Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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TO BLOW THE WHISTLE OR NOT.....

Hi Stella. I am a fan of your blog and here is my chronicle. Please hide my identity.

Ezekiel and I met at a conference and we clicked instantly. We became friends and then lovers. To this day, Ezekiel and I have been dating for 7 years with no project and I must tell you that throughout the 7 years of messing about, I was never introduced to his friends or relatives. All I know about him is what he is willing to share with me.

On many occasion, I have ended things with him because I was under the impression that he might be living a double life because there were no explanation as to why I could not know about the people who are close to him. I would not mind if they hate me for any reason but seeing them face to face and observing them interact with me ,or not, would give me more insight into the mysterious man I was dating. 

I confronted Ezekiel on the subject and he says it will happen, but when? I did my own research on google with Ezekiel’s full name and that was how I saw an article featuring him, his daughter, his wife and their new born baby. Ezekiel is a father with a family of his own. How come he managed to spend weeks and months with me while having a family? I was very shocked and hurt at finding out the truth because I gave my whole to him and the relationship. 

I wanted to believe something good will come out of it. I did not know how to confront him on what I found out because he would rightly accuse me of spying on him and not trusting him, I feared his reaction. I wiped my tears and decided to play a game where he would be manipulated into feeding me with the truth.

One day, I was with him and left him to have a shower. Whilst in the bathroom, I heard him arguing violently with someone and I opened the door to hear better. He was arguing with the wife about something to do with the household and his responsibility regarding that. I allowed him to finish the conversation and then I stormed out. I said “So all along, you have been playing me? What are you doing with me when you have a wife and kids waiting for you at home? This explains why I have never seen any of your friends or relatives, why I have never heard their voices...You have been wasting my time and to think that I have introduced you to all my loved ones!” I felt so used and ashamed. What would I tell my friends and family?

His response was to tell me that he meant to tell me about the situation with the wife but he was too ashamed to open up to me. According to him, his marriage was a sham and he was at loggerheads with his wife and they were planning to get a divorce. The guy cried so much that he would have filled up a bucket with his tears. He said he’s trapped and I should consider giving him time to process with the divorce because the wife was making it very complicated. One day she wants to divorce, other days she does not want.

Stella, deep down, I do not believe that this guy has issues with the wife to the point of threatening her with a divorce. The wife is very powerful but he may not be owning up to his responsibility and runs to me to escape facing his wife. I now believe that he sees the wife and children from time to time unbeknown to me. I told him to go back to the wife because he has built a foundation with her and that he should be assisting her in making the marriage strong. I told him there’s no love between us and that I am not to be known as a home wrecker.

 I really want to end it for good but he sleeps at my house and in my bed and has access to my body. What can I do to get him out of my life? I have his wife’s contact number, I know her on Facebook and I know where she works. Should I spill the beans to her so that he can leave me in peace?

Thank you Stella and best wishes to you!

*Still thinking...

Please my Dear,let me read comments,i will be back to say my bit when i conclude with thinking...