Thursday, February 18, 2016
Domestic Violence Is WRONG!
Listen to mind bending song before you sleep tonight and if you are a victim or an abuser,please know that.......ITS NOT RIGHT!
ITS SO WRONG,SOOO WRONG.
I have Nightmares thinking about how you beat this and person and how they scream out for help,How do you sleep?..
If you are sleeping already,i pray nightmares into your sleep!
Hisssss!
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i always wanted Babyface to marry Toni braxton....
ReplyDeleteGod knows i wont tolerate that shit. Women never settle for less and try and be independent.
ReplyDeleteOnce u re independent, it will be very easy for you to walk away without stress.
My fellow bvn, if u re undergoing such pls speak up. Good members of bvn including me will help u out. Dont die in silent please. I take God beg u. Marriage is not a do or die affair cos if u die another woman will replace you and might treat ur kids as slaves. Pls speak up.
So true. Pls ooo speak up
DeleteDon't b an end time mute person.
Most Nigerian wives are been battered daily.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby does not hit,his is #Shouting# Mehnn Mr A shout can raise up the Dead.
I was so comfortable in my belief that he doesn't Hit until the day (Early Thursday Morning, he slapped me twice,directly on my face, claiming I disrespected him.
Since that Day,i ve been upset,i spend our Money on personal stuff,i inflate our Monthly expenditure, the Children School fees.
Note this was November 2015, the Hurt is buried deep inside me.
I'm slowly but steadily loosing it.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!
This is just me .my hubby can shout and say extremely hurtful things and be paranoid and is d king of reverse psychology.....the only thing I held unto was that I had his mumu button which is sex.he can't help himself....houseboy for sex .but in all his shoutin he has never been physical till yesterday he came home late while I was asleep and I delayed opening d door ,so he raked.i was angry and went back to bed.after he ate I just felt someone creeping into d bed and jumped onto my back.i was so angry I just pushed him off and he fell off d bed......Ono d way he dragged me up and held my jaw asking me who gave me d liver to be rejecting him .dat I must tell him who I'm fucking .see slaps..it's time in almost 7year old marriage.he was a lion in rage....I feared for my life.even my son ran in and was hugging me crying ,he pulled d boy off and sent him out.im numb Stella .d emotional and verbal abuse at its peak I he endured for 6years.....now this?never saw this comin
Delete@Anon 21:09,I said it .only rude wives are usually beaten up.
DeleteAnon21:09,stop deceiving yourself and consoling ur rude self. It is not most Nigerian wives.but very few disrespectful ones.
DeleteOh my God! I hope you both find a solution before we see una obituary on this blog!
DeleteSay NO to domestic violence!!!
I hate any form of violence! I'm too soft.. God pls dnt let my baby change negatively #Amen
ReplyDeleteBlog addict, make sure u marry a fellow soft perd
Delete*soft person
DeleteMay God give all those abused women the grace to move on an speak out. And May those guys who abuse women meet their Waterloo soon.
ReplyDelete304 comment 2016
Default smile, I hope u will keep counting ur comments. till the end of the year
DeleteStella, forget that thing.
ReplyDeleteAny woman that is always beaten blue and black by her horseband is stubborn and rude.
So if she is stubborn and rude why wont the man send her back to her parents house? Does he have a right to hit her? Is she her slave or what? Abeg forget that thing. There are many ways to deal with a woman with out hitting her biko
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DeleteBut your female boss insults you daily and you even pee in your pants.... why are you not beating her?
DeleteMtcheeewww!
Domestic violence is wrong! Simple.
Sharrap Mr anonymous! If you cant deal with their rude mouth, get a divorce!!!!
DeleteIt's so wrong, men please stop it. Women bridle your tongue. It's just sad!!!
ReplyDeleteMen that lives with troublesome woman should learn to use Koboko on their back and buttock.instead of bare hand or wooden planks .It is barbaric.
ReplyDeleteSo koboko is better? Oh, I'm sorry for what your mum went through. mtchewww continue until she feeds you with rat poison.
DeleteMr animal anonymous, you have been noticed. I hope your wife uses the koboko 1st on you+ kills you 1st before you kill her. Yeye dey smell!
DeleteOkay
ReplyDeletePortable viv,please replace this ur pix with one which u are smiling. Smile is wonderful even if they are not genuine.
DeleteThe hand bag lady knows this.She smiles in all her pix.Who could ever think her mind is poisonous as we all saw 2 days ago.
Abeg leave mashed beans face like this. kelvin dat igbo boy see am like that and im dey crase for am. Leave am. You go and be shining teeth in your own picture, busy body.
DeleteStella, I hit my boyfriend repeatedly and gave him a sore eye, he didn't hit me back or anything, He just walked away. I feel horrible and I've been apologising for days now. I think he doesn't love me else forgiveness would come easily. I am not a violent woman, I only lost my temper.
ReplyDeleteSharrap, you are indeed a violent person. I no blame the guy. He had better run for his life before you take his life away. There is no duplicate. ...@@@BiaBia 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤
DeleteAnon22:34,I am glad he left u.The guy should go to church and do special thanksgiving. U revealed your true self b4 a baby tie two of u forever.
DeleteAnon22:34,please allow the guy to go.Look for a violent person like u.There is nothing like I lost my temper.
DeleteViolence in all forms is wrong, but if you hit a man, and get blinded in the process, no pity for you. I do not understand why you'd hit a man! I hope the day he breaks your hand,;forgiveness will come easily. rubbish
DeleteHe will not marry you, it's not a curse but reality
DeleteImagine if it's d other way round
Note: am a woman
Man beater, goan find a woman beater so you both can kil una sef or better still hook up with Bv Flora's hubby. I hope he never gets back with you. Mrs if he love me,forgiveness should be easy. Yeye geh!
DeleteJust this morning,when I went outside to air laundry, I heard this thunderous slap followed by the shrill cry of a lil boy..
ReplyDeleteThe way my heart skipped ehh!!
The next thing I heard was shouts of 'beat me too, beat me too' by the boy's mother.
Turns out, the father slapped his lil boy of about 8yrs, and the mother had to grab the man's shirt telling him to beat her too since he can beat their son.
Well..what do you know? The man 'beat her too' and the noise that followed was another thing.
Prior to this morning, I have never heard any noise from their flat.I don't know what changed.
Now, I have two neighbours in a violent marriage.
I need to sue them, for intent to cause HBP for me in my 20's.
I don't want my heart to keep jumping out each time I hear that terrifying sound.
And why do men beat their kids up with their strong manly hand? How can you slap a lil boy that is still growing teeth on his cheeks?
Wicked man.
DeleteHe wants to destroy his ear drums.
Awwwwwwwww
DeleteU want sue neighbour for this naija
Pls wake u, u'r not in UK or US or any other country apart from Africa
@lily simple lolll
DeleteThis song is for all of us, including the un-abused.
DeleteDear North, please reach out the next time you hear the husband bashing his wife.
A simple bang at their door may make the man stop abusing his wife.
Let's not just fold our hands and ignore the abused cry for help. Please, that's the least we can do.
Just this morning,when I went outside to air laundry, I heard this thunderous slap followed by the shrill cry of a lil boy..
ReplyDeleteThe way my heart skipped ehh!!
The next thing I heard was shouts of 'beat me too, beat me too' by the boy's mother.
Turns out, the father slapped his lil boy of about 8yrs, and the mother had to grab the man's shirt telling him to beat her too since he can beat their son.
Well..what do you know? The man 'beat her too' and the noise that followed was another thing.
Prior to this morning, I have never heard any noise from their flat.I don't know what changed.
Now, I have two neighbours in a violent marriage.
I need to sue them, for intent to cause HBP for me in my 20's.
I don't want my heart to keep jumping out each time I hear that terrifying sound.
And why do men beat their kids up with their strong manly hand? How can you slap a lil boy that is still growing teeth on his cheeks?
My dear, never underrate the effects of hardship and frustration. These times are hard, there is violence everywhere, people are transferring aggression, Nigeria is worse than it has ever been.
DeletePraying nitemares in they drmz.
ReplyDeleteis so so wrong, pls and pls stop domestic violent.
ReplyDeleteAmen to the nightmare prayers. And may Edo airline passengers deal with u in ur dream
ReplyDeletePlease BVs I think I need to clear the air on this post, I came across some comments that I insulted single ladies on this blog, I have thought it over many times and I can't remember ever doing that, who am I to insult you? Do I create husbands......everyone has a story too.
ReplyDeleteI still remain ever grateful to stella for lending me her platform to cry out and every bv who came to my aid.
God bless you
Dear hope ur hubby av bn arrested where is mates are sha?
Delete@Flora,even though we all rallied round u and condemned ur violent horseband.learn to control ur tongue. Always think b4 u talk .It is wrong for u to rudely ask him.why he doesn't care about ur baby.It is also wrong for him to use planks on u.He should have used Koboko on those sexy buttocks.that is more humane
DeleteIt is well. Hope u re good? Take good care of ur baby.
DeleteHow you go remember, but when you dey talk am excited sweet like agege bread for your mouth.
DeleteI dey wait for the day Eka Joy, potable Viv and angleraysdk4 (or whatever it's name is) cups go full.
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ReplyDeleteNot mind bending o jere, I didn't really feel the violence in dis video. Naija version will make me cry and sad and not dis type.
ReplyDeleteNice one.
ReplyDeleteAmen to every wicked soul that love yo see otgers in pain amen
ReplyDeleteIt's not been easy! You say you have nightmares ba! I sent in my story on the abuse I suffered in the hands of my husband and got the bashing of my life; some said it was a ploy to get a job, others said I talk too much so I deserved the beating, you, Stella advised me to not provoke him . we are all quick to judge, quick to blurt "God forbid" but only we the abused know how it feels. No one likes being abused but when you check your options,you realise you actually have none...where do I run to? With three children, which "friend" or bvn will take me in? I'm still in my marriage, taking it one day at a time. Since that incident, he is yet to lay his hands on me, it's been almost 2 years. I keep praying for change and he's changing but then again when you've been beaten like that you tend to be wary.I too realized I needed to do some changing as well. I watch that video a lot, what the neighbours did is what the society has been reduced to. The abused stay not because they want to but cuz they actually have no choice
ReplyDeleteIt is well
Your case is exactly mine, was beaten blue nd black bcos I refused to abort our third child, landed in d hospital and d hospital almost evacuated her cos I was bleeding but thank God a nurse refused, insisting dat we carry out a scan first to see if the pregnancy was OK. This was 4yrs ago, since den he has not touched me but that is because have been accepting am wrong for so many issues even when am right, I have learnt to be quiet and swallow up even when am hurt. Where do I go with three children, even if we go to court, he will be granted d custody of d children so who go come lose?
DeleteMy friend u have a choice. May be because u dnt have anything doing. When we preach u women should be independent, una no go listen. Thank God he has changed. Try ur best and be a good wife too
Delete@your Two Kobo,it is good u have learned to control ur tongue and good manners by force.
DeleteI am sorry for your pains ma'am.
DeleteI am sending you warm hugs right now.
Please save up for the rainy day!
Big hugs to you both! Too much hurt + beating. I hope you find a way out of it all. Try and start extorting him so you both can learn a hand work and be self made. That way he knows you can live at anytym.
DeleteIt really scares me, that is how my best Aunty's husband beat her up one day and was even threatening her, God knows the next time he tries it I will personally arrange for boys to break two of his fingers.
ReplyDeleteMy spec, u dnt need to waist time, just arrange guys to beat that man blue black,let them give him a lot of injury. after that he might send ur sister away but he will never raise his fifty hands on a woman again.
DeleteAlthou its always advisable to walk away but most of these violent man need to be taught a great lesson.
@Ezi o,stop making mouth for nothing. Tell ur Auntie to bridle her tongue
DeletePray neither I nor my sisters fall prey.
ReplyDeleteGod should help us not to fall into the hands of wrong men. Most times, i do wonder what changes the charming husband to a wife beater. Men should learn to tolerate since they r the head of the home. Men should stop transferring frustrations from their working place to their wives. Please married men in the house stop beating ur wives they r not kids or slaves the bible says the 2 shall become one so why treat ur other half badly???Repent if u r still carrying such wicked act at home. May God restore peace to SDK members home that r going true such
ReplyDeleteAnd women should also learn how to bridle their tongue. Cos most time some women are the cause of their problem. Always nagging and shouting on top of their voices, no atom of respect for their partner although respect is a reciprocal. Akanri kwoo aka ekpe, aka ekpe akwoo aka nri. Women shld leaen to stop nagging and control their tongue/temper. And men shld also know when to walk away. U dnt need to beat her to prove u re man enough. God will see us thru and make our home to always be a peaceful one.
Delete@miss Jay,Choose wisely. Do be in a hurry to marry.If u r soft hearted ,go for similar man .
DeleteNa real hiss!!
ReplyDeleteWish women could speak up but mba "what will people say".
If your in a Dv marriage or relationship,and has decided to die there, I wish you a speedy death. Yeye dey smell!
Crazyhorneywife,I hope u r not running ur mouth in ur home. It is challenging a man in his own house, that makes him to beat u up
DeleteI wish. You need my dH to tutor you on how to treat a woman without being violent!
DeleteSay NO to domestic violence!
didnt babyface used to beat d wife too. Animal
ReplyDeleteSome won't speak but prefer to die there.
ReplyDeleteEnd time beating
ReplyDeleteDear God, pls strengthen every woman being abused to take that step of walking away. U can live without a man. Pls don't let him cut you short. You can start over again. When there is life there is hope. It could be rough at the start but not worse than the abuse.
ReplyDeletePreach it sis
DeleteAbusive this and dat ! First of all , women need to obtain a certificate on how to b a good wife b4 going into marriage. 95% of abuse in marriages are caused by women . Look at dat Lawyer in Ibadan dat killed her husband , if it was a man dat did it , Stella will not let Bv's to sleep wt daily update on d story.
ReplyDeleteWhere I live a man wt history of HBP died cause of an abusive wife , d man was unable to pay his kids school fees cuz of challenges in his bizness , d wife took out time to insult d husband and tell him d history of his life , d man went to bed n never woke up . Dz was a man dat was doing well n taking gud care of his family , simply bcuz of a little challenge d woman forget d past n now remembered dat d husband is worthless . How abt dz ? Assuming d man is d violent type would she hv tried dat . Men abuse , I agree , women do too .We should always look at d remote cause n not dz blame game.
The Message of the song was not just for the abusers only but for those who hear their screams and cry for help and do nothing about saying it's none of my business. i am very sure a lot of women or men who have lost their lives to domestic violence would have been saved if someone acted on their cry for help. I was touched by the song and i am determined to help out if any abuser reaches out to me.
ReplyDeleteFirst and foremost I think violence is wrong in all ramifications. If you can't tolerate a person's behavior kindly leave or ask them to leave. A person who hits you can never stop.personally,there's a kind of abuse you get verbally that can make u commit suicide.my friend's husband knocked off her front teeth.before it got that bad,she complained to her mom and she told her to only daughter not to come home because she is a Christian mother in catholic church and will be penalized if her daughter comes home.it was until her daughter was beaten almost to death and teeths knocked out that she came for her. Please families should learn to protect their children.if your kids are in a violent relationship, please bring them out before you bring them back to your house in body bag. Flora my sister,you are just one of the testimonies of survivors. People die from a dangerous push.talk more of a plank and wires. For the person who says koboko should be used on women, I pray to God to give your kids men who will flog away their self esteem.and to those who called flora to say rubbish,I wish u her position. And the person who asked her to kneel and beg her husband, I hope your sense will be restored to you.
ReplyDeleteSonee,I have not seen ur comment here b4.Are u d same person as Flora?Please,learn good manners and also learn to bridle ur tongue. If not u go still run commot for ur next marriage.
DeleteNa wa. so many pains i am reading here. May God comfort all going through this. Anonymouses may God be with you all. AMEN
ReplyDelete@love u jeje,are u sure u r not one of d anonymouses
DeleteI feel I should come in here. It is really strange the levels some people would go to justify domestic violence... she spoke to me rudely, she did not give me food on time etc. Is that enough reason to beat another person's child to the extent of being admitted? We need to change the way we think in Nigeria, what he might term "rude" might just be the wife requesting for school fees for her children. I strongly believe that the reason some parents cannot intervene is because the fathers did the same thing to their mothers and the mothers took the abuse. Things are changing and the sooner we understand it and empower our women, the better off we would be
ReplyDelete