletePost 1, yur own self, u get papa wey recognise u, try talk with any of your older siblings since they are out side Nigeria if they can help you with something to start up with
ReplyDeletePost 2, bring for God to give u d spirit of love
POster2, one thing dh and I do without knowing even when we are beefing each other is peck. When he wakes up in the morning the kisses my cheeks and say gudmorning love. I respond. Even when there is tension in the house we try not to remember our names. My neighbors do ask me my husband's name because you can never hear me call his name. It's always baby dis, sweetie dat, love this and so on.
ReplyDeleteIf you've forgiven ur hubby then u should free ur mind.
Wear sexy lingerie with high heels and twerk for your husband. Rock his world. Put your boobs and bum to action and get your man back. Can you cook? Make efo riro for him.
My man can never cheat. Never! Wetin sef?
Poster 1, you should be happy it's just you and your mom. Make the best out of anything you can. Husband go soon come and you will forget your dad and his problems.
Hmmmmm@ Stella's comment.
Lol@ my husband can never cheat, yimu... Never vouch for an erect penis, it has little or no sympathy for the victim.
DeleteNice one dia..
DeleteMc pinky
Nwa amaka in her dream world, lmao. Dream on babe!!!
DeleteAll my husband friends call me the pet name we call our selves. Even my neighbour's.. And that started when we had my baby's birthday party and the Mc asked my husband his wife name and he slipped and call my pet name
DeleteI don't think I have called him his name since we got married neither has he. Infact my son some times calls me the pet name.. So I wonder how that will irritate you madam..
MMarriage isn't easy. There are ups and downs. But when those down times comes, try and remember why you fell in love with him.
Men are babies. Handle them the way you will handle a child and you will have piece of mind. He doesn't initiate sex, then initiate it. When he is sitting and flowing something, just go there, bend down and unzip him and give him a good blow job. Play dress up, spice up your sex life. Be fit and trine please. Don't loose yourself because you gave birth..
Don't joke with your hair. Hair is the crown of a woman. Make nice hair. Lord knows I don't joke with this. Buy nice clothes. Not those type women in 60s rocked O.
IIfyou don't take care of yourself and sex him to stupor, some one else will do it and do it well. Men want to be pampered and babied. This is why side chick's win. Because they pamper this men and initiate different kind of sex with them
Be guided
Well said fab mum,i really wish I cld do all dese,but in all sincerity am tired of tryin,1st of all,hubby dumbed me wit his mum as her slave,bin married 4 yrs yet we hardly have serious talks except he wants to complain about his mum's reports,he does not want me to work yet he does not give me money,i make my hair once in a long while,he'll insult me dat my hair is smellin,i cook wit fire wood n wen I pass by he says am smellin,he's only lovin towards me wen he wants sex.Abeg I don tire.Av given up on d whole tin,am just here cos mum just died n if I decide to go Bak to my dad's house i'll break his hrt dat has not healed from his wife's loss.It hurts sha,no friends or sum1 to talk to.But I bless God.
DeleteAmaka keep lying till your pants catch fire.....fake bitch
Delete@both anons, what is lie.bitter people everywhere. For the fact that your life is on a halt does not mean mine will be. I am living the life. Happily married. Not exaggerating because I am very happy in it. Marriage comes with ups and downs but your ability to manage it make it worth. I wish you both find happiness soonest before it finishes.
DeleteAnon 20:21. Hugs to you. If cooking with firewood makes you smell then please start cooking with stove not because your husband think you smells but because you think it leaves a bad scent on you..
DeleteIf he doesn't want you work doesn't mean you can't do business from home. There are many businesses you can do from the comfort of your home and even earn more than those working at the end of the months. Do those business and make money for you self. Just plan it out. An idle wife is an angry wife. Make money for your self and kids my dear. And take good care of your self. When he sees that you are changing your hair often, and looking better than before he will start thinking twice
I don't quite understand the dumping you for his mother.. You live with the mother with him or just you and the mother. Either way, whatever the case you need to find away to convince him to move you out or both of you out. Those times he comes to you and want to be all lovey Dovey should be when you make your point to him in in a firm but subtle way.
I tell people there are issues you sort out during relationships or early days of marriage. Issues like in laws. You put them in their place from the first day so that they won't say you changed later.. Not like you will be all hateful towards them, be nice with them, respect them but make sure they know the boundaries. With that issues like this can't rise.
Like I said, marriage isn't easy. Not easy at all but when you apply some little technics it becomes less stressful and a happy zone..
Nwa Amaka the other day you said you can never pray for a husband, today you are happily married. Nne dream on.
Delete'Sexy lingerie and high heels' you see that in porn right and you think that's how it works in reality??? And you claim you're married, kwakwakwakwa. Any sane man will be wondering if you're okay if he meets you at home with those. Nne stop trying too hard when you marry you'll understand. @nwa amaka
DeletePoster 11,,u need God..go to him in prayer and am pretty sure he is so merciful in all.
ReplyDeletePoster2...weel,one can't be practically good at what one has neva bin into or had experience of it.am single and I tink I should give room for married ones here.with due respect.
Mc Pinky
What do women want really?
ReplyDeleteAsanwa ndi ibo
Boring and immature chronicle. Both posters don't have common sense, dis is so easy to handle.
ReplyDeleteU r a fool..if its dat easy to handle then I pray u. Xperience such in jesus name.ode,if u don't ave beta tinz to talk or comment abt then switch off ur gadget#amupagi#
DeleteMc pinky
Woman are just do funny.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahaha...
ReplyDeleteNa so...A woman that married someone's husband brought you up in Christ!,..
Lemme continue reading...
U alwz advice dem to marry rich men na.
DeleteShe simply obliged .
Lmfao smh
DeleteI swear Linda. I been wan talk am.....how she know Christ when she ain't no 1st wife. Clearly according to poster she has elder ones meaning her mama go follow married man. Na from there the foundation don already dey shake.
DeleteMind u, d first wife was late b4 she came into the pix so don't be in hurry to drop dumb n cheap comment. Mrs holier than thou. I bet u lack jesus in ur life
DeleteWhen old things pass away, all other things become new.
DeleteMeanwhile there is NO proof dt d mum is side chick cum wife.
Thanks
Ok
ReplyDeleteSecond poster:
ReplyDeleteYou see what I keep telling people on this forum? When you have "mind blowing sex" before you get married, what you blow away is "sex and trust" in your marriage. I know a lot of ladies that have gone through this. Both of you should find your way back to God in repentance and get back the stolen affection into your marriage! If not, you will continue the circle of "being irritated and loveless marriage". If you see him tell a lady "good morning", he is cheating and so on.
Ok
ReplyDeleteOne poster what can I tell you? I wish you all the best.
ReplyDeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteMust you depend on your fathers money?...this is God punishing your mother for fucking and getting married to a married man!...
You better move on and get your self a rich boyfriend that will sort you out!...
Poster 2,
You have grown out of love for your husband...
It happens in marriage though!...
I would advise you go for a vacation with the kids OR you get yourself a sugar son mehn...
No time to be sad in this life!...uwa wu ofu mbia!...
*to...
DeleteQueen and boss,i don't think it's wise to advise her to get a sugar son.That doesn't help her or her marriage one bit
DeletePoster 1. I feel you should focus on making yourself a better person. Success they say is the best revenge. Since you already have ideas on business, try and make do with what you can start with. Insha Allah, you will make it. And that your dad that casted you away will ask your for your forgiveness someday. All the best.
ReplyDeleteCheers
Poster 2. I feel thoughts of the fact that he cheated on you in the past is hunting you. I know its hard to forgive and forget but this case you just have to. Go to a corner and reminisce about how you fell in love with him, then try to reignite that feeling. For all I care you just hibernated the feeling. Lastly, I feel from your post you guys don't communicate. Talk to him more. And please stop waiting for him to demand for sex. He is your husband and not your BF. All the best. Cheers.
Stella, I don't like what u said to poster 1. What do u mean by You are probably the product of a side chick turned wife and such kids are never wholly accepted into the Family,so deal with it and move on and try to get it right ??? So that means all "mistake" children r not accepted?
ReplyDeleteNyway poster 1, if ur father tells u to leave and u ve somewhere else to go, you can but if u dnt ve beg him! He is ur father, he is probably pained at the loss of ur sis. From the days of Adam and Eve, parents always ve a preferred child amongst their children. So cheer up, swallow ur pride and beg ur father. U need something from him not the other way round. U r even lucky ur father gave u land, some pple their father didn't give them biro and instead cuss their lives out everyday yet, that dosent change him from being the father.
Poster 2: I don't understand u, it seems U are confused maybe if I was married I wld ve advised u better bt I think u better retrace ur steps b4 the devourers out there devour ur man. #datsall.
Don't mind Stella.
DeleteDon't like it either. This side chick ish is even getting boring.
DeletePoster1: You need to give your dad and his issues some distance. You have tried for yourself without his active support, so pls stop acting like you need his validation to survive. Most polygamous men are irrational and clearly lack wisdom to prioritize their lives. He is unable to explain how he spent your inheritance......so he quarells with your mum.
ReplyDeleteHe lost a child........so he disowns you. Please leave and be successful for you and your mum. You and your mum are very replaceable in his life......leave before it turns bloody.
Poster 2: You simply fell out of love with your hubby and the cheating episode compounded it. Unfortunately for you, your husband is non-chalant and has been emboldened at the ease he got your forgiveness. What to do.......
Find God....... diligently seek him,read chapters of the bible daily......the gospels, proverbs and psalms are a great start......, meditate on a verse.......pray in idle moments, declare positivity into your life and home......... learn to fast and pray especially prayers of thanksgiving......it's really liberating. Ask for his grace to genuinely forgive him and fix both of you.
Find Yourself...... improve on yourself, learn a skill,read self-improvement books, find a hobby, get to know yourself, dress really good......,.it helps your confidence.......decent but flashy is the way to go, make good friends, be a better mom for your kids........ live for yourself.........when you find that peace......for me,it feels like a gentle breeze in your chest or a sensation of clean flowing water that leaves you feeling all hollow and free....... you will be fine.
Have a honest conversation with him and define where you guys are headed........ ask questions, demand answers, make compromises that wont shortchange you. Do not jump into sex with him, run all the necessary tests,diseases are numerous and flying these days. Your priority is to serve God, raise a home, live your best life and catwalk to heaven at the ripe old age........ do not let anyone mess it up for you with crazy attitude........even if that person is a husband. Hand him to God and start living. He will see a different you and retrace his crooked steps.If he remains hardened, leave pls...........we all need the right environment to thrive. God be with you!
Happy Easter.
Wow, I so love your reply @ Empress, so matured.
DeletePoster one the where did you graduate. You do not know that your father's daughter shares blood with you and is your HALF SISTER and not step sister. A syep sibling is a child of your parent's spouse that you share no blood with. If you call your siblings steps your dad has reason to believe you are a witch.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaa no mind the Olodos on the blog
DeleteMY mama told me xmas season dat i should not visit home easter if am not
ReplyDeletebring a wife home to show her nd my papa.menhh i no travel but am
posting and sending them all the photos from the club last night and enjoying
my self,,mama have being calling and begging me to visit her and see one
fine girl she think say i go like marry hehehehe
mama i dey fear marriage ooooo cos some of my friends wey don marry are
crying today,,,good wife are hard to find ..
if you get ur own house,,have a good cars,,have a good moving bussiness or good
paying job and from a good family,mennh every nigerian woman will like to
marry you,,,they say after marriage love go come,,,,,
the one i for marry b4,only her dey finish red label,she love a good food but
she can not cook,,,,some marriage of today are,,living in bondage..
if the man want sex everyday she go complain about being tired
With your poor English, you'll be single for eons to come
DeleteHahahahahahaha...
DeleteGood men r harder to find, Dude.
DeleteHahahaha can feel u even with d poor English ! 34 rich as fuck but marriage Na wash ! All this babes be so easy cos a guy is made its unbelievable .glad I am not a womaniser though but before marriage think well cos some of this ladies ehnn desperadoes
DeletePls pls pls....i am hornyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.
ReplyDeleteI am horny too:
DeleteU r a fool..I don't know why una no get sense.idiot eranko pple
DeleteMc Pinky
Bia Adeniji,get off my back.
DeleteI wont banter words with a low life like u.
Iya e eran oko.
Iya e fool.
Omo ale jati jati.
U fucking piece of shiit.
End time chronicles
ReplyDeletePoster 1.You said U've been very independent person, I don't think it'll be difficult to cope.Sorry about what happened, sometimes life takes a hard turn.Just pray,and remain focused.It is well. Poster 2....The reason why u feel disgusted is because ure still mad with ur husband for the way he treated you in the past and currently. Also because u don't trust him.Have a clean heart,forgive him for his wrong and please communicate. Communication works magic,trust me.Dont expect him to read your mind.All the best!
ReplyDeletePoster 1. In a polygamous setting Mama's is always right. Leave your Papa and follow ur Mama like the Disciples followed Christ.
ReplyDelete2. It's simple , you've not forgiven him at all hence your till feeling Disgusted. Since you plan on being married to him forever then Pls try and forgive and forget. Start touching him already, you could start by rubbing him gently from time to time at night.
Poster 2. When you were fornicating before marriage, you din't think there might be consequences right? You are now reaping what you sowed. Lack of trust, infidelity and sexual unfulfillment in marriage. You and fornicating partner are now out of sync mentally, emotionally and sexually. Better continue dressing sexy and acting single coz the minute you stop, his eyes will return outside. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteStill reading comments.
ReplyDeleteMarried for 6years now and right now we are not togeda. We are blessed wt two lovely kids bt tins ar so bad we jus couldn't work it out. He abused me physically and emotionally. I exercise and watches my weight, still look good even after givg birth. Wear sexy cloths and look sexy,I am an obedient wife,respect him a lot in fact he is my first and only boyfrnd and we Neva had sex till after marriage. He agreed on dat. I met him during his NYSC. My neighbours respect us and assume us to b d ideal couples ofcos I don't shout wen he beat me,too ashamed to tel anyone. It was base on his rules alone,I have no say. Wher he comes from women don't talk. I live in pain for years. Pray everyday and fast mostyms. I give him bJ,tak care of d kids, cleans and cook and do wateva he wants. He cals me stupid, myopic brain,dat he is jus managing me as a wife cos he needs a big girl as a wife. Someone more classy more brilliant etc. I am tru wt sch bt lookg for a job and presently saving to set up a business no mata how small. He beat me up and I summond courage and held him and dat shocked him. I told him no more! It OK like dat so dat pissed him off and he really ova powered me and beats me den lock me up frm outside nd took d kids.So I cald a neighbour who helped me out and dat was wen my neighbours knew he beats me up. My parents wer really upset and dey cald cops on him and he pleaded and his family came mean while all his siblings and mom ar aware dat he do beat me up. Ther was a tym his mom slapped him and cried and advice him bt still he Neva stopd instead he got worst. Now I left d house and I feel like a plank has bin lifted off my head. D kids live wt his mom and I do visit and cal dem. I feel happy.
ReplyDeleteRemain happy. You deserve happiness.
DeleteWetin we wan use this ur long story do???
DeleteAwww.. Hugs.. Some men weren't brought up right by there mom.
DeleteBTw, just in case you set out to love again, please don't allow a man dictate how things will go or the rules you should leave by... This aren't things you set during marriage. You set them during relationship.. There are certain grounds and foundation you lay during relationship so that when it leads to marriage, he won't feel you changed over night..
From relationship show your true self m don't hide or pretend to be a good girl so that you get married. The things you don't like, state it out immediately and have it corrected. The things you can compromise on, compromise. But those things you can't bend the rule, don't bother trying to bend. If you were following your own rules during relationship ship, there is no way he will just come one day during marriage and ask you to start following his own rules. You will remind him how you have never don't that before. Infact he won't mention that..
I would have pointed out a pot of mistakes you made before marriage but then it's over, no need crying over that. Just make the next one work. And make sure you don't let someone swallow up the real you in other to make them happy..
Chai!...
DeleteEzigbote chai!!!!!
DeleteChai!
DeleteMy dear d most important tin is u ve peace cos u feel a plank lifted off u.
Ur inlaws will so miss u.
To imagine d mum once cried.
Ve not heard from d oda side n I don't wnt to imagine ur worse act against him to turn him bad but I feel wat u felt.
Thank God for u.
He's a looser loosing u.
If u don't mind 2BE5A351
Wooow....God is your strength
ReplyDeleteStella I'm sorry but the side chic comment was totally uncalled for. It wasn't nice at all. And I think you were too harsh in ur responses. Abeg try next time
ReplyDeleteStella that was wrong very wrong,she didn't state if her mum is the first wife,do u know if it was when her mum couldn't have another child that the father married other wives? gosh u could be so mean n harsh sometimes u ended up insulting her n her mum ** smh at u stella
DeleteMy dear I believe you parents responsibility here is over because, they were the means for you to come into earth the rest of the life play is in your hands.remember that the one true father you have is God and he will never fail you.prayers will do a lot good in your life
ReplyDeleteThank you Mrs Stella. Dis is my first time of writing somtin on ur blog although I always read d stories and my hrt goes out to dem. Thanks Damsellizzie,Fab mom and Nwa Amaka. I appreciate ur thoughts. It gud to know women feel each odas pain.
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