Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives.....

Narrative number two really upset me,if you are the poster,you really need to get your head and attitude fixed.....Msheeeeew!

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CHOOSING THE RIGHT SUITOR

Good morning Mrs Korkus and blog visitors.
I am a regular blog visitor, and I have learned alot from the comments section of the chronicles I have read so far. I would like to share my story and know what the blog visitors think about this.

Mrs Korkus, please keep me on Anonymous mode.
I am a young lady in my mid 20s who is blessed to have a whole lot of suitors, much more than you can imagine. But to keep my story short, I will go straight to how I have narrowed my option down to two young men.

Mr A. Is a very strong and hard working man, very humble, sincere, caring and God fearing. Mr A would give everything to make me happy. He has all the moral qualities I desire in a man but physically he doesn't match My Mr ideal.
Number one, he has this very strong mouth  odour which turns me off completely, he has no degree and or exposure, and no regular paying job although he is a contractor and that manages to pay off at least four times in a year but in the months in between his pay cheque, trust me, u don't want to imagine the "kori"

I have tried to work on his bad breath and it doesn't seem to be paying off, cos each time I make an attempt, I end up disappointed with the result.
I am a sulker for clean guys with a good dress sense but on a scale of 1 - 10,  I will rate Mr A. 3 for personal hygiene and appearance.

I have talked to him about starting a business to back up the contracts, he is in for it  but raising a capital is no joke especially with the state of our economy. 
Now, my biggest fear with Mr A is that his mouth odour may never go away, how do I spend the rest of my life with a man I can't even kiss?
I have an international degree, which my mom put everything to make sure I achieved. Now how do I explain to her that I have decided to settle for someone who has never seen the four walls of a university? 

Does it really matter in choosing a life patner?
Finally, how do I cope in a marriage without a regular source of income, with his numerous siblings to cater for?
...Please  advise me.

Mr B is a strong hard working and God fearing man, he is very clean as well although not so much of a dresser but on a scale of 1 - 10, I will rate Mr B. 5 for appearance and 8 for personal hygiene. He has no responsibility  (siblings to cater for, unlike Mr A)
He is doing well financially, in fact we met in the country where I studied.
Mr B, in my opinion is not a bad person but I sort of find him very opinionated and highly controlling.
He has so much pride that I sometimes wonder if I can handle him for a life time because,  I am equally opinionated with so much pride that I expect everyone to yield to my opinion... now my concern is, if I marry Mr B. How do we deal with our pride? I love to be the boss and he loves to be the boss, who will bow to the other???

I am comfortable around Mr B. Cos we started off as friends and can relate on a whole different level from Mr A.

I love Mr B. But the pride ish scares me a whole lot, we have been dating for 3yrs now and we are already gbenshing, he started talking marriage in December and he is serious about it.

I love Mr A. As a friend, infact from the first time we met, he told me that I will be his wife and he hasn't stopped proposing. My fear is his hygiene issues and how to deal with them for life. Please note that Mr A. And I are not dating or having sex, but we visit each other, hang out alot and share ideas.

My dear blog visitors, if you were in my shoes, which of these young men will you settle for???
Bear in mind that your opinion counts, as I am presently confused and about to run away. Help a sister

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

A REASON TO LEAVE.....

I met this girl through a relative and we had issues at the beginning. She had people she was seeing and I had people I was seeing but I had put a stop to it. 

We officially started dating in 2011 around May and by June, we had a falling out as a result of some random issues that I don’t even know. She felt that my brother did not like her – but in retrospect, he didn’t. 

We started having endless arguments -  she broke up with me and then we got back together and decided to give the whole thing a try. I found out that she had another guy, however I played mute (mind you we were both in different cities). She randomly called me and said we should give the relationship a try – she said there was no other guy but we both knew there was. All these while, we hadn’t even seen each other in person.

 I went to visit her in her city and we hooked up and decided that we were going to be together. We went to the court house shortly afterwards and she moved to my state. All this while, I didn’t give her a ring because my business was down. 

She didn’t have an issue with it but I did because I felt people were passing comments which sometimes makes me give her attitude. Although, she says hurtful things when she is upset also.

I’m a business man and as such, sometimes cash is slow. During these periods, she took care of all the bills and never asked me to pay anything; however, she doesn’t act like her money is our money and she feels like I always choose my brother’s side over her. One time, I was broke and needed money and she didn’t give me which made me feel like she won’t have my back if things get bad in the future. We got pregnant and I thought it was bad timing because my business wasn’t going smoothly so I wasn’t there for her as I should have been. 

Towards the end of her pregnancy in 2012, we had an argument in our apartment and she pushed me which I responded by slapping her. For whatever reason, I felt like it was her fault and we apologized to each other and moved on. I couldn’t understand why she couldn’t really get over it so sometimes when she has attitude over it, I give her attitude not thinking about the pregnancy hormones. Anyways, after our son was born, we were so happy and things were fine. 

However, things went sour about 9 months after when she wanted to give our son solids and I wanted her to give him milk and she won’t listen to me so I beat her that night. Since that night 3 years ago, things have not been the same. She wants to leave but I think marriage is for better for worse and no one should leave their marriage. 

Those of you who sent in Chronicles,please do not resend,i will post two a day untili run out and then i will say when the folder is empty...Thank you