Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.

Naaaaah,I cannot deal abeg!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

AFRAID

Hello 
Please I need your advice cos am gradually losing my mind, am trying to move on but finding it difficult.  This is someone that begged me for years to be with him which I later agreed to. The relationship has been on and off but this time around we both promised to give in our best to make it work and sincerely speaking I truly fell in love with jim again but for the past one month, it has been one attitude problem or other and at times he hardly picks or returns my calls always claiming busy. I have never cheated on him and he is the only man I v ever known, although he accuses me most times cos he knows am a little pretty but my self esteem is going down, I havent caught him doing anything as we stay in different cities but I suspect something is fishy.

 Is not that am ugly or with bad attitude but I find it hard falling in love with anyone, chased all the men away cos of him and now he is treating me with less regard. I sent a text to him last night that I wont disturb him again which he hasn't even replied but my problem is that I cant concentrate in my office, cant even eat or do anything. Thought I was really tough in emotional issues, dont know why this is dealing with me. I have ranted enough, all I want is to be strong to move on or at least make him regard more. Note that am only 24 and afraid if I will still meet a decent and responsible man in this era of many relationship issues .Cuss me if you want but be rest assured your advice will go a long way.

Sweety isnt it better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you fell like you just described up there?WHY SETTLE FOR LESS WHEN YOU CAN HAVE IT BETTER?
My dear,if love only makes you cry and give you sleepless nights in a negative way,then its time to sit in front of a mirror and have a conversation with the man you stare at.
Very important thing to note - Learn to 
LOVE YOURSELF 

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

FINDING LOVE IN A HOPELESS PLACE

Dear Stella, I hope this mail meets you well. This is my 2nd mail, i read stories here and i see the comments and advice very helpful, please Stella, i need your all your pens on this one.I really do hope this is published. Please my story seem long, be patience with me.

I met a guy sometime in 2008, we dated and later he asked to marry me, I refused because we were always having issues. 3 years later, he told me he wanted settling down and that he had 3 peeps in mind, lemme me use A,B and C. A was working, God fearing, wife material and with her, he would have peace, B, was too materialistic and selfish and I was C as I had already turned down his request. From his explanation he preferred A, but I noticed that there was no love and it was just because the lady stood by him when he had nothing... Well, a year later they got married..... 


We got acquainted kinda and that was it, after a while I noticed he would ask me some weird questions like,"if I left my wife today, would you marry me"? Most times I laughed before I could say jack they started having issues and before I knew it, he said he was no longer interested in the marriage, I tried talking to him, but it fell on deaf ears. He says he wants to marry me and deep within me, I tell my self, must I marry a man that was once married, we quarrel alot, when he gets angry, he says things that are unimaginable, which is one of those things that puts me off about him.

 He loves me but truth be told.... I dont, when I mean love its like 200/ 40, when I tell peeps about it, they tell me to forget it. He does everything in his own little way to assist me. Least I forget, I was dating at a point and even got engaged, but it didn't work out. 

Back to my story.... I decided to leave town to somewhere else and I met this guy, we attend the same church and we grew up together kinda in that same church, my family church actually, it all started like a joke but before I could hold back I fell in love.... I have not felt this way in a long while, love this guy like so much,but my problem is that I'm 4 years older than he is.One of those days when we sat with a friend of his and 2 other of my friends, as they talked, his friend asked him when he was gonna settle down and he said next 4 or5 years, for heaven's sake I'll be 32, 33 by then. 

How did I even get my self into this? 

He keeps on saying he loves me when I ask him somethings like if he'll leave me, but he says I'll be the one to leave him and get married to someone else. Omg.... I feel so good and happy when we're together, but I'm so scared, could go on and on in details but someone may see this and know cause I've recommended so many peeps to this blog, please help me. 

He's out of town now to go clear school stuff, while I'm also trying to get my statement from school due to some ish. Did I forget to add that I'm 28 and would be 29 this year? Stella, please help me.... I'm so confused

I am not going to comment on this Chronicle because i dont want the others to tow my line but give you sound advice...In your narrative you mentioned something up there that caught my fancy....anyway,let them advice you.All the best!


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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
CONFESSING YOUR BODYCOUNT

Good day Stella. Since I know your blog I can't stay without opening for a day.hide my ID. Please I need your red pen.

I met my BF last yr Nov he love me and I love him too. His God fearing nice caring  did I mention his thinker bell lol.. His always dreaming big and have a good plan for both of us. My fear is that he said I should tell him about my past relationships and that I should be honest with him and tell him how many guys that I have had sex with. 

I told him the truth and he feels very bad and angry about it. Hes still a virgin wishing he will meet a virgin ,he told me that once but he thank God for bringing me in his life although i am not perfect but am OK . I want to know if he will take advantage of it when we finally get married by reminding me of my past.

I dont get it!!..why do men always want to know a womans body count?If you love someone why dig into their trash can to discuss the dirt they have thrown away?....Bringing up what you told him when you both marry would depend on his mentality.
All the best disvirgining him on the wedding night and dont scream too much before he asks how many times you have screamed.