I have turned this into a post for those it may concern......
NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
RE-CHEATING WITH SAME SEX
Hi Stella, I really wish to reply to the woman that cheated with a lez partner on chronicles yesterday and also Educate BVs on Esan tradition as regards adultery.
As an Esan man who was born and brought up in the village (Igueben to be precise), I know a lot about our tradition as regards infidelity in marriage. We call it "throwing her legs in the bush"
Read Facts below.
1. All Esan men are lords to their wife(ves) in esan culture that's why the wives call their husbands "Ebialen or Enoyan Mhen" translated directly as "My Lord". The men are FREE to date or have a concubine outside their wives, except in the case of incest or bestial acts.
2. If any married woman is caught sleeping with a man(married or unmarried), they will take her to mkt or village square and put a block on her head and sing shameful or mockery songs to her and she will be paraded round the whole village, then the secret traditional ablution will be done in the Royal Palace or the Eldest man (odiowele)'s house and she will be free from the sin and its implication.
3. B4 year 2000, in my village, If a woman commits adultery and refused to tell anyone (witches will know tho), the husband will become sick with belle swollen and the woman will be questioned till she opens up or the man will die. But if she told the husband and nothing is being done, the man will die gradually and the male children may also be affected. But from year 2000, the curse was reversed and the woman now bears the curse alone, nothing dey happen to the men again cos na pot wey drink oil dey put yansh for fire.
BUT LEZBIAN SEX WAS NOT REALLY IN THE LAW THEN O cos we never heard of that. Pen-is meant for cat, lol... Na man and woman mata most, not really woman to woman tin.
4. If a woman's husband dies, after the burial, no other ceremony (eg wedding by the kids) will be held in the house until she did traditional washing of feet, tho the tradition is now being frowned at by this recent christian generation, yet, it stlll hold amongst the young widows. If a widow has done the traditional washing of the feet, she is then free to date or marry any man she wished to.
In conclusion, I hate the fact that men are praised for and go free after an adultery. I can say that Marriage to an Esan man by a lady from another tribe is not an easy ride except the man and his people are genuine born again, educated and don't live in the village or too traditional.
As a christian, only God has power to cleanse and make whole, so I advise you tell your God Alone (cos na lezbian thing na, no be pe*is you shag). Only if you can forgive yourself, else involve your trusted pastor or priest too.
If you must marry an Esan man, marry the one you will enjoy and endure s3x with for ever and ever. Sorry for any typos and to west ur time.
Best Regards
Oscar Moses.
Wow!!!!!quite enlightening,yours sdkly dazzlinglizzy
ReplyDeleteStory for the gods
DeleteNa history class we dey bah?
See this man just disturb my parade for this hot sun
Mr ESAN or what ever
Go to WWW.lesbea.com and see what makes me happy
Stip shouting
@Galore
Thank u for d info...
DeleteThank u for d info..
DeleteAll this villages with their evil tradition.
Delete@poster of yesterday, don't worry.....nothing is going to happen, just surrender everything 2 God
The man is free to cheat n have concubines but the woman should continue to tie her legs
Oscar Moses nice one.
DeleteExperienced most of them during my 5yrs stay in ekpoma.
The only reason why I can't ever marry an Esan man is because they are lords to their wife.
My cousin is married to one that thinks he's the best thing that happened to her. That's how they treat their wives. There are exceptions though but it's like 1%.
I'm edo.
Which enlightening? U see captivity for women n call it enlightening. Africans never cease to amaze me.
Delete5yr stay
DeleteHonestly the people of this village is still in deep darkness. They don't know God. Witches ko wizard ni. Odiegwu.
DeleteMtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew
ReplyDeleteAbegi jooor
Abeg that person for the chronicle of yesterday wen I no dey line to comment.... Don't mind anybody mbok....Enjoy ur life to the fullest
DeleteNa only God we dey answerable to...no body else
@Galore
As in eh....stupid and barbaric tradition.
DeleteDon't mind the sexist poster.
DeleteWe now know u are an ESAN MAN. So it's time to stay clear
ReplyDeleteEnd time scary traditions.
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Thank You
FEAR NOT, law is to guide while culture is to correct. Most Esan men are angels too and the culture is gradually fading away sef. Education, christianity and civilisation ti take over.
DeleteThanks for the enlightenment
DeleteOscar pls what is the meaning of the name Ubhuemuan.
DeleteStory for the gods
ReplyDeletePoster is lying. I'm a living testimony.
DeleteLying about what @anon. Everything he wrote up there is the truth about Esan men
DeleteThat's d point your husband ain't traditional. Not you are a living testimony, a true drain will never cheat, once you did that you are outside Gods protection. The laws of nature and God are not foolish.
DeleteWitches, Lord, tradition, etc
ReplyDeleteBalderdash!!!
Now I know the tribe to stay away from
Lol...yes o
DeleteShot up
DeleteWatering p***y
D tradition is sexist n selfish....but I like it.hehehe. Can I naturalise?
DeleteHahahaha.. i ve always knw esan men re no no..
Delete14:49, is it your watery?
Deletethank you Moses, I like Edo people and will make sure I marry d one I live and will enjoy sex with to avoid all this issues in d future.
ReplyDeleteOkay, noted.
ReplyDeleteKo ni da fun lauretta I know that's not your real name. But the message is for you.. For abusing me because I asked a woman to be patient.
Delete@anonymous 15:38.. oloriburiku, anuofia, oloshi radarada, olosho, heeediot of the highest order, may amadioha strike u for your rubbish comment. Nuisance
DeleteU are a very big fool for asking your fellow woman going through domestic violence to be patient. Gosh, u are such an irritant and ur brain is not functioning, I dislike dumb and timid women like u. Ewu gambia
DeleteNow she's ready to leave her husband what help can you tender? Talk is cheap ,I'm sorry for the flora, plus size woman for that matter. Shior
DeleteHian
ReplyDeleteEsan people I hail thee
All these things are ancient to me o. Maybe it is because my husb is so faithful and loyal to God, extremely calm, understanding and didn't grow up in naija. He doesn't even know anything about his tradition. So please do notuse these guidelines to categorize every esan man. I am even the hot headed one, I do that tho to prevent pple from taking advantage of him.
DeleteSin is sin. no small sin, no big sin. If you are married and you carry women, na hell fire be that. no two ways about that. This one una dey call esan men Lord, that will not take you to heaven.
ReplyDeleteThe woman that has lesbian lover, shebi i say make you carry go. the juju sense never reach there. Na only when you sleep with a man it will catch you. Since na woman oya CARRY GO.
No wonder Edo men dey born pikin for young age before them marry at the time they want to marry.
what is my own self
Nawaoooo...... Na edo state person i wan marry oooo.... God help us
ReplyDeleteGood.....keep licking dear Mrs! Notin de hapun!
ReplyDeleteBalderdash.
ReplyDeleteSo nothing happens to the men when they commit adultery.
ReplyDeleteCan you imagine?..,
ReplyDeleteI would rather remain single than marry an Esan man!...
How can I address my fellow human being as my lord?...for what nau??...
And the man is free to cheat as he like..mtcheeeew...
Hmmmmm
ReplyDeleteNo matter how you out it Oscars dede moses, I fear who no fear esan people... Benin people own beta small. Esan? Gbupu asu
ReplyDeleteReally? Na wa for this culture o. All this still happen in this time and century?
ReplyDeleteSo men can date concubines bt women can't? Kontinu, he'll isn't too far from you abi u pple dnt recognise adultery?
Man cannot be punished for adultery but women can? What's more! You even made the witches omnipresent because they know when adultery is committedm.
Na wa! Negodu o!
In summary, let esan women marry their men. African traditions are somehow.
ReplyDeleteAbeg which towns made up Esan's?
ReplyDeleteAbeg which towns made up Esan's?
ReplyDeleteI fear not bcos my life is hid in Christ in God. No plans of cheating in the future tho, moreover the info is jst for Esan wives. Esan wives take head!!!
ReplyDeleteMy ex boyfriend is esan,the guys from his family can so cheat on their women but my guy na born again even though we de do the thing.No wonder he doesnt go to his village upon say hes papa build masion there and na also chief for the land.But i miss that guy sha.
ReplyDeletePoster of yesterday *** fear not am Esan man and i can tell u to relax thou no be say i suport wat u did but it wouldnt affect u no where !!!!!!!as far as no be man shag your pomolatu ... all is well ''' hehehe but dat 1 1 not come give ur full certificate to come turn mama i go chop toto die ooo
ReplyDeletesofri sofri you hia??
Royal father
Hian!!! So the man is free after everything? Cheating or not? Ok o
ReplyDeletePlease esan people what does the name Onomeisike and Ekeatta mean?
ReplyDeleteAre they good names to name ones children?
Please advise.
From an intending in law.
Onomeisike - "Na good person dem dey go close to"
DeleteEkeatta - "how many I go talk?"
Madam the 1st one if good but the 2nd one is a parable like he is tired of a particular situation.
Onomeisike means I will get closer to good people while Ekeatta means 'how many can we say'its lyk a name given due to the situation of things in the family at dt moment.
DeleteRe chro chro
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteD best tribe i'll love to marry is Delta, Rivers and Bayelsa
Heard Urhobo people get their own too
Hmmmmmmmmmmm
It's well
Error.
DeleteHmmm Esan don't like that tribe @ all and yes my mum is from EKP she self dey fear her people, too many witches mehhh.
ReplyDeleteEsan and their numerous taboos. A certain man has travelled for better living and told the iyawo that he is going to marry again over there to secure himself. His family sef are in support of this second option. Meanwhile he has kids here already. Same Esan.
ReplyDeleteAlso, still Esan, one warned the wife not to go outside with the male child as they lost a member of the family who was being buried. Funny enough, the death occured in the village while this couple stay in Lagos. Meanwhile the woman was not allowed to step out with the kid for a whole week. Pikin de house while e mates de school.
Wetin come be that one?
Hmmmm! Story story, story.
ReplyDeletePersonally,I don't like the Esan man's ego,I find it very irritating, the Esan women are very humble and well behaved though.
ReplyDeleteI knew they wouldn't have thought about lesbian sex. Madam you're ok. Go and sin no more
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm...nawao. Thank you Moses. Any Esan man coming to my way for marriage....may God change our part to different destinations. Amen*in mfm mood*
ReplyDeleteSilly much.
DeleteAn Esan man will be the best thing to happen to you, and he will hopefully change your weave too, too tacky.
DeleteHian, and the men can cheat and go scot free? This world is so unfair to women.
ReplyDeleteOscar thanks fo the enlightenment. My children will never go near an Esan man. I must educated them the implications.
ReplyDeleteRolls eyes.
DeleteNor be humans put the law n enforced it in the presence of juju. All na idol. God over everything. With a contrite n repentant heart, we are saved.
ReplyDeleteI'm currently dating an Urhobo guy, he's very nice. But I'm scared because I heard their men are not nice again after marriage and my mum is scared because of past issues she has heard about Urhobo people. I'm not tribalistic but I just have to consider these things because I've seen to many bad marriages around me and can't afford to have one.
ReplyDeleteIn courtship you must be deaf to the opinions of others, but open to the opinion of God and the elder of the family. Trust God, not the location and background of an individual.
DeleteIf your family have had issues ewitch a particular tribe, hence it affecting your relationship. If it's meant to be, it will be, just don't force anything.
I am married to an urhobo man and I wake up with tears of joy,he is so so good and has a very good heart,watch the family and the man,at least them better pass yoruba by far.
DeleteTradition of life really? It's better to ask questions when dating someone plus a background check. Esan peeps wow!
ReplyDeleteNobody will tell you the truth, better visit the village and ask questions. Ha, the one I fear na families wey dry bury wife inside husband grave, if I smell that tradition omo na race be that.
DeleteI beg to differ,from what I have seen ,and watch very close friends married to men from these ethnic group indulging in extra marital affairs right from their matrimonial home and nothing seems to happen to them,their spouses and children, I begin to doubt the realness of these traditions.I recently asked a friend who is aware the younger sister is sleeping around with different men even with the man who brought her to lime light,she calls him boss in front of everyone and baby when they are together .nothing has happened to her.she still brags about it,oppresses her staff, sleeps out almost every day, Some times I wonder if all these tradition really stands,and the place of karma.I have watched her break homes without remorse and still call God, posting lies on instagram.clue she's a model in the same "sabulu "company with flavours baby mama
ReplyDeleteShe fit be witch we dey use her power divert all those things elsewhere
DeleteThe husband is not traditional and just wait and see I give her 2 yrs kpata kpata 5yrs.
DeleteQuite enlightening. Thanks Oscar
ReplyDeleteMtcheww!
ReplyDeleteThis is the reason why questions should be asked before venturing.
ReplyDeleteWarisdis???????
Wow! Oscar,i have also learnt from your post..- must say I respect the fact that it's not fair on the part of the woman for her hubby to cheat on her and get away with it. Despite the fact that what she did isn't right.. Many men take advantage of the fact that they can cheat and get away with it and that's very sad.. May God help us all and make our marriages heaven on earth..
ReplyDeleteInfact ehn Nosa ehn just stay on your lane o,i nor marry again I beg you.
ReplyDeletePlease what other villages in Nigeria still live by this absurd tradition? Let me know where not to carry my two legs enter love.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha...
DeleteI only know about Enugu Ezike in Nsukka...
Esan una weldone
ReplyDeleteHian...na women dey always suffer.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteSuffering and smiling
In Summary:It's a Man's World.
ReplyDeleteLmao. Poster be keeping women in check while he cheats. I posted yesterday, I've been doing mine for d past 11yrs. We r both esan. Howmany women have died from it? Hahahaha funny enof we cheat more.
ReplyDeleteIgbo woman claiming Esan. Shift abeg.
DeleteIf you are Esan, then they will one day bury you on Esan soil, and I just pity your children, because they may end up paying for your sins.
Note the poster said Igueben village, so the husband and children paying for sins is still applicable in some villages.
All this na trash, what.happens to all this edo runs babes cheating on their husbands? Are they excluded? Abeg we have heard that story countless times
ReplyDeleteThere are different tribes in edo so don't generalise.
DeleteThere's no woman in edo that knows the consequences of cheating that cheats.
You've heard their stories??? You've not even met any. When you meet one, come here and talk
Taaaah! Y am I still alive afterso many years? Or d curse don't get to UK?
ReplyDeleteIf I may ask, we're u there when they gathered n reversed it? Hahahahaa lord have mercy. U are only asked to swear if you are a suspect. If u cover ru track well like me, u will enjoy mad d naive husband will just be proud that his wife is abiding by d farce custom. Kikikikikikikii
ReplyDeleteSo tinz like dis still exist
ReplyDeleteYou should be ASHAMED of the toy you are! You sat behind your computer to write this thrash. What kind of tradition is this. All Esan toys called men should cover their faces with a basket in shame. Why don't you have a tradition to; buy your wives cars, send them to the best universities in the world to study, have a bible study group in your homes, build roads and bore holes in your communities, build orphanages and so on. Why must "indiscriminate sex" be your tradition. Very soon your warped brain will tell me that all these other ones were "oyibo contraptions", the computer or device you used to type this thrash, was it "Esan contraption"?
ReplyDeleteAll you have succeeded in doing is to alert us never to let our sisters or friends ever marry an Esan degenerate being! You are not fit to have a penis in between your thighs!
GBAM, please one Guinness stout for the above poster.
DeleteJust one more useless tradition to keep women under lock and key.
Spot on!
DeleteThe com6oments here reveal so much about women, you all cheat like the married men! My mum don't call my dad Lord. That is archaic and I don't think that curse is potent any more like before.
DeleteRubbish tradition that favours only the male folks. Mtcheww.
ReplyDeleteMtchewwwwwww
ReplyDeleteok naa! woman, u have heard naa! the law holds nothing against u as naa your fellow woman u shag. so go ahead and continue shagging.. hehehehe. what am i saying sef
ReplyDeleteStell where's my comment
ReplyDeleteThis is serious
ReplyDeleteWitches? I guess you meant the spirits of the land.
ReplyDeleteYea....all true. I know of all this , thou I'm not from there. And God knows I can never marry an Esan man, be he d richest man in the world. I have friends married to their men. All these women are Lesbos. Hmmmmm....life. They belv after all they are not fucking wit men. Very sad and pathetic .
ReplyDelete#herroyalnuttiness
You see how these useless men with key chain between their legs, tilt 'tradition' to favor them while they sprinkle their sperm upandan? Idiots.
ReplyDeleteNot only in Edo state, it happens in delta too and calabar.
ReplyDeleteSo this their tradition is real
ReplyDeleteSo this their tradition is real
ReplyDeleteI am a woman,married to an edo man,i love my man.if he cheats on me success will elude him.he tried it once,them no tell am before him stop.to hell with tradition!
ReplyDeleteTradition!!!
ReplyDeleteThis tradition happens in my place in Delta state, aniocha north to be precise. If you have to cheat, you'll take permission from your'husbands' and they'll excommunicate you then you can go ahead and live the life as you want but it has eventual consequences.
ReplyDeleteMy dad is Esan...cheated on my mum severally.To her face,treated her badly and eventually left her.I grew up in the most abusive and depressing environment u can think of,cuz he treated my sister and I badly cuz we were females,and treated my brothers like kings. My point is... Dont marry an Esan man! Period.
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