Na wah!...A husband who gossips about his wife?Its not breaking News!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
EMOTIONALLY AND S3XUALLY ATTACHED LE BOO
Please I want you to take quality time in reading my chronicle.i met my BF 4 months ago, he's everything I'd say perfect. he's faithful and spends on me.
My problem is my bf is too attached to me and I don't know if it's cause he disvirgined me but trust me he's so attached and mind you he's 33 I'm 20.I am graduating next year.when I say attached this is sexually and emotionally.
my bf can't stay straight 30 min without putting mouth on my breast or touching me sexually. then that of emotional, If he takes me to the salon he sits and waits if I go to class he has spies who tell him where I am ,who I talked with and once he hears I'm with a guy he drives down to school to warn the guy or his spies do it before he gets there.
He broke my 2phones cause my call log showed I spoke with my male friend for 112 seconds.
Morning till evening if I'm not home I'm in class or church all alone.when I break up with him he cries on his knees and begs endlessly and he even starves himself ,he posts pictures of me on all his social Media handles and starts apologizing not once not twice that everyone starts to call me and beg ...
Several times I've talked to him about it begged him to be cool but no,instead he says he's protecting what's his and that hungry men are everywhere.It gets tiring .He accuses every girl around me of being a lesbian, I'd say my only friend is my mom and dad cause I'm the only child.
I don't understand anymore bvs ...
next month 24th were going to see my parents for introduction, we've already bought our flight ticket but I'm scared to go into this please is this normal for men who are in love ?what do I do?
WOW!!!...I dont know what to say but it doesnt sound nice and he might end up hurting you if ever attempt to leave.....How can be spending all his time watching you?doesnt he work?WTF....thread carefully darling cos he sounds like a sicko..HA!!!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
THE GOSSIPING HUSBAND
This is my story, my husband's friend's wife visited me last week with some shocking issue and I can swear I have been in shock since then because I have not heard this type of thing before.
It happens that she has been suspecting that her husband is cheating on her, so she decided to snoop on her husband by setting up her husband's phone in a way that the phone will record all the husband say with people that call on his phone and the ones he calls as well.
People of God, this woman got the shock of her life after one week when she decided to check and found out that the husband does not cheat on her, instead he gossips about her with his friends including my own husband and each of them say some downgrading things about their wives that we were ashamed to hear such from them,for example my husband said he is just tolerating me because of his kids,that he is just waiting for his kids to grow up so that he will send me packing.
In fact am even ashamed to write them here including what he said about my siblings too. I am so broken since then that it's affecting me though I have refused to ask him his reasons for that.
The lady in question who brought the news to me said she will leave her husband by last weekend which she did but has refused to tell the husband the reason for her actions, i am so confused, I have not told my siblings or even my friends, I decided to bring it here before taking any action, please I need advise seriously . Stella thanks for posting and please hide my email address.
WOW!!!....Hmmm,I dont know if the whistleblower swore you to secrecy but you have to confront your hubby on this..you must to find closure.
By the way...How did she manage to do this recording?The things she told you about your siblings are they true?
Have you thought about the fact that she might have lied or polished up what she heard?What is her reason for coming to tell you?Is she your friend?
If you cannot answer any of these questions,then she has an ulterior motive.
ASK YOUR HUSBAND PLEASE.
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Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteHow can you record someone's conversation for a week without the person knowing. I have never heard of this before. You should have insisted on hearing it yourself. This story get as e be.
DeletePoster1.....IN four months he broke 2 of your phones
DeleteIn four months he disvirgined you,
In four months you're already having issues several times and you both can't even settle in your selves,
Inside the four months you're planing of meeting your parent already
"Grace for speed"
But this speed is too much....
Poster 2.... If you can't talk to your husband you rest .... You know what that woman said is true... Even me I know is true.. Talk to your husband don't be scared
P1
DeleteThat guy will kill u or anyone that tries to come between both of u. I get men can be possessive but this 1 na kolo case.
2. Love is not even enough ooo at all. Respect is just the koko. Ur hubby has no iota of respect 4 u but mind u, some men feel it necessary to tow the line of other foolish men even if they dont mean it. He might be saying all that so as to feel among his friend but thats very wrong. Also, answer the questions stella asked cos i hope the woman that left her hubby is not angry cos her hubby is cheating and maybe ur hubby is the 1 encouraging him so she feels vengeance should be directed at ur marriage. Pls if she cant play a recording or show u hard evidence, then be careful. But if wht she says is true especially about ur siblings, then start saving 4 a rainy day, have ur own house in ur name or ur mums name etc.
Remain blessed
@poster1 : I pity you....is like you don't know what you are about to enter into.
DeleteYou better put the intro on hold till dude sorts himself out.
I wouldn't advice you 2 even marry such a kid.
@poster2 : am speechless.
Poster one, there's a movie called Obsessed, starring Beyoncé and Idris Elba. If you're 20, you were probably a child when it came out.
DeletePlease look for the movie, watch it and see how far someone with an obsession can go.
If your boyfriend will not allow you have friends ( male or female), or trust you to go about your activities on your own, then you are not in a HEALTHY relationship. If you can feel there's something wrong in your relationship, there probably is.
Please don't be in a hurry to get hitched, open your eye well and chose wisely, you're still very young.
Your boyfriend needs professional help, don't sit in that relationship under the guise of helping him or trying to change him.
Wisdom is profitable to direct...
Be wise.
Poster 1: be careful. If u stay wit dat guy, he'll kill u. If u leave, he'll do worse. Suspend d intro for now. Find an excuse. Discuss d matter wit ur mum. Pray hard. N handle d matter wit care. If u can, let ur parents handle it wit their elderly wisdom since u r their only child. God help u.
DeletePoster 2: stay put in dat marriage. Search ursef, n correct d tinz u think u've bn doing wrong. Let him commend u. Then just when he's carried away n asks y u've bcum better, talk to him abt dis. Don't ask him now, coz he might as well say since u r already aware of his intention, let him do it now. Don't giv up ur marriage so easily, fight for it.
Madam,don't you gossip bad about withyour hubby with friends??? Am sure your friend left her horseband because of some other issue not the dirty talk. You berra be wise!!!!
DeleteYou can confront your horseband and trash issues out if you have never spoken bad about him to any1. If not mind your bizwack and act like you heard nothing. You will just be pained for a while but you will be alright!
Ok,iv no advice for poster 1 but poster 2 did u hear it urself?do u know der are many men out der who say worse things to thier wives faces?some divorce dem every other day in public.some beat them naked them and insult thier whole generation in public.im not saying it's right but it's de woman's decision to stay amidst abuse.u have ur tolerance level.marriage doesn't assure u of eternal life after death.its an earthly contract,so to hell with wat dey say dat u must stay married.so u will stay and be taking abuse?on top wetin?if u can't take it dump the shit ass fucker and leave or stay and manage it.ur choice!by de way the nick name for that idiot of a man is finger in de ass bitch.stella make I no find my comment
DeleteAbeg Stella,.what her friend revealed to her cannot be a lie, becos from the tone of her narrative, they are things she knows exist but is shocked her hubby can be discussing with his friend. Hence her being embarrassed.
DeleteI believe that her friend didn't lie and has NO ulterior motives, after all, she left her own husband after she discovered what she was looking for. It would have been different if she stayed put in her own marriage but now tried to convince her friend to leave her own home.
This is just a case of looking for something and finding another more shocking revelation. The content of what was discussed is what will determine the seriousness of the matter. If her character has been maligned, then shame on her husband who couldn't discuss with her but rather took it to outsiders.
Madame, like I said, the content will determine how you'll handle this. If he says he's buying time before sending u out, then there's no way u can keep this to yourself. You won't even relate with him well henceforth, and there's no point killing yourself silently when the person who's hurting u is oblivious to it. Only u know what his relationship with ur family is, and u would know whether ur friend hit the nail on the head with what she revealed. Esp if uv never discussed what was said by ur hubby with anyone before. That's how to know the truth
Sit ur dude's ass down and shame him subtly with what u discovered. I assure u that he'll be so ashamed of himself that he'll spend the rest of his life seeking ur forgiveness. Moreover, he wouldn't want u to tell ur family about it, so that he doesn't enter their black book. That fear alone will make him be at ur beck and call. That is if he has a conscience and he loves u. Then we can dismiss whatever he said and pass it off as he was merely gloating before his friend.
Good luck
First to comment
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Trade carefully
DeletePoster 2. First yiu need to hear for yourself, since she's fbi, she should have been able to get the recording so She can have proof; at least when you hear your hubby's voice, you will know is him abi? Ok then.
Ask her if she can get the voice recording, until then don't act
Poster 1: it's a bit okay for a guy to want more expecially when you where a virgin. But plz stop sex and have that guy PROPERLY checked.
DeletePoster 2:plz don't leave hubby even if what your friend said the truth. Do your own investigation and if it's really true we wants to do away with you later make sure you clear him out first b4 you leave both financially! Emotionally! And another which way you can. Don't just leave like that youare lucky you have been pre informed work with what you've got but don't confront
Trade ko!! Trader ni!!
Delete@poster 1- set him up with another babe joor. Let's see if he will feel the same way. Yeye dey smell
Trade
DeleteTrader
Tradddessssstttttt.
(in Adannes voice)
Poster 1 hope you've the movie the perfect guy so be careful before u enter one Chance
DeletePoster2 this one pass me ooooo but please pray and ask God for guidance before u ask ur husband cos this is really serious.
Brb
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. dnt confront ur husband... he may deny everything and may even get angry and dat will bring up another issue... rather watch him closely... this time prepare urslf for a 'moveout' if need be. But watch and observe him closely, also watch urslf. Cud there be sumtin u aren't doing right for him to gossip u with sumone?..
DeleteYou kept your virginity all this while only to give it to a man you barely know for just few months, that guys act like a monster and emotional abuser. Do proper background check on what he does and the kind of friends that surrounds him and if all doesn't seem responsible enough, please let go and move on, you are too young for this kind of baggage.
DeletePoster two please confront that man, who knows it may help you uncover more and remember that two things are involved.
Poster 1 one Run!for your life I bet it that guy can give you poison in the nearest future
DeleteAnd this advice is coming from a man.so if I were u i will take it poster.
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteCrime of passion loading...
Poster 2
LOL
U said it all @pst1 crime of passion loading ooo just breakup jejely, if possible leave his vicinity hmmm
DeleteSamsung galaxy can record for months even without d owner knowing..
DeletePoster 2 it's not all the time I agree with Stella, but this time I agree. Remember that misery likes company. This woman "may" have recorded some gist but until you listen to it with both your ears...hmm, I don't think you should take it seriously o. One thing about men, if they are fed up with their wives, they show signs. Have you seen signs? Has your home been at peace all this while? Don't let the devil enter your home o. My advice is that you sit your husband down and tell him EVERYTHING!! Then, shut up and listen to him. Save your marriage o
DeletePoster two I think is better you confront your hubby than holding him in mind. Is possible that your friend want to break your home. You need wisdom to handle this issue, all the best.
ReplyDeletePoster one that guy will end up hurting you physically. The thing is turning to obsession. Get away from him while you can. Block him on all social media and delete his number so you won't be tempted to call him. Block his numbers too
ReplyDeletePoster two I feel bad for you. Y can't your husband just tell you things he needs you to improve on? Both men are just evil. How can you be saying such things about your spouse to someone else?
Poster 1 you are seeing the signs now but you won't heed to it.
ReplyDeleteYou'd marry that guy and when he finally 'owns' you and starts locking you up inside the house you'd come back with another tale.
Sometimes God shows us these things but we tend to look the other way.
You know this is not normal but you're still here asking us questions because you already know that what we say about it doesn't matter, you'd still marry him.
You are not in a healthy relationship but do what you think is right.
Poster 2 All I know is that men are the biggest gossips.
Why not confront your own husband with these accusations instead of towing your friends line.
Anyway married people's problems, una go dey alright.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteLooks like your boo's got issues. It's not a crime for a guy to be all over his girl but this I say is extreme...Go ahead to see his parents if you think you can live with it...but this doesn't sound nice.Have you been on social media lately?
LA Hit Ihn
ReplyDeleteWill be back
JAMES WIFE.
Which James? Hope it's not this stupid James here.
DeletePoster1, don't worry when your tohtoh slack you go understand that the guy is just enjoying the friction in your punnani.
ReplyDeletePoster2,I don't know why I am laughing. Amebo
Poster 1, you and your bf are sick.
ReplyDeleteWhat did I just read?
Lol,u comment dey always cause havok
DeletePoster one, sounds like ur 33yr old bf is obsessed with u. It's just a matter of time domestic violence will follow. He broke ur phones, next time he'll break ur head. Just stall that introduction,unless u r desperate at 20.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- Men gossip no be today. Sit your husband down and speak to him. Confront him with your facts, let him defend himself. Never ever speak ill of your family members to your hubby. Be wise.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 I don't know what to say to you, he's not been able to take his hands off you is normal among men, what I don't get is why he is stalking you and sending spy to watch you, to me that's extreme.
DeleteSit him down and talk to him, tell him you will walk for good if he doesn't change
Poster 2 you narrative cracked me up hahahaha
Ma today you just dey know say men gossips even more than women?
Whenever I want to snoop, i check my hubby's chat with his friends first especially his bestie before any other one
Poster 1 Ruuuuuuuuuuun
ReplyDeletePoster 2 which app is that abeg, check her well, her tales sound very tall.
It is not an app.but there is a secret way of tapping into ppls phone with number code to receive calls when they do.it is IT stuff sha....
DeleteCall recorder via play store
DeleteThere's actually an app like that, my boyfriend installed it on his phone to record threats from some guy but forgot to uninstall it when the matter died, I just listen to his past calls whenever I'm with his phone and he has no idea...check play store
DeleteHmmm all you people making a sister horny oo with all these breast this ..ha na wa ..
ReplyDeleteAnyway poster 1..
Without mincing words..free the guy..if not your story will be the next domestic violence story on Stella's blog..this one he's breaking your phone for a call of 112 secs..kmt..the guy is too possessive , you are only 20 abeg..u still have a lot to achieve ..let your mind free and give someone more mature space in your heart with time..pls dnt stay saying we would change cos that's how u pple enter marriage then it wil be stories that touch later ...
Poster 2
Madam , just chill..in as much as its possible what your friend has said ..what if she too is lying cos she's jealous of you??even If what she has said is true , pls dnt take any drastic action .. Just chill first and keep watching your husbands reactions towards you..if its true what he has said, it will eventually come out or you confront him period!!!dnt end your marriage cos of hearsay ...
K
ReplyDeleteStory 1: I beg u in God's name start running with ur leg from that man. May God not allow u die prematurely on top him stupid insecurity all in the name of love.
ReplyDeleteStory 2: Madam biko ur answers is in front of u I don't knw y u want SDk red pen. Attack ur hubby by asking him questions. Simple. Na the answer go determine ur action.
Good afternoon my fellow SDK.
Poster 1: ur bf is broke and jobless at 33.For starters u are 20, u said church class and? My dear if u both had a reasonable job he won't be sleeping and waking up to cry and become a monitoring spirit in u life.If he has a job my sister u are dating an omo omo and believe me this guy won't be the same person when u marry him.U want to bet?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I'm so sorry my darling but ur informant has told u wasap so now u know.If it's not a man u love my dear start planning u exit, pack ALL HE HAS n go start packing them small small till u empty his life not leaving a dime.
If it's a man u love sorry he doesn't love u just pack things with courtsey.Pack like u love him but u don't want him to be broke.Finally, keep ur head up and don't feel pity or shame for urself it's their loss.He has been bunch of useless people as friends.Im glad ur friend has an answer to her question.Goodluck
I suspect that poster 1 bf is computer guy.no responsible guy will do such monitoring naa.no trust in her.it is possible they live together .my advice, keep him away for few months before you get engaged.
DeletePoster two, tell that woman to give u evidence of the recording o! Why wud ur husband say he's been tolerating u? Unless u r not good wife. If u want to leave ur husband based on hearsay, then ur husband is really tolerating u. Confront him ASAP.
ReplyDeleteHehe
DeleteEnd time I don c something chronicles.
God bless you BB.poster 2 make sure you listen to the 'evidence' with your own ears before confronting your DH. Its a media file, let her transfer it to you!
DeletePoster 1: Fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
Men goodie their wives all the time. Nothing new. Don't ask him, just set a trap for him. I've bn there talking frm experience.. I made all necessary arrangement. Well planned. Before he realized I was far gone. We are still married. But very much from a distance. Just the way I like it.
DeletePoster2 it's call obsession. Give him conditions of how you want the relationship if he can't abide to it, my dear little sister take a long walk. I hate men who take advantage of little girls. He's just sucking away ur prime age. He's lived his, he should allow you to live yours. A a a a a aah. What's that? My dear this guy taking away your youthful age. I'm telling you. If you decide to get married to him now. You will end up leaving that marriage. And end up cheating on him. To aviod that future drama. You better call the short.
Poster1, I had a bf like that too. My dear I refused marrying him o. Story for another day
ReplyDeletePoster 1 please pick your two shoes and run, he broke your phones? he might end up breaking your bones,this are early signs of an abusive man,do not ignore it.
ReplyDeleteposter 2 you have to be careful,do not allow the devil sow a seed of discord in your home,investigate what your husband's friend's wife told you before you approach your husband about it,do not use your own hands and scatter your home because of hearsay
#my 2cents
SDK I love your blog **kisses**
BVs welcome me,am new here
**shines teeth**
Welcome
DeleteHe broke ur two phones abi?
DeleteDon't rush to write anoda chronicle wen he breaks any part of u.
Naija women just Love violent men.
End time skukisku love
Welcome lav
DeleteWelcome
DeleteWelcome
DeleteWelcome my sweet cologne *shines teeth*
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteIs your boyfriend that jobless that he spends so much time monitoring your movement?...
Biko my sister,don't marry him if he is jobless and has nothing else to offer except sex and monitoring you...
But if he is not jobless,that means you are very lucky to have such a man...
Poster 2,
Hahahahahaahaha...That your husband is very stupid!...
Who does that?...how old is he and his friends?...
Kai,women don suffer!...
Don't leave him biko except he maltreats you...be looking him with side eyes and start saving up joor...
Don't confront him either cos he will deny!...
Phew! Reasonable comment 👏🏼
DeletePoster one guys like that are very dangerous, you need to talk to him to reduce the way he check on you. Is not wise at all, is your boo not doing anything that he keeps checking up on you 24/7? I think your boo has some issues that he is not telling you. I can't date a man that will be checking on me 24/7, biko be careful cos this guy can kill.
ReplyDeleteHe is obsessed with you... He can't seem to get enough. Tell him you are fasting for days and you need some time alone to seek God's face. Poster 2: Men these days are now the women..
ReplyDelete1. Baby girl, tell that obsessed boo to give you time, atleast, he should allow you finish with school. The relationship is still young for us to discern this kinda love. In my own opinion, it is initial gragra, he might overcome this later. But then again, an obsessed lover is a disaster waiting on the row. So i think you should give it time, don't rush things yet.
ReplyDelete2. Your chronicle is funny, permit me to lol small. Anyway, don't be like your stupid friend and leave your husband. That should be an 'orijo' for you in making amends. Its fair enough that your hubby isn't cheating, the ofofo things can stop if you use it as a weapon of change. Abi? I'm exhausted jare....
I tire o! I wonder wetin a 20-year old dey find go husband house,n she never even finish school..poster,dem tell u say u go die young?why d rush?don't let a guy selfishly rob u of ur youth..a possesive guy at dat,I don't pity u,I pity ur parents u'l be running back to everytime
DeletePoster 1, u better rethink, life doesn't start or end after marriage. Don't think after marriage he'll stop, No!! Instead he'll be more suspicious n snoop more instead of the other way round.
ReplyDeletePst2 receive wisdom. Your hubby will go angry at u n the woman after d confrontation.
P1, which kain possessiveness be that? That one no b love o. Hian
ReplyDeleteP2, guys bitch more than ladies these days, talk to ur husband about the issue n I'm sure he'd be sorry. Smh
Dunno if some men are cursed? Must u tell ur guys wha goes down in ur home? Shameless bunch.
Lmao
DeletePoster 2, madam please check your self. The problem may be from you and the other woman.
ReplyDeleteNothing happens for nothing.
Examine yourself and your ways.
Are you sure u are a good nice loving wife?
Do you quarrel and nag him all the time?
Are you good looking, I mean are you sure you are not fat?
No sensible man will talk ill of his wife unless he is unhappy in d union.
Did I not say I dislike this guy. Foolish boy. You didn’t disappoint me with your comment @all. Egomaniac. See your stupid answer. Mcheew! I pity your wife.
DeleteMONEY MAKER!!!
DeleteStella u be mumu o. Didn't u read where poster2 said she recorded the husband's call?
ReplyDeleteYou're the MUMU. Go back and read! Common English you cannot understand. Why are you hiding under anonymous. Show yourself now. Mcheew!
DeletePOSTER 1:
ReplyDeleteYES, why shouldn't he be attached to your "vagina and breast", that's what you reduced yourself to; just "vagina and breasts", and when he sucks you dry, extracted all abortions, had his fill, he will dump you like a dumb girl you made yourself!
ABEG CALM DOWN!!! Why are you angry?
DeleteNa you get the vagina?
My tot as well.
DeleteYeye dumb ass girl.
You didn't write epistle today!...Mumu biko Shut up!...
DeleteAs if you didn't fuck and commit abortion when you were single...
Please gerrrrraaahiahia...
Poster 1,I was once there but I broke up with him because I couldnt cope again.
ReplyDeleteThis kinds of guys are dangerous,they can kill,you are just 20yrs you still have a long way to go,think about it over again
don't jump into marriage.
Poster 2,speechless
Poster 1,that's not love.dats d sign of a psycho in love.hmmmm.dis kind of man,u go to church and he tells u its not cos of God but u love ur pastor.Have a new baby and come back from d hospital and he wil ask why u stayed only 2 days and why ur vagina is stretched.U slept with d Doctor.
ReplyDeleteLove is a good thing.and i Love bn loved.everyone does but not this kind of love my dear.U are too young to go via this.and no,don't kid urself he wil change.
Poster 2,na wah o!See gist.sorry about that o.U must be crushed.but biko don't assume.go ask ur hubby.never take whatever u hear as d gospel truth.friend or not.I like asking.no matter the circumstances or d gist or the supposed culprit.unless I don't just care about d lies or d peddlers of the lies.
U me know til u ask.
E pele o.
I can totally relate to both posters.yes both!i will forever be grateful to God I left my EX when I did tho late but still grateful!when you have a jealous monitoring spirit and a gossip psycho as a husband!Tufia.
DeleteNo time is late my dear.as long as u are still intact and have some time left to enjoy life.
DeleteI dont get why u ladies are so bitter about a man gossiping the wife. We need outlets too. Dont you people gossip us.I once heard my babe gisting his friend how i fold cloth like a mice and how much i love sex. I just looked the other way. Did that stop her from loving me or change in any way? No.
DeleteAs a matter of fact, i have this my bloke, we gossip our girlfriends all we like. I feel good afterwards. Though all we say is without prejudice so no one knows. But that does not change what i feel or love her. She stil rocks my world. So poster 2 , let his attitude towards u inform u decision and not the things they told u, he told someone, that told him, and he told toad. Comeon
@ poster 1 your narrative sounds like a guy I dated in sch, he schooled in futo while I was in pH but it was as if we lived together mhen, he had ppl keeping watch on me as if I was in prison, I talk to any girl he would say they want to give me to a man or turn me to a lesbian. I even talk to a man he would say I slept with the person jeez! I couldn't just take it, so I'm not suppose to have friends again cos am dating u, he treatens any guy around, even sends boys to beat if possible. hmmm I broke up the relationship, he begged n begged but I just made up my mind cos I wasn't ready to live like that all my life, even though he was planning marriage, my dear ur the one wearing the shoes oh, if u can cope u stay, if u can't u run, before u would be caged
ReplyDelete@ poster 2 best advice from Stella, did u listen to the recorded msg? How re u sure she saying the truth? Becareful Before u jump into conclusion what your not sure.
Poster one: I don't know, he exhibits stalker traits. It beautiful for a guy to lovd his woman bt somtimes they over do it. My bf call like 1000 times a day, most times I gt irritated bt ge does not watch me and check my fone, although he claims he is scared he might loose me, he thinks every male friend jst wnts to hv sex with me. Bt u need to set boundaries, its a relationship not a bondage, tell him u love him n all bt u cnt deal with the whole thing. Mk him understand ur point of view; dnt threaten to leave bt in the most calm manner explain how his altitude mks u feel.
ReplyDeletePoster two: there are no two ways abt confronting this issue than communication. No matter what you heard, tlk to him abt it. Did the things you heard change the way he treats u? Did u notice anything that might prove he meant those things he said?
No matter what, tell him n listen to him, if he said it waz all a joke, believe him. For peace's sake. Ppled say horrible things abt their partners doesnt mean they wnt to exchange them or anytin... wisdom is wot I pray for u ma.
So your so-called bf couldn't help you with the 10k you were begging on this blog Some weeks back?
DeleteShameless broke people. *Spits*
Why insult her? Are all fingers equal? Don't be Surprised if she becomes richer than u in future. Never insult ppl that way cos u don't know 2moro
DeletePoster 1 : you bf is a sicko and a psychic plus a stalker. I pity you. U had better leave him b4 u send another chronicle a month into ur wedding. Don't be fooled by d social media ish nd all.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 : stella there is an app u put on your phone that records all ur phone conversations, I think it's call recorder or so.
Poster u better go and confront ur husband o! Abi u r threading the path of ur friend? She might ve wanted to leave b4 even finding out about it and might as well have a plan B. Please confront ur hubby o... communication goes a long way
Hmmm Lizzy T, you go fear psychic. It's psycho. U wel.
DeletePoster one, if your story is true then I can't guarantee you a healthy marriage. You had better leave before you send in another chronicles. That he disvirgined you doesn't make him king over you.
ReplyDeletePlease use day time to look for your black goats.
Poster two, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. If what your hubby said is true, will you then let it come to pass? please come up with a better strategy to defeat him. As a matter of fact, chasing you away when your kids have grown will be so impossible bec your kids won't tolerate it happening.
Try to improve on your weakness, play more with your hubby, wear sexy clothes for him, and finally leave town to somewhere new. This will help you guys a lot.
All the best dear.
She should leave town for who? You?
DeleteWack advise from a flirt.
Poster 1: That's pure obsession, google the traits of an obsessive partner, you'd have a better idea of what you're in for, i already feel sorry for you.... Marriage itself is a special kinda prison, i see you in an inner chamber ( 6x4 cell)..... All you need is more time.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1, your bf broke ur 2 phones. And send spies to monitor you.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure you are not colabing with another guy behind his back?
Why are you concerned?
Talking about guilty conscience.
Poster 2, Did you trick your horseband into marrying u?
Bcos that's what u women do most times.
I think you're just trying to be funny because that's the only explanation for your useless comments. Very dumb boy! Tufia!
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DeleteWho con be this one now?
DeleteOh! chiboo anu ozo. gossip horseband, the truth is men gossip more than women, but they cover it up like cat while women open up like dog. Poster 2 ask your husband oh, and hear his own side of the story, dont let anyone talk u into leaving your marriage. poster 1, too much of everything is bad. trade carefully.
ReplyDeleteBusy Body Anonymous (Saturday Chronicles).
ReplyDeleteYou are a BIG FOOL!! If you really want my reply, send it in from Monday – Friday when I’m in the office not weekends when I have activities piled up which prevents me from reading Stella’s blog.
I asked a gay guy to be my friend how is that your problem busy body?? That I asked him to be my friend was my own way of joking around to upset bitter souls like you. You should learn to read and pass.
You are just jealous of me which is super obvious - Get well soon bitch…
Idiotic anonymous, just a quick question for you: how does being friends with a gay connect with me being a whore? Well, Well, Well, I understand your mother gave birth to you from whoring business so it is easier to identify one. Well done bitch for acknowledging the presence of one of your mother’s own.
I know you are “Mother Nature is wicked”. Why go under anonymous this time around?
I really can’t explain why people are so bitter towards married women on this blog. That was how some married woman talked about picking her sweet hubby from the airport and an anonymous person immediately insulted her. What for? At times I just ask if married women are the reason for their bitterness.
Useless anonymous, your life will keep being bitter and I pray you get a wicked mother-in-law that will tame those demons in you. For your information, I gist my hubby everything that happens here so you don’t need to worry yourself okay? Just focus on how to better your bitter soul before it sends you to your early grave.
Insult the anonymous and leave the mother out of this
DeleteYOU'RE A MOTHER FOR GOD SAKE!!!!!!
Ny dear, I don't know why some people hate gay people with a murderous rage. Don't mind the anonymous. Don't waste time talking to him.
DeleteCome, u r always sounding pained.
DeleteNobody forced u to jubilate over d death of ur mIL.
Nobody asked u if u if u need gay friends or not.
Why are u this bitter about what one anonymous says?
Guilty conscience or what?
If u are blameless, stop.
Bvn why is this mother nature bitter? What is eating u up? Don't force ur marriage or validate ur henpecked husband in our faces pls.
DeleteDo not transfer your marital aggressions to blog visitors @nature
DeleteI'm telling you..almost every post has curses from her.are you ok ? Are you stressed or emotionally down ? What's all this venom about ? Haba..Stella shldnt even be allowing these hateful comments they are just ..
DeleteBut mother nature why are you always ranting and sounding bitter and abusive? Always.
DeleteOya join your fellow sisters eka joy, angleRaysdk and potable viv in that corner, kneel down and close your eyes.
You are as vile as the person you are addressing if you don't know. I don't know where some people on this blog crept out from. Tufia
DeleteYour boyfriend sounds mentally and emotionally unstable. Get ready for death when you marry him if you refuse to be a full time housewife.
ReplyDeleteSome men talks more than women,dat is how my own husband went about telling people am a witch just because he wants to bring his strange woman into our home. Am yet to recover from the things he said about me,this is a husband of five years oo#AppleofGod'seye#
ReplyDeleteHe is over protective and extremely jealous, you need to sit him down and talk to him, he needs to trust you, guess he wouldn't let you choose a career path after school,what happens if he dumps u after keeping you in solitary confinement. Your relatives won't be allowed to visit after he gets married to you.trust me aside marriage you need a life sometimes it gets to you when it's only your husband and children.he needs to start controlling his emotions and trust u.
ReplyDeleteSome men talks more than women,dat is how my own husband went about telling people am a witch just because he wants to bring his strange woman into our home. Am yet to recover from the things he said about me,this is a husband of five years oo#AppleofGod'seye#
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ReplyDeleteIs this what you have to say consigning the mata at hand?
DeleteRichbee darling, this must be Auto Correct lol. *Concerning
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DeleteStella, I don't think the guy is a psycho, I probably think he was dazed to find her a virgin and wants to do everything possible not to lose her. How many virgins do we still have in the society today? He's probably going about it the wrong way, but dear poster, kindly reassure him that you are his and his alone and I'm sure all will be well. I hope I made sense.
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DeleteThe guy needs help
Broke her fone, can't keep that his big mouth off her breast, he wan suck d poor girl die ni?
that's not love
Who fagin epp
Yomi,take it from me,the guy is a psycho. He's going to go nuts one day and unleash the demon in him.
DeleteRemember I said something like this a while ago about my ex that kisses my feet and you said it's love? They're like that but when they go ballistic that's when you will see them in their real selves.
Be careful poster.
If that's d case,den he's a foolish man...does virginity guarantee good behaviour or good wife tendencies?
DeleteHmnn pls this is psycho behavior. Do you not watch crime and investigation network? This is how they all start out.
DeleteDis 1 pass me
ReplyDeleteLet me wait n read comment.
Poster 1:
ReplyDeleteYour toyfriend is "breaking your phones" now. If you stay, he will end up breaking you head! Get out of that prison you put yourself before you quench! If he want to hurt himself, let him do so. But fast and pray (or rather repent of your sins and fast and pray) so that that destroying spirit operating in him does not encroach on your life and family.
Poster 2: The scripture says, do not listen to everything people say before you hear your servants cursing you. That lady probably had a lot of issues with her husband that made her snoop in the first place. she found exit but like most girls do, she want other ladies to be like her; lose their marriage. Why didn't she bring that recordings for you to listen to? When did she become your correspondent? If you still have doubts, tell your husband what you heard.
2nd poster did he also say ur Punani is smelling, hahahhaha, I can imagine all what he said.sorry u hear. Poster 1 @20yrs u don dey nack, children of des days sef, is too early to give him dat thing, u 4 wait wen u finish, I use to have a stupid BF like, no body tell me say make I run. Nne u better RUN.
ReplyDeletecan't stay 30mins wtout putting mouth on ur breast.......bwuhahahaha
ReplyDeleteHe wan suck u die ni?....lmao
Poster 1, ur man no get work ni?
He never date b4?
That attitude is annoying. Madam twenrry (in oyibo accent) this is not love. Think twice
Poster 2 : talk to ur husband, iron things out. Some men can gossip their destiny away. No pack out o
If it's true he said those things, do research on d dirtiest secret about him, one good early morni, carry chair, sit, balance, face him, abuse d hell out of him & settle wt sex. Finito
2nd poster did he also say ur Punani is smelling, hahahhaha, I can imagine all what he said.sorry u hear. Poster 1 @20yrs u don dey nack, children of des days sef, is too early to give him dat thing, u 4 wait wen u finish, I use to have a stupid BF like, no body tell me say make I run. Nne u better RUN.
ReplyDeleteIt's too early for someone to have sex @20? Na wa o! When did you first have sex Ebony.
DeleteNo 1 please be very careful you ain't in a healthy relationship,no parent will allow their only child near such guy no go let that guy cut ur life short.
ReplyDeleteNo 2 I will read comments.
Poster2, I dislike men that discuss their spouse with friends or relatives. Your friend ought to have confronted her husband before living the house cos most men say things behind their wives they won't dare say to her face,just to let people know, they're in charge, kindly call your hubby aside and ask him, tell him someone heard it and let you know. My neighbor hates me cos I won't let my hubby join them in talking women down, which he always does with other men, u can still take charge of your home, let your hubby see how hurt and disappointed you are, and stop telling him about your siblings, they always use it against one. It is well.
ReplyDeleteat poster 2,she simply downloaded call recorder on his phone and put the stuff on auto save not manaual save so the horseband doesnt even know. but it is funny how a sharp person would see a funny app on his fone nd not investigate. anyway its sad that men act like the immature babies they are .my 2cents to u is to either beat him to the punch nd leave him .but leave the kids but go wit all ur domestic staff if you have any and then see how his brain will reset. tolerating ko ,manage ni.
ReplyDeleteor u can use the wise woman approach of settling the fire yu ddnt know was burning ur house, pray and fast bout it for 3 days telling God what you want to do and asking for his wisdom in the matter, then confront him calmly, telling him simply that you did not know he was managing u and already has plans to push you out? watch and see his reaction, you will know what direction to take after that, you can even suggest to 'leave now instead of later,why postpone the evil day'.....watch his reaction. no nid telling him how you got to knw, else he wil be more careful while still spewing thrash about.
She hid the app after downloading
DeleteSharp woman
#1 dat obsessed boyfriend of urs will slash ur jugular veins one day
ReplyDeletePoster one: Please, there is a difference between emotional attachment and possessiveness bordering on craze.
ReplyDeleteYou're not married to him, and he goes through such lengths to keep tabs on you.
When you come marry am nko?
Where you dey rush to sef? You're just 20, fresh out of uni, no experience about nothing in the world, and then right into the home of someone who is ready to cripple you, rather than allow you go out, or interact with people.
There's nothing wrong with getting married at 20 o, but I don't think you'll want to run out like Sunny's wife Dabota, who was allegedly almost stifled to death by her husband's insecurities.
I hope you know what you're doing sha.
Poster 2: Yeah, if you don't ask your husband, you'll keep wondering about the ifs and whys of his statements.
At least, even if he gives you a hurtful answer, it'll be better than wondering.
I wonder why he's waiting for the children to grow, if he doesn't love you anymore, if that's actually what he said.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 1, your man is obsessed with you. It is quite dangerous, can you cope with an obsessive man? Poster 2, are the things said close to the truth? your hubby does not love you anymore if he is truly planing to send you parking. Start saving for such rainy day i pray will never come, but first, ask him.
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ReplyDeleteWhat is bothering me more is the fact that he has decided to find solace in your boobs....the downward descent just began.
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Iphie u missed ur pretty friend.... blogbrity
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ReplyDeleteHello dear, what you are going through is not new and most ladies have been through it. First things first, you have to realize that you have so much time on your hands to develop your self and be very valuable to this world. Being married is an amazing experience but in most and not all cases, it can limit your development as a woman in many ways especially if you are with a man who wouldn't support your development. Judging from what you have told us from your story, the guy in question is very insecure and actually doesn't view you as the beautiful young girl that you are but rather as a property that he owns because he broke your virginity. I know you may love him and that is probably why you had sex with him but i want you to understand that marriage goes beyond just love (although its important) but also involves being in a safe environment with an emotionally and sexually stable person. I would sincerely advice you to end the relationship rather than take it to the level of no return. YES YOU CAN END IT AND FIND SOMEONE BETTER, SO DON'T BE AFRAID.
ReplyDelete100 likes for this comment. You said it all.
DeletePoster,don't mind these people telling you to leave your boyfriend...
ReplyDeleteMen don't ask some of them out talkeless of having a boyfriend...
Abeg hold this guy wella(if he is rich though)...
Poster 1 I hope ur husband to be never watch obsession by Hollywood. Abeg u better tusa very well if not OYO will be ur name. Small girl at 20 u don dey fuck.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 confront your husband before u take action. Listen to him first not with quarrel heart oo but just listen with patience
Poster 1,run for your dear life ooooo. He is too possessive and jealous. This might result to something else. Poster 2,hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteP1: Talk to your mum
ReplyDeleteP2: Confront your Husband ASAP
poster one. ..your boyfriend is simply obsessed and he wouldn't stop. poster two.... confront your hubby already! *just my two cents*
ReplyDeleteJust concentrate on ur family, treat ur hubby like he treats u. Men talk trash atimes to feel like bosses but the still come around kissing up ur asses. So pls pray and forget about what she said.
ReplyDeleteJust passing, will be back soon
ReplyDeleteI have an advise for only poster one.
ReplyDeleteMadam run. That uncle will steal your youth and you will begin to think of the things you could have done before marriage. But you will be married and can't do any of those. His qualities aren't even helping matters, so he would probably not help you through your youth. You will marry and most likely become a house wife. I dated one like that too. He was over 15 years my snr and because of him, I didn't attend any activity in school, he didn't want me making male or female friends. He dropped me in school in the morning and picked me after lecture. I was enjoying the whole thing till I borrowed myself sense. Now I sometimes wish I took part in events in school and made friends. When you get older, you will look back and laugh at those events and activities which you did. But it is essential you tick everything, or most of the things on your 'growing up' list, that way you will find a balance. Trust me!
1. That's not LOVE because one day that guy will definitely BEAT you up. Tell him that you are fasting and wants sometimes to seek God's face unless you are enjoying it. You need to set your priorities first before marriage.
ReplyDelete2. STart saving o and one day ask him about it, but know when to ask. Pray
Stella you can be funny sometimes sha. Even if she didn't hear the recordings am sure they talked about things that lady wont ordinarily know that's why she believed her. In this age and time sef who believes things without evidence. My sister's ex-bf had once said alot of rubbish about her before not knowing one of the guys at the bar where he was talking was our cousin, my sister didn't believe until the guy brought out a recording of the things this mad man said.
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I am married to one of those, he can gossip for tomorrow. A man o! With his sister, his friend, my respect for him reduced drastically when I found out.
ReplyDeletePoster2 please don't leave Ur home, I know Ur pained but the truth is marriage is full of shit! Be wise ! Just try n get Ur own money in case he tries to be funny and don't ever discuss anything negative about Ur siblings with Ur hubby. Set boundaries! # thistooshallpass! No need of leaving Ur home!
ReplyDeletePoster2 please don't leave Ur home, I know Ur pained but the truth is marriage is full of shit! Be wise ! Just try n get Ur own money in case he tries to be funny and don't ever discuss anything negative about Ur siblings with Ur hubby. Set boundaries! # thistooshallpass! No need of leaving Ur home!
ReplyDeleteIt's possible that this is the way these husbands vents their angers instead of cheating. It doesn't necessary mean that they don't love their wives. Some women do that as well to clear their heads instead of having confrontations with their spouses. Not right though as couples must keep communication line alive in their homes. Madam, leave your extended family out of this,pray for wisdom and approach your husband on this subject. May God restores peace into your marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 be wise and don't let truth deniers stop you from being smart. My opinion is the things you were told ring a bell. Personally l am aware many husbands gossip. My husband has often told me if his friend wants to.leave his wife and it comes to pass. I was happy we left the country and we have a new circle around us.
ReplyDeleteTread with care around your husband. Don't waste your time putting anything right a man who talks bad does not love you and you cannot make anyone love you. Start making plans and keep peace in the house. Be very secretive. Be ready for the day he tells you to leave or mistreats you
My dear poster 2,something like dis happen to me,I was discussing wit DH on phone and he said that my sister hubby didn't welcome him well when he visited them,and I said maybe he is tired or having a discussion with the elders in his house cos they buried his father a day before,my dear na so my hubby provoke o,I send me one heartbreaking message,that I am wicked,that I can kill,that I never support him,always standing with my family and he regretted marrying me,that is only God that will save him from me.
ReplyDelete@ poster1, I understand what you feel. I was into same kind of relationship infact he was my first boyfriend. He wants touching and sex all the time, has spies all over me, whenever I say it's over he cries whenever I say it's over. He even swore we will get old and die together, my dear I rejected oh. Our breakup was like magic, just run for your dear life. but if you can cope sha, good luck.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Did you listen to the recording yourself? You need to listen to the recording before you take any action and if it is true, you need to ask your husband.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Flee from fornication and turn to God to guide your decisions. Folly and foolishness go together and you will never reap anything good in the end. A word is enough for the wise.
ReplyDeleteStella pls learn how to advice before u scatter people's relationship. If u can't, kindly do some consultations. Ur advice to poster 1 is very bad. Some guys do behave like that, but when they eventually marries d lady, they will relax.
ReplyDeleteOga any guy that behaves like that is a physcho on the loose! I have been there and i can tell you they never change...instead of changing they get worse. I wish i knew i would have left that my sick bf but no, i waited till he almost killed me because of his insecurities.
DeleteImagine someone that threatened to disfigure me so that no man will look at me except him. If i have breakout on my face or my skin becomes bad, he will be happy because in his useless mind, no man will look at me except him. I cnt forget the day he beat me up with wire because i received a guy's call and even send thugs to beat the guy up. Na God save me because i was very young and naive and initially i thought it was all love. Poster please run for your life and dont mind this yeye man who probably is an abuser telling you that your man will change..HE WONT CHANGE!!!
You are a fool.so if she's your junior sister u will advise her to go ahead with this unhea
DeleteYou will advise her to go ahead with unhealthy relationship.someone smashing ur phone and monitoring ur life like sss.my dear uve seen the signs and u deserve better.be wise and use it head not emotions
DeletePoster 1 receive wisdom in Jesus name amen. Something doesn't rally with your story. It's either you are lying or you don't know what your talking about. All these things happened in 4 FOUR months ??? Haba. He disvirgined you, broke your 2phones, you people have broken up n made up,planing introduction all in four months. Hie I no fit shout. #need for speed#hahaha. Nne m am ashamed of you. It's obvious you don't even know what your doing. What exactly do you know about men? Biko leave him and concentrate on yourself first before any boyfriend ish.
ReplyDeleteI feel so sad for you cos am seeing you like my younger sister.this guy is 13yrs older than you and more wiser.his just playing with ur emotions and u are not thinking with ur head but putting sentiments.my dear relationship are meant to be enjoyed not managed and sending pple away from you.you are too young for all this unhealthy issues.this is obsesstion and it doesn't get better cos u can't change him.when you get married to him,u will suffer in silence cos he would have chased pple away from you.if someone can smash ur phone then ur face will be the next to smash.
ReplyDeleteLet him cry for all u care,he won't die.Are u his first girlfriend.@ 33 his taking advantage of you.
The word is enough for the wise.U deserve better.think with your head cos u deserve better..
Comeon its just 4 months old relationship. He is just infatuated with you. See ursef as a brand new car, with time, it becomes less amazing and reality will set in. Ill be careful though with the marriage proposal. But if he is normal in other ways. Forgetabouit, he will get tired of it and give u a break
ReplyDeletePoster 1,your chronicle sounds familiar. I might even assume the guy is an ex of mine. End the relationship. It is an unhealthy one. IMO
ReplyDeletePoster 1: you don jam wahala. Better pray and ask for wisdom to exit this strange relationship. Your guy is sick. E go soon begin smell your undies with allegations that you are sleeping around. Wait and see!
ReplyDeleteposter 2: When somebody go smell yansh, wetin e expect to smell? Perfume? Your friend marriage don pafuka before now. She was just looking for an excuse to pack out! As for you, lovingly confront your husband and tell him what your friend discovered when she recorded her husband's phone conversation for a week! Let him explain himself. But that your friend is wicked! Did she allow listen to the recorded gossip? No use your hands scatter your marriage on hearsay basis. Be wise. Ciao.