Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives....

Every woman must learn how to handle a bad mother in law!....YES,find her mumu button and you will never have to worry again!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

MOTHER IN LAW BROUHAHA

Good day Stella. Please I want to remain anonymous. Let me go straight to the point cos my story is long and I need your humble advice. Thanks.

My mother-in-law was to come to Ph for a wedding and my husband asked her to come stay with us a day before the wedding which was on Saturday. My husband told her that he would be sending the driver from Ph to Aba to come pick her up. 

The day she was to come, I asked my hubby how far and he said she would soon be coming. I was in the sitting room with my husband’s boy and he said he advised my husband to allow his mum come in her own car since there was fuel scarcity. She drives an Infinity FX45 but doesn't like travelling in her car maybe because of bad road, I don't know why. The guy said it doesn't make sense sending someone to Aba and then coming back to Ph and go back to Aba the following day after the wedding and then come back to Ph again. You get the whole thing? I was like it’s a good idea but I didn’t call my husband to discuss that issue cos he was already at work and moreover it’s his mum, he knows the best decision.

Fast forward, I spoke to her last when she was at Airforce base and told her that once she gets to GRA junction, she should call so that we could send someone to come direct them from there but she didn’t tell us that her phone battery was flat and was almost going off and her driver didn’t travel with his own phone. After a few minutes, I started calling but her line was switched off and I called my husband several times, cos he was at work, so I would confirm if she’s okay but his line was on call waiting. So I gave up calling until I saw my mother-in-law in my house. I greeted her but she ignored me and started shouting at me that we couldn’t send someone to come pick her and that if it was my mother, I would have sent the driver from Ph. 

My husband called back to know why I was calling and I told him I wanted to know if he was with his mum but she had arrived and she was in the house shouting at me saying it was my fault. How would I have known her phone was going off? He hung up on me and came back home and started shouting at his mum. They started arguing and bringing up issues and when I served her food, she said she wasn't going to eat my food. My husband didn’t even let her carry our child that night and now they are quarrelling. He doesn’t pick her call and when I tried talking about it, he said he doesn’t want to talk about it. Now, my mom-in-law has given her other children the impression that I am the cause of her quarrel with her son and we don’t talk too. 

I'm in the middle of the whole thing and my husband doesn’t care. What do I do to restore peace?

You better look for wisdom and common sense and try to rectify this cos if you didnt report to your husband,he would not have come home angry...it was wrong of you not to have bridled your tongue...you wanna tell me that you dont know the kind of person your hubby is and you didnt know how he would have reacted?

Remember that there are some families,once they begin to war with you,consider your marriage a past tense.

Every woman must learn how to handle a bad mother in law!

Your hubby is quarelling with his mother and you cannot sit him down and tell him the truth?Imagine your son not talking to you later over a fracas like this and think of how you might want it.

Get your hubby to call his mum and APOLOGISE at once for shouting her down and let him try to broker peace ...whether you like it or not,you are the reason 

this quarell happened becos you didnt handle the situation with wisdom!!!

My mother in law is the best thing that ever happened to me becos i learned how to handle her..she is not perfect but i treat her in a way that brings only the best out of her .find your mother in laws mumu button and you will be fine!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

MARRYING A BABY DADDY IS FORBIDDEN

I’m 25 years old lady and by God's grace, I will be finishing Uni this year. Now my problem started (though some might not see it as a big deal) in 2009 after I had to leave the former Uni due to threats from cultists (I was in part three). I suffered rejections from my parents and relatives especially my mum. 

She made life so unbearable for me. I suffered depression and emotional trauma cos I was made to stay at home in order not to cause disgrace to them (you know people that already know you are in school now seeing you at home) and we are only two, myself and my elder sis. She travels a lot cos she’s into business but she’s the best sis anyone could have. She really encouraged me all through.

Along the line, I met a guy who showed me love and even made sure I got admission into the Uni I am presently in but in 2014, he got someone pregnant and I had to break up with him. I was so devastated and shattered as if my whole life had crumbled but with my elder sis's support, I was able to pull through. 

She advised me a lot. We were so close that we do talk intimately so I don't worry about having friends. We travel together at times and she was a wonderful sister to me. Last year, she died in an accident and that was the straw that broke the camel's back. I haven’t recovered fully from the shock.

I forgot to tell you, I met a very wonderful man last year. He’s the busy type and he’s serious with me but he hardly has time for me. He is always travelling, like four to five months, although, I know his siblings. I haven’t been to see his mum. Now my misery, so to say, started last week when he told me someone had a child for him 10 years ago and it was a mistake. 

My mouth dripped saliva and I couldn't say anything on phone. He said having a child is no big deal and he wasn’t acting like it’s a big deal to him. My problem right now is, I’m traumatized cos my father will never agree that we get married cos he has a child somewhere. I do love him but I’m scared and confused. I really need help. I don't have any friend, even in school, cos I’ve been a lone ranger and an unhappy girl coupled with an unloving mum who doesn't listens to me. I feel alone in this world, no friend. I miss my sis. Please what should I do concerning my bf's case? We are currently on semester break. All I do is cry at home right now. Please Aunty Stella, help me to post my chronicle.

Must you tell them that he has a child?if you think he is serious discuss this very well with him and dont let your parents know jack!.....there is nothing wrong with marrying a baby daddy except the baggage and drama that comes with it but thats okay if you can handle it....WAIT RIGHT THERE....Before you marry anyone at all you need to get help for your deep rooted depression,okay?

Wish you the best...Dry your tears and LIVE YOUR LIFE!