Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

WHEN THE EX AGITATES TO COME BACK...

Hi.

I am a regular reader of your blog. I have this particular problem and I would like other people to share their opinion because right now, I don't really know what I want.

It all started in NYSC camp. There was this guy that was into me and was asking me out but for some reasons, I did not like him and didn't give him time at all. I just couldn't stand being with him.

Fast forward to a couple of weeks later, we left camp and somehow, we became friends. I noticed he was very attentive, caring, and thoughtful and gradually found myself falling for him. All I can say is that I was truly in love with him and though he was not perfect, he loved me. It was very obvious in his actions. I met his family and I also introduced him to my mother. We talked for hours about nothing, shared secrets and he even asked me for a blood oath when I told him I wasn't ready to get married just yet but that when I am, I will get married to him. He is 28 years old, the first son, financially secured and ready for marriage. He was already into business before he went to school.

All of a sudden, the relationship became strained. We stopped talking as we used to. He wasn't calling as before and I felt bad. I was wondering what was going on with him, tried calling him sometimes but our conversations just weren't flowing so I decided to back off and let him do his mind. I guess that was my pride deciding for me. But one fateful day, I couldn’t take it again so I chatted him up and asked what was going on with us. I got the unexpected. He told me that our relationship was now dry and boring and that we should start dating other people.

 At first, I thought he was joking as he is a very jealous guy. Then he started giving me reasons why he couldn’t continue with me starting with I wasn't free with his family, that when I came over, I did not help with the cooking and that I was too childish for him and he has plans to travel soon and would not want to keep me here waiting for him when he is not sure of his plans for me.

Stella, I thought I was having a bad dream. This was a guy I did not want to date and now, he made me fall for him only to come break my heart. It was very bad I confess. Against my better judgment and ego, I called him and started begging him, telling him I was going to change and when he travels, I won't mind waiting for him, that age was still on my side (I am still 21 years old) only for him to tell me that his mind was made up and that I can’t undo what has been done. 

I asked what he meant by that but he wasn't forthcoming with an answer rather he told me he has moved on. I asked with whom and he told me “with his life”. I got the impression that there was another girl in the picture but I continued begging him and he told me that I’m a pretty girl and that I will find somebody better than him, that he cannot fake his feelings for me and he doesn’t want me to be a side chick. He even asked what he could do for me to make up for my social life that I gave up for him. He was so calm and courteous with me, begging me to understand his decision and not hate him. I saw it was a lost battle and so I gathered myself together and told him I was okay with it and that we could be great friends. I spoke with his friend, who at first didn't believe me that his friend could break up with me because we were happy with each other. He suggested I hung out with other guys and start meeting new people but I still could not move on completely. I thought of him even when I started seeing his posts with a new girl.

It’s been five months since we broke up and I like to believe I am over him, only for him to add me back on BBM that he once deleted me from even after we agreed to be great friends. I was surprised but I acted cool. I chat with him when he chats me up only for him to ask we hang out one day saying he missed me and he is very sorry for all the pains he must have caused me. I asked about his babe and he told me he just used her to get over me when he was hurting. It didn’t add up considering he broke up with me but he said we needed to talk to enable him explain his actions. He insisted on meeting so I agreed to see him but I have been giving excuses and do not pick his calls. 

My friends that called him then to beg on my behalf are telling me to ignore him and show him how painful it is and I’m just here confused. Please hide my email address. Thank you.

 Hmmmmmmm......

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 NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

FRIENDS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

Greetings Stella. I must admit that your blog is a must-see for me on a daily basis and I’m doing this religiously.

I do like you to look into my chronicles and offer your two cents.

My fiancée informed me that she just found a friend, male for that matter. I believe her in every way and never snooped but this “new male friend” is a NO NO for me. 

She told me he will remain a friend as long as he doesn’t overstep his boundaries but which female makes friends with a male? Do platonic relationships still exists? Needless to say, she disapproves of me having female friends but can I say I’m safe with bae having a male friend?

She asked if I’m cool with it and I affirmed but deep down, I want to scream HELL NO!

I will be reading comments.

*hiss!