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DIVORCE AT THE DOOR STEP

Hi, Stella and BVs, Happy New Year. I usually visit this blog like once or twice a week but don’t usually comment. Anyway, I’m still an active member because I read all posts I have missed anytime I come here.

 I need you all at this moment of my life. Due to the fact that I can be anonymous here, you are the only people I can open up to. I have a big little problem. I hope I get solutions here. I would be gladly reading the comments and Stella’s red ink.

My boss is 46 years and I’m 31. He is unmarried and has never been married while I have been married for 9 years. My husband is 35. My boss has been showing interest in me since I got hired but the problem is my marital status. I equally love him too and everybody in our office knows that our closeness is beyond platonic. But I don’t want to leave my husband because people would say I left him because of he has no money but the truth is that the love is not there again.

My husband is an extremely lazy man. He lost his job 6 years ago. That was 3 years into our marriage and he hasn’t looked for another job. All he does is complain and nag like a woman. He said he is too old to get a job. He spent all our savings on starting a business and the business failed woefully. He didn’t make any profit and couldn’t recover the capital.

During the job interview for my current job, my boss’ eyes were all over me. It was a four-man panel. After the interview, I was told I would be contacted if I’m qualified. I was contacted two days later and I was asked to resume work the next Monday. I resumed under an immediate boss that works under my boss.

My husband’s laziness has killed my love for him. I buy newspapers looking for job ads for him only for him to say he’s too frustrated to apply or he’s no longer in the age bracket for the advertised job. Sometimes, I even apply for him, write the application letter and send out the curriculum vitae, but he won’t still go for the interview. All he does is eat and sleep. He just quit smoking, drinking and gbenshing ashewos – a habit he picked up during his joblessness. 

He blames all his misfortunes on the government as if he is the only one in the country. He also blames his indiscipline and past philandering on frustrations. 

As much as I have decided to divorce him for good, I’m afraid of what people would say. We only have one child and I don’t want him to end up like his father. Imagine, he stays at home every day, yet, I still hired a housemaid to take care of my son and do the chores.

My biggest fear is what family and friends would say about me if I leave him. I know they would say it’s because he is poor and my boss is rich. How I wish my boss wasn’t that rich so people would know I just love him for being a hardworking man? My love for my husband has gone with the wind like a dry chaff.

Even with the dead love, I was still faithful to him until last December when my boss kissed and felt me up in his office (We didn’t have sex). I have never felt so good in my life. Since then, the divorce has been the only thing on my mind.

I have vowed never to have sex out of my marriage. In fact, I didn’t have sex until I got married. Although, I married very young, I have always learnt to control my urge in my husband’s absence. I don’t want to cheat on him. That’s why I want the divorce so badly.

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SDK is the only family I can open to without curses. I’m so afraid of what people would say about me. That’s why I’m here to hear your honest advice. I don’t know what to do.

If you are convinced that the love is gone and you can no longer stay then discuss it with your husband and let him know why you need to move on..Its so obvious you really want the new man.

Why should the opinion of other people matter to you?it is only the one who wears the shoes who knows where it pinches.

I just hope that you are not jumping from frying pan into fire.