Okay,you fell in love and both of you want to get married but there are hitches to be crossed?Awwwwww
''Hi Stella of life please I want to ask if one can get married to another man if the divorce case of the other partner is still in court...''
Do we have Lawyers in here?Please step forward!
Our Lawyers must have something to say about this
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Stop jumping upandan Like frog, let him go through with the divorce first.
DeleteWill read comments
DeleteAdultery is smelling,serious offence,allow him go thru his divorce
DeleteNo idea. Let me read comments
ReplyDeleteNo! Not if u want a legal marriage. You can co-habit(live together), get engaged etc. Until a Decree Nissi has been granted him by the court; he cannot enter into any valid marriage. Mind you it is an offence (bigamy) to be legally married twice concurrently. If you are a woman going through a divorce same applies. Customarily any children born by a woman undergoing divorce for another man belongs to her soon to be ex. Though the advent of DNA has helped this issue a lot. Pls dear hang on till the divorce is over or move on.
DeleteNot Nissi,absolute
DeleteDecree absolute not nissi,@naive..feel free to thank me later
DeleteMust u marry a left over man? Pls there are fresh fishes everywhere.
ReplyDeleteAnyway allow the case to be decided upon before going into the marriage
My 2cent
So what if the "left over" man is who she is actually meant to be with? What if hearties the wrong woman and has now found the right one?
DeletePoster I just hope you are using your head tho! Have you asked him relevant questions like why he's divorcing his wife? It's not all about marriage oh. Dikwa very careful
Ani
Asanwa you are also someone's left over. Choose your words wisely.
DeleteSHantelle
Shantelle choose ur words wisely cux u do not know me. If u don't hv anything nice to say , pls just scroll pass
DeleteSo calling someone a left over is a nice thing to say?do you know the poster?Ms use your advice.
DeleteAsanwa if you have an ex,you are that persons left over. So yes! I repeat, choose your words wisely.
SHantelle
Please I also want to use this media to seek advice from you all. I'm inlove with a 44years. Old man who got divorced last year,he has a 5yr old son with a white woman(not married to him though) and a 13yr old son with the nigeria woman that he divorced last year bcos of some issues.
DeleteThe thing is that he has proposed marriageto me,he will becoming back by september(he stays in london),but I'm scared of how to tell my family members,im scared of what people will say about this,im just scared.please someone should advice me on this cos I really love him and I'm 26yrs old.thank you.
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ReplyDeleteoya lawyers should step forward, can't say anything cos I have never been there. good luck.
ReplyDeleteNo No.... As long as that case is still in court the man is so legally married until the court dissolves the marriage. Else you will have committed 'bigamy'.... Be patient until the court dissolves the marriage.
ReplyDeleteU r ryt my learned colleague ve missed u dear...kb
DeleteHi Chinyyelugo
DeleteWhat if a decree absolute was granted but a party appealed it at the Court of Appeal?
Oya, over to d lawyers.
ReplyDeleteBut me think, d people involved shuld wait till d court case/divorce is over.
no, once he isnt divorced, he is still married and if you marry him now, you are on your own as the marriage is not legal and he can still go to court to nullify the purported party you call marriage as it is no marriage
ReplyDeleteWhy not jst free d man n look for ur own man?
ReplyDeleteOrAre u also a divorcee?
I Rest My Briefcase.
Bigamy ain't a crime in nigeria.
ReplyDeleteYes as long as its traditional and not church or registry wedding.
DeleteNo, until dey are legally seperated that when u can marry him.
ReplyDeleteYou cannot be legally married to someone while the divorce with another has not been finalized.The marriage will be considered null and void.In such cases,one should be filing for annulment,which means that the marriage never happened.
ReplyDeleteNo you cannot
ReplyDeleteWait for judgment* else he'll be committing bigamy
Charge n bail lawyer shudnt near this oo
ReplyDeleteLawyers where una?
ReplyDeleteCustomarily, I believe it's allowed. Legally, your marriage will not be valid until you finalize your divorce. In certain countries, this could be a crime. Not sure about Nigeria. I'm not a lawyer and I'm certainly in no position to offer legal counsel. Best option? Get a lawyer, an actual lawyer.
ReplyDeleteYes Bigamy operates in Nigeria though Nigerians dont exercise the rights. You can have 4 wives but only one can be wed to you in court. Dont know about Eritrea tho..*winks*
DeleteEnter your ...Enter your opiniön...Another naija mumu in love...na who create all these female(s) bcos d God i knw is intelligent
ReplyDeleteIf the person was legally married, you can't. I'm in same boat and for two years, I have been patiently waiting for the divorce to be finalized.
ReplyDeleteI don't think its possible cos the other party is still legally married. Not sure though.
ReplyDeleteNo
ReplyDeleteYou already know the answer.
No. Your marriage will be null and void, the man/woman can be arrested for bigamy.
XOXO MYSTERY
If u are scared go and do traditional wedding especially if age is not on your side.
ReplyDeleteNo you can't
ReplyDeleteStill in court implies that the divorce isn't final as such you're still married to him
Why the rush? Better chill and sort one out before starting another before they'll tell you tomorrow that your new marriage was never valid.
Best wishes.
SHARONNA
Y r u so in a hurry to marry a man whose divorce case is in the court??you sound so desperate,R u sure u ain't the reason behind the divorce iss?Better respect yourself. Tmrw u will send one useless chronicle, wen u knw u r d architect of your problem...mschew
ReplyDeleteGbam!12:29.
DeleteSame thing I was about to say.
Desperado!
And Ani, are you dating a married man? What makes you think she was not the right woman for him? Or do you think he is the right man for her? Rubbish! Cane used to beat the first wife-------
Poster, it seems like your punana have no control.
ReplyDeleteWhy can't you hold body until you are through with your divorce.
Yes you can be sent to the jail for bigamy.
I'm not a lawyer but it's a NO
ReplyDeleteY not wait for d court case to be over, impatient.
ReplyDeleteMadam im not a lawyer o, but my advice to you. Let your faince get properly divorced,court document signed and sealed before you enter that marriage.
ReplyDeleteLet all this be done before you marry traditionally and you ppl start living together and breeding kids.
I know d way men can be, once you start living with them, and start having kids, they wont be bothered to do the right thing. Next thing you know during an argument they will use it against you 'afterall I didn't marry you'.
Another issue is the other woman can start bringing problems into ur home. Claiming to still be his wife especially if they have kids together. You ppl can at least do a formal introduction, let him bring his ppl to know your parents. If you feel you need some form of commitment from him. But I wont support bigamy.
I don't believe in bigamy.
Patience! Don't take hot soup in a hurry... Patience! Patience!! You have your whole lifetime ahead of you...
ReplyDeleteNo you can't, you have to wait till the divorce is final.
ReplyDeleteDivorce one first, before you marry another. Hian!
ReplyDeleteNo you can't do that please!!.,wait for the divorce to be finally processed before you go ahead otherwise trouble awaits you
ReplyDeleteknowing the reason for the divorce will help you decide otherwise you may be divorced just like the other partner... shine your eyes
ReplyDeleteNo way its impossible else d marriage will be nun n void
ReplyDeleteIt's a crime to LEGALLY marry two women at a time
I beg you in the name of all things holy, stop posting in English,"No way its impossible........,.....nun and void", and the worst, ".......LEGALLY marry two women.....", Jeez!
DeleteNext time, type in your native language, somebody sensible will translate
You just gave me a migraine, ish!
SHARONNA
No be only Nun......na Pope!
DeleteSHantelle
No you cannot because they are still legally married. Desperado oshi.
ReplyDeleteWill be reading comments
ReplyDeleteI doubt. I'm no lawyer but since the marriage has not been dissolved by the court, it will be a case of bigamy.
ReplyDeleteJust like how you don't pay rent and your landlord wants to chase you out and takes you to court. He can't chase you out till the court comes to a judgement. Same thing works here
Until a competent court of law grants a petition for dissolution of marriage and the decree nisi becomes decree absolute which is the final stage in the dissolution of marriage, the marriage remains valid in the eyes of the law. So any marriage conducted by either party with another person, while a petition for the dissolution of marriage is pending in court is null and void.
ReplyDeleteUnder Nigerian law, bigamy is a criminal offence. The issue of bigamy may not arise in this case because the petition for dissolution of marriage is already pending in court and both parties know better than to jeopardise the petition and incur contempt of court by going ahead to get married to someone else before the judgment of the court. In most cases of bigamy, the accused person goes ahead to consumate another marriage knowing fully well that he/she is still legally married to another. The difference here is that the accused may not necessarily want to end the subsisting marriage but wants to enjoy marriage with a second individual.
Divorce proceedings can be traumatic, yet interesting. While the matter is pending in court, any sexual relationship between the petitioner and the respondent (both parties in the suit) can make a court refused to grant the petition because it implies hope for reconciliation which is the idea behind a degree nisi. A degree nisi is granted by the court when it is satisfied that a petitioner is entitled to a divorce but the marriage is still valid in the eyes of the law until a divorce absolute is granted, which is normally 6 months later. It's only after the decree absolute is granted that both parties can get remarried if they so desire.
I usually don't come back to a post but I may make an exception if the person in question needs further clarification or other divorce related questions.
Hi Ronalda
DeleteWhat if the other party appeals a decree absolute can a marriage still be contracted
Not possible madam
ReplyDeleteSee yeye questions
ReplyDeleteWhat's the rush please? Why don't you wait till the divorce proceedings are through, then u can proceed with your marriage plans, one step at a time, there is no hurry in life, u just came out of one, try and breathe in n out before entering another.
ReplyDeletePls be patient, don't get burnt and be termed a "loose" woman unnecessarily. What's worth doing is worth doing well. May God see you thru
ReplyDeleteNo ooo, you have to complete your divorce first bf jumping into another marriage.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm! Will sit and read comments.
ReplyDeleteyes...... since ur punani is itching, when u face d consequence u go wise up! .....i wonder if u r educated
ReplyDeleteChoi
DeleteNo . why d rush?
ReplyDeleteCome, where you keep your brain/understanding the day you went to court to marry? Abi the judge no tell you the conditions? So why ask us? Common sense is not common my dear.
ReplyDeleteLet me rephrase your question.
ReplyDelete"Can i be a second wife ?". The answer is this, the choice is yours. I will advice you give your fiance time to clear his head after his marriage has been nullified by a court order before tieing the knot with him. Please be careful, divorce proceedings takes a while, do not let your efforts be in vein. He is still legally married to his wife. It is not adviceable to jump into marriage with a man that just came out of a broken marriage, let alone when divorce proceedings is still on going. Wait, after divorcing his wife, you can think of marriage. LOVE IS PATIENT. Best of luck.
Jennie.
Allow him to sort everything out b4 jumping in if not, you'll jump out.
ReplyDeleteLe boo just msged me thinking it was me.lol we are in the same boat but am going to wait until divorce is finalized.And no I didnt break up the marriage.I just happen to fall in love with a man who is divorced.
ReplyDeleteI thought I typed that too o. I'm in the same boat o, he was already separated from his wife before we met but the Divorce proceedings is still in court and it's only love that has kept me this long. I have to be patient till the divorce documents are signed. May God help us o. Amen
DeleteI thought I typed that too o. I'm in the same boat o, he was already separated from his wife before we met but the Divorce proceedings is still in court and it's only love that has kept me this long. I have to be patient till the divorce documents are signed. May God help us o. Amen
DeleteOkay o,7years imprisonment awaits you madam
ReplyDeleteWith the little I know about it I dont think its proper. Its the junior sister of bigamy
ReplyDeletemy dear, i hope u no why he want to divorce the first wife? pls be very careful and find out the main reason not only what he told u. don't jump in, in other not to rush out too. pele dear
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