Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

THE DISAPORAN LOVER AND THE TRICKS

I Am writing this chronicle on behalf of my elder Sis and it is quite long, bear with me, please i would need the help of my fellow BVs on this issue and also your red pen Stella. Thank you so much for this platform.  Sorry for the typos if you find any. 

Sometime in 2014 my elder Sis was introduced to a guy in UK, the so called guy is 38 and my Sis is 33.They got talking and got to like each other so much to the point that there was already plans for introduction between the two.

The guy speaks to every member of my family and we took to liking him as time went on. We never got to speak with his family because he said his Mum was late and his father remarried, and he wasn't in good terms with his step mother but he has a younger sister whom he was very close to. And always promised to introduce them which he never did. 

Suspicions started when his phones screen got broken and he sent the pix of his phone and my sis sighted the picture of a boy not more than 7-8 months on the screen but because the screen was bad she couldn't view the picture clearly, she asked whose baby it was and he said it was a cousins baby. 

There was a time he called my sister with a different number and when my sister called him with the same number, a lady picked the call and asked her who she wants to speak with in a rude manner.
My sister then told her that the same number had called her earlier and she told my sis that she called the number and was asking again who this was, she later cut the call angrily and told my sister not to call the number again. 

The so called number was a Nigeria number, although she said he sometimes call her with her own number with the UK code attached to it and said it was advanced technology. My sister added the number on WhatsApp and discovered from the profile picture that it was a lady that carried the same baby she saw on his broken phone screen. There was also a time he sent my sister some ladies pix and said his cousins were doing their NYSC pop and my sis discovered it was the same pix of the lady on whatsapp with the baby. 

My sister told me about it and i told her not to jump to conclusions and it the lady might be a cousin who knows after all she also uses her niece and nephews as Dps and screen savers.
However the main problem started when he refused sending his pictures to her, he would send a group unclear pix of him and his friends with him in a far position. His Facebook pix consists of other people's pictures and motivational pictures, some of his pictures are on form of black and white and edited to the point that you can't figure out who actually is in the picture .

 My Sister doesn't know how this guy really looks like till today. That didn't really bother my Sister as the lady that introduced them both said he was not too handsome but ok for a man. That was not even the main issue, the main issue was when he travelled down to Nigeria to meet my sister and our family for the introduction. They spoke on the phone up till the time he landed because he had to make two landings, he called when he got to London and called again when he landed in Nigeria. 

He said he would be staying at his younger Sis place in Ibadan from there he would be coming to Lagos to meet my sis. On getting to Nigeria he went suddenly incommunicado. All efforts to reach him was not successful, even the friend that introduced them tried all she could but her effort was also futile. 

My sister cried, got depressed to the extent that it affected her performance at work because even some of her colleagues do speak with him when he calls. Eventually she accepted her fate and moved on.
Then on the 1st of January, the guy called my sister to wish her a happy new year and ask her how she was doing, My sister was initially shocked when she heard it was him, she refused to pick his calls subsequently. There was no apology, no excuses, he has been trying to get my sisters attention after all what he has put her through and i think my sister is thinking of giving him a second chance. 

Please i need people's opinion on this issue, should she accept him back or forget about him. We as a family already told her to forget about the guy, please i need different opinions from you guys.
Thanks.

Chei na local format this guy use for your sister oooooh.Tell your sis that same thing will keep happening.Dude is married.Tell your sister not to try letting him back into her life.I know some whose life never got back to noral after stunts like this from a diasporan based Nigerian man..HEEDIOT!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

CHOOSING THE RIGHT ONE

Hi Stella,

Bvn members,please help me out.I am confused.

I have a friend that I went to secondary school with 20 years ago.we were SU members so we became friendly.we lost contact and reconnected 8yrs ago.He is 38 while am 36 and am single mum.He is single with no child.

I was in a relationship that packed up around the time we reconnected.He was there for me,praying and encouraging me.let me call him MR A.I went into another relationship with someone else that almost lead to the altar.He was there for me when it packed up (but he refused to cover the wedding when I was planning even though we were going to pay him.although he is a graduate,he is into photography and video coverage)

Recently he started calling me love,darling etc. He calls to say he misses me and now he said that I should come to Lagos that he wants to discuss something with me.

I know he wants to propose.

 He has been hinting for sometime now.Although he is born again,my problem is that he is content with that small level photography.he lacks ambition and he is also very shy.

 So come mid 2015,a mutual friend introduces me to a rich guy who recently got divorced. A Christian too with 4 kids.He is 42 years old.He wants to marry kiakiakia.

let me call him Mr B.he is handsome and not shy to talk about anything.we have bonded in these few months more than I have bonded with Mr A in 8 yrs.

 I am not a greedy person.but I have suffered in life,suffered to care for my kid and basically struggling to make ends meet since I lost my job.i am now into business and doing everything to get a better job asap.

Mr B can care for me,my child and Dependants but am scared of 4 kids! Although I don't love him,I am comfortable with him.

we have not been intimate.

  I want to marry.I have become aunty gwegs...lol.HELP.Stella wey your red pen.

He wants to propose and wants you to come to Lagos?ARRANT NONSENSE!

Do not get yourself entangled in a broke ass life,it will kill whatever feelings you claim to have for each other now.

The choice is yours oh,you know what you want but after gallivanting from one relationship to another i would advise you to settle with a man who CAN TAKE CARE OF YOUR FINANCIAL NEEDS until you can find your feet.poverty is a bitch and i do not preach anyone falls into it.....

Leave love for kids and use common sense before a gwegs certificate is issued you....LOL