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Friday, January 29, 2016
The Marriage Box....Must Read!
We need to talk and I need to open your eyes and ears to something you might probably not know....
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Now you Understand?Its what you put in that you bring out!
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Now you Understand?Its what you put in that you bring out!
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ReplyDeleteThe marriage talk again.....
DeleteStella this ya couch don dey old. it's time to change it to a fancier something. Xx
DeleteKikiki
On point!!!
DeletePlease why do people think marriage is a bed of roses??
ReplyDeleteWhy do single girls talk like marriage is suppose to be easy when you fight, quarrel and disagree with your boyfriends.??
Some of you have cheating boyfriends and you refuse to let them go and stick with them but quick to ask a married woman to leave her cheating husband.
Some of you your boyfriends don't even pick up the bills yet you ask women to leave over little issues
Why do married people think because their is a little problem then they should divorce?? The only situation I advice divorce is when there is physical abuse..
First of all if you dated you partner and tolerated, endured all he did during relationship why then are you complaining after marriage when he does the same thing?? You didn't walk out during relationship, and you think you should walk out during marriage..??
Marriage is not a bed of roses. It is mixed with sweetness, pain, bitterness, happiness, joy, stress, patience, compassion, compromising and Alot of things.
My mom thought me something before I got married and it's really helping me. But ladies won't even try it because they feel they would be made the bigger fools. I use to be like a lot of ladies here, independent, arrogant, rich and feminist. A boyfriend dares not say trash to me, I was always in and out of one relationship because I wouldn't let any man control me or talk to me anyhow. Until my mom sat me down and spoke some words of wisdom to me
She said been quiet doesn't mean you are a fool but it means you are just letting the other person having that day. So instead of me to challenge a man during quarrels, I should make my point and keep quiet. If I am forced to talk I should put water in my mouth and not swallow it as she knows I'm a talkative.. She also said that moment you are quiet, you are studying the next person, next time you will have an upper hand. Before you know it you will be in charge in your home. You will be the one making decisions but your husband will think it's all his ideas..
I told her she didn't know what she was saying and she's old and achaeic what does she know..
Then I had a long distance relationship that led to marriage and boy, was the first year easy. It wasn't easy because we were always at each others throat. I will raise my voice at any giving time I think he wants to use the fact that he is a man to keep me quiet. Before he says 1 I would have said 10. We were always fighting, quarreling in fact during one argument, I raised my hand and slapped my husband. He went out and came back late and didn't talk to me for days..
Another time we were arguing I made my hands to slap him and he grabbed it and beat me back. Oh yes, he hit so bad that day and I packed my things and left. Went back to my parents house but he had already called to explain what happened. When I came and I explained and we had same stories even though I tried to remove some fact so I look like the innocent one, my dad asked me to go back to my husband's house and that I wasn't sleeping in his house.
I went an lodged in a hotel for 5 days, got a self contained and moved in. And in my mind I was happy to be single again instead of taking instructions from a man and living in bandage called marriage as I thought. And then 3 months past, my husband wasn't looking for me or even calling or begging me to come back. My parents weren't calling me either. And I decided not to be bothered. After about 5 months plus I started getting worried. My friends were now gossiping about me and all which I wasn't bothered about. But I was bothered that my husband wasn't looking for me, calling or texting me. Then I started playing back everything that has transpired with every relationship and I realized I have not gotten it right. Because I had been one of those who feel men shouldn't control women neither should women be submissive. I didn't even know my place as a woman in my marriage and I felt we had equal right.
To be continued
Anon pls continue ooo.
DeleteWow! Please hurry with the continuation. Someone is dying to read the concluding part of this story
DeleteSo insightful. I learnt from the part u said being quiet doesn't tag you a fool. Gradually you are taking charge of your home..i appreciate these words. Married female bvns lets not be too quick to advice people facing challenges in their marriages negatively. Jokingly or what not
DeletePreach it sister!!
DeleteMEN SHOULD,NOT CONTROL WOMEN. MEN SHOULD NOT CONTROL WOMEN. God help Nigerian women. Anyway, your way works for you but this isn't marriage were a man controls. Submission is not slavery. Do you forget were Christ says a man should love as He loves the Church. Does Christ control you? Does he put you down emotionally. Let us hear word. All these women preaching what I don't know. Women have your own, be respectful but don't let any man treat you badly. You deserve respect you are not created to be treated as a mat. Most Nigerian marriages are not what God designed for marriage. It is so sad.
DeleteI could totally picture myself while reading this. I made this same mistake and it almost cost me my marriage of less than a year. You are just as stubborn and as hard headed as i am. A cantankerous wife as people would define my situation. I had to hold myself back and resolve never to go that far with my husband again. He has never hit me but I hit him severally. There were times we would quarrel and I would pack my things and go to a hotel for days. The last fight was the breaking straw where things went south really fast and we were almost at the exit door but I said to my self that I still love my husband and my marriage and want to make it work, so I resolved to start afresh and fix things. Looking back, I see no reason as to the things I did. My husband is genuinely a good man and luckily doesn't believe in divorce, so he was willing to make things work again regardless of all odds. I've learnt to play the fool now, not because I am one but because I've learnt not to respond to everything so that peace can reign. A tough decision but doable. Marriage is not easy. I pray no one rushes in and out. Ladies take your time and make sure that you are emotional ready for what you are about to get into. It's nothing like a relationship, all that changes after a while. All the best to all the single ladies and prospective wives out there!
DeleteI have always thought, "no matter how marriages are nowadays , there are still some who make it work" How do they do it?Thank God you are one of those ,pls do continue...
DeleteThis your story is peculiar to you coz you were very stubborn and so the lessons you have learned are peculiar to you as well. Everyone has their own story. Not every woman will raise her hand to slap her husband and the problems some women have in their marriages is not because they are not submissive so speak for yourself.
DeleteSo Anon 16:51, where did she say that it is okay for a man to disrespect his wife? Women are sometimes the cause of their own problems. You lack understanding. Better relax and read what she wrote again because she is giving an insight that not a lot of women have realised.
DeleteGreat Minds. Well done.
DeleteArchaic*
DeleteHmmmm so true
ReplyDeleteMarriage is all about marrying the right person.Any mistake you are in a life of regrets.
ReplyDeleteNot about putting something or receiving anything.
Is dat why u tried to snatch one poverty stricken nonentity called austin by borning one ugly goat for him?so u think his wife is wrong for him and u are right?e go do u like film trick.
DeleteContinuation
ReplyDeleteAfter thinking Alot, in the 8 month I got a text from my husband asking if I'm willing to make it work again and I replied after 4 days yet again because of pride. I said yes because I missed him. I sat down and removed all the times we were always fighting and quarreling and realized he was a good man
He cleans, cooks, helps with house chores, provides every of my needs despite the fact that I could afford it and let's me have my way with everything and he was good at his job, he was successful in his business and commanded a lot of respect at work but I didn't even respect him at home . I felt really bad after realizing I had not giving marriage a chance because I went in with a bad mindset.
I went back to my husband's house after 8 months plus and we started living fine. I made changes. Became submissive and knew my place in a home. When he is angry and venting I keep quiet and let him have his day. Days later when he is in a better mood I tell him what and what I didn't like that he did. And when I'm angry and I'm venting, he keeps quiet which he had always done except for me that vent with him when he is angry. Things changed and we were happy.
All major decisions or ideas come from me now But he thinks it was his idea. When we are discussing and he is telling me how he wants to do something and I look at it and see it isn't the right way, I'll just suggest or chip in something in a way that doesn't look like I'm trying to tell him what is best. Before you know he will say that same thing I said and say that is what he thinks we should do.
I took my mom's advice and used it even tho late but it has helped me. We have been married for 8yrs now and we are so in love. In fact it looks like the love grows every days. And looks like the love has multiplied from where we start. We have common understanding. We know what we should it shouldn't do.
I have never caught him cheating, neither has he giving me a reason to think he is cheating as he is always home every day before 6pm. Home all thru the weekend as my house is always the turn up spot for his friends which are few by the way. He doesn't go on unnecessary trips as he sends his MD on most trips but those that require his attention are usually a one day thingy which have them in meetings till after night. So I know he isn't cheating but even though he was, I was not going to throw my marriage a way because of a lady. Nah, I wouldn't do that. I would take it to God in prayer and confront him.
And alien make sure you man loves God above every other thing. Because only a man that lives God wouldn't cheat on you and even though he does, he can be changed if you appeal not to him but his conscience and follow him with prayer.. And always put your husbands I prayer, sometimes this men don't follow women with their clear eyes. Yes I said it. My aunt married a good man until he started misbehaving around town with a girl and she took it to God in prayers in tears fasting and supplication. Her miracle didn't come quick but when it did, the girl was the one that came and confessed that she tied the man down with a native doctor. She said the man wasn't even interested in her at all until she took his name and picture from social media to babalawo before he started looking towards her. So yes some are not with clear eyes while others are with clear eyes. Let us just be prayerful as the devil is against marriage..
To be continued...
Well said
DeleteGbam, you said it all. .
Delete.....make sure your man loves God above every other thing. Because only a man that loves God (same for men too, make sure you love a woman that loves God, with that your peace of mind is garanteed )
Your case is different. You were the demon in the marriage. Thank God you changed.
DeleteTrue talk...
ReplyDeleteContinuation
ReplyDeleteKnow thee that without the neck the head can not move
Marriage isn't easy but of you use wisdom to follow it, you will be happy for the rest of your life. I grew up in a home where we as kids never saw our parents quarrel. We never saw them quarrel doesn't mean they don't quarrel. They disagree inside their room and make sure they don't raise their voice. When we know daddy and mommy are quarreling is when mommy goes to bed on time before daddy because normally my mom would wait until my dad is ready to go inside before they both go inside same goes to my dad. But when one of them go to bed early before the other we know they are not in a good mood aside that no other signs
I remember one time my dad said my mom is actually the one running the house. Aside the money he brings nothing else as she makes all the decisions and she deceives him with kisses whole making them.. Those people you hear staying 50-70yrs in marriage didn't have it easy trust me but they compromised
You must learn to compromise.
You must brindle your tongue as a lady
You must make it work As a lady.
A woman makes her home( meaning the decision for your house to fail or succeed lies in your hands more than that of a man)
Keep your imaginary fantasies aside while going into marriage and face reality. Even life itself isn't easy, why should marriage be easy
Pray, pray, pray. Without prayers you wouldn't have wisdom to flourish in your marriage
I might have different opinions from others but at least argue intelligently devoid of insults and bickering.
Thanks for reading...
God bless you for this.
DeleteWishing you many more years together
Thank you..i met a divorce lawyer today,but after reading this,I'm having a rethink..our major problem is low income..and I think I always find a way to blame him for our hardship..we both work,but our salaries combined is not even up to 70k..we have 2 kids..he's hardworking and all..but I'm so frustrated..it's this same frustration that's making me file for divorce..if only our finances can improve a lil bit..i never thought money makes love grow strong o..at the end of the day,I don't think love is enough..the few times,he has extra cash,he would take me to get a cup of icecream..i will be so happy ehn like a baby and feel so loved..but that happens like once in 3 months..i feel he's also tired of the marriage..he can go for days without talking to me..he avoids me like a plague..if I don't speak up for one month,he'll not talk to me too.
DeleteWe've not spoken to each other for 5 days now..hence my decision to leave..he was chatting at 12 midnight and when I asked him what he was doing,he flared up and said I've started again..i just kept quiet..and till today,5 days later,he hasn't talked to me..I'm emotionally drained..ah God..is it not better to leave?
God bless u anon and may God continue to bless our marriages. So much learnt
DeleteThanks dear,God continue to bless ur home
DeleteThanks Ma
DeleteAnon13:09, Tales by the moonlight
DeleteMadam you are LUCKY! and yes I totally agree with everything you wrote. My mom uses the same principle and she and pops are still pretty much in love like they met yesterday. Over 4 decades under their belt. I've learned a great deal from her. Most women often fail to realise that their kids tend to emulate what they do,good or bad.
DeleteThanks for taking your time to type this. God bless your home.
God bless you my sister
DeleteAnon with d epistle
DeleteMay God bless u n preserve your home, ur home shall continually be a heaven on earth. Nothing Goid shall lack in your Family.
Both of u shall live to see your great grand children.
I love your testimony
M humbled again.
I love you already. Tnx for this advice. I'm barely a year old in my marriage. Even doh I'm having it splendid now, I still need more wisdom to handle my baby and my home. God bless you for this write up
DeleteTanks so much..av rili learnt a lot from ur comment..God bless
DeleteI think I like this. Pray pray like no other women. A lot of men are not cheating with ordinary eye and in 80% of the time the woman had made the home non- habitable in the first place.
DeleteAttitude. Speech. Neatness. Food. Should be tops. Money comes last.
That man who is afraid of going home at the end of official or business hours, had got No Home. We need to help our husbands make the money. Give him PEACE and watch things fall in place.
Mistake number 1....unless you married a foolish man, a women does not make the marriage work. Marriage is between more than 1 person. Your marriage is working because your husband is playing his part. He is making efforts to make you happy. Half of these homes are nothing like yours.
DeleteThanks for this piece! You have just given me strength to continue to fight for my marriage. At some point I was almost tired and pissed off completely. I just want to ask a question, is it normal for a man to involve his parents and siblings in every disagreement that we have? The last issue we had was such a big mess, his parents and siblings got word on what happened and his brother was even advising him to divorce me. I have pleaded with my husband severally that we need is to observe privacy in our marriage and learn to handle issues on our own but he always runs towards his people every time. Infact this has strained my relationship with my in laws because I have a hard time trusting and relating properly with any of them because of the image my husband has painted of me in front of them. It's unfortunate but I potentially see my husband choosing his family over me in the future, which is quite scary. Although there are times when he does fight for me against their wish and bitterness. I love my husband so much and hate the fact that his family wades into our marriage a lot. Married bvs what do you think of this issue? Is this a normal pattern? We have been married for less than 2 years. How do I get him to stop this bad behavior and make my in laws mind their business? Everytime I talk and complain, he says I'm trying to come between him and his family which I think is ridiculous
DeleteGreat read.
DeleteKisses To U Anony.
Informative yet very entertaining. May God keep blessing u and ur lover.Amen.
Wise woman,remain blessed.
DeleteI am so touched by this. God bless you Anon!
DeleteU are so true, some women applied all she has said the marriage still didn't work cos the men took it for granted. She is such a lucky woman.
DeleteBut every advice, well said.
Anon 17.42,it's not easy but can u ignore him?
DeleteYou are lucky at least your husband is ready too to make it work. God bless your home.
DeleteSo true!!! It's wa u put in u get out! ur partner & u are the only ones who can write your own love story the way u want it! Yes! just plant want you want to reap! There is happiness in marriage!
ReplyDeleteMy marriage was near perfect until the arrival of our baby..then things changed..fuck reduce from almost 4 times a week to twice a month..oga was getting frustrated..fatigue killed my sex drive..slowly we began to drift apart..my friends say I should just endure the pain and gather strength to fuck well well..when I'm enduring,oga will notice,he'll get up so angrily and we would go for days without talking..omo then the worst thing happened..oga lost his job o..money begin scarce,by then second baby dey on the way..after I gave birth,he got another small job o..salary of 30k a month..na there I realize say ehn,money dey follow make love sweet o..abeg make we leave matter jare..
Delete". .u are the only ones who can write your own love story the way u want it! Yes! just plant want you want to reap!"....another wise one, more wisdom.
DeleteWaiting 4 IHN....bigger me I pray. Honeybell.
ReplyDelete*sits on d famous blog couch n awaiting comments*
ReplyDeleteMarried peeps in the house, oya tell us lets hear..
ReplyDeleteWas the box truly empty? How full is it now? Was it full and now empty again? LOl.
I want a full box when I'm married.I don't do empty nor half full.
No full my dear. Ndi bia, ndi bia. You drop yours, I drop mine. But the bonding part is when you 2 decide to put your knees down every morning, lock one hand each and pray. E be like Juju. People go dey look, una go dey go. Shouting and quarrelling? Yes. But it is immediately settled with yabis and teasing resulting in overcoming laughter.
DeleteImagine your hubby calls you Northie and you quarrel with him, then he picks his car key and zooms off, later he returns and goes like ' kedu di dat Northless someburrri biko nyekwam nni kam rie' and you burst out laughing. Quarrel Neva end?
Just make a resolve that your anger will see no tomorrow. Marriage is sweet.
XP,iji ya ooooo
DeleteQuarrel n settle,then settle for bed
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis is so true...most peeps goes into it with unrealistic expectations...
ReplyDeleteHMMM
ReplyDeleteSEEN
ReplyDeleteLaFresh, why did you remove your manly face, is it bcos I called you out?
DeleteIdiot anon, I your foolish state you think that picture is me? Now I know how stupid you are.
DeleteDon't mind d baaga!!!
DeleteGood u brought it here.Many peeps don't really know this.It's prolly only ur "What's up aunties" that wil teach u this o.or if ur Mama tear eye.Lolz
ReplyDeleteThe typical Marriage advice is:
-Your husband is the head.And the way they wil say it eh,wil make u fear small.U just think of one hefty Army Man. LMAO.
-Followed by feed him well.don't joke with his tummy and fuck well.
-And the Famous(?) Be patient!
Nothing about the man o.Nothing.
Be patient..tops the list. And if your Mumsie is d crazy fearless one, you will hear " why is he frowning, show him the pinkie na, what is it?'. Hahahaa. Anya afugo mi ife(my eye don see plenty).
DeleteThe summary of it all is marry your soul
DeleteMate and everything else will be beautiful,nobody ever went to school of marriage ,different people ,different experiences ,different characters different drama .
True
ReplyDeleteMy comment just wiped, so pissed.
ReplyDeleteYeah so right!
ReplyDeleteSOoooooo true!
ReplyDeleteI had always believed my marriage will be like Disney made me believe it would be. Unfortunately it wasn't so for the 1st few months. I had to read books, listen to tapes and LEARN! I consciously began to do my own part, building up my home the way I want it to be. I am not there yet but it is much more better than it was at the beginning
Sadly, a lot of us are still in the the realm of illusions. Daydreaming and believing in happily ever afters that will come on a platter of gold. We want to be happy without working to make that one thing which makes us happy work out,
Some say marriage is overrated but you only hear that from those who have one issue or the other.
* phew*
May God help us all sha
Very true. Many people get married due to pressure, the need for company, or they feel they are at the right stage in their lives to get married. Some for comfort. Most people get married for love. I'll say same thing I said to my sister. Love dsnt keep a marriage. Only patience and understanding does. That is what we need. Love is the bedrock but if you depend on that alone, the marriage will fall cos it's not easy living with someone and having to share everything with that person. Plus the person is in your face all the time lol. For those who marry cos of pressure, comfort and every other reason, their first step into marriage is already a wrong step
ReplyDeleteTrue...
DeleteNneka
True
ReplyDeleteGarbage in garbage out...What you sow you reap that's just that. Thanks Stelz for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteOK they have heard.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm! What a complicated school. Every woman wld feel 'yay! At last,am married' but it gets scary with time in MOST marriages
ReplyDeleteAll the frustrated wives on this blog calling us gwegs meanwhile they rushed to get married and still do runs, fuck you all , who do u think u r fooling? Why rush in? Fake women
ReplyDeleteYea, FUCK THEM ALL...
DeleteHahahahahahahahahahaha
Be consoling urself madam Gwegs, Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha! Abegi let me go and sleep on my sweet hubby's laps, eyah.... Get rid of the bitterness and God will do it for you ok?
DeleteLmao
DeleteEasy na
Why so vexed?
Anon 3:25, take am easy, suffering n smiling, na me force u enter marriage. Living in bondage.
DeleteLol @ anon 15.25..
DeleteUp anuty Gwegs, hehehe. . .
DeleteSee them gwegz!,,.
DeleteHahahahahaha....marry nau if it's easy..
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ReplyDeleteDH?
DeleteNne, when you marry?
There is a universal formula hunay, in fact you just typed one.
DeleteYes ooo, Abeg tell them, my marriage go sweet well well, cos I can not settle for chronicles
DeleteAnonymous, dey dull yourself with stupid question. Should I carry sign post on my head to advertise the status? Hell no! I love my singlehood.
DeleteOya married folks...confirm or deny asap!
ReplyDeleteDivorced, separated & widowed BVs...share ya testimonies & eye witness reports too. Make we also assess our options biko!
*Ghanaman signing out*
I left an evil man and since that day God has blessed me beyond belief. If I listened to wicked women who told me to stay and pray for him while he did his evil, I would be dead. My life has turned around and God has given me a second chance. That is my testimony. Anybody who feels otherwise can sit there and feel. If I listened to the judges who God did not appoint over my life I for don die since.
DeleteHonestly what I have noticed in this life is that whatever u r experiencing,somebody somewhere is also going through or has gone through. For a moment I thought I typed this myself.... some men are desperately wicked! Tufia!
DeleteBvs who are unmarried oya come give ur nonsense two cents as usual.
ReplyDeleteTGW, bring your lie lie gist here. Irene B, oya follow.
Hahahahaha. Ịbụ nnọ monkey.
Deletemy frends mom is stopping her marriage Bcos of tribe even wen she n d guy has a kid togeda, what shud she do?
ReplyDeleteYou mean - what should you do? Lol
DeleteThat's why we should know ourselves, love ourselves (low self esteem & settling for any goat called a man should not be an option) . If you don't know and love yourself, there is nothing in you to give your spouse.
ReplyDeleteI'll think of other things later.
There is more happiness in giving
ReplyDeleteWord,preach it
ReplyDeleteI disagree. Its not always what you put in. At times you don't put in anything at all and you'll just be bringing out goodies. It depends on your partner.
ReplyDeleteYup!!
DeleteDearie, I disagree with you. You MUST have put in something at one point.
DeleteRephrase it dear...
DeleteYou put in without knowing it.
Yea....for Marriage to work.any relationship at that,One MUST put in something
Romance novels and movies has given the illusion of what marriage should be.
ReplyDeleteWell read, understood and will be put into practice be4 Mr life partner shows off.
ReplyDeleteTwo heads are better than one. So we both had to put our all into it. It is working for me
ReplyDeleteMarriage is beautiful,a revered institution that adds flavour and spice to our existence. We all know this but it's high time we let it flow naturally...the continuous discussions and reminders serve its purpose but can be easily mis-conceived in our society as a piston which pressurizes adults. Presently, quite a number of individuals are getting married for the wrong reasons(majorly age), hopping in and out of marriages like it's a merry-go-round in an amusement park. We see pple with little or non existent respect for their significant other and total disregard for their emotions.
ReplyDeleteWhat i'm saying ?? Let's learn to love one another, it doesn't just pop up at marriage, Love remains a feeling of acceptance in a system, the only difference is in the intensity, a property controlled and variated by our senses...if we can look beyond our differences and swathe ourselves in love as a people, then it's a lot easier to increase it's potency in marriage.
The occurances in a society stems from an integration of the mindset of individuals present and truly speaking, this institution is being heavily mocked(Domestic Violence, cheating: sidechicks, Sugarlove; daddy, mummy etc).
In conclusion, Love one another, respect the next individual, stay smart and get married for the right reasons. Everyone has a soulmate, search wisely and when found, do all you can to adore and keep that Union.
Li-yon Vls.
Why all this okpokpo grammar?? Odikwa egwu o
DeleteMy baby! Where did you wander off to?
DeleteMy one and only boo.
Nwa Amaka love Li-yon Vls.
DeleteAww....shout out @ PL the great, you's a darling and respect 2U Nwa Amaka.
DeleteLi-yon Vls.
We can preach marriage views till whenever, no two marriages are the same. What is working for you might not work for me as individuals involved are different. Men and women are seeing shit all in the name of marriage. Its not onesided anymore women are giving as much as they are recieving these days. A man who cheats n beats you might also be good at buying you apology gifts and a man who listens to you and respects your views might not be so good at buying you gifts and presents. Its a rare thing to find a man who is good combination of what you want and also treats you right too. Ladies when you do find such a man never fail to treat him right cos dem no plenty( Vice versa)
ReplyDeleteNne u know it!dey r very rare!and u know one thing?sometimes God allows us to be with the wrong ppl so as to better appreciate the one meant for u wen he comes along...ain't nothing like a good man,a man God made specially for u,pure JOY I tell u
DeleteBut are you the Anonymous, Stella? I thought you're really gonna teach ur BVs some ish about marriage.
ReplyDeleteHey peeps!! Echi di ime!!
Very very true.
ReplyDeleteam not married but I agree with you.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is still beautiful
ReplyDeleteYes ooo, I will enjoy my marriage to the fullest, by God's grace.
DeleteThey said marriage is not an achievement naa...why u dey bombard us with marriage tips? Hahahahahahahaa
ReplyDeleteNope.
ReplyDeleteSome people put in great things and still with draw trash. Bottom line, if it's not working, it's not working.
Don't spend the precious years God has given you trying to make broken people whole.
They need you broken with them to validate their own existence.
Your choice.
How did you end up with a marriage that isn't working? What were you looking out for during courtship? Money abi?
DeleteIdiot @17:06 some of you didn't graduate from kindergarten. Go and find someone to read and explain what I wrote in pidgin English.
DeleteSome of you make imbeciles look look intelligent.
Did I say I was married? Buffoon. Mtsheww
If you had this mindset when you wanted to marry,you wouldn't even venture into the journey called marriage, so, what went wrong?What went wrong is why there is this post Sometimes our men is the evil ones before normally if there are problems in the marriage, it's the men's fault whereas reverse is the case.With post like this, we can retrace our steps(both male and female)and make our marriages work the way we want it, we can do it especially for our children.
DeleteAnon,i respect u abeg.u are the only one here making sense.kudos.be careful when you try to fix the broken peices of a person's llife you may end up cutting urself.
DeleteEnd time couch
ReplyDeleteTrue
ReplyDeleteMarriage is not a bed full of roses!
ReplyDeleteMy dear it is ooo. When u wait for the right person
DeleteKeep dreaming.
DeleteIs life itself a bed of roses?
Then why should marriage be?
You all enter with your fairy tale fantasies by the time dem stone you with eba, once, twice, you go wake up neat.
Buahahahahahahaaaaaaa
By why do Nigerian men smell? Hygiene so poor.... Tueh
Mscheeeeeeeeew!
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteHehehehehehehe
DeleteI know say this post go pain you as e dey vex me.
I believe that marriage is a beautiful thing. If u can wait for the right person. Not after rushing into marriage with the wrong person, n tomorrow u come here to write chronicles about ur marriage. Mscheeeeew
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder aunty Stells and for nice contribution.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm! So they could actually take people's picture from social media to juju house? This is troubling.
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahaha@this is troubling.
DeleteStella is not the anonymous but she and the anonymous planned the post. Kikikikikiki. #runsaway#
ReplyDeleteMarry a person who does not believe a woman makes the home. He is responsible for the marriage, just as you are. Any man who is lazy enough to say such will make your life hell. Look to God for a good man and do not rush. Love and respect the man and make sure he loves and respects you. If both of you are not friends. Become friends, if not you will be roommates who breed children. Children do not benefit from a bad home...EVER. Marry a good person for their sake. NO Child who grew up in a troubled home ever said thank you mummy for staying with our horrible father.
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DeleteOne of the reasons why marriages fail, is the Bush mentality of 'the success of the marriage depends on the woman'
Is the marriage made up of one person?
If he is not properly fulfilling his role how can the partnership work?
That is why you enter a slavery/master relationship with men who are all to happy to leave the responsibility of shouldering the marriage in your hands while they gallant from North to West and create bastards from every tribe.
Abeg enough with that rubbish.
If you're not willing to make a marriage work as a man, then fuck outta here. Go look for as slave.
God bless you. This right here is the truth!
DeleteWhen you marry your soulmate you will know marriage is a beautiful thing
ReplyDeleteDear married women, u all forgot to advice we the singles not to treat our boyfriends like husbands...if not, we will be taken for granted.
ReplyDeleteTo build that great and almost perfect marriage, we need to find that man or woman in Christ.
ReplyDelete"A woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her."
Maya Angelou
It seems it's only the ladies and the women that are commenting. where are the guys/men?. Well, God help the men. We're not insensitive dominative tyrants, we also wish and pray for our marriages to work.
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It seems it's only the ladies and the women that are commenting. where are the guys/men?. Well, God help the men. We're not insensitive dominative tyrants, we also wish and pray for our marriages to work.
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Marriage, marriage, marriage.Marriage is sweet,blissful and all that,but we all know nothing good comes easy..Like I would always say,most failed marriages today fail cos of the women and yes am a woman.Keeping the home together is our responsibility (not our sole responsibility tho cos it takes two to tango).Why nag and age or even kill yourself before your time'SUBMISSION IS LEARNING TO DUCK SO GOD CAN HIT YOU MAN'.why not take it to God in prayers,visit the 'WAR ROOM'.Our husbands are not the enemies, let's start fighting the real enemies and make things less complicated for ourselves.No man is above God's intervention. I'll also like to recommend these three movies for the ladies,COURAGEOUS,WAR ROOM &FIRE PROOF. Thank me later *bissous*
ReplyDeleteMore than half of u bitches r sayin yes oo marriage z beautiful... "My marriage wil b beautiful by God's grace".... Thanx anon 4 d tips. I'l mk my marriage work wen i meet a gud man" n all dat. C hw all of u r clamouring to b married, ltr nw u wud open ur uncouth mouth to say marriage z nt an achievmnt. If it wasnt to u den y r dia no negetive comments on dis post??? I hate hypocrites
ReplyDeleteYeah I know marriage is all about patience! But how do u handle this? My hubby doesn't communicate or relate with my family. Its so painful... .but I have refused to be like him.I make sure I call his parents often.I relate well with his entire family. But he has refused to do same with me.how do I handle this?
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