Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative - Right Of Reply.

 

Yesterday's Chronicle ''IMPENDING SEPARATION FROM WIFEY AND WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS got a

 response from 

three different women who claim it was sent in by their husbands...

POSTER ONE 

Hi Stella of life,let me get straight to the point.M yhusband was the one

 who sent the chronicles.i went anonymous in the comment section but 

found the proper mail to send it to..here goes my story...

 Hubby is claiming self pity here chai.....

 I thank all Bvs that didn't jump to conclusion except they hear 

from the other 

party. 

Have also learnt not to judge people except I hear from both sides. 

This hubby 

claiming spirit koko for here. I am sure he must have searched Google 

to find out how a wife must be submissive and all. He is the controlling 

type

 that wants to be respected but not reciprocating the respect to me as 

well. 

He claims all this psychological trauma but my fellow Bvs all na wash. 

I am 

the victim here. Hubby is not trying at all. Look for job you are just 

sitting 

down one place for job to find you. I have been the one taking all 

responsibilities 

and I'm not complaining about that because we are help 

mates. What pains me the most is the little he has he will still chase girls 

up and down. He has cheated on me so many times and I can't take it 

anymore. He has emotionally abused me. 

This man can abuse for Africa eehnn like the Olumofin brothers.

 ( so you can feel my pain with such abusive man). I forgot to add all 

the grammar 

he will also add to it. Lol. He doesn't appreciate what I even get 

him you can imagine. He wasn't the one that called men of God . How 

will he even call when he is the one committing adultery. The pastors 

takes my side because we both table our predicament to them and they 

judge fairly. 

Now he is claiming victim here. 

He is trying to code himself by saying we have been married for 10 years and no children yet. 

Please fellow Bvs if you

 read his write up properly you'll see it doesn't add up. How can the marriage of 10 years just 

change like that? 

We just 5 years in our marriage and blessed with wonderful kids. I am the

 one taking all responsibilities on my head yet he will still cheat. I confronted him

 of recent and spoke my mind since men of God sef can not change him. 

Dear husband you want a separation right? I am asking for divorce instead 

since God accepts divorce when adultery sets in. The love I have for you is fading 

away. I guess some men just like bad women and not the good ones. I won't feel 

you that much if you leave because you have never been there for me. 

You fuck around like there is no tomorrow and when you are with me you tell me how broke you are.

 Please go and

 find a job to keep yourself busy. Your separation call out won't shake me because you have caused me

 too much sorrow. 

Maybe I will get myself if I am without you and I know I only 

have my kids as my responsibility. You claim every lady is your

 friend. Infact I can't fight for your love or win you back just do 

as you wish. 

Astalavista baby.

Madam take am easy.your Narrative is very worrisome.This is indeed how women

 jump into conclusion..lol

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POSTER TWO

Good day, Stella.

I just read my husband's chronicle that you posted today. I saw that he sent it 

from my email box. I guess that was his way of letting me know he sent in a chronicle.

Stella please read bellow the message I sent my husband after he moved my things to the guest room 

and informed

 me and my family of his decision to be separated from me.

"I will leave your house tomorrow. If you have been a Christian husband to 

me may Jehovah reward you well. If you have  presided over your home with the

 laws and principles God gave you and have allowed them to govern how 

you exercise your headship in our marriage may he answer all your prayers. 

But if you have ignored, twisted and distorted them with the motive to control me

 and take away my fundamental human rights then may his judgement be 

upon you for the rest of your life."

Stella, God is the ultimate judge who will certainly make known who of us is largely responsible for the 

problems in our marriage. 
I'm not prefect. I have my weaknesses but I have subjected myself as a wife. 

Yes! I yell and throw tantrums when I feel suffocated because of his 

overbearing control and jealousy.  My husband wants to dominate, 

humiliate, dishonor and devalue me and I have endured it all just to 

keep the peace and obey God's law on divorce. He is controlling, 

cantankerous, domineering and extremely jealous. He hits me and has 

treated me with so much cruelty - things  I can not even mention out of 

shame.

He blames me for all our problems and every misfortune in his life.

I have been a faithful wife to my husband. I have never come close to committing adultery. But my husband

 accuses me of every male friend that I have (mind you, these are just a few childhood male friends who are

 equally married and I'm friends with their wives ). 

 He has banned me from talking to them.  He has gone as far as 

suspecting me of being romantically involved with my 22 year old cousin!!!!

I have loved this man with every cell in my being. I have prayed everyday with the hope of seeing

 him become a better husband, a better man and a better Christian. It saddens me deeply as this hope

 is turning out to be a fleeting illusion.

God, his Son and his holy angels see from the heavens and are eye 

witnesses to it all. I am most certain that He will render judgement 

on this matter in his own time.

I leave with not even the hope of living, not even knowing where I

 will lay my head but I trust that JEHOVAH will protect, provide and 

guide me in the wilderness of separation/divorce and lead me to peace

 and rest.

Yes your hubby sent in the Chronicle...I commit this situation into 

God's hand..I decided to plead the 5th because his story was too 

sweet.Thank you for sending in your own side.I pray God intervenes 

and restores what the locust has eaten from your Marriage but if it is 

not his will,may love find you again in a good way!

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POSTER THREE

I don't know if this is my husband it sounded like him until he said no kids cos we have two boys. But I have the 

same kind of man that knows how to quote bible. Stella can you be with a man that keeps malice with you and

 reads bible all day. He doesn't help around the house or with the kids or do anything to make the family better.

He is in contact with all his ex and all the christian singles that profess there undying love for him how he is a

 wonderful blah blah. Behind closed doors he is vindictive, chronic abuser and doesn't see a woman as any worth . 

Can keep down a job . Controls the finances if you want milk you ask. He buys good stuff for himself but never for

 his wife. 

And she is not allowed to spend from the family money. Its all about

 control and where bible said submit. Cheated on me and said it was 

my fault. Ex here and there .  We are born agains o in church. I have 

been faithful Stella even when he didnt deserve it. But he suspects me

 because his hands are not clean. 

Nothing about him shows he is married like on social media, always secretive and always chatting. 

No time even to touch the

 woman. I have poured all my love to my kids because he never sees anything good to say to me or

 even talk to me . My kids

 are small. So a church can never tell you no they just said he is wrong especially the way he treats me . 

So if you are the one hubby......

 The bible you read put it into practise all we want is to be loved. Forget all these women and face God 

. Apologise for adultery

 and stop running back to your ex because I hide all these from the church. But God sees all. I am a born 

again I keep forgiving 

but its draining me. If you want to leave and be with another,man up and stop using bible. I never lie but you 

tend to forget after

 you abuse me. I never forget because you have repeatedly hurt me . 

Forgive my typo ...please Stella. Maybe there is a twist as i read the blog too but there it is. Keep me anonymous

 please. 

But I live with this kinda of guy as my husband and emotionally I have checked out. They are called narcissistic or

 something. 

Charming outside and emotionally unavailable. He was so sweet,   after marriage its now submit submit. I have 

no say or even 

to answer to talk 

to him. Husband and wife should talk. When last did we have a date? 3 yrs 

ago.

 But if you meet a date you take her out in the name of moving on and post pictures. I see all that 

shame but I had a 

nursing baby then. Couldn't do much but not anymore ...i deserve better. Love you Stella.

Thanks

This is serious!...how does it get so bad that it gets to this stage?May God fix you where you are broken,I 

dont know what else to say...