Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives

Na wah!....I am on Vacation from commenting on the Narratives for this week..lol

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

BEST FRIEND DILEMMA

Hello Stella. I just want to start off first by saying that you do a great job as always. This blogging business no be beans walahi.

I have a little issue i wanted to share with you and possibly hear yours and BVs thoughts on it. I have been best friends(or so i thought) with a girl i met in the university in 2008 and we discuss everything as in nothing is off limits. She works in a bank and my elder brother (same father and mother) gave her a reference which i heard was rejected only recently. After my masters program, i got a job in September 2015 and we haven't had time to hang out and talk as we do but that has never been an issue. 


Before the job though, i went to stay with her and her fiance in his house for a weekend when she was ill and when i noticed that he kept disrespecting me for no reason at all and my friend wasn't standing up for me i took my leave. Secondly, the family seemed to think i was leeching off her but on the side still ask me for monetary favours which i grant when i can. But the height was when I was accused of something i didn't do and i personally decided to give her and the family some space and i haven't gone back to visit since August 2015. 

So, yesterday, i called her up and we met up at a salon because i wanted to discuss a business venture i wanted to start and after i had finished, she just blurted out that she was married as at October 2015 and pregnant and was leaving for Canada to give birth there as the husband is a citizen(the fiance). To say i was shocked was an understatement. Her excuse when the fiance(which i doubt) asked for not telling me was that ''Since you started work and we weren't talking, i just figured you were busy and i just wanted it to be quiet and all. Hope you are not angry sha''. Now she wants me to follow her for her sonogram visit on Saturday. 


Should I go with her? Am i right to feel disappointed and sidelined? Has the friendship run its course?

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
HOUSE HELP GONE BAD

Am a Pharmacist and I practice in a hospital so u can imagine, I often sleep outside my house especially when I am on call duty. My immediate elder sis is a medical doctor though lucky enough she doesn't do night calls but has 3 children with the last being a special kid who needs special attention  (that's story for another ). Why it happened to her only God knows and we all just have to live and cope with it hoping for a miracle from God.

Presently am pregnant and in my 2nd trimester with my second baby. First trimester was hell as I never experienced such morning sickness or better still all-day sickness in my first pregnancy.  Hubby was very supportive as he did all he could especially with house chores, dude can work like a lady. Very neat and impeccable. But the stress was so much on us, he being a banker and coming home late say around 9pm to clean and take care of the house and myself with my toddler. 

This experience was agonising as the whole period of 4months I couldn't even lift broom to sweep, how much more cook as I just kept throwing up and I still had to go to work both day and night when necessary. 

To cut the long story short, my aunt helped got an house help late January not up to a month sef.

Did I remember to say my sister is running her M.Sc. programme while waiting for residency in any of these hospital. So about a week after I got my house help, I paid my sister a visit and my heart was shattered. The way she  looked was disheartening cos she had to goto work, lectures to attend and  2 healthy kids and a special kid to take care of. Stella you needed to see her. 

My once beautiful sister looked so tired, she was actually sleep deprived and you name it. Even with my condition I didn't know when I offered her my house help pending the time she will get one. Na so i carry my girl go her house. Infact the day I dropped her i had to take her to my nephew's after school as my sister was not back from school. Even me sef I just finish call duty na him in carry the girl go there.

I specifically warned my sister never to leave her kids with the house help unattended as I didn't want to write stories that touch the heart.  But with our kain job which we no fit help she had to for just once which was yesterday.  Alas my greatest fear happened.  Within that short period na im  house help comot cloth comot my nephew's cloth of about 6years and told the boy to sleep with her. I guess the boy wasn't responding so she beat him and told him never to tell anyone.  As God will have it, the boy told his mum: my sister immediately she got back. My sister being the reserved person she is, did not utter a word at all and tried calling to notify me but unfortunately I forgot my fone at home and haven't seen it since. We finally spoke yesterday afternoon and I asked her what steps she had taken, she said she has told our eldest sister who advised her not to talk to the girl for now and never to leave the kids alone with her again.  

When I told hubby he said that my sister should follow suit. Mind you I already paid 5 months salary in advance coupled with some extra charges.

My fear is this i don't want the girl again, I don't want any house help again lailai.  What if I didn't do medical test on her, just what if?

What of the spiritual implications as my hubby pointed out?

I know child molestation can turn young children into disstabilized adult, how do I allay that fear?

What do I do with the rotten girl as I wish like beating her to a pulp?

My questions are many and racing through my mind.

Note pease I showed this girl great love and I can vouch same for my sister  cos she's softer than me sef,

So how can a girl i trust do this to my nephew whom I consider my son.

I just thank God I never for once left her with my daughter as I just wasn't comfortable. 

Please help me.