The Songstress revealed recently in an interview that most people jump into marriage these days without really knowing what the union entails.
“Marriage is not an achievement but a commitment, and should be shared equally between both parties in love. 50/50 doesn’t mean men should start wearing make-up. It means men should treat women with respect.” .
Waje also said in a response to a question on if she would like to give acting a trial, that she has done some stage plays but cannot predict if she would take on acting in the future.
“I’ve done a few stage plays, Nollywood? Let’s see how it goes.”she noted.
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Nor be lie, but...
ReplyDeleteWhen you're so arrogant how will you marry. Gwegs of life. Aunty ode
DeleteEven though it's not an achievement, many women who talk like this say it because no one wants to be with them so they say it to console themselves.
DeleteLet's hear word please.
Exactly!
DeleteGod bless u @mosi
DeleteUntrue. I'm recently engaged and agree with her
DeletePreach on preacher
ReplyDeleteEnd time gwegz
ReplyDeleteLool
DeleteHehehehehe!
DeleteWord of encouragement
DeleteSo True. So many women are put under pressure to get married when they get to a certain age. It's very sad. Even when you don't feel same way, your friends keep talking about marriage so you also end up feeling pressured and end up talking about marriage all the time like them without even realising. It's best to take your time. Don't Rush love. Or marriage
ReplyDeleteThat is what old cargos say to console themselves,deep within them they are secretly dying for one husband,hustling and tuning up and down for it .
DeleteU are so on point... She is right.
DeleteAfter marriage then what for some women???
DeleteSo tru my love xxxx. The pressure is too much.
DeleteAnon honestly I agree with you.
DeleteFine, don't be under pressure of any sort.
After marriage, kids and you continue with your career or do what makes you happy. The Joy kids bring, nothing can explain.
Why do you think your lifr ends after marriage @carmella?? Because you said after marriage then what for some women??
DeleteAs a single lady, after that then what??
It's all the same thing
Whatever your dreams and aspirations can be achieved while been single or married
Anon 18.12. You are on point
DeleteIt isnt. Married women without lives will start yapping but it's true. The only achievement is a healthy marriage. Half of these women dont have anything going for them but the Mrs title. These men make you feel cool but they run around chasing that driven lady.
ReplyDeleteHalf of these women??
DeleteReally?? That's your figure?? How did you come about that figure or percentage please??
Because 10 people out 70 million people that are married sent in chronicles??
Or because out of the 2 million married people that visit the blog, 50 people sent chronicle??
Or you also calculated based on the population of Nigeria which totaled at 170 million
I just want to know what you used in getting half
So true!
DeleteLol...Of course it's not an achievement but we all want to get married don't we?
ReplyDeletePreach sister!
DeleteNot all sister.
DeleteLol true
DeleteEven waje wants to get married
DeleteMy dear it's every woman's dream!! They form it's not an achievement, but cry at night praying 4 hubby 2 come!!!
DeleteExactly,when then no see husband them go begin rant.
DeleteYes o, it's not an achievement but we want to get married my dear
DeleteWe sure do!!
DeleteSassy fire, Abi, that's the truth jor.
DeleteAna emenu ooo my dear....
DeleteEveryone seems to have something to say about marriage!!!
ReplyDeletethat's true.
ReplyDeleteBefore they start talking. It isnt an achievement. It is something you keep working on, not your typical Nigerian marriage. Have you noticed it is only Nigerian women who act like it is an achievement and yet they are usually unhappily married. Your miserable, always crying , verbally or physically abused, always cheated on marriage isn't an achievement. A healthy committed couple who work together and have mutual love and respect for each other....now that's an achievement.
ReplyDeleteCouples abroad have problems too not just Nigeria
DeleteDo you know the divorce rate abroad?? You can't even compare it to that of Nigeria
Have you not heard of abusive husband's abroad??
All this happens every where not just Nigeria
Marriage is sweet when with the right partner. It doesn't mean everyday would be sweet. Some days are as annoying as fuck, but you dust your self and move into the next day hoping for the better..
Let me ask you a question and I'm presuming you aren't married
You and your boyfriend have never had issues??
You haven't had any cause to not talk for some days??
Or angry at him for whatever reason or him angry at you??
Aren't there days you are like why am I even with this my boyfriend since he makes me angry??
And then don't you gave Alot of days where you claim he is the best in the world??
How then do you want marriage to be different?? This is the same thing. You must argue, quarrel, fight and make up. Even singling fight and insult each other talk more of 2 people who barely know so much about their selves
How long do you think is enough to get to know oneself?? There isn't an appropriate time
Even twins who come from the same womb fight and insult each other.. You would think they know their selves better since they shared the womb together but no, they still fight everyday..
Why then do you people think marriage would be different
The reason most homes break today is beaches women go in with imaginary expectations or what they see in make believe movies
Chop knuckle Anon. You are so right.
Delete18:22, okay come chop plenty knuckles of jare! What you wrote is dabomb!
DeleteEvery new phase in our lives is an achievement!
Yes Oh Waje, Correct Geh
ReplyDeleteIt's not an achievement, but is necessary jare!!
ReplyDeleteI love her but everyones priority is different...I looking forward to having a beautiful family and not a baby mama...anybody that comes frm a beautiful family will love to have a beautiful family as well but pple frm broken homes tend to be used to not being a family person...they are anywhere d breeze blows dem, nobody really cares abt deir wellbeing and they just tend to live life ruggedly!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are very stupid for this comment,very insensitive, so people from a broken home don't wish for a stable marriage? You are a fool, it is even people from broken home that will do all they can to give their children a home because they knw what it feels like to be from a broken home
DeleteThat is so unfair to see people from broken home don't want a good family....
DeletePlease put butter scotch down.
DeleteWhat he/she means is that if you come from a happy home you would be looking forward to marriage, as against someone who didn't or doesn't. Note: happy home, not broken home. And it's most likely the case. Although, it's not cast in stone.
However, single mothers are usually very chilled on the whole marriage ish. Successful single mothers I mean, cos they have their kids as consolation.
True....
ReplyDeleteEver wonder why men(who benefit more from marriage) do not see it as an achievement, yet it is women who carry it on their heads and lose themselves in it? We didn't teach our girls that their end goal in life is not to become a Mrs. We also didn't teach them that a happy marriage is the goal and not an anyhow marriage. Watch the women who will insult her. The single girls would be the ones who have nothing going for them, the married ones are typically the ones whose husbands don't even sleep at home or use them as punching bags.
ReplyDeleteYes i bliv d rsn y men dnt carry it on dia head z bcos it z d women dat go thru menopause. Sm men even @ 80 can father kids bt d women nko? B4 u kno it she cnt hav kids. N dat z d beauty of lyf to leave sm1 behind, sm1 dat u can look in dia eyes n c a beautiful reflection of urslf. Nw dats d achievmnt.
DeleteWell, it's the ones who let such things get to them. I'm such a happy single girl that even my married friends don't believe how happy I am. And also single girls should get busy. Career, business, charity.... anything. It keeps the mind off all those depressing thoughts. Plus, with technology these days menopause isn't really an issue. It's money thats the challenge. Cos with money you can freeze your eggs until you're ready or you find Mr. Right.
DeleteThis single girl marriage talk is over flogged to Me biko. Everyone can live their lives happily single or married. Each to his own. This is 2016.
Anon 17.24 your beautiful point was lost in your terrible delivery...who da fuck wants to read shorthand gibberish?
DeleteYes it's not but I still want to be called a wife someday.
ReplyDeleteWho wants to wife an idiot loud mouth like you? Yes am talking to you chi exotic Abi na chivita
DeleteIf I have a way to marry my gf, marry will be my greatest investment. Deal with it Waje
ReplyDeleteLolz
DeleteGo to South Africa or any state in the USA..
DeleteYou would be married legally
Ofcourse marriage ain't an achievement.
ReplyDeleteAnother gwegws in da building..
DeleteTrue
ReplyDeleteI pity u*cos u didn't get it right doesn't make marriage a bad institution.
ReplyDeleteConsult professionals pls*
ROBOCOP
I pity u*cos u didn't get it right doesn't make marriage a bad institution.
ReplyDeleteConsult professionals pls*
ROBOCOP
It's not o!
ReplyDeleteBut will all must someday
It is not an achievement just 'over rated' around this place. So many stories that touches the heart from most homes. May God help Nigeria marriages
ReplyDeleteHmmmm we don hear...by the way stella, when is the next SnM
ReplyDeleteIt is not an achievement. It is over- rated. Eyes are opened nd not everyone is interested in that institution.
ReplyDeleteWho no get money naim de say beer bitter
ReplyDeleteSo true... marriage is not an achievement.. d way people put pressure for lady to get married ehnnn.. so annoying..
ReplyDeleteAm 34yrs old I don't even have a boyfriend talkless of a fiance am o scare if I may not get married
ReplyDeleteGbam!!
ReplyDeletemarriage is not an achievement I agree with you. 80% of married people wish they can leave the marriage. If only men would treat their wives with love and respect instead of acting 'boss man' then we would have less divorce.
ReplyDeleteYou must be joking with that your statistic..
Delete80% wish to leave?? Lmao
If I hear that 80% wish to leave their homes..
80% like how. Please don't throw statistics around carelessly. I love my marriage and I don't want to get out of it abeg. Same applies to all my sisters. God favoured us with exceptional men.
DeleteAnon 00:30 GBAM
DeleteConsolation. Mtchewww, if u like no marry.
ReplyDeleteOn point
ReplyDeletePesin wey no get money for suya talk say oil dey am too much! If you don't have toasters, shut the freak up and let other people seek out their heart desires. And oh...word of advice, you won't make in Nollywood with your MANLY features, stick to your shouting/singing. My $0.02
ReplyDeleteLmao @ shouting singing
DeleteAiyah nao...
DeleteLMAO D suya analogy cracked me up
DeleteWell I'm married with kids and for me that's a wonderful achievement. Infact I need a trophy for being a super mom. It ain't easy and i'm proud of it!
ReplyDeleteLol...you sure do
DeleteGod bless you dear
DeleteI dnt kno u, bt m so proud of u, u kno y? Coz dats d greatest achievmwnt u can eva hav. Nobody can eva reward u or praise u enof 4 dis. Career ends, money diminishes, bt dis, No it goes on 4eva.
DeleteMarriage was ordained by God. So it is so a huge achievement if u marry. Women who are happily married will agree with me on this. People who are abused or experience a bad marriage have so much negative things to talk about marriage. Dear waje, Marriage is a commitment that has been achieved.
ReplyDeleteHmmn!a good Marriage is an achievement now because it is easier to get first class degree than a good marriage.
DeleteExactly...
DeleteBecause 2% of the millions of married people brought in chronicles to portray how bad their marriage is doesn't mean marriage is bad..
I'm happily married
A proud wife and mother
And I won't give it up for anything
I have days where we quarrel, argue but those days can't be compared to the days where we are all jollying
I love my home so much
Love my hubby
And don't even imagine me without my husband or home
Na, can't imagine life without my hubby
I'm a proud wife, mother and ceo
I agree with her . The way some women carry marriage on their head eh. Once ran into an old acquaintance at a wedding. She came to our table to say hi. She then introduced herself to my friends like this; My name is Mabel and I'm married. The shock make me forget how to close my mouth lol.
ReplyDeleteTo me its an achievement infact a greatest one. Having a healthy, peaceful, loving marriage where couples work hard in hand to make their lives and children happy and fulfilled. Its a great achievement.
ReplyDeleteBut i advice ladies to fulfil their dreams before going into marriage. Like dont enter into it empty handed. If you have nothing to offer. Marry the man who loves u more and respect u. Dnt marry because of pressure from. Family, frnds nd the rest
Its a great achievement jare and am enjoying it and at the same time working towards my dreams with his full support. If u marry the right person meant for u, learn to tolerate, endure, apologise when neccesary, when to keep quiet nd when to voice out ur anger, mehn there wont be any reason why u wont enjoy it. Infact i need to announce it at wazobia fm that its a great achievement. Awww or is it my wonderful kids choi....
ReplyDeletePeople should learn to speak positively...
Aunty gwegs that'll be crying silently in her room at night praying to God 2 bring even if na aki her way.. mtcheeeeew
ReplyDeleteAsswipe
DeleteSo many Nigerians have very low IQ. Read and understand before commenting. She didn't say marriage is bad.She said it's not an achievement (as in status symbol) but a commitment, something you take seriously. In other words it is not for show.
ReplyDeleteAnd seriously Nigerian women are the ones who see it as achievement. I rarely see a Nigerian man putting up pictures of his 'happy marriage' or making mockery of unmarried girls. It is women who pretend to be the happiest, it is still women who mock their friends. Being their own enemies since 1960.
Gbam to this comment! If it was such an achievement ,y r d men not flaunting it about?
DeleteThank you cookie...eish I can't deal mehn...lol..mosi Jubelo shit going on on this entire thread
DeleteThe truth is there r many good Marriages, pple enjoying their marriage dont even show it off, for fear of it getting jinxed or frenemies ruining it for them. When u have a good Man n kids, career dey there forget it, it is amazing. Instead of worrying whether its an achievement or not, why not pray for it, use pple as a point of contact, that God should provide u a good companion n family.
ReplyDeleteI am never to arrogant to ask for what i truly want, and use pple as a POC, rather than envy, belittle or feign ondifference i pray for something like their sor even better
Smh for Nigerian women! Mehn! We really have a long way to go! For somebody to open their mouth and say marriage and kids is an achievement? I cringe. So in your small minds, you think every single lady wants marriage? You guys are really ignorant. Or is it the Nigerian atmosphere that is making you people's brain small? Okay, I'm 35, I have been with my current partner since I was 21. He is 49. We were both born and raised in Nigeria before we both moved and met here. Now, we both haver never, ever, ever thought of getting married or having kids. I earn 123 thousand dollars while he 206. So it is not a problem of money. I have my apartment, he has his. Although I'm at his place most of the time, I still pay my mortgage and utilities.
ReplyDeleteSo you guys think that a lady is single because there are no men who want her? Oh my God! As long as the Lord lives men would always want women no matter what! You think all singles ladies soak their pillows at night? I laugh at you guys. Go to divorce courts and see the millions of women itching to be single again. As for kids one doesn't need to be married to have them and if everybody experienced the so called "joy" of parenthood or motherhood, then adoption agencies would be out of business because nobody would give up their kid(s), foster parenthood wouldn't be a thing and orphanages would exist. So my dear women, not everybody likes or wants children or to experience whatever joy it brings. some people are genuinely satisfied being single and childless.
My advise for Nigerian women is to open your minds, allow exposure and take it easy with the marriage and kids issue. A woman is more than Mrs. and her ovaries. Be someone, strive for something that impacts humanity as a whole. Live, love and laugh. Life is not as hard as you guys make it. Build beautiful relationships and enjoy yourselves. No matter the amount of children you have or how perfect your marriage is, from dust you came, from dust we shall all go. Paul had no child and till today, he is the most talked about disciple, mother Theresa was was not married or a mother and today she lives in the hearts of people. Marriage and kids are great for some and mean nothing to others. Just because when you got married you were desperate doesn't mean everybody has your story.
See your stinking boastfu lyingl mouth. ...strive for something that impacts humanity. ..and what have you impacted since your mama born you 35 years ago? Keep lying to your self okay?
DeleteAgadi gwa onwe gi eziokwu!
DeleteAnd must you type an epistle to make a simple point? Aunty gwegwe
DeleteThe most OPEN minded comment I have come across! A zillion likes
DeleteAunty Ode,please note that not everybody got married out of frustration.Yes some did and a whole lot of people got married cos the beautiful relationship they had evolved and culminated in marriage.If you like,continue living with your old man friend and be feeling funky.It's your choice and business o,Aunty Gwegs.I am sure Postinor is already like buttermint sweet in your mouth now.Continue comparing yourself Upandan with Pope John Paul.Very soon you will call yourself Jesus.
DeleteWhen your partner who you have been with since you were 21 comes back home and tell you he fathered 2 kids outside and he is ready to settle down with the mother of the kids, please don't come here with your chronicles..
DeleteMove on to another partner without wetting your bed.
Those whose men have refused to marry them or string them along would be looking for reasons to give saying they are happy
You aren't happy
You want to be married but haven't seen who wants to marry you
Keep this your face as story
And no I'm not married
Yes I work and earn money monthly
And yes I want to marry soon
As soon as it is because marriage is a union ordained by God..
And I want to enjoy it with that beautiful soul who he has detained for me
Ever wondered why a lot of people are divorce and still want to remarry??
How many people have you seen divorced that don't wish to remarry??
Mosi Jubelo. ..this response right here should be food for thought. ...Goodnight
DeleteI love you!!!
DeleteHi anonymous 19:14. My name is Ann I like the way u think. Whr do u reside in the US?. Would like to know u. I live in Ohio
DeleteLol. Ms USA you aren't true to yourself. You are living in bondage. And as for you ms Ohio don't let comments like hers becloud your sense of reasoning. Marriage is good. Having kids are the sweetest. Put God first,pray and leave the rest in God's hands. No perfect marriage. God bless our homes.
DeleteIf marriage can't be counted as an achievement then I wonder what will be. just like a career, you see what you like doing and is passionate about, you work on it, make it a success and brings money and fame to you and you continue working on it. So is marriage, you see what you love, work on it, make it a success and it bring forth beautiful children for you and you also keep working on it. It's because of this mentality that we have broken homes everywhere .Just because it didn't work for Ms A, it's doesn't make it impossible for Ms B. My marriage which has gifted us with 4 beautiful children is a great achievement for me.
ReplyDelete... and before you say anything I and my husband have nurtured and developed chains of businesses and some of them are in our separate names because we both understand that been financial independent aids a happy home. Stella ke kwanu ? Trolls over to you.
Hmmmmm na wa. It is well
ReplyDeleteBut madam,you're having sex and you're not married.that's a sin you knw.
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...women who rant like this are those who either have never been married(but secretly praying & fasting for a hubby)OR those who have had a failed marriage and form the "I don't need a man crap" whereas they are being bedded by different social strata of men(just to "warm engine").My dear don't fool yourself... Family is everything! Ask your parents!...As if you fell from the sky...#makewehearwordjor!
ReplyDeleteWhat a stupid, misguided, arrogant and myopic comment. You earn a million dollars between you and your partner, your age suggests that you are nearly menopausal and your 49year old deluded partner is happy with your arrangement?
ReplyDeleteI can assure you, and this is evidence based: every woman that makes a choice not to have children always have profound regrets in later years. I'm not telling to marry your equally deluded partner, but you might want to give some thought to having a child or two, before your ovaries dry up.
Just so you know, lots of Nigerian women are exposed, and have it all. Many prominent Nigerian women are married with kids, extremely educated and their bank balances will make you regret ever typing those inconsequential numbers in your comment.
You think your six figure salary equates to success? Very short sighted and small minded outlook.
Abeg love is a beautiful thing pls, let nobody tell me otherwise. when u r married to a partner that loves n respect s u then ur marriage is made in heaven
ReplyDeleteIndeed, if marriage is an achievement why don't men flaunt it about. Why don't they carry it on their heads and kill themselves because marriage.
ReplyDeleteSome of you guys can be simply dim witted. Marriage is an achievement for those who desire it. Beyond the so called achievement, it should be a commitment. Stop being myopic. Some people do NOT desire to get married. They may be few but they do exist. For such people, marriage cannot be an achievement because it is not part of their agenda. Very simple to comprehend.
ReplyDeleteIf she had married would she be makin such statement?
ReplyDeleteYou need Jesus Waje
Words of #CONSOLATION"
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