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We have a lover boy Chronicle....and a confused lovergirl

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHEN A RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPS HICCUPS

Hello Stella. Thank you for your wonderful heart. I have heard a lot you have been doing and I thank God for using you although I noticed your blog favors the ladies more.... "partiality".

Straight to the point. My name is ken and I'm 37 years old. Please I need you to help me deeply reason this issue and give a possible solution/advice for I'm losing my mind. 

I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and 4months now. She's currently running a course in another state and our initial plan was to get married immediately after her professional course. We both are in love.

I notice she tries as much as possible to avoid any form of discussion on our marriage. I have stopped smoking, spending recklessly, drinking and womanizing and I'm happier now.

She finally opened up last night even though I couldn't make much of what she was on about as she cried all through. From the little I got, her reasons for taking things slow is that her parents won’t accept me because I am not rich and won't be able to afford a small but classy wedding (my salary is just a staggering 140 monthly), that's she's 28 years old and time is no longer on her side to be waiting for me to get financially secured, that I cheated on her once with my ex of 8years, 3 month into our relationship (she was away and I still regret it), that I keep to myself a lot and I’m not spontaneous.

She went on and on she later said that for me to marry her, I must be more serious with God, invest a lot and must have an alternative source of income that she doesn't want to end up like the chronicles sent in here daily (those sad chronicles). I have tried convincing her to be optimistic and in all fairness to her, she brought up some ideas that could help us. She's been always supportive even though her friends text her that I'm too "unclassy" (I try).

I am working towards something meaningful before the end of this year which she knows about (I'm hopeful). I have given her my salary to manage for me these past 2 month and we were saving towards that project till we had a little hiccup two weeks ago but we are still fine.

This lady has stood by me in the toughest of times. She's very calm , prudent, has a large heart, very intelligent ,a great cook and honestly a lot has changed for better since she came into my life even though she is from a different tribe we are so much in sync. Love can't be this better. There’s so much peace and happiness.

I have been worried about her. I can't work, I can't think. My family adores her and she completes me effortlessly. I don't want to lose my heart.

I am of the school of thought that two can conquer a whole lot if they agree (I'm not relying on anything from her in the future). I need her to have little faith in me. I can save towards a tasteful wedding and a meaningful life thereafter. I mean I have really changed and still improving. 

I can't wait for her to be mine. She's my kryptonite. I know I already sound like a broken record to her but I promise to be the best for us and our families.

Please forgive my typographical errors not in the right state of mind at all. (Please hide my name)

 Please has/is anyone been in my shoes?

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

OLIVER TWIST IN LOVE

Good day Stella...

I am one of those low key BV's who don't have an i.d because I don't know how to create one so I come under anonymous many times...but anyways down to my story

I met this guy in 2014 through a friend and he added me up on BBM. For about 1 month, we were only friends on BBM and he would message me everyday and it was good till we fought for the first time and we have been having issues. Now I’m not going to deny, he hasn't been treating me right at least not what I think is right. 

He doesn’t call, he doesn’t text and I deleted him from my BBM to move on many times but some way he gets to reach out to me again. After a while of silence, I have a soft spot for this guy because I really do like him a lot. I know behind all of his hard exterior, he's a very sweet person. Recently, we had this really big fight which turned things around. 

He returned the birthday cake I gave him (we got into an argument because of commitment). I was very upset like everyone should be and I told him I was never going to speak to him again which is practical of anyone in that situation and I also meant it. 2 days after, he sent me an apology text and I forgave him and ever since then we have been better. He now calls, texts, in fact does the normal, more like he's back to his senses but then again I don't still think I’m happy. I feel like I want more than I’m already getting. More like taking me out, buying me gifts, spending much more time together...something to just make me know he is for real this time. 

All the time we have issues, he blames it all on losing his mum...he was very attached to her when she was alive and has been having a hard time moving on or loving someone. He drowns himself in hurt and pain most times and then treats people (not just me) in a certain way like he isn't afraid of losing them because he has lost what mattered the most to him. At times, he blanks out on everything and everyone for days. 

I do love this guy and I want to be there for him but not to my own detriment. Please, how do I make him understand this or help him out or do I just walk away from all this? (Even though that's easier said than done).

Hmmmm....