There's this case one which one of my friends cousin is working on.It is a true life story and presently unfolding...
A lady that just got married a couple of months ago is filing for a divorce. When she was dating the guy, he said no sex before marriage and the lady accepted.
That was how they started preparing for wedding .....
Note that energy, time and money was involved. After wedding na, make bobo come gbensh, he started giving one excuse after another, until the babe begin para .. That was when the guy now confessed that his dick no dey function.
All that "no sex before marriage was to lure the girl into marriage since they say its for better for worse.
My question is this, those of you who say you cannot marry someone with physical disability,isnt this an even worse disability? privates Malfunction without being prepared for it!
Some Ladies spring a surprise on the wedding night when he tries to penetrate and finds out that Wifey dearest has got the worst case of Vaginismus.I know some guy who told me he had the worst kind of third degree burns on his blokos after making love to his new wife..it was a big battle he had said and after it all they tried two more days of which he was successful but by the 6th day,he had terrible burns from being bruised trying to go in....Her case is so bad that everytime you try is like trying again.He couldnt deal,he has healed and presently filing for divorce and has sworn not be celibate with anyone he wants to marry...There are plenty stories..
Those couples who do not get intimate before marriage,do they always end up finding out they are incompatible or that one partner or both have lied?
It is only people with something to hide that insist on no colabing b4 marriage
ReplyDeleteNot true,joor
DeleteEyaaaa
DeleteGod condemns fornication so please, be careful with your comments. Our main aim in life should be to make heaven. I'm not trying to be 'miss goody two shoes' but please, let's be careful and remember that we all will account for our words and actions.
DeleteIt's better you live your life like heaven is real and find out it's not than to live like it's not real and later on, find out it is.
Lol, Mr money maker, can't laugh abeg. What about real born again people
DeleteEnd time celibacy is too gud for naija guys only.
DeleteJames, are you a man or a boy with a phone, you seem to have too much time on your hands, always commenting on every post. You come be first to comment for this post. Na wa o.
DeleteI wasn't a virgin when I got married but I decided @ some point to be celibate. I didn't sleep with hubby till our wedding night, cos achorom story of idi ime or ife ndi ozo. sex is super okay and I have a baby to prove that, lol. Different strokes for different folks.
DeleteThis one worst pass oooh
DeleteShe should divorce his ugly ass afterall is allowed!
This is called impediment
Ermmm some valid points...But God's word says flee from fornication na.
DeleteCan't vaginismus or what is it called be fixed?
Malfunctioning dick? During courtship, a malfunctioning dick carrier will never make attempt to get intimate(or am I wrong). When you notice he behaves like a wood(no blood in his veins) around you, that should give you concern na.
So should we encourage getting pregnant/having a baby before marriage? To avoid impotency/infertility issues after marriage?
You may have the best sexual experience(bomb pussy, perfect dick) before marriage and after marriage the sex is still heavenly but there is a prob with conceiving (no offence to those TTC). What happens then? File for divorce too?
Or child bearing is not as important as a good sexual life after marriage?
Anonymous 13.11
DeleteSo what? Mind your biz. What about other ppl who post comments? If you don't love this blog enuf to post 1st, then dissappear. Abi u be monitoring spirit? Get a job...notice me
*chews weed*
A baby doesn't prove your sex life is okay. @amebo mistress
DeleteThis post is not just about celibacy. What if you were to find out that your spouse is hiding something bad or a deformity? I saw a post on linda where the groom to be has prostrate cancer which could be terminal yet he is hiding it from his fiancee. What would you guys do in that situation when you find out? GOD FORBID THOUGH
DeleteMe and my husband had been gbenshing since UNi days ..so I v not had this experience ..apart from divorce the offended partner should sue ..why let soemone waste all of his/her emotions , energy, time and money knowing fully well you can't function ..that's unfair
ReplyDeleteChineke!!!!
DeleteBefore I read comments, lemme go and disvirgin lee boo, dnt want stories that touch abeg.
*packsbag*
I am team gbensh well b4 marriage. Also u must hve spent several nights together to know who snores, rolls anyhow etc bcos u will be shating the same bed and house forever.
DeleteYou should spent atleast weekends together too.
Remember when u have issues, nothing like u will vex and go home, cos u guys are now 1 and live together. Abeg all ye preachers, no even mention me cos av said my own and am def gonna practise what i preach
It is good to taste before you marry to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteFor me I will say it depends on the individual.. but the man I will end up marrying, both of us must gbensh before marriage.. let us both know our sexual capability and performance before 'see through' go enter the matter.. I can't shout biko..
DeleteNot having sex before marriage is biblical but it is dicey. When my hubby told me no gbenshing...i was scared o...like which kain fine boi go talk this kain thing cos he is born again...ours was a beautiful courtship but i ensured i seduced him and felt d strong thing even though he refused to nack.
ReplyDeleteOur wedding night was boom baaah gboyahhh....n as intense as u can imagine...lol
We r TTC and hopeful. So staying celibate is possible but sisters confirm partially o....so u wont enter one chance after wedding. Ehen
463 comment 2016
God will do it 4 you!
DeleteI recommend Psalm 20 4 u
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DeleteHmmmm.
ReplyDelete'In all ur ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct ur path' is a spiritual rule that guides every believer.
DeleteApply it in ur life, in choosing a life partner and in everything you do, and you'd see u don't even need to test before u buy.
When u want to choose a life partner, get God involved, abandon ur will to Him and watch Him lead u. He did it for me. I stand with sexual purity all the way. It's God's Word or nothing. Save sex for marriage and stop adopting myopic human wisdom. Gbenshing before marriage won't guarantee a sexually healthy marriage. Only God can.
Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com
(Uncovering the unfeuitful works of darkness..Eph 5:11)
Celibacy is not for me. I can agree to celibacy if it's a distant relationship but when he's back, oh boy! The Gbenshing no go get part 2.
ReplyDeleteWhy won't you know the functionality of your forever after blokos to be! Mehta I can't dare.
Celibacy is good if u don't want to Gbensh another man while your man is away or your babe is away!
My 1 kobo
Kwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwakwa @forever after blokos to be..sister you just said my mind o. Even if it's just a few times, I will advice testing as well.
DeleteNaturally am a very loose girl so it would not work for me
ReplyDelete*dat messed up silly girl*
wow! can you come over to ikeja so me and my guys can have fun with you? reply if u agree
DeleteAsshole!!!
DeleteLol, Odi! Your comment killed me.....hahaha
DeleteThis is serious issue oo...what if you have tasted once or twice with boo and decides to go celibate nko?
ReplyDeleteWe can gbensh once or twice and then decide no gbenshing till after marriage.. but bottom line is 'we mush knack before marriage' we need to know ourslves to that point before saying I do.
DeleteDis one too is a good idea.. If the guy can do a fee times and wait till you get married . bug it might be a bit difficult after he don taste.
DeleteGbenshing all the time,who get time for celibacy when the guy go dey gbenshing too out.
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmm. Stella bae hw r u??
ReplyDeleteIt's a valid reason for annulment if sensitive information like that was hidden from the spouse. The courts can even declare such marriages null and void in the first place. So those people trying to trick others should think twice.
ReplyDelete@oh-G, precisely! An annulment is in order.
DeleteThose couples who do not get intimate before marriage,do they always end up finding out they are incompatible or that one partner or both have lied?
ReplyDeleteNOT ALL may be few
Yesterday's chronicle of hope poster...i suspect that your husband knew about his condition that is why he insisted on no sex before marriage and you fell for it. Imagine for six years sef. He knew how to trap you and you just felt he was being Godly.
ReplyDeleteWetin concern me with no sex before marriage? Not me please! I cannot shout. I cant even date without sex..and yes, i enjoy sex alot so that mermaid thing is not for me. Only in a case that i am meeting the guy for the first time or i wam not into the guy..apart from that, i cant be forming celibacy when i know i no fit do am!
Don't mind them.
DeleteThat is how they will use celibacy to trap ladies into marriage made in hell.
Please keep your yeye celibacy. If there's anyone to advocate for celibacy in a relationship, it's me; But I wont!
I cannot be in a relationship without Sex. When the love is there, just thinking about the boo alone makes me moist down there, lol
I cannot be a mermaid in a relationship, no vex. I love to eat and be eaten.
And better come loaded. I mean physically and Walletically.
I miss having having boyfriend. Hmmmm
Brb!
Ashewo! how many body counts with u have in your lifetime?
DeleteAnonymous!!! You are even a bigger Ashewo!!! It takes one prostitute to know another. Look!!!! Its multiple dicks falling out your putrid vagina.
DeleteBiatch!!!
CelibaShit!
ReplyDeleteI cant marry someone i havn't tasted&tested his government house. Call me whore-losho.....I gi rii.
SHantelle
Yes oooo
DeleteThis is why I can never marry someone I've never slept with. People will be forming holy spirit but when the time comes they will start crying.
ReplyDeleteBtw how did the man get third degree burns? I don't get it
Pls explain third degree burns
DeleteI'm assuming the term is an exaggeration
DeleteHe got sorely bruised, due to friction from the dry and tight vagina.
#WhiteDiamondOut
I can't imagine a healthy agile tall dark handsome well to do guy like me taking that nonsense from a girlfriend.
ReplyDeleteI can still remember the third time my gf visited.She came by 10am and let by 6pm. But I did it 5 times.
She was pleasantly surprised. She said if she had slept over, I would have have killed her with too much action.
You are morally bankrupt
DeleteAbeg shut up dere!! Ewu! We know ur type, if I hear say u go 5times..except each round was 30seconds each, ode! With that your hunch back. Anuofia!
DeleteA lot of couples who abstained before marriage did not have any problems. This includes those who were virgins and had no experience whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteThey went on to have a healthy and fulfilling sex life.
Do not forget that the Bible says the marriage bed should be undefiled. It's not easy adhering to God's commandments, let's not make it harder for those who are trying their best to comply by scaring them off with posts like this.
Thank u bisolar
DeleteBisolar....
DeleteYou are so right .
Thanks. The bible can not be wrong but God will not force you to honor His words. You can do it your own way but everything has a reward.
DeleteI also know a girl that married in 2007,at d age of 23.a virgin.infact everybody knew including the church.people were so proud.they are stil ttc.God will do it for them in jesus name.
DeleteThis is a deceptive word,from the pit of hell.
ReplyDeleteOkay...I will have to feel the hard-on before exchanging vows.
ReplyDeleteI think the motive for celibacy is most important. If it is because of the fear of God in a genuine christian its hardly a front to cover a dark secret. However, if u have a happening guy or babe who does everything without inhibition and suddenly is "Mary-Amaka" when it comes to sex is worrisome. You need to shine ya eyes! Besides, even with normal virgins things could get "heated" and they'll have to flee temptation and it shows that the individual is normal. Some virgins are just frigid or impotent and hide under no premarital sex but if you're smart, you'll figure 'em out.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u ojare
DeleteDepending on the people involve shah
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes from 'some' guys, those involve should shine EYES properly.
Truth be told..
ReplyDeleteWhat if something happens to him after marriage. ..
That is y as christain date one who is true n faithful to God do not joke with your marriage counselling procedure... God will reveal thing hidden gradually. .. even if u praise celibacy your man must react to your presence reasons why they say do not stay alone. ..
Evety man born of a woman must react to the presence of one her loves. .. it just the ability to control your self..
Remember if he is a God in sex n has no morals or cares less about u..your chronicles will still reach us here..
Leme read comments
ReplyDeleteIt is only people with something to hide that insist on no colabing b4 marriage
ReplyDeleteWhat is "colabing?"
DeleteAre u indirectly saying God is wrong for saying sex should be for married couples?
ReplyDeleteEmjayyyyyyyy! Stop acting all virgin
DeleteSit yo ass down Em jay!!!
DeleteI hear if this sort of case arises in some churches, as long as there has been no consumation,the marriage will be annulled.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is when either party insists on celibacy because he or she has something to hide. If the reason for celibacy is because premarital sex is a sin, that's different. Hubby and I were celibate until our wedding night because that's our scriptural belief and nothing to hide. We're compatible. Its simply wicked to hide any sexual issue from an intended spouse. If you're both honest and discover any vaginismus after wedding, it is treatable. Patience and understanding is gonna be tested. I'm an all time advocate of celibate until marriage because that's obedience to God
ReplyDeleteThanks. I'm presently celibate and my BF understands. It's God's commandment and if you're willing He will always strengthen you. God has helped me to honor His words and I try to flee from anyone that may lure me into fornication.
DeleteThis is definitely impersonation!u didn't see another name to use?change your ways#AppleofGod'seye#
DeleteCelibacy without Christ is the same as fasting without Christ.
ReplyDeleteYou are deceiving yourself, you are starving.
Put God in your decision at all times and everything will be sorted out.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Pls don't castigate me o! I ones had a crush on one good looking guy, and I was glad he made a move after a few months , and I agreed to date him , time to have sex I just could believe my eyes it was very very small and no erection just soft ! I won't lie I never saw him again after dat day , it was a huge turnoff
ReplyDeleteThis is what I'll do too. No time to waste time
DeleteI did the same. Check out the goods before owning them.
DeleteThe world has become so worldly, but God's word must stand. God said no sex before marriage, people must follow God, let him direct when its time to marry and He won't put us in one chance, He is not a bad God. I married my husband without sex before hand and we did not have these issues. Things like this is not the norm but rather an exception and so should not make us go against God's will.
ReplyDeleteI so much agree with your comments that stories like Stella told are exceptions not the norm. There are also a number of peeps who had premarital sex that later went on to have erectile issues. The word of God can't be changed no matter how much of 21st century we claim the truth remains
DeleteNa wa..o that is wickedness na. Over to those wey no dey like taste. Common ijebu garri you go taste am whether e go slap for mouth not to talk of ina tinz
ReplyDeleteIt is well oh!
ReplyDeleteNo sex until after marriage is really risky, that guy is so heartless. I feel if you have any disability is wise to disclose it to your would be partner on time. Why playing smart by saying no sex and hurting the person. Pastors keep saying do not test till after marriage, see what people are doing. Me am still using side eye to check if I will still agree to no testing before marriage.
ReplyDeleteIt's unfortunate some of us are not sincere. I got engaged last October 2015. We were practising no sex until January 2916 when I insisted on testing my car. I found out he has bad preejaculation. Although he's receiving treatment but sex is boring and annoying. I'm exciting for the marriage. He'll no!
ReplyDeleteNawa o.. U have already killed yourself before the marriage started. Take heart
DeleteLet me read comments cos am sure my man is going to break up with me when he comes back to naija this month.
ReplyDeleteI'm in a tight corner now.
OLOSHO no de hide! Open legs jor n receive
DeleteBut na you Ideato be the MVP of Olosho na. I no wan receive na by force?
DeleteJames,I don't think you must have something to hide to keep your body holy unto God,anyway,except there are other reasons I am unaware of.This is really sad.I married a virgin.My husband deflowered me after two attempts and I was over 30.So,you see its different strokes for different folks.In fact,DH is the one with challenges now.He is not only a 1min man,he also has low sperm count.Doc says it will be slightly difficult to impregnate a woman.We have been married for over two years now.He refused any medical checks before marriage.Should I divorce him for that?.I could accuse him for knowing and covering it up.I even primarily married to have kids.So you see,things happen and that's why marriage its only for matured minds,even love is not enough at times.I am praying for a miracle in any case.
ReplyDeleteMay your miracle happened. But if u had tasted u won't continue with a 1min man
DeleteHappen
Delete*chokes on weed*
DeleteYour husband is wicked. Men will sleep around without protection and catch all sorts of stds then look for virgin wife to marry. Later the woman go dey suffer dey fast for fruit of the womb...
I don't know why any sane human being will agree to no sex before marriage when they aren't virgins. The world is full of evil. When you aren't a virgin, why wait??????
ReplyDeleteHumans like to categorize sin just to feel good. Pre-marital sex isn't the only sin. If you cheat your to be spouse financially and die before the wedding, you will go to hell.
Some problems in life can be avoided. Have sex ooooooo people. Know the person you are about to spend the rest of your life with.
Fuck them in the rain, under the sun, in the car, kitchen, on the floor, in the bathroom, everywhere. You need to know what that dick is capable of to avoid stories that touch the clit...
Why save an already used pussy? Give it out and know if he can perform to your rhythm or not before even introducing him to your family. Suck it, sit on it, ride it, massage it...do everything with that dick be it in the morning, afternoon or night. Sheybi it wants to be yours for life?
One girl just ended her 1 year old marriage because her "pastor" husband lied to her. His whole family knew his dick is DEAD but played along till after the wedding. This could be avoided.
If your to be spouse isn't a virgin, do not marry without fucking yourselves over and over again.
Personally, I will fuck my man daily then take a break of 6weeks before the wedding and resume on our wedding night. I need to know how that dick reacts to my pussy in the morning, after a hard day, in the kitchen heat, in the car etc. He also should feel my pussy temperature and be sure he's ready to ride all his life. Eat up that pussy, control that clit, know the clit's size in your head, be sure you want to stay. Don't wake up tomorrow and tell me that my pussy is too fleshy or my body is too hairy. My man should have an accurate off heart picture of my birthday suit.
Don't condemn pre-marital sex if you lie, steal, worship idols, ill treat people etc. Sin is sin. I'm not forcing my choice/opinion on you.
So face your front "goddy-seven shoes".
Hmmnnnn!! Today is monday biko
DeleteDon't you fear God and honour His word? God invented sex, we must live by His standard. Sex before marriage is wrong, period.
DeleteNne what us the 6 weeks break for na? What if in that period he develops erectile dysfunction,probably from STD due to previous'testing' maybe with other gf before u, then u discover on your wedding night
DeleteI love you Gorgeous Miss, no hypocrisy or fakeness...
DeleteHmmm this case is very daisy o, OK morally n spiritually it's wrong to taste the cookies before marriage Hebrew 13v4, ideally the both parties should be virgins before marriage
ReplyDeleteBut the society and people's promiscuity has made the moral standard risky, lies, deceit, people's past, health issues etc made it necessary for one to sample or taste his/her goods before the marriage proper.
Not withstanding, God's standard never change
Not daisy o...it's rosy. Get a dictionary this easter before u kill us like jesus was killed!
DeleteAnd in your bid to correct her, your goof was even worse.
DeleteIt's 'dicey', abeg.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Alot of people use celibacy as an reason to hide their sexual problems even they know it will backfire later.
ReplyDeleteHonestg is the best.
I am so angry this morning with glo and I'm wondering why BIS subscription shd increase. Is it just me? By de way I can't propose without gbenshing if u like let ur name be written on the billboards as the Holiest virgin.
ReplyDeleteGlo network service is deteriorating and very annoying.
DeleteGlo is just very annoying nowadays..and to think the sub rate increased from #1000 to #1400 without any improvement in their internet service...Anyways,best for now is Airtel(Depending on your location);#1500 for 3GB and it works on all device..
DeleteTo activate;dial *141# and follow the screen prompt..(its blackberry unlimited bydway)
@MARTINS ABOY
Personally, I think that it is sheer wickedness for one to get married under false pretense. Your partner is entitled to a full disclosure of every thing especially in that 'department'! Of course it's a perfect ground for divorce, abi nullification of marriage.
ReplyDeleteMe I can't marry any one that says 'no tasting' till wedding night, MBANU! Not in this era where someone is gay and just wanna get married to cover 'his track', we go taste and taste and taste welaa ooo! No time for tori way dey tingle.
There are better ways to find out these things without doing the 'do'. Why would any man lure one into marriage when he cannot even get it up! That is like the only thing I won't forgive...sorry..
ReplyDelete#Bv Xclusiv
People always looking for sweet excuse to satisfy their sexual lust. You do not need to have sex before marriage except sex is the only major drive to be married. If the two want to know their sexual compatibility; discus and be utterly open to each other about your strengths and weaknesses in that area and any person not satisfied should seek help or end the courtship. Dear God, please help this generation of youths concerning immorality.
ReplyDeleteI tell you! This people are now on a reprobate mind.Sex before marriage,is that what the scripture said? If you are honest with God,he will never allow you to be deceived.The people that falls for such scams are only desperate for marriage.They never allowed God to have his way.God is not mocked,his ways are truth and life.Youths should stop deceiving their selves and flee from sexual immoralities.
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DeleteAmen
Correct gbenshing before n after, 5yrs n counting.
ReplyDeleteI can stick with no sex before marriage atleast he will allow me to see and suck it first to know if it functions properly
ReplyDeleteHahahaha u no well I swear.
DeleteI am #teamtestbeforemarriage. In fact, I test, retest, over test etc.
ReplyDeleteAfter ur testing, hw market??.. be testing ooo, inugo??
DeleteWhat did the bible says about absentanice. I was told by one of my mama's that when u are courting, u went to visit bros or he came to. And u hug u will feel d hardness it shows bros is capable and fit. When u don't feel anything, sit bros down, ask questions, do ur findings before u go ahead, if u are a good child of God, u will obey his commandments.
ReplyDeleteOne thing we should know is that God knows why we have to stay away from premarital sex. What we loose at d long run is greater than what we gain in 5mins of enjoyment
God help us to be always faithful to his commandments in Jesus name. Amen
Absentanice? Yesu!
DeleteLol anon
DeleteLooool!
DeleteWill read comments...
ReplyDeleteNo one can change God's words. No matter how good you paint it!... flee from fornication!!
ReplyDeleteThe standard is no sex before marriage. Resolving to live by this standard to a large extent means you are a strong Christian/ Muslim, so, please rely on God for the bone of your bones. In the event that the 'bone' has a sexual dislocation, you can go back to God in prayer and seek medical attention. God will not give you something that you cannot carry.
ReplyDeleteAlternatively, you could find an opportunity to check out the guy/ lady during deep romance, feel how your partner responds to passion, feel him/ her with your hands.Although, this is not fool proof and doesn't work all the time, it could help satisfy your curiosity. Always remember, life itself is a risk.
But is all this feeling up not sin as well?
DeleteI mean, if. You were married, would it b right to do such with another man? All is sin and may God have mercy. Kudos to those who consciously stay away from the actual sex tho. Even if they do other things. It has its benefits. D real heroes are those who stay away from all impurity..
Hubby was a virgin never ad sex while av very active....while dating dere was sum1 who shines my Congo and naw dt we r married his sex life is -100. Bo I no fit kee mysef gat a steady bobo for dt. I av a dauta for my husbnd naw...but dt doesn't stop me frm gbenching outside nd dese days am attracted to female. I watch a female port few days ago n OMG av never cum dt way b4 with a man. Mayb am a bi..... #shrugshoulders
ReplyDeleteLol d Devils is with u
DeleteDevil
DeleteLoool. Stella BVN.. Una try
DeleteLoool. Stella BVN.. Una try
DeleteHell is real. Repent
DeleteMadam stop been the devils assistant in ur marriage, abeg repent
DeleteThats is why it is good to test drive a car before buying it...
ReplyDeleteThis post is so funny.
ReplyDeleteIt seems like a cynical post pretentiously couched in innocence aimed at virgins or people who chose to remain celibate.
One thing I would say is that when God created Adam, he gave him eve and I can imagine they consummated the union in peace. Don't scare people who have decided to stay from sex to please God or for themselves. Shit happens.
What if your 6 inches dicked hubby who is great in bed suddenly has an accident and can't get it up anymore?
I just can't help but shudder at this post. Is this a green light for fornication? Na wah!
DeletePl The great, get your education right! No one says it is okay to fornicate, the post wants to know what people did after they waited after marriage to have sex and what was the outcome. Na people like you the enter one chance. Mstcheew!!!
DeleteNo matter the lies the devil might come up with to put fear in the hearts of people,we must remember that God words cannot be a lie.He has said "do not fornicate", it should and always be so.
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ReplyDelete*fornicate
DeleteWhy is auto correct always changing my English bikonu? What did I do to offend u?
It doesn't mean any guy that proposes celibacy before marriage has a dead penis.
ReplyDeleteCos some will propose celibacy n fuck d whole of rumuola behind ur back.
I did NOT go intimate before marriage and I do not regret it. It was a mutual thing btwn Hubby and I and we did it koz God's word asked us to.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I understand I know there's always a counterfeit to every original plan of God, hence Satan using deception and such sad stories to scare people from abstaining.
There are certain things you must consider and certain questions you must answer if you choose to do the mermaid thingy.
What's your sole aim?
Is it in obedience to God? If yes, then be rest assured your story will not be like this couple's.
God SPEAKS to his children and unfortunately, a lot of us fail to listen.
Mark my word, I am YET tO SEE someone that served God with his / her body, PRAYED about her spouse, waited to HEAR from God and fell into the trap of the devil.
If you know anyone, please do not hesitate to correct me and prove to me that God is a liar
In conclusion, I would love to advise everyone going down the Celebate road. The journey is soooooo lonely and discouraging but if you take the hand of Jesus and allow him lead you down that road, you ll be glad you did.
I love your comment.
DeleteGod bless you for this strong word of encouragement.Onye nwere uche obara Chukwu/onwe ya uru.
DeleteGod bless you.
DeleteOsheyyyyyy
DeleteWORD! PREACH IT!!!
DeleteOshhheyyy!
Deleteso true
DeleteTnk u ma. Ppl luv to take tinz in2 dia hands always n leave God out of it. It can't work lyk dt. God shud b all. Listen n obey, u will neva b misled
DeleteGod bless you real good!!!
DeleteHehehe......'Celibates' oya come and answer.
ReplyDeleteThey will all come here now and try to impose their morals on others as if they are the only ones gideon's gave their free bible to forgetting the concept of choice and that everybody's spirituality is between that person and God.Meanwhile,why is it only on issues concerning sex people remember bible verses and quotes?Hope you know that celibacy for the sake of manipulating a man into marriage is a sin same as lying and stealing and envy and jealousy and anything against the 10commandments whether you are celibate or not?
All the same people...do not fornicate
okay I am a hypocrite.so?
I think its a double edged sword
ReplyDeleteI also don't believe in dat no gbenshing before marriage shit. But it's good to close ya legs till he puts a ring on it
ReplyDeleteWell, God's rule never changes. Sex before marriage is forbidden and will always be. Giving excuses of testing to see if ur spouses abunna is functioning properly before marriage is satan playing ludo with ur faith. No one is saying you shouldn't ask questions, or seek to find the true state of their Abunna before marriage. If they lie to you and you find out after marriage that their abunna is not functioning properly, then u are allowed to anull the marriage on grounds of deception.
ReplyDeleteYeeeeeaahhhhh. See Chinelo. Welcome back sweetie
DeleteI also don't believe in dat no gbenshing before marriage shit. But it's good to close ya legs till he puts a ring on it
ReplyDeleteI disagree with no sex before marriage.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with being celebate before marriage, i mean how many blokosessss do yo want a girl to go through before finding a compatable one...common.
ReplyDeleteIt is far better to stay clean abeg
dont start encouraging lots of sex before marriage please
Having sex before marriage have is own consequences... All we need is prayers ...
ReplyDeleteAm going through a lot right now
Pele ooo.it is well with u
Deletehahaha....what happens to no furnicating before marriage?...God na your hands i dey o.
ReplyDeleteI must test what i want to buy. I no fit for stories later on. If a guy refuses to give me the thing b4 marriage, i swear i'll rape him.
ReplyDeleteSome people be forming #teamnosexbeforemarriage, wen their tohtoh done wide pass the Atlantic Ocean already. SMH
Na u de buy?
DeleteU don't have to do d deed before knowing ur man is able or not...Those that are wise know how to find out such...
ReplyDeleteThe Reason why God doesn't allow sex before marriage is because it gives sex a form of an esteemed status by limiting it to husband-wife relationship. God gives a huge importance to family and uses various tools to protect the family structure.
ReplyDeleteSince the husband-wife relation formed after marriage is the fundamental pillar of a family structure it protects it. If sex is allowed between individuals who aren't married it makes sex lose it's status and this in turn weakens the husband-wife relationship which in turn may break the family structure.
This is the major reason why the family structure is near collapsing today. People indulge in too much premarital sex which is affecting the family structure.
What is dis one saying?
DeleteSo true. Why should u buy cow when you are getting milk for free?
DeleteYour sense of reasoning is appalling..just because a few are deceitful,doesnt mean everyone is..think..you ve got brain for a reason..
ReplyDeleteI stuck with no sex before marriage with my husband, it was because I had promised God that I wouldnt give my virginity to any man who isnt my husband. I prayed and trusted God for the best. I specifically mentioned it in my prayers that I dont want to be a victim of a deceiver. God heard me o. My husband agreed to no sex before marriage, although he told me he would have prefered to gbensh before marraige, but he will stick to it cos of love he has for me. Stella, we dated for 9 years, (I was quite young when we started dating) we got married last month and is an engine in bed. I scream, laugh and moan throughout lovemaking. Sex is not overrated o! Chai!
ReplyDeleteIm not lady Igho, lol, I wont condemn those people who didnt wait for marriage to test it out, im sure they learnt a thing or two, but these things happen in different ways to people. Some people gain a lot from waiting till after marriage and some dont gain nothing like d story up there. That woman should have d marriage annuled since it hasnt even been conssumated. Sad tale tho, afyer wasting energy and resources, and fending off eligible suitors. God help is all.
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Delete*inhales weed deeply*
I dont think its every case where you will find out something is wrong with your partner.
ReplyDeleteNobody is wishing for such case bt then the Bible condemns fornication.
This is really a serious issue, bt I stil believe it is a personal decision. Because both the lady and her intended hubby would have gone for medical tests before marriage. Some people stil do lie and forge these test results, hmm God will deliver us.
To them miss goody two shoes, this is word from the throne of grace. Gbensh your bobo before tying the knot. Who celibacy help?
ReplyDeleteFine, you can choose to be celibate if you have nt found HIM, but once you know he is the one, surrender your punacious for testing testing abeg.
Please, myself and hubby are ttc, but I have issues of vaginal dryness, which makes s3x painful, I cant seem to find preseed anywhere around my area, can I use coconut oil as a lubricant?
ReplyDeleteLmao .. use ori!!! Madam ode.
DeleteYes or baby oil . Any good pharmacy should have lubricants
DeleteCoconut oil?? Hian.
DeleteAbi dandruff dey worry you down there?
No be only coconut oil, use engine oil sef. Mttsheew
Sex outside marriage also affects the modesty scale of the society adversely.
ReplyDeleteIn societies where sex before marriage is allowed, thirst for new and abnormal ways of sex is much higher than in societies where sex before marriage is
not allowed. (You ever wondered why there are too many inhuman sexual fetishes in the world right now?).
Most of the time when a lady is indulging in sex before marriage, it cheapens her status before her man. Building an alter-bound relationship is usually the last thing on his mind. That's why after doing hooha bonanza for a man for 8 years, he usu leaves the girl to marry a woman who is doing him shakara with her fanny. The woman who respects her body
If this one comes and gbensh, that one comes you gbensh all in the name of dating till you meet the right person, what is the real man going to enjoy at the end of the day if God decides to favour you? Hundred men are ready to get down with you all in the name of let's see how it goes, after seeing they leave you. IRS unfortunate for the cases up here but its rare, I still stand on no sex during daring if you want it serioys
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I am of the school of thought that believe in doing the DO before marriage mbok. Ain't nobori gat tyme to mermaid THE PLACE. Can"t imagine getting a new car without testing its efficacy. #teamtest
ReplyDeleteHuman beings are not cars.
DeleteMe n 'wife of my youth' are currently on no-sex-b4-marriage,i asked what if I'm a one-minute man n she said dat means she'l be a one-minute woman too in Jesus name n no matter how short d time I can go,she'll be satisfied n have a fulfilled sex life by God's grace..the just shall live by faith..,she's really praying for strenght for d 2 of us..I didn't mind initially cos I was gettin regular action from d oda boo who wan kill me wit sex even while we were fasting she almost spoilt it on like many occassions.now dat I'm leaving d oda babe,I need God to strenghten me cos I don't wanto cheat n d few times she compromised n we did it,she wan kill me with guilt
ReplyDeleteSee ur life.. u non virgins will be deceiving urslf with celibacy.. Yimu.. u will tell ur partner no sex and then be knacking sumone else.. who u dey deceive?
DeleteHmmmmmmm
DeleteYour wife to be is a good woman. Pray for strength. If you are sure she's the one, pick a date and get married. You won't regret staying off sex till you are married.
DeleteIt's a 50-50 thing Stells. Whatever rocks your boat.Celibacy or the other
ReplyDeleteI heard of a lady that dated a guy for close to 10 years and kept on insisting that she didnt want sex before marriage. They started dating when she was 18, the man dumped her and married another lady claiming he cpuldnt marry soneone he hasnt gbenshed. After waiting abt a year to recover, she got involved with someone else who didnt want sex before marriage. She happily agreed to it thinking she has found mr right. Alas, d man couldnt get it up on d wedding night. Marriage has been annulled, but she never marry till now. Na God go help am o.
ReplyDeleteYekpa!
DeleteThis is a deception,from the pit of hell. God's standard is the best.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a fan of sex before marriage. I cannever be. No matter how we tryna site or bring up excuses of sexual incomapitibity after marriage to make it acceptable it won't still change God's rule. What are usu these excuses sef? His pen!s is average (not small coz 90% of men or more have an average or over an average size pen!s, by an average size peni!s here I mean 5 to 6 inches). That is enough to satisfy a woman coz it's usually not abt the size. But ojukokoro and all the enlarged 10 inches mandingos girls watch in porn nowadays has made them have an illinformed and retarted view about sex and preferences.
ReplyDeleteAnother excuse is he is a 1 minuites man which remedy is readily available everywhere.abi na virginismus? See most sexual related shortcomings can be treated, but becoz we don't have patience or we looking for excuses, we don't stick arround to help our spouses find a soulution. Anyways, I'm typing too much.
#i'm outtie
Like my pastor (pst Paul Enenche) would say " if you know deep down within your heart your member isn't working, marriage should be far from you, it shouldn't be in your vocabulary until you have sought your self" only a wicked man would marry a woman whereas Nepa don carry light.
ReplyDeleteSee whose here@Gorgeous Miss.
ReplyDeleteLonggg time! You know you are cray right? Missed you.
@Bitchplis.. stop teasing us na. When are you tying the knot?
Wife of your youth? Hope this one is the real deal..how many times I go say Congrats?
@Gorgeous Miss. Bwahahahahahahahahaahha...You are killing me mehn... I'm laughing like an idiot in the office.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha. Body no be firewood. Even Baba God sabi that wan.
ReplyDeleteBut wait first O. Na God commandment una dey take play so? Him wey talk say no gbenshing before marriage know why Him talk am like that. Una dey form stubborn-goat for the matter, sake of say, na una create the gbenshing instruments, abi?
Issorait. I hear.
Even if you know fit hol body because the thing dey scratch you die, mus' you come to the public square to encourage others to disobey God? Dem don record am for you o. Dem say Internet no dey forget. Na book of life go come forget the satanic encouragement wey you type for blog just to sound civilized.
Later if God no answer your prayers, you go forget say na you first say Him too small to obey Him laws on dealing with konji.
Make una no let devil use una o. Pray and hol body just because na God talk so. Then Him go lead you to the instrument that works.
But if you by yoursef buy bad market, make return am jeje. God hand no dey that wan.
And if you don dey gbensh already, just trace ya step back to Papa G. Him still love you pass anything. E go helep you hol body and fight konji on your behalf. By the way, how many yansh you wan test before you see the correct one. Meanwhile God fit lead directly to the very right one.
My people, make una no forget say na God create gbenshing for us to enjoy O. Make una follow God way so that una go enjoy real marital gbenshing wey get understanding, real pleasure, happiness, and lack of ojukokoro. E work for me. E go work for you.
May almighty Fada bless us all as we try our best to follow Him ways.
Una doh oooo!
i just told my new BF no sex before marriage, but i know deep down my heart, i will taste and see that the lord is good. He's Akwa ibom and he loves sex. i just told him so as to examine his character for the next 6-8 months and see if he's equally serious about the relationship. sex will be the last thing we will do b4 i will say yes. he plans on settling down soon.
ReplyDeletehehehehehehehe! i love my imperfection, do u?
Its better to know your compatibility in that area to avoid stories that touch.
ReplyDeleteAm a virgin n I masturbate...I ve not had sex with another person.
ReplyDeleteAs for me, I'm staying celibate o. Been celibate since 2014 I'm practical enough to admit it's a lonely and tough path. I didn't even choose it, heartbreak made me do. But I've discovered God and I'm doing it for real now. I love my God enough to see it through and because I have the unshakeable belief that He loves me forever, I rest assured that I can't fall into the wrong hands. Even God knows this His daughter is crazy about sex; good, mind-blowing, earth-shattering sex sef. That said, each to his own. You is you, me is me.
ReplyDeleteD'Arc Ed you said it all! for virgins, those trying to be celibate even if you are not virgins dont be discouraged by the comments on this post, God is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him and he also said that he the thoughts and plans he has for us are good not of evil to bring us to an expected end, what more God is not man that he should lie, neither is he the son of man that he should repent, has he nt said it and would he not do it? has he not spoken and will he nt make it good! Now is the time to show your Faith!!! as for the comments see Eph 6:12- 13. God help us all!!!
ReplyDeleteDon't know about you all but me and my husband fucked well before we got married. Now we've been married for almost 9 months. No regrets! He turns me on only problem is that I don't get sexual satisfaction because he doesn't do foreplay anymore, currently he cums too fast and can't do more than 1 round. I sincerely can't say he has made me cum before. However I love my man and I'm willing to be patient with him. We will soon start ttc soon.
ReplyDeleteThe world has gone banana. Morality is now a thing of the past. Even our idol worshipping ancestors regards purity. Let it be clear, God's stance on abstinence and sexual purity has not changed. Ladies & Gentlemen, young and Old, God is a true rewarder of those who diligently seek him. I & wifey are living testimony and today we are one strong, united and happy family.
ReplyDeleteThe comments here are funny. People are always looking for excuses to disobey the laws of God. The fact that someone died in an autocrash does not mean that vehicles should be avoided; does it? This shouldn't even be a discussion point. Let he/she that is vile continue to be vile and let the godly continue to be godly. All the girls trumpeting sex before marriage, will go to church on sundays to sing and praise "god"? And when they get pregnant, they will abort; won't they. And some will die aborting and rot in hell; won't they?
ReplyDeleteA couple of months? She should get an annulment instead. This is a perfect ground for an annulment. In the eyes of law, it will be as though she was never married. Even in the eyes of God, a marriage must be consumated before the two become one. Sex on the wedding night or another night soon thereafter is what seals the marriage in the spirit. This is the reason why God reluctantly permits divorce due to adultery because the minute you step out of your marriage to have sex with another, the spiritual bond between you and your spouse is compromised. Though repentance and reconciliation will always mend what has been broken in the spirit.
ReplyDeleteI was already sexually intimate with by heartbeat before we got hitched but I've always had the belief that if a person truly trusts God to pair him/her up with the partner tailor made for him/her and pledges chastity to honour God's command, such calamity cannot befall such a person. God's gifts are completely devoid of misery and embarrassment. It's possible a person may claim he/she is waiting on the Lord for a life partner but that person may go with emotions when selecting a spouse who isn't the Lord's choice and end up with a similar predicament. I believe if you don't want premarital sex, it should be based on the Word of God and you must be willing to accept the partner God chooses for you. You must trust God completely. You can't straddle the fence on this one, it's an either or situation. Either get your freak on before marriage and live with the consequences or completely trust God and allow Him sought you out.
A lot of people choose celibacy for several reasons, most of which aren't religious. Some abstain for fear of being hurt, some are scared of pregnancy and venereal diseases, some don't like certain features about their bodies and are too shy to let someone else see them naked, some aren't in any relationship and for whatever reasons, they can't seem to get anyone who wants them and they don't like the ones who want them. The reasons are endless but as long as the reason isn't because you fear God and trust His will for your life, you may end up with a horrible partner inspite of your premarital celibacy. Right decision, wrong motives.
Stells, my heart bleeds for the young lady in question. Nobody should experience such an incredible sucker punch post marriage. I hope she finds peace and a 2nd chance at love.
It is not fair to lure a girl into marriage when u know that ur thing no de function.. The girl should go through with the divorce..
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That is enough ground for annulment in y church, plain deception
ReplyDeleteRule number 1: Don't disobey my commandment.
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Doing it before marriage is something i can't explain it's disadvantages..
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