Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

One post,three different stories ......

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

CHURCH CONDITIONS BEFORE MARRIAGE

Aunty mi Stella,

Abeg help a sister out. I am so confused now I don't even know what to do or who to talk to.

I am supposed to get married on the 26th of March and we are wedding in my parents church. My fiance agreed o and we've been making plans. We traveled over last weekend to see the marriage committee of the church only for them to inform us that my husband has to do semen analysis as part of the requirements before the wed us. 

Their explanation is that a lot of men become 'tigers' after marriage and if there is delay in conception, people always blame the woman. And that some men even refuse to go to the hospital to have a check up done. The church says it will wed us irrespective of the result but its just their own way of protecting the women who are always victims most times.

Now the issue at hand is my fiance does not want to have a semen analysis done (no tenable reason for this reaction) and he's already asking that we wed in another church since my parent's church will not wed us without the result from the lab scientist in the church. My parents would think he has an issue for saying no (I'm tempted to think so too) if i tell them what he said.

He wants us to lie that he cant ejacul*** by masturbation which is the only permitted means of making semen for the lab. He's already saying he has sacrificed a lot for agreeing to go and wed in a town where he has no friends and is even having a rethink about wedding there.

I am scared and confused at the same time. walking away is not an option o. Abeg I need sensible comments on the way forward as condemning the church will not help me at this time.

Thanks for the platform.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

BEING FRIENDS WITH LE BOO'S SIBLINGS..

Hello Stella. Good day to you.

I have an issue and I was hoping my fellow bvs will be able to help.

I met a guy online some weeks ago and I think I am in love with him already. Well we are dating already...cos I forced him to define the relationship (no time to start doing girlfriend when you've been friend zoned). 

We talk everyday and I connect so much with him. He is presently not in the country but I'm fine with it. He makes me laugh and he is pretty smart.

Somehow I got his brother's number (from him) and I have been talking to his brother for a while too.His brother is in Nigeria. Due to the difference in time zones,I have to stay awake till late to talk to my boyfriend cos he gets back from work late but I talk to his brother well cos we are in the same time zone. 

His brother is also pretty cool and I feel his brother knows me more than my boyfriend does. This is because we talk most of the time about everything.

Now I want to know if there's a problem with talking with your partner's sibling without strings attached because if at the end we get married, his family practically becomes mine. 

Thank you Stella.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE

SOLUTION FOR WHEN S3X LEAVES A MARRIAGE.....

Dear Stellacious,

I need the advise of fellow BV's on this issue. I got married 2005, at age 30 , that was last 10years ago, but I never enjoyed my hubby, both financially, emotionally, sexually, materially and otherwise.

He doesn't sleep in our bedroom always like sleeping in d parlour, I have pleaded for him to come to bed he bluntly refused. The major issue now  is for the past 6 months he neither come to me or make moves for sex even when I am naked. If I asked he always said he is tired.

I have 3 children of which those children came from God and not number of love we made, For the past 10 years now I have never enjoyed sex because he is not good at all, and right now he has gone worst, before he can do 3 minutes but now nothing at all.

I called his close friend to ask him if he is seeing someone,  he said no but it seems he is having some issues with his sexual life, of which I have asked him he refused to tell me, when I persuaded him he yelled at me and walked out of me and said I should never bother him, that it is not my business. 

                                                                         
Please BV's for a man that cannot perform or satisfy his wife on bed what can be done to handle the situation, be it herbal or medical without after effect. I need my husband, I love him. I have been starved of sex especially during ovulation. Please don't suggest Dido I am a christian I cannot use it, moreover I can neither kiss or romance Dido left alone headie.

I need help biko I am still young  to stay without sex.